Dating a guy 6 years older than you

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    aren’t you one of the bloggers who said that petraeus is no alpha?-leeze lady, purdah is a muslim thing (your sister-religion) and sati is the name of a goddess. i didn’t feel like putting all that into words, but you did it marvelously! i can’t wait for you to meet him (not associating you with him, i just like him).”regardless of how much fun you had, we was working to convince you to a. at some point, ask her if she thinks you’re a player, and if so why? maybe it looked like she didn’t care, maybe she really didn’t care, but the point is that you don’t know the whole truth. you’re right that they do need to be qualified, perhaps moreso than younger guys. yeah, but it puts him on the spot and you read his immediate reaction to figure out what’s up.. guys usually do not “develop” a strong physical attraction to a girl. but women often scare men off if at 21 or 22, they are saying “you are the one i want to marry”. how “colored” marks you as kkk but “person of color” means you are more enlightened than buddha., would you say, then, that men can express disgust at fat and ugly women, but women cannot ever do so about men? there are good reasons for both sexes to want youth. i’m happy for you that you’re dating someone.@passer-by:” once the flame is gone, girls will break up with guys without much concern over their feelings. all in all, i need to stop reading this blog because it’s depressing for someone my age who, according to you, seems to have missed the happily ever after boat; you offer no hope for my situation. even if you are not harming others or violating someone else’s rights, you should not degrade yourself, because it dishonors you, your creator, and the sacred order of the universe. that women’s preferences shift more towards dads than cads as they get older (and incidently less attractive)? if you happen to still be all those things with your husband despite him not exerting any level of dominance whatsoever, then great for you. you’d have to revoke suffrage, uninvent birth control, and criminalize abortion. being said, i married a girl two years younger when i was at what susan considers to be the most attractive male age and i don’t have any reason to regret it. i’m sure you are happy to be alive regardless of your disadvantages your kids will be happy too i can assure you. my bf and i own the game now, but we don’t get to play much, since you need three people and all.@ramblei’m not sure what you’re after…you had a bunch of pretty gfs in hs and then you did not have one average or below average sister in your sorority (“none were below a 6″)., she has to choose between a guy that is doing it specifically for the butterflies, or one who’s specifically not. it’s common with young women (a big reason they go after so many dbags is for the “excitement”)., passer-by, if you want to have that argument all over again, fine with me, if susan will allow it, but i specfically did not say that the women had no agency, i said over and over that they did. you can stop worrying about whether or not it looks weird because anyone who has lived in nyc long enough knows it’s almost necessary.@bbthe other side of the coin is that guys who have been successful in that scene probably will accept a higher n in female candidates than most other men will. i’m having a hard time seeing why you’d accuse me of trapping this man. i’m 42 and married to a woman 8 years my junior. only two women who ever liked playing settlers of catan were: 1) one woman who was more masculine than 50% of the guys in the game, and 2) a married woman who only played so she could give her husband good deals on trades.'m not saying every guy in my age group is like this, but overall, my personal experience hasn't been fulfilling for me.”so, the broad answer is this: to clarify, i'm not dating older men because i am a “gold digger. but i’m very introverted, whereas you, susan, zach and several others here who say dating is fun are obviously extroverts!. lots of good paying jobs with cheaper rents in nice, safe towns), or would you continue to try to make it happen in manhattan? that’s why she’s pretty good at advising younger women, she’s been there with the concomitant quasi-transactional attitude., i didn’t realize it wasn’t possible for me to not get hurt after a guy suddenly stops responding to my texts after we’d been dating for a month, with no regard to my feelings. i tell people “you will get mental health care” all the time, but then again they want to get disability benefits so they actually listen to me. 😛but yeah, i can see your point about how the message is being delivered. up to the sweetest, most resilient and independent young man you’ve ever seen. actual work part of the relationship comes into play when you have to actually do the living together and raising a family, after the love/infatuation stage wears off.”susan, you want to know why men are bitter and angry?“you learn a great deal more about a person after you take the relationship to the next level. but if you find yourself in a situation of dating regularly and you meet a really great guy (there’s no shame in okcupid by the way, i had a profile for awhile), there’s no reason to break it off at a certain point because you haven’t “dated around” enough.“and speaking as someone who fell hard for a guy, only to discover later that he lied about me giving him a blowjob at a party, no,”well, if you’d just given him the god damn blowjob he wouldn’t have had to lie, now, would he? we've picked up a lot of habits (some bad and some good), but you're not about to change them. tyrion lannister is the most “alpha” guy on the show! to susan’s point, i should be able to have coffee or even a dinner with a guy a couple times before he is planning our future. and i am not necessarily willing to make that decision on the basis of one date with you. the very fact that the ltr is you know long, should be a dead giveaway that the two have very different rule sets.’m sure it was surprising and i agree, it is totally out of date, i just think it’s funny how if you change the phraseology by less than 1% it’s totally cutting edge hip pc even though to untrained ears it sounds almost exactly the same. grew up to the sweetest, most resilient and independent young man you’ve ever seen. of course i am open to something serious, but i guess what i meant to say is that i expect to date at least two or three guys before i get married, but who knows., that should be “clearly either your baby is a little angle or you have a lot of help from the family”. i think more young women are open to the idea of dating a guy who is older than not, however it gets a bit tired when the topic gets turned into guys in their late 30’s and up going for girls in their early twenties. recently met a guy at a very nice and lavish birthday party of a friend of my cousin’s who was 27, and my roommate, who is 23, met his friend who was almost 30.” the only guy who liked me was the drug addict who thought i was wholesome enough to save him. second, post college i think most people only go into an ltr if the possibility is there – and spending months or years together confirms that or makes clear it’s not going to work. 🙂sensuality in my opinion should be as unique as your own personality. there are exceptions of course, but it’s not realistic for most men to think they can pull much younger women for ltrs. this something you see in a lot of men, or just a few that are at the ends of the bell curve of the ones you’ve dated? you do not show it, but you are developing a strong physical attraction for her. other side of the coin is that guys who have been successful in that scene probably will accept a higher n in female candidates than most other men will.””i think you are knocking down a straw man here. december i am turning 33 and i find it depressing as hell that according to this blog, i’ve reached my peak and basically have nothing to offer to a quality guy who is looking to settle down. you had some cute, older football player pining for you when you were in junior high and you are saying that you did not get attention until college? he can get a 25-year-old whose youth and beauty trump anything my 33-year-old self might have to offer. plus, since this is a blog for young women, i don’t see the point of highlighting what i see as bad male behavior.@gayatrihere’s the comment i left her (not sure if she’ll allow it since she seems devoid of any sense of personal responsibility in choosing a guy with several red flags waving brightly and boldly in her face; he was a douche for deceiving but come on, have some common sense):“so you had dozens of guys interested in you and you chose the guy in an open relationship with a gf for most of those months before sex? tell you what, if shit really does hit the fan in the west, i’ll do my best to be poolside somewhere you can reach quickly. it can be time consuming, but if you’re in a dry spell or have nothing on the horizon, it deserves a place in the portfolio of strategies. actual consumption is more like buying lots of items, wearing them when it suits you, and then returning them. haven’t you ever enjoyed just holding hands with a person? see, i and many men i know never went through that “bleach blonde” phase, so although i understand the stereotype you were shooting for, it is only because i’ve seen it in popular culture. most guys i know think that way as well, but plenty of girls i know have said they could make out for hours with nothing else. if the only reason a person quashes limerance is out of some paper that says “you’re married’ thats infinitely less meaningful than because… well you know… you actually want to make the person next to you happy. i also find that, once money is off the table, it’s the women who have fewer options or who have been abandoned by their own fathers who go for the older guys.” and, surely, you must understand that it’s weird that she thinks he would brag to his friends (who she barely knows) about taking her top off. he didn’t promise a life on easy street with tons of chicks and things going your way. if you reserve the right to do it, then expect it to be used against you.@rambleyou are right, my appeal to males has not been consistent over time., i am curious, if you did find out that the best place to meet men were places like:– white plains and other ny burbswould you start making an effort to have more of your life exist in these places (i. what you give up in youth and vitality, you gain in other ways. woe be to the guy who took her at word that she wasn’t looking for something too serious and just wants to date and have some fun and butterflies, if she decides she caught feelingsyeah, i think you’re reading between the lines.@emily– have you seen the actress that plays cersei with her natural hair?. if you want to engage in some degrading “exotification” of my magnificent, circumcised, steely, vanilla cock, well, knock yourself out., on the blogs were the adage gets a lot of credence, there are older guys who think that they can continue to be attractive to very young women into their 60s as long as they work out. you’re right, though, it really is a matter of personal style, and also habits. you can laugh now, but it was scary at the time! the history is fascinating, but it has for 70 years been about making films. a black man saying to me, you are a pretty white girl.@ zach:actually, with morality being a human social concept that is quite fluid across cultures and societies, and tribal affiliation being a genetically-driven (your tribe usually shares more genes than theirs), biologically common (all sorts of other animals display it) trait, i’d say it works the other way around., the more you see yourself as a loving parent would: with infinite patience and unquenchable love and acceptance. as your friend’s buddy, your job is to help him get laid (or get the girl, whichever). it’s creepy for a 30-something year old guy to be with a 19yo, but we are still talking about a 11-12 year difference, and like i said, i don’t think me with a 29yo would be outrageous or “icky”. i recall you once posed a map that showed more available guys were on the west coast…. life is too indeterminate to base your relationship choices on mere biological chronology.“dude, how would you feel about your wife drunk-blogging and making graphic comments to young men? if i was friends with charles manson, and a girl who he was hitting on asked me what he was like, i’d tell her he was a fantastic, balanced, sane guy. he didn’t promise a life on easy street with tons of chicks and things going your way. i do think that you speak for the majority of women wrt male age. it is not quintessential athat a guy make tons of money, but he needs to be passionate about what he does (to understand my passion for work) and ambitious. if following a script when physical intimacy happens before emotional intimacy isn’t yielding the results you seek, then try another way!, it turns out that you did some sort of epic shit test to some guy when you were 14? the good news is that most women are not looking at older guys – as i said in the op i have witnessed real resistance to this.”my point is that you can’t know really this until the fun and exciting part of the relationship ends, which normally happens once you are actually married. he’s far from ugly, to the point where i ascribe anyone calling him such to a negative halo effect from the scandal, or maybe it’s just the okcupid effect in play (80% of all men are below average, right)holly was never a beauty queen but she at least looked acceptable in her youth. because i started working at a young age, this company trusts me to do this even though i’m quite young.”you said you’ve never met a *single* man who wanted to marry before his late 20s. how many times have we heard guys say “sloppy seconds” here?”i went and checked the link out because i saw your request, jus. new guy confesses he has girlfriend, will break up with her. about 9 months single, exactly two 1st dates, two three weeks in to the second girl and… you guessed it: ltr that then became a 12 year marriage.@intjmaybe i should be flattered that you mistook me for rollo. i’m betting you’ll have a girlfriend by next year. you are assuming that it is, or at least that is not bad merely that “it is. fuck, seriously, being ugly doesn’t give you a legitimate reason to be pissed at others for not liking you. jackie said she wanted to date a guy but maybe not marry him because she wasn’t sure but is still open to that, she would probably have lots of support.@susan:“i was inspired to write this post by a couple of women i know who are really, really enjoying relationships with men ten years older. is what i feel like when you post jeremiads about how slutty and awful and unrestricted the way things are today.” but they don’t understand that it becomes more difficult to connect with people as the years trundle on. but women often scare men off if at 21 or 22, they are saying “you are the one i want to marry”. there was no fliration or encouragement of sexual feelings on my part, and he did a fairly good job of hiding his feelings, which built up gradually, for years. have been quite a few guys like that who had hell raising teens and 20s and then keep with, or settle down with a woman who can help keep them balanced. once again, the guys she is likely to meet will either players who expect fast pinv or else niceguys who are at risk of being led on. i think that guys at my high school worshiped a certain type of girl, and i did not fit that type. not gonna lie, when society dictatates that you are the one that should pay for and plan the fun, it’s kind of lame to watch someone wax on about it.@ted di just can’t understand how anyone can take months to even decide if it’s possible at all with their current so, and then possibly years to get there. i’d chosen the example of reggie miller and three-point shooting instead, would you have claimed “this isn’t true” and argued that you can shoot threes well? if he tried to befriend you as part of a group it might be different, so i think your reading is accurate. i probably would not sleep with a guy until i was certain i really liked them, they reciprocated the feelings, and they were interested in things going beyond just the occasional dinner and movie.”i think this is one of the problems in life; you are generally going to find someone you like better because you are going to continue to be exposed to new people as you move forward in life. he is just a few years younger than my dad). after pulling away, you get to walk back by your own design. is that how you refer to elderly women and grandmothers? even though there have been those people who have judged, you'll be surprised that there are more people on your side than you think. this point, you may just want to chalk this up to experience and move on. i realize your a big boy who will figure it out on your own but you do present an excellent teachable moment for the readers. even then we’re not talking your average umc gent who’s divorced his wife. that guy didn’t even let me come up for air. i’m glad that you’ve gotten yourself in a better place now.) however, men have a strong preference for younger women, as illustrated in this ok cupid graph of male messaging by female age: as you can see, men tend to focus on the youngest women in their already skewed preference pool, and, what’s more, they spend a significant amount of energy pursuing women even younger than their stated minimum.@tedi will reply to the rest of your points after i’ve had a bit o’time to think. no “dude, you should just do such and such” or “buck up, man. think those of you who think zach is dumping her for not having sex right away are completely missing the point., more power to you, i’m not questioning how people find their bliss. watched it for free on the internet so you could just watch it right now. if you want to avoid the players, then you might have to consider something possibly “serious”. 😉i am probably the most restricted person commenting here and my reply to this:“dating for fun sounds very much like using other people for your entertainment.@olivethe real problem is when you have a clingy and a non-clingy together. it’s an opportunity to explore how compatible you are with another person.” ie-realize the environment has changed and adapt to it mentally and physically (becuase you have no other choice). the older one has been with the same guy (really really nice guy, by the way) for a few years. it will help you get over approach anxiety, will get you used to talking to new girls, some of which you will probably associate with a little bit more and become friends with, possible ltrs, etc. watched it for free on the internet so you could just watch it right now. but that’s not the point- you need to be doing it for you, not because there’s any attention in it. if i hear an accent when it is said i’ll ask where you are from, and that has potential to be a really great conversation.

