Dating a married man for 3 years

Dating a married man for three years

my married man, he is married to the one he loves, spending time with her, having a baby with her, building a life with her, everything is smooth. and if the man is worth it, the most we should do is give them a second chance if we have both agreed to change the unhealthy patterns and behaviors. too had a year long affair with a man here at work. that day he got married i had spent the previous night at his place and he still did not tell me. i thought he was a widower when i met him, he failed to tell me he had remarried immediately after his wife passed away. anyway, you will be blown away by what you learn about your married man and yourself. i would end up spending years of my life with a man who in reality is never going to leave. on the flip side, he leaves in the early morning hours at least 3 times before i wake up. my married man even came to a wedding with his partner in my city, and low and behold, the wedding was held at my athletic club a km from my house! he would say, "i love you, please wait for me," "i will marry you because you're the woman i've waited for all of my life. i promise you, you’ll begin to get reacquainted with the woman you have been missing for so long. broke down and cried once today, but every time i go to do it again i have to keep reminding myself of how many lies i have told over the years. he said ‘and you still say you won’t move down my way and in with me which blah blah blah and i have a network down there and family blah blah’ – i said ‘there you go again, we will talk about where we live after you have left your gf and we have established a solid and real relationship and you’re talking years down the line, stop talking about where i’m going to live as at the moment and it always has been a fantasy, your fantasy ‘ i said leave her before you even think you can push me into where i live! you need to go no contact now because this man will destroy your life and steal your soul. i saw him and had a huge crush on him but found out he was married so i forgot all about him. it’s the happiness you derive becoz the guy dumped you to get married to the other girl and when he says he misses you u think you are the priority in his life and you mean the world to him. i am sorry to read so many women are still going through this on top of the new ones being sucked into it daily. he used to socialise with his friends and his gf lots (the first 2 years we were together, which i accepted)…but then they moved from the edge of the city to the end of the peninsula which is just hard to get too and not somewhere you can pop too. it doesn’t matter if you’ve been with this man for 3 months or 10 years, if you have been dealing with a narcissist, you need to start by being patient with yourself right now. after he left, i heard nothing from him for two weeks but found out he had gotten married! we have had many fights, many situations where we could have torn apart. when he realized i was no longer playing by his set of rules (manipulations), he discarded me out of the blue. there is a world outside of the circle in which your love for your married man is holding you captive and the door is there for all of us to walk out. i know he loves me, he’s cried so many times about the situation, but i believe if you really genuinely love someone you’ll do almost anything to be with them…marrying someone else is going to guarantee we’ll never be together. for all the crazy thinking we find ourselves having and the self loathing that comes, this is the addiction, the insane thinking, the attachment to the married man. he still denies it today that they live as man and wife but when i ask to see the divorce papers that were signed a few months ago he refuses and he refuses for me to meet his son. because i finally moved on from my married man at one point in life. i truly believe this man loves me deeply, which is also why it’s so hard to let go because i can’t let go of the hope i hold onto that he might still come back some day. he’s been married to the same woman for the past almost 18 years they have four children together. am a doctor(not a psychiatrist but a medical one) and i got my degrees by working hard and studying for years, you cannot become a doctor by reading on the internet and forming your opinions. i’m 52 and, although there’s 25 years between us, we have both been deceived and put through an immense amount of heartache and pain.. i have been seeing this married man for 2 years now, i am also married with two kids and a very good husband. i can’t imagine what you must be going through after 15 years. but the mask of deception fell off 33 days ago when he took his wife on a romantic weekend away to london. lot of people can say all the negative things they want about getting involved with married men/women, but in the end, i believe we all (hopefully) learn valuable lessons. the bottom line is you’re being abused (emotionally brainwashed and manipulated) and so is she.. he is a best friend of a family member of mine and he is married with a baby, i on the other hand should know better as am six years older than him, and have teens and am single, my choice split from the kids dad a year and half ago, never the right relationship for either of us. many of us have, it is tough, it hurts every day, but this is doable. just last week, when we were together someone texted him, a woman. i started seeing my married man again after swearing off 10 days ago. finally, after over 2 years of emotional turmoil, i was finally happy with a guy who treated me better than anyone else. the longer you keep cheating with another woman’s husband, the worse and more degraded you will feel…. recently after a 2 year relationship broke off a relationship with a married man.: cheating husbandshow to break upleaving a man you loveletting go of someone you lovelong term affairstoxic relationships.. i know one thing though, no man has ever treated me like this before. feel i am in love with this married man, in the beginning he will call me often but those calls and texts have been little. it was a 10 year relationship… she knew, she found out about me long back, he made her call me and she said she would divorce, its 4 years and he didnt do it. if u are single dont you ever date a married man. they fall into a pattern of being “friends” or “roommates” my married man was even moved into his own bedroom by his “wife”. i see this man as my soul mate and love of my life, but i’m laying here alone in bed crying and writing this. she started a few years ago realizing how different she looks compared to her brother and dad. his current wife was not able to have children for the longest and in december 2013 she found out she was pregnant with her miracle baby. we would share stories (he was cheating before with other women), and he would even give me advice on my failed romances. last thing my coffee partner said, was not to idealize the relationship, or the married man. i’m 19 years old and i am involved with a married man. i’m 51 years old and i may have taken an unpopular path to learn these lessons, but i wouldn’t change a thing and i don’t feel stupid. we have parted for 3 months already but i cant seem to bear the pain, i cant get myself used to it. years in) but this summer and for the 3rd time he told me to move on as he lost his job and was trying to build his business with his gf to cover the loss of earnings. i know you have put great faith in mr tudor, the narcissistic sociopath, to explain away all our married men. been in an affair with a married man for 2 and half years. what started out as innocent flirting turned out to be a “love story” i have no doubt in my mind that this man truly cares for me i mean after all i am the mother of his child. to know he got in his own bed, without another woman naked too next to him that night just highlighted all that was wrong seeing someone attached. anyway this man that was pursuing me i finally gave in around may of this year and i’m embarrassed and ashamed to say we had online sex. while my story started slightly different, the communication and breakups with my married man were the same as you. without this site i’d have caved in, especially when i am pretty much going through hell at the moment with work and finance (my ex-am used to help towards the rent and i only got this flat because he could stay here 2 days a week and pay 3rd of the rent which was the agreement)…. about 2 years ago she saw the phone bill and called me. our affair started 13 months ago, his pregnant wife and children had moved out and he was pretty lonely, he was my boss and we got on so well, honestly i thought we could be the same person. as someone who is/also dated a married man with 2 kids i can totally relate. after you start to come through the grief, you will be grateful to no longer be trapped in the hell of searching for articles on how to break up with a married man. did this with married man of 3 years and when i broke up with him i almost felt nothing ! i don’t sleep, i have to hear about him through friends and colleague (apparently he is doing good and making a fortune on his business…but claims to me, as he has done for years, that he can’t leave as he can’t take a salary from it or his partner…. did a little digging and found out that guy was married. 10 years of friendship, 3 years as lovers, supporting him through his father’s death, through his own illnesses, and this is the result. it’s not specifically about breaking up with a married man or getting over an affair with another woman’s husband, but it will help you move forward in your life. had the same issue with my married man, i met him at work he was my boss, after six months he said he fell in love with me and the same with me, he was everything i wanted, he gave me attention, love and respect for 5 months and then started to change his behaviour. but life got in the way, he had too many stresses and he couldn’t continue. there is something intoxicating about a man in uniform and in power. i am a beautiful, vibrant woman who has so much to give to people who deserve it. no man is worth it (nothing in life is either). share with you your pains too and i think you are a very strong woman. you, i live 8 hours from parents, brothers too, friends dotted around and manage to keep myself busy enough and usually have a flatmate here 3 days a week (my ex-am friend and my colleague funny enough, without his bit of rent, i’d have lost my home too…. tomorrow marks one month that i ended things with my married man. nine years, five years, 2 days is time we can never get back, but hopefully we can learn something valuable from all we’ve been through. i’d say let his wife have his sorry ass, she, poor woman, is stuck with him while you are free if you can just see it as freedom. don’t even want write much about this married man anymore. the reason we are in a mess emotionally is because we are in relationships with married men, not necessarily because they are narcissists., we were messaging up to 11, then he stopped answering, and noticed he wasnt looking at my messages, and then noticed he had un installed the app, as i kept sending messages, i haven’t heard a word since, absolutely nothing, i even said just message me, to let me know what has happened, for peace of mind, but nothing, iv been strong with the no contact rule, but stupid me , went back on my word, i just cannot believe a man can do such a thing, in so hurt, and have spent most of the day crying, how cruel, can a person be, i feel he has just played me, for the fool that i am, my feelings at the minute is also anger, to tell his wife , as i have pictures etc, to prove everything, but whats the point its obvious, its his revenge, for me ending it in the first place, so now i can see what a weak narssic man he is, hasn’t got the guts to say sorry but iv changed my mind, well iv definitely made up my mind no more married men they are the pits, if i had stayed strong, i wouldn’t be having this hurt and humiliation, and the trouble is most of them get away with it.! i am just 20 and u got involved with a married guy who was working with me. so, are most married men who maintain long term affairs narcissists? is married with adult children, and i am married with children myself. back now, after 6 months of being away from the married narc (mn), i see clearly where he played mind games on me during the entire 4. he married 3 times and cheated on all 3 wives…he not a winner. years…he still sleeps next to his gf and i’m not a part of his life…lets not talk about feeling hurt as i win hands down! i want to be “the woman”, not the other woman. it hurts not just you, but many others, including the wives and girlfriends. to break up with a married man and heal your heart. i never, ever thought i would end up with him because he was married, but i knew if i had such strong feelings for him, i could not be with my boyfriend any longer. the lies, deception and constant disappointment of having an affair with a married man was awful. lied and said he had a bbq and couldn’t drive back because was drinking…i can’t quite fathom how after 3. you need to see yourself like the strong woman you are, you have a nice job, people listen to you, try to see who you are for others. have written before how my married man and his wife are expecting. my mm was all the good qualities you can hope for in a man multiplied by a million. i think it was just, like all the rest of these attached and married men, they deny a normal life at home but it’s exactly what they have, and why we get pathetic little breadcrumbs. in those 4 months, i was doing counseling with my husband, when he decided he didnt want to go to counseling anymore and got verbally and emotionally abusive, i ran back to this man. i’d rather be me and walk away/him ignore me than the woman doing his washing, cooking, childcare, working flat out on the business (he’s a bully when it comes to that after all his business stories, i can see why the ex wife went mad in the end) then returning home to clean and iron his clothes…. he got married for the wrong reasons and i told him. i was in the same situation (deeply in love) for nearly 5 years. after all, our relationship didn’t start out by my looking for a married man and i wasn’t stepping on anyone’s toes by getting involved with him.’s like when you’ve played a game too many times and you lose interest, completely. you deserve a man to mess up your lipstick not mascara. i mean has he been living under a rock the last 2 years? i am going on 18 years and our daughter will be 16 this summer! this is the second time i reconnected with my married man, the first was 35 years ago. she probably is an awesome person, who is unfortunately married to a dick who should be thankful for what he has, but has probably already headed out to find the next poor gal to enjoy the hours of 3:30-5pm with. is not an excuse for them and no woman should stay in a relationship like this. single one of us, whether you choose to believe it or not, had major emotional mind games played on us (some still being played), and manipulations that go well beyond normal. like you all, i am a smart woman doing something so stupid. i had 14 years of settling for bits and pieces of a life. over an affair with a married man won’t happen overnight. i have been seeing my married man for over two years now as well and have talked to him every single day. i’m 24, and he is more than 10 years older than me. it’s not romantic, sexy, or charming to help a married man cheat on his wife. after our closeness he started to back off, hot and cold and this is when i started to get depressed and i started to make demands from him.. these are not the actions of a man that cares, he holds on for someone to lean on, but at this very moment he is happily at home with his daughters and partners, and will never ever admit it. when we are older and married, we are bound to that relationship legally and everything we have worked so hard for our entire life can go poof, or we lose half of it…so we stay and numb ourselves into believing this is the way it will be. over the last two years, he would just suddenly pull away in response to something i may have said that he doesn’t like to hear, mainly about himself. there are so many things this man gave to me that i absolutely want in a relationship and i know i deserve, but because of that, i also know now that i will never settle for less than being someone’s number one! there are many other short blogs by this author and it would do you a world of good to educate yourself on what you’re truly dealing with. were friends,for a few years before it started,and i was recently divorced. do something else tomorrow, anything fun, cancel the married man! it does not matter what i'm reading about…so many traits and stories are him, and what he has done and said to me and his gf (we are both played) and now i reckon the poor ex wife…no wonder she's a little crackers, i feel sometimes i may join her! after many sleepless nights, feeling horrendous, i was really good and didn’t contact him (yes i keep checking my email but at least didn’t reach out! i finally had to accept the fact he was not going to leave his wife and that i could easily wake up in another 3 years still in this sad excuse of a relationship and still waiting. i am a smart woman…a business owner…i have raised 3 college graduates…i am no fool…but when it comes to this relationship i am lost! from my experience, my married man ended things with me twice and that feeling of being let go and abandoned is absolutely awful. if you think the married man in your life isn’t a narc, think again. i am sorry to have loved a man who wasnt mine, or who will never be. the married ones who do get back with us will do so temporarily because they miss us or we coerce them to, but the same pattern will play out. then he claimed which he has for almost 2 years is they don’t have sex, again complete lies as if my bf stopped trying i’d think he was having an affair! it feels like death how this man is hurting me. the website i gave you will tell you many times over and over again, what going back to him will do for you and for him. not to him or any other man who’s not mine. i thought our relationship had happened naturally; after all, neither one of us ever showed any type of attraction towards each other in the first 10 years before the affair. neighbor has been and still cheating on his wife…in face throughout their relationship…they been married over 17 years but together over 23 years…since dec 18 i have been talking to my other neighbors, and to realized it is a common knowledge he’s a cheater…. if he was the love of your life, he would not keep you aside for 5 years . i wanted to text him so many times before and never did but yesterday i was weak. look at us all, all of us in the same pain, they rarely chose the other woman. has been the best article so far i read about how to break up with a married man.'ve been in a relationship with a married man for five years. there was nothing that he wouldn’t do for me and i never, ever felt like the other woman. of course i realise now there never was a future so he has spent 4 years carrying on with his life as it would have been without me on the scene – all our mms etc have done exactly this. and this is the problem with us women, we are empaths and caring people, we may go in thinking we want what the man wants and that we can handle it, but we can’t. the woman says she is not interested in sex anymore. my uncle had a short affair with my aunt and left his first wife for her…45 years of marriage later, 2 kids and 3 grandkids and still very happy. the pain is unbearable, and we will all be miserable without a chance to meet “the one” until we let the married man go. i know you’ve given me many reasons to be happy when i’m with you, but the guilt i feel after our encounters has become insurmountable to me. that you are letting go of a man who doesn’t belong to you. i’ve been dating a married man for the past three months.

