How to Handle Loving and Dating a Married Man | PairedLife
How to Break Up With a Married Man and Heal Your Heart
true love means you can introduce the man you love to your family and friends. working with this married man, looking after a young girl and facing the emotional abuse of my ex. i won’t be taking revenge, as i dont wish to drop to his level, and as you said, its not worth it for a married man, there are plenty more single men in the sea, but im not going looking, as im going to have me time, lots of things i want to do, but always put off because of him, and thank you. i thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a love spell. i looked at who he is; a serial cheater with two kids, who carried on an affair for two years with someone right after his son was born, someone who lives in a 0,000 home, has a great job, a nanny to take care of the kids during the day, and a wife who works full time as well to maintain their image. can relate, but my married man never hid me…his wife knows me, so do his kids…this is a toxic relationship. how do i leave the man that i am so in love with.’d also like to add i know a few exceptions, but the most recent didn’t work out so well and my poor dear friend i’ve known 35 years since nursery had an awful time recently to the point she doesn’t want to go near another man. i’m in almost a 2 year long affair and it’s been off and on so many times and we both can’t seem to let each other go completely. i work with the married man and he is in “love” with his wife and will always be even though she has cheated on him twice and will always forgive her. to anyone that is starting an affair with a married man or considering it please run like hell. kristen houghton affairs the-other-woman mistresses: a history of the other woman. i agree that the married men are not happy, which is why they wander. i was even in a serious relationship for several years during the time i met my ex-mm. don’t be like me and so many other women on this site who have given in time and time again because we get suckered back in by breaking nc. yes i am still with him because im only human and still attached to him. see we affair partners make waves, we want changes, we make demands and have expectations. yes he is the most incredible man i have ever met, but, he also isn’t the most honest either so that kind of cancels the good bit out! my married man did the exact thing to me in the end. i believe, to the very core of me, he has destroyed many lives. yes maybe i’m thinking ‘ah he screws up precious years of my life i will do the same’- but she’s none the wiser whatever rubbish he has fed me! i just ended a 4 year relationship with my best friend and love, we are both married to other people. but they are so many people around, he is just one out of so many you can meet, work, friendships, support. there are no exceptions, i would definitely end up being hurt – so it was better to dump him immediately rather than wait months, maybe years (as many of you) and get deeply involved with him. you told me that these married men are not really happy but they are. and i know that looking for validation from a married man after he decides to break from you) is optimism at best and stupidity at worst. i moved with my family but still see him at least 3 times a week..learnt later he was married with a 2 years old, but we fell in love and i never let go. are helping married men cheat on their wives…what if we were in the wives place…i most certainly would not be able to handle it…. i have been with my husband for over half my life, married 22. blocked him yesterday, our last conversation was normal, then i blocked him… today he was going crazy, calling me from different numbers, texting me… demanding an explanation, why he was blocked, what did he said…etc…. i wish more people would read the narcissist website i posted so many times, but i also understand that everyone has to learn in their own way, my prayers are with you, asking for strength, light and guidance as you find your way out of the mess that he dragged you into. i have known him in the past, distanced myself from him for 10 years before reconnecting back. i have been noticing all of his lies, his manipulations and his disappearing acts on weekends, holidays and leave. a few weeks after this happened, another married man (let’s call him fred) came to me (i don’t know what the hell it is that i do that attracts married men and i wish i did so i would stop doing it! am at the moment is married to a muslim man who is married. if a man really loved you, would he put you through this? i too have fallen into a depression and have had so much anxiety in the last three years, that there are days i feel like i am going to have a heart attack! when we were “together” (and i use that term loosely since i’ve now realized that he was never really mine), we never went more than 3 weeks without seeing each other. know it’s hard to think of your married men as anything less than great, but at least take the time to read the two blogs i’ve posted below and sincerely ask yourselves … “have mind games been played on me – from the beginning of the relationship up until right now?, what you says almost explains my married man’s behavior. he came to my live when i was the most vulnable doing to several foot surgery i had in the past two years. you again for writing this article about breaking up with a married man, and ty to everyone that wrote in and shared their story 🙂. my reader kay broke up with the married man she was having the affair with, she experienced deep grief and heartache. ;d ) – this poor other woman in his life deserves better herself. i married, was happy for 24 of 27 years, and then discovered my ex was cheating, and our marriage was over. took me 3 years but i worked gradually towards my freedom. he was manipulative at times, controlling at times, selfish very often, and always turned things around on me. he’s a facade: you know enough about him to give you some insight into his personality and life, but you’re not involved with the real man. married men only want sex and the only place you can go with him is the bedroom. one of my friend once told me, if a man doesn’t get serious with you after 3 months max, he never will., it was incredibly hard for me too, to believe such negative thoughts about a man i had given every ounce of my heart and soul to. i knew he was married from the start and we met for work purposes a few times before anything happened. we get together and for four years i don’t let him touch me. just a note, my mm has told me many times in the past that he and his wife had gone to counseling years before we got together, but they eventually stopped going after they both felt like it didn’t do either one of them any good. recently ended things with my married man of 5 yrs, as well. still don’t know if this is is 2nd wife or 1st wife remarried. but yes, most of these married men are thinking about you and are unhappy. the attached man has still not left almost 3 years on. have a fantasy that if he and i ever make contact again in the years to come, i want to be able to prove how successful i’ve been. i was discarded out of the blue after being together nearly 5 years, and after he professed all his unending love for me the night before. i completely understand his thought process and i know this is the type of man he is, but as i told him, i can’t just keep waiting indefinitely. the man accepts it, because he has to, he doesn’t have a choice, unless he leaves, but that is almost impossible by this point in your life.’s been one month since the married man ended it with me and i haven’t contacted him since, neither has he. to single men, there are thousands and many nice ones. he’s been with his wife for 23 years but married to her 16. it’s been four months broken up from my nine year relationship with a married man. it’s all business and money (so he says), but for someone that cried 3 years ago saying he’s not sure how much more he could take of this evil horrible nasty spiteful gf of his…he is doing quite well considering they are together practically 24/7. i can’t believe that this is the man who used to put his nose close to mine so that he could breath the same air that i was breathing. i think of him everyday i won’t lie, but really i feel so much of a stronger woman that i can move on without him and refocus on me. he constantly talks about me moving in with him…almost 4 years…wow if in the ‘real’ world i’d have hoped to have moved in after 1 year…but to keep this illusion up, everything has to go on repeat…. you’re very strong, the thought of even going near my attached mans front door makes me feel ill, as he lives 70 miles away and i guess i’ve never had to face his reality (i’ve never been anywhere near where he lives) and like you, we haven’t been trying for a baby, but i’ve never fell pregnant so have spent the past 2 years having fertility checks, and now it’s time to make an appointment to plan a date…yet he hasn’t left? this man has made me cut all contact with my husband( my husband left me, but soon after realized all his mistakes and was trying evergthing to come back to me), he made me put my life on hold for him, has kept me bound indoors…. it helps to remember that the man with whom you are intimately involved in "your other life" is not living as a monk with his wife. can you just stop thinking about someone after four years ? i found out last saturday that my guy of 6 months was married.’re madly in love and want to be together, but he says he can’t decide what to do because the wedding is being arranged by his sister, and he has a 13 year old son (with another woman) who is close to his fiancee. if even a smidgen of it was real and true and heaven sent, a man who’s sincerely in love with you would’ve never allowed you to be put in a position where you’re having to wait for him to leave another woman. trust me, i never wanted to believe it either that’s why it took me 5 years to break free from him, but now that i have i can’t tell you how relieved i feel. am dating a married man, have been for 2 years next month. have