I m dating someone 16 years older than me

then he came our place, we realized that both of us knew each other about 10 years back. i think eventually he'll get tired of trying to be polite & send hints & just tell you (probably) to get lost, in so many words. i like him but i just need real live interaction to have my heart fully captured. i have to say, though, the judgment really never bothered me — i was very aware of the risks i was taking and it was more important to take a shot at love than deflect cheap shots from random strangers. i'm 30 and there was this 58 year old gentleman who i sensed was interested in me and i was starting to feel the same way, but i shied away not knowing how to handle the age difference, now i wonder what if, so trust me, i'm speaking from experience. there a way around these mixed signals and to finally get some clarification on what she wants? i've been always proud of him and my friends and family knows about it. and why would a man with 2 daughters, 2 kids, be dating a kid himself? the ‘double-date’ was going well, until my girl went to the ladies room, and her mom asked me just what was i doing with her daughter? the way he treats me is the way it should be always. i didn't reciprocate at first, but his patience, forgiveness of my fears, kindness and acceptance of me won me over. and my gf are 10 years apart she is 27 and i am 18 we have been dating for a year now we are closer than most couples and have a strong relationship which we hope lasts for decades to come. i have married a malaysian he is 29 i am 47 ,we have been married for nearly 2 years now ,i do love him but it hasnt been easy ,he is in my country and he has a visa though me ,i gave up a lot to be with him ,a 11 year partnership ,horses pets,a stable life really ,he has treated badly and celled me nasty names ,made me feel sad and depressed at times ,working with him has been a nightmare too ,i do have trust problems with him ,i have surported him when there was no work brought him car ,ute motor bike . the only people it ever mattered to was other people! think more women need to be stronger when it comes to relationships that society considers “not normal”. maybe i should be with someone closer to my age. i have never been with some one who makes me so happy on the inside as much as he does. wife is 18 years younger than i am and are so happy and in love. we have our highs and lows, but he's my best friend and we do have a love for one another, despite the rough start! he treated her poorly, and admitted to cheating on her during a short business trip. i need to tell you though that if you live in north america, you and your boyfriend are taking a huge risk. i was very depressed after hearing negative comments and opinions such as that because i felt some truth underlining those statements. we've also been together for 17 years and have an 11 year old son..right now i keep telling him that he being 28 and me 20 is making me left out ! honest truth is that it would be far easier to be with someone with a background similar to mine, someone from the same place (tangibly and intangibly), who has experienced the same things and exists within the same cultural context as i. it was an ad that i published to make friends in the area, and it grew to this in a short time. we spent quite a bit of time together and with each passing day we became more and more friendly and attracted to each other. we first became very good friends and then realised we both wanted more than just friends. if you like men younger than you, more power to you. he also said he wished he had never got divorced from his previous wife who was 36. the more you take care your goddess body and respect it diligently with grace; the more everyone will automatically take notice and be aware of how valuable you are.'m currently in a relationship where i am 21 years older than my boyfriend. am 21 years old black the guy i am dating is 47 years old and white with two little kids. i am simply talking about a woman in her 20s and an older, handsome, fit, genuine man as her partner. my boyfriend is 27 years older than me and our relationship is the best i've had. i have a good job in construction and have always worked in unconventional jobs for women..Hii, i am in love with a 19 year old girl. he was condemned by his church (mormon) for it and essentially left the church over it. i have came to this conclusion i don't care about the miles between us or the years between us and i don't care what people think so my advice to anyone in the early stages of this kind of relationship enjoy is great and is u truely love each other you will over come all obstacles in your way. can’t tell my family or friends his real age, though, since it’s too scandalous. the truth is i really want to see him again and some part of me hopes that perhaps there is a genuine connection here. that time was one of the darkest times that i went through because i was completely alone and nobody was there for me. i have not told anyone in my parents about my relationship. the age difference and the fact that he is still married are the biggest no… also he was in the army, was a diplomat and a count… i am an art history major working as a language instructor… but then… we compliment each other beautifully; there is friendship, passion, laughter and then companionship… and when he looks at me with his piercing blue eyes, i just melt! so my reply was i want to tell you in a couple years how i feel. got a problem, i fall in love with someone who is 18 years older than me . at the time, as far as i knew, neither of us believed in marriage, or wanted to have children. who cares about age, it’s just a number :) love this article by the way gave me a lot of faith in my relationship! he has no kids, never been married, so less of that to worry about. and my perspective changed a lot from 28 – 34… and still does change a lot !" maybe it's because i'm so scared, but i couldn't disagree more. yes, we have differences: he is an adrenaline junkie who skydives every weekend, and i get nervous looking over the second floor railing at the mall. in return, i show him the same respect and i find it really grows our love every day., but i suppose i have been attracted to older men in the past. i'm a 34 year old man, unhappily single and ha e been "seeing" guys occasionally through different online apps. but he would never date me cuz of the age difference. i love how many of you confessed & declared your love for your partners regardless of family, friends, or public disapproval. rachel i just read your story and i cannot tell you how much it means to me that you wrote this. i have posted this we have had a heart to heart and going to his parents house for my birthday/christmas day, our flights and rental are paid for, so after i spoke to him on how i felt he called his parents and brother and said if they wanted him they were getting me too, and they agreed and so have all his brothers, everyone has changed their plans and we are all going to my boyfriends parents house in oklahoma for the holidays! lovely to be reading all your comments, you’re awesome ;). i know his mother personally so i don't worry about meeting the family. she is a european who lives in the us, and i am partly asian. my fiance is 30+ years older than i am (i am 37), but we just fit together somehow. she says she would like to marry me and have children with me. he dont want me to socialize and he socializes with his friends. name is deannah i was 17 when i married my husband james he was 35 at the time. that's part of growing up: you get to make your own decisions. we are so in love with each other, but i haven't had the courage to introduce him to my family., i've always dated older people, and never had a problem with it (aside from normal relationship issues) so i truly believe that age only matters if you let it. communication is key we talk a lot about everything, she has made mistakes that are expected with being younger but she also has learned from them and sees now how serious real love have hurt if not cared for equally. i can understand why she would be nervous, especially after the way my parents both reacted, but i wish she was honest with them because now it's going to be that much worse when they hear the truth. most importantly, why are people older than the legal age asking out kids? he has no kids and my 6yr old daughter gets along well with him. i think if people stopped worrying so much about what is morally correct or socially acceptable, whether it has to deal with themselves or other people, then people would be a lot happier. i’d love him just as much if he were any age! the uk here, i am 41 and my beautiful gf is 17. types of men to be on okcupid (if you want to ensure you die alone).’m 21 and just married my handsome 42 year old husband it is magical but there are plus and minus to any relationship are trials and tribulations for example he wants a baby asap and i already have a three year old baby girl and i feel i also need to have a normal 21 year old life or i’m gonna regret my life and i don’t want that plus he has a 12 year old who who needs work wit accepting me as his step mom. am glad my article was able to offer you some comfort. if his friends actually have an influence on who he dates or likes, you don’t want him anyway, his friends, mom, uncle, neighbor will be determining what your life is like… i would bet you have been sexual…big mistake! he has been the best thing that has happened to me. but since he already has the ability to, and has no restrictions, i find it difficult for him to understand how i feel, so it will continue to be no big to him. i really love him and i love our relationship but this is like the number one thing that's making me question our friendship/ relationship. i am currently in university (i am 18, soon turning 19), and he doesn’t want me to introduce him to my parents until a couple years from now. i don’t know if he thinks that i have broken it off, which i told him i wouldn’t do. differences of age, descent, even her heavy weight (i'm pretty slim) could not affect the joy of our intimacy.. im waiting for me to get a little older for me to tell my folks. – so sorry to hear you don’t have your mother’s support. and if you could i would really appreciate you talking back; soemone who knows what i feel. it seems as if you were steering clear of younger guys to avoid immaturity yet the way you describe your boyfriend “taunting” you sounds very immature (just because a man is older does not mean he is mature). is amazing and i could not found a more wonderful man.” then she walked away and even with the music and clattering of drinks around me i could hear my heart break as it hit the floor. it is soul destroying especially because my mum and i are so close, it was so painful to have the person so dear to you want to wipe you from their lives. i'm haley, yes definitely go for it age is just a number now i'm not in a relationship but there's a person i strongly have feelings for and he is 8 years older then me he is 19 and i'm 11 which is kinda strange we were gonna date but we both felt weird i think if he really wants to date me he will wait at least i hope he will i say go for it age is just a number. question what if one of you wants to go out alone or more than the other is that a problem? i knew i had a crush on him from the very first time i saw him (at that i had a boyfriend at the same age). plus the fact that he has daughters younger a little younger than you i assume however they are still within your age bracket. a lovely story…and ya'll put me at ease because i can relate. at least, i know that the key to our successful may-december romance. my boyfriend is 27 years older than me and we get along amazingly. when i tell people that he is 43 they always judge me. i knew i always was more attracted to older men, but now that i have one it makes even more since. i should point out she is incredibly mature, as i was from a young age, another reason why we connect. we have so much fun together and i cant imagine being any happier than i am now. however he is just getting out of one of the divorces and i can tell it’s hard on him because they both cheated on him. he also claims to have no one else in his life and allows me to leave stuff at his home. it's difficult to think this far in the future, but they are things to consider if you think you might bring more people into the picture.'m 41 and am attracted to a 20 year old man/boy. if you can’t handle the secrecy, you don’t want it bottled up inside you for another 2 years. i stepped forward and did everything i could and set her up with a female friend of mine with a place to stay and a ride form airport. try not to judge your attractions morally, and focus instead on your actions. think, think, think…and tell your mom she was right…. we love each other very much and he says he only wants to be with me but he is very immature and needs to grow up a lot, how can we make this work? i dont like that i cant bring him around are have family dinners. like he has told me, he cannot allow himself to think about settling down or starting a family of his own when he already has a family that needs him. he respects that i don't know what i want, and helps me more emotionally then any other guy i have known. he treats me with the utmost respect and like i am his queen. admittedly, however after reading some comments and your article i feel somewhat ashamed, the judgement does have some painful impacts upon me, especially to my self esteem and makes me question a lot about myself. im also 34, and its great to hear someone the same age as me is open to seeing someone so much older, i met a man aged 59, amazing in every way, do you want kids? and that intimacy liked us both that well that we were more nights together than just slept alone. take us in for a moment, watch the way he looks at me not as if he is going to chop me into pieces later but with a gleam in his eye that can only be adoration. i do not want to cheat but im afraid that i will in the future if things continue like this. i was talking to one of my daughters female friends that was having problems because her boyfriend left. like i can't think of any other reason besides "embarrassed". any words of advice from someone in a similar situation would be greatly appreciated. girlfriend i a year and 6 months older then me and i don't think that matters to me but do u think is matter to her.’m so proud of you rachel, l wish that there were more people out there like you! it has everything to do with how compatible you are and how much you care for one another. although he died of cancer i wish we had had those 10 years, would i be a single widowed mother at 35 or childless? he shared with me his fear that i "would never see him again," and i told him that i would very much like to see him again, scheduleed another date (in the privacy of my apt) and suggested that we refrain from getting too sexual (this is what i typically do when i feel a connection/potential with someone so as to allow space to feel things out before clouding all judgement with good sex). the rest of my family was concerned but were happy for me. it bothers him a lot more than it bothers me, but the fact that she knew he was my fiancé and still had to say that and laugh it was so cruel and rude and totally bothered me tonight. being on ur own w him and having the children isolated will be a greta challenge, good luck! he has been 'trying' to get me to become a mormon. i know what pain you are going through in respect to the lies and sneaking around – trust me it gets really tedious. when our flight got delayed 3 more hours, we were actually secretly excited. i don’t know how new your relationship is or if your mother has spent much time with your boyfriend but i know that for me, giving those i love time to adjust was necessary but most of all, my family and friends needed to meet my boyfriend, they needed to see us together. we never discuss age, it is not an issues and what others think (expressed or not) is meaningless to both of us. after dinner, we had a long talk in my car before i took her home..yet it seems it either bothers him or i'm not mature enough to understand the situation… ive dated guy's 2 years younger than me and didn't really ever worked out because i always found them immature. i confessed to him, how his genuine smile, and presence is like a realm i have been dreaming of to have in life. imo she’s an adult and she’s not living with them (she’s living with me), i say tell them let them flip out and they’ll eventually get over it. my only unhappiness in my marriage so far is the people’s negative judgement and looks in public. i do not see myself marrying her or having children with her, but then again, i do not seeing myself getting married or having children, period, so that's why i continue to stay. he was married before & so was i, the difference is i have 4 children & he doesn't have any of his own. also, we communicate all the time, which i find so important. am enrolled in school and will make a career change soon to increase my income and i have asked her for support and patience. we were friends 2 1/2 years before i even started dating him but he makes me laugh, hes very kind, and a good listener. no one can ever do anything right in the eyes if society so enjoy ur husband, u know in ur heart/soul that he is right for u do enjoy him. risks need to be taken in life as long as they are done for the right reasons, and i am sure the love you have with your man is the right reason. tonight he sent me a msg saying i have been in his mind all the time im 31 he is 59 same age as my mom. my father can’t wait to meet him and i do have older and younger women mad at me lol older women always say; you could have dated me, i’m closer to your age then this child. he divorced his ex because she cheated on him and was involve in fraudulent issues. she got a full picture of me, her profile on the other hand was almost nonexistent, a small blurry photo and not much in the way of written description. i am terribly conflicted though, she is amazing and everything i could ever want in partner, we have the same interests and practically finish each other's sentences, we just click on every level. sometimes i feel scared to continue but he makes me happy. it is really great to hear from other woman with similar relationships. and i understand he’s older been there done that, but i haven’t and i want too!! yes, it all depends on who you find and that they are a good match for you and only you are able to make that decision. she doesn't complain as much anymore but she is very spiteful. i can honestly say that the age gap has never been a problem. do i have to make them happy or myself by choosing for him? am a 31-year-old man that has never been married, has no kids, a cpa by day and am currently "involved" with a 56-year-old woman (who looks 36 to 46 at the most). normally i shake things off and don’t let it get to me because i am totally secure in our relationship and so excited to marry him in a few months! i thought there was something sick in my brain for not liking guys my own age. you're the caption of your ship, and if you drift toward an older island, then just make sure that island is a good man. like a guy that's 22 years older than me and he likes me too and it's not exactly legal right now because i'm 15 and he's 37 but i'm hoping when i'm 18+ we can be together, i'm just not sure about the age difference (he's 1 year older than my mom) and i'm really worried people are gonna judge me on this and my parents won't approve and i will let them down. i am a good business man and she like me very well.! i admire you for coming to your family about it. most older men realize that you don’t always have to be right and other people’s opinions being valid doesn’t mean that yours are not. i am posting because i am certain my personal experience will somehow benefit others. i still have feelings for him he wants us to give it a try i still want him but what will my mom say? i recently started date a 25 years older guy that i’m. i've never dated guys my age, they were always a few years older than me. i told only my best friend and he is more than happy for me. he said that he wants to to change but he doesn’t know how to :( this looks messed up and it probably is, but me and him, we have a lot in common, we get along very comfortably and we have lots of fun together and are happy in each other’s company. i don’t afraid of judgment, but my family afraid to lose them. rachel, i too am in a relationship with someone who is 25 years my senior, and this article gave me peace, would you maybe email me? i thought that i would be alone for the rest of my life…now i feel complete with "r" in my life.) 23 year old worldly young woman with a zest for life pursuing further education. is he happily married with a wife and children and just enjoys having a bit of fun with a young lady who is showing him attention? we started dating and it just got better and better every day. you rachel for writing such a fantastic article that has struck so many chords with me! it might not last forever but who can put a time stamp on anyone's relationship, nobody knows the future and we shouldn't try to predict it!