Dating a married man for 3 years

when mc went to iraq he met a woman over there kept it from me and me from here..funny enough, i called an ex colleague who lives in germany who i haven’t talked to in months, ended up letting her know about my mm. have been involved with a married man for almost 12 years. you said you don’t miss your married man and it’s not regret, but if isn’t that, then what is it? but after reading so many posts, and seeing how eerily similar many of our experiences are, i can’t help but wonder if what you say is true. i’ve been having a affair with a married man for 7 years! broke up with my married man of a bit more than 2 years. i think he loves the idea of a younger woman to control. met my married man a few years ago, we clicked i knew he was married from the start, nothing was to happen until 4 years later. married man was a very decent person, he was so good to me for eight years that words would fail me if i tried to describe it. i used to go on this roundabout with my married man also, the jealousy and the hurt and the wife sticking to him all the time. experience after being in a relationship with a married for 6 years left me more lonely. he humiliated her, demeaned her and ridiculed her for years before i became entangled in his fantasy life. if you had asked me a few years ago whether i could imagine him being even a tenth as nasty and cruel, and be so disrespectful and dishonest, i would have said never. and i picked myself up and moved on and became successful and after 20 years that first love came back to tell me he really loved me and wonders about a life with me. i knew that if a man claimed to love me as much as he did, he would not let me be alone when i was going through one of the most difficult things in my life. he’s still living happily with another woman, he’s doing fine without me, he doesn’t bother to show me his love, nothing matters anymore.! i am new here and involved with a married man, but hopefully not longer. you are a very brave women and you are facing the breakup after 9 years of relationship. it’s been 11 days since i heard from him and the last email from that time said “thank you for being with me and being a sexy beautiful woman…” hate feeling like at this age i am being used…even though i thought i could handle it. i do think men manage to just drop one thing to move on to the next more easily than us, but i also think it comes back like a boomerang to the them one day, while we took longer to heal but we will heal in the long term. for years he told me repeatedly how he doesn’t want more children, and would always say that he was planning to leave ny as soon as his kids are done with high school., i can’t express enough how important it is to read up on the possibility of your married man being a narc.. i am married, no kids, have an extremely loving husband but still i fell for this married man at work whos quite elder to me. i’ve been a psychotic mess over my married man. i’ve really got to focus on whats happening now at work, but my life has changed so dramatically in the past 3/4 mths, it’s all shocking. if you can learn what you’re looking for, you’re one step closer to knowing how to break up with a married man. because of many factors, they have many outside interests, and don’t share outside passions or interests. decided to make this comment because i’ve read so many posts about “the wife” being the problem (obstacle, barrier, etc. a side note: he used his daughter because he knew it would keep his game intact for years, whereas he couldn’t make it about his wife because then he’d have to make a choice. i sincerely felt like the time i was with my ex-mm, especially in the beginning (first 3. on one hand, i want to let go, to forget my married man, to just sweep away all the memories, but on the other hand, im also afraid to let it go. what hooked me hard one time was seeing my married man cry because he said he couldn’t leave wife and family and wanted to provide for me as the love of his life, but couldn’t as he felt bad abandoning innocent people. aren’t proud of dating a married man, and you know it’s destroying your spirit and soul.! words have been used forever to manipulate women wether the men are married or single. if the conditions in the marriage are shaky, then the spouse is vulnerable to another human being meeting the needs they have been missing. it’s been over a month since my married man decided to cut contacts with me. we may hate the wife because we are in competition with her for her husband, but believe me she is just an ordinary woman like us with dreams and aspirations and faith in this man she is actually unfortunate to be married to. i am surprised that he even found my email address, as he only ever emailed me once and that was years ago. feel like i am reading my story only that is been happening for me for two years. because i’ve moved on from my married man once in life and was great then fell back years later when we worked together again. the beginning of an affair is romantic and naughty at the same time. for years i’ve put this off and stuck with the am…. you fell prey to this man because you were broken. this point, i honestly can’t say whether this man truly loved me or not, but i can say without hesitation and doubt that i do love myself and i am getting stronger by the day. about a 16 year long affair with possibly a child with him, he wasn’t married when it started, he is military, he honestly is the only man i’ve ever allowed my heart to love. marine/cop working long hours…so the work, wife and lover became to much for him to manage. years, he said that was different she is not ‘new’ – the absolute bloody cheek of it! try to be honest with yourself, i know it is hard, but 5 years and no decision ? he has married three other people, but never wanted to fully be with you? when we start making demands, the affair becomes yet another struggle they cannot cope with because that is the type of men they are. vulnerable and lonely, i was shocked that this very good looking man wanted to hang out with me and seemed genuinely interested in the work i was doing. i wish i could tell every woman that is doing this to stop. told me he was happily married he didn’t want to leave her. i don’t understand if the last 2 years mean anything to him? and your purpose is definitely not to satisfy some man who isn’t willing to change his life for you right now, no questions asked. it’s as if you were describing my situation though in my case there are children involved and my married man is very involved in their lives. should i tell her wife what a type of man she married to. he was attached but not married then ( same person) and it was intense, an extremely comfortable connection but i broke it off after i learned they were expecting a baby. what i did till i knew how to live without my married man. i know that feeling all too well, as i went back to my married man twice. i’m stunned by the similarity- it’s as if these men have all read the same manual, isn’t it? i tried to get stronger each day, and felt refreshed and proud of myself, i felt sad a few times but was too angry things had come to this after 3. it was definitely hard for my married man to get me entangled in this mess. i put my foot down and said hats it i’m telling her -you’re my man. i became involved with a close friend who was a married man after i divorced. i have started dating again and although i feel lost and odd, after 3 years of being alone, it’s nice to say i’m off out tonight on a 2nd date with a single (younger too! negative i don’t know what to do now after 16 years together it’s like the divorce you never asked for. married man told me everytime we split up he was so depressed he didn’t want to go on, he started trying to find a way to make more money, so he could leave, but i can’t be a part of that. but on easter sunday, after nearly 5 years of being together, i received his usual, loving, good morning message, yet it was as if he had copied and pasted the message a previous message. thought i’d say hello and thank you all as ever for your wonderful comments on breaking up with a married man. just feel so stupid but i’m not strong enough to let go of this married man… he treats me like crap and i know it. this is one of the best tips on how to break up with a married man: cut off all contact and leave him alone. maybe you are not in love with your husband, but eventually, you would see the other man for who he is too. saw a video my married man shared on instagram, he was at concert. i was going to end it when he told me he was married and gave me his sob story. you should reply to jessica on this post, she is contemplating having an abortion for a mm, at least she should see that its not easy and how a man just moves on. about 2 years ago she saw the phone bill and called me. and he didn’t even think that i deserve a decent breakup after bring together 9 years, he broke up by text with me two months ago. and, even if he does leave her, you will always be the "other woman". i am at day 5 of nc and it is probably the hardest day thus far…but i do see glimmers in the mirror of the woman i once was…strong, confident, at ease, calm,peaceful (because i am not waiting to hear from him every second of my life anymore) i have begun to look at my role in this relationship and found that i have been looking for someone to fix me…so i am learning to fix me and be there for myself first! i don’t regret messaging him as he was great getting an ambulance out to me, but as he said all he did was make a phonecall…how very sad after almost 4 years he wasn’t here to pick me up when i left hospital dizzy, confused and in need of some care. many of us have tried many times to break things off and don’t succeed at first, second, 3rd, 4th or even 5th time tries and the reason is because there’s an addiction that has to be broken through education and extreme help (therapy and prayers). my ex-mm never came across as controlling to me, but when you are in love, many things are blinding. any of you have read my posts in regard to the narcissist website then you’ll know that i sincerely believe many of the married men we’re entangled with are full blown narcissists.. the one post that hit home very hard and made me gulp and feel tearful was 'in love with a married man' – it's amazing how one page essay compiled of simple, clear and concise paragraphs say so much. maybe he is and maybe he isn’t, these married men don’t really let on how they feel about you. the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. everything i read says to cut off all communication with the married man in order to heal, but how do i do that when we have a child together? never imagined i would ever be with a married man, but in a blink of an eye, 4 years later and i am left feeling so utterly lost and alone. or maybe deep down you secretly enjoy the secrecy and lies, dishonesty and pain of having an affair with a married man. week before last i was going out of my mind about this guy and did read your post many times to real in my besottedness (is that a word? they love the attention, that another woman out there wants them, craves them, needs them and they love that relationship, i will let her have me when i want to let her have me. however , this impression that married men give you about how bad their marriage actually is, is blown up to sound worse than it probably is. have been in a 4 year affair this summer with a married man who is older than i am. reason a married man can end an affair so easily is because his first allegiance is to his wife. how dare he, i have been living by his way, in his side of the story for 4 years but now i finally get some backbone and our relationship is suddenly too much work and struggle. he has not matured into a man even though he’s 38 and most likely, never will. after a year…3 years…5 years, you should be moving on and up…not no change or still apart and things getting worse!, think of this his wife has no peace of mind, and married to a cheating scumbag, and you have freedom x. you isolate because there are not many you can confide in without being judged and you spend most of your time alone with him as it is difficult to be seen in public together. nothing in life is worth ending your own, especially your married man. and make you end up feeling sub human and less than, to be treated like this. they were never seen laughing/smiling with each other or truly enjoying each other’s company and he always told me their relationship was no different at home and, in fact, there was no intimacy or affection at all and there hadn’t been for years. many of us have gone through a form of ptsd because the addiction is so strong. i thought to myself — this man tells me he sleeps in different areas of the house with her, he’s not in love with her, they don’t sleep together, they barely talk, he’s only there because of his daughter, etc. i have felt so alone, sad and depressed for three years and this site and the comments made me see a light at the end of the tunnel. i have been apart from my ex-mm for 3 months now and it truly has gotten easier than i ever believed it would. my biggest fear has been that i won’t meet someone who i connect with in the same capacity because i, as well as many others, feel our married men are/were our best friends and soulmates. i also want to tell all girls who date a married man that don’t hesitate until the minute comes. how many of us are actually professionals trained to make that label? i made it clear that i wouldn't even consider friendship (because the temptation is too great) until two years after a divorce was finalized, and he felt his kids were ready to see him dating. went to bed smiling on a sunday evening, i never used too, not for years. you want to know how to stop dating a married man, try telling yourself that he doesn’t love you the way he loves his wife — even if he tells you he doesn’t love his wife! met a woman in a coffee shop this morning, and we started talking and lo and behold she also had broken off an affair with a married man, what are the chances? i felt so alone until i found this site and all of you, and i’m truly grateful you shared your stories even though it makes me sad to know so many other women are experiencing such pain. if this man wanted to reach you, there would be absolutely nothing that would stop him, period. sent me a picture of him in the car (the last text i sent him was very romantic but he did like he did not read it or something) i did not answer, he texted “have a great evening! i have discovered on this website that we are so many some days we are better than others, but right now what is important is to not go back and get strenght back. married man and i keep getting back together…idk y honestly…why are we so afraid to let go?’ve never felt more connected to a man then i do with him. he says when i was ready to go further with us he wasn’t and when he was i already married. and i don’t know maybe i feel sorry for her that she would have to put up with a man like that. i think we have low self esteem, and we have to build each other up, as women, so that we can find strength in one another and not another man. ive been on the other side too – reality – with a different relationship of 3 years, where we lived together and the romance ends quicker when you dont retire to your separate homes at the end of the day. i was married for 12 years and have been divorced for 13.’ve bought the caravan he and i were looking at buying, they got a new dog, she’s posting on his business page about their romantic trip to paris. he still with his mistress when he had his relationship with me (if this true, he has 1 wife and 2 mistress – what an amazing man *crying*). my married man is also my boss and the highs and lows are dreadful. hard to have a baby…bought a house…still is growing the business…he says he left her as she treated him badly and ran him down lowering his self esteem blah blah…well she couldn’t have treated him that bad to go back to her, move 300 miles to where she did (happens to be where he grew up as her folks moved that way and she followed)…open a business, rely on this business and have a baby and the house he bought, the huge detached amazing house 8 months into our affair when he woudln’t leave me alone and kept telling me i was the love of his life…his gf is not that bad at all, you don’t make serious life decisions at his age (43 when this started, 46/47 now…. i believe she fell for a charming man, who made her feel like the greatest woman on this earth, just like he did me..i just threw out a box of cards/pics he’s sent me through the years…how pathetic am i to keep them?. i later went on facebook and found out he had been married 3 years now. these men lie and manipulate and by the time you realise, you’re in love with low self esteem as a result of competing with his wife.’m astonished reading your stories about having an affair with a married man.’ve heard the i don’t want to leave my child so many times, i ended my 14 year relationship with my children’s father i was so unhappy. i never thought a simple friendship would turn into a 3 year relationship., i have been involved with my married man since 6 months and have cut off communication since 3 days. ensuring you have a life distinct from his that is your safe haven can make being the other woman, if not a secure, permanent position, at least one that is a bit more tolerable. my married came over to visit on weekends or whatever time was available it was so wonderful feeling thst we belonged to each other. the married man that if he doesn’t leave you alone, you’ll tell his wife! was scared of dating, and he has gone ‘cold’ since, not in a horrible way, but he is a little confused as i’ve turned him down for 6 years, i feel like a besotted teenager and except for checking my phone still to see if the am has been online checking for messages from me – i’ve not given him one thought really as this young guy has captured my attention and heart. i am usually confident, and since i met him, i feel so unworthy that i am losing all my confidence and becoming needy, demanding, someone i never was. when we are younger and unmarried, we are free to move onto another relationship if the one we are in doesn’t work out.’s been over a month now that my married man ended it and i haven’t reached out. he swears that he has not slept with his wife either in 15 years. you all i pray god almighty give us the grace to move on with our lives and give us the man made for us amen. he feels young and happy and has feelings that have been buried for years and years. leaving my married man was tough (we were supposed to meet in dubai, i never took the flight, we never spoke again and he was due to pay half my ticket but never did, and i don’t even have much money and got screwed) i guess now he is all happy with his wife and kid, and what can i do. it’s very comforting to know that i am not the only one going through this, as for the longest time i felt so alone and felt like such an awful person for being involved with a married man.) she helps him get divorced, deals with 3 kids and 2 baby mamas…and eventually married him. to be with the man that you should be with. i don’t think it’s unusual that you’ve endured many arguments and silences. i can’t say i have never been attracted to another man in all these years. how can you have a sexual relationship with someone for 13 years and never have any feelings. i have been left many times in tears and stay home bc i went back to school. i have skimmed many websites but i just can’t see many of these qualities in my married man? all in all, im dating someone new and moving very slow with this amazong new man.

Dating a married man for 8 years

married man feels like to meet the most beautiful, perfect man for you. remember this, if you can do it once, you can do it 2nd time, 3rd time, so let’s believe we could overcome this hardship together. i mean we don’t live a life together nor anything else outside of work because he is married but to put it plainly, it is based on secrets. i’ve invested 3 years of my life falling more and more in love with this man. is so true, because even though we want to be with our married men full-time, we all know deep down, he would eventually do the same thing to us too! i don’t know how deeply involved you are with this man, but keep in mind that the more time you stay with him, the harder it will be to let go. in march, i met a man or so i thought. he has been to my home and job before, but to be honest, i do not believe he will come to either demanding what happened. i am believer of people making mistakes and i justified my 4 years away creating excuses about a fantastical us. throughout the 10 years of just knowing him, we never had a sexual attraction to one another in the way that would make either one of us want to get involved just for the sex. i finally ended it for real, i had broke it off with him so many times but this time it’s real. tried many times but still end up being normal again to him., i took the decision today that i have to leave my married man, i just don’t know how, i search for help and here i am… i really want to be with him one more time, smell his chest and hug him soooo hard. the comments below about breaking up with a married man..Please read my below post as well – i was signed off work for 3 weeks, sick with stress – because of the am. you’re here because you want to be free of the guilt, shame, and self-loathing that accompanies cheating with another woman’s husband. remember, i have been in this for nearly 5 years now and i am being so dead serious when i say get out now. this woman took the man i loved his traits and rules his life. i have been to therapy and am a very self reflective woman who believes we are all continually evolving. i know i love this man but i can’t leave my husband now, and my family will completely disown me. the point is, there are plenty of married men who will gladly divorce their wives, especially when you. not shared my feelings with him and only weeks earlier i knew i was in love with this man. after the first 3-4 weeks, i started by getting rid of (meaning throwing them away with the dog crap) his toothbrush and hairbrush (i kept the hairspray :), a week or so later i got rid of all his t-shirts and pajama bottoms. if you’re anything like me, i use to think, “god, this can’t be who my married man is because he was “always” so loving and good to me”. mine is only 5 months and doesn’t share feelings much except how i made him feel like a man again in his “sexless” 2nd marriage of 36 years. married man texted me right away after we met and we texted everyday since. you and i have more or less the same age, we have so many years to be happy. married men persuade you you’re their soulmate, and create this fake world…i will find the links soon and post them here!.i am now 54 he broke it off with me 4 years ago. married man will go thru times sometimes a day or three without contact. he is still married and mad right now at me because i’m giving the silent treatment. i want to believe it with all of my heart, but after reading how so many were treated, after years of waiting, i had to let go. of his temper, telling me his gf and ex-wife said he was a control freak and watching his behaviour over the years and the horrible way he can talk to me…he is a narcissist…i wanted my revenge but read sharon’s reply and thought oops maybe not! informed me monday he’s leaving his wife, they have agreed their marriage has been over a few years and staying together for the sake of their daughter isn’t fair, she didn’t cry or ask if they could reconcile. my story is a little different where a married man took advantage of me. like you are some woman who understands every bit of his foolish acts that you will be there waiting for him. remember that when you’re dating a married man, you see the ideal and perfect guy. had no idea, nor wanted to fall in love with my best friend of a thousand years, nor did he. felt the same with my married man but i even met him when i was married! i too feel worthless, guess i’m looking for love from a man who only loves me for sex. i have moved behind the initial phases of recovery, in the sense that i am not in blinding grief, i am living my life, and i have lost the urge to call or message my married man.’s been 3 days since i’ve talked to my married man. have broke up and got back together so many times, i cannot even keep count, but now i see how others are treated and then dumped and i do not want to waste my time anymore. be 21 this year 2016 i met my married man when i was 17 he is now 29. the harder it’ll be to break up with this married man and heal your broken heart. i have been involved with a married man for a little over 4 years now and am married myself. manipulating me to stay with him longer, and longer, and longer, for nearly 5 years.’m just wanting some advise on how you handle working with your married man still… mine is my boss and we have been together for 15 months he is so very manipulative i’m not aloud to wear certain things not aloud to talk to other males he makes me feel if i do that kind of stuff i am the wrong kind of person and his love for me fades when he sees it so i try hard to do everything right…i am also married for 4 years with a young daughter i don’t know how i got myself into this situation but i know i have to stop it now as my mm has told me he and his wife are going to try for another baby and it devastates me a free everything he says to me how much he loves me and if he could he would marry me right now if he could but he will never leave because of his son, i have said we are stopping this when he sayers trying for another baby with his wife i will not put myself through that i have to draw the line somewhere or i will have no self respect, it hurts that when i gave him this ultimatum he either doesn’t try for another baby and keep me or loose me and try for another baby, he has chosen the latter and it kills me! with all the evident…she still stay…as far as i know when his wife at work, he fool around with many women…. many on this website, we understand very well what you are going through. hopefully someone reading my story will get some comfort knowing that they are not alone and that these married men are very clever in how they operate. i hope that changes, but i willingly dated him when he was married and i own that these consequences are mine to carry.!… i mean as much as it will hurt, my heart has hurt so much over these 10 years that to be honest i feel ready to walk away from the secret relationship….. so 10 years, he has little interest in his wife, she has little interest in him and knows about you, as do friends and colleagues…yet he stays with her? i too wish every day that i would have known 5 years ago what i know now. he’d cook for a few friends that visited, lots of time with my folks who have now met him 3-4 times over 2 days the past few years… seem so weak and i have been there severely, get a life without this married man, wean yourself off him gradually meet people for lunch and other activities and gradually stop explaining yourself! story goes like this i live in europe and i met a man in my church , before we started our relationship i asked him are you married he said no. now, after all these years, i think to myself ‘what was it all worth! it’s not a race but it will make a huge difference and it will effect how you manage the post-break up feelings. than 5 percent of men leave their wives for the woman with whom they are having an affair. i do not understand how he ended up like this and feel so lost and yet, i know i have to walk away from this man, who remove the circumstances is truly my soulmate..why would you want to see a man like that? real love doesn’t make you feel the worst pain ever, and it doesn’t change you for the worse like many of us have/did through our experiences. i will see him in a few weeks at a competition that we are both part of, and i only hope my team destroys his, and maybe he will realize it’s not cool to leave a wake of broken hearts when he, like me, just needs to man up and fix or end his marriage. i don’t even want to talk to another man right now.. Vicki counsels a reader who is involved in an affair with a married man. found this site so helpful, i was involved with a man who had another woman. can’t wait for the next months and years to come without him. can relate to your story on so many levels, it’s like all these married men give us the same lines and we still continue to be suckers for them. like to think we’re an exception but after good 3.“to anyone who is still involved with a married man, all i can say is end it now,” she says. it is not enough…i think…this is the question ive struggled with all these years. that was 6 weeks ago and he has been round for sleepovers twice ( how can she put up with this) and yesterday he turned up after 11 days no contact (my choice) to tell me how much he loves me, how sorry he is for hurting me and i’ve told him not to come again and not to contact me again, i need more than crumbs of this man and his wife needs him to step up and be the man she thought she had married. always knew being with a married man would be heartbreaking and i was right. for months i believed me and my married man would end up together and we would be happy but the more i read these comments it’s unrealistic and delusional. dec 30, 2015 was our last passionate moment…his wife found out we were together, he told her everything. years when you stayed here 2/3 nights a week until june this year? 1 and 1/2 years of waiting for him to love me and show me how special and important i am in his life. i have been seeing a married man for about 10 years. he is a great father and a very caring man – i got to give him that. long story short……he’s had a child, i was forced to abort mine cause he said he didn’t want anymore, he got married, my marriage is still rocky and i’m stuck lonely sad depressed and wanting to be loved. also, texted a woman from an online game site a few years back. like most of you, i too was having an affair with a married man. jenny thank u for your compassion… its comforting to know someone else has been through this dating a married man that really understands because when your in this type of situation you feel so alone and isolated. i thought i could manage it because it’s much different than the other situation; but i know heartbreak is inevitable. if i can also suggest, read the comments (there may be many) because you might recognize yourself in many of the people. 15 years ago we were both unmarried, my then boyfriend kinda not really now husband was a heavy drinker. the romance isnt there anymore either… i feel the last few months for sure i have wanted to protect myself and started to hold back a lot more… i thought this would make him try harder to sort the situation out… but i asked him outright last week when will he be with me, he doesnt know. have been dating a married man for the past almost 11 years. we had this shared blog, and i wrote him so many times, i sent him offline messages. this was after five years of being together i saw him getting married and mind you he did not tell me about it and i never suspected him that he was even in the process of being married. i already feel lonely but i’d rather be alone and healthy with myself than lonely in a really sick, unhealthy relationship with a married man. i have been in this affair with mm for 9 years, he is a coworker. this man was the love of my life, whether i was truly his or not, but it no longer matters to me, what i was or wasn’t to him. we all want to be with our married men for one more time😔. i have been in an on-off relationship with a mm for 3 years. remember that breaking up with a married man will be painful and sad, but it’s better for you in the long run. yes it does suck cos we are only 3 weeks apart. i ended my relationship with my married man after two years. i did find out he was still married eventually and was shocked and gutted but it was too late. years but like any addiction we can’t leave each other. i’m married and have a good to great marriage and have been seeing this mm in hopes we could be together because he stalked me so i thought he really did want us together! i have not read all the comments here but seeing that there are so many makes me feel less alone. just told my married man that i can no longer do this. i spoke to my married man after 10 days of no contact. i knew if that man truly loved me, the way he always claimed to, the silent treatment would’ve never taken place. the best advice you can give someone about having a relationship with a married man is telling her not to even start. also get you regarding living with someone, this is why i wonder if i’ve been doing this for so long…but i also know i want a full time relationship with this man which would result in us living together, and i certainly don’t want past issues and problems with partners to stop me maybe experiencing a happy relationship. can’t speak for you natalia, but i wrote a very long letter to my married man as i wanted him to understand how painful my position was and how it was tearing me apart. be aware that not everything you read in these articles are going to be exactly what your married man does; however, i guarantee a huge chunk of it does. have a 5 week old baby girl from my married man. years because he is the property manager of the building i live in and he never wore his wedding ring throughout those years and i only started hanging out with him the past three months outside of the building. have been nc with my married man since almost 2 months. they’d rather keep on manipulating and circumventing the situation that’s working for them. i couldn’t go on vacations, couldn’t go to any gatherings or birthday parties because, “i’d look like a single woman”. it’s so hard to think of all the beautiful memories we shared, yet knowing that none of it meant anything to him, which is why it’s also so hard to see him as even being human. i feel especially heartfelt for those of you who had a married man who treated you like a princess because it makes it harder to move on versus someone who is a complete jerk. he is still in the whole relationship routine and i’m not sure how other women get to spend so many weekends with their married men but i guess all our circumstances are different. alone on christmas and worst of all, alone on new years eve. i started by investing 5 years in the relationship and later on this what i discoverd. mind you up until now he said we don’t have that kind of relationship, and he couldn’t leave home until his kids graduated high school (7 years away). don’t let this married man ruin that, and you still deserve the best just because of this bad decision. found the strength i needed to end a secret love affair i was having with a married man. but this one more time never really end, and thus starts the dynamics of breaking up and getting back together again which is the the hallmark of affairs with a married men and so detrimental to our self worth and peace of mind. i am in a sexless marriage for more years than i can count and sleep separately in another br. i hope you break free from the married men you’re involved with, because those relationships don’t go anywhere. the married man i’ve been having an affair with – it’s been 16 years and a child together although he wasn’t married then. married man no longer talking to me or texts me back. this man who is in front of me is a stranger and is nothing and no one to me anymore. have been dating a married man for a year now. i’m writing because i’m also dating a married man for two years. heck, it’s even hell on earth with what you go through with a married man. while my mm says this woman at work doesn’t know, she does and she looks at me like i am poop every time i see her. never in a million years would i have ever believed my ex-married man was a narcissist, but when you start to read of similarities between your married man and others, and then read about who and what narcissists are, it’s almost impossible to deny the truth. the truth of what’s behind our addiction to these men, which they “need” us to believe is “love”, is his lies, his deceit, his deflections, his manipulations, his gaslighting techniques, his word games, his silent treatments, his blame-shifting, his betrayals, his future-faking, his facade! have been with a mm for over two years and whilst it’s passionate and loving it’s heavily interspersed with fights and silences. i am an intelligent, clever woman struggling with the fact that i have allowed myself to get in this situation. what a silly thought…3 years ago was a long time. yes i still hope to be an exception, and if he left, although wow it’s taken 2 years longer than we agreed, then great, but, at the same time, i’m not waiting around anymore to find out! think about your life, your husband’s and that man. some go cold turkey, but we have a very long history, with a 30 year gap in the middle, so i chose to respond to his note a few days 5 years…i hope i don’t get caught up for that long!!The write up above i’ve mentioned is why…none is real, on our side yes, not their side (but not really real for us – we don’t know what these am/mm really are…we see the fake person…the manipulative liar…the twister). after not seeing the married man for about 10 years (i broke it off) i started seeing him again because my partner passed away. so i’m the other woman and i’m being cheated on. i know it’s hard for some to believe their married man is the one, but that’ll change with time. he’s still fucking baby mama 2 for years during all that…there are many more before i show up. you have still life in front of you and you know he has kept you away from lively situation many times. i can’t believe how much time and energy i wasted on this man. and that’s what it boils down to, married men cannot relate to your emotions the way normal decent people can. Here's how to break up with a married man and heal your broken heart, plus encouragement from a woman who broke up with an unavailable husband that she was cheating with. i am working on myself, but it’s hard to pull yourself up after the beating your dignity and self worth has taken being on a roller coaster for so many years. we have been having the affair for 2 1/2 years with a baby i sadly miscarried with .’ve put off having children because i am so deeply involved with this other man and so afraid to lose him. but i promise you, if you open yourself up to the possibility of learning who your married man actually is, you will begin to move forward. we decided we were parting ways, but it’s really a huge adjustment after two years and a half of constant communication. this man wasn’t able to give you this attention all the time because he was married, but i am sure that there is another man for you that does.

