Dating a girl who slept with your friend
Dating a girl who slept with your friend
if someone says he has slept with 100 women, who is sleeping around more, the men or the women? but i still have one concern, i feel like once i marry this girl that it will only be special for me and not so much for her.*yes you are write tk & i appreciate it , she also said you are trying to judge me , actually i love her a lot but every time when am with her she released a new mystery & again m feeling pain ,i accept her at all , i respect her values but i feels like am going wrong because she want to marry a good guy like me & sex with lot of guys , i said forget all your past but she is still in past & also in present trying to make new bonds with other guys including me ,what is it ,is it love ,loyalty or everything is fake , why she is doing like this i don’t know ,am feeling pain something deep inside me , she is only keen to new attractive things &. don’t know if you’re a male or female judging by your username. after reading your article it made me really ashamed of what i’ve done to her. i understand that he was brought up in a rough upbringing blah blah but it’s just the being intimate with my best friend who i still consider (even though she and i are no longer on speaking terms)a sister? for you dear, i’m happy for you, and your relationship, but the fact is, the more partners a woman has had, the less likely her marriage is to last. you deedee26…i have a friend who is 37 and is a virgin…one does not have to be a virgin but i applaud women like you who hold yourself together…if we lowered our numbers more maybe the value would go back up!. it can be like slow torture you can’t escape but you just can’t bring yourself to breakup with them because you feel so bad about doing it over this alone… i hope all goes well for you. only thing that is souly attached to you until death is your decision making. i know it won’t be easy for me to change my mindset about this topic, but i’ll be sure to remember this article of yours whenever i would suddenly think about her sexual past, thank you mike. i mean you right we shouldn’t judge by tha way i’m a lady but come on get real please no matter wat you say a woman first of all sleeping with over 20+ men shouldn’t expect to be in a healthy good relationship with a man who hasn’t slept around like she does this article is ridiculous for real cause you didn’t mention that a woman should be a woman and have respect for her body and self-respect as a woman period.[…] to thought catalog, 75 percent of men would not be turned off by a girl who sleeps with them on the first […]. sometimes it’s incredibly calming and productive to just face the facts so you stop inventing them yourself. based on your comment i will assume you believe in god. i know that’s sick to think about, but you’re going to date girls with a lot worse histories than that. you live and you learn and then hopefully you do better, so if someone has slept with 99 different people, that doesn’t mean there doesn’t come a point in their lives where they are ready to settle and be in a committed relationship with just one. while my girlfriend of now did kiss and touched(and let herself be touched) by many guys, both exs and non-ex (but only had sex with one ex for many years before me). those decisions are hers to be accountable for not yours. she is by far the most beautiful gf i ever had so i don’t want to give her up, but this jealousy on other couples’ fulfilled sex life which i was so used to before is killing me and i am saying to my brother and close friends that we have great sex because i like to envisage an acceptable situation and also people would think i am stupid because i fall for a virgin (though it’s not completely my fault as she said in the beginning that she is “very mature” which turned out to be completely misinterpreted by me later on. to date a girl who’s never had a boyfriend | boys and girls says:June 5, 2015 at 10:58 am. it was about not wanting to be holding hands or walking down the street with a female and having dudes walking by that she’s slept with or the possibility of them making any comments but…what dude can say they’ve only been with a handful of women…. you for sharing that justina i really appreciate your willingness to do that. though i feel more and more regret over the fact that i did not instigate a relationship earlier, because i had known her before her first boyfriend. these women get raped abused and have stupid parents who don’t pay close enough attention when raising little girls. be ashamed or beat yourself up over a number… if numbers didnt define a “hoe” then her actions would. to date a girl who’s never had a boyfriend | global research says:June 6, 2015 at 1:10 pm. so as you can probably visualize, i was pretty much finding new hope in life with her and hope for the future, being out in public again and falling in love right off the bat with this girl that seemed to love me so much. let’s try this on for size:“your honor, i’ve been arrested for those rapes which occurred 4 years ago. women who have slept with a lot of men are simply less likely to be deemed compatible as marriage-material.! if that's not being friend-zoned, i don't know what is., needless to say, my friend liked this girl a lot. self respect and value for yourself, if somebody wanted that lifestyle then why should they get to have somebody who didnt have that lifestyle.. he’s only had sex once with a random girl at a party. i think she just slept with them because she was desperate for love, she was getting it from no-where else and probably didn’t know how to get a guy without offering herself physically.