had so many gifts from my relationship and the ending of it, yes it has been soul breaking, but i have kept searching for where the meaning is in all this and am finding answers and it does help with the pain and grief. that this is your last years and start to live! love this man – i can’t seem to be able to let go..Like liz’s married man using his daughter, my attached man has never been able to do that as he left his first wife and 2/3 yr old, so he has always used his business – his business he should have dropped when he realised he wanted me 3 years ago (so he said). i have been with a married man for the last 12 months. i’m 40 and have been with this 46 year old married man for 2 1/2 years. they’re happily married now and my friend is glad she stayed with him…but it was a long road! i'm now a very happy woman and ever since he has. short, after i suddenly had enough again almost 2 weeks ago, a younger guy, 9 years younger (i’m 38 and him 29) who has been chasing me for over 6 years, contacted me again. how many people do you know who post happy, loving photos while being unhappy or flat out miserable? i had found out, he never forgot me and because of the dynamics dated many who had similar traits as i. and therefore, a vulnerable woman is the perfect thing for them. in islam it’s allowed to marry more than one the thought of having another woman aside from me is killing me inside. your marriage ended and now you are in a dead end relationship with your married man. whatever you decide, please don’t do it for the married man. i’ve actually thought to myself that he’d never email me now because he hasn’t used that email address in years. he done many things for his wife which i only found out last week. he is retiring after 40 years in the army and we are ending. been dating a married man to my full knowledge for a few months now. am also married my marriage has been unhappy for the last two years and i know that’s not an excuse. i need to forgive myself because i was such an idiot to love a man like him, but i believe time makes things work. why do seemingly happily married cheat on their wives-im just going by pictures i see on fb…. are so many others, but these are a good starting place. you are not alone, we are so many, left the same way, like if all we lived never happened and never happened…but the best thing you can do, is live for yourself and not let yourself be his puppet even when he doesnt want you in his life anymore. this man did not have the guts to marry the girl he says he loved. was with him a total of two and a half years. this person has stolen 12 years of my life that i can never get back. i know how every one of you feel when you are in love with someone who is in a relationship/married, and you don’t know how to escape it because the love you feel for them is just too strong. when we talked about a paternity test he was fine with it not expecting the truth of what i’ve said all these years to slap him in the face. am has wasted the most important years of my life, i can never forgive him, my chances of having children are running low at 38 yrs old and i could have spent the past 3 years dating to find the right partner rather than him manipulating me. the attached man (he is not married but been with his gf a good 12 years, they have a business child and mortgage together) helped me escape my violent crazy ex about 11 months after we got together. just just from what you’ve said in your message alone, i can almost guarantee your married man is one, just as mine was, and everyone else’s is. he must have done that at least 8 times in those 3 months. u just walk away from someone you call your soulmate and just go on living with another woman for the rest of your life…. he wanted to leave her at this time i sat him down and said no way can you do that, she needs you to be the man she think you are and you need to be able to look in the mirror at the end of each day. this man is not worth my time and yet here i am missing and wanting him. initially, i liked this man because of his voice, his spanish accent, then i thought it was hot he had a phd, intelligence is a turn on but once i got to know him, he was just as messed up as the rest of us. if this mm really loves you, he will divorce his wife and the timeframe should not take more than 2 years.’s what one of my readers said about breaking up with the guy she was having an affair with:“i became involved with a married man after my divorce,” says kay on how to end your toxic love affair now – before it’s too late. is a key component of narcissism because sex/romance/love are powerful tools to gain fuel from you. prayer for you is that you find the strength and courage you need to stop dating this married man, to stop being the other woman. i wanted to put him and every man like him in his place. if you reach out to him, you will just get back onto the roller coaster, and believe me as one who had endured the roller coaster for years, it is not where you want to be. he moved in with another woman, i felt like killing myself. one day i agreed to go out with him for drinks in the evening as i had finally gotten divorced and that eve after tooo many cocktails we ended up kissing and then having sex. i stayed in my situation for nearly 5 years and i plead with you to start finding knowledge now so you don’t end up worse off than you are right now. i know that he is my center and not a man especially a married one who lies to me. i don’t speak to my married man and neither did he. i asked him about him getting married and how he could do it especialy since before the incident he had promised to marry me and he said it was pressure from his family and his wifes family and the fact they have kids that i did not know about. i started about 18 years ago when i was involved with someone myself (not married – just living together) for 7 years. most woman who are in relationships with married man or involved go through a lot of psychological pain and suffering, low selfesteem. i know this is a horrible thing that i have done and i feel guilty all the time but right now i’m glad i ended this affair with a married man and i’m just trying to gather courage to stay on this path. he has 3 daughters (one born a 11 months after my son). however it does not seem so easy for them to keep a woman feeling loved, desired and happy. have been in a 3 year relationship as well,even though they are separated. talked with her nanny and gosh i am with him for 3 years and i dont know who is the real him. i was with him for 9 years, eight were good and the last one year was just series of breakups and getting back for few weeks then breaking up again. not only is being involved with a man who is married bad karma (his wife is a woman with feelings who deserves love and respect), but we attract situations and people into our lives based on our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. we will not see each other at work for 3 weeks and his last words to me were “maybe it will do you some good”. dated for 5 years but all along he pretended as if i dont exit. we’re both married and i find it’s harder to break up with him coz we’ve been living together for 3 years now abroad. when i was suffering and lonely one day, i really wanted to call my married man but never could, he didn’t use a cell except on rare occasions, and i thought to myself ‘ how insane is this? i have my ex-married man blocked, but sometimes unblock him so to see if he has is last online status shown. i’m now on my first full day of zero contact with my married mam.’ i have spent the last several years (the affair was one year, but my feelings for him were more years than that) hung up on him, and in the end, he turned out to be someone who i didn’t think he was. too, like all of you am involved with a married man. i also said to him that if he truly didn’t care about her being with anyone else (he told me on many occasions that he didn’t), why did it bother him enough to question her. had a affair with a married man for the past 3 years. i must say, like most, i want to believe that the love with married man is special, that is was destiny that we met and we are made for each other because it is so special between us. you weren’t projecting yourself a few years into the future and seeing the shell of a person you would become due to the constant emotional abuse. i have just ended a 6 month relationship with a married man and i am sick and devastated. i’m babysitting 3 little girls tonight, daughters of a friend, getting busy helps. laurie can you please write an article on why married men cheat…does he really love his wife if he continues to have affairs? (and men in our position going through the same thing – applies to both, i’m certainly no man hater, funny enough i’ve very close male friends who i totally respect and are like brothers to me and i mostly work with men who are wonderful, it’s a handful of men and women that ruin things) so…. mm is not really romantic, he doesn’t tell me he loves me everyday, but i am always seeking for affection, love. we are all probs pretty lucky we’re not trapped with a self-centered sociopath who only cares about himself and manipulates others. i know that sharon and many other women gave me much needed strength, and i am so grateful for that. i love the part about breaking away from the man (although real men don’t treat ladies like this!