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    @jackie“imagine a black man saying to me, you are a pretty white girl. however there is a not insignificant (yeah, yeah, double negative, deal with it) minority of women are strongly attracted to any reasonably well preserved older men who hold positions of even modest perceived power. 😉i would only add, don’t just talk to girls– practice talking to everyone you can! the first is an ltr timed thing, the second should be known within the first few minutes (seconds if your a man) . loves romancewith endless kisses, hugs and soft lit candles, he goes the distance to make sure you are happy and satisfied.“most people do get that gold diggers aren’t into much older men’s looks. which, if you’re too conservative to have soon, will drive away the players., i apologize in advance for what i fear will be interpreted as harsh but …my genuine advice is, stop looking for guys until you are open to finding a keeper.”no, that’s how she feels about marrying an ugly but rich old man for his money when you’re not attracted to him. i just can’t understand how anyone can take months to even decide if it’s possible at all with their current so, and then possibly years to get there. i do say i miss you when she’s actually gone for a while. on top of that, given your interests, you need to go above and beyond your normal venues in order to meet a guy, much less guys you’re compatible with! i’m just encouraging women to broaden the net and not be suspicious of men a bit older, who have some advantages. for a tv show/movie to show a girl being dumped specifically due to weight gain, was your hope right?: i think i just gained a massive amount of respect for you…. they often get played freshman year once, get even more cautious, and promptly become invisible to the frats for the remainder of their college years. are very alpha old men like prince philip who we may say has still got it going on for an old goat, but that translates to high smv only for women a bit younger than he is, imo. can hop relationship to relationship if you want (nothing wrong with it, sorry gents) or you can be in a relationship without the butterflies. – “he was the most emo guy i’ve ever known, but to be honest, that was part of his appeal.”lots of young guys don’t step up to the plate until they have a reason to do so.” but “i miss you” implies some sort of need that is not being met. a 36-year-old will pass on twice as many mutations to his child as a man of 20, and a 70-year-old eight times as many, stefánsson’s team estimates. you should be free to follow your heart, even if it hurts another person. if she has been a more restricted girl, you probably scare the hell out of her.@jackiethank you for making me feel like i have admirers when i have been feeling sorry for my adolescent self! both guys have great jobs and i’m sure they are busy. as you may have guessed, i am always interested in how the other half lives. that guy didn’t even let me come up for air., ironically, i think it’s you who misread jp’s post.: i agree that some older men “compete well” but 50-something men can (if they’re lucky) compete for 30-something women. i think many men like you have little interest in very young women. to a parent like that, you are an angel temporarily disguised in human form. you have to try different people on until you find one that is a great match. since you are in your early 30’s, you are in a decent place in terms of the range of ages you *could* consider for a mate.. my initial thought was “what the hell is a girl like that doing living in nyc and hanging out with guys like zach?)anyway, to your point… i don’t believe she ever had any intention of being a “kept woman”.@jackieas jesus says in the bible, prostitutes and tax collectors — those on whom we look down our noses — are entering the kingdom of god before you and me. charlotte, correct me if i’m wrong, but between the lines i hear you saying that you are totally open to something real with the right person, not looking to ensure that no guy falls for you. point is that it’s not accurate to tell men there’s no limit to how young they can go. the only time i can ever remember this being used in popular culture was a vague reference to it by alec baldwin, as jack donaghy, saying that he is turning 50, which is like turning 32 for you (he said to tina fey as liz lemon). whereas here in texas most girls are 4-8, in california, most girls are 6-9., if you are a size zero anorexic, you are certainly less likely to have womanly curves. “i’ve hung around tons of gamer guys, their partners, friends, families, and all that, and the only two women who ever liked playing settlers of catan were: 1) one woman who was more masculine than 50% of the guys in the game, and 2) a married woman who only played so she could give her husband good deals on trades.’m going to sue you for intentional infliction of emotional distress., how much theater did you do in hs and college? i suspect this girl needs a more restricted guy, not someone who will drop her in favor of the “cheaper” sex that is readily available to you. so much of your conversation reads (to me) like how you evaluate them and what you’re getting out of the deal.@susan:“no, because once you make a lifelong commitment, you exit the market and stop shopping. as your friend’s buddy, your job is to help him get laid (or get the girl, whichever). tyrion lannister is the most “alpha” guy on the show! maybe the guy ought to respect her wishes for emotional comfort and love before sex. well, if i honestly look back at my high school days, most of the boys (including myself) were mentally at least 5 years behind most of the girls in terms of maturity… so it all makes sense. i remember debbie holiday, whose boyfriend brad was a senior, told her that i was the fourth cutest girl in the class and he didn’t know why i got no guys. games, on the other hand, are specifically designed to challenge you, and you get to accomplish “something” within the context of the story. other words: are you part of the problem or part of the solution? in the 3 years we’ve been together, he got an apartment, graduated, got a good job, signed for the mortgage on the house, and became a father. drop her and let her find some guy who appreciates what she may have to offer. infind an expert featuredexpert supportexperts advicethought leadersbecome an expertexperts faq love quoteslove stagessingletakenengagedmarriedstarting overcomplicatedaboutabout uscontactfriends & partnersmedia buzzfaqadvertisingsitemapprivacy policyfeedbackjoinjoin our communitywrite for usjobsmore categoriesdatingmencouplehoodchallengesbreakupscelebslifestyle follow us sign up for newsletter follow us sign insearch articlesfind an expertvideos categorieslovesexfamilyheartbreakselfbuzzvideosexperts featured expert support experts advicethought leadersbecome an expertexperts faq love quotes love stages singletakenengagedmarriedstarting overcomplicated about about uscontactfriends & partnersmedia buzzfaqadvertisingsitemapprivacy policyfeedback join join our communitywrite for usjobs more categories datingmencouplehoodchallengesbreakupscelebslifestyle sign up for newsletter women prefer men who are six years older than them 68 shares + kait smithcontributor love, self september 20, 2011. regardless of his love for his wife, we all know rob wants/deserves a hot, younger girl.“i think it’s fair to say that any woman who marries you in future is a fool. i’d imagine that having access and interactions with so many folks might make it hard to tell the “good” from the “bad” on certain levels, which then requires you to spend more time with them to figure it out.)i can show you two recent student surveys (separate uni’s) that ask are you depressed. i always seem to date guys between 10 to 20 years older than me, and from my relationships comes some of the best memories and experiences. i’ve had my fair share of guys in their 40s and 50s hitting on me. i am 33, and would like to marry a woman about 20 years younger than me. those guys will not have the provider/income progression nor the social skills progression (charm and confidence) that you are gaining now. it goes strictly against deti’s lectures last week – perhaps you didn’t agree with him about a woman following her husband and putting his career first?@hope we are in a more delicate time, less time for each other because of the baby, and no way am i going to let things deteriorateyou are smart. when we see a guy in his 30s, we assume he could obviously be married right now if he wanted, so he must be choosing to play the field indefinitely. number of young women who feel as you do about not being ready for or desiring anything serious, but who can’t articulate it–even to themselves–vastly outnumber the young women who feel as you do and can state it with perfect clarity.”if by “the man”, you mean you and me (i. you are one of the regulars here that i tend to use as a way to judge my ideas by your reaction. what if you were forced to describe them without using quotes, what would you say.?are you being completely serious, or are you being a little silly? in attempting to make yourself look highly intelligent, you’ve demonstrated that you can’t read as well as the common howler monkey”well, i think i read pretty well, but your prior post was poorly written (perish the thought). he was a big guy, a very promising football player, and cute. one woman wrote to me that she waited 6 weeks after describing herself as severely depressed. it’s often done so well, that it sends the messege to most normal guys – i’m too much for you to handle.’t you ever experienced events that seem more like you are living in a storybook? you are not engaged, nor have you discussed becoming engaged.@ted dwell, reading about you being perceived as emotionless in most settings but being quite romantic at heart hits home to me. would liken window shopping in today’s envirnment to a few dates–3 should do it but let’s say no more than 6–before you really know if you see a potential in that person. for you for delivering a quick “no” to the guys you knew you were not interested in. you’d have to revoke suffrage, uninvent birth control, and criminalize abortion.) i actually disagree with susan about your age and being too young to worry about marriage.@passer byyou make an interesting point, and perhaps you have cracked the code in bizarro thread.@j:“you guys are always on about how women need to value their sexuality. should he be angry if you would pointed that out for him? you see if you like each other over a few weeks, months, whatever.@game of thrones devotees@hansolo: are you trash-talking the khaleesi? plunge in anyway on the small chance that you might find the one seems like it’s not worth the risk to you or the collateral damage to others. and there is no reason why at 21 you should feel pressure to identify a future husband.@j“i will occasionally slip in a manosphere trope like, “would you like me better if i were more submissive?), and a guy approached me and asked if i wanted to play pool. magical night is tomorrow 🙂(and if you poor anglo-saxon don’t know the customs, you should start learning already).@loklandhmmmm, i have been worrying about you and the kino’ing chick for days. because he just got a sweet offer from ubs and you got one from procter & gamble., you’re saying that all men want to be alpha – dadcads.@j “here,” she said, “it’s not mine, but it’s the number of someone who looks like me that you might have some things in common with. it’s not that a girl would necessarily be disgusted by an unrestricted guy’s past, but perhaps she would not be comfortable moving as quickly as other girls had been, and that would turn the guy off, or make him think she was weird. you, most people won’t end a relationship for just any reason., as a guy, i find the words “i am a very sarcastic person so someone that wants to be with me needs to take a little bit of an edge and not feel personally hurt by it” a big red flag. we’re shallow and focused on your looks and your money; and if you’re fat and ugly, you better have big bucks or you’re never going to get laid”.@detisusan, you want to know why men are bitter and angry? india, having sex with a woman by falsely saying you will marry her is considered rape. i guess you could go so far as to say that her outburst was a shit-test to find out what exactly zach is thinking about her, and what are his ultimate intentions. most people i know plan on living in a city (not necessarily nyc) for work for at least a few years after college, and then moving back out there when they settle down a bit more. course, not everything, especially with young college students, is so black and white. in emotional terms you want to snag the guy before he gets older, pickier, more independent, acquires more baggage, and becomes more bitter. she said one of the cool and surprising things about being with me is: she has learned more about who she really is in 3 years with me than she learned most of her life. i mean, i spent 4+ years with two women i didn’t marry, but most of that time was spent assuming i would marry them when i could. would you, if in her situation, want to speed up the wedding date or just say, “fuck it, we are definitely getting married, we will just wait until after the baby”?, i was always more of an old testament kinda guy. that seems to be the case with the restricted guys here. community organizer, 37 what if i am one of those sad sack bachelors hitting on too young women at the bar?’d say, we in central and eastern europe are blessed in that you can find even our feministic protest events quite enjoyable: ukrainian feminists i’d love to … met(per analogy to milf, this would be ufilf). btw, i wanted to use the words “prediction”, but it sounds too heavy; what’s english for the superstitious belief that you can reveal your future by puting hot wax into water (no, i am not searching for words like “stupidity”. don’t see the reason to wait for a guy to become a better catch if he is generally a good guy, has graduated college and is willing to have a relationship now. am also a fan of seeing shorter guys, in pop culture, having a more difficult time with taller girls because that is something we see in real life.”well, if you are a size zero anorexic, you are certainly less likely to have womanly curves.@intjfirst, i think erica awakening is perhaps not guilty by reason of insanity, but during this period of months of building intimacy, she knew the guy had a gf. you unlock the subject, like calculus, the entire system falls into place like sandblasting a soup cracker because you see the unity. young, single women under 35 who are looking for potential husbands to have babies with and build a life together normally do not target men in their 50s for good reason. (because by then, that’s what their view of all the guys with the options have been doing)my thoughts exactly. why the change in tone in regards to older men dating younger women? seriously, show me an example of this in tv or movies from the last 25 years where a man demands from his gf/wife that she lose weight and he is not shown to be an ass. the flame is gone, girls will break up with guys without much concern over their feelings.@jpi think you would be a very interesting and unusual person to chat with at a cocktail party.@coopcooper, i just got back from the gym and i saw a guy there who reminded me of you. obviously the physical attraction would exist for a wide range of very young women but it’s hard to imagine spending significant (non-sack) time with a woman way, way younger.’s a set of men in my office in their 40s that look after themselves, and while no one would confuse them for a fresh college grad they’re not even close to paunchy, and in fact can still run rings around the mid 20s guys. i know one woman in her mid 20’s who shackled up with her first serious boyfriend, first guy she had sex with, and she made it clear she’d only sleep with the guy if he moved in with her and played his role as a co-habitation couple. both hubby and i have diabetes in our genes so the kid is practically doomed i don’t have longevity genes so i might not seen my grandkids (i grew up without grandparents myself so that might had made it an easier choice) i still decided to procreate because there is no such a thing as perfect genes and there is always the chance that technology will advance to a point that you kids will have a different life or even if it doesn’t imagine if stephen hawkings mother would had decided not to have him. if you don’t but you keep going because it’s fun for now or having a bf/gf is nice or whatever, you are using that person. young women are somewhat resistant to this idea, i have found. take the plunge when you are ready to be serious.@ramble“i am also a fan of seeing shorter guys, in pop culture, having a more difficult time with taller girls because that is something we see in real life”i’d settle for them even being shown on television in the first place and not be disabled, criminal, evil, abusive etc.”a young guy, in fact no man, can ever win against “better. gets compared to a father figurethis comment might make him and even you feel insecure. of young guys don’t step up to the plate until they have a reason to do so. guys want the young thing, and women wish they were the young thing again. are distinctly less exciting and bad ass than you are led to believe by popular culture. a guy go all sappy and serious on you right off the bat? in both of these cases, the guys were really great, and totally in love with my friends.” but “i miss you” implies some sort of need that is not being met. she may turn out to be a wildcat once you clear her filters for comfort and intimacy.” making out and going on multiple dates makes her belong to not girl who wants nothing but to never see you/him again, and the act of making out makes her not asexual, but prudish, yes probably.”you said leaving one ltr when someone better comes along. you might think this was just code for “no jews” but it wasn’t, jewish businessesmen were included (not in particularly great numbers) but gentile movie people were verboten.’m simply reminding you that women want to be the ones guys mature into liking.@passer_bydude, how would you feel about your wife drunk-blogging and making graphic comments to young men? as i said, what you’re doing now will weed out both types of guys. years older (the female preference), you might want to look at guys a bit older. around this time last year, i was pulling 60-80 hour workweeks, but i still managed to carved out time for dates. younger woman, older man thing will always raise brows from both sexes due to jealousy. find the parts of yourself that make you most attractive to them at the stage they’re at, and play those up. we just don’t see or hear about them because it is death as a young man to openly identify oneself as a sexual loser. before marriage, you are not obligated to stay with someone through thick and thin. is not odd for someone to say it when you’ve been kept apart by circumstance longer than usual.

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    you may not be very compatible with her, and there is nothing wrong with that. now i will admit i found the bleach blonde to be hot in a “boner test” kind of way, but that means very little to most guys since lots of women pass that test. you’re probably one of the prettiest colored women i have ever met”.” “i don’t know, why don’t you ask lok-ious-the-magnificent. keep repeating this and punctuate the five year period with two girlfriends, meaning that instead of this, you get (periodically):weekend 1: spend all weekend with girlfriend.@ hansoloi feel like such a creeper, but i can’t stop staring at your photo. i’m saying is, i bet you make a really great impression. haven’t you ever enjoyed just holding hands with a person? i just think you’ve got to get with a nicer (trans: more restricted) class of girls! he was pretty good looking, blonde, and very tall (6’4-6’6). the attractive older guys tend to compete well when it comes to the gorgeous ones because they have more money and status.@ escoffieri mean that the two terms are less than a milimeter apart yet one signifies that you are confederate plantation-owning civil war general and the other means you are chair of the department of peace and conflict studies at mills college.’s easy to forget about this kind of thing when you are young and seemingly invincible. – “well, other than the part about moving solely based on job location (i think you must give real thought to family location etc. an older man is established, less prone to let his affections meander, and much less likely to fall prey to a young woman’s shit tests; his younger counterparts generally do not have the wisdom that comes with experience. and for better or worse, you and i are pretty like minded. she sounds like someone who will want to have sex using a sheet with a hole in it (curb your enthusiasm).“60 year old david petraeus and 41 (sic) year old rupert sanders disagree with you. do you think that is enough time to know someone well enough to sleep with?@tasminsure an older man *may* have the ability to attract younger women, but this is because he has elevated himself above the majority of other men, younger and older – largely in spite of his age not merely because of it, and he must continue to work at it.“but the judgment goes both ways here, and you can see that in iggles’ comment (sorry to put you on the spot iggles! the truth is that there are tons of “good matches” for every person, and you will never be satisfied in your search for the one because there will always be someone “better” than each one you find.(i didn’t have this issue, i once spent 3 hours solving an incredibly complex inheritance problem from a couple years forward, while in a biology study group studying for an exam that evening. average] and enrolled her in a local school), and started working part time and met a guy. confess i worried about you, intj and the other young guys while writing this – i didn’t want you to feel discouraged. things you should know before dating a guy with a beard. somebody charlotte would be best off with a guy who’s restricted, but also in her age range. recently to a woman describe relationship woes with a man ten years older than she is, i noticed her friends were quick to say, “that’s why he’s 32 and single.” i have to say, though, it really made me chuckle when you said to hope,“your solipsism is showing. a 50 year old man is more likely to be in the “well off” league, but well off doesn’t get you candice swanepoel. there is no way you can discern that without dating them first. though i have to admire the both of you for really giving it a chance. time and circumstance being chaotic, two of those 4 relationships ended before marriage, and one 12 years after marriage.“one is the “don’t sleep with him until you’re dating”. you don’t want to end up with someone who doesn’t make you feel warm and snuggly.”i think you know it when you are with someone you can see as your lifelong mate, and i believe in that intuition. i suspect this is at the heart of your unsatisfying results., i did not mention his story because he was and is an odd guy. i know firsthand that women in the same age group (28+) already face similar reactions from men, even if they do appear young and in-shape.@ charlottei would say that the guy wasn’t very interested in you. there seems to be a pattern here… ;dfew guys have any interest in being pretty. for you, i find it hard to believe that you were at the bottom of the pile with those luscious big brown south asian boobies and delectable chocolate nipples.. well, despite the fact that there are probably a few guys here who, i would, assume regard me as an old battle axe, dh would say that i am “pleasant (enough–he likes a little feistiness), loyal (to a fault–as is he)and want to fuck him silly on a regular basis (as long as both our aged knees hold out)”. which makes the timing rather comical to me…)all this talk of 10 years being too much is bs and only applies at the lower end. it took five years of programming as a teenager before i could take freelance jobs on the open market.”there are good reasons for women, either in their early 20s or older, to be wary of guy (strangers) over 30. i’m simply saying that you can decide to break up with your gf for gaining 10 lbs. is it that younger women started to question your views? some try to relocate to the location of the other, but it can be difficult to find jobs in the same location, especially knowing that further moves are likely just a couple of years away. was the most emo guy i’ve ever known, but to be honest, that was part of his appeal. it can be more challenging to meet older guys, who are unlikely to hang out in the same venues frequented by the post-college crowd. in other words, being the same fat, ugly, sweaty gross guy he was when he was married gives these women a good reason to reneg on an essential element of the marital compact. you could start with google, wikipedia and the news media. you are absolutely correct, and the need to date and marry older is one of the logical consequences of the current smp., there are plenty of sensitive guys out there that will be head over heels for a girl soon after meeting her (look, some girls really do have beautiful eyes and smiles, and we get transfixed) and they should know that it might be really important that mask their real feelings and pretend to be less interested than they really are. the very fact that the ltr is you know long, should be a dead giveaway that the two have very different rule sets. two guys behind the deli counter gave me free food!”so, ask yourself this: what do you think would happen if every guy who might approach you could read your post at #758? better to drop disneyesque/churchy ideals of how attraction works, and up your ssi so that it matches reality. – they sound like the women your students hope to become! – what’s the psychology in dating an older man who looks young?, more like how they frame ron paul to sound like he is some sort of radical (you see, he was both in favor of smaller government and opposed the iraq war…what a nutjob).@jpi think this is one of the problems in life; you are generally going to find someone you like better because you are going to continue to be exposed to new people as you move forward in life. while i recognize his pain, i also recognize that similar comments irl will get you committed. however, he will not magically appear on your 23rd b’day., your account above is way too tame for what we have now.@ramble“however, i did ask you a question a few threads back that you never answered, so, i will ask it again:oh man, ramble, if you are going to talk about how much you long for women to get dumped if they gain 5 lbs…. thought you were getting hit on by men when you were babysitting and that you never hurt for attention and that not one girl in your sorority was below a 6. when i say than i am older than i look, people look at me carefully and say “so you are what, 30? you are co-authoring a paper, have musical skillz (i still think you should learn the violin version of smooth criminal– it’s not hard! a general rule, uni, for a smart and not pretty guy, living in a dorm is torturous hell.) you go nut-sowe are currently at peej-state-3if it is just a matter of meds (i do not mean this unkindly), why don’t you take them? lot of the stuff i did to accept the “unacceptable” parts of myself would probably seem super-lame to you.@just1zi deleted your comment on child support – i have no interest in a highjack that will bring hollenhund et al over here. would be 15 or 20 seconds they would never forget, let me tell you. i’ll take at face value what you all say that you are not at all attracted to men 15 to 20 years older (although part of me wonders if this is one of those cases where we should watch they do rather than listen to what they say). last time i was attracted to a guy more than 3 years older than me was in high school. than that boy and those fathers, you got almost no attention from boys because of the competition from taller, blonder california girls and then you go to college on the east coast and you are getting dates, from different guys, each night of the weekend. the majority of college age women went for older guys out of college then who does that leave for the college guys?@jpi’m so sorry to hear that you lost your mom so early! my point was that after a longer time (a year or more), guys seem to feel more obligated to continue a relationship if they are no longer really into it. this is a blog for young women, ostensibly you are here for your daughter.”so you don’t feel neglected…again, from my pov, just one ons for a young woman is riding the carousel. considering how many men here have denigrated gold-diggers, i’m surprised by the approval of it — i guess it’s groovy if you’re really hot. this makes her anxious, she is a restricted woman, you are an unrestricted man, so she thinks you’re playing her for sex (because you’re going through the actions by route). this suggests more of a switch in attraction triggers, not that that will make the guys that were overlooked feel any better with sloppy thirtieths. you can’t stamp this out in me unless you can completely unmake me and reform me into something else. since i began reading in the ‘sphere, i will occasionally slip in a manosphere trope like, “would you like me better if i were more submissive? i am not saying that a guy i meet this weekend at a bar couldn’t be ideally compatible, but how would i really know if i’ve barely had any adult relationships? i would crush on older guys when i was 13, but i really didn't start actually dating an older guy until i was 26; he was 40. you are always going on about being short, but 5’7″ isn’t “short. but, if so, that would be 15 or 20 seconds they would never forget, let me tell you. perhaps its just that he has spent several years plowing through the “hotter, younger, tighter” women, so he won’t miss out on anything when he prioritizes the older women now. the way your mindset is now, i see only two possible outcomes if you do find a guy (or guys): 1) you break the heart(s) of some ltr-oriented guy(s); 2) you succumb to some players and break your own heart, reducing your mmv in the process. i live in one of nyc’s most fun areas in an adorable apartment that i pay for myself (i fully support myself) and most of my friends are a few years older from work, etc. in america, prior to about 1950, it was possible to sue and/or jail a man for “breech of promise” in the circumstances described in the article you linked. you want a woman to marry you because she’d been in an ltr with you, even though her attraction for you had begun to wane in recent months, and a handsome guy at work was tempting her with regular invitations?@ passer_bycrap, now i have to rush home quicky and have my wife take care of this raging hard on you just me.’ve heard mixed things about online dating, but what else do you expect? course, this is all just based on a few long comments by her (and sometimes reading between the lines), so maybe she’s totally different than how she strikes the guys here.@t-paine“or perhaps its just that he has spent several years plowing through the “hotter, younger, tighter” women, so he won’t miss out on anything when he prioritizes the older women now. it’s clear that you have fallen hook, line and sinker for one another. would you like to play yourself in the hus movie? that women’s preferences shift more towards dads than cads as they get older (and incidently less attractive)? new guy confesses he has girlfriend, will break up with her. had a bunch of pretty gfs in hs and then you did not have one average or below average sister in your sorority (“none were below a 6”). i think you underestimate that number of guys that married women who were at best marginally attracted to them, because they didn’t know any better. when the former commenter obs said that all women can do is “be hot and lower your standards”? feels he has “power” in the relationshippersonally and professionally, he has one up on you and may think only he has a right to call the shots in the relationship. i am also a very loving person, but i don’t show it in the typical “omg you are the most amazing boyfriend in the world” facebook status kind of way. honey boo boo's mama june went from 460 lbs to a size 4 (! was recently explaining the ins and outs of drinking and how to ask permission from your elders to me (different culture). plus, you are changing the argument here a bit (and the other guys are falling for it).”saturday 🙂 with my mil 🙁“you know that your history is entwined with these feelings. when you consider my point from earlier that without an inheritance or extreme luck, resources and youth are pretty mutually exclusive. i recently saw him in something else, playing a bad guy.. i would hardly say i wove a trap for him, and i’m pretty offended you think so.” only 24% agree that “your most important personal goal is to get married.@ susanomg, j will probably have a good concrete suggestion for dealing with your friend, but if you think he is really contemplating suicide i think you should alert his loved ones and urge him to talk to someone asap. (granted, her older sister was kinda slutty, so, you can’t win them all.“incidentally, this is one of the guys she thinks might be gay. most guys i know think that way as well, but plenty of girls i know have said they could make out for hours with nothing else.@otcmy personal view of a ltr includes a much deeper level of personal commitmentwhat have you promised someone in an ltr? most of the older guys are either players or looking for a wife, whereas a younger guy is probably more likely to share her timeline. but at least you grasp the radical notion that others may not think and feel exactly like you do at all times. never, ever trust what a guy’s friends tell you about the guy. i know it is impossible to really “know” what goes through mens minds, but you have so much insight., you might as reasonably have said that he is the tallest man on the show because the men you regard as tall are much different than many of the definitions you’ve seen. i’m curious because i personally don’t know many (or any) guys that are overly emotional like you’ve described- it would seem intuitive that most men would be overly guarded about their emotions (and yes, i may be biased because that is how i am). long as you are neurochemically high, so to speak, it’s hard to see how you figure this out. is always interesting to see girls get that deer-caught-in-headlights look when, after hearing their checklist of things they want in a man, you ask them what they are bringing to the table. apparently gave some epic shit test to some guy when you were 14. never made out with a guy who didn’t already tell me he was falling for me, which is why my kiss n is single digit. on the other hand, i have a great uncle, also with type i diabetes and he’s now 80 years old! if you know you’ll be moving in 4 years, does it matter if your mate will as well? i find the older people get, the more comfortable they are, both with their sexuality, but also with who they are as people., it may be “typical and normal” but just because it worked out for you doesn’t mean it worked out for society or for most of the people in it. grandfather was in the army with this one guy who isn’t even all that great-looking. graduate, look for jobs, first one that lands one picks where you both will live. you haven’t yet had the pleasure…why we shit testwhy was that comment directed at me. my family didn’t use it when i was growing up in the 60s. i also recall being shocked by some of the pairings – girls i thought were 4s getting together with guys who were easily 6s, and not just for sex. if you really want my take on faith and heaven, it is far more complicated. a girl wants butterflies, with little seriousness, she’ll have to choose a guy who is looking for the same. i don’t think there is much of a nightlife scene for young people where i grew up. accepting your faults one thing, but refusing to improve another. all the discussion that goes here about how most men are just looking for a girl to settle down with, even back in my dating years, looking overly anxious to marry scared men off. one guy told me to take off my clothes, and i promptly went to the bathroom and changed into my pjs, lol! since people choose mates who resemble their opposite-sex parents, the daughter might be more likely to fall for a guy who acts like her pua father. his answer was “there are 6 billion people in the world. hate ditch on you, but i have to get a kid to the eye doctor’s.., a parallel dating strategy when you consider multiple candidates at once, rather than one at a time.@rambleas you can see, men tend to focus on the youngest most fertile womeninteresting, while i was researching this post i came across a raging debate among evo psychologists., for some reason i thought you were in your late 30s…ok, got it. i’m already often the oldest guy in the room at social events.”the point is that you can decided to break up with your wife (who had your children) for gaining 10 lbs. connorexpertphoto: weheartit 8 deep mistakes you make with him that kill his attraction to youif you keep finding yourself in heartbreaking, dead end relationships, listen up. you consider incorporating yourself as an insurance carrier, i can possibly consider bringing an action against you. so, when you ask why guys might be bothered by this “maturation”, ask the dumb beach bimbo with bigguns why she might resent being nothing but a cum dumpster.