How to Handle Loving and Dating a Married Man | PairedLife

How to Break Up With a Married Man and Heal Your Heart

true love means you can introduce the man you love to your family and friends. working with this married man, looking after a young girl and facing the emotional abuse of my ex. i won’t be taking revenge, as i dont wish to drop to his level, and as you said, its not worth it for a married man, there are plenty more single men in the sea, but im not going looking, as im going to have me time, lots of things i want to do, but always put off because of him, and thank you. i thought it won't work but i just tried to give this man a chance and i ordered a love spell. i looked at who he is; a serial cheater with two kids, who carried on an affair for two years with someone right after his son was born, someone who lives in a 0,000 home, has a great job, a nanny to take care of the kids during the day, and a wife who works full time as well to maintain their image. can relate, but my married man never hid me…his wife knows me, so do his kids…this is a toxic relationship. how do i leave the man that i am so in love with.’d also like to add i know a few exceptions, but the most recent didn’t work out so well and my poor dear friend i’ve known 35 years since nursery had an awful time recently to the point she doesn’t want to go near another man. i’m in almost a 2 year long affair and it’s been off and on so many times and we both can’t seem to let each other go completely. i work with the married man and he is in “love” with his wife and will always be even though she has cheated on him twice and will always forgive her. to anyone that is starting an affair with a married man or considering it please run like hell. kristen houghton affairs the-other-woman mistresses: a history of the other woman. i agree that the married men are not happy, which is why they wander. i was even in a serious relationship for several years during the time i met my ex-mm. don’t be like me and so many other women on this site who have given in time and time again because we get suckered back in by breaking nc. yes i am still with him because im only human and still attached to him. see we affair partners make waves, we want changes, we make demands and have expectations. yes he is the most incredible man i have ever met, but, he also isn’t the most honest either so that kind of cancels the good bit out! my married man did the exact thing to me in the end. i believe, to the very core of me, he has destroyed many lives. yes maybe i’m thinking ‘ah he screws up precious years of my life i will do the same’- but she’s none the wiser whatever rubbish he has fed me! i just ended a 4 year relationship with my best friend and love, we are both married to other people. but they are so many people around, he is just one out of so many you can meet, work, friendships, support. there are no exceptions, i would definitely end up being hurt – so it was better to dump him immediately rather than wait months, maybe years (as many of you) and get deeply involved with him. you told me that these married men are not really happy but they are. and i know that looking for validation from a married man after he decides to break from you) is optimism at best and stupidity at worst. i moved with my family but still see him at least 3 times a week..learnt later he was married with a 2 years old, but we fell in love and i never let go. are helping married men cheat on their wives…what if we were in the wives place…i most certainly would not be able to handle it…. i have been with my husband for over half my life, married 22. blocked him yesterday, our last conversation was normal, then i blocked him… today he was going crazy, calling me from different numbers, texting me… demanding an explanation, why he was blocked, what did he said…etc…. i wish more people would read the narcissist website i posted so many times, but i also understand that everyone has to learn in their own way, my prayers are with you, asking for strength, light and guidance as you find your way out of the mess that he dragged you into. i have known him in the past, distanced myself from him for 10 years before reconnecting back. i have been noticing all of his lies, his manipulations and his disappearing acts on weekends, holidays and leave. a few weeks after this happened, another married man (let’s call him fred) came to me (i don’t know what the hell it is that i do that attracts married men and i wish i did so i would stop doing it! am at the moment is married to a muslim man who is married. if a man really loved you, would he put you through this? i too have fallen into a depression and have had so much anxiety in the last three years, that there are days i feel like i am going to have a heart attack! when we were “together” (and i use that term loosely since i’ve now realized that he was never really mine), we never went more than 3 weeks without seeing each other. know it’s hard to think of your married men as anything less than great, but at least take the time to read the two blogs i’ve posted below and sincerely ask yourselves … “have mind games been played on me – from the beginning of the relationship up until right now?, what you says almost explains my married man’s behavior. he came to my live when i was the most vulnable doing to several foot surgery i had in the past two years. you again for writing this article about breaking up with a married man, and ty to everyone that wrote in and shared their story 🙂. my reader kay broke up with the married man she was having the affair with, she experienced deep grief and heartache. ;d ) – this poor other woman in his life deserves better herself. i married, was happy for 24 of 27 years, and then discovered my ex was cheating, and our marriage was over. took me 3 years but i worked gradually towards my freedom. he was manipulative at times, controlling at times, selfish very often, and always turned things around on me. he’s a facade: you know enough about him to give you some insight into his personality and life, but you’re not involved with the real man. married men only want sex and the only place you can go with him is the bedroom. one of my friend once told me, if a man doesn’t get serious with you after 3 months max, he never will., it was incredibly hard for me too, to believe such negative thoughts about a man i had given every ounce of my heart and soul to. i knew he was married from the start and we met for work purposes a few times before anything happened. we get together and for four years i don’t let him touch me. just a note, my mm has told me many times in the past that he and his wife had gone to counseling years before we got together, but they eventually stopped going after they both felt like it didn’t do either one of them any good. recently ended things with my married man of 5 yrs, as well. still don’t know if this is is 2nd wife or 1st wife remarried. but yes, most of these married men are thinking about you and are unhappy. the attached man has still not left almost 3 years on. have a fantasy that if he and i ever make contact again in the years to come, i want to be able to prove how successful i’ve been. i was discarded out of the blue after being together nearly 5 years, and after he professed all his unending love for me the night before. i completely understand his thought process and i know this is the type of man he is, but as i told him, i can’t just keep waiting indefinitely. the man accepts it, because he has to, he doesn’t have a choice, unless he leaves, but that is almost impossible by this point in your life.’s been one month since the married man ended it with me and i haven’t contacted him since, neither has he. to single men, there are thousands and many nice ones. he’s been with his wife for 23 years but married to her 16. it’s been four months broken up from my nine year relationship with a married man. it’s all business and money (so he says), but for someone that cried 3 years ago saying he’s not sure how much more he could take of this evil horrible nasty spiteful gf of his…he is doing quite well considering they are together practically 24/7. i can’t believe that this is the man who used to put his nose close to mine so that he could breath the same air that i was breathing. i think of him everyday i won’t lie, but really i feel so much of a stronger woman that i can move on without him and refocus on me. he constantly talks about me moving in with him…almost 4 years…wow if in the ‘real’ world i’d have hoped to have moved in after 1 year…but to keep this illusion up, everything has to go on repeat…. you’re very strong, the thought of even going near my attached mans front door makes me feel ill, as he lives 70 miles away and i guess i’ve never had to face his reality (i’ve never been anywhere near where he lives) and like you, we haven’t been trying for a baby, but i’ve never fell pregnant so have spent the past 2 years having fertility checks, and now it’s time to make an appointment to plan a date…yet he hasn’t left? this man has made me cut all contact with my husband( my husband left me, but soon after realized all his mistakes and was trying evergthing to come back to me), he made me put my life on hold for him, has kept me bound indoors…. it helps to remember that the man with whom you are intimately involved in "your other life" is not living as a monk with his wife. can you just stop thinking about someone after four years ? i found out last saturday that my guy of 6 months was married.’re madly in love and want to be together, but he says he can’t decide what to do because the wedding is being arranged by his sister, and he has a 13 year old son (with another woman) who is close to his fiancee. if even a smidgen of it was real and true and heaven sent, a man who’s sincerely in love with you would’ve never allowed you to be put in a position where you’re having to wait for him to leave another woman. trust me, i never wanted to believe it either that’s why it took me 5 years to break free from him, but now that i have i can’t tell you how relieved i feel. am dating a married man, have been for 2 years next month. have had so many gifts from my relationship and the ending of it, yes it has been soul breaking, but i have kept searching for where the meaning is in all this and am finding answers and it does help with the pain and grief. that this is your last years and start to live! love this man – i can’t seem to be able to let go..Like liz’s married man using his daughter, my attached man has never been able to do that as he left his first wife and 2/3 yr old, so he has always used his business – his business he should have dropped when he realised he wanted me 3 years ago (so he said). i have been with a married man for the last 12 months. i’m 40 and have been with this 46 year old married man for 2 1/2 years. they’re happily married now and my friend is glad she stayed with him…but it was a long road! i'm now a very happy woman and ever since he has. short, after i suddenly had enough again almost 2 weeks ago, a younger guy, 9 years younger (i’m 38 and him 29) who has been chasing me for over 6 years, contacted me again. how many people do you know who post happy, loving photos while being unhappy or flat out miserable? i had found out, he never forgot me and because of the dynamics dated many who had similar traits as i. and therefore, a vulnerable woman is the perfect thing for them. in islam it’s allowed to marry more than one the thought of having another woman aside from me is killing me inside. your marriage ended and now you are in a dead end relationship with your married man. whatever you decide, please don’t do it for the married man. i’ve actually thought to myself that he’d never email me now because he hasn’t used that email address in years. he done many things for his wife which i only found out last week. he is retiring after 40 years in the army and we are ending. been dating a married man to my full knowledge for a few months now. am also married my marriage has been unhappy for the last two years and i know that’s not an excuse. i need to forgive myself because i was such an idiot to love a man like him, but i believe time makes things work. why do seemingly happily married cheat on their wives-im just going by pictures i see on fb…. are so many others, but these are a good starting place. you are not alone, we are so many, left the same way, like if all we lived never happened and never happened…but the best thing you can do, is live for yourself and not let yourself be his puppet even when he doesnt want you in his life anymore. this man did not have the guts to marry the girl he says he loved. was with him a total of two and a half years. this person has stolen 12 years of my life that i can never get back. i know how every one of you feel when you are in love with someone who is in a relationship/married, and you don’t know how to escape it because the love you feel for them is just too strong. when we talked about a paternity test he was fine with it not expecting the truth of what i’ve said all these years to slap him in the face. am has wasted the most important years of my life, i can never forgive him, my chances of having children are running low at 38 yrs old and i could have spent the past 3 years dating to find the right partner rather than him manipulating me. the attached man (he is not married but been with his gf a good 12 years, they have a business child and mortgage together) helped me escape my violent crazy ex about 11 months after we got together. just just from what you’ve said in your message alone, i can almost guarantee your married man is one, just as mine was, and everyone else’s is. he must have done that at least 8 times in those 3 months. u just walk away from someone you call your soulmate and just go on living with another woman for the rest of your life…. he wanted to leave her at this time i sat him down and said no way can you do that, she needs you to be the man she think you are and you need to be able to look in the mirror at the end of each day. this man is not worth my time and yet here i am missing and wanting him. initially, i liked this man because of his voice, his spanish accent, then i thought it was hot he had a phd, intelligence is a turn on but once i got to know him, he was just as messed up as the rest of us. if this mm really loves you, he will divorce his wife and the timeframe should not take more than 2 years.’s what one of my readers said about breaking up with the guy she was having an affair with:“i became involved with a married man after my divorce,” says kay on how to end your toxic love affair now – before it’s too late. is a key component of narcissism because sex/romance/love are powerful tools to gain fuel from you. prayer for you is that you find the strength and courage you need to stop dating this married man, to stop being the other woman. i wanted to put him and every man like him in his place. if you reach out to him, you will just get back onto the roller coaster, and believe me as one who had endured the roller coaster for years, it is not where you want to be. he moved in with another woman, i felt like killing myself. one day i agreed to go out with him for drinks in the evening as i had finally gotten divorced and that eve after tooo many cocktails we ended up kissing and then having sex. i stayed in my situation for nearly 5 years and i plead with you to start finding knowledge now so you don’t end up worse off than you are right now. i know that he is my center and not a man especially a married one who lies to me. i don’t speak to my married man and neither did he. i asked him about him getting married and how he could do it especialy since before the incident he had promised to marry me and he said it was pressure from his family and his wifes family and the fact they have kids that i did not know about. i started about 18 years ago when i was involved with someone myself (not married – just living together) for 7 years. most woman who are in relationships with married man or involved go through a lot of psychological pain and suffering, low selfesteem. i know this is a horrible thing that i have done and i feel guilty all the time but right now i’m glad i ended this affair with a married man and i’m just trying to gather courage to stay on this path. he has 3 daughters (one born a 11 months after my son). however it does not seem so easy for them to keep a woman feeling loved, desired and happy. have been in a 3 year relationship as well,even though they are separated. talked with her nanny and gosh i am with him for 3 years and i dont know who is the real him. i was with him for 9 years, eight were good and the last one year was just series of breakups and getting back for few weeks then breaking up again. not only is being involved with a man who is married bad karma (his wife is a woman with feelings who deserves love and respect), but we attract situations and people into our lives based on our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. we will not see each other at work for 3 weeks and his last words to me were “maybe it will do you some good”. dated for 5 years but all along he pretended as if i dont exit. we’re both married and i find it’s harder to break up with him coz we’ve been living together for 3 years now abroad. when i was suffering and lonely one day, i really wanted to call my married man but never could, he didn’t use a cell except on rare occasions, and i thought to myself ‘ how insane is this? i have my ex-married man blocked, but sometimes unblock him so to see if he has is last online status shown. i’m now on my first full day of zero contact with my married mam.’ i have spent the last several years (the affair was one year, but my feelings for him were more years than that) hung up on him, and in the end, he turned out to be someone who i didn’t think he was. too, like all of you am involved with a married man. i also said to him that if he truly didn’t care about her being with anyone else (he told me on many occasions that he didn’t), why did it bother him enough to question her. had a affair with a married man for the past 3 years. i must say, like most, i want to believe that the love with married man is special, that is was destiny that we met and we are made for each other because it is so special between us. you weren’t projecting yourself a few years into the future and seeing the shell of a person you would become due to the constant emotional abuse. i have just ended a 6 month relationship with a married man and i am sick and devastated. i’m babysitting 3 little girls tonight, daughters of a friend, getting busy helps. laurie can you please write an article on why married men cheat…does he really love his wife if he continues to have affairs? (and men in our position going through the same thing – applies to both, i’m certainly no man hater, funny enough i’ve very close male friends who i totally respect and are like brothers to me and i mostly work with men who are wonderful, it’s a handful of men and women that ruin things) so…. mm is not really romantic, he doesn’t tell me he loves me everyday, but i am always seeking for affection, love. we are all probs pretty lucky we’re not trapped with a self-centered sociopath who only cares about himself and manipulates others. i know that sharon and many other women gave me much needed strength, and i am so grateful for that. i love the part about breaking away from the man (although real men don’t treat ladies like this!