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whatever this married man says, it’s at best an illusion and at worse, blatant lies. i think the way he talked about getting married was so nonchalant that i sort of didn’t believe him. the good parts are that i know who she is and what type of personality she has and i was also able to watch their interactions between each other, not just during our affair, but also during the years beforehand. i tried cutting our communication for 3 days, but that’s all i can do. dating a married man is something i looked down on others for doing and now look at me. my engagement ended a year ago then i reengaged with my married man months later. i’m afraid that every man i meet i will compare to my married man and i’m afraid i will push them away. have been involved less then a year with a married man. off all contact with him, for he is another woman’s husband. see i’m in a loveless sexless marriage and the man i’m in love with is newly married as well..was a nasty a**hole who makes every excuse under the sun to have an affair that also manipulates us too. it took at least 3 months before i could finally begin even thinking somewhat clearly. it’s been horrific, i don’t live near family or many friends, he has it all, promised me the world and delivered nothing. the narcissist website, the bit about being in love with a married man, the 3 last sentences sum it up and are something like ‘my wife knows nothing about her, she thinks she knows all about my wife, neither of them know what i am’ – and that’s the core of it! i don’t like the fact they are still married and i feel he still my be involved with her. but you have to figure this out and put an end to the married man once and for all and move on with your life with your bf. i managed to go five months no contact and then when he messaged me i caved. am dating, in fact i have fallen in love with total opposite man…. i become involved with a married man who lives in the same building as i do. being in love with a married man has made me want to close myself off to all men but i feel in my heart there is someone out there for me. years ago and like you, then and now, my work suffers, i get ill, and now i don’t see the am and don’t know what to say to him anymore as i feel incredibly used (see my initial post ‘forever waiting’ and many replies to people) i’m exhausted from the mental and sometimes physical impact. married guy i chose to get myself involved with was an old high school friend. he goes on about his network, and yes he moved back to where he grew up 6 years ago, so has all his old friends and parents within 45 min drive (around the city and countryside where he lives) but i too have a few local friends i do see more now and friends 45 mins away where i lived for 5 years until 2011. safeguard yourself from too much emotional pain, you need to understand that he can only be a small part of your life and will never be more than that no matter how many promises are made. i was obesessed and almost crazy during the months that passed, chasing him, nagging and demanding answers and explanations from him, acting out. they have 3 children together and i never wanted to disrupt their family. i cannot believe how badly a man who professed to love you can behave. for years i believed that we were different, even now i still feel that sometimes and think ‘he has to come back because what we had was so different’. well after 3 plus years of having this man be apart of my life, i decided enough is enough and walked away. really wish a year after i left my ex and things just seemed to stand still and i felt totally unappreciated, that i had left the beginning of last year 2015 ( 2 years in). just broke up with a married man after 3 months and he was my business partner too. and it made me feel better about the way it ended, but it made me question all the other years, when i thought we had a beautiful thing going. at first i didn’t believe it – but a year or so ago i saw this with my own eyes when one colleague (the guy/friend who pops over) left the works car park the same time as us and my ex am went mad at me saying we were almost caught and he doesn’t want his friend to know he was lying to him for years! happy to have found a platform where i can be honest about my situation, i too am in a relationship with a married man,im now realising that i am not happy, although he gives me everything i want,he is currently paying my rented apartment ,i have a job that seems to be promising but im scared to break up with him because i do not make enough to support myself, this is a confession that i fell for a guy and got comfortable with material gain, i know i have a good head on my shoulders ,i shouldnt be in this situation. and in another section here, from sharon…if married men wanted to leave they would, no ifs and no buts and no blaming the kids/money/business and so on. my married man broke up with me on valentine’s day so imagine how im feeling. i was vulnerable because i had not gotten over my divorce and jumped straight into this toxic relationship with my married man. i wait 4 years all the while making plans on when we could finally start seeing each other in public, or what kind of ring i wanted and where our wedding would be . however, i wouldn’t be where i am today without my many prayers to god being answered in little ways and i know one day with all the hard work i put into finally caring for myself, i will be given what i truly deserve in this life and that is a real true love all my own, even if it’s just from me to myself. there is another woman who told me she’s been having an affair with him for a couple years.’ve tried so many times to leave him before, but i can’t stand the thought of not only having him as my lover, but also as my best friend. i don’t know why i married him my heart has been elsewhere all this time. but i would rather be on my own and have the possibility of meeting someone who is devoted to me, than stay with a married man who doesn’t have what it takes to give me the life i deserve. my friend once referred to my married man as a narcissist and i completely disagreed with her. you feel like he’s the only man for you because he told you that you’re the only woman he truly loves.) and sometimes it takes a few attempts to get it right, but, please do not expect the married man to come running. it hurt so so much, i really thought it would take no more than 24 or 36 hours for him to message me again. that you deserve better than an affair with a married man. if he’s on a dating site and married, that should be your first sign that he’s a creep. i always knew he was married from the beginning, she was in a diferent country and he was alone you could say. when people talk about our married men as a drug, it’s the truth. it is hard for me to leave him now after two months, i cannot even imagine how it could feel after years of my invested emotions and commitment to a man who doesnt really care about any of that. am with a married man for coming 18 months and am trying to get out of this relationship. again, i appreciate you and the kindness you’ve showed me for the last several years but i know this isn’t the right relationship for me to be in. the married guy i chose to get myself involved with was an old high school friend. been in affair for 5 yrs, and iv just ended it , his reply was i want your cunt, well says it all doesn’t, it, no i love you, please dont leave, for him it was just sex , as in the 5 yrs he never ever bought me anything, took me out, no birthday cards nothing, and the stupid fool i was i let it happen, because i loved him, of course he said the usual things that he lived in a sexless marriage, that he hated her, but never said he would leave her, they still had their holdays together, and there is no children, since i ended it its, over a week now haven’t heard a word since, and i never will contact him, what a waste of soul destroying 5yrs, never ever will i become involved, with a married man again, and the stress is unbelievable, if my children ever found out that i had been involved with a married man they would disown me , as their father had affair, which broke up my marriage, well onwards and upwards, is all im going to do, there is someone, free out in the big wide world, and if i dont find him, im going to enjoy my stress free life. truly hope that every woman who is on this site will be open to visiting hg’s website. am 24 years old and have been dealing with a married man would be 3 years in october. it may sound a bit harsh to many because most of us are oblivious to, or in denial of, what a narc is capable of. and he gonna pay for all the pain you feel now but you don’t have to even think of that miserable man. michelle i just wanted to say that i am in your same position for over 2 years, yes i fell inlove with a married man like you he caught my heart and he always wanted me to stay and never give up and of course i never give up for him for almost 2 years and then the time passes i always hurt and get jealous with his wife i need his attention but he always with her wife he also told me that he is never happy in his marriage but he cannot leave his wife maybe that’s all the married man can’t do, so i decided to let go of him and i tell him that i give up on our relationship but he insisting his self to me he goes on my work place but i told him to stay away and don’t ever come back i don’t know what i feel but something your heart will put you on the right decision if your tired of all the things, yes i forgive him and i wish i will forget him soon just be strong to tell him that i deserve a man that will love me. he is the kindest, gentlest man i’ve ever met. i’m infertile and 38, this started at 34…even more reason to utterly dislike him! i had made so many positive changes and he couldn’t make any. and the last girl he dated, he slept with her just a few days before he got married. u deserve,things you like to do,body you like to have, languages you like to learn and so many other habits that can help you. the mm i was seeing i’ve posted about before, was seeing him for almost 4 years then in july he decided to give me the silent treatment, he was being a dick.) …and we have argued lots over the past few years as he expects me to move to the house he bought with his gf (after we started this affair!) to do those things when you’ve also experienced a (apparently not great) marriage of 12 years previously and a child! i did ask and he messaged, he said that he felt he had lost the only human that he respects the opinions of, the only adult contact that means something to him and those few weeks he felt like he’d lost a limb and i will never ever know where he was (think he meant in his head). he tells me he is not happy at home and the only reason why he is staying married is because of his kids. and on top of that