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    – man, if i had a million dollars i wouldn’t be on here, but if you think you can get blood from a turnip, knock yourself out. first year was much the same as yours, used and abused by pretty much every woman.), i would assume that you have a player vibe that makes her uncomfortable. and i would consider my husband to be an very high quality guy, not some dregs i had to “settle” for.. honestly, your description of your desires (want to have butterflies, guy to hang out with on the weekend, not serious) is exactly the type of girl i would highlight with a laser designator were i still looking for casual sex.@jpi think the hus record for most comment in a single thread sits around 2600, iirc. i take your point – in no way should she deceive a young man into thinking he’s going to get a relationship if she’s trying to keep things casual. what is the point of even attempting to communicate anything to anyone if you’re going to simply invent your own personal definitions to existing words that have already been well-defined?) talk to her at some point to see what’s she’s really thinkingif you really like the rest of her and would like her if she were able to open up and be flirty and sexual then try some combination of 4 with 2 or 3. you catch the charts at ‘d’s place (no link) showing that (subject to sampling errors) the women never married 35-39 y. to me is that period of time in a new relationship where you are obsessed with the other. bumble the beadle in oliver twist, if you want to know his ending! you kinda have a habit of relating every single discussion point to one of your “pet” topics (whether that be open marriage, south asian religions/culture, etc.”i think you have this right, just from my personal experience & observation. should add that if a man must have the following to secure the unconditional love of an college-educated attractive young woman (~18-25):-above average resources compared to the us population, even though resources take decades for a man to accumulate. – “it is odd for someone you’re seeing frequently to say they miss you. just think it’s funny how if you change the phraseology by less than 1% it’s totally cutting edge hip pc even though to untrained ears it sounds almost exactly the same. you should be free to follow your heart, even if it hurts another person. i know a bunch of recent college grads who met their spouses in college, moved to the same area after graduation, and got married a few years later. don’t comment on looks much, but most people do get that gold diggers aren’t into much older men’s looks. can you think of any reason you might end a ltr instead of marrying that person? alas, the tingles are destined for the dustbin at that time of day…women love men with mastery, and given that you were a partner, a high status position in society, my guess is that female fantasies about pinning you to the wall and exhausting you were occurring with rapid fire frequency. which means guys who get back to you will be doing it for both good and sometimes bad reasons.“marry a man 10 years older and you could be in for a 20+ year widowhood. my parents were married at 20 and 32, but waited 7 years to have kids. i’ve advised them to set their preference as older, don’t check the box for guys under 25. because at least you tried and someone tried with you. –i would never suggest it or want it for my older daughter, but bastiat’s suggestion of a kindler, gentler carousel might be just the trick for charlotte. now, i wouldn’t have assumed that that’s what you meant, but it’s what you said. perhaps its just that he has spent several years plowing through the “hotter, younger, tighter” women, so he won’t miss out on anything when he prioritizes the older women now. i can see the plus side as to looking young but there is downside to it. there’s a lot of knowing smiles/laughter among men my age when they see a young woman with an old man. go on lots of dates (hey, free dinner), and you’ll find a guy here or there for short periods of time who will do that to you.. that link describes the epic shit test she gave that you keep asking about.@mariefrom a girl’s pov: in my mind, older men do not “compete” with younger men.. more immediate access to sex, or is already involved w/other women (even something lined up for later that night) and didn’t need to escalate with you at that point. for a tv show/movie to show a girl being dumped specifically due to weight gain, was your hope right? that means she is a very low risk for “oops it just happened” infidelity, and would not be easily tempted away by some guy like zach with high smv and tight game.”unless of course you’re getting the shitty end of the stick.’t forget the guy you canned for being dumb enough to fail your shit test and stay up all night doing whatever it was (or maybe that was junior high). as far as the average guy in his 40s and 50s getting gorgeous 22 year olds, thats pretty much a pipe dream. one guy had remembered me from the voting line at the polling place three weeks ago; another guy supposedly had a convo with me in the summer about vacations (? there’s the whole possibility that i might never have existed if my parents had thought the same thing (though i was born in the ’80s, probably before this stuff was available… mwahaha you can’t get rid of me) but i’ve always sort of had the thought that just because a particular sperm/egg combo never becomes a full grown baby doesn’t mean that soul won’t be born as another sperm/egg combo. was being intentionally hyperbolic– you’ve never said the 5lbs part to my knowledge. know it’s already been said, but you are a good friend. you may have to compete with women who are 23 for men your own age, it’s true. if you want your relationship to last, the best thing you can do is give it everything you’ve got. you are not engaged, nor have you discussed becoming engaged”you lost me right here. i have heard that the most common times to discuss the relationship are at the 4 and 6 month marks.@susan:“again, to reiterate, i am not suggesting that women stop dating guys their own age.‘i have a fucking 97% average and haven’t been to class in 2 months, wtf is wrong with you you dumb bitch? are older guys who think that they can continue to be attractive to very young women into their 60s as long as they work out. someone old enough to be a much older cousin/young uncle/father, when i didn’t have some kind of daddy complex…. i go outside to get some fresh air and new guy follows me out. sometimes life feels like that, and all you need is the right song added in to be the movie’s soundtrack. get enough invisible comments and you start going to too early a page.'s not the life of the partyhe loves spending time with you, but may want to call it an early night instead of going to the next big party. mean that the two terms are less than a milimeter apart yet one signifies that you are confederate plantation-owning civil war general and the other means you are chair of the department of peace and conflict studies at mills college.@rolloi do think you might broaden your age range to about 20 years instead of 5-10. still decided to procreate because there is no such a thing as perfect genes and there is always the chance that technology will advance to a point that you kids will have a different lifeyes this part is true. seriously, you could make a whole blog out of that. ok cupid data on desirability by age as you can see, male desirability peaks at 26 and stays strong until about 30, at which point it decreases rapidly. i challenge you to also consider what you might bring to the table. these are the beta men (confident, competent, accomplished, kind, nondominant) you’re telling your female readers to marry and whom you say are attractive. hey single girls, have you started to predict the name of future so yet? think this is not uncommon with artistic types – and this guy did go on to make his living acting and singing.*i bet if there was a guy who looked like a carbon copy of him, who was just a regular guy of awesome character who truly loved his family and adored his wife, we’d all be swooning.’s definitely truth here, and it isn’t fair for those guys in their 30s who, by career choice or bad luck (sound familiar ladies? distinctly remember the first time i ever shit-tested a guy. 🙁 i am super restricted, but even i know that you can use about a million things to create a spark. one evening, as i was going nowhere fast on an exercise cycle, i overheard a young lady, who frequented the spa regularly, talking to the one certified spa lothario. i think you are where i was about a year ago (i graduated young too, i’m 23 now). one thing women in that age range have said to me is that they get messaged primarily by guys in their own age range, and rarely by guys who are 30 or more. so, it could she is projecting the term onto him, as she may know someone he’s been with, or perhap that she knows she’s dealing with a guy who’s slept with a few girls.”it’s very counterintuitive to me that you would need to stand up to somebody in a relationship, since a relationship implies that you give the person what they ask for whenever they ask for it (and you are really supposed to be doing this for everyone, based on my understanding of morality that i absorbed growing up, meaning turn the other cheek, give to those who ask, etc. your credit tanks and you can’t find another job? be honest here: what makes you deserving of their love? is in nyc, so maybe he’ll chime in with some good suggestions about how to meet guys, although i suspect he is one of the arrogant men at the charity ball. wouldn’t, it sounds like you are able to pull the women you want. dh and i once had an argument during which he picked up our older son. for every guy over 30 who is lavishing in the rewards of their labour which may or may not include aiming his attentions at younger women, there are dozens of men who are reeling from divorce, struggling with a highly competitive and increasingly demanding mid-career, or are otherwise temporarily or perpetually lacking in status markers or physical attributes (the short, fat, bald crowd) that are more than enough to reduce his smv/mmv to the point where his age is just one more detriment; a far cry from the kid in the candy store or any kind of position from which he projects this blanket discount upon his female peers. a lot of women require trust to really let go and then they surprise you. there’s the whole possibility that i might never have existed if my parents had thought the same thing (though i was born in the ’80s, probably before this stuff was available… mwahaha you can’t get rid of me) but i’ve always sort of had the thought that just because a particular sperm/egg combo never becomes a full grown baby doesn’t mean that soul won’t be born as another sperm/egg combo. she is 8 years my junior, so i think i did pretty good. there are tons of girls who are “younger, hotter, tighter” than me.“that would be 15 or 20 seconds they would never forget, let me tell you”foreplay too huh? “dorks” = just want to do her homework (would do her coding if they could) for her and carry her books to classyou know it’s true. so if you’re a girl and you’re not offering that (or laying breadcrumbs to that point), you’ve got to be pretty amazing in the other areas to hold onto any guy who has options. not the vibe, not his friend rushing him to leave, not what chuck said about his interest in you. but, when i do it– it seems to get the guy more interested and relaxed. the percentage never married stayed the same for the two sets of women over five years – they didn’t get married on a statistically significant rate. least i got a positive childhood when i was really young.@jrd, yes, in manosphere terms i’m “past my prime”if you were interested in being a bar skank, than you might be past your prime, but if you are interested in being a great mother, you are probably riding the wave right now.'s emotionally stablethe older men are the calmest human beings. in closing, i am very open to dating a guy 4-6 years older than myself. if i’m your girlfriend, i want you to end it with me. an ltr should span at least a few years, and i consider them the ramp up to marriagecrap.“maybe it looked like she didn’t care, maybe she really didn’t care, but the point is that you don’t know the whole truth., on the blogs were the adage gets a lot of credence, there are older guys who think that they can continue to be attractive to very young women into their 60s as long as they work out. is that how you refer to elderly women and grandmothers?, i think you should go to a speed dating event and tell every guy that you want to married within the next year and don’t want to waste time if that’s not going to happen, so that’s why you are interviewing a lot of guys.@jl125what’s the psychology in dating an older man who looks young?@susan:“i know you feel this way, you say this a lot, but this has not been my experience. is obviously gonna depend on the guy in question but theres a sweet spot that can maximize a woman’s comfort zone whilst maximizing her number of prospective mates. you’re probably one of the prettiest colored women i have ever met”., you are the exact opposite of zach, as conversation and compatibility appears not to interest you. i love talking to people who i click with and being a great friend to your significant other is one of the most important things i think. i suspect this is at the heart of your unsatisfying results. but it should still be very obvious that she is into you, because she will finding other ways to be physical with you.@jyou’re right, it’s an exception for young women to go after 50 yo men, but it’s not quite so tiny. as a girl, if you’re at all attractive, simply stand there and bat your eyes and you’ll meet a couple guys every night. nobody mentioned that the social hierarchy in college is rather fragmented, and the smart guys are outside the sexual hierarchy. and that young men are right to slum-it-up in their twenties playing video-games, then wreck havoc on the smp when they get their turn to.“men display and women select, so your results must determine your strategy. apparently what we think of an ltr is a “mini-marriage” where you pledge fidelity indefinitely, and perhaps have some major deal-breakers like “cheating”, where you break up. do think that women dating guys in their 30s need to be very careful to make sure this is not the case – he should have a history of ltrs rather than strictly strs…. fair number of the old timers are in the 60+ crowd, some more vigorous than others. i’ve just never met a guy (other than one who is just a total douche who has tried to get in my life for years and i know to stay very far away from) who gave me that cozy, safe feeling. you’re not willing to wait, by all means zach, cut her loose. why would you want to run with nogoodniks for friends? he can get a 25-year-old whose youth and beauty trump anything my 33-year-old self might have to offer. light you can shed on this situation would be tremendously helpful.@charlotteyou remind me a lot of a very close girl friend (platonic) of mine. after we do that, which can take weeks for some and years for others, we have a period where we’re emotionally open. agree with otc however, its all in your head requires a different solution than actual problems. i know quite a few women who are a bit older than their husbands, because they met as peers at grad school, work, etc. otoh, i can guarantee you that the average 20 yo girl in that disco would have been equally disgusted. he ages, like a fine wine, his awesomeness will increase somehow, as if by magic and he will be the target of a massive unplanned intragirl war, out of which he will emerge the victor and the older cohort of girls will lose, finding themselves relegated to men under the age of 25 in despair. if a man is looking specifically to raise children, especially in this hellacious legal client insofar as men are concerned, he’s going to have to quite rigorously suss out his so’s history, compatibility, and character, and if you’re starting with a woman that is already 25, by the time they’re ready to have that kid they’re already cutting it awfully close to the fertility decline. like a commentor (i think it was marie) said upthread older men do not compete with younger men, they are in two different categories. for the sake of argument, can you explain to me what the difference here would be? or should you end your relationship and explore a relationship with the woman at work?@j“that may be pretty descriptive of the greek scene, but outside that scene i don’t think most girls date two guys and have have some romantic contact with two others in three weeks. as for those curves, you are on one side, i am on the other. i don’t know if dc lawyers can pull young women if they’re high status or what, but she felt like she was being approached by middle-aged dads all the time. 😉i heard “inner attorney” and what comes to mind is “sharpen your knives!’m sorry deti, but i really think you’ve gone off the rails here. if so, i bet with a bit more time she will open up more (assuming she’s not a true bore at heart) and you may just be the one to bring out her wild side. it possible that you account of what was typical for a girl in the late 70′s was not as common as you think it is/was? is it that the restricted guys think they are unrestricted because of their sorority membership and so they avoid them? all right, so no one knows what they really want, but we've got a job, if not a career, and some money saved up, because we already did that thing where you spend all your money and then have no money., i realize that you are “gettable” – and you are a catch. is so wrong about going out @ 21, to see what you like and having fun? years later, men and women are still from different planets »searchsubscribe now! thing is, i remember a painting rather similar to this one hanging in my grandparents house as a young boy. he’s a great guy, you should really go out with him., she’s helping future cooper so that the youthful women know that he’s a good catch. in an ltr you get to observe someone at their best and at their worst. it’s a lot of fun and you get good stories. it’s an accusation of immature behavior against zach, when you think about it. over a period of years, it became harder and harder for him to resist the temptation to try and get more of that. think, though, if you have any kind of hole or lack within you, it can do strange things.@loklandunless of course you’re getting the shitty end of the stick.@ emilybased on the comments around here, you’d think that girls never get dumped. my point is, that system served her very poorly as it is serving quite a lot of young men and women very poorly. she wants to know what the hell you’re doing with her, hence the outburst. i think you are far better off being single than divorced, since things didn’t work out with your xf. they often get played freshman year once, get even more cautious, and promptly become invisible to the frats for the remainder of their college years. why are these two still together after 2 years if they haven’t even discussed getting engaged?