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whatever this married man says, it’s at best an illusion and at worse, blatant lies. i think the way he talked about getting married was so nonchalant that i sort of didn’t believe him. the good parts are that i know who she is and what type of personality she has and i was also able to watch their interactions between each other, not just during our affair, but also during the years beforehand. i tried cutting our communication for 3 days, but that’s all i can do. dating a married man is something i looked down on others for doing and now look at me. my engagement ended a year ago then i reengaged with my married man months later. i’m afraid that every man i meet i will compare to my married man and i’m afraid i will push them away. have been involved less then a year with a married man. off all contact with him, for he is another woman’s husband. see i’m in a loveless sexless marriage and the man i’m in love with is newly married as well..was a nasty a**hole who makes every excuse under the sun to have an affair that also manipulates us too. it took at least 3 months before i could finally begin even thinking somewhat clearly. it’s been horrific, i don’t live near family or many friends, he has it all, promised me the world and delivered nothing. the narcissist website, the bit about being in love with a married man, the 3 last sentences sum it up and are something like ‘my wife knows nothing about her, she thinks she knows all about my wife, neither of them know what i am’ – and that’s the core of it! i don’t like the fact they are still married and i feel he still my be involved with her. but you have to figure this out and put an end to the married man once and for all and move on with your life with your bf. i managed to go five months no contact and then when he messaged me i caved. am dating, in fact i have fallen in love with total opposite man…. i become involved with a married man who lives in the same building as i do. being in love with a married man has made me want to close myself off to all men but i feel in my heart there is someone out there for me. years ago and like you, then and now, my work suffers, i get ill, and now i don’t see the am and don’t know what to say to him anymore as i feel incredibly used (see my initial post ‘forever waiting’ and many replies to people) i’m exhausted from the mental and sometimes physical impact. married guy i chose to get myself involved with was an old high school friend. he goes on about his network, and yes he moved back to where he grew up 6 years ago, so has all his old friends and parents within 45 min drive (around the city and countryside where he lives) but i too have a few local friends i do see more now and friends 45 mins away where i lived for 5 years until 2011. safeguard yourself from too much emotional pain, you need to understand that he can only be a small part of your life and will never be more than that no matter how many promises are made. i was obesessed and almost crazy during the months that passed, chasing him, nagging and demanding answers and explanations from him, acting out. they have 3 children together and i never wanted to disrupt their family. i cannot believe how badly a man who professed to love you can behave. for years i believed that we were different, even now i still feel that sometimes and think ‘he has to come back because what we had was so different’. well after 3 plus years of having this man be apart of my life, i decided enough is enough and walked away. really wish a year after i left my ex and things just seemed to stand still and i felt totally unappreciated, that i had left the beginning of last year 2015 ( 2 years in). just broke up with a married man after 3 months and he was my business partner too. and it made me feel better about the way it ended, but it made me question all the other years, when i thought we had a beautiful thing going. at first i didn’t believe it – but a year or so ago i saw this with my own eyes when one colleague (the guy/friend who pops over) left the works car park the same time as us and my ex am went mad at me saying we were almost caught and he doesn’t want his friend to know he was lying to him for years! happy to have found a platform where i can be honest about my situation, i too am in a relationship with a married man,im now realising that i am not happy, although he gives me everything i want,he is currently paying my rented apartment ,i have a job that seems to be promising but im scared to break up with him because i do not make enough to support myself, this is a confession that i fell for a guy and got comfortable with material gain, i know i have a good head on my shoulders ,i shouldnt be in this situation. and in another section here, from sharon…if married men wanted to leave they would, no ifs and no buts and no blaming the kids/money/business and so on. my married man broke up with me on valentine’s day so imagine how im feeling. i was vulnerable because i had not gotten over my divorce and jumped straight into this toxic relationship with my married man. i wait 4 years all the while making plans on when we could finally start seeing each other in public, or what kind of ring i wanted and where our wedding would be . however, i wouldn’t be where i am today without my many prayers to god being answered in little ways and i know one day with all the hard work i put into finally caring for myself, i will be given what i truly deserve in this life and that is a real true love all my own, even if it’s just from me to myself. there is another woman who told me she’s been having an affair with him for a couple years.’ve tried so many times to leave him before, but i can’t stand the thought of not only having him as my lover, but also as my best friend. i don’t know why i married him my heart has been elsewhere all this time. but i would rather be on my own and have the possibility of meeting someone who is devoted to me, than stay with a married man who doesn’t have what it takes to give me the life i deserve. my friend once referred to my married man as a narcissist and i completely disagreed with her. you feel like he’s the only man for you because he told you that you’re the only woman he truly loves.) and sometimes it takes a few attempts to get it right, but, please do not expect the married man to come running. it hurt so so much, i really thought it would take no more than 24 or 36 hours for him to message me again. that you deserve better than an affair with a married man. if he’s on a dating site and married, that should be your first sign that he’s a creep. i always knew he was married from the beginning, she was in a diferent country and he was alone you could say. when people talk about our married men as a drug, it’s the truth. it is hard for me to leave him now after two months, i cannot even imagine how it could feel after years of my invested emotions and commitment to a man who doesnt really care about any of that. am with a married man for coming 18 months and am trying to get out of this relationship. again, i appreciate you and the kindness you’ve showed me for the last several years but i know this isn’t the right relationship for me to be in. the married guy i chose to get myself involved with was an old high school friend. been in affair for 5 yrs, and iv just ended it , his reply was i want your cunt, well says it all doesn’t, it, no i love you, please dont leave, for him it was just sex , as in the 5 yrs he never ever bought me anything, took me out, no birthday cards nothing, and the stupid fool i was i let it happen, because i loved him, of course he said the usual things that he lived in a sexless marriage, that he hated her, but never said he would leave her, they still had their holdays together, and there is no children, since i ended it its, over a week now haven’t heard a word since, and i never will contact him, what a waste of soul destroying 5yrs, never ever will i become involved, with a married man again, and the stress is unbelievable, if my children ever found out that i had been involved with a married man they would disown me , as their father had affair, which broke up my marriage, well onwards and upwards, is all im going to do, there is someone, free out in the big wide world, and if i dont find him, im going to enjoy my stress free life. truly hope that every woman who is on this site will be open to visiting hg’s website. am 24 years old and have been dealing with a married man would be 3 years in october. it may sound a bit harsh to many because most of us are oblivious to, or in denial of, what a narc is capable of. and he gonna pay for all the pain you feel now but you don’t have to even think of that miserable man. michelle i just wanted to say that i am in your same position for over 2 years, yes i fell inlove with a married man like you he caught my heart and he always wanted me to stay and never give up and of course i never give up for him for almost 2 years and then the time passes i always hurt and get jealous with his wife i need his attention but he always with her wife he also told me that he is never happy in his marriage but he cannot leave his wife maybe that’s all the married man can’t do, so i decided to let go of him and i tell him that i give up on our relationship but he insisting his self to me he goes on my work place but i told him to stay away and don’t ever come back i don’t know what i feel but something your heart will put you on the right decision if your tired of all the things, yes i forgive him and i wish i will forget him soon just be strong to tell him that i deserve a man that will love me. he is the kindest, gentlest man i’ve ever met. i’m infertile and 38, this started at 34…even more reason to utterly dislike him! i had made so many positive changes and he couldn’t make any. and the last girl he dated, he slept with her just a few days before he got married. u deserve,things you like to do,body you like to have, languages you like to learn and so many other habits that can help you. the mm i was seeing i’ve posted about before, was seeing him for almost 4 years then in july he decided to give me the silent treatment, he was being a dick.) …and we have argued lots over the past few years as he expects me to move to the house he bought with his gf (after we started this affair!) to do those things when you’ve also experienced a (apparently not great) marriage of 12 years previously and a child! i did ask and he messaged, he said that he felt he had lost the only human that he respects the opinions of, the only adult contact that means something to him and those few weeks he felt like he’d lost a limb and i will never ever know where he was (think he meant in his head). he tells me he is not happy at home and the only reason why he is staying married is because of his kids. and on top of that shock, i found out there was yet another woman, and both of them had been hanging on thinking he was going to marry them. fact you feel you are lucky to see through this mm, three years is long, but it’s better than “longer” period of time to know this person well. you hear the hate which they talk about the side chick or the other woman. we live in the same building,,,try to work things out…but in the end he is a dog…now that i told his wife, i don’t care what she does with the information…i decide to see a counselor for the pain he has cause me…how the mm took it, he threatened me in front of his wife and neighbors, which i don’t care…i been talking to my neighbors, which some told me he been cheating on his wife for years…. my married man of 3 years used to say the same to me! my married man and i have had the greatest time together. at about 3 in the afternoon the following day i could hear celebrations at his place as i was driving pass and to my surprise it was the man that i had loved and had been faithful to for years. depend on him for love and if you’re not married just trust in god and leave this man alone. january of this year, i finally gave him “my” deadline (all the others were the ones he “made up”) of march 31. i’ve met my married man, my soulmate, the love of my life more than four years ago. i smiled, he bowled me over…wish i’d ‘wasted’ 3 years on him! too deserve a happy and fulfilling life, with someone that is there 24/7 and who doesn’t sleep next to another woman plus lies, manipulates and makes you feel sad….’s ‘happily married’ likes being married, doesn’t want to leave his wife and yet here we are. were were friends on and off for 15 years before this all started. in the end the other woman gets hurt,sad and feeling isolated. they stay married because they have built a life together and it would totally be a mess if they split up. lastly, something i realized in myself and many of the ladies on here is that we miss our married men even more because of what they have now., i have been seeing a married man for about 8 mths and now 2 mths pregnant. i would like to say one more thing if, a married man, is so unhappy with his marriage, and tells you he loves you, its total lies, if hes so unhappy, and hes so in love with you he would leave, get real, its just plain sex, thats what they love, and if it wasn’t you it will be someone else, once a cheat always a cheat, girls dont lose any sleep, because they won’t over you . everytime i break up with him he’d say you can’t waste years of this relationship because of money. do have respect for my married man in the fact that he did not play mind game with me. relationships with married men are so painful, even if it starts off seemingly innocuous and fun and both parties “agree to the terms. i don’t know why i keep sleeping with a man who do not love me. he couldn’t find a job so eventually he moved away to another state for a new job about 2 years ago. i replied to his last friday afternoon texts saying ‘yes will have a lovely time, have fun with family and your laptop'(he works from home and i was off for a ramble and night at a spa hotel…not far from him and something i should be doing with him after all these years! i feel sad bc in the past year i’ve made some connections with friends at the gym but in order for me to separate i have to totally let everything associated with this man go. my husband was a cheater so why would i do that to another woman? i contacted him (i was married, ready to file for divorce), we met and i told him i didn’t want to see him again because i needed to figure out my own life. nobody knows the extent of our relationship he and i have said it many times that outside people who know just don’t understand don’t understand how we feel about one another. did i realise i was about to fall in love with this man and him me. i just want to to be that strong woman i always wanted to be and me leaving him is part of going on that path. my ex-married man, did the exact same thing to me after nearly 5 years. for every single one of us there is a new, bright and free future, with a man who will love us and for whom we will mean the world! i read your posts i feel so inspired but as soon as i face reality again i’m back to the pathetic needy mess i have become over the last 2+ years. your mm won’t cut ties as he is still using you mentally, just like my attached man. i haven’t had news from my married man since a month. my ex husband and i decided to call it quits after 7 years of being together and 1 being married (he was my high school sweetheart). we have gone nc many times , last one lasted 3 months. he text me from the pub…but he goes there as he likes the other guys and drinking…its nothing to do with escaping the gf as he has claimed for a few years as he doesn’t go until 10pm earliest and i know shes in bed when he goes for a pint or 5! amanda, when i was reading your story, i started crying! i’m tired of being the woman he uses for masturbation. he has manipulated (brainwashed) you into believing every single lie he’s told and it will only get worse with time..There is no future with a married man wishing all the time. 15 years because i’ve worked in the same building as her and her husband (my boss/the ex-narc). well one day out of the blue (i was doing well without him, i am the one who broke it off) he left a message on my vm that he was getting married. that you’re not in love with the real man. i just want you to be open to the possibility that this man is not the man you thought he was and that’s the reason why he doesn’t care. anyone know how i can break away from this relationship with a married man as nicely as possible but he can still be part of my life because of work? i broke up with my married man for 2 months now.’m with a married man for more than a year now and he has been marrie for a year and a half. you are right…we have always been the 2nd option to the married men. do things you couldnt while you were seeing the married man. so we have no contact for a few weeks, he neither phones me (never does, i phone him when he is ‘free’ so i’m not on his phone bill bet many can relate to that! this endless cycle of making up and breaking up is the most dreadful and soul destroying aspect of an affair with a married man. two years later, i am still putting my life back together. he was very good at making everyone believe he was an honest, moral and decent man. you must love him, otherwise you wouldn’t be sleeping with him because you know he’s another woman’s husband. because he could not muster the courage to do the right thing until now, he let me down so many times that i did not have much hope anymore. i know, chances are, many of you don’t think the narcissist applies to you or your relationship (i was there … i know how you feel), but please just read the link below because it may just save you many years of unnecessary heartache and deep (usually incurable) pain. the moment you feel your married man is dicking you around, break up with them. i told him not to do this to another woman, but i don’t think that matters to him. i know that this – not being with a him or any other man who is not mine – is the best best decision for me. our 3 years together is exciting and electrifying but lately we have lots of fights he is blaming me that even the smallest things is already a big issue to me. i wish i could get him out of my life but it’s so hard…he said he will divorce his wife but he is still legally married to her till now…. the only way you can begin self-care is by removing the married man from your life. in january 2016, i finally managed to put an end to sleeping with the married guy. after the christmas holiday, i told him i didn’t want to continue anymore and i managed to put a stop to it for a few months. but you will managed, you can’t believe it now but you will. i’m sure most of us can relate to when we were not even close to being in a position to thinking about another man, let alone going out with one! i was in a scary ‘relationship’ and suffered many hardships with my bf at the time whom i’d only been with a few years. i never wanted him to leave her we would talk 3 or 4 times a week but only see each other once or twice a month cause of how far he lived away. the last two years i have had so many arguments about the situation with him, told him i want to be loved and made to feel special… he tells me he knows… he tells me he wants things to change too… i like to think after all these years i know him well, and i do feel sorry and sad for him too, i know we both want to be together, but it hasnt happened properly in 10 years… so my heart and head tell me i need to leave this situation as its affecting the person that i want to be…. it is so hard and painful to let go of the man i still believe to be my soulmate and the love of my life. i’ve fallen so deep for this man that i dont want to be with anybody but him. many people tell me not to say anything to his wife, but i did to give me some peace. i was involved with a married man for nearly 5 years, so i know pain and suffering, and i know how hard it is to get away, but you have to start someplace and i’m doing my damndest to lead all of you in the right direction. the potential in reflecting on your own marriage and deciding if you can love that man again. they had been married for about ten years when i met him.. these are not the actions of a man that cares, he holds on for someone to lean on, but at this very moment he is happily at home with his daughters and partners, and will never ever admit it. if someone sees me from the outside, they would see a confident, assertive and happy woman. missing someone while you can’t do anything about it, especially when that someone has left you to choose another woman – his wife. own survival is crucial, and if you do happen to fall in love with a married man, there are several hard truths you need to know. so many times i tried to make my married man feel jealous by telling him how me and my husband had a romantic night but he was totally unperturbed, whereas i couldn’t tolerate that he goes close to his wife even for a day! but i’m not carrying on being a secret, i deserve a man who can love me 100% of the time, as we all do. i know my married man loved me truly and during the time together, i couldnt complain any bit about how he treated me, we were in love head over heel. that said, i’m going to post this link:And hopefully it will bring insight to many of you looking for help and/or wondering why. he’s capable of manipulating me in the best possible way and every single time i fall for his manipulation.