shock, i found out there was yet another woman, and both of them had been hanging on thinking he was going to marry them. fact you feel you are lucky to see through this mm, three years is long, but it’s better than “longer” period of time to know this person well. you hear the hate which they talk about the side chick or the other woman. we live in the same building,,,try to work things out…but in the end he is a dog…now that i told his wife, i don’t care what she does with the information…i decide to see a counselor for the pain he has cause me…how the mm took it, he threatened me in front of his wife and neighbors, which i don’t care…i been talking to my neighbors, which some told me he been cheating on his wife for years…. my married man of 3 years used to say the same to me! my married man and i have had the greatest time together. at about 3 in the afternoon the following day i could hear celebrations at his place as i was driving pass and to my surprise it was the man that i had loved and had been faithful to for years. depend on him for love and if you’re not married just trust in god and leave this man alone. january of this year, i finally gave him “my” deadline (all the others were the ones he “made up”) of march 31. i’ve met my married man, my soulmate, the love of my life more than four years ago. i smiled, he bowled me over…wish i’d ‘wasted’ 3 years on him! too deserve a happy and fulfilling life, with someone that is there 24/7 and who doesn’t sleep next to another woman plus lies, manipulates and makes you feel sad….’s ‘happily married’ likes being married, doesn’t want to leave his wife and yet here we are. were were friends on and off for 15 years before this all started. in the end the other woman gets hurt,sad and feeling isolated. they stay married because they have built a life together and it would totally be a mess if they split up. lastly, something i realized in myself and many of the ladies on here is that we miss our married men even more because of what they have now., i have been seeing a married man for about 8 mths and now 2 mths pregnant. i would like to say one more thing if, a married man, is so unhappy with his marriage, and tells you he loves you, its total lies, if hes so unhappy, and hes so in love with you he would leave, get real, its just plain sex, thats what they love, and if it wasn’t you it will be someone else, once a cheat always a cheat, girls dont lose any sleep, because they won’t over you . everytime i break up with him he’d say you can’t waste years of this relationship because of money. do have respect for my married man in the fact that he did not play mind game with me. relationships with married men are so painful, even if it starts off seemingly innocuous and fun and both parties “agree to the terms. i don’t know why i keep sleeping with a man who do not love me. he couldn’t find a job so eventually he moved away to another state for a new job about 2 years ago. i replied to his last friday afternoon texts saying ‘yes will have a lovely time, have fun with family and your laptop'(he works from home and i was off for a ramble and night at a spa hotel…not far from him and something i should be doing with him after all these years! i feel sad bc in the past year i’ve made some connections with friends at the gym but in order for me to separate i have to totally let everything associated with this man go. my husband was a cheater so why would i do that to another woman? i contacted him (i was married, ready to file for divorce), we met and i told him i didn’t want to see him again because i needed to figure out my own life. nobody knows the extent of our relationship he and i have said it many times that outside people who know just don’t understand don’t understand how we feel about one another. did i realise i was about to fall in love with this man and him me. i just want to to be that strong woman i always wanted to be and me leaving him is part of going on that path. my ex-married man, did the exact same thing to me after nearly 5 years. for every single one of us there is a new, bright and free future, with a man who will love us and for whom we will mean the world! i read your posts i feel so inspired but as soon as i face reality again i’m back to the pathetic needy mess i have become over the last 2+ years. your mm won’t cut ties as he is still using you mentally, just like my attached man. i haven’t had news from my married man since a month. my ex husband and i decided to call it quits after 7 years of being together and 1 being married (he was my high school sweetheart). we have gone nc many times , last one lasted 3 months. he text me from the pub…but he goes there as he likes the other guys and drinking…its nothing to do with escaping the gf as he has claimed for a few years as he doesn’t go until 10pm earliest and i know shes in bed when he goes for a pint or 5! amanda, when i was reading your story, i started crying! i’m tired of being the woman he uses for masturbation. he has manipulated (brainwashed) you into believing every single lie he’s told and it will only get worse with time..There is no future with a married man wishing all the time. 15 years because i’ve worked in the same building as her and her husband (my boss/the ex-narc). well one day out of the blue (i was doing well without him, i am the one who broke it off) he left a message on my vm that he was getting married. that you’re not in love with the real man. i just want you to be open to the possibility that this man is not the man you thought he was and that’s the reason why he doesn’t care. anyone know how i can break away from this relationship with a married man as nicely as possible but he can still be part of my life because of work? i broke up with my married man for 2 months now.’m with a married man for more than a year now and he has been marrie for a year and a half. you are right…we have always been the 2nd option to the married men. do things you couldnt while you were seeing the married man. so we have no contact for a few weeks, he neither phones me (never does, i phone him when he is ‘free’ so i’m not on his phone bill bet many can relate to that! this endless cycle of making up and breaking up is the most dreadful and soul destroying aspect of an affair with a married man. two years later, i am still putting my life back together. he was very good at making everyone believe he was an honest, moral and decent man. you must love him, otherwise you wouldn’t be sleeping with him because you know he’s another woman’s husband. because he could not muster the courage to do the right thing until now, he let me down so many times that i did not have much hope anymore. i know, chances are, many of you don’t think the narcissist applies to you or your relationship (i was there … i know how you feel), but please just read the link below because it may just save you many years of unnecessary heartache and deep (usually incurable) pain. the moment you feel your married man is dicking you around, break up with them. i told him not to do this to another woman, but i don’t think that matters to him. i know that this – not being with a him or any other man who is not mine – is the best best decision for me. our 3 years together is exciting and electrifying but lately we have lots of fights he is blaming me that even the smallest things is already a big issue to me. i wish i could get him out of my life but it’s so hard…he said he will divorce his wife but he is still legally married to her till now…. the only way you can begin self-care is by removing the married man from your life. in january 2016, i finally managed to put an end to sleeping with the married guy. after the christmas holiday, i told him i didn’t want to continue anymore and i managed to put a stop to it for a few months. but you will managed, you can’t believe it now but you will. i’m sure most of us can relate to when we were not even close to being in a position to thinking about another man, let alone going out with one! i was in a scary ‘relationship’ and suffered many hardships with my bf at the time whom i’d only been with a few years. i never wanted him to leave her we would talk 3 or 4 times a week but only see each other once or twice a month cause of how far he lived away. the last two years i have had so many arguments about the situation with him, told him i want to be loved and made to feel special… he tells me he knows… he tells me he wants things to change too… i like to think after all these years i know him well, and i do feel sorry and sad for him too, i know we both want to be together, but it hasnt happened properly in 10 years… so my heart and head tell me i need to leave this situation as its affecting the person that i want to be…. it is so hard and painful to let go of the man i still believe to be my soulmate and the love of my life. i’ve fallen so deep for this man that i dont want to be with anybody but him. many people tell me not to say anything to his wife, but i did to give me some peace. i was involved with a married man for nearly 5 years, so i know pain and suffering, and i know how hard it is to get away, but you have to start someplace and i’m doing my damndest to lead all of you in the right direction. the potential in reflecting on your own marriage and deciding if you can love that man again. they had been married for about ten years when i met him.. these are not the actions of a man that cares, he holds on for someone to lean on, but at this very moment he is happily at home with his daughters and partners, and will never ever admit it. if someone sees me from the outside, they would see a confident, assertive and happy woman. missing someone while you can’t do anything about it, especially when that someone has left you to choose another woman – his wife. own survival is crucial, and if you do happen to fall in love with a married man, there are several hard truths you need to know. so many times i tried to make my married man feel jealous by telling him how me and my husband had a romantic night but he was totally unperturbed, whereas i couldn’t tolerate that he goes close to his wife even for a day! but i’m not carrying on being a secret, i deserve a man who can love me 100% of the time, as we all do. i know my married man loved me truly and during the time together, i couldnt complain any bit about how he treated me, we were in love head over heel. that said, i’m going to post this link:And hopefully it will bring insight to many of you looking for help and/or wondering why. he’s capable of manipulating me in the best possible way and every single time i fall for his manipulation.
