whole situation would freak me out, whether my child were a son or daughter, whether the 40 year old had kids or not. at 18, though, there's not really much a parent can do about it.
Is it ok a to date an 18-year-old (female) as a 24-year-old (male
28 year old male dating 18 year old female
to engage with an older guy is to peek inside a different point-of-view on life.! he was 19 and she was 39 with an 8 year old, but still.