Dating someone 8 years older than me

but since there’s a huge gap in age he taunts me about being with younger guys…. he was able to connect with me and to be there for me and we evolved our friendship into a loving relationship. i didn't even know what love was before i met him.!Hi dominique :) i am in the exact same situation as you – 19 turning 20 this year. well i'm hoping someone can help me in knowing what to do here. in the end, i think, the heart recognizes a kindred spirit quite apart from any external considerations. boys my age are only interested in parties which is one thing i do not have patience for in a guy, someone who wants to go make bad decisions.'m 42 year in love with 25 yrs guy, he is so special that all my life, i have never felt any like his love and affection towards me, all i feel to my self am i doing something wrong loving a guy 17 yrs younger than me. likes me as well and we want to start dating. i also don’t want my boyfriend to get hurt by comments from my family. i'm 22, my boyfriend is 37, and he has two daughter, 11 and 13. i don’t say what my age is, not usually, but when i do people’s jaw usually drops, sometimes they won’t even believe it with a driver’s license. my son doesn't and hasn't lived with us (he had moved out long before her and i got together) and my daughter had issues with it at first but got use to it. but our love is so strong, so passionate, and so magnificent right now. i'm just really scared about that law, i live in illinois so if anyone has any addvice for me that would. and makes it difficult to live as many happy couples do. i got into a relationship with another guy, who was older by 5 years this time, not 17. he doesn't know my real name and we haven't been on cam yet because i don't feel comfortable yet. before i moved to korea, i was dating a man 16 years older than me and it was fantastic, the best relationship i've ever been in. i do get worried however, because i want to marry and have children with my partner, i just worry that my mother especially will never come to my wedding, or see her grandchildren because of this hatred towards him. i do think the laws around this should be more on a case by case basis because i think you can still have a loving, respectful relationship between you. it couldn’t have come at a better time in my life, because my boyfriend is 35 years older than me and i am literally feel like it’s us vs. myself, i am in a relationship with someone who is 29 years older than me, and personally: i have never been so happy! love the advice given in the article “listen to everyone, then ignore them” … perfect ☺ i am glad i found this page, because it has made us feel less alone in the world reading all the wonderful experiences here. however , if it was me being the younger one , i would feel better . however i think also that your relationship should be something that is celebrated, and if your family would accept you, there is nothing more amazing than that. i'm still unwilling to take him on trips to see my parents because i'm afraid of them judging him or me. i have never felt so happy and alive in my life. we both knew from the beginning this is what we wanted, it just takes time and love to get to that right moment! i still have some walls up from a previous horrible relationship but now that i am sober i trust that my decisions are true honest and from the heart. i am skeptical about our age gap, but reading all of these stories are very reassuring to me. the only struggle i am having is trying to get my family to accept us. every risk is calculated, i don’t allow emotions and having this 54 year old sharing with me -this very bizarre view of life where you trust people – felt alien to me… but so good. i've not told my family about him yet, i guess i will have to tell them soon though if i do move in with him haha. because he thinks he's using me as if it were just a 'fling'. we consider ourselves one of the lucky few that actually found the other person out there in this big world made for us. met this adorable girl recently, she is a young senior and i am a freshman. i have so much respect for people who aren't afraid to follow their hearts <3. i wanted to point out something that bothered me in this article: "what are the challenges? i don’t have daddy issues, nor need or crave acceptance from an older man. and i do notice that some things that she gets upset about i simply don't have the time for, which is life lessons learned. i am 23 years old and we have been dating for about 5 months now. age is nothing but a number, you can’t help you click with and fall in love with.. as long as you have the emotional maturity and truly love that person is all that matters. so im just now sitting beside and watch how this is going. just want to say thanks to everyone on this thread: so much support! age is not a guarantee of maturity and your characterization of them plays just as much into societal preconceptions as those that you decry. he has been married before and also has one child of his own already. while i would have loved to share the good, bad and ugly of my relationship- i was writing an article and not a book and chose to focus on provoking thought in those who read it and giving them a different perspective on an issue that most find taboo. in fact, it has felt so extremely right that i have been confident enough to stand up to anyone that feels differently or feels like they need to tell me their opinion of it. i wish he knew a big question ib my mind: "am i someone you wont get embarassed about?.this is my life and i shouldn't care what others think.. i am so excited for what's to come in our future. i was so angry what if i would have agreed then he would of lost my love to his nefew but secretly he loves me and secretly i would still love him so there was no way in hell i would of agreed to that. if things dont end well between them, its possible it will come between the two of you in the future. did she really wanna take my father away from me. after a few exchanges i provided my provided my telephone number and we began talking. understands me well and considering am an engineering student and he's an engineer,things just fall into place so well. 17 me boyfriend is 38 i love him soooo much we meet when i was 15 he was 36, sadly im sooo scared of telling my parents my therapist isn't to happy about it either and my friends don't care for him either and i really really don't know what else to do but wait about another 7 months till he comes put here to meet me and introduce him to my parents and hopefully it works out. she doesn't like "us" at all…if our friendship did advance i would have to pray bcuz my mother would not be happy at all. single moms, massive abortions and a rising divorce rate is the result…. it becomes an issue when you begin to think about these things. i worry about the loneliness, but i have come to know that the moments we have together now are so important to enjoy, and not to have them tainted by the negative, vague predictions of a future that may turn out much better than i imagine. he accepts my children & loves them & they love & respect him., i'm a 28 year old woman, looks and lifestyle wise, i'm early 20's. i’ve always called myself an old soul and the couple serious relationships i’ve had have been with older men, just because like you said i like guys who are over the drinking and cheating phase and actually like to accomplish things in their life that doesn’t include counting the number of girls they’ve been with or shots they took last night., as long as you are not taking on the role of a mistress or getting yourself involved in some other sticky situation, remember, you only live once and the best opportunities are not necessarily the most obvious ones. i too am dating a man 30 years my senior and i have never been happier. please if u have the time let me know how its going for you ..i miss hin terribly and im still in love with him. hard sometimes but at the end of the day its about us. i'm a student and he has a job and full custody of a child from a previous marriage. i am happy to know im not the only one out there my boyfriend and i are 7 years apart. she even doesn’t know about me well yet, and i was looking forward to building relationship with she and myself. chronological age is meaningless, especially now in our modern age, and those that stress otherwise are just ignorant. see this post is about a year old but im wondering did you go for the relationship and if so how is it going so far?” her sister was so funny, she’d sneak in while we were screwing, and smack carol on the ass, or grab one of her nipples, pinching and twisting it! can’t believe that i am actually are commenting because i do not often comment. what matters most is that you make each other happy. he is not very experienced with women and dose not have a lot of confidence and that also worries him! this is my case and your article gave me more hope for happiness, same as one from yesterday. i asked him if he needed help and we instantly connected… it was brutal, ferocious but as weird as it might sound, my gut feeling was screaming to run away, to stay far from him. my family loves him and my friends are so supportive and get along great with him., i am not saying all age gap relationships are bad – a bad relationship is a bad relationship regardless of age (or, a good relationship regardless of age). and here's the reason why:My sister is 10 years older than me and she has a daughter that is 10 years younger than me. the only issue that we've had so far is my father being rude about our age gap and telling me that i can't see him- but my mother thinks he's wonderful and my friends think he's funny. age gap may spell the end and something you can do nothing about, age. "boyfriend" will be turning 60 in october – i turned 31 in february / we have two children; six year old daughter, three year old son – i am terrified of losing him but i don't worry about having to be a long term caregiver – i absolutely love him and will be there to wipe his butt if needed and all the other stuff – he is amazing and my soul mate – when we first met i was 21 and he was friends of a friend and we had so much in common and i would think " why can't i find a guy like him my age" and then i just decided to not worry about age anymore – glad i did – i know people probably think i'm a "gold- digger" lol but he's not rich! i am 23years and my boyfriend is 38years old and the age different is -15. you should never give sex to a man in less you get the love you want… a man will give a woman love, because he wants sex… most young men have no idea that getting sex is supposed to be a trade for giving love. trying to be someone you're not, trying to compensate for missing pieces in your life (aware of this or not), or trying to allow your partner to define whom you are would be the mistakes and must be in the awareness of both. but never give up on something that makes you happy just to please someone else. he once stated that i will never again meet his family. other than the age difference and work sitch, i can't tell if he sees me as a friend or could actually be interested in me. i love my mom but if i were to fall in love with this man after spending time with him, i would be open to being his. i wish that my family would take the chance to see what i see when i see my boyfriend. and what amazes me, he told me he loves me first! also, i think this much older man knows exactly what he is doing when he plays this game with you and you feel immature. we're so happy together and compliment each other in so many ways. i love him a lot and he never fails to remind me that he loves me too. heck, there are 70 year-old's who are more vibrant, fun and exciting than some of the 30 year-old's i've worked with. i too was always told i was an ‘old spirit’, had a lot of older friends, etc. he originally found me on a business networking website back in late january of this year, and although only a phone relationship, we have grown as friends since that initial web connection. i just never felt like anyone understood me until i started reading these comments! he loves the fact that i am independent but he loves to do for me as well. my husband is someone who is an amazing person an i'm truly blessed to have him i'm our lives(happy). i think having the courage to admit that the life-path you are on is not working and starting again is very inspiring. i met him when i was 16 in my neighbors' house while i was wearing my wendys uniform!. 24 year old female, just finding i have feelings for a man that is significantly older then i (49) advice and opinions? and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year and 5 months there is a 38 year difference between our age i new i loved him the first time i'd met him, it was just so hard to say anything and i was scared of what my family would say or do my family still don't approve of me being with him but age doesn't matter to me and i love him dearly everyone has got there own life's and you only get one of them so don't let anybody tell you what to do with yours just go with your heart and if it means falling out with family like i have do it, they will realize in the end age is just a number nothing else, good luck guys! husband is 21 years my senior, and we both knew right away that we'd be together permanently. for all of you having similar situation as me, here the other article from yesterday 7 ways single men over 50 can find love:I am 20 and my boyfriend is 47. but not only that but we have a load of common interests and have very similar personalitys. rachel, so i don’t know if you will even get this but i just started hanging out with a 45 year old and i am only 20. really, other than some of the long-term things that are a challenge to any relationship. we share many of the same interests and hobbies from skateboarding to 4x4ing to going to edm festivals. i just have the fear that if it all fell apart what a mess it would be with his sons and also would this work in the real world? we have huge age gap but i think it really doesn't matter for as long as i love him and he loves me too. i think it would be wise to finish my undergraduate degree before i take any drastic measures though! i want him to be a big part of my life. come from a christian household and so my family has certain views on relationships. partly because i hate to admit that i could be, or tend to be, the one in my circle of friends with older men interested in me. for the first time after my divorce, i allowed myself to feel some romance and it was indeed very romantic… which breaks my heart even more today. as if within a stare of a gaze, we planted a seed and filled it lovingly with creation of devotion within each pause we took and smiling eyes… the love began. — some women were self-conscious about dating a younger guy, but often, after a while, they liked hanging on the arm of a much younger guy, who cleaned up well, had excellent manners, and whispered all the right dirty things in their ear! but the first in my life i found love and happiness. they kerp him young and he still works the same job he's had for 40 years. am a man of 38 years and got me 5 years ago a new apartment. i am in a healthcare profession and my fear is that, since he already has some very physically limiting health issues, he sees me a the person to care for him when he isnt able to take care of himself.?” well, i don’t see my boyfriend with a big neon sign blinking his age across his forehead every two minutes. to see this topic generating some conversation and i’m glad things seem to be working out for you in a healthy way. such a very interesting to read that how much her boyfriend is elder then her, but after all this thing she loves him. i am 31 and in love with a girl who is 17 yrs old. he told me that he felt like a pedophile, which is totally understandable, but we also discussed that i would be 18 soon and things would just work out. i want to ask of you: give me a chance. we've always got on so very well and from september this year i started noticing subtle signs that all wasn't well. i even bug him about his looks if i see that he is gaining a bit of too much weight. (and i'm so paranoid about blabbing this to people that i'm not even signed in as my usual poster identity. i know this was posted a few years ago but i wanted to see how your relationship is now and if you decided to continue to pursue it and tell your parents. ive just started seeibg a 49year old (im 19) we get on so well and everythings so easy between us. my family knows about my boyfriend only because he use to be a family friend – stressing use to. it wouldn’t bother me so much if my mother were supportive, but she threatens to disown me time and time again because of it. i now understand why “honesty is such an important quality in his friends”. dated wildly the summer after i turned 22; the youngest man i dated was 23 and the oldest was 35 (and the guy who ended up being my boyfriend was right in the middle – 28). i love the man dearly, but i'm always struggling with me being so much older. am 22 years dating a 43 year old, we met at our work place it was love at first sight. age wasn't an issue with friends and family my dad is 13 years older then my mum so they couldn't say anything (they're still very much in love) and we both have such a varied age in friends that we both getting great with each others friends alot of which have just become mutual. it's been hard sometimes, almost like having to choose between my family and the one i love. only because i never knew or had someone to love me the way he has. we have known each other for 6 months now and in total spent about 5 weeks together, all of which has been great. i kept thinking about all my shortcomings, and clearly thought this was a short term something not being able to figure out what will happen. am soon to be and my boyfriend is 23 years younger than me at 27. i can understand feeling uncomfortable when seeing two people together with a large age gap who are showing a public display of affection, but honestly, it's love. chemistry is what's important, and it's a complicated and elusive thing. i was ill advised and so i believed some of the lies like, “he’s just using you for your youth and beauty”..your post is from years ago, but so on target for me right now! am 22 years old, the love of my life is 43 years old. she thought i was in my 20s and i thought she was in her 20s at least. think it has more to do with both of you having the same enthusiasm for life and love. he’s so proud of me as well as i’m of him. so far, we get along great and have a lot in common. i don’t believe you should be closed to love from anyone that makes you happy, college guys included. i also read this article and i’m also found comfort in this article. i'm 16 and he is 36, we did some not so pg things over chat but we also connected really well. we moved in together quite quickly thereafter, and started our family with a puppy! we have the same morals and want the same things in life- he just is in a state of disbelief of some sort. on the phone, we've discovered we connect emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and even on some business matters. so yes age doesn’t define you, i have done something that i thought i would never do and that’s find happiness in a man just 5 years younger than my father. i am not at all worried about that, but again, i am afraid of what others way say. the older person will have different expectations out of a relationship, sexually, and may pressure the younger person into doing things they’re not ready for. we enjoy each other's conversation and we have almost the same life values(not religious values).’m in a similar situation i’m in a relationship with someone 26 years der then me. i feel very happy to see this page, because whenever i talk to my friend about this thing, she always said that i'm out of my mind. my boyfriend and i have currently been together 5 months and there is a 26 year age difference; he’s 47 and im 21. he didn't went on top of me pulled his pants down i said stop so many times and he didn't. i really like him but this 3 year difference is throwing me offf especially because im the girl and it will be hard for him to even come out with me and my friends. he was working in a car dealer ship when we met and after that it was history. 22 and bf is 57… greatest man ive ever came encountered with, he understands me, and i understand him. i don’t know how old you are, although you say your friend is a senior which makes me think you are talking about high school, so that would mean you are under 18. older men know what works and what doesn't, and they're not afraid to tell you what they like and what they want to try. i agree that we should love not based on what society deems is “correct” for us but based on what is inside. i have tried, many times, to not feel the way that i do, but i have come to realize that it is so much more than a feeling. but in some cases, pursuing the one you admire despite age or judgment from others can really really pay off.. the whole mentor/ mentee thing can get old after a while.

Im dating someone 16 years older than me

we have been talking online for a month and have been out together in person a couple times now. her face looked her age, but from any angle, she had the body of a slim fit 19 year old! i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year, i’m 23 and he is 46, we were friends first but fell for each other. choose a partner in this lifetime based on faith, morals, compassion, humor, drive and don’t let something as silly as the year he was born determine if he is good or bad. his ex doesn't approve of their kids loving to be with me so often. it was shocking when we first met, but that has dissipated the more we talked and fell in love. did you ever have aim (aol instant messenger) where you used to have a “boyfriend” and put his initials in your profile? drive's me to be very critical, not meaning to be. when i look at him i do not see his age, and i hope that one day my parents and family will be able to do the same and accept us and our happiness. first name email address we use this field to detect spam bots. when i let her know today that i have begun looking for younger women (which hasn't bore much fruit for me as of yet) like she wanted, she responded, "you should. they're all so lovely and also fell in love with me. i also do not want to make my boyfriend feel pressured into having me move in with him. with me but its 16 years and i'm 14, i've never been happier and ill wait as long as i have to for him. it would be foolish to let him go if he's not harming or mistreating you. i can say to anyone is that love is love no matter what package it comes in and if you’re truly happy in life, grasp it and hold on tight because let’s face it, no-one knows what tomorrow brings xx. we weren’t looking for each other we met through my friend and his girlfriend taking me with them to dinner with his boss whom is now my boyfriend. most are not childish, and will not play teenage games with you, they also come from a time where chivalry was expected. his family knew of his infatuation with me and some considered me the other woman. then one day he finally knocked on my door and said; i know you are afraid to love, but just let someone love you, let me love you and show you that you are so precious and valuable and you can’t even see it. i don't want him to live his golden years when he can no longer move around without a place to call home. we have not intriduced each other to our families, i belvie it should defiantely wait to see where this relationship stands in the future. there times when the immaturity has no control and just comes out? we make each other laugh (he such a silly goose) but i enjoy it. we have or differences but we work through them together.'s good to know i wasn't the only one crushing on full grown men as a pre-teen =p. hope we can both shed some light on this for each other! they ask me what am i thinking and ask,how could i be attracted to someone who could be my father? then she said something about our age difference, and i responded that i knew 10 years was a pretty big difference, but her daughter was very mature, and i was very immature for my age, so the relationship just seemed to work. reached the bottom to leave my comment on your article. he was my best friends brother, i am still close with her, and we have always gotten along so well. i compromise all that for a relationship such as this? my opinion, age is only a number and shouldn't block something amazing from happening. an older guy was not a good choice 10000 years ago because he couldn’t adequately protect the family. have been dating younger women since dot so i don't see a different rule if a woman chooses a younger man as her lover/husband/friend. day we come across some sort of judgement whether it’s from family or just people who pass us in the street. i enjoy loving him and look forward to being with for many many years to come :). i definitely see it as my best relationship and see us as soul mates. it hasn't so far, except for the fact my family are very wary of him and what his motives are. does it kind of seem like he’s controlling or very jealous or do u still get to do your own thing. find someone who takes your opinions into consideration and rather than bringing you down mentally, he sparks debates with you to challenge your mentality.'m 17 and my boyfriend is 26, idk i just feel people around us is not agreeing about our relationship. must love your body and inner-self without limit, make your love for yourself overflow upon your heart, in order to love another without end… lovingly without bound. is it any different from liking a certain hair color? i didn't mean to equate them, but someone had asked if the converse ever happens and that's the closet thing i've seen. the most important thing to realize is that, no matter how mature she seems, she is barely even a teenager. you see, it comes to you effortlessly, just by welcoming grace within your every move and respect for yourself as to others (physically, emotionally, and the tone of voice) soon every one whom surrounds you at all times, will take notice and appreciate your presence more than ever. so i went on to let my parents know about him. if it’s a strong relationship devoid of abuse and full of love that is all that should matter. it's an insecurity that we're working through as a "may-november" couple. i don’t think i was mature enough in my 20s to make the decision and also i belived it was morrally incorrect as he was married with children.[…] true story: i’m dating a (significantly) older man – yes … – miss. sex is not everything but it is part of a healthy partnership & i did not have that, but also wasade to feel like it was me. i really could see myself being with him, but i feel no support for this relationship in any aspect of my life outside of my boyfriend himself…until i read this post. it is so nice to read that other people have a similar experience to mine.'s it like to date an older man - like 20 years your senior? i am a 51 year old man and i have fallen in love with a 26 year old beautiful lady. has no idea how i feel about him and i’m too proud for that. a few months later he popped the question and we are so very happy together! this article gives me hope to not just run away from my relationship. us good luck guys cause you will be the first to know if we made it to the altar. with rachel and erin, age gap awesomeness is great, enjoy, any relationship of any age with insecurities, when not dealing with them, bad. as far as people’s comments, if people seem to care i tell them “i look way younger than my actual age” which is true, i look about 10 years younger than my actual age. so much for reading my article and leaving a comment!. when you realize he’s ten years younger than your dad…. although, these may be due to the person i am dating rather than a function of his age. might want to try it, even if its not true for you.. i just don’t know how my mom or brothers would react to it. him candidly : ” i am not manipulating you… but i could if i want to. maybe one day, when i turn 18, i will act on my feelings!'ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy who is 18 years my elder for going on 3 years. i understand that my boyfriend and i do not come in the best package but we are the best for each other. outside of the 20th-21st century usa, 15+ year age gaps have not been that uncommon or looked at with much suspicion. this relationship does have some built in challenges, such as knowing that he'll be retiring long before i will, but also with many lovely bits that you can't really understand unless you've been there. you will be miserable if you gave up this relationship just to appease your family. i have true, unconditional love for this person and it is so hard on my heart to keep it to myself. i don’t doubt we could be happy elsewhere, but i do foresee an awkward stage of “friend-making” in a place that doesn’t know us! question is that if we ever decided to step up our relationship in a few years will the age difference of him being 28 affect ,the relationship? if it's meant to be, you can wait four years. an older man is more thoughtful of others because he has less to prove. i have never viewed her as a child or someone of less worth just because of my age or hers. i'm 27 and i'm tired of the lack of maturity in my generation.! i’m in a relationship with 23 year age gap i’m 46 and he is 72 years old . and what the hell are you doing to my sister, i’ve never heard her screaming like that before, even the old ladies up stairs heard her! we have been together for 10 years now and whilst we have both had many relationships before, nothing beats this one. a cheesy/generic thing to say but he had no idea how accurate it felt for me. i am 10 yrs in love with someone 17 yrs, we do joke around alot. so what is your advice about introducing my bf to my parents? am 44 years old, and recently me t someone who is 58 years old. honestly, the thing that worries me most is that if we both live to a ripe age, i would lose him a lot earlier than i’d be ok with. for a while it worked but then he got discharged and started calling and coming around again! however, that doesn't mean it can't work, you just have to be careful. if your intuition is telling you something about this situation is off, then listen to it. are, or were, there 11-17 year olds talking about people in their twenties and older asking them out. i don’t think this is as straightforward or easy as you’re making it sound. they even like him for himself and not just because i do. and i'm scared to even talk to him sometimes, he does act like a pervert, but it's not the bad kind, he also does protect me, and i feel really safe around him. evening after we started dating, i was trying to win his heart over by showing him my impressive ability to down copious amounts of booze and still remember every word to cher’s “gypsys, tramps and thieves” during karaoke night at the local dive bar. i think it makes a difference now that i’m nearly 30. we have been together for five years and engaged for over a year now and i know that my fiancé is definitely my soulmate. i can not believe she could not wait to get off the phone to embellished it for my daughter. – equality in love is so powerful and amazing to read your comment and thank you rachel again for the inspiring article xxx. it’s so refreshing to read what you have written about with such a positive tone and actually fascinating to also read the comments from so many who are in a similar situation. my friends and family love me and love how happy i am with tod. i've just always been more attracted to them, physically and emotionally. it simply not possible for a relationship to work between a 27 year old male and a 19 year old girl? wont to get marridge next year but i have huge age gap with my girlfriend we are very happy to live togather but my age is 37and she is just 19 years old. would my family keep him a secret to avoid judgment? currently, our relationship is sort of hidden (from my parents) as my parents just simply cannot accept it and we have had massive arguments about it since the the start of the relationship. i didn’t know at that time but he slowly made his way into my heart. however just saying that about my age, makes people doubt their assumptions. about 15 years later, i spent the night with her, and we bumped into 4 of her old friends at breakfast, and they couldn’t believe we were still knocking boost most months 15 years later. came from another country with visa for 6 months and we became good friends. i am in a weird situation with an older man. went and pulled my pants down i'm crying telling him stop he tried to get it in but my scrurming around he couldn't get it then he stops. he helped raise his girlfriend's kids who are 22 & 19) it can get heart wrenching at times. you give your side of the opinion but he still see's it as if your acting like a kid and don't make your own decisions like he goes and tells you, that you are always asking him what to do and then he just leaves u in the position on what to say next…even if you just told him :/ cause i hate that…and i really don't know how to answer. almost 3 years into our relationship and her mother has the guts to say this.. from the time i knew the meaning of marriage, i only think that a guy has to be older then his woman. i go into my room to get my self together and i come out my room told him to get the fuck out he jumps up and storms out of my place.’s taught me soo much has helped me in soo many ways! he said it takes him 6 months to a year to get sexually involved with someone he is seeing.'m 22, going on 23 in a month (female) and i'm in love with a guy twice my age at 44, but does it really work?.He can say that he flew over the continent just to get close to me, but i say it won't happen if i wasn't waiting for him. is there a chance he going to hit me in the head with a baseball bat or something along those lines?. but got them back as they got used to it. i feel like if i tell my parents or others they would judge me and i don’t have time for that. i was walking around in the old port of my city and as i was heading to a lovely auberge/restaurant i enjoy, i realized to my great disappointment that it was closed. and i thought if a hollywood couple had such age difference nobody even dare to judge them. my second appointment he admitted how beautifully i carry myself, i smiled, and thanked him. with my life experience & his we make an interesting couple. he has asked me out a couple times and i have accepted.) i am with him because he treats me better than any guy my age. it to work, i will need to move to her country which at this point in time , i am not able to do.. to be independent enough, stand on what i knew is right… he’s the person who makes my heart beats and skips fast, he’s the only guy who fullfil my imaginations in dates… flowers chocolates that snow ball bear, he’s a man with tons of sense of humor…i am just praying to have this kind of relationship till we grow older. i am so proud of him for standing up to his family; i know it is difficult for him. in addition i am a grandfather and my daughter is expecting her second child. he has been there for me thru all the hard times that i have had. granted, i looked much older than 17, i thought he looked much younger than 37. other worry is that we will not grow old and retire together and enjoy those retirement years. we have been friends for 3 years, but in a relationship for 4 months. i was always sad about his no desire to have sex with me. am 19 and my bf is almost 20 years older then me..etc science & technology is literally going to allow you and your older partner to enjoy eachother's company for as long as you both choose to be together. besides me lived a widow of then 63 years, of african american descent. i have a youthful spirit and i look much younger than my years, something to consider should a younger man date me. now that i have been single for awhile i asked if he wanted to meet up again. important to note; how far can we stretch with time? i started to meet her friends, and omg they were young and immature. when i first met him i only wanted to be friends nothing more, the oldest guy i dated was 35 so i was totally not interested, i guess because my dad is 56; 5 years older than him. i feel strongly for this person and i know she does me, to the point where i would wait a few years to start anything. i am a chef apprentice in a 5 star hotel, and it is the passion and love for food that we have in common. is only a few years younger than my parents and i fall in between his two daughters and i am scared about what my family will think. now we are just friends, but his effect on my life still is huge. we had a dinner with his children (18 & 20, both live at home) to ask them how they felt about me living there also.'m 29 and have been with my partner for just over 5 yrs. how do you get true love from a man… you said you figured you would play hard to get…good idea, but you have no idea how it words, or why. when i turned 18, i immediately went to his city and visited him. but i feel my family will forever hate me for that but i can't seem to make them understand that they have fallen in love once and if th eyes didn't fought for their love that's their problem but i don't want to let my happiness fall out of my hands. also he has daughters a little younger than me do you think this will work out for me? he's going fully grey now and i'm still getting asked for id when we go out but i couldn't be happier with anyone else. he was with her for 10 years but didn't have children. you feel that it could work and you think the sentiments are returned – go for it! i'm so happy and excited, he told me he was scared because once they meet me it will change how they see him and it will also get back to his soon to be ex wife and children and that's what he fears but he also says maybe one day they will come around, or maybe not but he is willing to take that chance! i am more mature than most my age & have alot of wants that he wishes to accomplish in life. i am tempted although wont get involved, know it wouldn't be illegal but surely would be frowned upon. the main thing i love about him is that he is such a man about everything he handles his business and does not play any games. and i agree, comments that are narrow-minded and self-righteous only speak volumes about the commenter, i can only celebrate love and the love those around me find. she is bright, attractive, sexy and has the most wonderful personality, i can't help but respond in a positive way but i am so concerned that if things went any further she would dedicate the best years of her life to a person who will probably not be around in another 20yrs time when she is only 53. as the months passed, i grew more drawn to him. he wants to introduce me to his family and i hope to meet them soon. she was not interested to marry early, but i encouraged her to marry early, because her bf is in 40s and she wanted kids from him. she’s lies to them about hanging out with and staying with so many different people it’s getting hard for her to keep her story straight. there is only 13 years of a difference and i am 28. he is a young looking 18 year old which makes me feel like i'm being "creepy. watch how many times we curl over in laughter and the way he helps me with my coat. he treat me with respect and has his life together. i got totally ridiculed by one of his classmates at his 40 year high school reunion. thread (despite being a little dated) has helped me so much! he has 2 beautiful children, while they do not want to see their father hurt again, they seem to accept me greatly. a man wants sex from a woman, period… he doesn’t really want love, at least not in the hard drive… your mother told you not to give in…don’t have sex right away…what’s that all about? age brings experience- and no amount of maturity can match those extra years of experience. it gives me passion and hope that mark and i will work out, and you gave me all the answers i needed to keep going! and my lover is 11 years older than me and we get along great!