@ben dover: look, if you don’t want to marry someone who isn’t a virgin, that’s your decision. i had never done it and was even kind of exited that this perfect girl hasn’t even had intercourse yet. although he’s been with girls that are tighter than i, he comes quicker, harder, and more intensely and immensely because of his emotional towards me. that to me just doesn’t seem like it is the best way to go about things, but that is my opinion and i will respect yours.…my situation is different…this girl actually wants me to wants on her till shes done having fun (sleeping around) too settle down with me. my first boyfriend and i were together for 4 years before we had sex. mike, i have been with my girlfriend over 6 years now. every time that you subsequently have sexual intercourse, you reinforce your promises – it is truly a wonderful and mutually satisfying experience. you want to examine the paper, look it up yourself. instead of churning endlessly comparing your current self to the other guy, improve yourself (as it relates to her). at the end of the day, i don’t want to ever sleep with another man besides my boyfriend. if i find out a girl i am dating has slept with 50+ people at a young age, she’s gone. we nearly broke up once because it hurt so much him asking “didn’t you value yourself?.me and my girl friend who is not virgin and who i love more than any one else,we do talk about her past history and she feel so sad, she use to tell me, ” i wish i meet you before” but i always tell her “before is now” and some thing that can help is to know that you are not responsible to what happen to your friend………keep up your relationship and take care. if you have slept with someone else just once you are not. and since passing on your genes is the most important thing, he is attracted to women most able to get pregnant. your male friends and see how many of them dream of settling down and building a family with a slut. that’s because girls can come clitoral – ideally suited for virgins and even maybe biologically provisioned for this case, but there is nothing similar provisioned for men! true i probablly wont ever love him like that again but hes still my friend and brother in christ and im willing to forgive. many partners you’ve had should definitely speak for your character. and no teenage girls are not by right suppose to stay virgins until you come along at some point in their lives lol. but given that the rest of the world is full of one night stands, casual sex, and “hook up culture”, maybe the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend has only had sex with one other person in the context of a long term relationship (or whatever) isn’t so bad.’d like to personally add my input as i am going through an exact situation with my current girlfriend. times may have changed in some perspectives but evolution is a long process and these inbred instincts are deeply rooted which is why most men will have sex with a “slutty girl,” but will never marry or commit to her. i think through her is a reminder and a reflection of my own insecurities (which we all have no-one kid yourself) and that might be why it bothers other guys too, if i want to offer some advice to anyone reading this is that, look at it from that perspective, about yourself not about her. and if he is still messing around with other girls . don’t forget: you’ve wrapped a lot of your values and who you are around your decision to wait on sex. in a way, it feels like they cheated on you (and you can’t get it out of your head). if you just take god at who he is and seek a personal relationship and don’t worry about what others are doing or the problems chrisitanity has, your life will be changed. of your girlfriend/wife’s number of sexual partners is. we lost our virginity to each other and i always felt uncomfortable with other girls because they weren’t. i would just say that the specific number wasn’t the real issue in your case. perhaps you also need to focus on the men who promote the idea that the only thing we have to hold over your heads is our sexuality, our ability to say yes or no to your advances, then maybe it will change. advice is just a way to keep your mind off of her not being a virgin. well, let me tell you what i mean… she used to introduce me to her ex’s here and there and i had no problems with that…however, she met one of my ex’s once and i was in the dog house for a week, verbal abuse beyond verbal abuse…it was ok for her to flirt because she wasnt going to have sex with them, but if i even looked at a girl or talked to a girl or commented about a girl in a movie… a week of hell would start! open your mind to what the article is trying to say and you may start to look at things differently. if you couldn’t deal with your problems then, how is somebody else suppose to trust you with that later? that said, if she’s the type of person who could let herself have sex for the first time casually, keep your sensors up. will never marry a girl who was promiscuous in the past. my boyfriend had a sex twice in his previous relationship and regrets it because he never thought he’d find someone like me. but if a woman slept with 20 men and didnt know half of them, then it could be safe to consider her as a hoe.