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now i’m like an obsessed, insane woman checking my phone every ten minutes for a message. he says to me i ask too many questions (when i ask what he is doing on weekends etc). i wasted two years and a half of my life and god knows if i could’ve met my husband. the few of us who have read this website never, ever, wanted to believe this was who our married men were, hell sometimes i still find myself questioning if it’s true, but that’s only during my down times. he is another woman’s husband; he stood in front of his family and friends and vowed to love her forever. they have observed us and know what most ,not all woman are like when in love. the only women a man doesn't leave his wife for, are the ones. the guy who will truly love you one day will make you feel like the best woman in the world, not make you lose yourself and cry harder than ever. i’ve met a couple of men i liked who were single, but they turned out to be players who want to be with many women. when things got tough, when i made demands or needed explanations for poor behavior, they left and just moved on.’m 51 years old and have been in an affair relationship for 4. a real man, in real love would not cause the kind of heartache and pain we have all felt. maybe your prayers are being answered by finding this site and now it’s up to you to decide if you’re truly ready to see your entire relationship with the married man from a completely different perspective. nobody knows he’s married they just know i have a “boo” i think i’ve falling in love with him and i don’t know what to do . whether it is because of all the legal and financial problems attached to divorce, religious beliefs or the fact that they have become comfortable with their marriage the way it is -- or even because they still have a certain affection for their wives, men rarely end up with the other woman. they’ve been happily married for about 6 years and their daughter adorable. suddenly, having to deal with his less-than-mediocre married life has become less bearable than having to deal with a whiney side object. on one hand it makes me feel less alone in loving a married man, on the other hand the pain that all your words are drenched in is so heart wrenching. why do you leave the door open for the married man? i have a strong connection with my man and don’t know how to give up my best friend.. i'm exhausted from this, utterly utterly exhausted (it's funny as thought this earlier before buying the book…and in the book…tudor mentions when you realise he's a narcissist or has some of the many traits, you'll suddenly feel exhausted! it’s no wonder you’ve been going through what you have been for 9 years. years the lies are so bad just to see me…. so many of you have been saying about how your married men are back with their families and are happy and are having babies and forming stronger bonds with their spouses. q&a articles search search go q: if you're dating a married man will he always say what you want to hear and never leave his wife to start one with you?’ve been reading several articles about breaking up from an affair with a married man…. the catch is, if he reaches out to you, he knows that you are demanding more -and he doesn’t want to give you more..natural and we share so many of the same interests and and and. this person has stolen 12 years of my life that i can never get back. if this man is showing any signs at all of dysfunction, it’s simply not a good, healthy relationship for you. have gone back on my word , all the comments i have made, my married man has been in contact with me, he asked me if i would let him stay with me for the night, as his wife is away for a few, days, and haven’t had the chance to do this very often in the 5 years, so stupidity, i said yes, we arranged that he would come when she had rung him , which would have been about 11. flash forward, fell in love via internet with hometown friend 3k miles away. i know i will never get involved with a married man again and i know what i deserve now. still try to move on but if i only knew why my married man dumped me, maybe help me to stop thinking about him. i know it feels like it but you have so many people in your life that love you. i have been lying to everyone who is most important to me for 5 years. i have spent so many days with him, gave myself to him. few years ago, i wrote an article called how to stop cheating in a relationship. we have both fallen madly in love with each other and have the most amazing chemistry, but i am 11 years younger. i’ve seen him once properly in almost 3 months now…which helps too. i learned through my situation that the married man can learn to make his way back in even when you think it’s done forever, so it’s something to prepare for in order to not fail. good outcomes have been my friends dad fell in love 20 years ago, was an affair but he left her mum when she turned 18 and married to his ‘soulmate’ (they are a wonderful couple and my friend loves her dads wife to bits) for 20 yrs, they are still as close as ever. how blooming wonderful after 4 years of sadness, loneliness and just feeling terribly depressed…. we shared some many things in common and he opened to me about his past and i opened to him for the first time in my life.…i had totally forgotten how really feeling like a princess felt – this was it, a man all to myself. i originally posted a couple months back when i was feeling sad and lonely due to a change in my married man’s behavior. you imagine what it’s like to actually live with a manipulative liar that cheats so so easily? now i am wondering-does the fact that your married man was a narc make you all feel better, or worse? we’ve been together for 5 years and we have two beautiful kids together. you are a wonderful human being, make sure you stay strong, one day at a time, one step at a time.. the universe gave us many signs during our friendship, but we ignored them and carried on. i always judged women who had affairs with married men, and i know people who have never been in this situation who would say i deserve what i’m getting. is the note i sent to my married man when breaking up. you so much…my relationship with my married man sends me on drinking binges almost every weekend…i need to stop before i damage some organs in my body…i just cant seem to figure him out…i cant tell if he’s happy or unhappy with his wife…but i feel he’s comfortable…. i was dating a man for 5 months and only after breaking things off with him (something didn’t feel right) did i find out he was married. i had said the same things to him so many times, that it was almost starting to lose its meaning. four months doesn’t seem like a long time but we’ve spent at least 3 nights a week together (he travels for work) during that time, and are constantly in touch with each other. am also in love with a married man and i don’t know what to do. i was married for the first 6, i had never cheated before in my life, and i found it impossible to be so in love with my married man and going through the motions with my husband. because they are a married man having an affair they are narcissistic? in looking back, i understood that the two relationships prior to first meeting my married man in my twenties, both partners had betrayed me in our ‘committed’ relationships. you’re doing well liz after the 3 weeks, just remember, nothing will change, and even if you contact him, he’ll message back, you’ll feel happy, then angry…then sad with a heavy heart all over again. looking back, i see that my married man and i reconnected only a year after my marriage ended 2 years ago. 3 weeks after that i contacted again and met him twice for drinks and then it started up again for 2 months. i have three of the best teenage girls anyone can ask for, my regret comes now when after 28 years, my husband and i are now just co-existing.’s been really helpful to read your experiences, they’ve given me strength to stick to my guns and cut ties with the man i’m in love with. that letting go of an affair with another woman’s husband is painful, but you can put it behind you. here is his response to you:Yes, most married men who maintain long term affairs are narcissists., i don’t say this to give you “hope” that your married man will come back, i say it because, chances are he very well could at some point. changed my job and he said it won’t change anything between us but no more communication, nothing i could meet him maybe every two months for an hour,He made an excuse that he’s busy all the time and i was the one always understanding, till almost one month ago we had a plan to meet each other but he said he has something to do and try to manage time to be with me also, anyway it didn’t happened again and i was upset this time when he asked i said i canceled my medical appointment because i wanted to be with you and then he stopped talking to me! getting involved with a married man has taught me so many valuable lessons; however, i will never do it again. myself is involved with a married man for 3 and half years now trust me you made the right decision lonely weekends holidays i wish i had your courage to walk away i tried several times and he sucks me right back in yes we have great sex and hes very loyal to me in ways like texts all day long phone calls visits every month i was married 2 times and both failed so maybe im afraid of full commitment or just settle for someones crumbs but if i had to do it all over i would of never got involved with a married man he lives 2 hrs away from me and im a catch for my age and the same age as you just turned 47 this past week