Dating someone 7 years older than me

then i try to call charles who is on vacation when this happends and at the time he dropped his phone in the ocean and trying to dry it out i didn't know just thought he was ignoring me. on paper not a real lot of difference but bc i haver over 250 female friends on facebook she is upset with me hd my womanizing. i am so glad that my man is in my life.! it just hit me the wrong way tonight because it was on purpose, versus the people who judge from afar without knowing. she initiated the interaction with me (i actually look about 10 years younger than i am). hes my sisters friend and doesn't know we are dating yet. while there are questions about kids, retirement, etc…i don't consider them any more of a challenge than issues you have to deal with in a relationship with someone closer to your age. i knew he was the one since i saw him. finally yes since society is so blind and my friends and family typically date guys their age they are so ignorant to realize that two people could love eachother. my children think my gf (20 yrs my junior) is great, thier dad is happy and thay love me and said go for it! so our first date after a long night of work he took me out to breakfast for my birthday it felt great because finally it felt so right. she spends most of her free time cooking, drinking an insane amount of coffee, adding to her enormous lipstick collection, watching “dateline” and enjoying the simple beauty of life all while listening to her man, billy joel.!My wonderful boyfriend (31 years older) has just said to me “the great pain of loss is an inevitability of such intense happiness. rachel, i’m so glad to see you writing these out with such boldness and courage. the only thing they hear or think of when my boyfriend is mentioned is his age. wish you the best of luck and the happiest moments love has to offer!. i have a few questions i'm 28 and my boyfriend is 47 we've been seeing each other for about two years but for the past 10months we've been living together he had two grown children ages 20,21 i'm starting to feel as if he's embarrassed of me or something because he's never took me around his family although i've met his friends i've never met his family! living a queer life is often about building a family and re-making all sorts of relationships that we didn't get to choose the first time around. women like this will generally take care of themselves physically and carry themselves with confidence. was dating a man who is 21 years senior to her. has help a lot am starting to see a man younger than me he's24 i'm32. i just hope i get to spend the rest of my life with mines. if you are 16 and in the united states, don’t even bother. i think major checking in's about goals and objectives with major age differences are integral now retrospectively. on monday he proposed to me, and now i’m wearing a beautiful ring on my finger. i am 28 and my fiancé is 44 and the age difference is never a problem bc we both happen to be at the same place in our lives right now. am a 25 year old woman dating a 49yr old man, its still very new, we'v only been dating for a month now. i've learned that it's not so much about age, but very much so about maturity and your level of understanding and the place you're at in your life. whole situation has really got me down now and i am starting to suffer from deppression. here's the test: if you let go of this person because your family doesn't think it's right for you to be together, how will you feel about that? no i do not know if i'm going to marry him, but i'm sure wanting to see how this relationship may go, just like i would with any other man i'd meet who i am interested in. of course we never know how much time any of us have, but a fear of being alone in your old age is also a consideration.'s all about what you do you with your age and how you connect with someone meaningful in love and commitment. my boyfriend says "forget them, they are not living your life and they should mind their business". it really helps saying that, because then people begin to realize that they really don’t know how old i am. you truly care about someone, things will fall into place! one great thing about dating older men is that it makes you realize how important it is to savor this moment. his daughters are both older than me (he started young), and we haven't crossed that bridge yet either but i am confident things will work as we both love each other and have a hard time coping with the thought of not being together. he makes me a better person in so many ways and although he is older, we each have things to teach one another. how everyone else has said on this thread, it is amazing knowing you're not alone. thank you, and i would love to talk anytime about age-gap relationships, seriously you changed my life! i married a guy when i was 16, he was 23, worst 13 years of my life. the hardest thing of all is that because of what happend recently i really want to talk to him. he cannot be my boyfriend because he is still married… but we are very much in love, even though the relationship has no future. i love his eagerness and yes we have to enhance our lovemaking with creativity and he is accepting and open to his limitations. i am really afraid and unsure about our future life. he is really a good man and my dream man as well. the more we visited each other, the stronger that feeling grew. but am just scared of what pple will say, please ladies what do you think! she said our ages didn’t make any difference the last two nights at my house, why should it make a difference going forward. hope that helps a little, or maybe gives you a different perspective. i loved this post so much because i've always dated older men (my current boyfriend is 36 and i'm 25). (i know i am too young to date but i am) i know that it isn't the same as being 16 years apart but i have the same problem with distance. i am 24 and possibly bi (and being culturally conservative it's something that i cannot easily open up about)." that tells me that she still wants me and yet she is also saying "it's over". i find that there's so much less drama with older men – i'm not sure whether that's because we had different friends or because we just weren't concerned about the same things that younger/same-age couples are. the problem has been with our aspirations and attitude to life. he is very blunt and speak his mind so he always defended me. well i guess at the time, why be in it otherwise? you never know what is going to happen, but when you find the person who "gets you" and makes you happy…i say live and love! the girl was 20 and so i felt very awkward at that moment. he learned the hard way and now that he has someone that fits perfectly, he shows me every day! i really enjoy that we have the same cultural background, and that our goals are not only in-line but we hit major milestones very closely together. glad you're happy and this place made a difference to you. we are madly in love with each other but i find the age gap difficult. it's the pseudonym i use on the blog to refer to my girlfriend. while deep down i am hopefulthat i will meet someone special for a ltr, i hadn't seriously considered the possibility that this particular situation would amount to anything more than a "hook up. won’t work on close family or friends though, but they should know better. when i was leaving, she actually said she liked me, i was the nicest, smartest and most gentlemanly guy her daughter ever brought home to meet her. that’s nothing compared to our first date which literally lasted 48hours, non-stop. they both told me if they could go back, they wouldn't do it again. luck, and may love and light always be in your life, i say go for it the heart knows not age it can always love……. i started dating my fiancé when i was 18 and he was 35. i think we had it a lot easier because he has never been married, nor had children.. i'm actually interested in someone who will be turning 21 next month (very intelligent) and i'll be 33 in april. i have always been standoffish towards relationships because i am still pretty young but i feel like this man is my soul mate. i don't know how to tell my friends about him or if i should pursue him. truly continuing to love without worry,This article brings me some hope- i’ve found myself in a similar relationship with a man 25 years older… we support one another absolutely. meant 22 lol not to long had a bday and i don't feel no different. i don't mind waiting, because right now we have no labels with each other. so far, it hasn't been an issue, with the exception of me worrying about it being unfair to her, draggin' around an old crone in a few years, lol. i know he cares for me by the way he writes to me. her return something just changed, and she began to really enjoy my character and trust me..before meeting me, he was set on not having children but he mentions us being together he wants children but when on his own he thinks 'how is it going to work or how old he will be when their older'…my man is 46 and i'm 26, this could make us or break us. i played a multiplayer online video game and met someone who is 20. anyone my age and older can sexually attract and maintain a healthy relationship with a younger person, provided they: exercise, eat right, have a good – constructive attitude, share the same core values and interests ….?I have a boyfriend that is 19 years older than me. he showed all the signs of a man use to getting things done his way and rarely asking for permission. have recently engaged to a man that is about 20 years older than me. i'm now becoming interested in a very young man at the age of 20 but who possesses a unique maturity and impressive wisdom which cast him well beyond his age. my parents make him out to be some kind of monster. thank you so much for commenting on my article, i feel very special since you never comment! i want no one else but he cannot continue a relationship with an emotionally unstable woman, and i understand that. me it’s the best decision i’ve made and 4 years later we are still strong. i liked reading some of these posts because i don't feel so different now. but i do not fore see myself leaving him because of it. i’ve tried to moved on but i always find myself back in his arm. this is a problem in many relationships, not just ones with a large age gap. you have to enjoy every moment you’re given as life is a great gift and in your times of sadness you can look back at the wonderful memories you have both made. i’m currently dating a guy who is 21 years older than me. i dated several older men and the age gap became further each time lol. am a 59yr old man living with a 40yr old woman. he no longer says i love and we see each other every two weeks or once a month. must admit, a few years before, i would have never dated someone this old. we started talking online also outside and boom we were both in love. while together we had amazing sex, cared and cherished each other. she graduated with a bachelor’s in environmental health science yet lives as poet and writer in her mind. i think when you love someone, age is nothing more than a number. thank you for sharing your story, reading other peoples stories has made me realize i am not alone. we both come from the same, small town in the south so yes, people talk, alot..its hard to have relations if you work in the same institution, as we do, and our collegues arround the country we live are familiar with both of us. i feel this burst of energy, life, and security that i have not gotten with past relationships and marriage. i want to leave everything and just pack my bags and leave with my daughter and him to his homeland. what i wanted to share is my current man is 23 years older than me (i’m 26 and he’s 49) – not to mention that i’m asian and he’s european and we’re doing the oh-so-called-ldr -, even with so many differences, we don’t find any difficulties to build this relationship. know he's not using me as he wants me too move in with him when i turn 16 and for us too have a future. she likes to have friends over more than i do. and remember… “just because it wasn’t what you were expecting, doesn’t mean it wasn’t everything that you needed. but his response is always "don't worry, someday we will". yes; i am 50, and she is 29, actually one year younger than my eldest daughter. it was during an oddly cold day of summer in july..i plan to become a sports diatecian and certified fitness instructor. my friends love me and are always supportive of my life, especially when i am spending it with someone who makes me so happy..i am sick for wanting a girl who is young enough to be my daughter. i, too, am dating an older man 32 years older than myself.'m 24 and my girlfriend has just turned 40, i first saw her in a hotel and fell in love with her straight away, she was so unsure at the start, but one of our friends convinced her to start dating me and it went from there. since i was 15, ive had a crush on this guy who was 8 years older than me (we go to church together and our families know each other well) . he interrelates with my boys so well – it has been the greatest blessing. because the older person will need caring for much sooner, to give the younger person am idea of the reality of growing old together, the younger person could volunteer for 1-2 weeks full on at an old folks home. but i believe when you cross into that 60-65 age bracket the aging really starts to become noticeable. there was no one in danger so why did she not take into consideration xmas, my daughter. have never met the “friends”…i doubt if his “friends” even know about you. pre bring her up to speed, you know put some spark in the ol gal. when we go out, sometimes he pays, some days i pay. but i love him so much that nothing can change that. i am really happy with this guy i'm dating but it kills me my dad wont talk to me. maybe he's transgendered and doesn't have a male part down there yet and is really a female down there. in my experience what's been important is finding someone who sees the good in you even at your worst, and makes you a better and happier person for it. but when it comes to me, we'll go out, have dinner, and he'll mention that he would like to get drinks, or he went to the same place for drinks with his friends. biology tells a man he must spread his seed and women that they must find a man that can protect them and help raise the children. be a lady, and take thought of your every move you make. as an aside, my older brother (36) is married to a slightly older woman (39), so it works both ways. this relationship developed initially as a friendship and support for me as i came out and was in the process of leaving a 24 year traditional marriage. i'm not sure my family will accept the huge age gap. :3 i know im too young to date ;~; (14) my life was more of tripping over and over again, than smiling actually being able to stand on 2 feet by my own. he said and credit to him, well look at person x/y/z you /i have been with? maybe someday soon his path and mine will cross again? we ended up dating just short of a year, but it was a great year! the oldest woman i had a relationship with kept in touch with me until a few years ago, and usually, she’d ask me to dinner, and asked if i had time to give her a “mercy f__k” as she called it. my friends are all very supportive and are glad i'm happy. it really means a lot to me that you were able to search you heart and be open to giving me real advice and helping out a younger woman/ older man relationship and not sounding exactly like all of our friends and family, that really meant a lot to me! i've always liked guys a little older, i mean i've tried dating guys my own age but it never works. a lot of people were shocked at first & had a lot of judgemental opinions but i know what i want & what makes me happy not to mention what's best for me! this article, i'm 19 just recently became involved in a 34 year old man. i see so much potential with this girl despite the age gap but i don't want to cause anguish and pain for my parents either and now i'm also all scared to meet her dad. he has 2 adult sons, 1 of which his family gives us plenty of trouble because we have a 7 year old and a 2 year old together. there are lots of ladies who are dating older guys. my husband had a tumor in his testical he waited to long & after surgery could no longer preform. i began to cry because at that moment i have never had a man to make me feel the way he did, we also love to wrestle, go to church and talk about what our kids would look like since neither of us have any yet. now he tells me i'm the most beautiful, sexiest woman he's ever seen and i have never been so attracted to anyone. 23 old guy and my freind is 14 years old i didnt like her like that at first but aftrr always hanging out and have alot in common i started becoming physically attracted to her.. older men are often more chivalrous and “old school” about courtship. and, after many dating experiences and over a year in my current loving relationship, the most important thing to realize is that such is the case in pretty much every relationship, as least for me. whether we can make a path together when there's already so many personal obstacles he and we have to clear without even considering our relationship. not being desperate or too bored with dating women my own age, i have agreed to myself that when its time, i will have to let her go and eventually live my life as an old woman. going through hard times i wish i would comment one-day saying shes my wife now. i think it would be better to have spent the time loving him than not at all. she believes the sky is the limit and if it is meant to be, it will be. christina – i don’t know about the age gap, but you probably shouldn’t be with someone who is emotionally abusive..also he has a girlfriend…i know i know this is an awful admission but sometimes i just have to tell someone. she looked at us then looked me in the eyes and said, “i bet your mother is so embarrassed of you dating this man. since he wants me to go i want to but i worry just the same. this really helped me feel more comfortable about my situation which is similar to yours. i have met his parents and one of his sisters and so far no problem but heres the kicker. he pointed out that a street musician (named robin) was playing “la vie en rose”. we have had the 'marriage' talk several times and 9 times out of 10 he's on board but sometimes he has this underlying doubt that he's holding me back from living my life. you are faced with a similar situation my only advice is to pursue it, give it a chance. i think when i was dating younger people than myself, i'd tend to feel flattered, as in "i've still got it," but as i mature i find that i don't need that shallow reinforcement anymore, and i'd rather be with someone whose experience and maturity are a complement to my own. if it doesn't matter to you, why should it matter to anyone else? but im just not sure if thats a line a should cross, we're both lost in a worls of problems. we are hoping to marry and have children some time soon. two grown, consenting adults can make a relationship work regardless of what family, friends and society may say if their love for each other is true. other people have also made comments that have made me feel like i’m doing something wrong or i’m a bad person. i am in excellent physical shape for my age, but i realize that the older i gt the more i have to work to stay in this shape. we both have kids – his 3 girls are grown, of course, and mine are finishing elementary school.