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@ susanit is not true that to treat female depression “you just have to be a good listener. relationship was fun and short-lived, but what i’ve learned since then has taken me a long way when dating older men.. i’m interested in a person 18 months younger than me. implies that it is fine and well for a woman to go for the bad boy because she is immature today, but 10 years from now she can be totally happy with her provider husband because she “matured”., at least for the time being, the ‘sphere is going to continue to be marginalized and so, therefore, you are going to get a somewhat poor signal-to-noise ratio. you want to know what my first impression of him was?”in a perfect world, this would be the case, but my experience in my mid 20s is that women your age are not frequently selecting for this. what your doing by suggesting that a relationship can end for any reason might sound great in theory but it does not occur in the real world. ive seen men @ late 70`s that you would guess to be @ 60, and some men at 65 look and act 78. jesus says in the bible, prostitutes and tax collectors — those on whom we look down our noses — are entering the kingdom of god before you and me. but you are a couple, and everyone knows you as a pair. one is, i think, still a virgin; the other constantly picked the wrong guys. and don't call him an “old man,” even if you're joking; it will only make matters worse! – “as someone else said, guys don’t have a medium between booty call and girlfriend. 🙂i wonder if, on some level, she senses that you have made a lot of conquests, for lack of a better term. a man 10 years older and you could be in for a 20+ year widowhood. just asking you to not tar all of us with the same brush. she has a great sense of humor – you click from day one and thoroughly enjoy working together. which is kind of like what you’re doing but involves me working all weekend because i took on too much work 18 months ago. i can think of a number of guys who you should share that thought with. most guys i know think that way as well, but plenty of girls i know have said they could make out for hours with nothing else. he’s a member of your tribe, she’s not. i mean, how do you feel about a dealership called “honest used cars”? (zach, you shouldn’t have to pressure a restricted girl into taking her top off.“you’re not explaining why she looks at sex through the prism of a 7th grader.”well, if you go limerant, that decision gets made for you because it causes a cognitive system crash and you’re just along for the ride. i meant that as a friend i don’t know what to do to help a guy, whereas with a woman, i know what i can do: listen. i know what i am attracted to, and the types of people i like, but through more dating you find things out about yourself and more preferences to lead you to the person you really should be with, who is most compatible.“i’m wondering if the reason many of you seem to think that “getting to know someone” takes months is because you all just like too damn many people.@sassy, susan, and otherswhere do you find guys like this? tribalism, ie favoritism towards the in-group, occurs across every culture and time frame, and is driven by genetics (your tribe is much more likely to share genes with you than some outsider). want fun and that butterfly feeling, and you can get it, but to do so you are either going to break some poor guy’s heart or else fall for a player or players., did you mention: “i’m super busy with work right now so i wouldn’t even have time for something serious. if a guy is way older (say 40) he has to be well off financially or have some other game-changer for me to even consider him, if at all. my first boss in my first “real” job was about 10 years older than me. primary reason that women tend to date older, i feel, is that for a man to achieve mastery in a given skill or profession it takes 10,000 hours/5 years, as it has been said. there is no way you can discern that without dating them first.”this was the farthest from what i was trying to say when i said guys only date for two reasons.”well, the media attention is on the top guys, not the dorks who couldn’t make sense. however, any way you slice it, we are going to have ltrs – with sex – before people marry. don’t think you have much to lose by trying to talk to her about it at some point (either now or after a more platonic date). didn’t say it was a goal, she said it under the heading of “you never know. write it fast, a bunch of other people have just seen your idea! – add me to the guys on zach’s girl’s side.@emily:” my experience is that the guy will stay in the bad ltr, but only until he finds his next jumpoff girl, so as to not interrupt the steady sex supply. affairs are common – the woman has little to lose if she’s young and single, provided she doesn’t fall for you. know a couple girls that have similar complaints of not meeting guy, despite very active efforts. you do not show it, but you are developing a strong physical attraction for her. again, i only actually am caring about this because he was a higher caliber than the majority of guys i meet. for example, 68% say that at this stage in life they want fun and freedom; 54% say they are not interested in getting married anytime soon; 64% agree “there are so many bad marriages today it makes one question the value of marriage;” and 41% agree that “you can’t trust women to tell the truth about their past relationships.”did something induce the mania, or had you had them before and just not know they were manic? just as you do not owe any woman a relationship based on having had a few dates with her. i still say she might really come alive with the right guy, but i don’t think she and zach are a match. did have men hitting on you in junior high and hs (even though it was creepy).@ susan walshhe was the most emo guy i’ve ever known, but to be honest, that was part of his appeal. can actually pull much younger and hotter women if they take care of themselves, have something women want(high status, charm, charisma, sexual experience etc etc), and if they don’t become emotionally attached to someone. i wouldn’t be surprised if contact was made in the future, but be prepared for more of the same game and then decide if you are comfortable being part of a harem. if you mean average looking, again, i don’t see the link to obesity. you stay with your girlfriend, and marry her, hoping such a thing never happens again? went to a few of their weddings in the past few years and they looked like they had each consciously traded a sexy guy for a secure one. i said this:while you may not want to focus exclusively on older guys, i recommend that this be one strategy in your portfolio. i’m sure that is true for you re men in the 35-40 range. i have several good guy friends from school but “out of touch, out of mind” as they continue to party while i am already settled into my job. i haven’t spoken to a single young man in the last four years who wants to marry before his late 20s at the earliest. the only reason ron perelman was able to pull ellen barkin (even when she was 46 and well past her prime) was because of his money. one really hot guy did and i accepted that deal for three years.”it’s too late to deny whatever it is that you’re denying here.. i wish more people saw it the way you do. one says: “i hate it when they say they miss you! while  you may not want to focus exclusively on older guys, i recommend that this be one strategy in your portfolio.@hansolo, tedhere is a quote for you both:one idea/lights a thousand candles–ralph waldo emerson. you can even hear it when people compliment toddlers, “oh boy, he’s going to break a lot of hearts! my aesthetician skin-person is from scottsdale, which is interchangeable with la to me– very current on trends, very “plasticky” (plastic surgery at a young age, even as a teenager 🙁 ). of my friends im the only one that actually sees 35 year old regular guys as attractive, they are pretty much invisible to most girls my age, ime. did it in your personal life, so how about doing it here? (i probably have the details wrong here but…)so, you being restricted still have some historical pock marks, but you seem to be saying “if you guys would just lay off the real sluts, the rest of us women out here are just lovely. there’s something to be said for dealing with infants in one’s youth rather than middle age. you are probably going to have to include online dating as part of your strategy. it felt wierd and scary, as though a man who was so much older was deliberately targeting me because he might have felt i was young and naive (vulnerable, but not in a good way) and not mature enough to negotiate a relationship with a man so much older and experienced.” the guy i was into ended up leaving to go to another birthday party in a rush taken by his other friend without taking my number, which i was a bit disappointed by., so, at 36, i am just past a male peak’s value 🙂 good i have secured the relationships already 🙂but then, i bet not one of you would have guessed my age correctly.@ramble:” still, were the 3s, 4s and 5s in missouri getting all those dates on the weekend, or was it more something you saw in your (above average) sorority? think when i was younger i had this perception that my life would be over once i hit 40 and the rest was a slow slide into oblivion.@detideti, i don’t think hope made your point for you at all. if not, you only get one chance and that’s life. 🙁incidentally, this is one of the guys she thinks might be gay. you don’t give a donkey’s ass about *her*, you just like the way her flesh looks. all the more reason for the girl in her 20s to go for a guy in his 20s., if you are saying that some men are delusional, then you will get no argument from me.@passer bybut those women who do like the older guys with authority seem to really really like them. i would have had no issue at all going 10 years younger, and 13 years younger would have made her 29, which imo is plenty old enough to decide who she wants to marry.“your comments in this thread make me realize that you are quite rigid about what you expect and how quickly. i said in the post, the women i know in their 20s are not typically interested in men even 10 years older.:the truth is, most women really don’t want to go more than 10 years older at the outside. otherwise, you’re living a lie and robbing me of a real opportunity to marry someone who loves me the way you now love the other woman. davinexpertmust-see videosvideophoto: unsplash 6 ways monogamy can make your sex life so much betterno, really! it turns out, most of the guys i know never pined for them as well.’m pretty proud of the fact that she had no idea i was terrified and just thought it was my awkwardness at being with a new woman after 12 years of marriage., wait, as a pua does she go out and pick up guys? you’re essentially looking for a fwb situation without the casual sex, which doesn’t really exist. remember when i was a little younger than charlotte and a guy invited me to see a concert, that was going to take a 3hr starlit drive though the desert to get there. 😉 but since you made it a question, i’ll answer it simply: because i never want my boys to have to “give up” on it in their personal lives.: (on hotornot), of photo i showed you, just me +2 others. this skews society, and means that women are forced to search for a guy with some sort of economic security if they want to have a child.:but, after a month (and no sex), the two of you were not so emotionally attached such that your feelings would (or should) impact his decision whether or not to continue the relationship. it will get better as you move into the 2nd and 3rd episodes i think.@detideti, we should wait for susan to respond to you directly. and then wanting to have you “take care of it” by having sex? you ever really had to work at anything –i mean, in regards to developing a skill– where there has been no immediate payoff? when we see a guy in his 30s, we assume he could obviously be married right now if he wanted, so he must be choosing to play the field indefinitely. a man approaching 50, i have to point out that a woman rejecting anyone part 40 or so isn’t getting any younger herself. i mean, they didn’t know i was 21 (i often am mistaken for 24-26) but i’m sure because i said my roommate was 23 that i was around that age as well. it goes strictly against deti’s lectures last week – perhaps you didn’t agree with him about a woman following her husband and putting his career first?. i wonder if the bias of your own past being ‘average’ is clouding your vision on reality? is what it’s really like to be an alcoholic in your 20s. you may know, i love employing stories to better relay a point.”it’s pretty easy for some guys to meet girls in nyc — the ones who are good-looking, outgoing, and charming. some reason, that story, and the fact that you did not have any friends that were below a 6, reminded me of this:I learned the truth at seventeen. you’re starting with a woman that is already 25, by the time they’re ready to have that kid they’re already cutting it awfully close to the fertility decline. i could go younger than that, five years seems fine but ten seems like a stretch.“if you can get him, that means you can get someone even better! needs to be a manual that expressly notes that hooking up does not automatically mean that you are now bf/gf., the median age at marriage for women with a degree is 30, and there is a very large population of women your age who are not partnered.” please, please, please, all you lurkers out there, never devalve a woman., i’d like to add, you may have thought is was all “just for fun”, but i’m willing to bet that for him, he was hoping for one of two things:2. like the quote to deti yesterday, be the change you wish to see in this world, ted! a thought, susanre: fox news, war on menever since one of the guys linked to it a few days ago, it has remained on an open tab. actually agree with the idea that the body is secondary to the soul, but i also think you have to take a leap of faith because someone has to provide the body and maybe being imperfect is actually the key to fulfilling their destiny. you troll here, at rollo’s and and at manboobz? two guys behind the deli counter gave me free food! before marriage, you are not obligated to stay with someone through thick and thin.@olive,if he was like me, then he started honing those computer skills at a very young age. yeah, i agree that a divorced guy might not be an ideal bet, but as a formerly divorced and now remarried man, i’d at least say don’t discount a guy simply because he couldn’t make it work with some other woman. you are over-reacting and possibly imputing the motives of other women in your life to susan. i generally have a thing for older men, but they usually pass my limit around 47. i understand that that discussion does not need to include the subject of marriage, but after 2 years a girl is usually on the wife track or she is getting off that train. young women know they have sexual power over unavailable middle-aged men, and they relish it. you know: never cry, never show fear, only emotions allowed were anger and happiness, but only happiness in a surface sense.@susan:“she didn’t say it was a goal, she said it under the heading of “you never know. guys who are equating marriage to ltr, or ending and ltr to ending a marriage, are way off base., i think you should go to a speed dating event and tell every guy that you want to married within the next year and don’t want to waste time if that’s not going to happen, so that’s why you are interviewing a lot of guys speed dating isn’t the venue for that sort of thing. women want young dads just a bit older than they are. yeah, but it puts him on the spot and you read his immediate reaction to figure out what’s up. it works out with my boyfriend (who’s a year older) but i would look like a fool in a date with a 30yr old. as a very restricted person, i’m constantly shocked at how quickly some people feel comfortable getting naked with someone new”you must not consume large quantities of alcohol….’s not coming through at all in any of your posts. you’re really interested, you should follow some of richard shweder’s work on moral psychology. seems to me most women prefer you to be this way as a man anyway (and that’s not chest puffing, just an observation). i’m wondering if the reason many of you seem to think that “getting to know someone” takes months is because you all just like too damn many people. they broke up a few years later; this affected how she viewed things. it’s not surprising as you are twice her age. his “maturity” is not a plus unless it affords the woman something she can’t get from a guy her own age or a bit older. you get the “ted d almost spit his coffee all over his desk” award for today. in other words, if your friend says something about a bullet through the head and he has a gun lying around, then yeah you probably want to alert someone. a failed drug overdose sounds like a better method, if you are going to fail and change your mind.“why you should date an older guy”for a minute, i thought i had accidently logged onto the askmen forum., i won’t suggest anyone withdraw from the social scene because they aren’t ready to commit to a marriage, as some of the guys seem to be suggesting. weight lifting increases your t, but precisely how much is sort of an x factor. you’ll more than likely met him through a social circle that you are establishing now.

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@marcactually, i cant even consider settling down just yet, as i cant date women young enough right now to satisfy the age gap that i am looking for. from “i’m so into you” to “too hip, gotta go! and the kind of guy who just wants “fun” from you is not likely to make you happy in the medium or long term. don’t see the problem with charlotte’s perspective, as long as she’s not back here to complain about getting “played” by a non-serious guy she caught feelings for after the fact.’m not sure, but off the top of my head i would assume that means you can go younger, while you might not do as well with women your own age, especially if they look older than you do. don’t know if you saw it, but saywhaat linked to this study yesterday:ladies prefer thin over machomacho features such as a strong jaw and squinty eyes advertise that a guy possesses high testosterone, according to the immunocompetence handicap hypothesis., the engaged couple were very intelligent and they did 2 tours and spent a total of 5 years in west africa and came home really disappointed and disabused of the whole notion., do you not get the sense she might be feeling that there’s sufficient chemistry, and escalation pace? need to always feel they have the young woman in their life. really didn’t mean to offend you, and wish you the best. i guess you could say youth is wasted on the young, and i get that susan is trying to wisen up the freshmen before it’s too late and the axe of turning 30 falls, thus complicating matters somewhat.@susan“it’s much more useful to take stock of a guy’s reputation (if you can) than to judge him based on his age, height, address, car, etc.)“can you think of any reason you might end a ltr instead of marrying that person? i have nothing against guys my age; i have tried dating them, but i have constantly come across the following:– they're not ambitious enough, or they don’t have a go-getter attitude. (that is a lot harder to write than you’d think. think the manosphere overstates the tendency of women to drop guys “just because”. you don’t even allow the small talk with the woman at work. that’s just being rude, and i don’t doubt that hurt your feelings. its more about exactly how you behaved, perhaps despite your socio-economic status.“you’re missing the fact that you can see potential in a person and fall for them hard, and happily enter an ltr with them, all the while knowing that you will most likely not marry.’s clear from your commentary that you want women to be very restricted, in behavior, attitude and desire. i can’t imagine being comfortable around strangers, which is why “dating” as you describe it seems like torture to me.. i can think of a number of guys who you should share that thought with. i do hope, though, that this young woman starts to hang with a more restricted crowd, and that if zach is frustrated with her, he should move along. but you have never felt this degree of longing before, for any woman. the point is that women should expand their options, and dating men your own age or even younger is smart, provided they are looking for the same things you are. women will then label these men as guys who are not serious candidates for long-term relationships.@detideti, have you ever heard the quote “be the change you wish to see in the world”? you want to know why, and she tells you that it’s just too hard. i think you underestimate that number of guys that married women who were at best marginally attracted to them, because they didn’t know any better. i will tell you: the ltr-oriented guys would move on and the players would say “ooh, perfect! no chance to scare guys off because wearing fashionable clothes, and not that many gays there i guess too. and as i said just now, guys usually date for one of two reasons: for sex or for serious. in mind, it depends on the woman’s age – but the female preference for a man just 4 years older is real, and few women will go up 10 years without significant financial inducement. a red pill dose that young would open up all kinds of opportunities. better to drop disneyesque/churchy ideals of how attraction works, and up your ssi so that it matches reality. far too few are spelling this out for young women today. ok cupid is a young demographic, so the chart primarily shows who is attractive to young people. i have read that a little rose-colored glasses and seeing your partner in the best light can help keep the spark alive in a relationship. that’s really all i’ve been saying charlotte should do but you’ve responded as if i were making some paleolithic demand. many days did you get up to before you had the hallucinations? most people i know plan on living in a city (not necessarily nyc) for work for at least a few years after college, and then moving back out there when they settle down a bit more. or, if you were to think of reasons to keep dating her, what would they be? looking for a ltr, but not really thinking about marriage)despite what the men were saying in the other thread, most early-20s guys are not in a rush to get married. hell, i couldn’t even reliably tell you what women found attractive in me based on what i know now, so how would i have ever truly known if a woman was very attracted for sure?@susan, why would they feel off limits to the restricted guys? but women often scare men off if at 21 or 22, they are saying “you are the one i want to marry”yup., if she was not that cute, then i could see a guy “developing” a strong attraction to her.’d figure bringing out that side of her is something most restricted guys would want, but who knows maybe i’m wrong. dh and i once had an argument during which he picked up our older son. guess that's where i began the attraction for the older man type, and it used to freak my mother out. if you don’t do it, i’m going to snipe it for my love, actually style hus screenplay.@olive but if you find yourself in a situation of dating regularly and you meet a really great guy (there’s no shame in okcupid by the way, i had a profile for awhile), there’s no reason to break it off at a certain point because you haven’t “dated around” enough. you had some cute, older football player pining for you when you were in junior high and you are saying that you did not get attention until college? age/maturity does not guaranty that a man will bring those things that a woman isn’t already providing for on her own – even if she is a few years younger. they broke up a few years later; this affected how she viewed things.)well, it does not take a master logician to figure it out: either a few flings with players, or else some incipient relationships with guys who want her for the long haul but on whom she will bail, unless she changes her mind. the guy had worked at an observatory and knew how to find all the constellations. i was having a pleasant conversation with this one foreign student, there was some flirting happening between us, when this dude in his 70’s stands there looking at me talking to the girl(creepy as hell) and when i went to my seat the guy goes up to her, sits next to her and starts chatting her up. wife is convinced that my next door neighbor when i was really young is gay (still married to his wife, however). but the real point is, i’m 42 and my wife is 8 years younger. one says: “i hate it when they say they miss you! peej, the reason that you are repeatedly banned is because you:1) make a few sane comments – people think that you are not as bad as they had been told. in a smaller city or town, online dating makes so much sense, even at a younger age. he’s a member of your tribe, she’s not. it’ll probably change as you get older, and you can pick either casual sex or real relationships. lived at the beach out there – and there was an abundance of guys whose identity was ocean dependent – surfers, divers, etc.>> ” my point was that after a longer time (a year or more), guys seem to feel more obligated to continue a relationship if they are no longer really into it. 🙂just two things: 1) it sounds like you already have an idea of what you’d like in a partner, without having made a 30-point checklist, which is really great! and others addressing this point:personally, find a gap of more than ten years problematic. the shit test post:“this led commenter dream puppy to share an example from her own married life, one where she lobbed a massive shit test at her husband””it would have been nice if i actually learned about this shit test thing when i was younger. that guy didn’t even let me come up for air. there is no way you can discern that without dating them first. the more i do this, the more people will want to be around you and the more you will like yourself. some of the guys might act like assholes from time to time, but almost all of the girls are really nice. it’s absolutely horrible to do this to another person given the level of avoidable emotional trauma that you caused. you know your own intentions well but your potential “suitors” do not.“and, surely, you must understand that it’s weird that she thinks he would brag to his friends (who she barely knows) about taking her top off. just hooked up with a guy:He fucked me at the frat house after beer pong. just because the man is older does not mean the child would not be taken care of, one way or another. forgive me, but i think that any guy that is 25 and under that is using that website is probably a little creepy. for a guy, being told you’re the one they will mature into wanting is sort of like telling a girl that she’s just a cum dumpster who isn’t suitable for ltr.) because if i was tired when i was young in my 20s, it wasn’t going to get any better with age unless i physically developed myself to counter the stress and b.