Dating a guy your friend slept with there is no baggage and these thoughts will never enter your head. i understand why this upsets you so much, but sooner or later you’re going to have to face the fact that many of the girls you date are not going to be virgins, unless you’re extremely picky. mean, i’m in deep right now… but at least i’m moving across the country… though that sucks too because he’s my best friend and not just a guy i’m seeing…. just broke up with a girl i was dating for a couple months. he is everything to me and he is my best friend. she has actually opened a dialogue with me about the “fast girls”. most often it takes more than two relationships to find your life partner. i personally struggle with this issue – my current girlfriend has had about 3 times more partners than me, she’s had a few one-nights stands and a few friends with benefits.) past baggage (kids, men, pictures, etc ex lovers who know her, pics or video of ex partners doing unspeakable things to your significant other, stories and reputation). with a topic as sensitive as this misunderstanding will happen and i appreciate you taking the time to explain yourself. so you might as well free yourself and enjoy life pursuing a relationship that you actually get everything out of, and enter marriage for more thoughtful reasons instead of finally getting to actually have sex with your (hopefully by definition) long term partner. off you assume that a woman who has “experience” has slept with that many partners. the only one i felt like i could be in a serious relationship with was my long time friend. and my girlfriend are in love and i have loved her for a long time. altamera74, from a chick’s point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner. it is what it is, but the most important part is your std free! i had never even kissed anybody before her but she had few ‘wilder years’ before me during which she had one long-term boyfriend (who gave her std which may have made her steril) and few short relationships which also included sex. am not a virgin; my boyfriend is…we have been together for three years. of the reasons i think it makes me feel like shit is because the girls that i missed out on lost interest in me for “better” guys, guys that know how to get laid… i hated those guys, and those are the kind of guys that have been with my wife – just imagining it makes me feel sick, to think she’s fucked some hot shot big dick who’s probably fucked 100 other chics anyway and just adder her to his belt. i could never date no one that’s slept with a lot of people. you feel giving yourself to him wasn’t your choice! if she kept running women you slept with, i’m sure she’d be embarrassed to be with you as well if she has respect for herself. get a good friend out of getting to know that person. so if a man has slept with a hundred then he should be deemed the same way that a woman is if she sleeps with that many. i feel an aversion to a female who is interested in me bc i know she has slept around, it’s totally up to me if i want to give her a chance at all. they pass some one that they slept with on the street the best thing to do is ignore them. i haven’t asked him how many girls he’s slept with, or whether they were one night stands or serious or what; i’m just too scared to hear about it. he seems regretful about it and only had sex with that one girlfriend (he’s had 4, including me) but i keep imagining them having sex everytime he mentions her. i've bumped into the men who've used her and they all have told friends that they were embarassed to sleep with her and treated her as joke. nastiest thing you are willing to do in bed, based on your zodiac sign. shouldnt matter how many people your future partner slept with? again, if you consider simply abstaining from sex to be “punishing yourself,” then again, that’s a sign of a deeper issue. advice would be helpful and your article is bang on target. you cannot admit how many partners you have had or feel like nobody has the right to know, especially your potential husband, then you are a joke of a woman, a lie and a fake. you are a virgin, unless god himself tells you to take someone who is not a virgin to be your wife, do everything within your power to not end up dating or marrying someone that is not a virgin. you say “i just can’t get over the hundreds of crazy sex sessions you had with your ex. you’ve literally dated so much that your idea of a great person is flawed. if you love sex so much, u can have it with the man you believe will stay with u and you have something serious with, something that will not spoil your name. not okay to act as if it doesn’t count because it was in your past. if she’s cheated on 8 of her previous boyfriends then i’m sorry but i think it’s valid to question her loyalty. will respect your point of view, however, as a blogger of a highly