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now i’m like an obsessed, insane woman checking my phone every ten minutes for a message. he says to me i ask too many questions (when i ask what he is doing on weekends etc). i wasted two years and a half of my life and god knows if i could’ve met my husband. the few of us who have read this website never, ever, wanted to believe this was who our married men were, hell sometimes i still find myself questioning if it’s true, but that’s only during my down times. he is another woman’s husband; he stood in front of his family and friends and vowed to love her forever. they have observed us and know what most ,not all woman are like when in love. the only women a man doesn't leave his wife for, are the ones. the guy who will truly love you one day will make you feel like the best woman in the world, not make you lose yourself and cry harder than ever. i’ve met a couple of men i liked who were single, but they turned out to be players who want to be with many women. when things got tough, when i made demands or needed explanations for poor behavior, they left and just moved on.’m 51 years old and have been in an affair relationship for 4. a real man, in real love would not cause the kind of heartache and pain we have all felt. maybe your prayers are being answered by finding this site and now it’s up to you to decide if you’re truly ready to see your entire relationship with the married man from a completely different perspective. nobody knows he’s married they just know i have a “boo” i think i’ve falling in love with him and i don’t know what to do . whether it is because of all the legal and financial problems attached to divorce, religious beliefs or the fact that they have become comfortable with their marriage the way it is -- or even because they still have a certain affection for their wives, men rarely end up with the other woman. they’ve been happily married for about 6 years and their daughter adorable. suddenly, having to deal with his less-than-mediocre married life has become less bearable than having to deal with a whiney side object. on one hand it makes me feel less alone in loving a married man, on the other hand the pain that all your words are drenched in is so heart wrenching. why do you leave the door open for the married man? i have a strong connection with my man and don’t know how to give up my best friend.. i'm exhausted from this, utterly utterly exhausted (it's funny as thought this earlier before buying the book…and in the book…tudor mentions when you realise he's a narcissist or has some of the many traits, you'll suddenly feel exhausted! it’s no wonder you’ve been going through what you have been for 9 years. years the lies are so bad just to see me…. so many of you have been saying about how your married men are back with their families and are happy and are having babies and forming stronger bonds with their spouses. q&a articles search search go q: if you're dating a married man will he always say what you want to hear and never leave his wife to start one with you?’ve been reading several articles about breaking up from an affair with a married man…. the catch is, if he reaches out to you, he knows that you are demanding more -and he doesn’t want to give you more..natural and we share so many of the same interests and and and. this person has stolen 12 years of my life that i can never get back. if this man is showing any signs at all of dysfunction, it’s simply not a good, healthy relationship for you. have gone back on my word , all the comments i have made, my married man has been in contact with me, he asked me if i would let him stay with me for the night, as his wife is away for a few, days, and haven’t had the chance to do this very often in the 5 years, so stupidity, i said yes, we arranged that he would come when she had rung him , which would have been about 11. flash forward, fell in love via internet with hometown friend 3k miles away. i know i will never get involved with a married man again and i know what i deserve now. still try to move on but if i only knew why my married man dumped me, maybe help me to stop thinking about him. i know it feels like it but you have so many people in your life that love you. i have been lying to everyone who is most important to me for 5 years. i have spent so many days with him, gave myself to him. few years ago, i wrote an article called how to stop cheating in a relationship. we have both fallen madly in love with each other and have the most amazing chemistry, but i am 11 years younger. i’ve seen him once properly in almost 3 months now…which helps too. i learned through my situation that the married man can learn to make his way back in even when you think it’s done forever, so it’s something to prepare for in order to not fail. good outcomes have been my friends dad fell in love 20 years ago, was an affair but he left her mum when she turned 18 and married to his ‘soulmate’ (they are a wonderful couple and my friend loves her dads wife to bits) for 20 yrs, they are still as close as ever. how blooming wonderful after 4 years of sadness, loneliness and just feeling terribly depressed…. we shared some many things in common and he opened to me about his past and i opened to him for the first time in my life.…i had totally forgotten how really feeling like a princess felt – this was it, a man all to myself. i originally posted a couple months back when i was feeling sad and lonely due to a change in my married man’s behavior. you imagine what it’s like to actually live with a manipulative liar that cheats so so easily? now i am wondering-does the fact that your married man was a narc make you all feel better, or worse? we’ve been together for 5 years and we have two beautiful kids together. you are a wonderful human being, make sure you stay strong, one day at a time, one step at a time.. the universe gave us many signs during our friendship, but we ignored them and carried on. i always judged women who had affairs with married men, and i know people who have never been in this situation who would say i deserve what i’m getting. is the note i sent to my married man when breaking up. you so much…my relationship with my married man sends me on drinking binges almost every weekend…i need to stop before i damage some organs in my body…i just cant seem to figure him out…i cant tell if he’s happy or unhappy with his wife…but i feel he’s comfortable…. i was dating a man for 5 months and only after breaking things off with him (something didn’t feel right) did i find out he was married. i had said the same things to him so many times, that it was almost starting to lose its meaning. four months doesn’t seem like a long time but we’ve spent at least 3 nights a week together (he travels for work) during that time, and are constantly in touch with each other. am also in love with a married man and i don’t know what to do. i was married for the first 6, i had never cheated before in my life, and i found it impossible to be so in love with my married man and going through the motions with my husband. because they are a married man having an affair they are narcissistic? in looking back, i understood that the two relationships prior to first meeting my married man in my twenties, both partners had betrayed me in our ‘committed’ relationships. you’re doing well liz after the 3 weeks, just remember, nothing will change, and even if you contact him, he’ll message back, you’ll feel happy, then angry…then sad with a heavy heart all over again. looking back, i see that my married man and i reconnected only a year after my marriage ended 2 years ago. 3 weeks after that i contacted again and met him twice for drinks and then it started up again for 2 months. i have three of the best teenage girls anyone can ask for, my regret comes now when after 28 years, my husband and i are now just co-existing.’s been really helpful to read your experiences, they’ve given me strength to stick to my guns and cut ties with the man i’m in love with. that letting go of an affair with another woman’s husband is painful, but you can put it behind you. here is his response to you:Yes, most married men who maintain long term affairs are narcissists., i don’t say this to give you “hope” that your married man will come back, i say it because, chances are he very well could at some point. changed my job and he said it won’t change anything between us but no more communication, nothing i could meet him maybe every two months for an hour,He made an excuse that he’s busy all the time and i was the one always understanding, till almost one month ago we had a plan to meet each other but he said he has something to do and try to manage time to be with me also, anyway it didn’t happened again and i was upset this time when he asked i said i canceled my medical appointment because i wanted to be with you and then he stopped talking to me! getting involved with a married man has taught me so many valuable lessons; however, i will never do it again. myself is involved with a married man for 3 and half years now trust me you made the right decision lonely weekends holidays i wish i had your courage to walk away i tried several times and he sucks me right back in yes we have great sex and hes very loyal to me in ways like texts all day long phone calls visits every month i was married 2 times and both failed so maybe im afraid of full commitment or just settle for someones crumbs but if i had to do it all over i would of never got involved with a married man he lives 2 hrs away from me and im a catch for my age and the same age as you just turned 47 this past week and feel the same way you do honey if he lied to you about the marriage hes a fraud and you mentioned you paid for everything hell no a man who cheats can at least treat you because all we are to them is there dessert best wishes to u be strong im gonna let loose soon new year and new phone number always helps. my ex-married man came across as confident, comfortable in his skin, charismatic, and made me feel like i was the only person in the room.. i wish i would have met you first because i never would have married her. he always insisted its me he wanted his life with, and no matter how many outs i tried to give him, he always assured me of his love and that the last thing he wanted was to watch me and my love walk away. i like many, never…ever thought i would be with a mm because like others i detested women who could do that. he has been in a sexless marriage for years bc he no longer has any physical attraction to his wife. everyone… after searching google, i came across this site on how to break up with a married man and started to read everyones comments. we see the perfect man (most the time) who makes us feel amazing. and yes, there are jerks and assclowns, and there are nice decent men who just happen to married. are so many beautiful and nice things in our lives, we just have to see and enjoy them again…step by step. my married man is also trying for a baby, so i can understand how that feels. in my case damn near 5 years, in his wife’s case, 18 years or so. been with him putting up with everything for 10 years almost…. are all human and we all need love and intimacy and to feel good about ourselves. for the first time in almost 3 years, i was having a normal friday evening, not one where i’m at home and the am is with his family…i had someone elses attention, and fully, no texts from the gf or worrying his dad will phone…. i had given my entire heart, mind, body, soul and spirit to this man and after shedding gallons upon gallons of tears and feeling the most excruciating heartbreak in my life, at 52 years old, the time had come. i know his children 13, 17 are important to him and i’d never ask him to disrupt them. we are in dysfunctional relationships but not every married man having an affair is promising their left arm to someone. want to end this affair because you know it’s wrong to cheat with another woman’s husband. i was indeed busy but my problem is, the busier i am, the more i miss that man. as much as i’m baffled with my attached man (i’m ‘forever waiting’, please excuse my spelling and general errors, its so hard to type on a mobile! i was in a 7 year long distance relationship with a married man and 7 years ago i broke it off. realised, i was smitten, and that i could love someone far more than the am man. these are cowards , if they truly don’t or can’t leave their wives get a prostitute and quite ruining good decent emotional woman’s lives. they are the ones who end up stuck in their unhappiness while we can break free and do have the choice to be happy again, with or without a man in our lives. all i can say is he was engaged, could have not got married to be with you and yet he did not., chasing and having sex with people you know are married or you are the married person in pursuit of the liaison the why is a huge question to ask yourself. the absolute turn about that a married man can affect, focussing totally on his family and leaving you wondering whether you ever even existed, is staggering. 15 months seems like a short time compared with some, at the same time, 15 months too many. i told him he’s married, we live in the same building and i kind know his wife. now i see that no matter how good they are and how sweet and good man they are.. i am amazed by the amount of women that are experiencing married men situations. i was on one and met a guy who had chased me for 6 years, although he is very laid back, i’ve seen him 3 times and its my escape for now, we don’t message much, but i forget my worries when i’m with him as he is so much younger and has a different outlook to life, which helps me calm down and distress. you’ll find several readers who are honest and strong enough to share what it’s like to date and break up with a man who is married. i’m close to his mates and his dad is aware of our affair and just told him no more babies but he is a man so didn’t cautian him or tell him he is wrong. just know how you as a woman would treat a man that you truly believed was the one… more than likely we wouldn’t let them just walk away. you know this isn’t real love, and you know the married man won’t leave his wife for you. i realise after 4 years my am constantly running his gf down is just a way for me to feel sorry for him, i can tell you something, i would be just like her if i had to put up with him too. trust me, it was the most painful, mind-boggling experience i have ever endured in my 52 years of life, and i have experienced abusive relationships in the past, but the most devastating thing about this one was the emotional abuse that he inflicted on my heart, mind and soul. a few months ago, a married man came to me (let’s call him david). decided on my 38th bday in august (last time i saw him) my 39th year was going to change…. he married his wife because she was from a rich family, same religion, state, everything. started seeing each other 8 months ago, it was always to be sex and he said he couldn’t make me any promises that was the mantra of our relationship.?I believe the ultimate lesson here is to love yourself more and more so that will not tolerate to be with an unavailable unfaithful man. the married man may have detached from you emotionally but that’s because their brain is wired differently to ours..and i am sure all of us before we met them, we were happy human beings with life in front of us being enthusiastic about many things. the game soon becomes a chore for him, and romantic interludes are just one more thing he "has to do. i think it is a brilliant idea to get pregnant again, i feel it’s one of the best ways to get over a married man. for some longer than others, but the only thing i want to tell you (and i broke up with my mm 3 weeks ago), you will be ok, i promise you will. i worked out of town and went home to find my husband had another woman living in my house. we are not dirty secrets, we are woman who deserve to be cherished and loved, dont ever settle for less than that. about 2 years ago, i met an older man (60 – i am 43), and he pursued me like crazy.) how did he expect us to live together and raise a child if he was married -no response. i met my married man i was married too- that was 7 years ago. you are so young, you have your life and an amazing man on the other side of this pain., sue, your story is mine, plus 10 years 😉 i have not read a story yet, quite like mine, until you. stay strong, surround your self with good people and don’t give up and don’t go back, i have gone back so many times, and then you have to start all over again. no matter how common it is to fall in love with and date a married man, it is degrading, dishonest, and disappointing. unfortunately, for many, they don’t get the lesson the first time, so they tend to keep repeating their dysfunctional behaviors. need to find some way to get out…this man is only thinking of himself…no phone, friends go some where even living in the street is better then the situation ur in… you left home at 18, do u have family members? i am not sure that my married man is a narcissist, i get confused because so many of the traits do not match what he is. i managed to ask for his number as he had mentioned previously a flat up for rent and i was looking at the time so used that as an excuse. i found his wife’s fb page and looked at everything they did together as family these last two years. from everything i have been reading (and thank you for sending the links because i am taking them to heart), i just can’t deny that he has too many similarities to one. you will be proud of yourself that you had the courage and dignity to stop dating a married man, and you will start readying yourself for a healthy new relationship. so, in turn, his apologies were actually his way of manipulating me further. starting to get this anxiety that i would go look for him and waited 3 hours to come out from lunch..It took me 6 years to realize i evolved my life around a married man who did and still does love but couldn’t give me a healthy relationship.. the needs of the many (namely, his family) will always outweigh your needs. of course i thought it was different, like many, but at least now i feel less alone.’t accept this married man’s phone calls, text messages, facebook popups, emails, facetime prompts, tweets, blog comments, or notes at work. he was engaged at that time but not married yet, we both knew it’s not gonna work but the emotion between us was too strong we couldn’t hold back. he was with me through my divorce after 27 years of marriage and now has when mia on me. was already jaded about married men on site because i met a guy i went on a date on and the next day, he refused to give me his last name. the married man who used to have his wife’s undivided attention might have to realize that he can no longer be the center of her universe and the relationship might become more of a struggle. he was supposed to come over so many times so that we can talk and he could tell me his plans and what’s going on but each time, he delays and delays and ends up cancelling which kills me. that i’m not enough i feel so stupid… he tells me the only reason he’s doing it is because he wants a sibling for his son his son will always come first because he will not loose him he’s not doing it for his wife but i’m not studip and i’ve said this to his face i don’t believe that bs reason, any way back to the advise i’m just trying to figure out how will i survived doing no contacts but having to see him at work everyday also people at work kind of know about us and i’m worried about them laughing at me typical stupid woman gets used, he gets to walk around being the big boss the one that gets what he wants and i’m the stupid laughable woman that put myself in this situation. know what true love is, and you also know that if the married man really loved you…he’d be with you every night. my mm basically doesnt want to do this anymore bc we are both married. how to let of someone you love: 3 powerful secrets (and 75 tips! laura, i knew my ex-married man for 10 years before ever getting involved. if i was as miserable as he has claimed to be for 4 years, and thought i’d found the love of my life, no way in this world would i let him go! then i got married to my on again off again bf while he was in korea and had never indicated he wanted more. the other woman is a intimate partner secondary source who is used purely to provide fuel (emotional attention) to the narcissist and most other women are dirty little secrets. it would not be malicious intent if there were a modicum of honesty to tell your so or have the character traits to settle for so little with a married person. that’s a long time you have been with this guy, ten years, whoa! time flies and as a woman we don’t have so much 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he has 3 other sons with 2 other women in past marriages. looking back i would have never married him in the first place. we still have opportunities unlike our married men stuck with their wives. it is scary how all our stories are the same…i have read so many posts here, and the foundations, evolution (of the story and us becoming ghosts of ourselves) and the end, when we end up being like we never existed, this is so cringing. been together for 23 years but married 17 years…we live in the same building…half of my neighbor knows he cheats for years…why she stay is the million question. ladies why do we find these relationships so intoxicating and give so much of ourselves and our loyalty to a man that not only does not deserve it but also probably doesn’t have much concept of it! man came to your life and treated you with cheating and lying. he made so many promises and set so many dates of when this would take place and when that would take place.. you will manage i promise but you have to do one thing everyday to leave that nightmare. caved and started having this affair with the married man two years ago. if i only knew at the beginning that falling for this man was going to turn my world upside down!. long story short, a married man persued me, we have what you would refer to as an online romance/affair/fling there really is no words to it. my beautiful married man whom i still sadly love so much.’d like to thank all of you for giving me strength to continue to stick to my guns and let my married man go! i believe that my married man was with me only coz he was alone in this city. i have a whole wonderful life to live without this married man! i’ve been sneaking around with this married man, ignoring my own husband who loves me more then anyone in this world., a few more things to add and hopefully you’ll consider … the loving words a mm tells you is a form of manipulation and brainwashing and this is why it’s so damn difficult to cut ties from him. i know some couples that haven’t been intimate in their marriage in 15 years or more! let him go eleven years ago, no contact , he shows up at my door. the many posts i’ve read on this site, as well as what’s happened to me personally, it’s clear that there have been numerous lies told, promises broken, silent treatments given, guilt-shaming, blame-shifting, false or vague explanations, etc. so both these married men want 2 women in their lives. i was with my married man 2 years and a half. i never wanted to be the other woman and i struggled for 4 years with this. after 3 or so months his wife left for texas and so it was like we were free to see each other again. 5 years later, i found out he had a girlfriend that he had for 2 years before he left his wife for me. he knows it and you would think a decent human being would not want to hurt you that way. you for being here, and sharing how difficult it is to stop dating a married man. i pray everyday that god brings me someone who loves me enough to put me first, because god knows, i put the man i love first. so all this bs of them leaving us alone no contact is just a way for them to emotionally manipulate us. i can understand your pain still being present 4 years later and i am so sorry you had to endure all of that which you did. i’m zooey i recently got involved with a married man when i’m also married we’ve been seeing each other for about 3 months until last week when he text me and said he valued his wife and jesus more and he is sorry. i just wish that i had been as open as i was in the letter years ago before he met his wife. as of my knowledge he had never met his wife in this 3.’s very strong of you to stop the physical relationship, something i tried many times. don’t get me wrong, i’m sure a lot of mm love their mistresses but they do something about it and don’t throw breadcrumbs and lies for years. the love of your life just might be a married man. dump that married man and live your life and find your own happiness with a guy for whom you will be a center of his universe. any one has the same feeling about their married men, or had, and can help somehow i will be happy to hear. in the past, when he had ended it, i had contacted him at 9 days after and then 3 weeks after that. because i have been in mine for 22 years and i don’t feel the love either. i didn’t even tell the mm i had feelings for him, i just knew that if i felt so strongly, i could not get married! he loves his wife and has stated it many times. have tried to end it so many times with my married man, even during the time things were great. this led to me developing huge feelings for him and he me, only problem is he is married with a new baby too. year together, i finally started putting my foot down and gave him a deadline and 3 days before the deadline, he stopped all contact with me. every time, and every day, they’d leave or come into the building together, they’d walk 3′ away from each other, neither of them talking, and both of them walking like soldiers., he started pulling back, saying doesn’t want to text so much any more, and has friended some very pretty younger woman on facebook. try to keep a journal where before you go to bed you write 3 good things that you are grateful for in your life. we cuddled for an hour on the sofa, on a sunday, like most the weekend when i’m usually alone, i had a lovely young man, in fact good looking and fit! but, you have to remember that when you date married men, you will get hurt. 17 years same man and we have a child together as well that nobody knows as i am married now too. you think your situation is unique and that he’s different than other married men, but they’re not. looking back now though, after nearly 5 years of having what i thought was the most beautiful, loving relationship i could have ever imagined in my life, i do have to wonder if it really wasn’t planned by him. likewise, if you think he will be happy if you have an abortion and its not what you want, you will hate him and yourself for putting yourself through that for a man who walked away and never looked back. a narcissists (please read poster ‘sharon’ and what she has to say over many threads and replies, a few below this one) will seek your attention in anyway they can and manipulate you. with all the technology out there, i am in my 50s, and can’t call the man who i write to everyday, and am in love with? reason he can stop thinking about you after 4 years is because: 1) he’s found a replacement and, 2) he never really loved you. you need to go no contact now because this man will destroy your life and steal your soul. it’s been over seven weeks now since i last spoke to my married man that’s almost two months! i can’t believe how much time and energy i wasted on this man. we fell in love, we are alike in so many ways. there’s something wrong about that sentence because no princess would be kept in the dark and be given such pain by a married man was three decades older than me he is 54 and i’m 27 and his wife was my pastor. he always treated me well, totall gentle man but as time passed. it’s been 3 weeks today since i have seen him…. he is still infatuated by me all these years later and i am infatuated with him but feeling deeper feelings than he does. i am leaving mine so i know it is complicated but you need to make things straight, for yourself, your husband and the married man. somehow i remembered i got married, had children and told him he had the wrong house. when he told me that, i realized how devastating that would be if i had bumped into them, i don’t know if he really understood that initially, as he knows many people and many friends in his business,so he was covered. it’s early days (a few months) but i forgot what it was like having undivided attention of a true and single man who puts you first and can text and call anytime! maybe there is a chance that your married man isn’t a narcissist, but based on what we’ve all been through on here, i doubt it. just confused, i dont know if he needs time to think or if its another woman. healer i spoke to tied everything back to our relationship with our self and our souls, when our choices are lacking integrity or hurting and taking from others, our actions will inevitably block our path to wholeness because we have betrayed ourselves, and left a crack in our integrity with our choice to be with the married man. i changed my attitude towards him we got closer , i let him move in my room lol, we just got super cool & i thought to myself like this too good to be true, he has a great career, not bad looking to be 42, tells me he has a daughter , & a house in texas, i said if u not married your gay, he denied being married for another month or 2, finally wen were were drunk coming from brunch heading home to cook for our friends i got it out of him, he married❗️ it’s my fault cus i should’ve broke it off then (i’ve never dated a married man), but he was like my only person who supported my decisions, & i just felt like he has my best interest in things, didn’t break it off so we lived together for 6 months whom he was here working, motivated me to get back in school, work etc got me back on track, but i’ve been feeling depressed since he left 3weeks ago❗️ i’m getting better but we are fading away, i know i deserve better & today i plan to just loose all contact, we said we were going to text & talk everyday but he slipping up! i came out a difficult marriage and my married man has been unhappy a very long time in his.’ve been in a relationship with a married man for nearly 2 years and i’m devastated right now. he also told me so many lies like he wasn’t sleeping with his wife but i found out she had a miscarriage two weeks ago. it’s been almost 4 years for me but the first year i was with my ex. am currently involve with a married man for a year now. your man became distant as soon as he slept with you, it’s horrendous behavior but i guess it’s common enough. i am in the same boat i meet a man 18months ago at the time i didn’t know he was married has time went by he told me he is a carer for his wife and nothing more and now he’s doing slot more stuff with her and i need out but can’t do it i have no will power am getting very depressed x.. cried myself to sleep too many nights cos he was perfect. he was my manager at work and due to the nature of the business he was in i had met and spoken to his wife and kids many times. 10 years of my life; the longest, most involved and ironically, most satisfying relationship of my life. i had been with my mm for nine years myself, but i am married too so there was no question of leaving our spouses and kids, it was just that he completed me in a way my husband never could, and we were more of friends than lovers anyway. you actually spend you time chasing the am/mm (mine with his gf for 12 yrs so i say attached man), wanting their constant approval, apologising lots if you feel you’ve pushed them etcetc. it’s like two drowning people and you have both found the same life preserver and you feel alive for the first time in years. i’m a married woman having an affair with a married man. but in saying this you seem to be conveniently forgetting that many women having affairs with mm are also cheating on their partners! we lost contact, he remarried and a few years later, had a child at 50, with his present wife. can talk to many people who have experienced similar situations on my blog. struck a cord in my heart because he reminded me what it was like to actually be the only woman, even for that evening, that was a part of him…no wife or gf at home. my married man has 3 children, one of whom is autistic., if there’s anything i can say that will help, it’s to tell you to stop looking for love from a man who cannot and will not give it to you, the way he’s promised to do so many times. we spend so many days and nights together which makes so hard for me to let go. not every person is a good human being and there are lots of nasty people out in this world, who are just nasty and not necessarily have a personality disorder. there it all started… i knew he was married with one child. when i am upset or need support and i am not all fun and laughs and romance, he treats me with silence. my ex married man has no children and says he doesnt sleep with his wife bla bla. this is just one blog hg tudor has from an archive of many and i just felt like it was a good place for you to start. love yourself and you will learn and understand that you’re more than a man who wants you because he’s not confident enough or man enough because of his problems since childhood. although i am hurting i know that this would be my first and last time messing with a man that is in a relationship -married or not. no one knows about me, even though i saw his son many times on facetime. its been 34 days since i ended a 2 year relationship with my married man. i never thought i would see a married man but i fell for him and i wasn’t even looking for anyone at the time it was a complete surprise and i couldn’t resist him. a year later married man resurfaces ( there was rare but occasional contact, openly during my marriage) and we decide to meet. when you sleep with your boss, you entangle your love life with your financial affairs — and the best thing to do after you stop dating a married man is to get financially independent! my married man is my colleague and we work together in the same ward, thank god he is not my boss. the latest was in 2013 but still it can’t say anything if there is no latest photos. marries man said he wants to grow his children that’s why he stays (lame excuse really). welcome your thoughts on how to break up with a married man. this time i’m fighting with everything, every prayer, every blog post, every woman who has or is in the same situation. i am a strong, resilient 51 year old woman, but this situation has brought me to my knees, literally. had the exact same reaction when i read the many posts on this site. searching for what your life is missing – and it’s not a married man. hes just using you nothing more, lies lies lies, iv been there, if he really wanted you for real, he would leave his wife and all his commitments, , married men will say anything, to get you into bed, because in reality its all they are after, wise up girl, i did. he made it clear that we are both married and this is a distraction from current life. he plays in a band as an outside hobby, and is commited to many paid performances. i’ve asked him so many times to just “break up with me” but he never does – and this keeps me hooked and in love with him. i want you to get strong and be the woman you’re meant to be. in fact, i dont wish to live with my mm or another man if i dont have to. ex called me after not being in touch for years. yes, he works loads, but, he find a few hours for football matches during the season and i’m sorry but nothing is stopping him see his friends maybe every other saturday evening for a few hours (he manages the local pub for a few hours many times a week, he claims his escape and so he talks to people as he doesn’t talk to his gf he has a child with and works with 10 hours a day (! my married man broke up with me four times in the last two years, although he doesn’t really call it break up. created you to be a partner for a man who wants to spend his life with you, and who treats you with love and respect. years with a man i had known from work and became extremely good friends with, for the first 10 years previous to our relationship beginning. but im still sad, im sad because i will never get to be with my soulmate- my married man, the one who my heart skips a beat for. he lived with me for over two years but now his work is far again – from me and from his family. the least we deserve is to be broken up with in a kind manner. accidentally found site and the comments on how to end a relationship with a married man. what a dream after being tangled up in a pointless love triangle for so many years.’ve also been reading another website that calls the manipulation part as creating the soulmate effect.’s married, which might add chemistry and excitement to your affair. have to make up your mind because it will be you in a few years telling others that you’re the side chick of a mm for over 10 years.’ve been with a married man for the past 5 years. fell for it and 20 years later here i am heartbroken…low self esteem. that goes to show what is important to you (wanting to be a mother, i’m 38 and in the same place as you probably read) he doesn’t really care. how many of these married men do you think have done that? i am a married woman having an affair with a married man. there are many other short blogs by this author and it would do you a world of good to educate yourself on what you’re truly dealing with. it’s not just married men, it’s all men who don’t know how to behave decently and empathically and do the right thing , however uncomfortable it may feel to do it. i never would have thought or considered being with a married man. i can’t even explain the hell you go through as ‘the other woman’. he can say he loves me and he hasn’t felt like this in many years.’s a good man, i know that he really don’t want to hurt me and his family but it already happened. we both know the pain these man have caused, just as much as everyone on this thread, but the more people like you and i who are willing to come together and help each other, is the most empowering and rewarding thing we can ever do. yes, i miss him and yes i get lonely but i keep coming back to this site and reading about the pain and heartbreak and i don’t want that anymore…i wish you great happiness with the right man. she is alone most of the time and spends it waiting: waiting for her married lover to call, to come meet her, to share some precious time together. ive been there and we tried many times to break up but didnt work until his wife found out about us the 2nd time. 5 years, i was always the love of his life, he had never met anyone like me, i was his one and only true love, he couldn’t live his life without me, i was everything “beyond this earth” to him, and all of those words and so much more were said to me the night before he quit talking to me. now i think, it’s so easy for him to seduce and manipulate me because he is my boss..questioning his whereabouts and all along he is still living with his wife……i loved this man so much but i knew in my heart the truth. tonight i did speak with my married men and i was like a crazy women for a solid hour and i told him it was over and he begged me to give him one last chance & that he will do his best by me and he knows he has treated me badly and it’s going to stop. do not share time with married or otherwise involved men.. towards beginning of our affair we both were ok with the fact that we are married and cant leave our families but we still want to b together. he has been married for 8 years but no children, every time he mentioned about his wife he was sad and always portrayed that there was nothing between them. edit question flag as scandalous question anonymous asked this expert i am sorry to have to be the one to break it to you, but dating, sleeping with, or being involved in any way with a married man never, ever works.