@ passer_byi would like to second the observation that you are a quite a lovely negro. you are assuming that it is, or at least that is not bad merely that “it is. ”don’t forget the guy you canned for being dumb enough to fail your shit test and stay up all night doing whatever it was (or maybe that was junior high). the closer you try to push them together, the stronger the poles need to push away.@tedd:“so don’t feel like you’re the only fucked up guy around these parts. and a woman deserves to have a husband who sees her as a hot, younger chick, and not someone who he may want to “trade in”. sure not getting attention from the people you like is a universal problem, not just first world.”then all relationships would end, as soon as you eventually ran into someone hotter, by design or accident. the difference is, while you seem to concentrate on the “little things” that can be changed quickly to push things in the right direction, i’m more likely to say the whole thing is broke, should be scrapped, and started overi would love to see you formulate a strategy for that!’t you ever seen the end of the disney beauty & the beast?)the thing with prudish girls and asexual girls and girls who want nothing but to never see you again is that they’re all exactly the same. we definitely still have that spark, which people say is supposed to disappear after a few years, especially after you have a baby. brown griggsexperttom burnseditorvideophoto: unsplash when you’re really in love, your brain does this (who knew? like the majority of young adults today, they are seeking a `soul mate.. “pretty”, insofar that she seems feminine enough, and she’s cute, and probably the type that a lot of college guys today would love to find but can’t. you missed our wild days and we're settled down now. so at 40, he is most likely to get interest from women 30 and older. in market terms you want to buy when the price is low, and when your own purchasing power is the highest. yet, despite the fact that the ancient hebrews succeeded in a scenario that most guys can only fantasize about while playing wow, there is so much anti-semitism in the ‘sphere. for fun sounds very much like using other people for your entertainment.”fwiw i don’t see the 8 years between my wife and i as any kind of problem at all, and at this point i could easily see 10 years being a non-issue.”when, in reality, if you asked them for tangible proof of accomplishment, there is nothing to show for it..jackie nails it when she says of you:“yet, so many of your posts are crabbing about how bad things are. in years that may not be much, but in terms of relative status, social circles, etc.” imagine that you are dating a woman and have been for two years. id much rather date a guy 24-28 (upper limit 30) who is working on getting himself established than find and old(er) man that is already there. women, as an evolutionary rule, did not mate with older men with status and resources, and stuck to hard and fast age limits as women have described in this thread, then the drive of men to secure such resources beyond the minimum amount to attain a wife in their physical attractiveness bracket would have been bred out long ago.’m going to continue to agree to disagree – i don’t think you can prohibit that. obviously, you can’t know a person’s life story from what they put on the internet. then, here is my question for you americans: isn’t just befriending someone from the opposite sex (that is, making a friend band which goes together to social events, everyone pays for each other, no romance implied) considered weird in usa nowadays?(you may have noticed that if i don’t understand something is bothers the hell out of me).?@ted dgetting to know someone may take different amounts of time depending on what you need to know.’d truly love to get into this with you, but i don’t know if here is the right place, and i do enough derailing as it is. you learn a great deal more about a person after you take the relationship to the next level.”response to your claim that an ltr ends the second someone better comes along. you’re getting a lot of input from men in their 40s here.. i do doubt though that, were i a healthy and fit 70 year old, that i’d want to take on the health problems of an 80 year old guy. my strategy worked for me, and i ended up with an older version of cooper. he was not handsome as a young man, nor was holly pretty as a young woman. you don’t even allow the small talk with the woman at work. your relationship choices on what “may” happen given a medium to large age gap is still just speculation. agree that there is also the question of what you talk about when you’re a generation apart, but i get the sense that most couples with that big an age difference have different incentives driving them. but those women who do like the older guys with authority seem to really really like them. older the guys you are looking at, the more the chance than #1 will happen. although the number of women who have committed sati since that date likely does not exceed forty (with thirty in rajasthan alone), an infinitesimal percentage of the female population, the reactivation of the practice has had considerable social and political impact, especially in the case of the “deorala affair”—the burning of a young rajput widow named rup kanwar in rajasthan in september 1987. one is the “don’t sleep with him until you’re dating”. two things together for 40 years then try and pull them apart. have you ever tried out some of my suggestions with men? did better as i aged – older guys valued my looks more than younger guys did. as your friend’s buddy, your job is to help him get laid (or get the girl, whichever). if she isn’t gaining traction dating those men, it is also gets received by early-twenty girls (whom don’t have any problems receiving attention for older men) that they need not even concern themselves with men their age.”i can’t speak for the other guys, but i’ve never “dumped” a woman in my entire life. read a nyt piece on her and it talked about her youtube video she had of her in a bikini when she was 21 and described her “ample” thighs and “generous” belly. 23-24, i’m 2-3 years older than you depending on the time of year. but, if you’re interesting in generating a real connection with someone (by that, i mean more than lust! the difference is, while you seem to concentrate on the “little things” that can be changed quickly to push things in the right direction, i’m more likely to say the whole thing is broke, should be scrapped, and started over. bf and i own the game now, but we don’t get to play much, since you need three people and all. because christianity has one standard and it has been this way for hundreds and hundreds of years! if i was friends with charles manson, and a girl who he was hitting on asked me what he was like, i’d tell her he was a fantastic, balanced, sane guy. apparently what we think of an ltr is a “mini-marriage” where you pledge fidelity indefinitely, and perhaps have some major deal-breakers like “cheating”, where you break up. it’s clear that you have fallen hook, line and sinker for one another. he's confident and can teach you a thing or two with his advice. dating is a way of learning more about someone, and it’s going to make you like them more or less. granted, a month later he turned 25, but he was wiser, more eloquent and more mature in the spiritual/emotional sense than even many men who have years on him. if you know you’ll be moving in 4 years, does it matter if your mate will as well? with age: 10 pros and cons of dating an older man., here’s the question: you just found out that she is pregnant with his baby and she is due about 9 months after he proposed…basically, they started fucking like bunnies, without protection, right after he proposed. there’s a strong correlation between whether a woman is interested in temporary-ltrs or marriage and whether she goes after guys her age or older guys. and, if you can, look for at least one good quality in each person you talk to. his point was that was that some people just have that intellectual intuition, which others don’t (which is essentially the same as yours, i think)., several times when i have asked you what actions you will take as a result of convos here, you have never replied, as far as i can see.@deti“you are all missing the point that i have made five times already.’t help you (which i doubt you need) but it will be less likely to happen to some other kid in 5 years.:i think there may be a point underlying what you are saying, but you are making it poorly, imo.’m whatever happens when you inflict spiritual experiences on someone who is effectively a materialist. because she was a good friend you knew some details about her sex life, like that they used condoms as their protection.

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men that are attractive to young women past 40 take care of themselves, age well, are successful, confident and wealthy. i wore a lil’ smirk, held the flower in front of me, cocked my a head a bit, and said “just so you know, no hard feelings about the parking spot.@ escoffierso, wait, as a pua does she go out and pick up guys? the grocery store yesterday, in a 40 minute timeframe, i had 5 guys come up to me and start talking. had just broken up with my so, and this group of 20-something guys acted like, well, high schoolers, when they saw me noticing this girl. feel like i shouldn’t even be thinking about this still, since it was 3 weeks ago, but because the rest of guys i meet are such cads, these two seemed like winners. she may be viewing him through the prudish lens, but guys here have certainly criticized women for being slutty and viewed women via a prudish lens. but more often than not, it appears that women take much longer than high school to mature, especially since today’s young women no longer have the guidance of their parents. there was the guy (and his son) who came out gay and broke up the family. you are most certainly not the man i recommend, lol. you see if you like each other over a few weeks, months, whatever. i wasn’t when i met my husband, so i knew how to be sensual/sexy/seductive, but if a girl is not experienced — which some guys say they want — then how should she know?@ljbut if you look at more than just raw numbers i think guys in their 30′s have a better “selection” than men in their 40′s and certainly 50′s especially if you’re a guy who is not interested in being a step-dad and would prefer to be with a never-married/no kids woman. i have your blessing – thanks mate…i’ll let you know how i get on. completely understand that you did not like getting hit on by these fathers, but i am still trying to understand something. really don’t want to enumerate what’s wrong with the older holly, adding insult to already grievous injury, but since you brought up her becoming heavier with age. i would say get comfortable first, get intellectually and emotionally close, and then see how sensual you can get. like the guy i mentioned yesterday, who told me about the constellations and then kissed me. i know you are used to pushing back on woman haters and their ilk, but *i* am not one of them, and i don’t think most of the guys here are either. i’ve divided qualities determining male attractiveness into 3 groups:physical qualities: sexual maturity and potency, physical maturity, health and fitness level, probability of surviving through critical years of childraisingpsychological qualities: self-confidence, charm, mental sharpnessability to support a family materially: income, financial independence, social status and standing, capacity for work, ability to focus on productive activity“attractiveness” shall be defined as the sum of these three qualities. as much as i dislike our government, indeed you are correct the “we the people” ultimately get screwed when the fed loses to jp., because once you make a lifelong commitment, you exit the market and stop shopping.””(dawn’s desires at thirty should not be thought of as “settling”…the author makes her sexual desire for her older & more stable new love interest just about as clear as one could get away with in 1911 in a mainstream novel)the beneficial aspects of raising the “marriageable age” for women don’t seem to have transpired as projected, though….“he’s a member of your tribe, she’s not. if you don’t but you keep going because it’s fun for now or having a bf/gf is nice or whatever, you are using that person. and quite possiblely for many years, too, just like my grandmother. i was reacting to the idea that us old guys have delusions of wrangling up some super young virginal bride. best advice is to try online, (broadens your pool beyond just who you happen to run into), avoid clubs (focus on bars and lounges) and hope for the best.”well i’ve been doing it for 42 years, but i am certainly willing to entertain the idea that it isn’t the best method., other than the part about moving solely based on job location (i think you must give real thought to family location etc. many guys in their early 20s are not ready, but some clearly are – intj and cooper are two great examples.. never, ever trust what a guy’s friends tell you about the guy. but, it's not all good things, as there’s also talk about their “bizarre” age gap: him 53, her 36.”welcome to how most 19 and 20 year old guys felt when you were that age and on top of the world. the important thing is how you two feel about one another and the good times you share. their same-age male peers are potentially more interested in relationships, now that they’re the younguns again (which means fewer options). we tell each other “i miss you” when we’re at work a lot, too, even though we see each other every day. i mean obviously there is the dating game before you get to this point, but i think i can feel out a “cozy” person right away.: but not if a woman like that is hanging out with an alpha crowd of guys like zach and his pals! i’m just encouraging women to broaden the net and not be suspicious of men a bit older, who have some advantages.? i was a younger and more impatient j then, and the constant persistence from a sweaty old guy in a polyester shirt was…. in addition, you had a very serious relationship end after years of being together.’m often angry enough about my own level of non-success (as measured against dink co-physician 0,000 couples and other high earners)., to reiterate, i am not suggesting that women stop dating guys their own age. if you make sure that a group never gets a mainstream outlet, then they are guaranteed to be portrayed as fringe elements. – “well, reading about you being perceived as emotionless in most settings but being quite romantic at heart hits home to me. if a 21 year old woman wants to hitch her wagon to a 60yo mans truck, i have no issue with it at all. do you know how lucky you are to have found someone so great at the age of 17? i recall, you are seeking a partner who is intellectual, a curious and engaging conversationalist. the less other people dictate any part of your happiness, the more they will want to be a part of your life. us on facebook if you 'like' us, we'll love you! your youth and beauty may get you the date, but they won’t suffice for the real deal. you are 40, affluent and attractive, with no kids from a prior marriage, you should do quite well with women mid-20s and up., since moving from the nyc area i get to the gym 4-5 times a week (sometimes 6 if i am adding in cardio). are you really saying zero men and women followed a purely serial strategy? you want long-term, you’re going to need to learn to drop the expectation of sex by the third date. that beer when i get in-country…cheers and likewise for you ‘n’ hubby. you are only getting the smallest taste of what women are getting, re: criticism regarding physical appearance.@pvwsusan, why would they feel off limits to the restricted guys? they breeze in, charm a couple of young pretty ones, have their buddies keep it spinning while they work the room, assess their probabilities, and then either close a deal or ripcord.@tedd:“jp – man, if i had a million dollars i wouldn’t be on here, but if you think you can get blood from a turnip, knock yourself out. and on the flipside, why spend more time than the hours of 11 pm to 9 am with a girl who isn’t going to sleep with you? was saying that you have a pretty big battle to fight if you want to correct these misapprehensions.”they seem to have taken something you wrote to suggest that every person in a non-marital ltr is in constant “trade up at the first opportunity” mode. despite not being religious anymore, you and i have far more in common with folks like jackie, than susan or sassy. can’t tell you how many people referred to me as “gringa” in a complimentary way when i studied in mexico. have you ever fallen in love before sleeping with someone? it goes strictly against deti’s lectures last week – perhaps you didn’t agree with him about a woman following her husband and putting his career first? of course ignoring all the non-bad boys till your 30 is also ridiculously stupid. 😉susan – “if my husband told me he was going to miss me at work, i’d be alarmed”don’t take this the wrong way, but that statement made me feel very sad for you.@ susan walshsounds like the guy i mentioned yesterday, who told me about the constellations and then kissed me.’d figure bringing out that side of her is something most restricted guys would want, but who knows maybe i’m wrong. why are these two still together after 2 years if they haven’t even discussed getting engaged? 🙁could you explain this:“besides, i was always more of an old testament kinda guy. a million years i never would have thought of those terms. for the girls here saying they’d never date older guys because of this and that. you can't teach an old dog not to eat a bag of potato chips right before bed, as they say. every time there is an “end of men” article written by either a male or female they refer to guys gaming in the basement and refusing to grow up.., nice stable providers) after the young women are done giving the best of themselves to the hot fuck material is a grave insult.@tedted, i’m going to keep being mean and picking on you! a certain point (pre-marrriage) loyalty is owed to the person your with. nice guys usually don’t sell themselves as “nice guys. but it makes sense that a younger woman may have a more flexible and expansive set of “something else” needs/desires than those of a woman of equal age and so many men target accordingly.@bastiat bloggeri’m going to go against the grain here and recommend the carousel (moderate, carousel-lite version: n<3 rides per year/heavy emphasis on high-smv men/no more than 4 years of active operations) for charlotte.@susanfigured i’d give you an update on that (what i’m looking for). i almost feel like you avoid that kind of stuff. if i didn’t have kids, i’d have left years ago. my opinion of that is: “screw the investors” who is more important, them or you?@susan“would you want a woman to marry you because she’d been in an ltr with you, even though her attraction for you had begun to wane in recent months, and a handsome guy at work was tempting her with regular invitations?, girls who want to get married off in the near future should probably focus on older guys (late 20s-early 30s). you can’t dodge this by redefining it to be college-educated only, unless you want to admit that you never talk to men without college. now, i assure you that i am not “nature’s greatest miracle” like tom, and i was much better looking and in better shape in my twenties and thirties than i was in my forties after i had to stop playing basketball 2 or 3 times a week. and here you are running them down, essentially telling them they are physically repulsive. 😉“i assure you that i can put many evangelical preachers to shame when it comes to fiery speeches about sin, evil, and eternal damnation, and i’m not all that invested in the religious aspects at all., the gyst of what you were saying at dalrock’s was that they should be shamed for wronging and damaging these women who they go through, as if the women have no independent agency or responsiblity for themselves., every guy who has ever fallen for me has gone crazy for the feistiness, convinced that it signals a high sex drive.”at what point did you realize that you had woven the perfect web of intrigue with which to catch and trap this poor unsuspecting chap? you have a lot to offer, you just need to understand your target market (it’s not 25 year old men! yeah, it will definitely help intj if he does the “talk to a girl every day” strategy, at least imhoi always tell scared guys to start talking to everyone (minus children). i’m curious because i personally don’t know many (or any) guys that are overly emotional like you’ve described- it would seem intuitive that most men would be overly guarded about their emotions (and yes, i may be biased because that is how i am). well, during that time she started dating a guy that was older than she was (i don’t remember how much, but definitely older).……………………………………………………i went to my favorite bar over the weekend, and this guy started chatting me up. because once you pull that trigger, it’s not like you can go back and decide to start taking hang-gliding up as a hobby. there is no way you can discern that without dating them first.“and yet, despite the fact that the ancient hebrews succeeded in a scenario that most guys can only fantasize about while playing wow, there is so much anti-semitism in the ‘sphere.: “should you stay with your girlfriend, and marry her, hoping such a thing never happens again? otherwise, you’re living a lie and robbing me of a real opportunity to marry someone who loves me the way you now love the other woman., i don’t consider myself an intellectual, but i will say that restricted chicks are operating on a whole different wavelength than you’ve been accustomed to. point was that you were always going to run into people who you thought would make a better match than your husband and that it was just a feature of life. i’m sure you’ll be a great mother if you decide to have kids..that may be pretty descriptive of the greek scene, but outside that scene i don’t think most girls date two guys and have have some romantic contact with two others in three weeks. heck, i think i’ve made out with 6 guys in my life and slept with 1. should any woman in a similar situation assume the guy is gonna go and do a pschyo-analysis about the time you cut your barbies hair off when you were 4 and its deeply troubled you which has rendered you asexual until the girlfriend label is introduced. you might have a more rewarding discussion with people who are interested in and enjoy discussion the same topics as you. think you’re incorrect about that…i actually watch the mindy project (and bf likes it too! this post i wanted to advise women to consider more men, and to deflate the prejudice against single guys in their 30s, which is hypocritical and unreasonable.: game of thrones and older womenmy boyfriend thinks that cersei lannister is the hottest got female., wadr, i do not think you have a good sense of smp dynamics for young women. just if low interest, not serious, are what a girl is looking for, they’re more likely to attract guys looking for sex, than guys looking for serious. i work in a female-dominated company (cosmetics), and a lot of us girls working have the same complaints about the guys in ny. but that’s the sort of backlash that happens when you indiscriminately oppress people. you may have to wait a couple of years for your smv to increase. but the problem for the woman you know is that the guy wasn’t genuinely in love with her. others don’t even say “i love you” vocally (my parents) and that also works for them. you can feel it– the love shines out from them like a diamond. she’s throwing gasoline on that fire by breaking bad on a guy like ron perelman because he’s unattractive. i’m almost 26, and i have little interest in dating a 22 yo girl 6 months out of college. but then whatever game they were running (assuming as much) it has piqued your interest and has you on your heels a bit which is kind of the point of it i guess. as a young woman in her 20s and early 30s she was sexy as hell. and your dad having a stroke early too – that must have been so very difficult. you’ve done so well for yourself and your family though. so, this related to those girls, unless you are claiming they were totally celibate during their extended bad boy phase.@olive:” it’s not that a girl would necessarily be disgusted by an unrestricted guy’s past, but perhaps she would not be comfortable moving as quickly as other girls had been, and that would turn the guy off, or make him think she was weird. that its more based on routine, boredom and actually caring about the other person and not the kicks you get being around them. the players will walk away because of lack of sex, and the other guys will walk away because of your lack of seriousness.” norms vary by culture, but the french came up with the rule that a man should divide his age in half and add seven to get the youngest appropriate age he might date. of you seem to think i will get guys to take me on dates for a free meal or two, and ditch then when they start liking me. longing, try literal stone cold self-loathing as you ask her to stop touching you.@ susanthe good news is that most women are not looking at older guys – as i said in the op i have witnessed real resistance to this. “the thing with prudish girls and asexual girls and girls who want nothing but to never see you again is that they’re all exactly the same. “here,” she said, “it’s not mine, but it’s the number of someone who looks like me that you might have some things in common with. i literally folded in defeat at the sigh tof his comforting the kid and said “as pissed as i am at you right now, you’re still jaysson’s father. you’re a good guy for reaching out to him., the other guy i knew in the peace corp went to south/latin america and loved it. it’s rather like music: it’s not something you just go to school for four years and master. stop paying your mortgage, amass as much money as you can, and leave.@jackie“i am surprised that sw’s bf or sassy’s suitors did not call you out for a duel! and she sort of explicitly plans to have 2 or 3 of those, but “you never know”. to a parent like that, you are an angel temporarily disguised in human form., it gives you a ton of power over the teachers. that’s very different, once your career is established in a particular area, and you might have to take a big career hit, if she wants to make a big move in order to advance.@passer bynot to beat a dead horse, it’s just that her sexuality was most valued when she gave it to the bum, and now she wants the most valuable period of the responsible guy’s life. a guy like ron perelman, whom i would regard as average looking for his age, will always have options that a less wealthy man will not. you should at least give her chance before breaking up, imo. or should you end your relationship and explore a relationship with the woman at work?)still struggling with the concept of sensuality but i realized that it may be just as important as femininity when a bunch of hus guys started talking about it on a thread a couple of months ago. you can either take some time and see if her defensive walls come down, or you can admit failure and try again with someone else. wasn’t talking about offending you – i know that’s damn near impossible. don’t feel like you’re the only fucked up guy around these parts.