Dating someone 15 years older than me

after all this time, i still couldn't get "j" out of my mind. do you hve an email i can reach you at? boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months now he's 41 i'm 26 in which we are 15 years diffrence. i dont know how long this will last, but having more experience at dating women will help me overcome some things, but lack in tolerance of others. i either stay with him and have no children (and possibly regret it later), or i leave him for an unknown mate i’ve never met., he offered to give me children when he first came out to me 9 yrs ago. my girl is always bringing up how her health could go down and she doesn't want me to waste my life taking care of her. i just say that probably because like i said we move a lot and its hard to make friends constantly, but it would nice to be around others who understand when you don’t have friends and family near by all the time like us!’m married to a man who is 40 years older than i (62/22) and i couldn’t be happier! our love story is a wild ride, and we’ve both tried and failed numerous times to fight it, and as he put it he “can’t run anymore”. it probably won't be that blunt, but he'll cut you lose somehow. at 21 years old, when i began dating him, i had just gotten out of a 10-year on-again-off-again relationship..By the way, i should say that i am seeking therapy! when he and i first started dating, two people i was working with had significant others 10+ years older than them, them being in their early 40's and their significant others being in their 50's. he sees me the following day he acts like all is well. on the other hand, dating a woman 20 years younger was going fine until she looked at my bookshelves and asked,"who's margaret thatcher?'m 30, he's 48,we've been togather 5 years but haven't had sex in 3 years, is this normal. so, even though you can’t come up with a good reason that a woman should choose an older man, it feels wrong to you. i believe there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an older man, if he is respectful, treats you right, and loves you dearly, then there is no problem, and most of society should be accepting. i recently told my parents and they are not happy with it. i feel like i owe her the respect to let her know i am only a freshman, but i am not totally sure what to do. he does this not so rarely and i normally don't mind because i understand he works hard and does long days. i remember making a 70’s reference to a guy i dated previously, and it was lost on him. i mean, i’d rather date a gentleman instead of a frat boy with swag. is nasty and what u are experiencing with ur husband is a challenge (not an easy one) for u too overcome.'ve been in love with a woman 16 years older than me. the hardest part is seeing my older skin next to his younger skin. we love each other so much that it hurts, knowing i could be without him in my life one day. am slowly getting used to it and just trying to not care what others think. i’ve done a lot with my life in the last 8 years and i think she knows i can make a good decision. after my performance, as i was trying to decide what my next tune would be, a woman came up to me and my boyfriend. no napping on my watch unless we have an early day. and i’m going wonderfully well with his brother who is older than himself and his friends. am a single mother of a 4yr old son, and i am ( 24yrs old) am so much in love with a 59yr old man, he has 5kids 1 adopted making 6. now i have one kid from him and step daughter.'s gotten older in that time (he may no longer wish that). meeting this man i believe that age is just an excuse for "maturity". it just seems like to me that older men or men my age just have too much going on . mainly about the liklihood or possibility of him getting ill and needing long-term care, and me spending the next 10-20 years of my life (till i'm 60) taking care of him and not being able to do anything. a few of my friends know that i'm seeing a man who is more than twice my age and they don't understand why but not every bee likes every flower i guess haha. i do notice differences when it comes to partying etc. i don't know where i'd be without him now and i fall more in love with him every day. i'm very sexual and he wants to be, but he has ed. he isnt the type who'd take advantage of me, because i know him very well. being with someone older has such amazing benefits, the maturity of men in their twenties certainly leaves something to be desired. like a lot of young us queers, i romanticize the early 90s and its fun for me to be able to participate in those memories vicariously through her. however i think that if you stand up for your love, show them how serious you are and that neither of you are in the relationships for superficial or financial reasons, and you continue on your career path, living the life they think you deserve, hopefully they will see that this is just another fantastic decision you have made in your life. starting from the first meeting there was that special feeling between her and me. i want to introduce my sweetheart to my relatives as well, but now isn't the right time, but rest assured that i will fight for our love, and if they can't be happy for me, then i shouldn't mind what they think. i’m ashamed to have allowed myself to love him, to have been naive, to have let my guard down. her mom admitted her daughter was very mature for her age, but where did i get 10 years age difference, wasn’t i 30-something? the internet is not a great way to get involved with somebody so much older than you. so he always thinks i’m oging to cheat too and i don’t know how to convince him that i’m not going too. she knows how deep your love must be to make such a sacrifice. guys,my girlfriend is 22 i am 39 we so happy the only problem is her mother and i understand her concerns. however, i feel extremely limited, and it gets me down that i cannot take part in his social life. have so much in common and he so understands my heart. the physical aspect is so amazing, it absolutely blows my mind. my 83 year old mother says: "just hang in there when it gets tough. he thought i was 25, i thought he was 30 due to his references of south park and other humorous, hip, young things. i wonder how things will go down the line – if we get married and have kids – but i think it is best to take just one day at a time. i love him completely and we both want the same things even though we are in different age groups. none of those relationships have ever worked out or even lasted over three months. that’s a huge age difference and only you can know what feels right for you – while you want your family to cut you some slack and appreciate you are happy, i think you rtoo could cut them some slack and appreciate that while what they say doesn’t feel right to you, it might be that they are just saying it because they care. turn 21 this may and i'm in a relationship with a man who will be 32 in december. hit the nail in the coffin of my guards when he said and i quote: “i am not much of an analyzer but i think you want to be loved but were loved in the wrong way. there are fewer issues in dealing with an older man. my parents are proud of me, they respect my decisions and they stand behind me. it would be helpful to show her mother the current age of consent law for your country as it will clarify for her. but then i fell apart and when he asked me what was wrong, i told him and he started crying too! for those 3 years we would send each other an "update" of what was new. i told myself that i have to decide whether i’m going to fight for my love or tap out for good. so do u two go out places together, or does you man seem to just want to sit at home and: relax”. we got involved, but i had so many hang ups/baggage, i broke it off a few times within a 3 or 4 yr time span. above post could have been written by me… i am 47 and my lover and friend is 81. and you put too much emphasis on age & not the actual person. this is not about sex or money, it's just pure. she has made me mature and i keep her young.?Anyways i’m just happy with my 20 year gap relationship and i couldn’t be any happier with this man. we can't help who we fall in love with, sometimes it just happens, if you have enough courage to stand up and say at the top of your lungs that you are indeed in love then i have to say go for it. we are so in love but dont know how to tell friends and family we've been together 10 months but were together a few years ago but i had uni and there was the distance. datrd a 68 yrold woman when i was 17 we were seeing eachother for nesrly 15 months till i went to uni . she and i have been on and off for the past year and i have not been with anyone but her during that time having gotten out of a four-year relationship prior to meeting her. in life we can't please everybody, so i would encourage you to keep a hold on this love if this man makes you happy. dating a 58 year old and am 31 i fear to love i think he will live me to an younger woman too. we havent told anyobe yet apart from his son that lives with him who i get on with really well. when we became friends, we both said we didn't want to fall in love, but we did. i really love him, he makes me feel special in many ways. i just met someone who is older i’m not sure his age i’m guessing 50s i’m kinda scared to ask., i'm in a relationship now where the age difference has been on everyone's mind since the beginning. you will have to live for more than two years without telling anyone about him if you don't want him to go to jail. is so refreshing to know that i am not alone! my lover wont babies to much and i dont create any problem for her. you very much rachel, we decided to just stay friends, but apart of that was that i am still growing up and figuring out what i want in a man and in my life. we have known each other for 4 years and decided to actually get involved in a serious relationship 2 years ago. i think that if you're lucky enough to find someone with whom you have amazing chemistry, you should go for it, regardless of the disparity (or lack thereof) in age. i’m really afraid of the things that can destroy my realnship with my family.'m 20y/o & my boyfriend on one year is 44 we have a great relationship honestly the best relationship i have ever had! we didnt expect them to be thrilled, but we werent prepared for them to say no. dad was 19 years older than my mom; they met when she was about 21/22 and he was divorced, and they were together for over 30 years when he passed away. two yrs later he told me he was in love with me and had been from day one. went through a very weird experience with a woman recently. last year our mutual friends took us on a double date, and we have been dating for a year now. anyone else have the same problem with telling their parents? enjoy each and evry moment you have in life, period. no sugar-coat conversation, no empty promises, his action speaks louder than anything. i have gotten where i am today (good job, decent car, living on my own) in the last four years, i just need to allow them to reach that point on their own time. he is amazing and the best man i’ve been with by far. i did not truly know what the term “other half” actually meant until we fell in love. so i guess the last thing i have to say is that i hope other people can read and not let insightful writing go over their heads due to contradicting emotions on the subject. importantly, the fact that she's only 14 means that even if she is consciously consenting to a relationship with you, the simple fact of your age difference means that you hold way more power in the relationship. at first, it was great, but then the trust issues came into play. we are very in love but as things start to get very serious and we are talking about marriage and buying a home i am not sure if i can sign up for our future. to be honest, the distance isn't a problem to us.!I dated a man 21 years my senior in my late 20's. i just wanted you to listen to me – thank you for your time in reading my comment here. so even though i've always been seen as a cute, nice, friendly girl, his family sees me as old, washed up, and the most evil person on earth. of course, that is quite limiting, but so is society. indeed, it's unnerving to read the comments and see quite a few people in identical situations (identical to potential future me, that is), particularly the one pursuing a ph. upsets me as i know that i am upsetting her so much too. most boys these days party all the time and have sex with anyone, i have had a very hard time with finding someone who wants to better themselves and push themselves to do better, they never hold the door open or pull out a chair, and they do not seek any class in women. he can get to work ,the last time he celled me a name i asked him whats wrong with u really ,he told me to cut up ,he all ways seem to be angry with me even when i haven,t done nothing wrong ,i said to him if u cell me anymore names u can move out ,or i will ,he u move ,since then he has been good ,but is that what it takes to stop this ,i have left him before when the abuse,was bad ,but i came back he didnt change then ,and its been a long hall to now ,i do have a chance to go back to my horses etc and live that life i had ,i worried if i leave that and sell every thing ,he may go back to being mr nasty again . sometimes just opening up and typing it all down- our fears, our hopes- is enough. guy is 19 years my senior and we get along juuuuuuuuuust fine! i am a great dad, i adore children and lack the typical “guy” habits and always considered my children and wife my top priorities, so i will jump at the opportunity to have more little ones especially with her. we kissed a lot and i was so in love with her at this point it made my very scared about her parents. it may not feel like that to you, but that's how it is. my mother is 4 years older than him and she knows his age, and she understands me. the idea that two people need to be close in age is a uniquely modern and uniquely us social custom. don't be a fool make your own decisions before it hurts you both! am an 18 year old girl, gonna turn 19 in a couple weeks, and my boyfriend i've been dating for 4 months is 34. every time i look at my ring i think about him and all the various memories i share and it always brings a smile to my face. i look a lot younger than i am so that never helps, people tend to stare at us. while i don’t know the dynamics of your relationship, nor would i give advice even if i did (we are all learning on this crazy train called life, right? i am whittany i am 22 years old and this guy that likes me he's 55 years old would it be a age difference or shall i give him a try. but they don’t know how much older i really am, so it throws them into confusion. give her time, all things that are meant to be, will be. even more, my fiancé's taste in movies and music are probably more current than mine so it all works out. i'm amanda, age 45 nearly 46, i'm a single mum of a 10yr old boy, i separated 4 yrs ago from my sons dad after he cheated on me twice! nine years isn't a huge difference when you're older--if she was 25 and you were 34, it would be a different story. far as romance between adults is concerned, chronological age, means absolutely nothing. honestly i don’t know if i can stand this “isolation” to the house much longer. thinking about him makes me smile, i think the only time he has upset me was when he fell asleep when he was meant to call me. my father was abusive to my mother when i was a child but now he places my mother on a pedestal. i found a florist some miles away who would deliver, flowers, chocolate and wine to her. am not going to tell u my age but i am still a teenager and people seem to think because i am a teenager i should me going out with girls me own age. we go out he does look at the younger chicks ,which is hard on me ,i have got used to it a bit now but its still there ,i wonder if he is just using me for a visa and once he get pr ,in my country he be gone . i'm happy to see 15 + year age gaps, i am not alone in pursuing the older man. so many dead end dates and wasting time until i was on the phone canceling my membership and requesting my profile be removed and a message popped up right that moment. so we don't really face any censure walking down the street together, and for the most part my family and friends have been supportive (or at least, have not shoved any misgivings into my face too loudly). makes me so happy to see this post and all of these comments that i am crying. thank you so much for reading it and providing your feedback! no one knows what tomorrow may bring; i am so happy right now there is no need to worry about what might happen in the future. but i've never been in realtionship with such honest communication, respect, and laughter. moreover, there is definitely no issue with us being from different generations--it's actually perfect bc my fiancé grew up in the 80s-90s and i totally romanticize that era as well. woman who came up to you and said that clearly had psychological problems. in order for them to accept what you have to say and understand what you plan on doing next. it's kind of weird when one you express wanting to do something and having your partner say, oh, i did that a long time ago… when i was your age i did this and that… (eg. i have never cared for anyone as much as i care for her, she is my best friend, my girlfriend, my partner in crime., i have known this man since i was 6 years old.'m 17 turning 18 and i like someone who's 14 years older than me and i think he likes me too. he currently has the job that i'm going to school for 8 more years to get (plus another 6 years of training after that! our families are pretty accepting and most of my friends are too but they see how happy we are for each other. i am proud of my relationship and all of the great qualities and foundation we have built. we know nearly everything about each other and i really hope something could happen between us but she doesn't know i like girls and i'm not sure if she likes girls either. my family really gave me a hard time with my decision to pursue him, and there were multiple times that i tried to “end things” because of our age difference. when i have a child who is younger than my grandchildren it will freak a lot of people out, and will be one for the books!'m 18 now and we've been going out for a while now. of course there will be differences, but you can always over come that. it is just another experience for me to have that reminds me to not judge others and their relationship choices.. i do sometimes childish stuff and i'm not sure if he will accept my childish character :/ i have a lot of worries and i don't know what to do. i have been feeling really hesitant with continuing a relationship with him or making it exclusive or public, but rachel your experience and perspective about this situation has helped me tremendously! i will no doubt become his primary caregiver at some point if i do go ahead. i was curious as to what that search would produce, and i must say the stories i have read from you guys around the world are indeed reassuring and solidifying. she just grinned, shook her head and ‘waved me on’. i was so shocked because during our whole talk, i made sure to have kept a secure distance with him. he was married for 32 years to this woman so i doubt he is going to go out and "exchange" me, he didn't mean to fall in live with me and cause all this pain and hurt for his family (and neither was i) but it is what it is, also, i will not be looking to do this over again to him with someone else, i came on here looking for answers- i know how we've gone about our relationship wasn't the best and karma has made it's way around believe you me, we've gone through a lot this past year and i'm sure much more to go, but i wouldn't have it any other way- this man brought me back to life and showed me what love really is and for that i'll pay any price two, three or ever ten times over- i love him with all my heart, and i know he feels the same- neither one of us would have taken such a big risk on one another juss to turn around and do it all over with someone else, so thanks for the advice and telling me something i've never heard before or haven't been told everyday since i took this leap of faith and love with him! the worse thing that has happened to us is the fact that my father disowned me because of our age difference. off i think it's amazing how this thread has continued over the past few years. we hadn't ever met each other face to face until 3 months ago. it of course is hard amin some aspects but i have never been happier! who has not experience this are against the big age gap, while people like myself with a significant age gap have no problems whatsoever! was 26 at that time, he was 54 and we almost never met. when we first met it was at a fundraiser for work, i of course thought he was much younger.

Dating someone ten years older than me

i have not had an easy time in relationships, so have a lot of trust issues that he has overcome by his constancy. i wanted so badly to have a conversation with a man: a full- blooded, successful, independent man. he then had no words to put together, i smiled and remained at ease. am 20 will be 21 next month and my boyfriend just turned 44 a few days back. i don’t know how my mum feels about it now, but i think it is just something we won’t talk about. her biggest fear is that they will want to drive her home after she goes there for dinner. we have so much in common we hardly notice an age difference. was on google searhing for relationship advice on dating someone that is 20 years older me. pretty much hates the situation and can be very hateful. boyfriend and i got together when i was 23 and he was 37, now i am 26 and he is 40.'d been talking to him as just friends for about 7 months before we got together and i fell in love with him at a similar time he fell for me. what if he continues to travel in the same way?. it’s important to try everything once as far as dating. some of you may say it's to much of an age gap but it's the only way i feel confortable being with another man.. ironically, you will never feel more desirable or powerful than when you’re 20 years a man’s junior. she was bothered by people’s questions about ‘us’, but when at a pool with her, me and about 10-12 friends of hers, one of them just asked me if we were dating, or if i was just f__king her.,, meaning to comment on your main article but responding to all the amazing comments first on my way down to the comment part of the website to comment on your article, lol. last boyfriend was a millionaire, limo’s chauffer’s and all.. joy, if the guy only goes for young women, he's not seeing you as an option because you're not young. will she be fatigued by being with such an older guy? my boyfriend is the very best thing (besides my kids) that has ever happened to me. asked a girl this monday and she said yes, but she'd have to ask her mother. he explained to me that he just has a fear of sleeping with people because he has doesn't want children, and or diseases. i have that worry of staying with a man older than me for the rest of his life. with age comes experience, which is why many younger women will always want to date older men. i know he will only me well and it is the only thing i want him. we just had a talk recently and he was telling me how hard it is for him because he's older than my mom and same age as my dad and how my family will think he's too old for me and how his family will think i'm too young for him..If your friends ever try to discourage you and rip you two apart, then they were never your friends to begin with (unless he is a terrible person to you). now 5 years later he is even happier with our relationship because we just announced that we are expecting our first child and his very first grand child. but all i can say is that i am completely in love and so is he and we have so much support from everyone. first, they are more likely to know who they are. im beginning to fall in love with him but the age difference often pulls me back. we are very healthy for each other and i’ve never felt like anything is more meant to be in my life. at the beginning of any of those relationships the younger person will most likely be more susceptible to being taken advantage of. best part of these relationships is how they teach you not to expect a lot and just live in the moment because you never really know what goes wrong when…. but as i see it they weren't really family or friends if they don't want us around. literally just gave me his phone and asked for my number. this girl shares almost all interests with me, my soul mate is a couple years older, who cares. what i enjoy the most is that we are 100% honest with each other and trust each other 100%. my mother has no problem with it, as long as we're both truly happily in love (which surprised me immensely! best of luck darling, have a beautiful time in the most lovely country. it's always reassuring to hear from others who are in a similar situation, and have managed to find a way to make it work. with his wisdom and my old soul we are in sync with one another and it makes things so much more fun and exciting. i'm closer in age to his daughter than i am to him. he is certainly the best man i’ve ever met. we both really care for each other deeply already and get along extremely well. my entire life i was hurt by boys and guys till i started to believe only thing i was good for was sex when i finally did it a year ago, but he showed me that i was so much more than that, his sister called him an old pervert and people on my side called him names too, at that point i started to make up excuses not to see him again because i was scared of what people might think and awesome scared because i have never experienced what love and happiness really feels like, its like i was more happy sleep than awake because i dreamed of moments like that but never have it happen in reality. please help me, i really love this girl and i don't want my relationship to go down the drain over this. i certainly have my layers of history--notwithstanding, i loved her deeply. suggested it and she was very much in agreement rather than land on her front door step and move in. the only guys i knew were frat boys that got drunk and peed their beds once a week—not man material. long as you have self respect for yourself, meaning: you care for your body by what you choose to put in it and put on it. when someone else hasn’t experienced what true love is…they can’t understand and then they judge. things about dating in your 20s that you only learn when you’re about to turn 30. as i am still sorting my head out about it? she had a child with this guy, but realized she didn't want to be with him. my sister says it’s gross and i’m disgusting. is so nice to read such a supportive positive article and nonjudgmental responses! when we met, we had been married and this didn't let our story to go on. but if you’re into a kid who is self-centered, has little or no direction and is threatened by you in any number of ways, have at it. in your case i don't think the age difference is the problem. we weren't telling many of the people from our car racing community since his divorce was still in process, and now that it's finalized we're starting to tell people. i adore him with my whole heart, and i know he feels exactly the same. all of my qualities are so very much appreciated by her.. as i probably won't see him for another what feels like forever and 6 months away. there is a lot of scary stuff to think about and to consider but i so badly want to make it work. i already had a baby boy when we finally plucked up the courage to do something about our feelings and he has since adopted him and we've had a daughter together. anytime we go out together we always get theses weird looks. we have known each other for two years and have dated for one year. said, i was straightforward with him and asked what he was looking for, what he wanted from me. or will we continue the affair in the same manner forever? but he loves and cherishes me deeply, even if he is not always as vocal about it as my girly heart would like ;), and then there are the times when he daydreams about our future together and we concoct elaborate fantasies. if i continue this relationship despite my mother's wishes i am afraid it will drastically change my relationship with my mother…and not in a good way. one thing is for certain; i love the man with all my heart and sole.! i have a strong feeling that a lot of worries comes from something in my past, childhood. pls advice me as i am not able to take any decision. during that breakup, he dated someone my age that pursued him. 15 and i am dating a girl that is 26 i love her a lot and don't care what people think i love her but im so afraid that my family is going to find out and make me and her break up but i don't want to i love her to much to let her go and im hoping to stay with her the rest of my life ya some people mite say o your only 15 u don't know who u love well i do this girl is my soul mate i feel complete when i talk to her words really cant explain how i feel about her that is how much i love her. is amazing to see how many others are out there. only she can decide if it's worth working at and staying together for another 10 or 20 years. feels so good to write this there are some, but not many people know properly that we are together yet. we live our lives together very happily, and i am sure my mum knows that when i go out sometimes i must be seeing him. am 19 and i think i am in love with a 32 year old, so yes that is 13 years difference. is just time, but time is the fruit, enjoy life and life will enjoy you. we have now been together for three years and still going strong i am now 21 and he is 31 & age difference depends on what you make of it and if you let it bother you, need to be open with you differences. lots of online advice warns against big age gaps in relationships and i have agonised over a female colleague at work who is much younger than me who seems to be giving me the 'come on' and is a truly wonderful person in every way. i've never been more happy and the relationship seems to grow stronger everyday. he's my soul mate in every sense of the word except for age.. it was never easy, but besides that fact, ive never felt true love before ive met this guy who is 20 years of age. you for this rachel, it gave me hope reading this and all the comments. he knows how much time and work this takes- and how much dedication- and he'll be there with me every step of the way. i’m busy, he’s busy, i’m a bookworm, he’s a bookworm. my opinion if you are willing to make that change in your life to relocate to another country for love and its geniune of both parties then why not. however, with him it was different than anybody else i’ve been with… i would miss him when i was away, and i craved his attention and feedback. i'm slightly afraid if i can handle what my family, friends and people will say when they see us together. i just don't want to waste my time unless i am worth it. not her place to assume, and not only that; not a healthy mindset to judge others based on something as petty as age. i still ask myself this question as i never do such thing of “double confirming” unless it’s for school/work. of course issues like kids and culture, interests and energy mean a lot and need to be considered, but why would i deprive me or him of an opportunity to see what our futures hold simply because a number dictates we shouldn't be compatible? his wife died few years back, he got married again, but his presently divorced. (in my opinion i think my mum is pretty cynical when it comes to relationships too). my sister is 15 years older than me and has a lot more of energy and stamina and hunger for life than i have; age is not the issue per se. letting your two worlds blend as opposed to forcing two individuals to come together is magical and i think leads to successful connection. its been 5 months and although we come from different worlds, we seem to fit perfectly together.!), i will say, that in all relationships, it is very important to accept your partner’s past and take him/her as they are today. we met at work and we could not resist our feelings anymore. the sex was good from the beginning, and great in just a couple weeks – like i said, we just clicked. as long as you give those you love a chance to acclimate to your situation, i have found that they always come around. i don't want to be a widow and watching him get older scares me too. he made bad decisions, he took wrong turns and they all lead him here, so i kind of appreciate the baggage because without it, he might not have made it to me. i feel like i am wasting my life with a man who have already lived and enjoyed his life.’m not a gold-digger because i have a good career and am be able to pay my own bills and he’s not a pervert older guy lol., my ex and i were able to remain friends and still are 20 years later. i've always been mature for my age, and it just came naturally to date men in their 30s. i was truthful from the start, but it backfired on me, so there are risks. is it really wrong of me to just have this age preference? my best friend is a man 29 years older than i, and though we are both crazy about each other, the so-called obstacles are still keeping us from being in a relationship. so thank you beth, i see now that everyone who has posted on here gets a friendly ear and people to relate and helpful insight, where as you meet me with what? those that judge you because of your age difference are ridiculous and have problems within themselves. love of my life was a woman 13 years my senior. i hear that a guy when he get into his 40's (hes 39) can sometimes loose testosterone very rapidly. to all peopel out there who's dating a big difference age gap: dont be embarrassed to show off your partner. he is very very physically attractive and fit, so i just hope he can see past my mummy tummy. he is now my colleague as dad has retired and we are very much in love. i've never done well with guys my own age, they have always seemed immature to me and i've been frustrated with their lack of direction in life. i am scared to inform my family because i feel they will not accept him. siblings are both 15-16 years older than me and they're my best friends so i feel like i fit in more with people that much older than me. after a few weeks of e-mails, we have been back to the same thing as before. even though we are both in our young 20's, we hang out mostly with people / couples in their 30's and 40's, so i think that says a lot about our own internal ages. me age doesn't matter,as long as you love each other. i have three kids i raise on my own because my ex wife left us. i dread to tell it because i come from a small space with lots of prejudice, including my parents. and my situation, he’s 27 years older, but married so i think i have to move on from this one xd. when i read your article here, i was able to realize that i have people who are supportive to me no matter what – my mom (who first heard about us, she freaked out but after heart-to-heart conversation she is now supporting my decision – she always is. they think we’ve broken up now, i feel very bad about hiding it but also i don’t know how to bring it up to them anymore that we are still together fearing that my family will be turned upside down again. im 15 ok ok i know i am young and what i am about to say is stupid but i need help. ye truly love each other and are willing to make it work i don't understand why ye shouldn't be together. we've talked this to death, and i'm still not comfortable with the uncertaintly and the fear and the odds. although there is not only an age gap, there is also a cultural difference, yet we communicated so much and had a blast. i hope we are as happy as my mum and dad. her parents will probably not accept out relationship and because of this i've never met them and she hasn't told them about me. did you ever hear that story about when columbus landed in the west indies and the natives were not physically able to see the boats because nothing like that had ever entered their reality before? now you know what women his own age were feeling. i was happy and then he got cold feet on our date talking about your age is a huge problem for me i can hook you up with my nefew. but it is hard to sneak around and not talk about him openly; and i have told him, that this hurts me. she's so wise and let's me experince things and make the mistakes i have to in my twenties! i belive that although for now the realtionship should be day to day, the future must be considered too. i still didn't care but my mother had(has) huge issues with it. she knew all my ‘buttons’, and she gave me oral sex before getting my car in gear. many people do find love in college and are very happy, for those people and anyone else that finds love, i celebrate them :). not that what ppl say bother me, but it definitely hurts…. 16 years later, i still love him and we love and laugh like we are in high school!.grey hairs – gone, wrinkly face – gone, mr happy isn't quite up to the job? he is my first love, but he has been around the block.'m twenty and he's 46 we love each other but i live in visalia and he lives in medesto we been together for 10 months but he won't come to visit my parents he worried about the age difference its been 4 months since i seen him we talk every day i need advice about what to do. he lives in colorado and i live in minnesota; we plan on traveling to see each other sometime next month.'m a single 40 year old male ( 40, as far as "chronological age", "biological age", i'm much younger. there are so many things that are much better about an older man. i tend to worry about things i have no control over, but i am going to give this a shot with him.'m a bit of an old lady (don't like to stay out late, don't drink much, i knit) and she's got some standard peter pan syndrome so we meet somewhere in the middle.'m 18 and my boyfriend is 21, people say that's to much of an age gap. was his first lie and deep down, my intuition was yelling to me: ” do not trust him. especially the fathers out there, but i don't know this for sure since i don't have kids of my own yet. each one of my children tell me all the time how much he loves me & is the best thing that has ever happened to me., i still have a good 10 years of potential child-bearing in me, but we have yet to seriously think about going down that road. the thing i love this guy and he mean everything 2 me, my fear is that wil my family accept him with 15 years gap? the fact is that being together made me feel wonderful, the warmth and closeness. he have two sons one is a year older than me and the other six years younger. my 20’s, more than half the women i dated were older, 8 to 28 years older than me. but when your partner is 63+ (and you're not) there is a very good chance that you will end up being a caregiver much sooner than you planned. now she goes to college and is always sleeping at home but my husband is not here because he is working outside the city and is just home at weekends. i have not told my parents yet, he is their age and i am know they will not approve. being with someone solid in his career, with a little more life experience and rationality has certainly brought me down to earth more than once. it's not about sex to him its more than just that. – hope i’m not getting to personal, i just want to kno if this is normal while dating an older man. just as you did not know him four years ago. but anogher part of me reall, really enjoyed feeling close to him and wants to allow things to unfold, very gradually and see what happens. i've got a problem i'm 17 almost 18 and i'm in love with someone of 13 almost 14 years old and she's in love aswell but i wonder if this is wrong? i remember when the day came when i found out his age, it was like a knife cutting away at my heart because i wanted to date him but i knew that would take a huge affect on that when he finds out my age how would react. i’m also dated an older guy and fell in love with him. we met over xbox just over 3 years ago, i was in liverpool uk and he was in columbus ohio. am in love with a man who is 18 yrs older. it is so nice to hear from someone that is in a healthy, nice relationship with an older man and isn’t in their 20’s. 28 y/o dating a woman who is going to be 52 this year.