controversal and relevant subject you should try to put yourself at our vantage point as well: in a time where men’s rights are routinely violated by the judicial and family court system, a lot (not all) divorces are initiated by women who have had affairs outside of the marriage. pain isn’t yours–it isn’t your jealousy/anger/fear this is a hand-me-down from your decision of perception., after you have sex with a guy, your sexual capabilities will most certainly be judged – and graded in line with a madden-styled rating rubric (out of a hundred). i know this is a far cry from some of you on here, but i feel your pain. regardless, as i stated before you are entitled to your opinion. damage your relationship and possibly end it; trust is very important. i like girls who can hold themselves and value themselves more than the average ones so when i’m with one i can feel that i have caught something rare or something hard to find. do you need a girl to be a virgin for you to appreciate who she is? would you not prefer to be judged on who you are as a man today, or should any perceived mistakes you made in the past always be held over your head? but it will be in the back of your mind. she only told me she wasn´t a virgin one day when we both confessed we liked each other and wanted to date after being close friends for a couple of months. i say how many men she has slept with should not matter.’s an example: let’s say you’ve spent the last two months obsessing over your boyfriend’s sexual past with his ex. all of that is moot if your lingering sense of betrayal (and his lingering shame) is going to continue to poison your relationship. i cant ever stop thinking about what hes done or felt with these girls.. idc if im broke or rich or how your feel in a bed room or how i look its my intellect that should make u be willing to be with me or my compassion or my intentive attitude towards you when a women has a mutiple relations with different men she has a lot of comparision to the man she is involved with and then women wonder why the are single mothers? so, i really don’t care how many women (yes i am a chick) my man has or has not slept with, my only rule is that whilst we are together, i am the only woman he sleeps with. that means they’ve had a different boyfriend for every year that they’ve started dating., i am intrigued by your comment that you “disagree that promiscuity is what has caused the highest divorce rate america has ever seen. she says that she really wants me to know the truth about her past and how many people she slept with.@joe: i’m very glad to hear that she’s no longer your girlfriend. those guys dating a girl that has been around… you know your boys are all laughing at you behind your back.. i am coming from a place that is old-minded and is small island, so something like dis should spoil your name and make u feel embarassed even if for you wasn’t that big deal.… doing your kegel’s will fix that and also not true unless the promiscuous lady in question is having babies left and right.. but if you only had one burger, that one burger would be your set standard. a girl had sex and that girl is your wife, your bodies are not your own, the memories are not yours or hers alone, it all came with a price that was already paid…. i’ve seen girls start out kind of destructive, and then get their act together and turn into spectacular heroes who abhor their earlier behavior and more than make up for it with their future strength. when i met a man that claimed to have slept with 150+ women and a woman that slept with 50+ men, its no wonder we have broken families, std’s, and little girls like amber cole becoming prevalent. it states: if a girl likes you, she's not going to have sex on the first date. girls with soft hearts are the strongest type of girls. you are disrespecting the choices so many people make, keep in mind that in general, people don’t mind your choice of abstinence. and dont forget life is a stinky bitch, you call your friend in your house and he happened to be one of your wife’s exes. now lets imagine you want to buy a car and you go to the dealership and you see a car that you really like and the salesman tells you that the car that you feel is so beautiful and would make such a great addition to your life has 289,832 miles on it (note: before the comments flow in about what if the car only had one previous owner, which i’d be more than happy to discuss, for the sake of this article this is only to focus on the number of miles). i personally don’t need or want a relationship, but i also believe that women who don’t ask their male partners how many women they’ve slept with then they are desperate housewives. and hes the only guy ive ever slept with and im 6 weeks pregnant right now. am a 19 year old virgin and for the first time i have actually fallen in love with my 20 year old boyfriend.