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(of which i am total opposite) i have been completlely heartbroken for 4 years now.’ve been seeing an married man who works at my company for almost 2years. would you have stayed the other woman for the rest of your life, not having any real life of your own, while he would have ? understand that many of you are exactly where i was almost a year ago. were so many times that i said i was done with him, but somehow, i always went back. so yes you might think im rotten for being with a married man but i did not go to him knowing. of my age, i have talked to so many people (around same age) that do not have any intimacy in their marriages. know its nobody business…but because he’s took advantage of me some 3 years ago,,,i went and told her…. little did i know then he had proposed to this other woman. a week went by and he texted me that he can’t live without me and that i’m truly the only woman that he loves. many victims i’ve heard from move forward into healthier relationships and marriages that last the rest of their lifetimes., give yourself a chance, i’ve been dating for many years before, and got nowhere, but had fun, lovely times and memories and spend normal weekends with these guys. the main reason why i blocked my married man from my phone is because i knew that i was deserving of a relationship that was not secretive and based on lies. i know because of this experience i will never, in my life, have another affair and i will never again fall prey to someone as conning and manipulative as the ex-mn. it is all different for everyone, but as sharon always said, please realise than most those married men if not all are narcissist and the only thing their want is their own happiness. there was a time when i would never have believed that my married man could hurt me. the past 9 years, i lost my daughter, my husband and my mother…i haven’t dated for 5 or 6 years. i counted how many times i tried leaving my ex-married man, and it is 7 on the dot. writing this to make sense out of the relationship i had with a married man to see if anyone agrees, or has also experienced, or thought the same way about this. i wasn’t this woman who could separate my feelings this way. years when i was with my ex, but when with my ex i said so many times i can’t carry on like this, i wanted commitment. i first found this site, i thought the exact same way, but i did convince myself my relationship with a married man was different, unique, not like all the stories i had read all over the internet. a colleague who is actually a close friend of my am for about 10 yrs, managed to keep his job but needed somewhere new to stay, he came over and liked the room so i got that sorted too (there was no more rent from the am). yrs ago said lets have a baby now, i’ll put you in a flat (funny, he has struggled to pay basic low rent the past 2 years as a contribution, he couldn’t have ever afforded to rent a whole flat for me and a child! i told my married man that i wanted to be there and he got mad. i’ve wasted too much time losing myself for almost two years – i don’t even have interesting stories anymore because i’ve done nothing but hang my hat on this love. after 10 years i had an affair with single guy for almost three years. there is so much that doesn’t add up and although he worse 7 days a week he always has done as his job was only ever temporary and he has a huge mortgage and business bills to pay – he made out for almost 4 years he worked non stop to leave but he’s working non stop to pay his bills, he is a business man and he is working hard now for lack of salary not for me! forwards three years and i barely even see him anymore.. my failing relationship ended, i ended it on new years eve after 16 yrs as i didn’t want to go thru another year of torture. and we started over from the beginning of this years. you hate yourself for sleeping with another woman’s husband, and you also tell yourself that you can’t break up with this married man because you love him. he’s been married to her for 30 years and we been doing this for 7 years. it is hard, but seeing how there’s so many of us taking it one day at a time is such an amazing help. i still miss my married man too much, i think about him almost all day, it makes me tired and stuck. i don’t deserve to be second or lower priority to a man. i was resentful at happy families too, or i look at every married guy like a cheater, i am thinking “he is cheating for sure”. i’ve read tons of articles about cheating married men and fact is they will always choose to stay in a comfortable situation, even if it’s not what they want, because it’s easier. never felt a connection to those other guys and i know better i’m 47 years old. his apparent passion et al is manufactured to draw fuel (emotional attention) from you. so he claims that he can’t see my friend anymore and is moving in with this woman so his ex can’t use the affair attack (i did explain its rubbish and the courts would not be interested in the affair and who is seeing who). we started this affair and continued seeing each other over the next 10 years…. later in 2016 i contacted my married man, i had never really got over him and just needed to speak with him. am a well educated woman as well, i don’t think you have to be smart to avoid a married man, i think we have to love ourselves more. i was trying to get pregnant for 5 years, i had to take infertility treatment for all these years and nothing worked. think the married man is so happy to feel again that you become his focus! i’ve no yearn to see him as suddenly, after almost 4 years, i’m suddenly sick to the core of waving him goodbye and knowing an hour later he is home with his partner and gf. we broken up so many times and got back together but now its really over. i became involved with this man thinking it would be a brief fling. i have been in a 3 yrs relationship with a mm and he happens to be my officemate. he has 3 daughters (one born a 11 months after my son). i feel bad knowing that i’m the other woman, but i just love him too much. i, along with many others, have been witness to how cold and aloof she was towards my affair partner, as well as towards others, and how their relationship was just really odd at best. advice sometimes we have to learn big lessons in our life and it sounds like you have, good for you for recognising this, i am super used by the amount of men who prey and are looking for a fling probably says more about their own personal character, sometimes us woman are to blame because we so desperately want to hear the words from a living man we become blindfolded and let him in so easily, they really don’t have to try very hard?   more on chickrx: the married man i was seeing, did in fact leave his wife for me.. he is married and is happy so why the hell does he want to torture me like this? men are human lol, they can and probably do have feelings for us but remember: more than likely there was someone before you and will be after you. how does a decent man say, “i can’t discuss this now, maybe next week” and “i can’t love you the way you want, but (but? i was one of those who swore to never ever get involved with a married man, that it could never happen to me because i knew exactly what i wanted out of my life. i was approached by 2 other men being dignified i said i wasn’t interested, i’m a smart woman i take great pride in my appearance. anyone who is still involved with a married man, all i can say is end it now., im in a relationship with a married man for almost 6 years now a have a son with him and our son he is 3 years old , we are working at the same place so he decided to move in with me and now i really want to break up with him coz it doesn’t assist me anymore plz help me to out of this mess. i returned to work and his first week not being there (we’d worked together for 4 years, was a huge shock, we worked on pieces of the project together 60% of the time, that’s how closely we worked for a good 3 years of the time! it’s madness but it’s a madness only a woman in an affair with a married man can understand. years), my life was everything i had ever wished for, dreamt of and knew i deserved. i’m waiting until i feel the time is right to tell them what i’ve been doing… or perhaps one day one of these men will catch me with the other man and the problem will sort itself out. am also dating a married man for one year 2 months. how do i leave the man that i am so in love with. we knew each other for several years prior to beginning this affair, and i always had a deep connection with him — a connection i had never felt with anyone else (even though i had serious relationships in the past). well, withing 3 weeks he did, went to live with his dad. you for sharing your stories about being involved with a married man. i cannot believe how many women out there have gone/going through the same thing with married men! i wanted to get married but he kept stalling and would make up some excuse and give some reason why he couldn't marry me yet. it’s his manipulation tactic to try and draw me back in, and i see right through it. 5 years there have been so many times where i’ve been hopelessly depressed and i’d go out with my friends have drinks and meet men almost like rebelling against him. how to end a 13 year relationship is a hard one only you know how. i’ve been single since i was born abd never been involved with a man until my married man. wish i have your courageous and strength…you are a strong woman…. i text back saying thank you so much, you have really cheered me up and this is the first saturday i have woken up happy in many many years. worst thing for me is wasting 4 precious years and even thinking about ivf with a guy who can’t commit to anyone! one really starts off wanting to wreck their married man’s family life or even their own. have been involved with a married man for almost 12 years. someone who has been over and is now happy after their affair with a married man. used to feel like i was the exception with my married man. if a man truly loved you, he wouldn’t put you through this! you keep your married man as your contact, i can assure you that tomorrow, or in a week or two, even three, you will feel an irresistible urge to initiate contact, or worse, he contacts you first which will make it even harder for you to keep silent. i left my married man very soon, because i knew what was going to happen, because i learned from you all. my married man has a daughter from a previous marriage and she decided she wanted to live with her mom full time because she doesn’t like to be at mm home due to her not liking his wife. here’s how to break up with a married man and heal your broken heart, plus encouragement from a woman who broke up with an unavailable husband that she was cheating with. need to step back and identify the priorities -- your priorities -- in a relationship with a married man. i have been seeing a married man for 9 months and no one knows. we both are married, i have a young child as well. truth is, while you’re getting the golden period, she’s being devalued (manipulated – see above); and when you’re being devalued, she’s (or a new source of supply) getting the golden period. am with him for one year 2 months and initially i didn’t even know he is married until i met his wife personally in the airport when we were back from a trip. will manage to think less and less about it, the truth is you will never get answers and never know what is the truth. have been dating my married boss for 3 years until his wife came to my house and all hell broke loose, i’ve left my job because she promised to kick me out if she finds me in the office and so pity my so called boyfriend is a coward he can’t stand up and be a man. but, thinking of it further, could never be with him–distrust issues and would always be the other woman no matter what., please if your in a relationship with a married reconsider and leave the relationship nothing good will come out of it. and even if life may not be romance and roses, it doesn’t really give you an excuse to stray. i don’t feel like being branded as ‘ the home wrecker’ and ‘the other woman’. i can see that some of the narcissistic traits matched my mm, so many didn’t. with my married man almost a year and a half.! i think at the time he was panicking about losing me for some reason and at that time had not perfected the manipulation. i too knew my married man before the affair started and had a close friendship with him. my whole world started revolving around him, i would end up taking time off work just to be with him during the weekdays and surviving on only 2-3 hours of sleep just to ensure we get to spend the maximum amount of time with each other and then one day he mentioned that him and his wife are going for the ivf procedure.’ve been visiting this site almost every day while i was in a relationship with my married happy but the other said still have pain cos he is married. anyway, 2 months ago he lost his job as many did where i worked. though i think right now whatever you do you need to do it for you and not for you married man. it’s been three months since i told my mm of almost 5 years out of which he lived with me for over 2, that it’s enough, he cannot be going back to visit his kids, stay under the same roof as his wife and pretend that i don’t exist, sneak out to call me and play family. i too see my married man not every day but at least twice a month…we live in the same building. i’m stuck with this black soul of man who is not only married, but treats me like a slut. so after 15 years of this affair which started when i was 35 ……. he just told me that he found out today that he will be going home (he’s from out of state) and when he returns after 20 days he will be staying elsewhere, i couldn’t believe how much this hurt me, i found out about his being married a week ago and thought i had just accepted that he was a no-go but figured that i would leave him on my own timeline, this sucks! i always said, if i could help just one person from having to go through the experience i did for nearly 5 years, and in the end find that you meant absolutely nothing to the mm, then it’s more than worth my time to help. this married man likes having his wife at home and you as an extra perk on the side. he called it soul mismanagement, and his guidance was around understanding the structure and framework and regaining our integrity, working on our soul’s self care, and making a sacred covenant to your self to withhold these commitments to our self. in fact, the overwhelming majority of married men never leave their wives. i worked with a married man for yrs and became involved. my so called married man insisted that he was separated from his wife but still lives in the same house as his wife and child and says he only does it for his daughter. we met 5 years ago i’ve known him for years and never approached him. married men just move on so quickly, as if nothing ever happened. in fact, she is dating a married guy who happens to be a friend of mine.! i don’t need any man or any person to treat me like that. i’m going through the breakup process with this married man again because enough is enough. i know i have to end this affair with a married man and focus on my healing. he will continue cheating on her and he will do to the next woman as he has done with you. through as many as you can and make note of the narcissist website sharon has mentioned, seems you’re already dealing with one! i have gotten into trouble at work for my absenteeism since the official mark of the end of the relationship between my married man and i. going through a similar situation…my question is…do these married men ever get caught? i am 38 years old im married but my husband is gay thou he is in denying it to me all the time. of course making it easy for him and he was still married! i was all alone that night, i tried callin this man but he was with his wife that night so obviously didnt answer. i know that this should be the end but i can not seem to stop thinking about him, his promise to never leave me, his promise to never go anywhere all of those times that he said he loved me so deeply that it would actually make him cry and this is not a man who takes his feelings lightly. i always made fun of women who dated a married men. i pray you reconnect with god, with your husband, and with the you who deserves so much more than being the other woman.’ve often wondered (throughout my life) why it was that i attracted so many negative people into my life; and now, i know why. going no contact is a great idea but we all handle things differently, so for me throwing breadcrumbs and hearing back, even 2 words once a day is helping me whilst i get my head straight(well, as straight as possible…i’m in utter shock at the moment it’s come to this and i realise he is a manipulative liar). affair with another woman's husband is painful, yet you can't let him go because you love him. do t forget men are there when it’s easy when it start being hard and requiring real proof of love they leave us alone, because ” you are so strong, you are the stronger woman i have ever met it’s incredible” bullshit, they just want to take the guilt away and feel like we can endure anything that the wife can’t. that he is 52 years old and that he has never had a little girl tight p**** like mine before.. we have got to realise any man that can constantly do this to their partners for a year, 3 years, 5 years and so on are pretty screwed up and we are not immune to their sh*tty behavior…. i am also confident in the fact that the day i come across a good man, i will appreciate him., as i’ve said, it’s been 10 months since i’ve spoken to the married man, yet i stay on this site because it’s crucial for me to help those of you either in the fog still, or just coming out. we both fell in love with each other (or so i thought) finally, after 10 years i left my husband and he left his wife. the silent treatment on emails a trick of narcissistic married man? even though i sleep over at his home and sometimes we vacation together, i want him to say i will put you before any other woman. like you, almost 3 years ago i left my ex bf i had lived with for 3 years. i’ve left married man many times but the longest was 4 days. he emailed me once a few years ago just to send me a brochure, and that was the extent of our email contact in the years i’ve known him.. i have been married for 16 years and i met this guy at work who was also married for i think 3 years back then with one child. are my thoughts too, we have husbands that love us & i know if he ever found out about my married man i would lose it all and cause so much hurt in the process to my kids, my husband. sometimes learning how to break up with a married man involves a decision. hate myself so much for getting involved with a married man…i feel like i cant let him go…idk y…smh…he and his wife paint such a pretty picture of there lives on social media…makes me always wonder why he cheats the way he does…i also wonder does she have a clue? after two years, he got work here again and actually moved in with me but still went back there about every 4-weeks. i’m so grateful for the time we got, and that we were able to have our own world where his being married almost didn’t matter. i read my married man’s love horoscope everyday wondering how he’s getting along with his wife or whether he had another woman when he had me. i couldn’t believe it when he made a move and these past years have given some of the happiest moments of my life.