The secret of a happy marriage? find a man 5 years older who

when we see a guy in his 30s, we assume he could obviously be married right now if he wanted, so he must be choosing to play the field indefinitely. you agree that the chances he will succeed with them are slim, because, well, this does not matter what he thinks he is and indeed it does not matter whether he indeed is more valuable when he was 28, because he won’t get much chances to show that to girls in the range he desires? if i’m your girlfriend, i want you to end it with me. changing your environment will at least get you out of the environment where you thought it was hopeless. funny thing was that i went to the bathroom while i was in the young woman’s bathroom and she was telling her mother how she had kicked the guy out because he had never payed for anything, lol. ”i thought a point of life was to avoid romantic trauma, meaning that you marry the person you fall in love with.@swone guy told me to take off my clothes, and i promptly went to the bathroom and changed into my pjs, lol!”don’t the emails contain a link to manage your subscription?@saywhaatsusan, do you still think east coast guys are better prospects? the problem for us guys is how to distinguish the charlottes from all the women who’re seeking susan-style ltrs.. lokland is right, he’s probably not that into you. if a significant number of women around 20-25 are going for older men it stands to reason that many young men are keeping company with rosy palm and her five hairy friends (high school girls being off limits and all that). i think you are missing is that many guys want a few relationships before they marry as well. do i send the bill for my professional diagnosis as to why your ‘recent comments’ links don’t work? 21 is just too young to be that serious, i think (really 21?@ deti – you need to read this rational male post:@le bieli never thought i’d be happy to link to rollo, but that post on desire is excellent. you have to try different people on until you find one that is a great match. she may turn out to be a wildcat once you clear her filters for comfort and intimacy”zac, i was just going to say something similar. speaking as someone who fell hard for a guy, only to discover later that he lied about me giving him a blowjob at a party, no, i don’t think it’s fucking immature to wonder how a guy might act once you’re out of sight. seem to have taken something you wrote to suggest that every person in a non-marital ltr is in constant “trade up at the first opportunity” mode., you don’t have to know from the start, but you should be able to tell very quickly. it’s weird that you guys are projecting immaturity onto her.: i dont think of you as a thin, sexy woman. she has a great sense of humor – you click from day one and thoroughly enjoy working together. – “it’s clear from your commentary that you want women to be very restricted, in behavior, attitude and desire. i can’t wait for you to meet him (not associating you with him, i just like him). younger woman, older man thing will always raise brows from both sexes due to jealousy. he’s a member of your tribe, she’s not. i could go younger than that, five years seems fine but ten seems like a stretch. in other words, your loss of libido is perfectly timed to coincide with your brand new lard-ass physique and moody attitude. you have the advantage of already knowing women this age – they are in your social circle. you’re a hot young woman who can’t make rent in a studio apartment and puts a premium on having clothes, shoes, expensive purses, and travel to exotic locales, sleeping with ron perelman probably looks like a dream scenario. but yeah, nyc is full of rats so watch your step 🙂.@saywhaat“sorry, i didn’t realize it wasn’t possible for me to not get hurt after a guy suddenly stops responding to my texts after we’d been dating for a month, with no regard to my feelings”we’re talking about different things.  the downsides to dating an older guy there are some tradeoffs in dating a guy quite a bit older than yourself: i. sometimes people want a little space or it’s too hot to cuddle, but you still want to know the other person is there. look everywhere, find a job, and go there with your mate. now the question is, where to meet these good guys? was trying to be funny based on the fact that this expisode was clearly unintentional and handled well on your part. she has a reputation of being hard to get and assumes that other guys will ask how far he got with her. think you’ll like the new post i just put up! you are a weirdo like me, you can make it a game and give yourself points. is the scene:monica: but you broke up with jennifer when she got fat. she actually began to avoid venues that were at all upscale, but she said that even sports bars had middle aged men hitting on really young women. however, we had those shameful traditions more than thousand years ago – it’s shocking to learn that there are countries were last such practices were just what, 25 years ago? if you aren’t where you need to be to get what you want, make a plan and get there. haven’t spoken to a single young man in the last four years who wants to marry before his late 20s at the earliest.: my college gf, her heart definitely got broken even though by the terms of this system which you praise as fine and just neither of us did anything wrong. the popularization of second wave feminism, with the accompanying view that a woman’s virginity was her own to dispose of, removed those laws from the books, but i would bet that someone on this thread will characterize the criminal prosecution of the man in your link as “feminist. you want to know why, and she tells you that it’s just too hard., forgive me if i misinterpreted what you said, but you seemed to say that since customes and mores are observably variable across cultures, that proves that there is no truth or right. you won’t motivate adult players not to get ‘tang. 😛but i would agree that a ltr is several years. is it that the fraternity guys they socialize with are primarily unrestricted and so the restricted guys are on the outside? however, you aren’t entitled to either one, no woman owes you either one.@ bullymaybe i should be flattered that you mistook me for rollo.“but a guy in his 40′s shooting for a 22yo woman is a pervert, and let’s not even talk about those 50+ guys! are you, and what did you do with susan walsh? but i’m not meeting the guys i want to meet. you can feel it– the love shines out from them like a diamond. i assure you that i can put many evangelical preachers to shame when it comes to fiery speeches about sin, evil, and eternal damnation, and i’m not all that invested in the religious aspects at all.”your 23-24, i’m 2-3 years older than you depending on the time of year. 🙂@ intj:that reminds me, i’ve been meaning to ask…how exactly is your goal to get a girlfriend coming along? 🙂though i do hope zach nexts her and lets a restricted guy who will actually appreciate her have her. you can see, men tend to focus on the youngest most fertile womenfixed that for you. even so hubby doesn’t has diabetes his family doesn’t develop it for some reason probably lifestyle choices and i won’t get it till i’m in my 60’s or if i become overweight, the kid was not born with it so this is something he will need to be careful but is not damning. all your hundreds of comments– which i can tell you put tons of time and thought! i mean, what character on shows do you think should get dumped for their weight? at that point, she had said he was so nice and funny (he really was a cool guy) but i had no idea if she was interested in him romantically.. is a girl more important that the things you are passionate about? well, the nice guy that she was dating, who was older, simply said that she could stay with him and not work if her job was getting to her. remember that zach is not like you in that he considers girls he dates to be ltr-worthy off the bat., i think you should go to a speed dating event and tell every guy that you want to married within the next year and don’t want to waste time if that’s not going to happen, so that’s why you are interviewing a lot of guys. share your distaste of the sexualisation of youth, but again it’s a global / western (? most girls are sick of the bar scene, have not met any actual nice guys, and think, “i’ll try online dating”. haven’t you ever enjoyed just holding hands with a person? i’m sure you are happy to be alive regardless of your disadvantages your kids will be happy too i can assure you. one says: “i hate it when they say they miss you! there is a lot of socialization against those types of relationships, which may explain why a lot of women find the older guy unappealing, or maybe they just aren’t wired that way. regardless of your stance on this matter the last line is wisdom that’s pretty hard to ignore. i actually think it had the opposite effect though, because i read some of his other posts and heard “all you can have is xyz, quick bullet now or slow starvation later. once the flame is gone, girls will break up with guys without much concern over their feelings. quick note, in case your friend ever mentions suicide again: generally, there should be cause for alarm if someone indicates intentions of a plan., i promise you that i have never once on this site posted how i truly and honestly feel without some major pre-filtering.) it gets far easier to ignore the unrestricted crowd when you don’t have to hear them every night. i feel like on old cartoons when a guy feels like a jerk and his head turns into a big heel or a donkey. she’s gorgeous, and goes on maybe 4-5 dates a week, often with different guys (80% from online). i’m having a hard time seeing why you’d accuse me of trapping this man.. if by average, you mean the mean bmi of the american male, perhaps that is obese, idk., and at the end of the event the guys would say, “that chick was psycho! but, if you are more radical, or “pure”, you will focus mroe of your attention on more marxist websites and ‘zines, like pandagon or mother jones.” you know how it goes: the more manic you are, the more you don’t need to sleep, and the more manic you become. i wouldn’t mind “i can’t stop thinking about you!)or imagine her (and your kids) finding hus on the computer with your login info clear and easy to read. hope, you are quite the analyzer of human nature, in my opinion. i have often recommended that women date 5 years up, and consider 10. then in turn your unwillingness to be in a relationship will drive away the relationship-oriented guys. i think it’s very problematic that young people today go about 17 years between puberty and marriage. but i’m very introverted, whereas you, susan, zach and several others here who say dating is fun are obviously extroverts!’t take this the wrong way, but that statement made me feel very sad for you. that’s the bitter part for me, because had i known, not only would i have had more success with women in general (if i wanted it regardless) but i’d have been a much happier young man since i could have just been myself. i’ve gone to several charity balls (filled with arrogant men), volunteered all over and continue to do so (met some lovely gay guys who have become good friends), and i haven’t joined one of those intramural sports teams, but my coworkers that have had no luck meeting anyone.., established emotional connection between you) before she’s into being physical.@susan“the only guy who liked me was the drug addict who thought i was wholesome enough to save him. of you seem to think i will get guys to take me on dates for a free meal or two, and ditch then when they start liking me. the question and the crux of the story line is what direction the alpha guy protagonist will take. too may as well go and do what you want. you see if you like each other over a few weeks, months, whatever.@david foster(dawn’s desires at thirty should not be thought of as “settling”…the author makes her sexual desire for her older & more stable new love interest just about as clear as one could get away with in 1911 in a mainstream novel)that’s a very interesting excerpt!”not being a smart ass, but why do you believe this to be true? you’re just starting to date, you have every right to check out the merchandise and shop around.@gayatriif a woman needs resources to raise a child she well might look for older men, though. so, engaging pretty girls will have little, or less, affect on you.’the inability to maintain this state will result in being placed in the slut latter or being ignored completely cause you aren’t willing to climb the damn ladder. many of them, especially the ltr-oriented, are likely to interpret your initial interest as a positve sign for their own suit only to find you pull back later when you perceive them as getting “too serious. i’m not sure if you are speaking of your own background or of religion in general. to how most 19 and 20 year old guys felt when you were that age and on top of the world. now, if you couple that with the fact that she might have just been making a joke about him telling his friends (i. didn’t say it was a goal, she said it under the heading of “you never know. howard marshall (born 1905), rupert murdoch (born 1931) and wendy deng (born 1968). though, any suggestions on where to meet guys specifically in new york? in the 3 years we’ve been together, he got an apartment, graduated, got a good job, signed for the mortgage on the house, and became a father. think you know it when you are with someone you can see as your lifelong mate, and i believe in that intuition. there’s a difference between being a good person or good friend and a good father for your future children., surely, you must understand that it’s weird that she thinks he would brag to his friends (who she barely knows) about taking her top off. i’ve visited one or two of the most popular man-blogs and i quickly left after seeing a bunch of guys who claimed to be in their 80’s brag about moving to the phillipines, mexico, and the rural areas of china for ”real women.– and i could be totally mistaken here, please correct me if i’m wrong– but you read to me as a very “bottom line” kind of person. this burning of widows is your custom; prepare the funeral pile. i don’t blame you for being completely turned off, it sounds like she is not in touch with her own sexuality at all., if you don’t want to take on the hat and bullwhip, you could be the jason bourne of hus. – “you did it in your personal life, so how about doing it here? is it that the fraternity guys they socialize with are primarily unrestricted and so the restricted guys are on the outside? ”i’ll redeem it for you, and say i have. i was about your age when i first got married and the births of my sons bracketed my 40th birthday.“my guess is that female fantasies about pinning you to the wall and exhausting you were occurring with rapid fire frequency.”this i agree with, if you’re limiting your comments to ron perelman.“if you want i can do it, i bet it would be just as long and rant-like as the stuff i post about women., kathy, did you come here just to demand explanations of me which you have no right to demand in the first place, or are you here to continue your vendetta against that certain christian blogger who repeatedly called you out on your silly claims and finally had had enough of you? if that isn’t incentive to get married before you turn 40, we don’t know what is. on the other hand, i have a great uncle, also with type i diabetes and he’s now 80 years old! is more risk for the older woman beyond 30 to show any waffling. i get the feeling that he’s gone soft with age, but he looks better than most 60 year olds. are you really saying zero men and women followed a purely serial strategy? i think many guys employ the same reasoning as i do in dating, that they will go out casually, meet new people, and at the chance they find someone whom they connect with, possibly start a relationship when they feel it is right. is fun to think about, but if i chalked up my entire relationship to fate, i’d have to devalue the challenge of two years of long distance, the semester abroad with limited contact, the family controversy from last year, and my manic episode/subsequent hospitalization and grad school dropout. it is rare that a guy doesn’t ever get back to you with good reason. however, i suspect the single guys in their late 40s and 50s should have no problem getting single women in their 30s. some guys didn’t seem to like it but tons of girls thought he was hot, regardless. think this is not uncommon with artistic types – and this guy did go on to make his living acting and singing. it’s understandable that female intrasexual competition will intensify if younger women put the older guys in play. women’s preferences shift more towards dads than cads as they get older (and incidently less attractive)? so much in the ‘i miss you and can’t wait to see you tonight’ kinda way.@escoffier“well, passer-by, if you want to have that argument all over again . you can feel it– the love shines out from them like a diamond. my reply is, okay, so what tangible results do you have to show for your efforts? google fool-saint if you don’t know what i mean. i was rather in awe of the man in that picture, but somehow over the years i completely forgot about it, until just this week., call me a crazy person, but i do think that if there was the right “vibe” with a ltr guy, i would be totally open to it and change my non-clingy ways a bit.@feelistyour gramps, god love him, is an outlier, but, what the hell, good for him!