and feel the same way you do honey if he lied to you about the marriage hes a fraud and you mentioned you paid for everything hell no a man who cheats can at least treat you because all we are to them is there dessert best wishes to u be strong im gonna let loose soon new year and new phone number always helps. my ex-married man came across as confident, comfortable in his skin, charismatic, and made me feel like i was the only person in the room.. i wish i would have met you first because i never would have married her. he always insisted its me he wanted his life with, and no matter how many outs i tried to give him, he always assured me of his love and that the last thing he wanted was to watch me and my love walk away. i like many, never…ever thought i would be with a mm because like others i detested women who could do that. he has been in a sexless marriage for years bc he no longer has any physical attraction to his wife. everyone… after searching google, i came across this site on how to break up with a married man and started to read everyones comments. we see the perfect man (most the time) who makes us feel amazing. and yes, there are jerks and assclowns, and there are nice decent men who just happen to married. are so many beautiful and nice things in our lives, we just have to see and enjoy them again…step by step. my married man is also trying for a baby, so i can understand how that feels. in my case damn near 5 years, in his wife’s case, 18 years or so. been with him putting up with everything for 10 years almost…. are all human and we all need love and intimacy and to feel good about ourselves. for the first time in almost 3 years, i was having a normal friday evening, not one where i’m at home and the am is with his family…i had someone elses attention, and fully, no texts from the gf or worrying his dad will phone…. i had given my entire heart, mind, body, soul and spirit to this man and after shedding gallons upon gallons of tears and feeling the most excruciating heartbreak in my life, at 52 years old, the time had come. i know his children 13, 17 are important to him and i’d never ask him to disrupt them. we are in dysfunctional relationships but not every married man having an affair is promising their left arm to someone. want to end this affair because you know it’s wrong to cheat with another woman’s husband. i was indeed busy but my problem is, the busier i am, the more i miss that man. as much as i’m baffled with my attached man (i’m ‘forever waiting’, please excuse my spelling and general errors, its so hard to type on a mobile! i was in a 7 year long distance relationship with a married man and 7 years ago i broke it off. realised, i was smitten, and that i could love someone far more than the am man. these are cowards , if they truly don’t or can’t leave their wives get a prostitute and quite ruining good decent emotional woman’s lives. they are the ones who end up stuck in their unhappiness while we can break free and do have the choice to be happy again, with or without a man in our lives. all i can say is he was engaged, could have not got married to be with you and yet he did not., chasing and having sex with people you know are married or you are the married person in pursuit of the liaison the why is a huge question to ask yourself. the absolute turn about that a married man can affect, focussing totally on his family and leaving you wondering whether you ever even existed, is staggering. 15 months seems like a short time compared with some, at the same time, 15 months too many. i told him he’s married, we live in the same building and i kind know his wife. now i see that no matter how good they are and how sweet and good man they are.. i am amazed by the amount of women that are experiencing married men situations. i was on one and met a guy who had chased me for 6 years, although he is very laid back, i’ve seen him 3 times and its my escape for now, we don’t message much, but i forget my worries when i’m with him as he is so much younger and has a different outlook to life, which helps me calm down and distress. you’ll find several readers who are honest and strong enough to share what it’s like to date and break up with a man who is married. i’m close to his mates and his dad is aware of our affair and just told him no more babies but he is a man so didn’t cautian him or tell him he is wrong. just know how you as a woman would treat a man that you truly believed was the one… more than likely we wouldn’t let them just walk away. you know this isn’t real love, and you know the married man won’t leave his wife for you. i realise after 4 years my am constantly running his gf down is just a way for me to feel sorry for him, i can tell you something, i would be just like her if i had to put up with him too. trust me, it was the most painful, mind-boggling experience i have ever endured in my 52 years of life, and i have experienced abusive relationships in the past, but the most devastating thing about this one was the emotional abuse that he inflicted on my heart, mind and soul. a few months ago, a married man came to me (let’s call him david). decided on my 38th bday in august (last time i saw him) my 39th year was going to change…. he married his wife because she was from a rich family, same religion, state, everything. started seeing each other 8 months ago, it was always to be sex and he said he couldn’t make me any promises that was the mantra of our relationship.?I believe the ultimate lesson here is to love yourself more and more so that will not tolerate to be with an unavailable unfaithful man. the married man may have detached from you emotionally but that’s because their brain is wired differently to ours..and i am sure all of us before we met them, we were happy human beings with life in front of us being enthusiastic about many things. the game soon becomes a chore for him, and romantic interludes are just one more thing he "has to do. i think it is a brilliant idea to get pregnant again, i feel it’s one of the best ways to get over a married man. for some longer than others, but the only thing i want to tell you (and i broke up with my mm 3 weeks ago), you will be ok, i promise you will. i worked out of town and went home to find my husband had another woman living in my house. we are not dirty secrets, we are woman who deserve to be cherished and loved, dont ever settle for less than that. about 2 years ago, i met an older man (60 – i am 43), and he pursued me like crazy.) how did he expect us to live together and raise a child if he was married -no response. i met my married man i was married too- that was 7 years ago. you are so young, you have your life and an amazing man on the other side of this pain., sue, your story is mine, plus 10 years 😉 i have not read a story yet, quite like mine, until you. stay strong, surround your self with good people and don’t give up and don’t go back, i have gone back so many times, and then you have to start all over again. no matter how common it is to fall in love with and date a married man, it is degrading, dishonest, and disappointing. unfortunately, for many, they don’t get the lesson the first time, so they tend to keep repeating their dysfunctional behaviors. need to find some way to get out…this man is only thinking of himself…no phone, friends go some where even living in the street is better then the situation ur in… you left home at 18, do u have family members? i am not sure that my married man is a narcissist, i get confused because so many of the traits do not match what he is. i managed to ask for his number as he had mentioned previously a flat up for rent and i was looking at the time so used that as an excuse. i found his wife’s fb page and looked at everything they did together as family these last two years. from everything i have been reading (and thank you for sending the links because i am taking them to heart), i just can’t deny that he has too many similarities to one. you will be proud of yourself that you had the courage and dignity to stop dating a married man, and you will start readying yourself for a healthy new relationship. so, in turn, his apologies were actually his way of manipulating me further. starting to get this anxiety that i would go look for him and waited 3 hours to come out from lunch..It took me 6 years to realize i evolved my life around a married man who did and still does love but couldn’t give me a healthy relationship.. the needs of the many (namely, his family) will always outweigh your needs. of course i thought it was different, like many, but at least now i feel less alone.’t accept this married man’s phone calls, text messages, facebook popups, emails, facetime prompts, tweets, blog comments, or notes at work. he was engaged at that time but not married yet, we both knew it’s not gonna work but the emotion between us was too strong we couldn’t hold back. he was with me through my divorce after 27 years of marriage and now has when mia on me. was already jaded about married men on site because i met a guy i went on a date on and the next day, he refused to give me his last name. the married man who used to have his wife’s undivided attention might have to realize that he can no longer be the center of her universe and the relationship might become more of a struggle. he was supposed to come over so many times so that we can talk and he could tell me his plans and what’s going on but each time, he delays and delays and ends up cancelling which kills me. that i’m not enough i feel so stupid… he tells me the only reason he’s doing it is because he wants a sibling for his son his son will always come first because he will not loose him he’s not doing it for his wife but i’m not studip and i’ve said this to his face i don’t believe that bs reason, any way back to the advise i’m just trying to figure out how will i survived doing no contacts but having to see him at work everyday also people at work kind of know about us and i’m worried about them laughing at me typical stupid woman gets used, he gets to walk around being the big boss the one that gets what he wants and i’m the stupid laughable