Dating a girl your friend has slept with
, dudes: if she hasn't slept with you yet, she probably likes you. name is robert, recently i met a girl and she is 23 and…she is loving me very much and ready to give her life even for me. the way, i would love for you to post your comment on the blog itself : ) let people see other perspectives. that is, just because you stop torturing yourself over how many partners they’ve had, doesn’t mean you totally sweep their attitude towards sex under the rug. and beating them up about it will only have one of two results: they will either start defending their past, or your plan will work and they will feel really horrible about it. they are more likely to be the ones that say “oh he’s just my friend” when her “friend” disrespects her relationship. if you think that these things don’t matter or are silly to be bothered with, then you must be out of your sound mind. if you change your values now (by giving up your decision to wait), you risk achieving a kind of fake compatibility that prolongs the relationship past its natural end. then one day she was asking about my old girlfriend and i told her that she to had been pushed into sex one time but never did it again. are that if this is your question then you have not read the whole article..Then, my sweet little friend, i would suggest you do a thorough self-examination. girlfriend is not a virgin , but wenevr we go for our love moments to begin … oll her past flashes in front of me… the way she wanted to love me now … she had olredy loved someone else… it just brings med worlds most bad feelin i could ever have …. too many people use the fact that this woman has slept with a certain number a men that they personally deem too high as validation to dismiss this woman as a potential mate or a future great wife. i like the honest comments of all the people here especially evelyn and all other girls who have maintained their purity(in my opinion) by not engaging in sex with a guy who’s not gonna marry you and certainly who’ll never be your husband in future. instance, i could saunter into the common room with a brown bag – directly after tipping the delivery lady for some f*cking pad thai – and it’s pretty much a given that one of my friends will at least ask if there was anything ass-related at some point during the exchange. you might say you have found a girl you love and that make you fortunate. holding on to what you believe is right in your youth becomes so much more right the more fully you realize why you should hold on to it., to those of you who feel pained by the truth of your significant other already having sex, it’s fine because nobody’s perfect. said it in your comment jeraldelmcclane “women who are unable to stay connected emotionally to their husbands”. at the end of the day just understand that because there are many men who take a position similar to yours, many women will not be open and honest about their numbers., as a woman, are obviously free to care (or not) how many previous partners your man has been with. long as you don’t change your core values for the other person, then the relationship will take a natural course to a natural end. when you say up your game… if you are average and a past lover of hers was well endowed there is nothing positions, creativity, or use of toys can compensate for. some, such as yourself possibly, don’t have the save freedoms. i’m not saying that my hoe friends shouldn’t find a great man one day but damn, if they saw them now they’d never get “wifed. your logic, if we make no judgments on our potential mates, and the past doesn’t matter, it should not matter if our potential mate was a child rapist for 20 years, as long as s/he isn’t “currently” raping children. i know you will receive the blessings you deserve, just hold on to faith and take the time to forgive the people in your past.’ we had a talk the other night where he said he really wanted to be my boyfriend, but due to his ex hurting him in the past, he can’t give me his whole self…. he could have been in your shoes and you in his and how would he feel about it if his partner hates him for his past. but i turned 18 and finally met someone, he s really nice really honest, he’s told me he slept with 16 people becuase his first love (which he didnt do anything with) rejected him and moved away and so he started sleeping around to deal with the loss. i understand your position, but i do not agree that it is the best approach. it’s also been surprising and somewhat painful to see close friends of mine, both guys and girls, who used to be committed to waiting or at least have a lot of respect for sex suddenly change their mind when they enter a relationship with someone they are really attracted to. often forget that you’re creating all of those scenes from your masochistic imagination, not so much from fact. and the last girl he slept with, is actually an acquaintance of one who i strongly dislike. it’s like a million, torturous images keep flashing through your head, and your own imagination