Dating someone 13 years older than me

i have never met a man that has cought my attention the way he did. of course my relationship is not simple or easy- not because of the age difference, although that presents issues that are different to people in relationships with similar ages, but because it is a relationship.  when they talk about my boyfriend and me they talk about how we bring out the best in each other, how we laugh constantly and how we fit perfectly together—not about our age difference and that is exactly how it should be. so love it till it lasts, be grateful and always believe that it might end somehow so you have to live the time fully… i'm 20 dating a guy who's 35 and he's the most adorable thing on the planet for me… and being older he understands all my fears and deals with my just starting working life crisis and tantrums… although ours is gonna end someday, i‘ll never forget how he taught me to feel it without asking or being asked…. i know when i was 26 i would feel similarly to you about things. he has been divorced for 6 years and told me he had no plans to date anyone because he didnt want to be a burden to anyone he didnt want someone to have to put up with an "old, crippled" man…so now he is willing to have a relationship with me…makes me skeptical…i did ask him at onetime if he was looking for a "partnership" and he had a look on his face like "you read my mind"…i dont want to make a huge mistake…. even hurts more when your older although you letting yourself up for a let down but it’s best to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. a 20 year old girl get married to a 45 year old man in colorado? i’m 24 and have recently started seeing someone 26 years older than me. i am still very young so how do i know if he is the one or if maybe there is someone else out there for me? knew each other for a year before we started dating. within a month of doing so i realized i made a huge mistake. we are now having a 1 year and 4 months of long distance relationship and we hope on going to get married next year. we are seriously in love and i am the happiest i've ever been in a relationship. had an 19 year old ask me out i'm 11 and i really like him i said no and he asked me out again now we are 8 years apart but i said yes i was willing to take a chance to be with some one he's never saw me he said he loved the way i acted emotionally not the way i looked the he said ok and he texted me and said he didn't wanna hurt me cause i did the same to him but he couldn't do it does any one think i should go in and try to ask him out now i said we would be friends but i really like him please help me.! i truly love him and would recommend as long as you're both consenting adults – get to know someone you are drawn too – you might just find your soul mate 🙂. he’s only a few years younger than my parents and i’m 7 years older than his oldest kid. thus, we encounter the “is that his daughter or date” thing a lot since we are always in new areas meeting new people. but im just not sure if thats a line a should cross, we're both lost in a worlds of problems. i doubted and scared to immerse my life with him at first because of his daughter. is why society has a problem with age gap relationships: biology. i could not have a better companion, lover, friend, confidant and the understanding beyond measure. unfortunately our relationship has deteriorated in the last 3 years because i want to make the most of my life while i am still healthy and fit and she seems to have the attitude of the more senior person in the relationship i. i did not set out to find a younger woman, in my wildest imagination this would have never been a possibility. 19 year age gap is tough for me to get my head around too. nothing in the way of a relationship has happened but we both obviously have feelings for each other and i can safely say i have never met anyone i feel so comfortable and compatible with. only daughter had objections at first but now she sees how fine her mother and i have with each other she has peace with it. of luck to you and your man, and thanks for sharing! one of the many beautiful things i have learnt from her is how to live in the moment, she lives this way and i have begun to as well. my mother went to the extent of disinheriting me because of my relationship, however for me it was never going to be a choice, i would never give up on a love this strong. we have not seen each other in person yet but we are hoping soon we meet. the girl is 15 and vibrant, amazing attitude, and loves me to death. he does little thoughtful things for me and just recently offered to ride to class together just not sure if he sees me the same way i do cause he also called me “champ” which i feel is something an old grandpa would say lol advice? a tough one, and i commented because i know exactly what you are going through. wonder if the couple from the original story is still together? now he is back in his country and i miss him dearly. i'm sorry but please focus your attention on someone who is normal and wants to be with you and have sex with you. may recall my previous comment about a relationship in flux due to age disparity, among other things. be it chores, time or the other dish that i wanted to taste at the restaurant we are at, i love to share and i think this is a skill many men develop with age. the one thing i fear is that eventually (like 30 years or so) i am going to be just an old guy that is no use to her. to us, everyone and everything in the airport stopped in time. why would you want to "always be around him" if he makes you feel like you're annoying him? a little before he left finally got to get my second date with charles and it was amazing he was like my knight in shinning armor. boyfriend is 28 years older than me (im 19) and it feels incredible we have the same sense of humour we both understand each other and can share things easily and i love him with all my heart and cannot see myself settling with anyone else xxxx. we met at work, actually, right after i had moved to a new city after college.'m 15 and i fell in love with someone 21 years old. she is also beautiful and smart, not just a booty call..i have never been happier in my relationahip… we have great comminication, honesty and repect for one another, i have never felt more connected to my partner. he is not rich and barely gets by with what he makes from his work men's comp but i still love him. there will always be common and general rules for why any relationship works or fails but by in large, it has nothing to do with age, race, gender etc. i am also indian (24) dating someone 30 years older than me for almost 2 years and cannot decide if i should tell my mom or not. her mom was there and she told her mom she wanted me to stay, and she dragged me to her room, as i was trying to ask her mom if that was ok with her because it was her home. i did not understand how he could fall in love with me who was so much younger, but then i thought reverse and he must have thought the same. ithink she will have no problem but the age gap to me is. what your boyfriends reasons are for keeping it a secret and how close and understanding your family is. she is now 20 and an older guy is interested about her. biggest problem is i'm an introvert and she's an extrovert. he makes me truly happy and i know that he loves me. congrats in finding a partner who is supportive of your ambitions, both personal and professional. have the same age gap with my mate and he is healthy and a young 63 with teenagers because he didn't have children until he was 43. i told my friends that he was 25 and they freaked out. "digs me" as she puts it and i dig her and we have great times together; however, she is constantly saying how i need to find someone younger and that what we have will not work out. just turned 16 and i'm madly in love with a 31 year old woman, (i'm a female as well). i do have some questions for myself, like how long i think this will last. age is a number which belongs on your birth certificate and that's about it. she is my equal, and we are each other’s advisor, best friend and soul mate. well there was so a guy that i love but he is 20 years older than me but it seems weird but works out. it's interesting bcuz the friendship has experienced several emotions, ups & downs, and so on, just from the phone!! i am so in love and i don’t want to miss out on something so good thinking about what other people think or say. don't be surprised when you become the wife crying at home because he is screwing around with a younger woman. so then charles finally came home from vacation happy to see him at work but then i started to give up on him because all the time we where supposed to go out something came up. it is challenging in other ways as he is retired and i am working. i am 27 years old and i have started to date a 52 year old, but i did not choose him or pick him out in a crowd or meet him on an online dating site… it just happened! i’m sure people are going to stare and say what the hell. know that i am setting myself up for heartbreak in a few years. question for you, how do you respond when people assume you are his daughter? strangers likely think i’m dating him for his money, but that’s not the case. setting all of the lovey-dovey and positivity and "you can't predict the future" stuff aside for just a moment, i just don't know what to do. we are so passionate even after 10 years & love each other very much. and i don’t want it to be too late for him in terms of really enjoying that child growing up – if we do decide to take that path. i am stuck at a cross roads of deciding what to do! most people think teenage girls who like older men have "daddy issues" but i can assure you i have a very loving, hard working, and present father. i know a lot of other people don’t understand my decision but in my heart- alarms have never gone off about him. as you can see we are almost the same age as im turning 21 soon. raletives tell her that you have big problem with your husband that is you dont will have baby in this age of your husband. just as she chose to grow out of love with her former husband and cheated on him 3 times. i am graduating uc berkeley this year and would like to pursue medicine. i now mingle and i amin my own world, the one i live in with he gifts i have and loving my family and mylself. i was just curious to see how many others were in similar situations since its something i do not see everyday. how many times can you f__k in a night! have an age gap of 36 years and i feel like it's tottaly normal. i'm in no rush, at my age, but i think about whether us getting married might be the only way we can be physically together legally. am a 22 year old woman and the guy i am interested in is 37 years old. try not to stare at us while you wonder if i am his daughter or his date. quickly learned who my real friends are, and they were accepting of us, declaring that love knows no boundaries and that as long as we are happy together then that is all that matters. i’m a 23 year old girl and i’m seeing a 36 year old man… the age gap is more than 10 years… but i’m already out of college, so is this acceptable? i have a daughter she is 15 months although its not his, he doesn't mind and treats her like her own.! there are some differences in our relationship especially about out past! i do worry about whether the age difference will cause any problems for us. we have the exact same interests in everything and have the same attitudes towards things. i am starting to feel deep feelings for him and to be honest it feels weird to me (in a good way). met a 35 year old lady who is wonderful and she thinks the same of me. if that doesn't work find some who won't presurre you real love you don't do that find some who appricates you. the only opinion i really care about is my mother's, but i am very sure she will disapprove because he is about the same age as her.'m 20 years old, the amazing woman i am dating is 13 years older than me. (if not, and it's just that you're really into this 14-year-old, fine--you can wait four years to tell her or act on it, and in the meantime can have social relationships with other women. i would get frisky with him and see how he respnds.. i'm really in love with him and i don't care what people have to say. but i am super young and silly at heart and definately don't act my age. i hate to think of it this way but its my fear! should i feel guilty about dating a man who looks/thinks 16 years younger than me? and don’t let society’s pressures of “right and wrong” get to you too much., i'm very close with a 30 yr old girl and i'm a 17 yr old girl. am in a tough situation… i left my husband about 8 months ago because of a bad marriage. you both get older there are always problems usually men who are older than their spouse speciallly over 15 yrs difference they lose interest in her as time goes by look at demi moore & young guy she married now divorced he got with girl his own age. best of luck to you darling, may your future be bright and full of love! we have got married almost three years now, believe me guys we live on peace and love , i care a lot about her , she always try to listen to me and let me finish what i am try to say . we were best friends before the attraction and he was a father figure to me, as i had no father growing up. there are many, big, scary things that someone in a relationship with someone 20 years older has to be concerned about. never has he ever done anything to me that i felt uncomfortable with when i was 17, and i never looked at him as a pedophile, until i was 18, we honestly stayed in touch from across the country, and stayed friends. that doesn't sound like a whole hell of a lot to people until they hear that i was seventeen when we started dating. so saying you don't want to date him is pointless when he doesn't even see you as an option. i am very close with my family and i feel anxious thinking about being middle aged and losing everyone i’m closest to.!) iam still a virgin and he respects me too much. anyway, we have absolutely no issues with sharing the workload or compromising on any issue. i decided it was time to leave but in the midway, i went back to make sure the restaurant was closed. i recently became interested in a co worker of mine (we've worked together for nearly two years), but since i'm in a supervisor position, dating isn't allowed. i hate to break it to you, but seems to me that you may have given up everything for something that isn't going to be the bed of roses that you thought it would be. 2 years ago when him and i were just friends i remember him texting my sister telling her to tell me he says hello and she started going all crazy at me. i was just so happy to have spoken to someone that day but sometimes i wonder if my sadness made me vulnerable that day and if it was that obvious that my body language betrayed me… as i was the perfect prey for him. friend dated someone older (she's 30 now) but there was a 13 year age difference when she was 22. biology also tells us that we, as a society, must enforce those rules in order to survive as a race. age diff is just a number and not any of our concerns infact we don't even talk about it. i believe one of the reasons i am so sure that my relationship is right for me is because of the fact that it has never felt “weird” to me. we are very much in love and ive learned that no matter how judgemental people are, you have to follow what is going to make you happiest. that being said, i am actually looking for some advice. we are completely in love and make each other so very happy. we met in college and she was 2 years behind me. you for taking the time to read and for the kind words. i had an appointment and we both were not expecting anything, just 'another' day, and we both knew once we looked into each other's eyes (nothing else, but the gaze in one another's eyes) allowed us to be aware of what we as humans are capable of. my only thing is, my mom detests the fact that i spend lots of time on the phone with him, mainly bcuz of his age. can you afford to get serious w some one u will have crummy sex with? travels constantly between various family members helping them out in their lives. i think my older partner has more energy and silliness than i do, most of the time! we have been dating for some months now, his friends and kids know about it, and they are ok with it. it would be nice to talk to someone who has a similar experience. for 2-1/2 years i’ve been hiding it from my mom and dad, and from people at work. am 48 and my love in girlfriend is 64- it's rough for me- 16 yrs is alot- i see the and hear the talk- i am worried about the future-." however, this comeback line does not work if the age gap is over 20 years. as long as two people are in love, and being treated right nothing else should matter. i know i am only 22, but i have never had a desire for children, and as i get older i have had less a desire. i mean i know with this big age difference it's possible that maybe he's afraid of what his mom dad and children would think or say but it's making me have major self esteem problems because i'm starting to feel as if i'm not good enough for him. well, i was right, her friends seemed to get over it fast as soon as they got to know me, her family on the other hand was a bit harder of shell to crack, her dad seems to be ok with it. that is the one terrible aspect of our relationship, but i do believe our years of complete happiness will outweigh that pain.,am happy to come across this site,am very confused right now,my boyfriend just proposed to me,i like him a lot but i don't know if am on the right track,am 24 and he is 42,the difference is 18years. now as she gets older and i see the physical changes in her, of course i am concerned for her health and worry about being alone. met a girl who looked early 20s got chatting and got on great, find out shes 16..) and currently back in college going for a masters in nutrition ( with an emphasis on "sports nutrition". i do get a lot of grief about it from close family and friends. i tried hooking him up with my sister, but that did not last very long, and then with an older friend of mine, and that did not work out either. she stopped paying any attention to him she put everything before him & no longer cared for any sexual contact but seemed content with that & the 2 only co/parenting for sake of the children. he says he can't live without me and i feel the same way. i'm kinda waiting on telling her and my parents just because i really don't know how to even start telling her. am a 59yr old man who has lived with my 40yr old girlfriend for 10yrs. it is affecting my work and life and for this reason i feel i need to cut this lady out of my life to try to regain some kind of sanity. unfortunately i wasn’t as lucky with my family, although i do have some wonderful friends, old and new introduced to me by my partner, who support us and become like a new family. they had a couple formal events each year at their home, and i’d be my friend’s escort.’m 19 & my boyfriend is 39 and i couldn’t be any happier! i'm in my mid 40s and my fiance is in his mid 60s. age has to be 16 in the uk and 18 in the u.. i gotta think most of you out there whom have 18 year old girls would be furious if they were with a guy almost twice there age. i am dating a man who is 18 years older than me. and he's always telling me that she is 18 soon and she'll be leaving. i am a serious over-thinker and worrier, in all aspects of my life. i was also lucky enough to have parents (who are older than my boyfriend) who were very accepting once they saw how much i cared about him and how well we interacted. it hurts especially when it comes from your own family. the topic of having one together has been mentioned and granted we both do not want anymore kids, we would not be totally upset if it happened. the idea of being alone when i am older scares me a little, but then again, people can live long or die young. i knew she was younger, so when she went to the ladies room, her wallet was open and sitting on the table, so i looked, and she was 24 years old. as far as health and intimacy goes we hit a home run, i have never had it this good. a women 48 and my partern is 29 he wants kids and he doesnt have any yet. usually don’t read blogs and reply to things like this but i was looking for some external support and your post totally spoke to me in a way i have never seen because it reminded me of my relationship, and that doesn’t happen, ever! two women at different life stages may find a long-term relationship difficult to work out. never post comments, but yours really struck me because i’m 40 and my man is exactly 27 years older than me.