woman that put myself in this situation. know what true love is, and you also know that if the married man really loved you…he’d be with you every night. my mm basically doesnt want to do this anymore bc we are both married. how to let of someone you love: 3 powerful secrets (and 75 tips! laura, i knew my ex-married man for 10 years before ever getting involved. if i was as miserable as he has claimed to be for 4 years, and thought i’d found the love of my life, no way in this world would i let him go! then i got married to my on again off again bf while he was in korea and had never indicated he wanted more. the other woman is a intimate partner secondary source who is used purely to provide fuel (emotional attention) to the narcissist and most other women are dirty little secrets. it would not be malicious intent if there were a modicum of honesty to tell your so or have the character traits to settle for so little with a married person. that’s a long time you have been with this guy, ten years, whoa! time flies and as a woman we don’t have so much 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he has 3 other sons with 2 other women in past marriages. looking back i would have never married him in the first place. we still have opportunities unlike our married men stuck with their wives. it is scary how all our stories are the same…i have read so many posts here, and the foundations, evolution (of the story and us becoming ghosts of ourselves) and the end, when we end up being like we never existed, this is so cringing. been together for 23 years but married 17 years…we live in the same building…half of my neighbor knows he cheats for years…why she stay is the million question. ladies why do we find these relationships so intoxicating and give so much of ourselves and our loyalty to a man that not only does not deserve it but also probably doesn’t have much concept of it! man came to your life and treated you with cheating and lying. he made so many promises and set so many dates of when this would take place and when that would take place.. you will manage i promise but you have to do one thing everyday to leave that nightmare. caved and started having this affair with the married man two years ago. if i only knew at the beginning that falling for this man was going to turn my world upside down!. long story short, a married man persued me, we have what you would refer to as an online romance/affair/fling there really is no words to it. my beautiful married man whom i still sadly love so much.’d like to thank all of you for giving me strength to continue to stick to my guns and let my married man go! i believe that my married man was with me only coz he was alone in this city. i have a whole wonderful life to live without this married man! i’ve been sneaking around with this married man, ignoring my own husband who loves me more then anyone in this world., a few more things to add and hopefully you’ll consider … the loving words a mm tells you is a form of manipulation and brainwashing and this is why it’s so damn difficult to cut ties from him. i know some couples that haven’t been intimate in their marriage in 15 years or more! let him go eleven years ago, no contact , he shows up at my door. the many posts i’ve read on this site, as well as what’s happened to me personally, it’s clear that there have been numerous lies told, promises broken, silent treatments given, guilt-shaming, blame-shifting, false or vague explanations, etc. so both these married men want 2 women in their lives. i was with my married man 2 years and a half. i never wanted to be the other woman and i struggled for 4 years with this. after 3 or so months his wife left for texas and so it was like we were free to see each other again. 5 years later, i found out he had a girlfriend that he had for 2 years before he left his wife for me. he knows it and you would think a decent human being would not want to hurt you that way. you for being here, and sharing how difficult it is to stop dating a married man. i pray everyday that god brings me someone who loves me enough to put me first, because god knows, i put the man i love first. so all this bs of them leaving us alone no contact is just a way for them to emotionally manipulate us. i can understand your pain still being present 4 years later and i am so sorry you had to endure all of that which you did. i’m zooey i recently got involved with a married man when i’m also married we’ve been seeing each other for about 3 months until last week when he text me and said he valued his wife and jesus more and he is sorry. i just wish that i had been as open as i was in the letter years ago before he met his wife. as of my knowledge he had never met his wife in this 3.’s very strong of you to stop the physical relationship, something i tried many times. don’t get me wrong, i’m sure a lot of mm love their mistresses but they do something about it and don’t throw breadcrumbs and lies for years. the love of your life just might be a married man. dump that married man and live your life and find your own happiness with a guy for whom you will be a center of his universe. any one has the same feeling about their married men, or had, and can help somehow i will be happy to hear. in the past, when he had ended it, i had contacted him at 9 days after and then 3 weeks after that. because i have been in mine for 22 years and i don’t feel the love either. i didn’t even tell the mm i had feelings for him, i just knew that if i felt so strongly, i could not get married! he loves his wife and has stated it many times. have tried to end it so many times with my married man, even during the time things were great. this led to me developing huge feelings for him and he me, only problem is he is married with a new baby too. year together, i finally started putting my foot down and gave him a deadline and 3 days before the deadline, he stopped all contact with me. every time, and every day, they’d leave or come into the building together, they’d walk 3′ away from each other, neither of them talking, and both of them walking like soldiers., he started pulling back, saying doesn’t want to text so much any more, and has friended some very pretty younger woman on facebook. try to keep a journal where before you go to bed you write 3 good things that you are grateful for in your life. we cuddled for an hour on the sofa, on a sunday, like most the weekend when i’m usually alone, i had a lovely young man, in fact good looking and fit! but, you have to remember that when you date married men, you will get hurt. 17 years same man and we have a child together as well that nobody knows as i am married now too. you think your situation is unique and that he’s different than other married men, but they’re not. looking back now though, after nearly 5 years of having what i thought was the most beautiful, loving relationship i could have ever imagined in my life, i do have to wonder if it really wasn’t planned by him. likewise, if you think he will be happy if you have an abortion and its not what you want, you will hate him and yourself for putting yourself through that for a man who walked away and never looked back. a narcissists (please read poster ‘sharon’ and what she has to say over many threads and replies, a few below this one) will seek your attention in anyway they can and manipulate you. with all the technology out there, i am in my 50s, and can’t call the man who i write to everyday, and am in love with? reason he can stop thinking about you after 4 years is because: 1) he’s found a replacement and, 2) he never really loved you. you need to go no contact now because this man will destroy your life and steal your soul. it’s been over seven weeks now since i last spoke to my married man that’s almost two months! i can’t believe how much time and energy i wasted on this man. we fell in love, we are alike in so many ways. there’s something wrong about that sentence because no princess would be kept in the dark and be given such pain by a man..my married man was three decades older than me he is 54 and i’m 27 and his wife was my pastor. he always treated me well, totall gentle man but as time passed. it’s been 3 weeks today since i have seen him…. he is still infatuated by me all these years later and i am infatuated with him but feeling deeper feelings than he does. i am leaving mine so i know it is complicated but you need to make things straight, for yourself, your husband and the married man. somehow i remembered i got married, had children and told him he had the wrong house. when he told me that, i realized how devastating that would be if i had bumped into them, i don’t know if he really understood that initially, as he knows many people and many friends in his business,so he was covered. it’s early days (a few months) but i forgot what it was like having undivided attention of a true and single man who puts you first and can text and call anytime! maybe there is a chance that your married man isn’t a narcissist, but based on what we’ve all been through on here, i doubt it. just confused, i dont know if he needs time to think or if its another woman. healer i spoke to tied everything back to our relationship with our self and our souls, when our choices are lacking integrity or hurting and taking from others, our actions will inevitably block our path to wholeness because we have betrayed ourselves, and left a crack in our integrity with our choice to be with the married man. i changed my attitude towards him we got closer , i let him move in my room lol, we just got super cool & i thought to myself like this too good to be true, he has a great career, not bad looking to be 42, tells me he has a daughter , & a house in texas, i said if u not married your gay, he denied being married for another month or 2, finally wen were were drunk coming from brunch heading home to cook for our friends i got it out of him, he married❗️ it’s my fault cus i should’ve broke it off then (i’ve never dated a married man), but he was like my only person who supported my decisions, & i just felt like he has my best interest in things, didn’t break it off so we lived together for 6 months whom he was here working, motivated me to get back in school, work etc got me back on track, but i’ve been feeling depressed since he left 3weeks ago❗️ i’m getting better but we are fading away, i know i deserve better & today i plan to just loose all contact, we said we were going to text & talk everyday but he slipping up! i came out a difficult marriage and my married man has been unhappy a very long time in his.’ve been in a relationship with a married man for nearly 2 years and i’m devastated right now. he also told me so many lies like he wasn’t sleeping with his wife but i found out she had a miscarriage two weeks ago. it’s been almost 4 years for me but the first year i was with my ex. am currently involve with a married man for a year now. your man became distant as soon as he slept with you, it’s horrendous behavior but i guess it’s common enough. i am in the same boat i meet a man 18months ago at the time i didn’t know he was married has time went by he told me he is a carer for his wife and nothing more and now he’s doing slot more stuff with her and i need out but can’t do it i have no will power am getting very depressed x.. cried myself to sleep too many nights cos he was perfect. he was my manager at work and due to the nature of the business he was in i had met and spoken to his wife and kids many times. 