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thank you so much for your comment and i sincerely hope you can break away from the man who’s holding you hostage. i never thought a simple friendship would turn into a 3 year relationship. he is not prepared to start all over again with a younger woman with a young child. however, he was married and although it is a loveless, sexless marriage it worked. years after that suggestion…we’ve not even had a weekend together! have been together for 4 month and then i cut it, now one and half months have passed from my break up with the married man. honestly, i did not really have a support system, so i hope you can do better than me, but i went to london many times to see the only real friend i had, and i decided to make new memories (i went with him in so many capital of europe, i was scared of going back, but i decided to make new memories in those places to make sure i would not be scared of living again). i knew the ex-mn in my life 10 years prior to anything happening, but after learning all i have, i now know i was targeted from the moment he saw me. if you think for once that that man doesn’t think about you you are very mistaken. he tells me he wants to be with me, but he is married and has three children and this is the excuse i always get, the children… they are now teenagers, i feel guilty… i want to settle down and have normal things with someone who really wants to be with me… and as much as i know he wants me. i can’t speak for all married men, but it seems to me that they enjoy having a woman that “needs them” emotionally and physically. a friend of mine introduced us but she wasn’t aware he was married. you thought your affair with this man wouldn’t turn out this way. though i have never expected, but we share the bed, we did not have intercourse as his dialogue was until and unless we get married we should not have that. i come on and read the stories every time i feel down about him, it makes me realize that there isn’t such thing as a loving, special or fairytale ending when you are involved with a married man. it seriously is not worth it and you’re absolutely right … if a man truly loves you and wants only you, nothing can stand in his way. i was in this awful situation for a year, but spent more years turning other men down and even leaving my fiance for the married man i got involved with. but it is helping to know i’m not the only one in this world who has made the selfish mistake of being with a married man, but i guess you can’t help who you fall in love with. am currently dating a married man and i need to cut off all tires with him after reading all these mails it so true the only way is to block him so you have no tires at all with him his promises i cannot deal with any more i deserve so much more than this really i do thanks for all the emails on this website made me decide its not worth waiting. crazy twisted thing is we used to be together 15 years ago for two years. so it’s not like you can’t be in an affair with a decent man, but most often they never break up with you in a decent way, relationships end all the time but it’s only with married men that they are so long drawn out, torturous and exhausting. at times, i still find it shocking how everything turned out and i may never fully understand how any human being can cause so much anguish in another person’s life. it went on for nearly 5 years and it would still be going today had i not said to myself on day one after being given the silent treatment (a narcs #1 weapon), “two can play at this game “! i thought this poor guy has been trying to have a date or even just a coffee for years, and i don’t give him the time of day, but i give the time a day to a cheater, liar and someone who constantly lets me down and feeling low poop most the time? he is married and lives in the same building as i do. i am dating a married man and when i am asked if i am seeing anyone, i say no, he gets angry. you are not a masochist, you are a human being and a woman at that. don’t do it to capture him, don’t keep it expecting anything more than man feeling cornered into a decision. dont think i will ever fall in love again with a single guy and definitely not with a mrried man anymore! i went through a rocky divorce and he was ‘there’ as a friend, but i never crossed the line, neither did i let him do that, because he was married. if you abuse someone (and that means cheat on them, hit them, not talk to them, erode their self esteem and so many other different ways) and it happens once, maybe twice, it could be written off as an aberration caused by drinking, stress, medication or fatigue. then he got married and i was so upset but he still loved me a lot and tried to maintain the relationship and we loved each other even more. is not a life, this will be my 3rd xmas alone, well 4th now, because i wasted 4 years almost believing the am. i told him that he is a liar, cheater and manipulator. of course you still hurt, you are a normal woman and people hurt from getting played in the way we get played. we started and i get pregnant and he was happy as we were getting ready for our marriage i found out he was married in africa without kids. i’m in a much better place now (time is a good healer, i’m in the ‘shock’ stage, not the shock of not being with him, but all the lies, manipulation and at some points nastiness to get what he wanted over the years…. hope it helps you move forward in love and peace, and find a man who is available and willing to unite his life with yours. he has been with his wife for 25 years and is not ready to change his life this late in the game.’m greatful that you ladies are sharing your stories, and experiences with these married men. everything you described is my married man and our situation to a tee.. he been married 3 times and cheated on all three wife…how his present wife not see this is beyond me…. i definitely think that not all married men are just using us but they start sinking under the weight of when fantasy turns to reality. even if my married man was single, there are probably some items on the “bad” list that would keep you from being truly happy together, but you still can’t get over him. the next day i felt soo guilty and tried to stop it immediately as having an affair with a married man is a mistake and didn’t reply to him or even speak to him for a week, but he was very persuasive and convinced me to give this relationship a shot as there was nothing between him and his wife. we live in the same building for over 20 years until 4 years ago we start talking. he’s been married 11 out of 16 and me 14 out of 16. he has told me that he hasn’t felt this horrible since he lost his mother 15 years ago. hg tudor also has many, many books (on amazon) describing in full detail what a narcissist is all about. it is absolutely killing me to think that after four years he can just f off and carry on with his own life like i never existed! and he slept with her on his birthday (january 31st). a man who can’t keep his word or promises when he married someone, he will never change and you will always stay the side chick you will never be more than that to him. i’m only a few years older than you and mine started when i was 27 too through work with someone that much older than me too. i've tried so many spell casters but all to no avail. at the same token later on i told my married man i was spending time at my son’s house beach for three weeks he mentioned he wants to spend time with me there. but, hearing stories of woman that continue to see the married man, i just could never do. today marks two weeks since i ended things with my married man and today is truly the worst day of my life. you’ll feel better about yourself and your life after ending the affair, and you’ll see the married man differently. i have been in a 3 yrs relationship with a mm and he happens to be my officemate. be prepared to face the reality that breaking up with a married man is difficult and painful – but the best thing you could do for yourself. i am all for womanhood, and in no way possible did this woman deserve to be cheated on by her husband. i’m going to shut the new married man situation now before i get hurt or hurt anyone else more. married man is lonely and feels rejected at some level, how can you not?.”he might still be here for me…” no words of love, no words of thanking me for the years, etc. the moment you don’t feel like you can break away, if you read sharons post on here (the help she has given me is the reason i have not reached out, i keep reading her posts and responses and with her and liz they are the only reason i have not gone running back and contact the am, i don’t know these amazing women but they have saved me from further heartbreak, it’s been almost 4 years, i’m exhausted) …but you will start cutting off in your own time, you need to be in a strong frame of mind or something will happen that’ll make you snap (which it did me). i conjured up in my own mind that i could be the one that provided the love and relationship to him while he made money with this woman. ways to support yourself financially is the best way to get over your affair with a married boss. he waits for his fiancée to go to sleep then calls me for 3 hours every night. i often thought it was cute, like a romantic quest. my married man hid the fact that he was married when we met. have been seeing my married man for about a year now., i like to read your writing about how to deal with the thoughts of the married man and his wife. two years and a half later here i am having the worst week ever. she has to hear this ex pull up outside her house 3 times a week to pick us his daughter, he refused to say goodbye claiming ‘i’d break down and i don’t want to cheat on my new woman’ – very rich coming from him as he forgot to end it with my friend before he decided to start with this other woman! four years of seeing my married man we stopped talking in the first week of july. but, saying that, my am may have totally supported me and attended all the appointments to prove he was fertile, he hasn’t been able to attend 3 of the very painful procedures i have to endure for fertility tests and i realised with the last one, if i got pregnant this is what life would be like…. so for 2 years it became much more difficult to see each other. this is first with a married man but i also had to overcome many breakups before, and when i look back, they have all gone into the past. i had the exact same breakup convo with my married man. by being involved with a man who is married or in any way committed elsewhere, you are telling the universe that commitment, faithfulness, fidelity, and integrity are qualities in a man that just don't matter to you. now i’ve my own boyfriend (however long it lasts) and i’m smiling more than i jave done in years. i cannot get over the disbelief of how much a man can change, how he can just cut you dead and go on with his life, and you start questioning all the things that you ever shared together. i think that is the best advice i have gotten from many women on this site. started seeing an attached man (almost 4 long years now) and i was chased and chased every time about 4 months down the line when i tried to end it. i know that he’s married i know that he’s comfortable and i know that he would never leave his kids but i also know that i was not the first affair he’s had on his wife but why stay and be unhappy and lie for the rest of your life instead of telling the truth and being happy and if he’s really chosen to make this decision to stay with his wife or his wife to stay with him how do i get over this hurts how do i begin to heal after 10 years of loving the same man? i agree with you not all married man are monsters and intended to hurt us in the start but in the end we all get hurt and has to carry on with the guilt, shame, disappointment and bitterness for i don’t know how long. i left him an angry voice mail on saturday the 26th around 3:30pm he called me back at 4:30pm giving me a bs excuse and i knew he was lying to me. i have worked with a married man who pursued me quite hard and confessed his feelings for me once he learned i was going through a divorce. i mean, i did a bad thing by knowingly getting involved with a married man in the first place. my ex-married man also said he would not have another baby, then changed his mind to lure me back in (it worked), and then said no again. my children figured out he was married (damn social media). it’s hard to believe that so many of us have the same similar story. yes, they can play happy families and happy married couples – but the fact they had you ladies means there was something wrong in their marriages, something was missing there and you were providing them with what was missing. choose you above all else, and it will change everything- your relationships with your self, kids, your married man will feel it, your family, friends , your colleagues, everyone. i hope every woman or man reading this can gain the strength to finally come to a point where you decide you deserve more.. i’m not a stupid person, far from it really actually very intelligent and i actually find he is kind of dumb in many ways and he would not be the type of man i would ever usually go or fall for.. that was almost a year ago now and he has been persueing me for two years. i feel that i will never find a man and i will be alone forever. i’ve heard many a people say ‘they’re all the same, we all have the same stories. everything i read says to cut off all communication with the married man in order to heal, but how do i do that when we have a child together? what type of man of father does that to their child? i am no longer that happy, vivacious and innocent young woman he met. the other thing that helps with staying away is that we won’t have the chance to let someone walk into our lives who will be free to love us unconditionally unless we stay free from married man…texts included. be aware though, all of our situations are different and sometimes the married man will come begging you back (hoovering) immediately or like in most cases, they give you the silent treatment for however long they feel like it.’s impossible to have a healthy relationship with a married man. a lot of it, and it’s up to you to manage how much i can handle at once. but i am crying everyday, and many days i wish i would just sleep forever and not have to deal with anything of that. i’m just accepting the fact that i have to let my married man go…but it hurts like hell. i always thought it was cute and romantic, like a quest. over the beginning years we didn’t discuss a future, but 4 years ago we said that was our goal…the details fuzzy…and i am a detail oriented person so this has been a huge struggle for me. we have not had sex for about two years because of my husband’s ed. i know he (being what is considered a greater narcissist) knew exactly what he was going to do and how he was going to manipulate me into turning my own world upside down. my married man couldn’t bear it if i so much as scratched myself or bumped my head but now i think he won’t even blink if i drop dead at his feet. i had a talk with my bf who is married with kids that i decided to do the right thing and breaking him up. yes, i miss the married man but i miss the man i used to know. but, finally i know that he had another mistress beside me and their relationship has started from 4 years ago. married man told me today he can’t and won’t leave his daughter. this man has been married for 24+ years and has had several affairs that i personally didn’t find out about until later. women get exhausted and lose themselves in motherhood and can’t meet the demands the husbands make on top of all that they do and men get frustrated and feel neglected. two months ago my 7 year relationship with my live in boyfriend ended and what do i do…i start texting my married man! we could’t resist the love for each other so we continued and fell even deeper in love when he got married and after he got married., these men are all the same and use the same tools to manipulate and make us fall in love. and in that dream, he tried to send me some kind of…links, and when i clicked on those links, all i could see was how he proposed sweetly to his wife, how they got married, how they are happy together. many people think it doesn’t just happen but it does. much research has been done on infidelity to give explanation for the reasons why people cheat and lie to the other woman or other man about the state of their marriage. me when i say this, no man who truly loved you would stay married if he found the love of his life elsewhere. basically, it was fun, he was romantic and he took me out of my day to day. i’m supposed to go on a vacation with my married man next weekend.!I read your stories of seeing your married man and wife on fb…ouch…. i can’t keep wasting my life with someone who says they will divorce but 2 years later hasn’t. but my husband hadn’t touched me for many years even though i begged him to please get help, to no avail. just like with anything, it’s a matter of how many times your heart and brain can take a beating before you are done. but thats not enough we need to be the one and only woman in a relationship with a man. i am 38 years old im married but my husband is gay thou he is in denying it to me all the time. and then last night – i was out with friends and the married guy showed up. really, i’ve never met a man who cares so much for his kids. i’ve lived before (i’m 38) and have lived with 2 ex partners – real relationship are hard work, not all airy fairy and you have your arguments and can’t go off to your separate homes. for me the hardest part of the struggle was withing the first 3 months. may you see how valuable and worthwhile you are, and know that you deserve to be loved by a man who is 100% committed and available to you. i even researched about woman moving in with their new partners into their ex ‘marital’ homes to be mature about it, and some women were great, saying it’s now their home and their memories and just bricks and mortar….. vicki counsels a reader who is involved in an affair with a married man. now i am mourning the end of my marriage and a bad breakup all while working with this man who is now going on a family vacation 🙁. i broke up with my married man exactly a week ago. the thing is, this man, he was engaged when we met. he is 39 years old and i’m 26 years, and he is my boss. i never chased him; i liked him, but since he was married i never would’ve made a move on him. i am married with three young kids and have been seeing amarried man on and off for 5 years. my friends would never dream of being with a married man or letting themselves get into my situation so it makes talking to them very difficult. and being the pathetic human being i am i called . feel sane finally, after reading this post……i can’t cope physically pr mentally anymore with the rollercoaster that is my ‘fake’ relationship with my married bf…. this man really loved you, wouldn’t he want what’s best for you and let you move on with your life? he ensnared me in the worst way imaginable and i’m just to the point where i really don’t care if i meet anyone ever again, and if i do, i will handle myself in a completely different manner than what i’ve done before. he only cared for me as long as i was in his safety bubble of narcissism, those little gifts were in his safety net of not getting financially caught, he did the max he could to keep me nearby, interested, romanced, somehow that made him feel like the macho man. i have never been treated as badly by any man before in my life. i was in a relationship with a married man for nearly 2 years and we were in love head over heels. didnt say anything – except that we did the right thing and that he wouldnt stand a chance with me as long as he is married, as i deserve so much better than just being an affair.. we spoke and he cleared a few misunderstandings about work and then he started getting all romantic, after the sex he just upped and was ready to leave without even satisfying any of my needs. he told me he had cheated on her the entire 15 years together.

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think about how you were before the married man and during the affair. its been 2 days i sent my married man the breakup mail & i was feeling so relaxed & free that day, he replied saying u have gone mad n u cant stop me from loving you. anyway just for the record, my relationship was not abusive for nine years. but we have to be honest to ourselves if it’s been years and he won’t leave her. then, when that relationship ended unexpectedly, i got a job working with my married man, and my vulnerability let it start all over again. takes strength and courage to let go – but you can learn how to get over a married man!!He text me the next morning asking if i was awake (so saturday morning)…i text 3 hours later (yes, hungover, but was worth it! tomorrow marks one month since i ended things with my married man and while i do miss him so much every day, i am doing better than i thought. you’re a strong woman and i believe in you! i am married as well, and realize that i have to deal with that and move on or work on it. these married men, they never choose us, they give up on us the moments we need them the most. i have been involved with a married man for almost 9 years.. my ex married man left his work like 2 yrs ago cause he didnt want to continue there and my dum quite the job too. i can be the strong woman i always wanted to be and i will never let anyone treat me as badly as he did. we loved the highs, but the lows (times without the married man), which was most of the time, destroyed us. and it seems easier for married men to move on. it’s a pattern with all of us who have been attached to a married man. that lasted for about 3 weeks and i couldn’t handle it. felt the same with my guy but i even met him when i was married!. going into this i knew he was married and i knew it was wrong and i expressed that to. i’ve tried to break it off with my married man. he has 3 kids and is a doctor and very committed, him and his mrs have broke up before and got back for the kids sake and cos of what people will say cos in there culture divorce or separation is like one of the worst things. affair with another woman’s husband is painful, yet you can’t let him go because you love him. and no married man deserves to be given all the love that comes from a good, beautiful, caring woman, especially if it’s not his wife. everyone on this site can ignore the fact that their married men are narcissists, but it’s time for all of us to stop being in denial. so somehow the grip this man had on my psyche dimmed, i had so much more to think of. i kept asking a million questions to friends, so i could understand the man’s side of it. see the pain that loving another woman’s husband causes. it’s just been me to pull away from him because of my married man. i was with my boyfriend for five years and after five years of dating i founded out on the day of his wedding that he was getting married. always thought i’d end up with my am, i mean, like many, we have spent almost 4 years (and 3 years too long! 6 years of my life with him went down the drain. i know i’ve become the “other woman”, “the mistress” and even though he tells me differently, i know that as long as i’m in the picture i’m essentially breaking up a family and it’s killing me. once you have the baby, the grip this man has on your psyche will lessen. for the first four years of our relationship, he had valid reasons why he couldn’t leave his wife at the time. it’s a huge mistake – destructive emotionally, spiritually, physically, socially – to have an affair with another woman’s husband. if this ones comes back years from now – i doubt he will ever contact me again – i want to smile in his face and walk away with my dignity in tact. i’m now 38 and time is running out, but i’d rather be with no children then have 1, secretly, with someone so messed up, that’s not a life for anyone. he’s everything you’ve ever wanted, you belong together…but he is another woman’s husband. the thing that has me really hurt right now is i saw the married man this week and the next day my son had surgery. i’m trying desperately to handle things logically (like if i was still seeing him, i’d always feel sad when i say goodbye and he rushes home…to his real home, i’ve not seen him since my birthday 3rd week of august, never ever did i think i’ve go a week without seeing him like when i’ve been away or him, but it’s almost 2 months! its hard as a single mother with no affection and you meet a great guy only to find out he’s married. he would “like” my posts on facebook and then my emails went from daily to every 2-3 days then 3-6 days and i told him how much i wanted to hear from him more. i have been reading so many books to help get me through, along with talking to a counselor, my mother and a couple of really close (nonjudgmental) friends. is utter rubbish and now i realise, a free man can be loved from head to toe inside out 24/7 so much more than the attached men! she believes that married men are weak, that they don’t have the strength to choose you even if their heart wants to, for whatever reason. stay strong, relax and meditate if you can, exercise, find a hobby and focus on yourself because even if you were with this man you need your own life. i’m so confused as to why he insists on persuing me as i’m also about four or five years older than him too. i believe he married her, then turned her world upside down, just as he did mine. i discovered they were married shortly after he became my boss. in march 2016 i started dating a great guy and, after a final night, i also managed to stop the friends with benefits relationship. i’ve tried breaking up with my married man (whom i happen to work for which makes it infinitely worse) for months. told me in the beginning he was sleeping on the sofa, yet 3 weeks ago his neck “hurt” so badly he had to sleep in bed again. i am married with a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful kids. no man that truly loved you would put you through this — never. well, i have to own that i put myself here, but i too am involved with a married man. i’m 30, single and we knew each other from work when he entered the company 2 years ago. lost my kitty and my dog in the same year, and like you, i realized this man could not be there for me in any capacity. came across this website while seeking help how to break free of a mess i found myslef in… im 27, and i have started to fall for a married man who works in the same company. have happened recently (lost his job) but i’ve given him 3. it is not that difficult to sweep a woman off her feet, men are smart and know that very well. i’m only day 3 but plan to take it one step at a time. but once, i used another account to look for his facebook updates and what i saw was his posts of their honeymoon trip to maldives with the hashtag #anywherewithwifeisbest, and another post that said “being with the one you love is the best thing in this world” – i broke down completely, who i am to this man? our living arrangements has been the same for the past 3 years – he goes home to his family for 3 weeks during christmas time, and another 3 weeks during summer. these married men will continue to suffer in their marriages and even if they divorce, trust will always be an issue with them. he gets jealous if i even talk to another man at work but he can flirt and talk to any women he wants to and i shouldn’t comment. i felt in my gut that he was never separated but living as man and wife. his new wife didn’t even live with him after they were married, she only came home on weekends. now i’m sitting here at a wellness center in negril, jamaica doing everything to release this attachment to this man, praying, yoga, mineral baths, dancing, writing. that married men may really be lonely, they may be decent people but the breakup is always messy and cruel and very damaging to us. years in) because i thought this was him showing his love…how very stupid of me!, even though this is a blog, your responses are so genuine and so human. you still struggling to break up with your married man? it hurts me because when thinking back, i reckon he’s never chosen me from the beginning, he could have a chance but he got married anyway and what he always said to me is he was sorry he couldn’t be with me 100% of his time, that he was not 100% mine although he loved me with all his hurt. married man always said i wish i can do this ,i wish i can do that with you. he was having performance problems with her so i barely got it 1x/week for fear if she might want some he’d have to do it. today he met me at a restaurant after 3 weeks of avoiding me and his words to me was that i was chasing him like a dog and he doesn’t need to give me any proof and he doesn’t want to give me any proof. god will never open the door for you for what you truly deserve until you close the door with the married man. trying for the umpteenth time to break off a relationship of over 10 years with a married man. i’m not sure what hurts worse blowing me off after 10 years in this relationship where i have given this man everything from my heart to my mind to my body in a five minute phone call or the fact that he would rather stay with a woman that he’s told me on several occasions that he loves her but doesn’t like her. i must say i wish i could go to bed and wake up a few years from now being all happy. see i still can’t believe the way he cut me off – we were best friends for 10 years, lovers for 3 years. sue, i can sense you’re an intelligent woman, please read the blog, starting with his first article beginning august of 2015. woman who is in love with a married man lives a life that, for the most part, is shrouded in secrecy. i’m a married woman that is desperately trying to end thing with a very clingy man. off to the supermarket we’d go to grab food for the next 2 evenings of ‘us’- we even have our own nickname which i’m sure many do! how can married men do this so easily and we can’t? i go out all the time to try to meet men but it’s hard to find the chemistry and all of the things i like in a man. if you are looking for love, marriage, and long term commitment in your life, then dating a married man is the absolute last thing you should think about doing. i had never thought that i can drift away from my marriage as my husband loves me so much and so do i, i always thought there was no room for anyone else but i fell for this man.’s so insanely crazy how these married men have caused so much damage without us even knowing it at the time? go forward without my best friend of 40 plus years, and the love of my life.’m on this site because a couple months ago, i got involved with a different married man (yea, real bright). i always see him as such a good person, he never promised me anything, he said i should go many times because he loved me and did not want to hurt me. told my married man before that i knew he didn’t love me – mainly to see how he would react or say – he said well the sex is the best that i’ve ever had and i ain’t stopping it now. have bonded with him so it will take time to detox from him that is exactly what you must do you are young do not waste your youthful years with this man he will never leave because he will not leave the money he has built why should he get the best of both worlds!. and tell your self you will be ok in a few years. i left my ex as my am promised me we’d be, but look at me now…3 years on alone and fed up in the prime of my life, we’re even going through ivf…so very confusing. hard thing was and i read this somewhere about affairs…the married man is far more concerned about his friends finding out and their feelings than their mistresses! am praying i can end my relationship with my married boyfriend. years but i already felt like i’ve known my married man for years. he said he has get a lawyer to divorce his wife but on the other hand i keep seeing his wife fb putting the married status. the mm i had been involved with for almost 5 years has done nothing but profess his love for me since finding out, in hopes i would terminate the pregnancy. i recently broke things off with a married man last week. stumbled across this page last night on my way home from work and it has been so helpful to read everyone else’s stories and to not know that i am the only woman who had an affair with a married man. i never realised that having an affair with a married man can be such a similar experience, whatever the circumstances and whoever may be involved. don’t beat yourself up on that, if married men didn’t withdraw the way they do, we wouldn’t need to be so over the top in our pursuit of them. i’m not going to get into the details of how i ended up loving someone who was married, because it’s not important at this point, but just know that i did not set out to be in this type of relationship. any woman reading this, you are not alone if you want to break up with a married man, we are here, we are a support group from different countries and we will and have helped each other more than we thought. he died suddenly after 21/2 years of skype, calls, gifts, emails. was involved in an affair for nearly 5 years with a man i knew for 10 years before. ive worn out and let the sadness go in, i accept the fact that im abandoned by my married man and i just live another day. when a married man says ” i feel stronger for you than my wife” but does nothing to prove that please! you need to move on from both, something i should have done 3 years ago. of course he had no idea that i had been seeing a married man. he feels horrible, beating himself up because for years i’ve told him i believe she is ours and he was in denial.’s so ironic that for almost 24 years i was saving myself for the right person, and of all people, i had to relinquish it to a married man. guess 2 years is more than enough for him to settle all things even with kids involved. i love this man and i know he loves me. he wants you to keep dating him even though he’s married and even though he won’t leave his wife. recently i’ve had some very honest conversations with my friends about dating married men, and i’ve realized that affairs are more common than i realize. this may not be the most effective tip on how to stop dating a married man, but it may help you find compassion for his wife and strength to leave him. please please do not believe the man you’re involved with. how many of us grew up with strong morals, faith, happiness, and are also the last people in the world anyone would ever suspect would be in this situation? take care of yourself and detach from your married man. in our ending, i wanted to find the meaning to our rekindling, as i knew there were reasons we were reunited, not just to awaken me after a difficult separation involving my husband’s betrayal after 27 years. i asked him about it and he said that it’s because he gets very occupied as his line of work can be very demanding at times. now, she urges you to stop cheating with another woman’s husband. after 3 months he got me an apartment and we saw each other everyday. i am so thankful i came across this page on how to break up with a married man, i relate to every single one of you and you have given me so much, saved me. i just need to let him go but what is killing me is letting go of wanting revenge, not the man. but it’s scarier to think about how living off the crumbs of your married man will destroy you. i can almost scream at the top of my lungs because so many of the women on this site, are in denial and completely brainwashed and just don’t want to believe what i’ve been saying for months is true. and soon enough i know and i believe we will be with the man we deserve! i found out that if a man really wants to be with me then they would move mountains. she has no idea what kind of man she is married to…i think if she look at my proof it will prove what a dog he is…. we knew each other for 10 years before anything ever began and we were absolute best friends. give an example, he one time questioned his wife if she was “seeing” anyone else after he found a message from another man on her phone. i always took pride in my relationship because my husband is an awesome man. the married men who refuse to let go of their marriage are the types that find too difficult to face their problems and to deal with reality so they need a fantasy to escape to. i really love this man for a few reasons: he helped me see the value in me, he taught me a lot about people, i learned a lot about myself, i learned about the complexities of life, and he taught me to be a good judge of character. i could never look for this man in no one else because he is unique. thinking that the man will leave and you will get your happily ever after. how could a man live in a world with no love, or intimacy? plus you are married so you don’t feel the full weight of being alone. i divorced 4 years ago and dated but that’s it. don’t look back 5 years from now and go through the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve routine. he started to demand, to know everything and cannot even go out without his permission. of course i can’t say all mm are bad, honestly there are so cases whereby they will divorce their wife and have a new relationship with the one they love, i would say there are not many such cases. after i left, my attached man started staying with me 2 nights a week, it was bliss as was usually the car and hotels before (gosh, who’d thought an intelligent level headed mid thirties girl would do such tacky things! after discovering the narcissist website, i realized that his silent treatment, is actually what’s called being discarded, like last years trash, and once i found that out, i knew damn well two could play at his game. october 2014 i started having an affair with a man who is basically married (living with his long-term partner). you can’t because you’ve made future plans with this man, he’s promised you so many wonderful things, he gives you a love like you’ve never known in your life … but, and this is the biggest and worst but ever … none of it is real. and it’s hard to move on from a married man unless you totally cut him out of your life. i almost want to get her back because in a way i feel she stole my man, the one i loved so much. you went through so many hard situations that you deserve the best from now on! we see each other on business trips, always a few days, every 2/3 weeks. my readers are discussing how difficult, painful, and destructive it is to keep hanging on to an affair with a married man.