Dating someone 12 years older than me

my personal experience has had its share of ups and downs but it is only with two people willing to tackle each issues that presents itself that we have persevered. he is now serial dating even younger girls all around town. his daughter is about to graduate college & my youngest high school. you are a 23 year old man and they are not responsible for you any more. all the time i would look forward to go to work after we met to get a chance to talk to him again. unlike you rachel, i did not grow up with my father. so we went to see a movie guardians of the galaxy went and had a drink before at the bar having a great time it was amazing. i did not mean for this to happen, but i can't change whats already been done. talk about 2 hours a day every day(long distance) and never run out of things to talk about our sex life is great we always have good fun and we are both madly in love with each other . i guess i am being mentally abusive to my wife, not leaving any marks like my grandfather or my dad did, but destructive all the same. it also works the other way around, you could say, “i look way younger than my age and he looks older than his age”. but, sometimes 2 different sensibilities, levels of experience and energy, and sets of cultural references can be expanding and exciting. the guy i like i am 31 yrs older than him. everyone with just your pleasant grace and mannerism will respect you by the words of choice in front of you and open doors for you, just as getting the chair ready for you to sit on gracefully before you sit down for dinner with them. but we've stuck it through and even though he doesn't always get the approval or respect he deserves from my family or friends, he's stuck it out and shown me that he truly loves me. then her and the older guy got back together and he cheated on her so they would have common ground. his family somehow adores me in my presence i dont know what they say behind my back. people judge our relationship all the time and it doesn’t phase me because their judgement doesn’t effect my happiness. i hope you do care for your soul mate even though you move on with the love of your life. i know as a parent i would wonder what my intentions were. m not sure wat to expect, i really like nd if he asked me to marry him i wldnt tink twice. he has no money saved and only receives social security, so i throw on top of that fear the real possibility that i'll have to pay for all of his care, and bankrupt myself. because if she can't at least hope for the same thing then i fear my heart is about to be trampled.’ve looked in a lot of places to see peoples’ perspectives about dating much older guys.. if we are together, she will have a baby from me who might not be healthy pertaining to her age (34 now). we met in real life, and it was something that made me fall for him. i am in love with a man who is 25 years older than i am. and partly because it churned up some of the unanswered questions i (and some of my friends! no one can understand why he is with me, they think he shouldn't be dating someone my age. more time went by and the day came when my child father left the first time (it was great) all the time charles and i would make plans to see each other but those plans where always broken because it seemed like things always go wrong this past summer. the differences proved insurmountable and we broke up two months ago, and i'm tentatively forming a relationship with a woman my age who i've known for half a year. relationships fail all the time of its not age its something else. so in meeting someone who is older than me and from another country was perfect. who is my best friend and my silliest friend, and the person i would spend every waking moment with if i could. he's starting his medical residency soon, and might move to a different country in order to pursue a path that will better enable him to provide for his mother and brother. what i a getting at is that i think it really depends on what your relationship is with your family, and if you think they would accept him, i don’t see a reason why you shouldn’t tell them about your love. for example, he will be retiring long before me and although it’s still a long way off, our savings and where we will be settled at that point are things we need to plan out. love my partner more than many couples of the same age do. every man i have ever been actually infatuated with, i won't use the word love because it was never acted on, was well over thirty. we still talk and flirt and i'm hoping one day, he can look past the 'age issue'. i stumbled upon this post when i googled, '50 year old man'. i bet it's never even crossed you mind, has it? so knowing that i had just saw my niece off to college. first it was his niece stood him up to watch his kids, then his babies mom agreed to watch the kids one night after a movie after he took the girls to but then when he tried to drop them off she didn't answer the door or her phone, another time his mother got into a car accident with his younger brother he broke his leg another lonely night alone that whole month was depressing because i wanted to go out with him on our second date soooo bad. same person… haha it is really refreshing to have a safe space to go too! i never enjoyed the bar scene and she does at times.. she is who i believe can give me the love that i always needed from a potential wife. we have split everything down the middle since day one. there have been plenty of times in my relationship that hearing/telling stories from before we knew each other make me/him cringe, but i just have to accept that who he was then is not who he is today and that the person he is today is the man i love. good luck i know things will work out and i do believe you have found your soul mate. if i am honest with you – i think i understand where your boyfriend is coming from – if you wait a couple of years, perhaps your relationship will have more credibility to your family. latest posts by rachel (see all) how to find time to write when writing isn’t your job - july 20, 2015 never go to the beach without these 7 essentials - july 13, 2015 a sincere thank you to the military - july 3, 2015 share this:click to share on tumblr (opens in new window)click to share on twitter (opens in new window)click to share on facebook (opens in new window)click to share on reddit (opens in new window)click to email this to a friend (opens in new window)click to print (opens in new window)click to share on pocket (opens in new window)click to share on linkedin (opens in new window)click to share on pinterest (opens in new window). use to have the same problem ,my kids were against wht im doing but since im happy i let them go because they choose to leasve ,i'm 52 nd he is turning 30 this year so is take it or leave it ,we are six year now ,people has talked but we are still together,they said i buying clothes for this man and this guy is working and they are busy drinking and smoking nyope and they claim that is because i dont leave right ,i tried to get jobs for them but they dont want to work ,i've decided to leave my life only because i lknow my rights,one otherthing people think thata when you having a relatioship with someone who is smaller than you his there for money or for something els ,thats not true yes some but not all of them ,love has no age it depend from those people how do they agree to this issue no need to confirm to the 3rd person . time went by i finally get him to take me out on a date, it was a long time of flirting and i thought he used to lead me on. i think about the future a lot now because hes almost 40 and i seriously wanted to have at least one kid of my own. it's so reassuring to hear that some people are going through the same thing as me when it comes to getting questions and judgement from your family, or looks when you're out in public. if i was to turn back the clock i'd still marry her as she's my soul mate. i love this post and the comments other people have written as it has given me the strength to deal with my friends bitching attitude. he still has the vigour of someone in their 40's. darling, thank you so much for taking the time to comment. before i met him, i wasn't sure if i wanted children at all- especially as i'm on the outset of an incredibly demanding career; however, i absolutely can't wait to have children with him. i'm excited to see what life holds for the both of us…together! in a nutshell though i would say if you make each other happy, have a go who knows what's round the corner. i am in a similar relationship with a man 27 years older than myself. meet this guy when i was 14 i told him i was 18 (i look 20 by the way) we feel for each other at first we were strictly friends till i turned 15 (jan 13 2016) i told him my age and he freaked (we never kissed or had sex) (im not a virgin tho) he stoped talking to me untill feb 1 thats when he heard about me getting raped (by my ex) he was the only one there for me we couldnt help but fall in love (my mom knows nothing) he is 26 n will be 27 on april 24 he told me yesterday that he couldnt live without me,he wants to marry me(then he proposed to me) yes we know there is no way for marriage but we wanted to make it official (i wear my engagement ring everyday.. the key is compromise,, you know that relationship is about 2 people. i mean, he is the kind of person that i could talk to about this thing. with a soul 30 years older than me when i was in my 20's and loved the age gap . neither of us has ever been married before, and we're both on the same procreation timeline.'m currently dating a wonderful man 30 years my senior, and it works fantastically. i knew it would eventually come out and that her hiding me may cause her problems with her family. but i wonder if this happens the other way around as much? i wrote to her once but her father told me she didn’t want to hear from me again. they have me making decisions about which college i want to go to and my future career and how much money i want to make but they say i am not mature enough to know what sort of man i would do well with. i didn't tell daughters about him because i do not talk to my daughters about my relationships because in the past they have judged me.. to stay at home and vegetate rather than get out and live life. is the story of my friend marie (29) who’s dating mike (49). reading this article and other comments makes me feel a little bit confident in the choice i've made, realizing that it is love that matters and nothing else. every time i attempt to take our clothes off, he stops me and always tells me he want it to be "perfect" and that he doesn't want me to think he's taking advantage of me. i’d rather take the chance of totally being into someone and the relationship failing than experience the pain of no relationship and lonliness! is the most loving, caring, supportive person i have ever met and even though physically we are very different(he is 6ft tall white male while i am 5ft tall petite african woman who can easily be mistaken for a 20 year old girl)- , we just fit in each others life perfectly. was hit on by my ex girlfriend and i was a lot more aware of the social ramifications than she, so i never initiated anything…. they say that he must be a "creepy old man" and that i should really be careful, and that it will never work because of the age difference..now that i am bringing sensual aspects of a shared relationship through my age group and hers. i've dated lots of men in their late 20s and 30s with no luck. we are deeply in love with each other and wish to marry each other. although the age difference doesn’t bother me personally, i’ve been apprehensive about the whole situation because of how my parents and his children would react. they would reject our relationship and label me a freak. what i am about to say is the most profound thing you probably have ever heard…you have heard it, in many ways, from mom, dad, aunts, teachers, ministers at church, etc…. i feel so alone at times, but trying to stay strong for him. my favorite quote…"perhaps caution in love is the most fatal to true happiness. my grandma was 7 years older then my grandad and they were with each other for lif. shortly after meeting his family, we had a major argument and i called our relationship quits. i feel perfect with him, he really is my everything. i don’t love him from what he can give me by material things…i don’t need them, cause i can earn them by my own… but i love him simply because of his maturity to be responsible in our relationship. you said you found the man that was only 2 years younger then you immature but you get upset when this much older man makes you feel the same way. but if it's somebody more her own age she needs to grow old together, i'm unable to fill that void. my mum is gossipy and there was never any hint of any relationship issues at all. but i love this man so much and i can see how much he loves me. above all, he loves imparting knowledge and being a mentor. he wants us to get together and me to move in with him, but i'm scared that my parent will have a cow. i don't know how i'm going to break this to my parents or introduce them. i love him so much and he would move heaven and earth for me if he could. well, my friends, it is so and it is so not as disturbing as you have convinced yourself it is. obviously because it would be illegal for me to act on these feelings (well actually not as long as i'm over 16 and the man isn't in a position of authority) i have just dated guys my own age. my friends and family dont get it ( and i dont blame them, i can understand where they come from), his kids dont really like it, since they are close to my age. she tells me yolo (you only live once) when i hesitate at doing some things, so that makes me laugh and i forget some of my fears.'m a twenty year old female, and the man i am seeing is forty six. i love him so much and i think maturity does matter and not the age.. i found it already by google when i was surching for a articles about dating over 50. the fact is, he is confident and does not believe he has all the time in the world to make decisions. he tends to think logically one day and by the next he has change his mind! you're chasing behind some middle aged guy with kids & a girlfriend already? am a 54 year old male who is fit and active. older men are ready to limit their lives to one woman, and are not constantly wondering if there is something better out there. both of our parents do not know and we plan on not saying anything soon due to my parents would hate him (we met online but text/kik/hangouts/call/ect all the time) as they hate the idea of me dating. i can see the purity in our relationship, and i am saddened however that others cannot. because of my ethnicity i have a really hard time thinking of going out with a younger man am latina the norm has always been the man older than me but thanks to u clare and everybodys experiences am gonna give it a go! or maybe he's just not interested in you so he's giving you all these polite excuses, hoping you'll take the hint and get bored and leave.'m 30 he's 48 we been togather 5 years but haven't had sex in 3 years is this normal., i know this is an older post, but i stumbled upon it at the right time. i have so far held my looks and am considered attractive, so i am not afraid of showing her in public. i have never had such an honest, intimate, loving friendship, loveship before, my partner just happens to be much younger than i. there are quite a few people who are uncomfortable with it though, and they can be quite spiteful. two months previous to this she looked down on me from upstairs.) in my case, the reason my boyfriend is a great boyfriend is because he has fucked up with all the women before me. i met my man when i was 17 and he was 37. i do believe, however, that it’s important not to erase the caution around relationships with large age differences (either male or female, same or different sex) particularly when we are talking about those that start off in college. we exchanged phone numbers, and flew to our departing place. i also wish your soul mate be strong and get through the situation.. her biggest need is that she wants a family, the fact that i love. my boyfriend shows me love every single day and it is in these moments i am reminded that i am exactly where i am supposed to be. i’m 22 and i’m seeing a 36 year old guy. i really liked this guy, and we were seeing each other for a couple months. am 24 years old and dating a 31 guy but need helpful advice his friends are trying to break us apart and we both really like eachother a lot i haven’t met his friends we have only been on 6 dates sadly he listened to them but he still likes me he was following me on his birthday called out to me but i ignored him i figured playing hard to get is my best option please advise. in a few years ill transfer up with him for my next stage of my college life. i was watching a crime show about a younger woman meeting an older guy. dig what you say about men / boys your own age being lame, lol, each to their own but what you described is the norm, haha – its a tiny point in your article, but did stick out to me as well. it's going on 6months and we are both anticipating meeting each other to spend time to discover if there is more between us. i’m, months later, writing at 2am a long comment on the first time i met him. i don't know how to go about telling my mother without her being angry. positives of marrying someone older have been rapidly lost in a world where young love is often toted as the best kind. he teaches me new things and i make him feel young again. a lot of relationships struggle to reach 10 years, we've enjoyed but the age gap may now spell the end. i have a 4 year old son who i love dearly and my mom said that i should think about him and what ppl will think about him having a step dad that is 17 years older than me. i really enjoyed reading this and found it nice to know that someone else get this kind of relationship.'m a self-employed dance teacher, danced all my life, i don't look/act/ my age and i'm comfortable with my current partner who is 20yrs younger. him being 50 doesn't bother me bcuz i dont see him as 50. we really get along well, and sometimes i think we are perfect together. we are still married and i'm about to be 20 and he will be 38. it was on a one way street up a small hill. i know i have you in pure suspense at this point wondering what in the world is wrong with me because something must be, right? (i am 31) reading this was like taking a step inside my own head. things i would have second thoughts about are – that it's so soon after your marriage and you haven't known him for that long (honeymoon phase is so real! we’ve known eachother for three years and been together for one year. i am sure most women in relationships can relate to your current struggle, age difference or not but whereas most men carry around one piece of baggage, our older partners have had the time to accumulate a few pieces of baggage, some carry-on luggage, an air plane pillow and a back pack (if you get what i am saying haha). i gave up on trying to find that real true love or as some say soulmate..he gives me money,gets my hair n nails done and etc we have only kissed.. i'm 11 and i have a boyfriend who is a year younger than me. things started going so incredibly well from the beginning, and in fact my dog and i had just moved in his house last month to his house. this young woman may be 27 years your junior, but at 33 she's a grown woman, and based on your description of her, it sounds like she's at a stage in her life where she knows what she's looking for. i bump heads and honestly hate her daughter, i love my gf but i think it's best for me to leave even though i'm not one to give up but things just keep getting worse i wish her daughter would just leave but that's not my place it's better for me to leave when i tell my gf things that i dislike she just gets upset with me for complaining. now stick another sock in her mouth and finish f__king her – then go to sleep! but really, thanks for writing this post- i have never doubted our relationship and with or without reading your post i would still feel the same way about my fiance regardless, just as much in love with him as ever, but it does give me a glimmer of hope that there are some people like you out there who get it and it continues to remind me that people are going to hate sometimes no matter what you do. your attitudes towards going out may be different (in my case, it actually turned out to be, “wait, why does this guy who’s 10 years older than me still think getting wasted every weekend is fun?" but i also think it makes sense not to put yourself in situations that make you more likely to act on it. but my biggest piece of advice is dont push the breakup for his current girlfriend. i am convinced that men from my generation and earlier did in fact learn how to treat women. he is so dang attractive and in better shape than guys near my age. i see him as a man who is human, loves the lord, and wants to live a happy life. commenting because that family dynamic – kicking out and disowning – is something i have experienced too. he loves me deeply and is honest and loyal, but he is also only human. he has seen it in pics, but i mean who knows if he will think differently of me in person. i’m not saying everyone who spent their teenage years in the 60’s will pull the chair out for a lady (in fact, i would have assumed the opposite) but after nearly 3 years, i still get the door held open for me almost every time and the words “hello gorgeous! i always open the door for her, she comes first always and although i do not have a lot of money i always provide thoughtful gifts and gestures. that point, i was still convinced everything he said was lies and that he was just a tourist looking for a naive woman. think that there are no rules for love and no formula can help here. i am the type of person who enjoys many different friendships with people of all age and i very much enjoy spending time with (older) and younger people with whom i may have little in common with. that is why i said it might be a bit easier at 20/40 or 30/50 because some of these big, later-in-life challenges are hard to see with younger 'glasses'. i don't think age is what matters, but instead it's personalities that ruin or make relationships. our preferences may differ alot, but i do believe that opposites do attract, and that's why we've held on to our relationship for so long already. but we can't get togheter yet because his ex gf has not get over him and they having a 3 years old daughter togheter, and she is threatnig to take her away from him beacase this man is loving me and have stop loving her. i've dated people 10 yrs younger than me and (long ago) someone 25 years older. since its so early in the relationship i think i'm going to let god decide when is a good time to bring it up but it's driving me crazy, like i just want to know if he would be interested in having one?

Dating man 16 years older than me

i asked him how long has it been sense he has been in a seriously committed relationship, he said 11 years. i will fight for her from whatever guy thinks he even stand in her presence. i look upon the crowd in a blurr, i do not evene see them clearly anymore, we are just sharing time and space, i am in my world and you are in yours, i will not judge u, or hold back my love for all and i wish u do the same for me. we tell eachother repeatedly throughout the days how much we love eachother. just like how you described yourself, i am, too, independent, both emotionally and financially, and raised by traditional and conservative asian parents. i'm a 19 year old gal, dating a 45 year old man..i suppose if i was 20 or 30 something, it would be kind of interesting. she took a trip back to her family overseas and was away for 6 weeks. in the end, your circle will be smaller, but you will have the best people you could ever hope for standing by you. i had a peer who died from illness when i was 13 yrs old and a classmate who died from an unexpected car accident in high school. i’m dating a man 25 years older than i am and it’s the best relationship of my life! who knows what the future holds and it's somehow intriguing he is just months older than my oldest son. pray that you and your significant other have more blessings in life.. we have kids but couldn’t stay away from my older lover . it is called a true love, i really appreciate him. we both work at wal-mart and each day that passes i grow stronger and stronger feelings for him. i am often mistaken for his father, and my oldest daughter will be eight in november. sometimes i say that i should live the moment and not look so far into the future and sometimes i do. i hope he finds me attractive as far as my body goes. he is a true gentleman, kind, thoughtful, craring and totally wants to take care of me…its long distance and in the 2 months we have known each other we have only spent a few days together. i am sorry to hear you are struggling with your family accepting your choices and my heart aches for you and how you are in the middle. in some ways i guess thats good but its a bit weird sort of cutting to the chase so soon too? have to start with the disclaimer that i certainly don’t believe relationships between older men/women and teenage partners are healthy.'m 16 and i really like the guy im with right now (he is 25) i don't know if its right or not or how could i tell my parents . i'm 21 and currently in a relationship with a woman 26 years my senior. we have only talked so far, but its pretty flirty, i am not sure if she knows my age, although she has been on my face book and it says my age there. summer i had a fling with a guy who turned out to be twenty years my senior… with a son who was only one year younger than me! my advise to anyway in a relationship of great age diffrence is don't focus on age just focus on the relationship. so if age doesn't mean anything to you when it comes to love, then that is your decision. 🙂 we never talked, but i would see him almost everyday because he was always at my neighbors house. just saying, respect and best wishes, and also, you could be with an older guy who treats you badly, or a young guy who treats you with respect. not meaning strange to diss you, you seem like an amazing strong woman from your writing – (that’s all i know of you :-) ) i just mean, strange in that your article is so mature talking about yourself aged 20something dating an older guy, your 10 year relationship starting age 11 cant’ be in any way compared to that. am currently in a relationship with a 58 yr i am 36. close friend has started dating a girl who is 17 years younger. recently before dating him i had my cap at 10yrs my senior (following on from my dad who is 10 yrs older than my mom married for 45yrs). am 23 years old and muh boyfriend is 58 we were both married when we met 2 years ago but we decided to be together and it's going on a year in feb.. you will stop seeing your friends and doing things you used to do, like boozy brunches and random warehouse parties. when i heard my gf tell me this my heart sank, i thought her mother and i got along great and there was never any animosity felt between us at all.. he was my lover for 10 years and i never had the courage to commit and be together. i look ten years younger but the truth is that i'm not :-( i'm so confused. bf is 35 years old am 20 nd he complains of d age diferent is too much i dnt wnt to loose hime i luv him so much. he’s comforting regardless if he knows what to say. i am truly blessed to have grown up in a home where, even when they loathed each other or were on completely different pages, they were truly the loves of each other's lives. that hasn’t waned a bit in the time we have been together and i have good faith it never will. am happy from what i read in your story, well i’m one of them… i’m dating a 24 year older boyfriend than me. i have a long distance relationship with a younger guy than me, he's 25 years old. but it's 2014 now and women are dating younger men and loving it. yes there are ages too young and too extreme when you talk about underage, but once you pass through to where you may make your own decisions, you are able to decide, with age being a factor or not. yes, people prefer so-called “appropriate age gap in marriage” like you and it’s considered as “normal” in society. just got out of a horrific relationship with someone my age. he was div and he has a daughter from pervious marraige. she can’t decide if she wants to spend her life finding a cure for alzheimer’s or living on a ranch making chili for a family of five… or both. was 17 when i met the man im with now, we have a 10 yr age difference, i have truly never felt anything for anyone like i do him.’ve been dating for 2 years and i’ve always been of the opinion that all you can do is live for the now and you never know what the future will bring even if you are the same age, but now the reality of the life we are more than likely to have is feeling pretty real., he is my first boyfriend, whereas he has had quite a few girlfriends before me and sometimes he will occasionally talk about one of them and it makes me feel really uncomfortable :(. attraction has been great for me and him from day one. i and my husband’s conclusion about the questions is that we never know how ‘life’ goes. at the end of the day, you only get to live this life one time, maybe 5 years from now you will be looking back and thinking “he was too old,” maybe you will be looking at him sitting next to you and thinking, “thank god i didn’t let other people’s opinion drive us away from each other. have been seeing a man who is 30+ years older than me since april and it has worked it out great. i have never been good at identifying my feelings and want to see if we can make a real go of this (out there to our families and everything - his family knew about me. this post however really gives me the courage to just focus on building on our love . its stressful at times but i love him so very much. i am 46 & will be 47 in may, my boyfriend is 25 & will be 26 in july. it may even be happening already & you're just ignoring by saying sex doesn't matter or you're not marrying him for sex or whatever. first he was caring then he got too caring now he is controlling enough to beat me! then walks in this handsome, older guy with a mysterious glow to his eyes, a raspy sultry voice and, really, ladies… i couldn’t resist. sometimes people try to force their values on to you and its not right for you – but it doesn’t mean that it’s not well meant. when a woman gives sex before she gets love from a man, she will not get love… he may grow to love her, but he will never be “in love” with her.'m 17 and in a relationship with a 35 year old guy. you never know, they might become the best years of her life because you are in them. after being divorced once i never thought i would want to ever remarry. just don't expect them to love you right away, after 32 years, i am sure that they loved his ex and it is hurting them to lose her too. so by natural response, i am not afraid of much. we first met while doing the same course during undergrad. his family is very religious and i am divorcing my husband to be with him. they question my love for him and don't agree at all. previously when i was 21 i dated a 39 year old but i felt the age gap but with him even though he’s older i feel good around him i’m just a little nervous about how to approach the situation or if i even should. not a lot of people know about him, including my family.. my mind can`t accept the fact that she is 6 years older then me. i am a 17 year old girl and since i can remember i have loved older men. i never knew i would be in this position but i am so glad that i am. a controversial relationship (such as mine) is not for the faint of heart,That goes without saying. and you cheated on your husband with him so chances are, you will do it to him down the road. if he is 20 years your senior, if you get people thinking, that they don’t really know your age, they might just as well assume that you are only 10 years apart after all. while i was with him i felt love everyday and knew that i wanted to spend my life with him. am in love with my boyfriend who is 17 years younger thsn me. there was help and support from some, neglect and shone from others. how many people actually you know at such situation in real life? during arguments i've asked if he was embarrassed and i've mentioned his family but it's like i get ignored. i keep counting down the days until i turn 18 so i can start dating men i actually would want to have a future with. i told her i like to meet him invited him to come our home.. we get on so well although we live in two different countries which to me is a major obstacle as i have had a long distance relationship before and that was tough. this results in me being excluded from his social life, always. so my kids father started mentally abusing me big time completely damaging my apartment.) have been trying to ask of me about what's going on with such-and-such. hopefully, you are comfortable enough in your own sense of moral and ethical values to be able to judge if the relationship is appropriate or not (for example, i would imagine age can mess with a workplace romance or it could be difficult to date the father of a kid you teach). i don’t love that she hides our relationship from the i’m more concerned that when they eventually figure out how long she’s been lying to them the lie will hurt them more than the truth itself. i want to spend the remainder of our lives together and he is the only one i can imagine being my husband, call me naïve i don't care; i'm happy. tried dating guys my age but usually have no luck. if you really care about her, don't talk about your romantic feelings for her. we spent every weekend and most evenings together- he even took care of me for a couple of weeks after i had surgery. recently i updated my status on fac*book and unexpectedly he purposely asking me who's that lucky guy, and now i love him more and more but i cannot tell him. it's absolutely imperative to approach these sorts of "age gap relationships" with extreme caution and to look for warning signs of dismay. i'll never know if i'm doing the right thing but i can live with that and i'm very happy. i think i made i huge mistake they are messy i am always cleaning after then those were most of our fights now it's about her spoiled disrespectful 21 year old daughter who has moved in to our home with her jobless boyfriend! we are both divorcing to be together and he has met muh whole family, but i have yet to meet anyone in his, he says when his divorce is final i will be by his side when it comes to family affairs but it's so hard because he's met everyone and even muh two kids and muh soon to be ex husband and i have yet to meet a brother or a parent, am i over thinking this? however there is the added complications that originally he was my dads colleague. it comes with challenges at time but if you truely love them, then those will not matter, but for now we are amazing & trying to have a baby together. thank you for sharing that with me, i wish you and your man all the best and i am so glad you are happy. my feelings changed after many dinners and walks spent together and just talking for hours. if you’d like to read my opinion on that topic, please take a look at a more recent article i wrote which discusses misconceptions about dating an older man. has been my rock and i would not be the person i am today if it wasn't for her. age gap is not a problem although i can honestly say that at 18 i was very unworldly and did not understand much about life and relationships. we just desided to lock our feelings to each other inside themselves, because otherwise it would be hard to say lie to our spouces day by day. i was saying them to let you know that chances are, that is how it will happen. we get along perfectly always laughing and having a good time there is nothing wrong with being in love with an older man! he has at most 10 good yrs left, if i'm lucky. i don't want to live alone in this world without him! i tried to be quiet, but as i was leaving the next morning, after breakfast, he mom asked me how i can function at work, when i got no sleep and must be exhausted!. even the thought of him brings a great smile to my face. i feel like i am holding him back fro starting a life with a woman nearer his age and who can give him kids. her parents don't know my age and i don't want to make it official due to the law what should i do i can't help who i have feelings for and she has them for me as well. but i really dont know if i would feel comfortable letting everyone know we are dating. thank you for writing what you have about placing judgement upon a relationship like this, i couldnt agree more and only hope that my own family can come to be as understanding and respectful of my decision. as long as the man you have now has the qualities that you need and want, what more could you ask for and 2. why wont he just make up his mind as i know he also loves me! it’s not right for strangers to come up and judge you. she is 5 years junior to my elder and one years senior to my younger daughter. we saw each other every single day for months, and it just kept getting better. you could get cancer and die before him at any moment. it’s so hard being surrounded with people who don’t understand our love and your story spoke to me. age difference is 7 years im 15 should i go for it i mean that anit bad. as a result of the words that were said and believed, much friction develop in our relationship. liking older guys kind of runs in the family, my mom dated a 40 year old when she was 20 and my sister liked guys in there 30's when she was in her 20's. am sorry about what you are going through, but i am afraid you can’t change everybody’s minds, and their misunderstanding really is just their form of protection – even if i does seem backwards. maybe i should just take a leaf out of your book and just 'go for it'! last 4 years have been spent with a man 23 years older than me. we move a lot for his job and most of the time its just him and i and we don’t have that support system always around us since we live so far away from our friends and family. and her daughter leaves with her mom, 1 hr drive from our city..i am so excited (we are getting married after i finish high school) we also decided to wait on sex he bought me a brand new iphone 6 and he pays my bills,he has a job,and his own place,he respects my wishes to be a teenager(i still do whatever i want as long as i remember i am engaged) he sees me every weekend n we face time every night. i too am afraid of being heartbroken losing my partner. hey i'm 37 and she is 40 and we have been married a 11 year come the 25 of this month. age difference in friends doesn't really matter, just as long as you act like a lady and not some little girl. i know about all the dangers of the internet as well, i'm not here for a lecture. i'm not saying this is the case with you, but some people who are repeatedly attracted to younger people are attracted to them because they seem less "threatening," and easier to talk to and be themselves around. my problem is that i am very ill with rheumatoid arthritis, type 2 diabetes and degenerative disk disease. if you have complete social confidence around women in their 20s, you might find that you are more attracted to women closer to your own stage in life. 60 years and 80 years of age has a big difference in body mobility, living the rest of my life after he passes away scares me. it may be hard for his kids to accept you at first but don't give up.- *sigh* that's exactly what i was looking for when i posted a comment on this blog was more judgement!.I can say i am good looking, smart, energetic and young and i can simply pick another guy because they're waiting on the line, but he also can says he is good looking, has a lot of experience, mature and settle so he can easily choose another guy. age is something you can decide how you feel about it. when you were young you didn’t chase some little boy around the play ground? lol but all of that aside, i've strangely never met anyone so much like me before. at first it’s always awkward and its all we can do to not laugh out loud which is one of the reasons i love this man, our ability to laugh and laugh often.. i keep thinking that i don`t love her and my love for her is like motherly love. he didn't want to have sex with me, and i was confused on why. the point is, people will have their own opinions but at the end of the day, it's whatever makes you both happy! as we walked in separated directions, i asked him on how many girls did that trick worked before. i googled i am 50 and she is 29 which led to this website. my husband cheated on me then shortly after got a tumor in his testical & could no longer "get up".. dont ask a forum about dating a guy who is over age, when you're under, report the bastard, obviously a predator. he bent his head to my level (i’m much shorter than him), slightly stretched his neck and said: “actually, it’s terre d’hermes. all i've ever wanted in a man was for him to have all the gentlemen aspects as men had many years ago; and this man that i've met has had all of those. i do notice generational gaps regarding culture, i am in way better shape and health then she is, and she wants to get married someday when i have already been there and done that. i married a man who older than me almost like my dad’s age. and unfortunately, on the other side of the story, my partner has jealousy and trust issues which i believe is the cause of his previous relationships where he has been cheated on before, and being in an unopened relationship like this makes him anxious about other younger guys and me going out with my friends even, like he just wants everyone to know i have a boyfriend basically (although i have assured him many times). we have good communication and have the same goals in life. we met twice and it was the best time of our lives. am an old guy, 67… i dated a woman 17 years younger for 12 years, 18 years younger for 6 years, 2 years ago a 19 year old for almost 2 years and am in a new relationship with a 23 year old with a new baby. in life, that would be a scam… pay for love with sex in advance, you will never get it… women are not waiting to give sex. i cannot even be upset with her, she laughs at almost every situation we encounter, always finding the brighter lighter side. it makes me sad when i hear this from other people. so when i read that woman telling you your mother must be embarrassed it ripped my heart out. the things my family & counsler said about age gap got to me and a few of his immature ways. kristina, thank you for taking the time to read and comment on my article! until i met my current partner, i didn't think about my age, or getting older. i want to try it before i completely just stop trying. he seems to get support from his coworkers and friends, but i've found that some of my friends can be incredibly judgemental and downright mean. i understand it can be a bumpy road, overcoming age differences among other things, but if you really love someone, i think you'll find a way to work it out. i love him, but because of our age difference and that fact that i'm not interested in being a stepmother to his girls, i don't think we'll ever get married… not to say we won't be together for a long time, because this is the best relationship i've been in. sometimes it just feels weird, did you ever feel that? i will see if i get lucky and get my man <3. he claims that rules don’t apply to him and i have a panic attack running a yellow light.