10 years of my life; the longest, most involved and ironically, most satisfying relationship of my life. i had been with my mm for nine years myself, but i am married too so there was no question of leaving our spouses and kids, it was just that he completed me in a way my husband never could, and we were more of friends than lovers anyway. you actually spend you time chasing the am/mm (mine with his gf for 12 yrs so i say attached man), wanting their constant approval, apologising lots if you feel you’ve pushed them etcetc. it’s like two drowning people and you have both found the same life preserver and you feel alive for the first time in years. i’m a married woman having an affair with a married man. but in saying this you seem to be conveniently forgetting that many women having affairs with mm are also cheating on their partners! we lost contact, he remarried and a few years later, had a child at 50, with his present wife. can talk to many people who have experienced similar situations on my blog. struck a cord in my heart because he reminded me what it was like to actually be the only woman, even for that evening, that was a part of him…no wife or gf at home. my married man has 3 children, one of whom is autistic., if there’s anything i can say that will help, it’s to tell you to stop looking for love from a man who cannot and will not give it to you, the way he’s promised to do so many times. we spend so many days and nights together which makes so hard for me to let go. not every person is a good human being and there are lots of nasty people out in this world, who are just nasty and not necessarily have a personality disorder. there it all started… i knew he was married with one child. when i am upset or need support and i am not all fun and laughs and romance, he treats me with silence. my ex married man has no children and says he doesnt sleep with his wife bla bla. this is just one blog hg tudor has from an archive of many and i just felt like it was a good place for you to start. love yourself and you will learn and understand that you’re more than a man who wants you because he’s not confident enough or man enough because of his problems since childhood. although i am hurting i know that this would be my first and last time messing with a man that is in a relationship -married or not. no one knows about me, even though i saw his son many times on facetime. its been 34 days since i ended a 2 year relationship with my married man. i never thought i would see a married man but i fell for him and i wasn’t even looking for anyone at the time it was a complete surprise and i couldn’t resist him. a year later married man resurfaces ( there was rare but occasional contact, openly during my marriage) and we decide to meet. when you sleep with your boss, you entangle your love life with your financial affairs — and the best thing to do after you stop dating a married man is to get financially independent! my married man is my colleague and we work together in the same ward, thank god he is not my boss. the latest was in 2013 but still it can’t say anything if there is no latest photos. marries man said he wants to grow his children that’s why he stays (lame excuse really). welcome your thoughts on how to break up with a married man. this time i’m fighting with everything, every prayer, every blog post, every woman who has or is in the same situation. i am a strong, resilient 51 year old woman, but this situation has brought me to my knees, literally. had the exact same reaction when i read the many posts on this site. searching for what your life is missing – and it’s not a married man. hes just using you nothing more, lies lies lies, iv been there, if he really wanted you for real, he would leave his wife and all his commitments, , married men will say anything, to get you into bed, because in reality its all they are after, wise up girl, i did. he made it clear that we are both married and this is a distraction from current life. he plays in a band as an outside hobby, and is commited to many paid performances. i’ve asked him so many times to just “break up with me” but he never does – and this keeps me hooked and in love with him. i want you to get strong and be the woman you’re meant to be. in fact, i dont wish to live with my mm or another man if i dont have to. ex called me after not being in touch for years. yes, he works loads, but, he find a few hours for football matches during the season and i’m sorry but nothing is stopping him see his friends maybe every other saturday evening for a few hours (he manages the local pub for a few hours many times a week, he claims his escape and so he talks to people as he doesn’t talk to his gf he has a child with and works with 10 hours a day (! my married man broke up with me four times in the last two years, although he doesn’t really call it break up. created you to be a partner for a man who wants to spend his life with you, and who treats you with love and respect. years with a man i had known from work and became extremely good friends with, for the first 10 years previous to our relationship beginning. but im still sad, im sad because i will never get to be with my soulmate- my married man, the one who my heart skips a beat for. he lived with me for over two years but now his work is far again – from me and from his family. the least we deserve is to be broken up with in a kind manner. accidentally found site and the comments on how to end a relationship with a married man. what a dream after being tangled up in a pointless love triangle for so many years.’ve also been reading another website that calls the manipulation part as creating the soulmate effect.’s married, which might add chemistry and excitement to your affair. have to make up your mind because it will be you in a few years telling others that you’re the side chick of a mm for over 10 years.’ve been with a married man for the past 5 years. fell for it and 20 years later here i am heartbroken…low self esteem. that goes to show what is important to you (wanting to be a mother, i’m 38 and in the same place as you probably read) he doesn’t really care. how many of these married men do you think have done that? i am a married woman having an affair with a married man. there are many other short blogs by this author and it would do you a world of good to educate yourself on what you’re truly dealing with. it’s not just married men, it’s all men who don’t know how to behave decently and empathically and do the right thing , however uncomfortable it may feel to do it. i never would have thought or considered being with a married man. i can’t even explain the hell you go through as ‘the other woman’. he can say he loves me and he hasn’t felt like this in many years.’s a good man, i know that he really don’t want to hurt me and his family but it already happened. we both know the pain these man have caused, just as much as everyone on this thread, but the more people like you and i who are willing to come together and help each other, is the most empowering and rewarding thing we can ever do. yes, i miss him and yes i get lonely but i keep coming back to this site and reading about the pain and heartbreak and i don’t want that anymore…i wish you great happiness with the right man. she is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together. ive been there and we tried many times to break up but didnt work until his wife found out about us the 2nd time. 5 years, i was always the love of his life, he had never met anyone like me, i was his one and only true love, he couldn’t live his life without me, i was everything “beyond this earth” to him, and all of those words and so much more were said to me the night before he quit talking to me. now i think, it’s so easy for him to seduce and manipulate me because he is my boss..questioning his whereabouts and all along he is still living with his wife……i loved this man so much but i knew in my heart the truth. tonight i did speak with my married men and i was like a crazy women for a solid hour and i told him it was over and he begged me to give him one last chance & that he will do his best by me and he knows he has treated me badly and it’s going to stop. do not share time with married or otherwise involved men.. towards beginning of our affair we both were ok with the fact that we are married and cant leave our families but we still want to b together. he has been married for 8 years but no children, every time he mentioned about his wife he was sad and always portrayed that there was nothing between them. edit question flag as scandalous question anonymous asked this expert i am sorry to have to be the one to break it to you, but dating, sleeping with, or being involved in any way with a married man never, ever works.