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isn’t it astounding how this scenario has so many common features, behaviours, and patterns throughout most if not all of the mm relationships ? i’m not even sure i can truly recover enough from this to ever be with another man but i can be on my own and with my kids no problem. im not the kind of girl who jumps from this man to the next man. having other people in similar situations who can relate to you is definitely comforting and it gives me courage to let go of this man. everything you have written, we both know them, that the married man is not worth, that he’s not ours, that he’s not ever coming back, but we keep missing them. loving and leaving a married man can drive you crazy and make you do and say things that are not the real you. the man you are talking about seems very controlling and probably abusive. i am married too and my marriage is very very troubled. i tell myself a thousand times that i don’t want to be the other woman. when i try to explain to my married man how i feel he does not get it, or pretends he does, but changes the subject. the way these married men love you is just not enough. however, women are notorious for believing lies that married men tell them. blocked my married lover, but of course he came to my house, i was so angry, how dare he compromise me, invade my life? you deserve a man to be with you all the time and not just some secret get a way.. anyone one can give you a big fat ring and be romantic and act like your best friend and take care of you…especially when you’re their fun beautiful non moaning bit on the side…we’re a dream to men…. you ask, “how can a man live in a world of no love? as much as they say they love you, no man who truly loved a woman would put her through hell like this. perhaps it is not quite the same for the younger married men who either enjoy the chase, or those who are dominated by their high level of testosterone or the ones who are just missing the spark when drowning under responsibilities of raising children. it allows you to see yourself through the eyes of another man who finds you interesting and attractive.’re dating a married man because of something that’s missing and broken inside of you. then i could say it went on for 2 years, but its been going on for over 3. they don’t see us as human beings, and they sure as hell don’t treat us like humans. i hope this helps another woman and i’m open for encouraging words from some of you. “what would you be, without the thought that (married man) is happy without you while you are suffering? here, you’ll learn how to break up with a married man – and even more importantly, you’ll discover ways to let go of someone you love. we were in close contact even though many miles apart. let us know how you get on…make those demands…give him a deadline and in the meantime stop trying for a baby because your child deserves 2 parents or at least a father who is not in denial.’t think for one minute that your married men love you because they don’t. almost 3 months have passed but my wound is still fresh, and i miss him like crazy. how long does it take to get over a married man? i can so relate to what you wrote about chasing your married man and demanding answers, hoping to jog his conscience into recognizing how badly he is behaving to another living breathing human being who he actually claimed to love. it’s amazing how they can be so manipulative to get their way. 3 days i didn’t say anything because my heart was torn into million pieces but he was still there, taking care of me, loving me in the best way he could. but trust me like the other women here, people who love us for real, would never put us in such a situation, never in a million years. it quickly became clear we were going to have an affair — texting all the time, sexual innuendos, going away together… i knew he was married – 30 years – and had a daughter. married men develop a staggering degree of detachment to you and your pain, and they do not budge from their comfort zone to give you even a smidgeon of relief. our 3 years together is exciting and electrifying but lately we have lots of fights he is blaming me that even the smallest things is already a big issue to me. 3 babies and 2 baby mamas by age 21 with no real good job prospects. but they are probably so entangled in their lies, control, and manipulations, just as we once were. you won't be a better woman for him, you will only be a different woman. i hope that everyone on here is willing to at least read some of the articles that hg has written, and i’m sure they’ll see the similarities between their married men and a narcissist. accidentally found site and the comments on how to end a relationship with a married man. romance scams are used to con women out of thousands. why have you decided that aiming beneath the bar of common self-respect is better than saying no to a sexual relationship under the auspice of unattainable ‘romantic’ mirage? one day the married man meets someone (you, us) that jump starts his whole life again! then he told her he was married with 2 kids but we still all went out as friends. lost my love when i was 63 after 2 1/2 year intense emotional affair with a married man. and i’m so very very sorry i wasted 4 precious years with someone who pretended he would not treat me badly like all my exes…. i really want a man of my own and i want to get married. i finally ended it with my married man and it is hard. i have been in his world longer than she, they have no children together and he’s on his 3rd marriage. i do not want any strong beautiful amazing woman to go through i have or them and anyone else in our position. dated a married guy for 9years…with him promising me marriage etc. he was after something more sinister and wrong and he lured you into his fantasy just like all the other married men on this site. i couldn’t go on vacations, couldn’t go to any gatherings or birthday parties because, “i’d look like a single woman”. he was crying and saying am the one he loves because for years he has not gone to africa to see this wife ,yes he cares for me and our child but i can’t live with some man who lied to me, almost getting married to me and he still cheat on me with other women on facebook and all..don’t imagine them, stop doing it (i used to do the same…so many times), you need to get busy, all the time, just keep yourself busy so your mind is busy, then you are tired go to bed sleep and it is the next day. finally, after 6 more successful restaurants and 5 more years of this affair things finally started to change for me i became everything i am not……complete bitch…. becoming the narcissist’s nightmare: how to devalue and discard the narcissist while supplying yourself (kindle locations 550-563). my first goals were just getting through a single day, but once i was able to do that (after the first 3-4 weeks), i was then able to set myself a weekly goal. the married man who wanted to date me did indeed divorce his wife just for the chance to ask me to lunch. 3 months later he got in touch and we carried on. i miss my married man so much it hurts, the worst pain ever, yet he can laugh and joke like we never existed – we go to the same gym. initially he used to force me to get married to him anyhow, but i knew as per law that is illegal, so i never agreed.’ve been involved with a married man for almost 10 months. i went to all the performances and he never hid me from anyone. i am in love with a man that doesn’t love me. i would drive to his work for lunch and thats how we kept it hidden for 6 years. you put ten years of your life on hold for him. last month my married man’s wife found a text from me. i had an affair for 6 years with this married man i met from work.’m curious how long you have been in no contact and how you ended things permanently? if you have a baby with this man, it will be very hard to cut contact with him, especially since he and his wife both have acknowledged the fact. the affair continued because i had fallen in love with this man. he tried so many tactics to see me again, be my friend and i flipped out. he says he doesn’t love her or she doesn’t understand him, but the truth is that he is committed to her because he wants to stay married to her. the last time we spoke he mentioned he was married and had one child. have been married for 6 years and having an affair for almost 5 with another married man from work. i can take a wild guess and say that at least 95% of you on this site are empathic and you’ve been exploited and manipulated. then he told he will divorce his wife(he is married since 25 years with one son, and one daughter who has died at the age of 3, who also shares the same birth year as mine), but i don’t wanted to be a family breaker so i forbid him not to do so.'t believe it because i' ve tested so many of them and it didn't. you would be surprised how manipulative and persuading some men can be. if you spend several years seeing somebody and being in touch with them daily – of course they will. she hooks on to him(fucking him with her gf while he is still married to wife #1., it literally kills you they will manage to live without you even after to have done so much for them. have gone back and forth to this man for so many times because i can’t stand the pain of being away from him. they have 3 children together and i never wanted to disrupt their family. this guy is 17 years the am junior- how incredibly sad & immature does that make the am seem? but it was with a married man which means there isn’t a person in my life that i’ve been able to talk it through with, and i’m still going through absolute hell. unfortunately, he never quit his job, he couldn’t, she made him move closer to work and it left him holding two house notes, with a stay at home wife and 3 kids.“you will find that when you see the blessing in the darkness, many other blessings will also come to light – new support, new dreams to be fulfilled, new ways to connect to your divine inner guidance and god-given worth. wife hangs around, calls him daily, he want talk to her infront of me… he tells me that they dont have a seual relationship and just a friendship, but yet in 10 years wont leave her.” “what if my married man’s excuses are actually valid? it was me that sent the last message 3 saturdays ago, so find it odd, but as said he didn’t like the content so is actually waiting for me to chase! you start to realize that you as a woman want more, you need more affection, not just what he gives you when he can. i hope you find the courage in you to block this man from your life and open yourself up to the potential of meeting someone who will be available to you, and will treat you like how you should be treated. i am only two weeks post breakup, still grieving, and unlike many, we did exchange a few emails back and forth, because for me, cold turkey was not the way to my healing and i have known this person for over thirty five years, always felt a strong soul connection and friendship foundation. thus, if you are with a man who cheats on his wife for years, he is abusing his wife and thus he is disordered in some way. but when the man with whom you're involved is part of another couple, someone else's husband, then the challenge and unpredictability can make your life a messy, unhappy waiting game that you will rarely win. married man is not free to love you the way you were created to be loved. my cousin had an affair with a guy who was much older and married for 20 years, 1 child, her teen twins…she fell pregnant and he still didn’t leave his wife…9 mths pregnant she sits outside his house in her car until he left for good…it worked. well it’s 2 years later and he’s still there. told my married man when breaking up with him – that i deserve so f***ing much more than he is able to give me. even when i told him to sort out his life and not contact me, or would be upset at him and told him not to reach out, we would always cave at the 3 week mark and would see each other. not too many nice guys here and i’m not getting any younger either. many things she didnt know about him, or he never thought to share. i didn’t speak to him for 5 years until one day he texted me. and he had been married for a long time now n it lacked spice n spark. my friends used to be adamant he would come back, saying he’ll never find anyone like you who wants him. married man contacted me today after days of silence, saying how much he misses me and doesnt know what to do. as i tell him hes married and his reply is i know but what can i do, i answer i cant tell you what to do you have your own mind then the conversation ends. the following few days he called me and said he’s sorry of his lied and he wanted to divorce his wife but many reasons that he can’t and his wife did not want to. i know many are scared that they won’t connect with someone like they did their married men, and even i have that fear sometimes, but i have faith and believe it will happen. i was in for nine years, it almost killed me. so many of us pass years in this fog, getting more and more involved until it just tips us over the edge. belief now is that the married man i fell in love with, and whom i believed fell in love with me, loves absolutely no one but himself. please protect your hearts ladies…married men are quick to steal our hearts and leave us in ruins! i have read so so much over the years (crazy eh? and for on e when for 16 years i protected him i font care. you need to decide that you deserve more out of a relationship, and that a better man is waiting for you. he was open that i was such a pure woman, unexposed to the badness in the world, and he would not promise any future in this relationship to confuse me. houghton is the author of the hilarious new book, no woman diets alone - there's always a man behind her eating a doughnut in the top 10 hot new releases at amazon available now on kindle, nook, and all e-book venues. one month into he told me while we were laying in my bed that he was married but they have been separated for 14-16 years and gave a list of reasons that things didn’t work out. i don’t want others to waste precious years of their lives like i did (not really though because i learned) mine. saying how i had changed lol i havent seen him in 4 years i am now 54.. so after his wife and kids keep treating me i decided to break it off with this married man but he cried and begged me not to leave him this continued until the last couple of weeks ago when his wife showed up to my job and then they came to my house…it hurts so bad but the sad thing is that i really miss him but at the same time i can’t stand him. unfortunately, for many of us, it’s not as easy to do. then, i learned on this site many others went through the same thing.'t be a doormat…you can be caring and loving and giving and we all seem to be…but care and love those that deserve it, starting with yourself 🙂 men do leave, but sooner rather than later and the ones that have certainly didn't put the women through years of torture! but i just cannot accept a relationship where a man’s heart is torn in two. because he isn’t leaving…i used to say he ‘can’t’ leave, but it’s a choice, however it may mess things up in many ways for a while. you need to look at taking care of yourself and your child with this man. we’ve been through what you have, and are living examples of a woman’s innate ability to rise above difficult circumstances. matter how many years you have been loving this mm, as long as he is not divorcing, nothing will end good. unless they come home to us every night and we are the only woman in their life, we are not their priority. three years after that, i had the most traumatic experience of my life. a man with child characteristics will never have what it takes to move mountains for anyone. i have many scars from an abusive relationship, physically and emotionally. the day after he moved out he lost his job of 23 years! told him 3 years ago i found my reason for being here …for him. i quit looking at my married man’s wife’s account because it’s all fake. i do believe there is truth to what your married man and my married man have told us, i also think we need to remember that they have not honored their commitment of “for better or for worse”.. i never thought i’d end up smitten, especially when i’ve avoided this guy for 6 years! it took me 52 years to finally get it, but i promise you, the only reason i finally got it was by the grace of god leading me to “knowing the narcissist”., never fall in love with a married man… this is just a game to them… learn to play the game…. but, he keeps checking 3-6 times a day…he has not replied yet i’m sure he is waiting for more substance from me! for me, i’m going to error on the side of caution that my ex-mm is a narcissist because he targeted me, preyed upon me (all without my knowledge for years) and pounced on me with the love he knew i wanted, needed and desired to have in my life. either he is leaving his family and you live yours now or you will just drag this around for another set of years. i always said i would never get involved with a married man., i’m basically in the same boat other than it’s only been 4 years that we’ve been together and i’m the one who told him we needed to cut off all contact until he makes a decision. have been there, so i will tell you this: if you truly want to cut ties with this married man, delete his number (do not memorize it first), block him and delete him on all social network accounts. my friend’s husband had an affair with her best friend, and it took her five years to really trust him again. it will be extremely overwhelming at first, but it will give you answers to questions you may find yourself asking, if you choose to stay with your married man. have had a relationship with my married man for 4 yrs and it just ended yesterday when he told me his wife is pregnant. have been seeing my married man for three years now. i will do my best to part in a peaceful way and keep good memories of the love i got to experience with this man. married man was older (50’s) and i really think a lot of the older married men are having affairs and their wives know (not all and some to a a certain extent) but they turn their heads the other way, until it becomes more serious! somehow, these married men tend to know how to do that to us and yet, the price is so high.

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