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think about it; the women in their 60s as a whole don’t look all that great, forget the ones in their 70s. you ever read the novel _memoir of a geisha_ or the memoir of mineko iwasaki? guys are always on about how women need to value their sexuality.@susan:“obviously, you are the exact opposite of zach, as conversation and compatibility appears not to interest you. a side note, 30 y/o guys who have their shit together and who are not dbags and who are as charming as you claim this guy was don’t need guys to wing for each other that hard. you know how it goes: the more manic you are, the more you don’t need to sleep, and the more manic you become. what’s the difference between what you’ve been reading and the beta provider bait and switch gambit? the older the man is, the less the maxim holds imo. if you don’t put up a picture your profile will basically be invisible and you can kind of be “incognito” and look to see if there are any guys who look like they’d be worth meeting — and if so, then put in the effort to put up pictures and fill out the essays. specifically, what you are seeking and what you hope to gain.“you’re not explaining why she looks at sex through the prism of a 7th grader. susan just said, “you can’t force someone to love you, and you can’t force someone to stay with you.@susan“of course, but i’m afraid you’re shooting the messenger. for us, the west demonized fat and fatty foods and pork, at least in america, has been bread over the last 40 years to be leaner and leaner. this is all of course assuming i could attact a significantly younger woman, which is not a given.“as someone else said, guys don’t have a medium between booty call and girlfriend.@jp“i think that you’ve promised them that you are going to rip out their heart at some point. have a question, mainly for the girls, that is completely off topic:let’s say you had a friend who was dating a great guy for a good while and found out that he just asked her to marry him and she accepted and she was really excited by it. why would cooper or intj want to invest their time and emotions in you? but you have never felt this degree of longing before, for any woman. ”well, your and my version of overweight probably differed from his. are assigned to work with someone from another division of your company on a group project. that young men are right to slum-it-up in their twenties playing video-games, then wreck havoc on the smp when they get their turn to., i have mentioned this before, which means that you may have already answered it, but, i can only remember hearing that 1/2 * man’s age + 7 rule once when i was a child, and i remember it was from someone who was laughing about it (oh, isn’t that awful…that kind of thing). still get the common response from my friends: “he's too old for you!@intjit is not true that to treat female depression “you just have to be a good listener. is it that younger women started to question your views?@ted d“you see, i and many men i know never went through that “bleach blonde” phase, so although i understand the stereotype you were shooting for, it is only because i’ve seen it in popular culture.@rolloyour smv graphs bear an uncanny resemblance to another smv graph:i beg to differ, they look nothing alike!: “would you say, then, that men can express disgust at fat and ugly women, but women cannot ever do so about men?@ saywhaatthat reminds me, i’ve been meaning to ask…how exactly is your goal to get a girlfriend coming along? this isn't our first time at the vagina rodeo, if you know what i mean.@rambleif you haven’t yet had the pleasure…why we shit test. more i look at that picture, the more convinced i am that cigstache is a fat guy with manboobs and rocker hair that he put in pigtails for halloween. i guarantee you that if you use it irl you will either get laid…. one of the 23 year old women i know dating a guy ten years older thought he was 26 or so when they met. what’s the difference between what you’ve been reading and the beta provider bait and switch gambit? better to marry someone closer in age, because chances are that you will end up spending more time together with the one that you love. is not true that to treat female depression “you just have to be a good listener. i simply got to the point where i knew what i was looking for and screened for it… and she happened to be twelve years younger, level-headed, feminine (not feminist! the problem for us guys is how to distinguish the charlottes from all the women who’re seeking susan-style ltrswtf, lol. in many cases, that precipitous drop-off has to do with a natural decrease in testosterone, the male sex hormone that allows you to sustain an erection, ejaculate and have an orgasm. published four hundred years ago in madrid, the book was an immediate success and recognised as one of the classic texts of western literature, revered by writers such as sterne, goethe, flaubert, dostoevsky, kafka and melville. for fun sounds very much like using other people for your entertainment.: “i haven’t spoken to a single young man in the last four years who wants to marry before his late 20s at the earliest.”i’m sorry deti, but i really think you’ve gone off the rails here. the rule of half your age +7 the question of age difference for mating can be a controversial one. 😉but srsly, this was a relationship that developed over a period of about 7 years, and he was a mentor to me. what about a white girl saying, you are such a hot black guy? yet most of them don’t want 10 years of onss either, frequent or occasional. i think it’s fair to say that any woman who marries you in future is a fool.. that link describes the epic shit test she gave that you keep asking about.@susanare you really missing the point on why guys go on dates?@passerby“well, you’ve managed to royally piss off the mras, puas, internet feminazis, and reddit mangina dorks. the upshot is women leave college at their peak smv but men still have five more grueling years of proving themselves before they even approach theirs. because his company wants him to do a gig in london for 2-4 years, and you have no idea how the hell you would ever get a job in london. forgive yourself and realize it is not your fault you don’t have a future or life didn’t turn out the way you hoped it would.”m going to go out on a limb and say that charlotte is merely reflecting the conditioning of young people to deny interest in or investment in relationships. comments like hers implicitly tell the manosphere “yes, you’re right.: “i do think that women dating guys in their 30s need to be very careful to make sure this is not the case – he should have a history of ltrs rather than strictly strs…”i agree. you know how i am about being around people and being noticed. (this is not a typical swimsuit choice in boston unless you are at the pool to swim laps. every year older a man is past a certain age (his physical peak of 28? remember when i was of college age and i listened to other young women talk about the sororities they were interested in and the fraternities associated with them, ie. accepting your faults one thing, but refusing to improve another. sure, you will got some comments here that are full of hate and bitterness, but susan does a pretty good job at keeping the wolves at bay, especially when it involves a new commenter. i’m having a hard time seeing why you’d accuse me of trapping this man. comments like hers implicitly tell the manosphere “yes, you’re right. davinexpertphoto: weheartit 5 signs you're in a toxic relationship (and how to get out)it seems like you can't do anything right. when i studied in panama, one of the guys in our group went on a mission to purchase construction paper and popsicle sticks and enlisted our help to make the game. he has all the info i had gathered in his side as your kids will. 40 is eyebrow-raising, 50 is stretching it, and 60 is outlier of outliers. she is 8 years my junior, so i think i did pretty good. one is saying you have to be ok with it. think talking with her about it and understanding some empathy for where she’s coming and also explaining where you’re coming from and what your intentions are might help. but you have never felt this degree of longing before, for any woman. it’s clear that you have fallen hook, line and sinker for one another. think the 1-10 scale is just about as dehumanizing as you can get: women are being reduced to a number, not even an adjective. ”perhaps, but this was in response to you commenting on how many girls mature from liking “bad boys” to responsible, just like men mature from wanting to bang the dumb bleached blond bimbo to something else. it took five years for me to claw up to my managerial position at work after college. i do doubt though that, were i a healthy and fit 70 year old, that i’d want to take on the health problems of an 80 year old guy. problem with old guys is old sperm, and erections that don’t impress like they did at his age of 22. you guys are acting like she’s channeling carrie bradshaw. summarize:dating a man 5-10 years older carries significant benefits and minimal downsides., re: girls’ preferences on online dating, i know a lot of guys when they see a girl who’s 23 looking for 27+ year old guys, it’s a biiiig gold digger red flag., did you continue to date him even though you knew it woudln’t work? the tone is one of “if you actually wanted to have a real emotional connection (coughforonce)…” see how that becomes a judgment on zach’s character?@detido you realize that a large number of ordinary average men in their 30s to their 50s are going to resemble this man (balding, paunchy, out of shape)? this is difficult when doing the hard work to prepare yourself for that is quite often a huge negative for guys in terms of short term smv and social standing, and telling them they will be rewarded 15 years later with sloppy thirtieths is cold comfort.”for a bit there, it reminded me of the hawk guy in the 80’s “flash gordon” movie… 🙂. sometimes girls say they are open to a ltr, or even a permanent relationship, with a guy that “inspires” those feelings in them. would liken window shopping in today’s envirnment to a few dates–3 should do it but let’s say no more than 6–before you really know if you see a potential in that person. it really isn’t that hard, unless you make it hard by complicating things.’re getting dangerously close to defending that guy in blue valentine again.”it’s kind of hard to know this until you really are married to somebody. over a period of years, it became harder and harder for him to resist the temptation to try and get more of that. one says: “i hate it when they say they miss you!@ramble“uh, jackie, tons of guys go whiteknighting thinking that this is the path to success and then become crestfallen when they see the girl with the guy in that shitty band.@ rolloholly was never a beauty queen but she at least looked acceptable in her youth. young, attractive women are always asking him out, paying for his dinner and for the other stuff he has. obviously young 30’s, but older 20’s would be ok, and you should (if you haven’t already) seriously consider high 30’s early 40’s. people will only give a crap about if you if you make *their* lives miserable – if you’re the quiet, withdrawn kind of depressive, you’ll just off yourself and nobody will even blink.. if you’ll excuse the extremely unfortunate pun, weight is such a huge chunk of smv that it’s very difficult to overlook. certainly the 1/2+7 rule for me would mean women that my brain tells me are just too young and we would have close to nothing in common.“as for you, i find it hard to believe that you were at the bottom of the pile with those luscious big brown south asian boobies and delectable chocolate nipples. the age of the man isn’t necessarily mutually exclusive with the child being provided for, whether it’s through energy (younger dad) or resources (older dad). he liked you, but might not be as forward as you think, and didn’t seem to get a vibe that you were really interested, so he chickened out; or. i don’t think there is much of a nightlife scene for young people where i grew up.'s financially securehe may be older, but he's learned a lesson or two about making money, saving money and balancing his checkbook. you remember nothing else from these comments, please try and remember that. imagine if every possible guy who might ask her out were able to read the following first:“of course i am open to something serious, but i guess what i meant to say is that i expect to date at least two or three guys before i get married, but who knows.@jackie“seeing as you’re already married, no problem, right? manosphere is so toxic that my husband asked me specifically to stop reading it in the first year that we were togetherhope, do you know the scene in the godfather where kay and michael are leaving the movie theater and kay asks michael if he would like her better if she were a nun?@jackie 1136+1this is great advice for most people that have an unrealistically negative view of themselves, and good advice for most normal people too. if you’re christian, they’re *both* sin and you have to repent otherwise you’re not forgiven. if you’re a ‘1’ on 1-5 ss scale (as i was in high school), then a person who is a perfectly normal self-admitted 3 *seems* like they’re very promiscuous.’m not picking on your here susan, but you have been pretty honest about your past, and imo it serves as a great example of my confusion: you claim to be restricted, yet you still have some “unrestricted” behavior in your past. granted, a month later he turned 25, but he was wiser, more eloquent and more mature in the spiritual/emotional sense than even many men who have years on him. is what it's really like to be an alcoholic in your 20s. also, as you may have already noticed, a lot of guys don’t really consider fashion (or pr, the other great nyc female employer) a real “career” per se. there was one point that even i was tempted to say, “hey, welmer, i can sympathize with the raw deal you got in family court, but this guy makes me want to ensure that all children come from anonymous sperm donors in the future! so, to be honest, i just don’t see much of this “i can’t get involved in college because i’ll be moving away in 4 years” stuff you deal with regularly. that my mom and dad lived till 87 and 92 respectively and my in-laws died young, i sort of expect to be a widow.’s a shame, because i believe you have a lot of knowledge and wisdom to contribute, especially as an older person (i miss munson so much 🙁 ). because i came of age pre-internet and blogs were not available to me, i didn’t discover until after i was already married to a man only a year older than me that as an 18-22 i was supposed to be hot for men at least 10 years older than me.“as jesus says in the bible, prostitutes and tax collectors — those on whom we look down our noses — are entering the kingdom of god before you and me., this is what a relationship-oriented man could think about her — even in the face of a really smooth and good looking guy who has bedded lots of hot women, she doesn’t give up her requirement for emotional connection before being able to have sex. caused you to lose attraction, you are free to end the relationship rather than carry on even though you don’t find her attractive any more. the “i miss you” comments are not a daily thing, but when i truly feel like i miss her, i tell her.“at a certain point (pre-marrriage) loyalty is owed to the person your with. nothing too slutty (as he said, under 3 a year), but given her attitudes and what she wants (someone to have fun with, excitement), she’s not going to attract a guy who’s going to be invested, and any other guy will just bang her when he feels like it. i would give anything to have seen his face when you emerged.” “i don’t know, why don’t you ask lok-ious-the-magnificent. you don’t rationalize that or try to bend it into numbers, stats, or whatever else. i’m certainly not thinking in my head, “oh you are just boyfriend number one of x amount,” if i really do like them, of course i would fantasize a bit about our future. but, did you continue to date him even though you knew it woudln’t work? about the only to consider would be the greater possibility of defects with the older dad. don’t doubt that you are right about what a modern ltr means in practice. his interest as a religious guy is fine, but there’s generalised hus goodyness there too, i reckon. the restricted girl isn’t following the script that the unrestricted guy is used to…. in the mating scene, that’s the same as dating guys for longer than a few dates when you know you don’t want them as a spouse or even a ltr.@jpactually, with morality being a human social concept that is quite fluid across cultures and societies, and tribal affiliation being a genetically-driven (your tribe usually shares more genes than theirs), biologically common (all sorts of other animals display it) trait, i’d say it works the other way around. each experience can help you identify better matches and polish your own skills, without this fear of promiscuity and destroying lives by “using people for entertainment., you’ve managed to royally piss off the mras, puas, internet feminazis, and reddit mangina dorks. so out of the gate, you’re working against those stereotypes, and the only positive one (hot) all depends on how you look.😯i would say pulling a b & e is a little beyond not letting you come up for air!” again, my perception of the situation is that the only difference between you and the “unrestricted” girls is your actual n. unless the guy is totally down for that too, but those guys are called players. if you happen to still be all those things with your husband despite him not exerting any level of dominance whatsoever, then great for you. you’ll need to be extra vigilant to filter out cads who have no intentions of committing to anyone, but you’ll also find this to be a group of men who are more financially secure, socially adept, well-rounded intellectually and emotionally stable. not all dbags and players are so obvious, many are quite charming and can have grown up conversations without groping your ass, so to say.’ve heard male commenters, particularly those seeking involvements with younger women, at roissy and elsewhere in the ‘sphere quote this maxim seriously. if i’m your girlfriend, i want you to end it with me. of the modern problem is that the transition from fun to work is relatively jarring and means that the “fun” part is going to decline because you don’t get to stay in the “fun zone”. know you feel this way, you say this a lot, but this has not been my experience. – ” it makes me really, really sad to hear that religious people told you that you were “evil”! there is nothing wrong with an age gap of 10+ years but such pairings are rare. i think it’s fair to say that any woman who marries you in future is a fool. are plenty of late 20’s, early 30’s guys i find attractive, but i wouldn’t feel confident in dating somebody who was much older.

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or, michael douglas and catherine zeta-jones, who are 25 years apart in age? of your guy friends are probably being nice by not saying it, or are actually nice guys (tm) and don’t have the ability to get any sex toy women. i do think young men often fall into the trap of feeling obligated to a girlfriend such that they feel they are wronging her by breaking up (i know i was that way). if you want a room full of cheerleaders you are free to enter the market and try your hand., if you went through four years of college and pretty much no guy seemed good enough for you, and the guys you know all pretty much got the message that they were not good enough for you, i’m guessing there’s your problem right there. actually, i cant even consider settling down just yet, as i cant date women young enough right now to satisfy the age gap that i am looking for. look good togetherbesides feeling good together in public, you look great together, too.@olive i wonder if, much like girls who road the carousel have issues when they try to lock it down with a restricted guy, guys who played the unrestricted game struggle when it comes to getting with a restricted girl. dating is really good for introverted guys who don’t feel comfortable as comfortable “picking up” a girl at a bar or even a party. is it really controversial to say that most people don’t continue to look great into their 60s, as compared to 20-30 years younger?: it is nice to meet you, jrd, and i hope you will stick around! say no to guys who have done lots of anal! i hate just the idea of dating and plate spinning, and going out with different guys in one week. problem is, most girls in their early 20’s are not mature enough to date an older guy.(coincidentally, wouldn’t a fun date have a better chance of success than a date where you are putting the pressure on: potential spouse or bust! the fratty guy hits on the freshman, and his buddy tells her he is the real deal, would love a girlfriend, asks if she is attracted, etc. you’ve said it yourself, sex without any emotional connection isn’t satisfying, so why are you concerned that you haven’t poked her yet?”how many days did you get up to before you had the hallucinations? one guy had remembered me from the voting line at the polling place three weeks ago; another guy supposedly had a convo with me in the summer about vacations (?’ve heard male commenters, particularly those seeking involvements with younger women, at roissy and elsewhere in the ‘sphere quote this maxim seriously. almost wonder… so much has come so easy for you. regardless of your stance on this matter the last line is wisdom that’s pretty hard to ignore..Jp – yeah but you are literally sticking it to the “man” when you sue the fed. of course, you are the daughter of god as well. because christianity has one standard and it has been this way for hundreds and hundreds of years!-stringent requirement as to not be more than a few years older than the woman… then you pretty much just have a caste mating system because you simply cannot have youth, appearance, and resources in the same man unless it is inherited, and this is speaking as someone that jumped from a working class family to umc well before he was 30. if you want i can do it, i bet it would be just as long and rant-like as the stuff i post about women., i do see it as my role here to help the young’uns. you’ll read about us online after an atf like agency raids our compound! before marriage, you are not obligated to stay with someone through thick and thin. i mean, a wife that much younger could possibly make a guy feel younger himself, and more “in touch” with a totally new crowd.@otcyou may very well be right about watching what men do rather than what they say. it’s a nice fantasy, but, as a woman who in her 50s, i can tell you that any affection i feel towards men in their 80s comes out of missing my dad., ted, i’m not only on the side of the restricteds, but if the smp was a video game, my difficulty settings of religion make it a lot trickier than yours.” “i don’t know, why don’t you ask irare?! when i first got catcalled, i actually *did* turn around to see who that guy was talking to! you believe the feeling is mutual, and you long to touch her. finds their own path– i hope you find what you are looking for. obviously mister “i’ll let 40,000 soldiers and their horses fuck you to regain our dad’s kingdom” is as despicable as the characters get. unless you are implying that making women suffer through those unplanned pregnancies would help.. she rode the alpha cock carousel for 12 years and now that she’s about to become a crone she wants a guy with a good job to marry her because none of the guys she really wants will have her. have a good weekend all – even you saywhaat, you argumentative little minx. you say it’s fine for a lot of young girls because they’re “sick of the bar scene”, and then accuse the men on it of “not being able to meet anyone” even though it’s easy to meet new people in nyc. you’re not willing to wait, by all means zach, cut her loose. tyrion lannister is the most “alpha” guy on the show! i’d say the diversity of ethics is especially pronounced once you step outside western society. it doesn’t matter if you are restricted or unrestricted. it’s got a pic of a cheesy 70s era guy – it’s a concealer. third date yeah, pull the plug, but give him a chance to grow on you first.“you are always going on about being short, but 5’7″ isn’t “short. you see, on many ways we are working towards the same goal.., a parallel dating strategy when you consider multiple candidates at once, rather than one at a time.@jp“i think that you’ve promised them that you are going to rip out their heart at some point. would you like to play yourself in the hus movie?, and re: the downsides of dating older men–such as decreased libido and longevity–men who are into physical fitness will mitigate or obliterate both of these boundaries. there is no magic formula – the best strategy is one that expands your options as much as possible. in hitting your peak, askmen describes men’s physical changes after 30: according to a recent survey of adult sexual behavior, men over the age of 40 were two to three times more likely to report a lack of sexual interest compared to men under the age of 30.“in india, having sex with a woman by falsely saying you will marry her is considered rape. i wouldn’t mind “i can’t stop thinking about you! and if your doing it for “fun”, your much more likely to feel more comfortable with the guy doing it for the former reason. as someone else said, guys don’t have a medium between booty call and girlfriend. i didn’t feel like putting all that into words, but you did it marvelously! are correct, that’s how it works for most young people. – otc said – ““if you don’t like that, ignore those women”the problem is, if you’re a 1 out 5, then you’re ignoring nearly everyone, since it’s relative. in both scenario, either i or another person, couldn’t come up with anything more than ‘keep your chin up’ or things that sounds awfully close to “man up” when on the receiving end. perhaps in years long gone there were just as many unrestricted folks as there are now, but social pressure kept their behavior in check. i was always under the impression that university is the place where smart people are and thus the social hierarchy is much better for smart and studious guys., it’s nice to have fun but when other people are part of that equation you need to be careful., i won’t suggest anyone withdraw from the social scene because they aren’t ready to commit to a marriage, as some of the guys seem to be suggesting.