keeps inventing all new horrors for you. i still deal with the pain but i am far from the promiscuous young girl. don’t lie and ruin someone else’s life to make yourself happy. events that come into our existence (our range of senses) taste touch smell etc including damage, memory, fake thoughts… have nothing to do with yourselves. and i cant stop thinking about the girls he had sex with . their sudden righteous anger will turn your virginity into something that you’re holding over their head; they’ll stop valuing it and respecting you for it as much. ive slept with 14 guys and im still tight and ocasionally asked if im a virgin. i want to tell him that there is nothing, and i mean nothing, scientifically or spiritually that anybody or anything can do to change his or your past.. how detailed you can get depends on how much your lover can take. i don’t like torturing people over their past but at the same time if it’s really that important to you (that you find a virgin because you yourself are one) then you need to think about what you are going to do. so i just focused on the specific concern of the number of men a woman has slept for this. don’t allow the negative thoughts to hinder your relationship or your overall quality of life. i’ve been troubled over a friend with benefits situation that my fiance once had. so i dont know how many times she has slept with him and i think he was her only sexual partner. guys think like that, if the girl is awesome they will still like her. you can be with a woman who only tells you she only slept with 3 guys when in reality you may have to add a 0, or two 0’s. in your mind, you picture him having sex with his ex hundreds of times, in every possible position. i have seen women who had only slept with one man end up being “loose” while in a relationship. i went through this trouble for the first year me and my boyfriend were dating. then you get secure in your values, you build up some good muscles for dealing with the past, etc.. whether or not she has a(n) std(s)) is very important concerning the number of partners that she’s had but if a woman tells a man that she’s slept with 3 men and neglects to add the 0 at the end of that, she’s being dishonest and that violates the principle of another post that you made (4 keys to starting and maintaining a successful relationship) previously.’s important for you to be mindful of incompatibilities and factor them into your decisions about the relationship (e. if u had slept with a hundred men would u have wanted anyone to judge u? now if you ask her and she lies about the number, then your point is much more valid in my opinion. we block love sometimes for all the wrong reasons, and how many men she has previously slept with should never be one of them. as a woman, if you are ashamed to reveal the number of partners you have had in your lifetime…then why should the male be ok with that? 20, 30 or more men is wrong then i hope you take that same logic and school your boy on that too because every time she opens her legs to someone there is always a man willing to climb between them, and that makes him just as “ho -ish” following your logic., why in the world would you think the number of men you have slept with should not matter? get off your weird, shaming high-horse and move toward something more productive. if they say they don’t feel secure in the relationship,Sacrifice some of your freedom (not a ridiculous amount), give them access to. if your not going to be responsible w/ your body your either going to lose that double standard, or lose respect. the hardest part for me to swallow is once she entered college, she slept with those other men in a matter of just a year. first you must know i’m not a virgin and neither is he but he’s a very shy laid back guy he is 24 and never in my mind did i think that he’s ever had a one night stand or has slept with someone he had not been in a relationship with.’re doing the right thing, love beats all… just think how you would feel looking back at now when you’re on your death bed about to pass onto the other realm.“too many” people: remember that there is a good chance your lover feels guilty. don’t hold a value for the women you’re looking for that you don’t practice yourself. whether you get stabbed and die, yes it is the body you are in, but it is rightfully his soul, his body and his spirit that he gave you for the test of obtaining his way for perception, his way of understanding…his way of love and power and going through and truly presenting it from your heart in the form of physical action. no offense, but you’re a man and you should take the virginity of a girl, not the other way around. i love and respect my girlfriend and want to be with her forever. life is a whisp…and your rewards for righteousness are amazing, especially dealing with great pain and things that seem to be against you personally.“altamera74, from a chick’s point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner., men want to marry women who have not slept with a.