Dating someone 9 years older than me

i love my husband so much and i know for sure he loves me to pieces. have read this a few times but finally tonight i wanted to comment and hopefully get a reply sometime..but still i can't seem to understand that part from him…if you know how to answer this. i mean im fine with everything and i've always been more of a mentally grownup becausr i find my generation with alot of issues and i think some one older would be better.. i always think that she is going to die before me, the fact that horrifies me. what is wrong with the world judging for something they don't understand? i'd like to have shot at real happiness but i'm afraid of the fallout. we would most time start our conversations out like that, then after weeks of talking he asked me out and we went to see a movie, i was still uneasy about being seen with him. i am aware that this isn't exactly legal, however, it was a complete. only difficulty that's age-related that i can see is that every once in a while he uses his "telling his kids what to do" voice on me, which isn't cool, but i think just comes naturally, as he has two (every second weekend and the summer holidays), and he works in a teen center a few days a week. almost everyone is saying that i am having emotional affairs all over the map.. you learn all about the human body in ways you never thought possible: strange odors, saggy skin, digestive issues, excessive hair in inopportune places … (and remember- it’s all downhill from there! i am right under 18 and we will wait until i am 18, and he does that for me because i wanna wait, i need to get mentally prepared to tell everybody, heheh. it’s much better counseling than the blanks stares i received in past relationships and i don’t feel quite so alone with my problems. it took me three and a half years, many talks with my mom and tons of endearing moments with my man before i realized that the judgmental people of this world don’t define me. is a cousin to a cousin of mine, but nothing to me. when he turned to me and smiled, i could tell he had so much life in his eyes. age is just a number as long as your happy that is the main thing! iv hardly dated guys my age it never really works for me, but dis is d eldest iv ever went..I am just beginning a relationship with an older woman than myself . so very sad at the moment as we've had 10 good years and it may be ending because of something i can do nothing about, age. i am 31 and he is 24 our age is causing a big problem for him his parents do not like the fact am older and have a child from a previous relationship he has spoken to them but what ever there reply was he got confused and didnt know what he wanted as he was due to go in the armed forces so he tried pushing me away!. it was never easy, but besides that fact, ive never felt true love before ive met this guy who is 20 years of age. children is not an issue since i made peace a while ago that i do not want children. i'm worried about introducing him to my friends and family. i didn’t know he was that much older than me when we met based on his looks, but when i found out his age it didn’t bother me. we match instantly and everything goes naturally without even any “weirdness. think the fact that countless commenters have replied sharing their stories to a post four years old is proof that there are so many of us in this situation who feel like we don't get the support we need from peers with similar experiences. i am so happy, so is he 🙂 to me, older men seem to be smarter and know more about life because of having lived it unlike the boys my age. examples you presented- sexual issues, personality differences and controlling behavior are certainly not specific to couples with an age difference, those issues are open to everyone and most everyone could probably relate to one or two of them…regardless if the relationship was between people of the same age or different.'m 16 and my boyfriend is 23 and we have been great so far. it might seem wrong, but it's more the charm and experience of his grown up attitude that attracts more than anything. a friend of mine, she’s a senior, she told me that usually boys mature slower than girls which makes sense. of our families really cast a second glance (well, in front of us anyway… who knows what they had to say amongst themselves when we left! — so, 10-17 years younger, or 10, 20, 28 years older, attraction, lust, love, it depends mostly on chemistry, not age, but never went looking for a wife, i dated women because i liked them and enjoyed spending time with them. i am more confident to not let those judgements get to me now. based on our conversations i anticipated or "date" to be primarily a sexual encounter. i think you think you can find anything better so you are dating him. i am not a gold digger, i don’t come from a broken home, and there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with me. he's stable, kind and more giving than any young, inn experienced boy could be and i love that about him. really like him, and we have been getting to know each other more intimately this time around, and i mean emotionally, not physically. he was in the middle of a divorce, and has two children from that marriage who are 18 and 19. he is 53, i love him dearly and we get on. i think she means when he dies not breaks up with her. my guy is older than hers, she is 25 and her bf is 34 and mine is nearly 36. don't try too hard to make them accept you, they will on their on time. what makes the party even more interesting is that we are both living in a foreign country.'ve always said age doesn't matter but this is 29 years difference. at the start i was more concerned about the age difference than she was but as time went by it became less and less of an issue for me. didn't think anything about it till about 1/2 hr later my eldest daughter called and chewed and told me off really bad. i believe i am still unknown to his friends and family. i wish more people would get that age is just a number and be more open to what a couple brings emotionally to a relationship that makes it work, instead of their birth date defining what is “normal” and acceptable.. so basically we have nothing in common except love and commitment. you live in north america, a sexual relationship with your boyfriend will be illegal until you reach 16 years of age. you so much for reading and taking the time to reply! then her mom got upset, saying, “that girl has a fake drivers license! i know my family/friends would be totally against this but part of me really wants to suspend all judgement (mine and theirs although i wouldnt make any of them aware of this for a long time anyway if things got serious) and, taking things day to day, see what might be there. i've never been so happy with anyone, or so comfortable./52 we are also a long distance friendship from a date site. and than, when i’m 40 or 50 and alone…i heard that its harder to find anyone who will date you when you are 40 or 50? i hope it all works out for you better than it did for me, but babe at the end of the day – do what is best for you. he is respectful to me, absolutely nothing happened sexually and nothing was ever spoken of sexually, we were honestly friends, and my parents knew we were just friends. personally, i have not been in your situation, so i am not sure how beneficial this advice is but wanted to respond anyways., i do like this question as there are so many benefits! sounds like you're genuinely confused, and i have a few thoughts that you might find helpful. if he treats you right, can love your son, makes an effort to your family, is respectful and such and you have a good time, then continue forth! but do take note that we also live in a small place where i would say “unique” relationships are a little more frequent than average. this girl, nicole, she has a life to live so i won't bother her now but when i am able i will get her.'m with you, i'm 50 and my partner is 27 yes old we have been together 2 yes and our relationship keeps growing and getting stronger. i was asking myself what does she want from me. i can talk to him, laugh so hard with him, i smile every time i’m in his presence, i feel like a queen around him… and of course he treats me like i was the best thing since creation. times he dont answer my calls for the entire day. i was growing up, we had these family friends, the kids were my age and the parents fit right into this discussion. i guess maybe my own morales keep me from doing that but i have no issue with others. i don't mind the occasional stares, when we go out. just to say, yes, awesome, what matters is the person / people you both are today. my mother is thinking more easy about it; she told me in the end that she will not keep me on a string. men discuss the difference between sex with a younger and older woman. also, i came to find out he's mormon, i'm not within any religion act nor system. i’m no prude but am an extremely proud person. it is a lose lose situation, because i will resent them for making me end things with him or if i move out my family will likely cut ties with me, which i know is not what they want.” you just never know what the future holds, my only advice would be to live your life for you, fill your soul and heart with love and do what makes you uncontrollably happy, whether it makes sense to others or not. i think lads my own age are worse for wanting sex as its a new experience to them, older guys have obviously had sex and they don't crave it as much as teenage boys. you dated men who were significantly older than you before? she lived with her mother, who i later found out was 41 years old. i took my boyfriend to my company christmas party and everyone there was accepting and told me they could see how in love we are. i wanna no how did that work out im 29 and i am n love with a 20 year old i mean i'm attractive can have any man i want but it was something about him but i feel low and weak right now i look at him and see a child but the sex is off the chain..do you think you could give me some advice 🙁 i'd really appreciate it.” it was almost 10pm and i have always been cautious when walking alone. i'm a 26 yr old woman, and i've had feelings for over a year for a man who is 50. is just a number, we all have hearts & minds lets cherish and embrace the happiness & love! half your age plus 7 years cut off is a rule of thumb, it doesn't apply to all. it gets rough at times especially when it comes to his children. was just thinking: how many couples where people are close in age break up get divorced or are stuck with each other in a loveless marriage/relationship.. with an older man you already have built-in wealth and stability–unfortunately you’ve also just fast forwarded past the most exciting parts. he is very much using you and he isn't very smart if anything he should be extra nice until he gets his papers. but i belive that older guy is better than the boy in same age for dating. some of my friends thinks its inappropriate, and they have encouraged me to leave him, but since we are not bothered by our age difference and we are in love, i choose to love and be loved from the heart than be played by guys of the same peers. break-ups wouldn’t last long because i wasn’t moving on with my own free-will i was just doing what my family expected me to do. im not sure, just curious how you feel about that with the age gap xx. i have this feeling he and i would make a great couple. we don’t have a problem with the age gap because we are compatible, and don’t see it as an issue for us. being a relationship with someone who is still trying to figure themselves out is doubly hard. but maybe one day i will want to that to change with the right circumstances, but i honestly don't see it. but then i would be missing out on someone to gets me. all i'm saying is, you can make your decisions, and if you're into men older than you, go for it. on the contrary, it gives us even more to talk about. but whenever i bring it up to him, i don't think he can understand how i feel. thanks for addressing this issue, it's nice to know i'm not alone. at first when he ask me out i ask his age and told him it would never happen. and when we make love its like he knows everything my body likes which is awesome! i only hear alarms when i am not with him..we plan on getting married some day soon but i was feeling a little scared about the age and all. we were to marry this would be my first (and no, i have no kids). i am still debating on what to do and if my parents and friends would understand. i don't know how he looks like, but i'm sooooo in love with him! again, not to criticise, you are very inspiring and a great writer… just did seem odd! i'm a highly spiritual woman, and believe in a higher power. but after i started to see that this man really cared about me and only me, it wasn’t about sex or nothing he told me he loved my mind and heart, also how i am very mature for my age which is what he loved most about me. if he has a probelm, menaing not physical it can usually be dealt with! but i give it my best so he knows i can handle it. also i on occasion have depressive moments when i think of the future, and the inevitable ending to a relationship with such a long age gap. my boyfriend knows how main trouble is causes me, and it hurts him too. it seems to have gotten easier as we've (but in particular, i've) gotten older, because other people no longer see our relationship as one where they automatically think i'm being taken advantage of (or, conversely, that my girlfriend is immature. article is amazing and i am so glad i found it. age is not "meaningless" when the girl is 43 and the guy is 63, and he has a stroke or a heart attack and you have to take care of him for years on end, and likely go bankrupt because his medicare doesn't cover long-term care after 100 days, and you run out of money. he knows, accepts it, and does not try to pressure me into something i am not comfortable with. moreover, he seems to have more of a taste for today's movies music and movies than i do, which makes things even better. although i know that no one can tell me what to do except myself. then it came out that she said she loved me. he is the love of my life and i can’t imagine my life without him. raising the (now 16 month old) puppy together has assured me more and more that we're going to make a great parenting team- no arguments, easy compromises and effortless task sharing. i haven't told my father yet as i know he won't like it at all but my mom understands and supports me with it. if you don't want to date younger men then stay single or come to blogs like this to complain. butch in the kitchena stranger in this placebookish butchbutch on tapcard carrying lesbianeffing dykesferal librarianmainely butchneutrois nonsensepretty butch. i've made the best decision of my life by choosing to ignore what society says and following instead, what my heart's telling me. i would be so uncomfortable in society because i was so afraid of what people thought of me. am a 46 year old woman who is involved with a 21 year old man. i know he likes me and i like him a lot, and when i'm 18 i will probably tell me parents and hopefully meet him. i feel like jacking in the towel as i am very tired from it all. i use to feel people look at us and may think things but i don't see it ..as we talk and text while i am still far. have a crush on a 42 year old man and i'm 12…. oh, and always remember to include god, that’s if you believe/ follow god. he helped me to let go of the pain, fear, resentment and anger that i had pent up due to growing up with abusive parents. he is telling you this because it keeps him safe…he has an easy way out if needed.. am 26 yrs old and in love with a man that is 56 there is a big age difference but i don't care. and no matter how much we clicked, i was conflicted in my head. he's 21 years older, we dated for a few months, and well we got pregnant which i have to admit scared the both of us, and didn't know how to take it, but he felt that we should get married, so we did. it's been a year now, and i can see myself spending my life with her. yes i do get the occasional stair, but who cares there not the ones making me happy it's the person besides me that has my hart! my exes was a little bit older than me but lack the maturity i was looking for. i had true feelings for my ex before our relationship lasted 2 years he was 17 i was 13 we'll he left me for someone else and i had felt as if i wasn't ever going to forget then that's when my current love stepped in and we have been at this for 8 months yet it feels like we have known each other for years as long as you are comfortable and make sure to not get him in trouble. the father of my 12 year old son was decades older than me (i was 17 when i met him). always have a lot of problem when it comes to love.. any personal flaws you once saw in yourself now have completely dissipated. not to say that i didn’t consider him good-looking, i just didn’t consider him. a really hot and adorable black girl asked me out. if this is the case and you are having relations with an older, married man i would encourage you to tell your parents because this could cause a lot of problems in your life both personally and legally. family talk about me whenever they get time and its unfair cause i cant defend myself.'m 38 and my girlfriend is 54 and i've never had a better relationship with anyone we are very compatible in every way so age shouldn't matter if your both legal age. when anyone asks me such a question, i reply "does anyone become a father at the age of 12?.), technology will solve practically all of the "physics" / the physical challenges of "age gap" relationships within the next 30 to 40 years:* regenerative medicine / tissue engineering ( google or youtube: growing organs, printing organs, regenerative medicine, tissue engineering. i don't think the age is so much an issue, but more so, that you work together and that you're in a supervisory position over her. my concerns at this point is, is this all its ever going to be or after we get children through school we can be together. my 20 year ol girlfriend who is 19 years younger than me is terrified to tell her parents that she’s even hanging out with me. he says he knows it will be difficult, but that he will love me forever and that he never wants to be with another. i admit i am still a bit consumed by my own selfish consumption of where i am on my life’s journey but thankfully, when i have a panic attack or a hissy-fit, i have someone to show me the bigger picture and level me out, rather than someone i will have to counsel for similar reasons later down the road. usually only date older, but the relationship i am in now there is a four year age difference with me being the senior. but i have attracted a 31 year old man who is so mature like the age of 50. i feel solid that no matter what life throws at us i'm ready and willing. my head it seems wrong, for a freshman and a senior to go out. i've recently became friends with a colleagues daughter who is 17. i'm jealous of you because you feel so right about it! don't be surprised when there is no sympathy for your heartache. then he got my number from my friend and started calling me and sending me messages. think if you can keep the relationship going for another 5 years, 1. in either case it is always a woman who has a strong sense of self and a high regard for her own value. and now that i feel i found the right guy for me it seems as if to him. family is really against our relationship,l have spend many nights crying because of his kids and other family member coments! two people are of a legal age i don't see the harm! i want to continue to fully commit to each other with building a marriage together but we just have to get over that one last hurdle.. my mom is an orthodox, she is not willing to accept this. he and i have even broken up a few times due to it because he doesnt want to come between my family and i.