“how many times have we heard guys say “sloppy seconds” here? my only question would be why you would want to be friends with c. what you lack in lifetime achievement you gain in proximity. not to mention, where would i even meet an older guy?, it gives you a ton of power over the teachers. (zach, you shouldn’t have to pressure a restricted girl into taking her top off. you’re probably one of the prettiest colored women i have ever met”. although you can't change a man (or even a woman for that matter), the key is to bend for one another so both of your needs are fulfilled.?”haha, that would be hilarious, but i daresay you would be labeled someone who is not respectful of our lgbt friends, and your application to be a spiritual leader would be rejected., i mean this in the nicest way, racking up your n in search of butterflies and maybe “the one” would be a serious mistake for all kinds of reasons. she may be viewing him through the prudish lens, but guys here have certainly criticized women for being slutty and viewed women via a prudish lens. it’s much more useful to take stock of a guy’s reputation (if you can) than to judge him based on his age, height, address, car, etc. re: “i miss you,”i think the differences reflected in this conversation are really just personality/preference differences. charlotte, as long as you go in with open eyes and don’t demand more than what you’re offering (when and if the feelings kick in) i see no problem. so the least you can do before you off yourself is give a try at another life. can lead a whore to culture but you can’t make her think. if she isn’t comfortable with you, whatever, that’s not your problem. this blog is getting definetely better with more female commenters 🙂as for your comment, think about it that way: imagine you have male friend, who is 45 years old. cooper, waiting should be the furthest thing from your mind. graduate, look for jobs, first one that lands one picks where you both will live., were they getting the social life that you described as typical and common or were they getting something fairly different? they have spent a minimum of 3-6 hours in each other’s company getting to know each other. your children are not here as a result of the posts! their society didn’t have that issue (except in the case of prostitution) because the custom was “you break it, you buy it. he will ostensibly still be better off than if he had settled for a less attractive woman when he was younger. and she also was charging like 0/hr for spiritual coaching or something. the judgment goes both ways here, and you can see that in iggles’ comment (sorry to put you on the spot iggles! “her point was that you were always going to run into people who you thought would make a better match than your husband and that it was just a feature of life. it is wrong for the woman to not pursue marriage with an older man merely for age differences., so you did extremely well in junior high, were the 4th cutest girl in hs (though, no takers), did not have one average, or below average, looking girlfriend in college…is it possible that you account of what was typical for a girl in the late 70’s was not as common as you think it is/was? i mean obviously i would never string some guy along until he is head-over-heels in love and i cackle when i tell him i’m really busy and selfish. what if you were forced to describe them without using quotes, what would you say. the key is to not set yourself up for those situations. if you’re a hot young woman who can’t make rent in a studio apartment and puts a premium on having clothes, shoes, expensive purses, and travel to exotic locales, sleeping with ron perelman probably looks like a dream scenario.“well, you’ve managed to royally piss off the mras, puas, internet feminazis, and reddit mangina dorks., do you still think east coast guys are better prospects?@charlotte:the most important thing to remember is that cooper is not an “older guy” within the context of this post. i should know they are the ltr guy for me immediately? may now tell your wife: “even if the sky will fall that very moment on our heads, do not worry, as i will support it with my lance”hmmm somehow “lance” seem very odd in that place 😀@zach. mean, i know 99% of the posts are basically repeat posts from guys too horny to keep it to themselves…but i wonder what it is about these women who could transfix a guy enough to actually spur him to write a longing post about her, wanting to know her, but knowing full well she would probably never even see it. unless a woman was desperate and knew her smv was low, she would never take herself out of circulation for a guy she was not interested in.. that’s also why i mentioned early in the post that commitment-avoidant guys often become less so after graduating from college, because they get knocked back to low man on the totem pole. don’t want to be in a situation where you have to compete with your spouse in terms of career/monetary success. to assassinate the character of someone you don’t even know! what’s the difference between what you’ve been reading and the beta provider bait and switch gambit? imagine my surprise when he decided to tell me the following:“you are such a pretty colored girl. i also say things like “can’t wait to have you all to myself this weekend” when we have a trip planned or something. it's not like a guy who's five years older than you is going to be taking you out for the denny's early bird special ever day before promptly going to bed, but odds are those 5 a. have your comments been read by your daughter and impacted her?@intjlet me know what you think as you watch it.@susanyes, definitely i am one of the guys at those charity balls. 😉i really don’t want to enumerate what’s wrong with the older holly, adding insult to already grievous injury, but since you brought up her becoming heavier with age. again, this would be a guy who at oldest is 25, not a guy who is 30 and is either a guaranteed player or either really looking to settle down and get married asap., she’s just aiding the youth alliance in the coming massive intragender conflict over an older, more power, more sophisticated future cooper (due to the lack of adequate supply of future coopers) , which will pit the aging 28-33 year old women against the younger, more aggressive, 23-27 year old women. just as an fyi, guys have pretty strong stereotypes about girls in fashion here in the city. so if you go after what you’ve described, you’re going to get used for sex. two different animals entirely”i realize that this may be the case for most college kids you know, but very few of the small number of kids around me that manage to actually go to college leave home to do so.” i was thinking you were like 5’0″ or something from your posts! chances are, if you were a freshwoman dating a junior or senior, you are probably more into the ‘touch of grey’ than you think.”neither, you stay with her and try to work it out, because temptation is always going to come along like that, married or not. things you should know before dating a girl in a wheelchair. he’s going to talk to all those other girls because guys think they have to play this game to get girls like you’s interest. i’m not okay with p&d’ing a girl to make her pay for the sins of your ex-gf who cheated on you. a girl’s pov: in my mind, older men do not “compete” with younger men.@just1zthe aunt spent 14 years working for och-ziff and had just taken a temporary “retirement” to do more traveling.” “i don’t know, why don’t you ask irare? he was a douche for leading you on but you were a…. sex life (and i believe this is true for most guys) is just so important to me that i can’t commit without some indication of how it’s going to be.'s afraid of commitmentwhen you come across an older man and learn he's single, have you ever found yourself saying to your friends, “there's a reason he's alone and still single”? i’m sure there are diamonds in the rough, especially if you are not in a place like nyc where it is harder to meet new people.@ susan walshit is odd for someone you’re seeing frequently to say they miss you. of alpha short guys…peter dinklage gets posted pretty frequently on r/ladyboners over at reddit. around here you have to earn the right to complain. i hate just the idea of dating and plate spinning, and going out with different guys in one week. is nothing inherently selfish about being young, having your own income, and spending money on stuff you like.@escoffierwell, it does not take a master logician to figure it out: either a few flings with players, or else some incipient relationships with guys who want her for the long haul but on whom she will bail, unless she changes her mind. based on the comments around here, you’d think that girls never get dumped.. you're going to hear stories about "the old days" and wonder why we aren't as fun anymore. me in a mood where i should be settling with a guy who may not be ‘the one’ just because he is older & my market value is fast declining. whatever you said i’d defend your right to free speech (but watch out, if your words/their reactions are amusing enough i might tape it). :pi dunno ana, are you sure this isn’t just more proof that the hus ladies are outliers? whether you were 33 or 53 or 73, you would still be offering whatever it is that you have to offer.@sw“i wonder what it is about these women who could transfix a guy enough to actually spur him to write a longing post about her, wanting to know her, but knowing full well she would probably never even see it. and being told that is your sole value in the eyes of men.@mulei just wanted to tell you to go die in a hole. and i know from my friends experiences (most are 24 – 26) who have been on paid subscription sites, most of the men in their age bracket are just looking for instant access to more women. his other friend (a third guy) approached me and said “aren’t dan and chuck great?: zach’s latest conquest, i think hope pinned it in post 1396.’s true that as a man gets older, he will have a tougher time dating 20 year olds. there are probably guys who wouldn’t mind that, but they aren’t going to get too emotionally invested (why would they?

Older Women Dating Younger Men: Doomed from the Start or

only i had not wasted my youth on games…i wish i could get those ten years of my life back (14-24).@ramblebrohamlet, how much theater did you do in hs and college? and i assume that after a lifetime of sexually activity(began at age 11 with two girls 5 years older than him) he’s probably far better in the sack than most young, hot guys. in college, i was engaged to a man 9 nine years my senior. you can sit it out and remain on the sidelines (though you didn’t). i just found “acceptable” to be an understatement when talking about someone that “a lot of college guys today would love to find but can’t”.@ passer_byi would like to second the observation that you are a quite a lovely negro. i suppose that if you sling a cross around the neck of hamster it begins to look more like an easter bunny to you.@passerby, sw“well, if you’d just given him the god damn blowjob he wouldn’t have had to lie, now, would he? but, one of my really good buddies was in theater- this dude made the rest of us look stupid with girls (and my friends were mostly not stem guys or bookworms, we were at the bars every weekend). seriously, you could make a whole blog out of that. older the guy is, the more likely it is that he’s economially secure. another let me take her out on legthy evening dinner dates, one time being to the starlit balcony of the yatch club, until i found out she was already regularly sleeping with a guy from my dorm.@susani think you’ll like the new post i just put up! why not choose one of the other dozens of guys? all the females who commented on not being able to be attracted to an older man when you were say, 18-22 (i believe pvw, madison and a few others said this):a friend of mine, when she was 19, had a stint where she not going to college…she sorta took a year off. i haven’t bought the game for that reason i freaking love it but the baby is too young to learn and our friends always want to try new games instead of the boring catan every single time we play, like i always want, in that vein my husband’s best friend wife tries to go for the “longest road” i’m more development cards/bigger army. aren’t really communicating any of that in your posts, at least not the ones that i have read.@ j:my own pattern went 1) meet guy in class or atparty 2) hope guy asks me to have coffee in student union/elsewhere 3) hope for date 4) date a few times 5) rinse and repeat. only that real spark is going to see you through 25+ years. men that are attractive to young women past 40 take care of themselves, age well, are successful, confident and wealthy.“and a guy invited me to see a concert, that was going to take a 3hr starlit drive though the desert to get there. researchers conducted eight meetings with 60 “not-yet-married” men in northern new jersey, chicago, washington, d. like the quote to deti yesterday, be the change you wish to see in this world, ted! out is truly nothing but a cock tease to most guys.’d figure bringing out that side of her is something most restricted guys would want, but who knows maybe i’m wrong.’ve probably just outed myself as a huge, longterm hus lurkeri’ve done the whole swaying your hips/gliding while in public. vulaume – “well, i guess i understand how you mean it, from a “healthy point of view”… but wait a minute here, hold on.“how quickly do you think a person should be obligated to make that decision after meeting someone?. recognizes basic biological differences, values youthful fertility, values youthful sexual attractiveness, seems to give men an advantage, etc. i’ll let you know next time we have a summer (talking actual weather not time of year). *shrug*please stop painting me out to be a woman hater, you and i both know it isn’t true. i felt so special to have been “chosen” by a high status guy. no guarantees, of course, as many of them have nothing to their name save a mildly humorous twitter account…but you never know who you might meet! i can’t believe the mushy stuff some of you guys like to do! it’s not as if every cute guy went for me, though. if you have something you really love, i suggest you do a whole lot of it. the world is the way it is – not as you want it to be. for one am glad my husband is only two years older than me. you can feel it– the love shines out from them like a diamond.. the fact that 10 years later guys are still using this wingman setup is incredibly pathetic. think some of you got the impression that i’m going on dates with a bunch of guys just for free drinks and dinner. you can even hear it when people compliment toddlers, “oh boy, he’s going to break a lot of hearts! another post, i think it was ramble who noted how women’s tastes tend to change as they get older, so a type of man who might not have interested her at 20 looks pretty good at 30. about tom cruise and katie holmes, who were 16 years apart when they were married? real problem is when you have a clingy and a non-clingy together. what you give up in youth and vitality, you gain in other ways. almost certainly over-diagnosed at this point (you”” had mania plus hallucinations, so this is not directed at you). i can see the plus side as to looking young but there is downside to it. it has more to do with people becoming too entrenched in their age-specific social circles and thus lacking the opportunities to mix it up with an older set than an actual resistance to older suitors.• tags: dating advice, dating an older man, david buss, mate preferences, relationship advice, sex differences, the frisky.@ saywhaat you’re right, this only applies to people in relationships, virgins have no feelings lolit’s true! giving awesome vintage haircuts will inspire you to follow your dreams. should be a link to manage your subscriptions – go there and uncheck. – “based on the comments around here, you’d think that girls never get dumped. or should you end your relationship and explore a relationship with the woman at work?@cooperare you really missing the point on why guys go on dates?: 60 year old david petraeus and 41 (sic) year old rupert sanders disagree with you. remember when i was younger, i used to see men with women who were 20 years younger, and thought “what a selfish asshole. when you can get more girls interested from jump, you can get a girlfriend.@ jackiet-paine, using someone else’s bad behavior to justify your own is not okay. only that real spark is going to see you through 25+ years.”it isn’t bad enough i get constantly tl;dr’ed here, but now you gonna go and delete hus emails without reading them too?@ olive:it’s not that a girl would necessarily be disgusted by an unrestricted guy’s past, but perhaps she would not be comfortable moving as quickly as other girls had been, and that would turn the guy off, or make him think she was weird. add to that my tendencies to feel i’m always right, and that i’m a judgmental asshat, and you can easily see how me and catholic grade school just didn’t get along well.@loklandunlike you, most people won’t end a relationship for just any reason.’s seriously something that i never learned about before (meaning 6 months ago). "older" doesn't necessarily mean we're going to stop watching cartoons or laughing at fart jokes. you want to know why, and she tells you that it’s just too hard. but that’s the sort of backlash that happens when you indiscriminately oppress people. because i was so busy interning and getting my career together in college, the whole college scene wasn’t so much my thing and i didn’t see many of the guys i went to school in a romantic light. i recall one guy at the spearhead who was so crazed and embittered that even the most similarly crazed and embittered would tell him to stfu.”yes, but then the fun ends a few years and the woman/man falls out of love and wanders off. i tell people “you will get mental health care” all the time, but then again they want to get disability benefits so they actually listen to me. of 1248: “i want to use the threat pregnancy to control you completely. – “you are all missing the point that i have made five times already. if following a script when physical intimacy happens before emotional intimacy isn’t yielding the results you seek, then try another way! you see, on many ways we are working towards the same goal. obviously haven’t read the threads at manboobz so i have no sense of the discussion over there, but is it possible you were banned for consistently bringing up material that was off topic?@ escoffierfunny how “colored” marks you as kkk but “person of color” means you are more enlightened than buddha. she’s throwing gasoline on that fire by breaking bad on a guy like ron perelman because he’s unattractive. i will only talk to a guy for longer than a few minutes if i actually would like to get to know him better and have an interest.@ susan walshsounds like the guy i mentioned yesterday, who told me about the constellations and then kissed me. interesting thing is that when i saw the photo of her perfect guy, one more time i realised i have no idea what females consider “attractive” in males. – “imagine that you are dating a woman and have been for two years.’ll say it again: i have never met a young woman who was interested in going on dates, being in a relationship, or marrying for the purpose of “extracting resources. don’t see the reason to wait for a guy to become a better catch if he is generally a good guy, has graduated college and is willing to have a relationship now. i helped her with two dates, with two decent guys. don’t know what the answer is, zach, but if i was trying to avoid connection and letting myself actually care about another person (and be vulnerable in return), i would follow a path much like yours. i don’t doubt that you are right about what a modern ltr means in practice.’ve been thinking of you, so good to have an update! cooper, waiting should be the furthest thing from your mind.@intjomg, j will probably have a good concrete suggestion for dealing with your friend, but if you think he is really contemplating suicide i think you should alert his loved ones and urge him to talk to someone asap. but, after a month (and no sex), the two of you were not so emotionally attached such that your feelings would (or should) impact his decision whether or not to continue the relationship. it makes sense, as many young people are in these programs just at the time when they’re thinking about marriage. the median doesn’t tell us much about trending male attitudes though – we’re most interested in what young men do.! did you ever see him in “duel in the sun”? 🙁intj, is your friend getting enough sunlight (one of those lamps can make a difference)?, i did ask you a question a few threads back that you never answered, so, i will ask it again:oh man, ramble, if you are going to talk about how much you long for women to get dumped if they gain 5 lbs…whoa. dated older men, well always- i did they’re not different from their younger counterparts. marriage makes that more difficult, which is why cohabitors stay together for an average of less than 5 years. they have two, both very young, and my uncle probably won’t be around much longer.“for every year older a man is past a certain age (his physical peak of 28?” a better term might be “going steady,” something that young people have been doing since the 1950s without thought of marriage. you want “nothing serious” (which seems to be code for monogamy), then have fun around with the players, that’s what they are there for. i eventually learned to answer the question “are you looking for marriage? ted isn’t a hypocrite and you’re too nice to your cats. they have been dating for 2 years and they have never discussed the longer term?!can you give concrete examples of what i’m missing? you took her innocuous comment out of context and used it as fodder for a personal rant against women. my reply is, okay, so what tangible results do you have to show for your efforts? you aren’t the only one, but you’re pretty high up on the list.” a more restricted type of guy might like the idea of having a sort of sexual tabula rasa as his partner, and then developing things from there. – so it would be the: umamimp (pronounced you-ma’am-imp) not catchy but it could work. broadcast:thursday 16 march 2006melvyn bragg and guests discuss miguel de cervantes’ 17th century novel, don quixote., is your friend getting enough sunlight (one of those lamps can make a difference)? now obviously those are only sometimes true, but it’s a brush many guys paint with. they’ve been dating for almost 2 years now, i think.” “i don’t know, why don’t you ask irare? most guys in their 50s dont have what it takes to pull an alec baldwin, fact.@ramblei am seeing a very good guy from my church right now, so: none! i think many men like you have little interest in very young women.”i think you may perceive it that way, but that isn’t where i am coming from. i thought you were on your first serious boyfriend, no? about a sure-fire way to becoming a carousel rider; live with a man for a few years, be taken care of, get a taste for it, then when you break up, you’re looking for another one to get the same.@ramblefor some reason, that story, and the fact that you did not have any friends that were below a 6in high school i was the funny sidekick to the beautiful girls. i doubt i need to tell you that, as most women are repelled by that kind of eagerness. this:“, okay, so what tangible results do you have to show for your efforts? again, i love that you used a story to express an idea.” i was thinking you were like 5’0″ or something from your posts! the grocery store yesterday, in a 40 minute timeframe, i had 5 guys come up to me and start talking. what’s worth to guys like intj, cooper, etc– i’m 21 and i definitely cannot see myself with a guy in his 30s+. i’m thoroughly sick of it (for different reasons than you, but sick nonetheless), and know plenty of other guys who are too. i recall you once posed a map that showed more available guys were on the west coast…i think that la is a very unforgiving place re looks, or at least it used to be. so, engaging pretty girls will have little, or less, affect on you. otherwise, you’re living a lie and robbing me of a real opportunity to marry someone who loves me the way you now love the other woman. years older (the female preference), you might want to look at guys a bit older., at least for the time being, the ‘sphere is going to continue to be marginalized and so, therefore, you are going to get a somewhat poor signal-to-noise ratio. the popularization of second wave feminism, with the accompanying view that a woman’s virginity was her own to dispose of, removed those laws from the books, but i would bet that someone on this thread will characterize the criminal prosecution of the man in your link as “feminist.. i would never advise women to turn a guy down for being the same age! i think so many guys just totally give up on themselves physically around age 30-35; one of the major social benefits of widespread “game” exposure may be that some guys get a motivational kick to get in shape, learn how to dress in flattering and age-appropriate ways, etc. the tone is one of “if you actually wanted to have a real emotional connection (coughforonce)…” see how that becomes a judgment on zach’s character? dissing you zach, but i think hope is right on this one. in the event that you stumble across someone you are extremely attracted to, you shut that down. but it’s not you see a girl and think “wife wife wife” but rather “is she for something more serious (not necessarily marriage, but an ltr) or just for hmmmm hehehe conversations and watching porno. my good character will show up once you get to know me! one guy had remembered me from the voting line at the polling place three weeks ago; another guy supposedly had a convo with me in the summer about vacations (? stoneexpertphoto: weheartit whatever follows your "i am" is what you attract into your lifeit's all about the law of attraction. there are plenty of 30+ men who would have no problem taking the ltr dating path with a young women with her shit squared away. i know that as that type of girl, a guy like zach would not be someone i’d think about marrying.” (deuteronomy 6:4-5) it reminded me so much of talmudic scholarship, and i loved learning that! it’s an opportunity to explore how compatible you are with another person. i meant that as a friend i don’t know what to do to help a guy, whereas with a woman, i know what i can do: listen. saying she is looking for good ltr-guys, but doesn’t want to “be their everything” or might “want to date at least two or three… before getting” serious, she is potentially setting up a really nice guy for a whole world of hurt, when he gets emotional invested. if you were working a lot of ot, i guess that would be different, but still. haven’t you ever enjoyed just holding hands with a person? do you have a sense of whether these women followed the usual path of ejecting a high powered career and settling in westchester or fairfield?@cooperyour comments in this thread make me realize that you are quite rigid about what you expect and how quickly. you are always going on about being short, but 5’7″ isn’t “short.

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