Dating someone 18 years older than me

our hearts to be open to love in whatever form it may present itself takes courage and strength. i have never married and no human kids – i assumed things probably could have been challenging at some point. i too am 29 and he is 49 (which i like to say a young 49) is so special to me and i am falling in love with him. i reach out to him to and asked for forgiveness. it didn’t really bother me but i know it effected him. one day he gave me his e-mail (he is japanese, it’s a common thing to switch e-mails in japan rather than phone number) and we started to talk to each other until i finally decided to broke up with my same age boyfriend and go with him. i recently started dating a man who is 61 and i am 27. will not deny that i am sucker for the mothering kind, but it's not good for a thriving relationship. he was married for 32 years to this woman so i doubt he is going to go out and "exchange" me, he didn't mean to fall in live with me and cause all this pain and hurt for his family (and neither was i) but it is what it is, also, i will not be looking to do this over again to him with someone else, i came on here looking for answers- i know how we've gone about our relationship wasn't the best and karma has made it's way around believe you me, we've gone through a lot this past year and i'm sure much more to go, but i wouldn't have it any other way- this man brought me back to life and showed me what love really is and for that i'll pay any price two, three or ever ten times over- i love him with all my heart, and i know he feels the same- neither one of us would have taken such a big risk on one another juss to turn around and do it all over with someone else, so thanks for the advice and telling me something i've never heard before or haven't been told everyday since i took this leap of faith and love with him! he has not spoken a word to me ever since. she is obsessed with her two dogs, max (yorkie) and moxie (german shepherd) as well as her handsome boyfriend and spunky best friend.’s hard to keep the relationship going, as we live in a society where people are so judgmental and always have things to say.* nano-tech ( nano size devices, machines in your blood stream, providing you with real time bio-tats on your smart phone, repairing your cells, getting rid of pathogens. never noticed our age difference until about a month in. but one of my friends is very rude to him, dosnt even talk to him and also talks bad about our relationship to other people. my thing is everyone close to me would ask oh is he your boyfriend?. we are not really together, i am married & so is he..i too am 27 and in a relationship with a man almost turning 50, we have been together for about 8 months now but knew him for almost 2 years as we used to work together… when the relationship began i was hesitant as i cared about what others thought, as time went on, i cared less what others thought about us. as months go by his kids know about me but they won’t accept me which i respect 100%. but we just have to ignore it because we are happy and that's what matters. i met her mother bringing her home after the 3rd or 4th date. your boyfriend needs to trust in your decision to be with him, he should cherish and love you, not spend time emotionally abusing you. he has even been open to listen to me about my past traumas (if it does come up). just met a guy from a dating site; he's 56 and i'm 31. you know if your brother sees his partner as "an older woman"? my boyfriend of almost a year who i am truly in love with is 25 years my elder. i am now dating a guy 27 years older than me as well and have been for the last year. i joke about his age sometimes but i don't look at him and see a number i just see the love of my life and i'm so glad he finds me as interesting as i find him. but please do not act on your crush until you have matured more emotionally and when when you've arrived at the age of when it would be legally permitted to have a relationship with an older man; if of course, you still have those feeling for him by the time you reach adulthood. so now he wants to leave his partner and be with me. but it hurt a lot of people and i can never take that pain away from them. thing i do take issue with, however, is the dismissal of college guys all together as suitable mates for a mature 21 year old woman. he says it makes him upset too, but it doesn't sounds sincere. besides the work issue, he is 18 years older than me with a son who is four years younger than me. people have already been laughing about him being younger (sexist) should i leave now before it gets more serious or anyone think i am making it too much of a big deal? your matured enough to be with a man then go for it. age difference relationships have been a part of queer life ever since one could speak of such a thing, and i think its also something important to a number of people's- past and present- experiences with butch-femme in particular. but most of society does not feel this way and the laws reflect this. the older party, the age gap was often a big issue for me; although we love deeply and we were (are? he is dynamite in bed as well… he is certainly teaching me everything he knows… 😀 xxx. it was a valuable experience for me, but now i'm in a relationship someone who's only 1 year older than me, which goes to show, age ain't nothin but a number! i think the largest sex organ is the brain, and she had a great attitude and smile.. i’m going to show your story to my daughter. we've spent thousands of hours talking over the phone in the last several months. he told me about his bf, i aslo worried bit. the best, feel free to chat with me if you need someone to talk to! but only dating and really seeing other for the past 9 months. i asked her about it, and lo and behold we both received the scars at the same age and the same way! i have 2 children and he of course he has children older than me and he has grandchildren. kept this relationship for almost 9 months and finally i decided to tell my father about this. i have become friends with a stranger from the internet who is 50 years old. i cannot think about ending our relationship because of my family. i have more in common with this man decades older than me than anyone else on this planet. and not only that, i am coming all the from norway, so exuse me for the spelling, i always use spelling program but not know. and i hope you have many fun and love-filled days together! strange how the age gap speeds that up, just done that with my man, well it’s always ongoing isn’t it?, totally agree, the reason they are the person you / i / we find attractive now is because they have fucked up with enough other women before us, to make them not want to do it again and therefore more considerate / respectful / awesome :-) amen to that ;-). we both knew that we would be meant to be but we knew we had to wait until it would be an appropriate time to see eachother. the point is, it seems like you two can effectively communicate through those times when you might be out of sync. yesterday, my boyfriend came to me and told me that his oldest daughter (who is 5 years younger than i am) was not happy about him because he was dating quite similar age as she was (which was myself). she is the person who's loved me more in my whole life, and the person that i've loved more.: (please don`t judge me on these, i am a better person but very practical). i don't look my age but i also don't feel or act my age. he's going through a divorce, his oldest kid is her age, this all screams red flags. might also consider therapy--not because you need "fixing" or that there's something "wrong" with you--but simply because seeing a therapist can be incredibly helpful in sorting out confusing feelings, figuring out where they come from, and in making good choices about what do do with them. i don't wanna lose her coz she takes care of me and i wanna take care of her. chances are her psyche was damaged by her father leaving her mother for a much younger woman, or her own husband/partner leaving her for a much younger woman. they're just over all more accomplished and being the driven young woman that i am, i am certain that this is something that i want. the man has to face a lot more social pressure than the woman when he is much older. am afraid cause i could easily fall in love with him. i cannot understand how i feel so meant to be with him yet the world is screaming at us to split up. one can see that when i am with him my whole world changes, its amazing the affect he has on me! you are only 24 and will probably have many more guys before you find a good one for you… 7 years older is not the problem…. i wish more people could be as accepting about relationships as we are. yes we are long distance but we skype whenever we get the chance and kik all the time. guys, so i'm 13 and i'm in love with a 21 year old. i felt this article was a good read and pointed out both the good and the bad without seeming biased. she still had a lot of growing up to do, hell, she had just turned 18 years old and graduated high school. :3 i know im too young to date ;~; (14) my life was more of tripping over and over again, than smiling actually being able to stand on 2 feet by my own. when we met, i assumed he was around 25 because he looks incredibly young. i've known her around a year and really hope she feels the same. i found that the things i could forgive in someone younger were things i expected someone older to have grown out of already. 12 age difference and it does bug me but like i said i'm just not comfortable with older men or men my age. even if she's the world's most mature 14-year-old, she's just too young. i don't know where all the time in my life went. advice to ladies crushing on someone a bit older than them? i recently dated a woman who was 10 years younger, which lasted 4 years, and she had 4 children, that became an issue with our time together, and i left feeling already alone. there is a reason why i broke up with my same age boyfriend, simply he cheated on me nd he even physically abused me while this japanese guy treated me very gently. i am shown love everyday and that is all that matters! am a very active person and there isnt really any way he can do the activities i want to do…. he does write very endearing things to me on face book. my little sister will hate me for it, my mom will not like it and think he is a pervert and that the relationship will fail, my older sister will think that too. we ended up hanging out on accident during a work function that customers were included in, and the rest is history. it's interesting hearing about people in relationships similar to mine (my husband is 37 & i'm 26… he's closer in age to my parents than he is to me). the family and friends were surprised, but they all liked me, and their 16 year old daughter (who was really beautiful and looked like she was 21) and she was fascinated with our relationship. i couldn't love another man (besides family) as much as i love him. i guess i never really thought about the age difference since my parents also have 10 year age difference and they are happily married. i am crazy about this guy and i can tell that i am in love with him and he loves me. am also in a supervisory position in a small company and have a 33yr old who is 27 years my junior showing me a lot of interest.. my friend sent me this article because i’m a 26 year old dating a man 30 years my senior. we might not share everything in common, but we do have values, politics, thoughts, and humor in common. the stigma of younger man/ older woman isn't as bad as it used to be though i expect jokes when i'm out with a younger man. my split and being thrusted into the singles market i've found myself dating younger men, as the dating pool seems to be filled with much younger suitors. i too have fallen in love with an older man! when the dad passed away in his late 70s ,she was very unhappy and she also passed away a few years after that. and if you want to hang out with her, i suggest doing so around her family, not with just the two of you alone, which may bring unwise pressure/temptation into the situation. we've been together for 4 mths now and we've known each other for about 5 years. ummmm, gotta grow and change into the person you're going to be first. when her birthday arrived i actually googled her family name and found her father’s residence in a small town in a middle eastern country. hopefully your parents will come around…i'm rooting for ya. talk to me with an open mind and kind heart, ask me about my church or my education—get to know me. older men have stable jobs and can support you already. i have question we’ve only said “i love you” once which was new years and haven’t said it anymore , is that weird? to be honest i have just started engaging a relationship with him for a 1 week and half now, but it feels like forever! i just stated that for me, i didn’t know any guys at the time that i connect with on a mature level. he has 4 children the oldest one is a boy 12 years old and the youngest one is a gal that's 5 years old. they tell me that the relationship is "weird", "disgusting", "creepy", etc. about to get in to a relationship with someone who is 20 years olders than me does it really work have you faced any problems!, i just wanted how many years older can your boyfriend if your 16.'m not very old, and i've never really been in a relationship with someone older than i. you have made my day and (ironically) given me hope! but over time he got to know her and accept the fact that our love for one another is true, and age has nothing to do with anything. i also worry about how we will connect when i am still vital and he is in his final years. something's i consider, his maturity, life experience, has he been in a committed relationship, does he want kids if he doesn't have any. i keep telling myself to wait till shes 18 but i just fell like im going to lose her if i dont say something. it's truly different dating someone older because they just get it., you must know that i come from a scientific world where i have always carefully walked and meticulously calculated my path. i've dated other men my age but my connection with my 46 year old boyfriend is so great. during this month apart i truly found myself not wanting to loose her for any reason and that how important she was in my life, we both discovered that we could not stand or even bare the thought of being without each other. i only dated two guys before him one was a young love the other was a 6 year relationship. this made me more comfortable telling my parents about my boyfriend who is 26 years older than me.'s in his early 50s i believe (assuming it since he has kids who are close to my age). i must admit i'm attracted to them but seems like the conversation is dry or the way the act or carry themselves.. for me physical attraction matters alot and i fear that she will look older in next few years and i'll lose interest in her. well i did, and it was all the same boy, the one i played hide and seek with ended up being the boy i called on the phone for hours on end and then eventually (at age 13- just to clarify since i am so “strange”) my first kiss. that's not the only problem, we are in a long distance relationship as well. you’re having communication issues at this stage, it’s going to get more worrisome in the future, reconsider your options very carefully…don’t waste precious time, that you will never recoup. our morales are right on point and we have the same crazy humor and share a love of health and fitness and traveling together. i am a year older than her but she doesn't see the age difference between me & her son. he help me a lot in making myself a better woman of my age.. she is from europe and i am from india, the culture difference could cause issues between us. found this article to be really helpful, and to know that i am not alone in this journey. he knows just what to say when i'm down and knowing that i can be there for someone is just amazing. we were attracted from the moment we met but slowly acted on it. am a 30 year old black female dating a 56 year old white man (he's nearly 30 years older than me). ive been dating a man 20 years older than me but whats stopping him from seeing clearly with us is the thought of having children. i am also in a relationship with an older man, 24 years older, and we always get the looks, the stares, the your daughter is so pretty comments. feel the same way idk what to do im a teen my parents would kill me if they found out iliked someone older. enjoy reading this…my situation is i am 43 and the man i have been seeing just turned 70 and just retired. am giving hope to someone who could be in my situation you're not alone if you believe go on make it work, dont give up you met for a reason. he shows how much he likes me, and we haven't even met yet. i know that i need to just ignore the comments, and maybe i was even expecting too much from these friends, but it upset me a lot. if you respect his maturity and want him in your life you should let this happen. i am not a gold digger; i take pride in the fact that i worked my way through college and am now supporting myself by working full time. especially, when i saw how caring and compassionate he was with patients. he's never dated anyone and i was married when i met him. i am very maternal and traditional and he is more than willing to give me the life i want. am 12 turning 13 and i have a crush on adam levine maroon 5 and i really can't get him of my mind. i am okay now only because my relationship is a subject that is just never discussed, and we act as if it isn’t true. i guess my worry about the social stigma is stopping me from fully concentrating on this relationship..We had a lot of fight on the first 2years, but now we just get over it. i am 35 going on 36 and being asked out by a 58 years old man. yet, such “normal” marriage doesn’t always reflect one’s ideal marriage and happiness. i was/am unwilling to destroy my children by divorce & he felt/feels the same. i am 58 yrs old and i was seeing a man that was 27. there i need some help figuring this out i'm 17 old i just got a bad relationship between me and my ex i'm in highschool 10th grade i really really like this girl who we are 4 years apart i'm the older one she younger one so it is ok. i wasn't one to believe in soul mates, but i think i have one. i had one prospective in mind but due to my strain of bad luck i may have lost the chance.! i am 15 and i'm in love with someone with a 6 yr difference. like hell, at this point i want him to take advantage of me. as long as your both commited and not embarassed of eachother. after my previous relationships with guys of my age, i have come to say, this is the best relationship i have been into, there is maturity and there is no pressure or bossing around. when consulting her mother, her [her mom] said no, because its "against the law" for a couple to date even though nothing sexual is going on. now he's 40, but when i look at him, i don't see/think of our age difference. i met him 18 months ago while i was going through my divorce and we have been dating 17 of those months. of the above disciplines are merging together and within a few decades from now, say, 2040, 2050. out of all the guys i dated he truly my blessing and being in his presence is good enough for me. to be honest, she knows how to arrouse me with her big, round body. i don’t have daddy issues or anything i have just always been attracted to older men. he's very mature and seems to be wise beyond his years. however i don't know if its the racial part or the age but that attracts too much attention from people of which some can be very rude and hateful towards us. we think the same things at the same time, do the same things at the same time, have similar habits, can tell what each other wants before we say anything. when he is 40 he will have midlife crisis and will go crazy. being someone who’s dating a man 20 years older than i am (i’m 22, him 42), i find so much comfort in reading your article.

I m dating someone 16 years older than me

Age-gap: The reality of an older woman dating a younger man

is such a beautiful artucle it made me tear up and gave me hope for my 16years older boyfriend. i just think real love is so rare it should be embraced and cherished for as long as it lasts. to others in this situation i say give it time and patience. here, i look forward to tell a lot of people but not my family.'m 21 and my husband is 34, and i don't see myself with anybody else but him, but our age difference does bring a lot of argument, with him always thinking ill cheat or leave him for someone my age, we have two kids together and i'm trying to keep this family going, but his insecureness is making it hard for me. i did tell him how i feel, but sadly he said (although the attraction is there) he can't bring himself to date someone half his age.! but anyways lm glad im not along on this journey. it was definitely not a bimbo/dirty old man situation, but thinking back 20/21 is an awfully young age to be dating men who are in their 40s. you should want to be with someone that helps build your confidence not kill it. so i'm 31 and i'm 13 years older the the girl i like but i'm scared of the judgement. we were at the edge of breaking up but i told him i don't want the only reason why we are breaking up is because of our age differences. if this young woman makes you very happy and you've got lots in common with each other and you keeps the lines of communication open, there shouldn't be a problem. if i was in my early 20s, i think my mother would have been worried. it's too expensive to see each other right now so we're just being patient until finances permit a much anticipated rendezvous. although i am taking life one day at a time, i am so grateful and happy that we are together. i have a near identical scar in the same spot and on the my right hand as well. now, we reconnected and regret that we let so many get in the way of being together. if you leave someone you love because of other people, you will never forgive yourself. we joke around about the age gap with each other, sometimes we know the general public in a store or restaurant is trying to figure out if she's my daughter or niece, we quickly make it clear we are in fact together. it is sad as the age gap may now spell the end and something you can do nothing about, age. then he went on vacation to california and then i almost gave up on him. i was always attracted to older men, hiim on the other hand never dated a younger woman. but i am glad i didn't listen to my fears because it turns out she is the one..know of a similar relationship and would like someone to talk to. is so beautiful and have helped me extremely on making my decision. love my boyfriend with all my heart and i care about him but im afraid he dont understand what makes me happy. equality in love should be considered shoulder to shoulder with all other forms of equality. she was a governess for a big time lawyer and his anesthesiologist wife.'m 15 and i'm in love with my personal trainer which is 32 which is 16 years older than me i guess. felt bad because my ex still lives upstairs, but like i told him i am tired of putting my life on hold because my ex refuses to leave. the love making is amazing too and i feel so connected to him on a whole nother level. there must be something wrong with me as i should know better bc i am a psychiatrist.[…] true story: i’m dating a (significantly) older man – yes … – miss..am 21 and my partner is 38 and we are so much inlove that we hardly feel the age-gap. sounded off, weird to me but i didn’t know if it was because i never allowed myself to believe someone for fearof getting hurt as i trust is something difficult for me to handle. we met when i was doing my training in a hotel where he was staying. this has made me feel a lot better, knowing its not just me. columbus to "my mans arms" when i got off the plane in columbus, i walked around the corner and seen his face smiling and lighting up. i guess we will see after the divorce i juss don't want to think i threw muh whole life away for this man and thinking he was too but then doesn't and keeps meh hidden- we won't make it if we continue to hide and be ashamed- any advice, anyone else going through this?, not yet but we are approaching a time when our future will take more of a leading role in the decisions we make. is is really such a bad thing for me to be in love with a guy that i haven't even met in person yet? we didn't realize the huge age difference at first… i guess i acted a bit older than i really am, and he acted much, much younger than he really was! am 44 year old male and started dating a 22 year old female. however, like you mentioned there is no point in worrying about the future. 22nd april 2015 was the greatest day of my life so far. she told me her friends and employer all looked at her differently, after they met the smart charming engineer that candidly told them, ‘yes’ we had sex and she was amazing. what if he develops dementia or some other long term illness? i care very much for this man and i want to go with it. he replied that he saw things differently, that to him, everybody gets his trust and it can only go down.![…] true story: i’m dating a (significantly) older man – yes … – miss. real warning i think is that even as the younger woman, there are times where you might still be the one thinking ahead or desiring to move faster in the relationship. am with my masters heading to pursue my phd and he is comfortable with is bachelors being a supervisor in his present job. i had always seen relationships with less than five year gaps, always thought i was wrong to like older men. i never would have imagined being with someone that much older but it was attraction at first site. we've spent some time together and we just get on great. she had been married before and had two children (now 48 and 50) and was coming to the end of a very fulfilling career and i had no life experience except college. i go to work next day and that's when charles told me i've been trying to call you so we can go out i wanted to come pick you up but he was calling my old phone when i had a new one all along. his reaction wasn’t so bad, it’s just a religious matter (i’m christian and boyfriend is buddhist). even though peoples opinions and views about our marriage and relationship don't bother my husband at all, it has reached a point where i even get anxiety every time we are in public just because of the nasty stares we get every single day. we clicked instantly and within a few months he had become the best friend i'll ever have. then for the next month my baby's dad once again got in the way allthough we weren't together and sleeping with each other of course someone would think differently. we had only been dating a month when we moved in together. but i’m always afraid that he will die around the same time my parents die, then i will be alone with nobody. i am here in italy and we have become friends. only downside i warn all to expect is you will lose family and friends over it most likely. we get along so well and he is my best friend., if i may be so bold, sex with older men is so, so, so different (and better, in my opinion). therefore let that certain desire be something wonderful, rather than disastrous for you and the other person. than people being embarrassed when they assume i'm her mom :-) we have not had any problems. support and love is what family and friends should provide and then be there for their loved one if it doesn’t happen to work out. would you want 10-20 awesome years or any other amount of medicore years?.we come from different eras,but me as an inividual stuck in the past. so it really isn’t strange but thank you so much for taking the time to read my article and leaving a nice little comment. nothing really, other than some of the long-term things that are a challenge to any relationship. i have never had feelings like this for anyone and i can honestly say that i am in love. you both can’t change your past, so live in the moment. if i did have any children by him, i'd likely raise them on my own for the most part. am 49 my partner 30 we are lucky in a sense that we both enjoy the same music, movies, activities so far there has been nothing to come up because of age we do kid about it though. after 2 failed attempts at getting her own apartment (deposits and all) i invited her to move in with me. he doesn't pressure me into nothin g i don't want to do and i do love him.. she makes me feel smarter and pushes me to be social (what i am not) and intelligent (what i am). i think i'm the only that seriously questions their relationship. everyone in my circle told me to just enjoy each other as long as it lasts, as if to say this is not long term. for the long post, just trying to share some advice with someone close to my age! i enjoy everything she shares with me, her experiences, point of view, everything. anonymous poster,i see what you mean about the age difference of 3 years between a man and a (slightly older) woman not being in the same time scale to the 1-3 decade differences discussed here. a sexual combined with emotional & intellectual relationship is very important. is nice to hear that an age difference of 25 years can work for people who truly love one another. closeness in age is no guarantee for a happily ever after just as a big age gap is no guarantee for disaster or vice versa for that matter. that's why i feel happy i found this page and make me know i'm not crazy to fall for someone that much more older than me. i feel like i won the lottery, i am blessed and have a new lease on life. i’m turning 23 this year and he is now 44 years old. the only problem is that he has a daughter from a stupid and young marriage, and i feel like that will get in the way of our relationship and all the gossip we already get from being together. i just came here to read what other people think of it. while its easy to say enjoy the moment, life for the now, who knows what life will bring, either one of us could die under a bus / not wake up tomorrow – we generally plan for life assuming that won’t happen and we will get old – and getting old with a partner 20/25 years older changes the perspective – care to comment more?,i'm 22 who is happily married to my husband of one yr(may2013) both different nationality native&mexican)with my daughter who is now 2, we both have a good strong connection were both focused on my daughters future an life. when the relationship finally ended nine years past its due date… i craved maturity. that said, the age difference seemed to make a difference to the older women i dated, and that lead to eventual break-up, and the larger the age difference, usually the shorter the dating relationship ended up being. i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we love each other just so much. if you are in college, then you are of age and able to make these decisions, however there are millions of great men, old and young that aren’t married to pick from, i would suggest you do the right thing and stay away from married men. my mom is an understanding person but i don't think she would like the idea of me dating a 25 year old.. an older man will often be more set in his ways and less adventurous both in life and the bedroom. what should i do stay or go back to the farm life or stay in town . you’re having communication issues at this stage, it’s going to get more worrisome in the future, reconsider your options very carefully…don’t waste precious time, that you will never recoup. story, love happens in mysterious ways, i so enjoyed reading that, may you both have many happy years together, god bless. am 21years old and doing my final year @university i recently found out i am 6weeks pregnant,the father of my child is 43years old,we are both comfortable with our age gap and he is willing to marry me i love him dearly he makes me happy and he completes me,i don’t know how to tell my parents i’m pregnant or how to tell them that the father of my child is 22years older than me please help. i do believe if we met we would hit it off and yes it's possible i could fall in love with him. as you get older and your “self” is more established, this becomes less of an issue, but especially in your early 20s an age gap can be more significant (both your teens and your 20s are formative times). know that the legal age of consent is 16 in hattiesburg ms. we both worked crazy long hours & had a lot of time to talk. i was 19 and started seeing a man that is 20 years older than me. then i went on to brian williams from nbc nightly news. am glad you happy and found someone that complete you. the diversity of perspectives, opinions, interests, likes, dislikes, or whatever make these relationships rich and fulfilling. all that matters is that he is good to you, and very respectful. will never work think carefully someone else might have been loving you. but the difference between 14 and 23 is huge--far bigger than she realizes, and maybe bigger than you realize, too. i’m 24 and my boyfriend is 55 and reading your article was at times like reading about my own life! i've dated girls my own age and older but, i've never been in love with a girl until i met her. i could be with a young guy who treats me badly, or with an older guy who absolutely adores me and treats me like gold! turns out he had also fallen in love with me! i came here in norway to study last year and met him by our commin friends. i hope as i get older the difference will see less extreme- we started dating at 20 and 35, and that caused quite a stir in my family. am 20 years old and im dating a man that is 37. am 17 & i am deeply in love with a man who is 28. either way, i think i would defiantly want to be older before i try anything like that again! i’m happy with my man so why does the age matter. i love him with all my heart and he loves me. i am also dating a man actually 28 years older than i am and he’s perfect for me.'m 50 my wife is 27 we have a beautiful 15 month old son , all i can say is she's the woman i always wanted. this website has been giving me hope i am 13 years old and in love with and 32 year old aka lil wayne plus ima be a rapper so i happy. it's not fair to put a sexual relationship with a 23-year-old guy into the mix of her life. she cannot consent legally, which means you could get in big trouble if you choose to start a relationship. tonight i met adam, an 18 year old man with whom i communicated briefly over the app for the past few day. i am beginning a wonderful journey with my soul mate and he is 24 years older me. i really don't mind age, but i'm scared how my family will react. if this is the happiest you've been in a relationship, hold on to him! we have been dating for 3 fast years and it has been an amazing journey and i cannot wait to see what the future holds for us. am not looking for acceptance, and i don't need to feel like im a younger version of myself. however, those closest to me didn’t share my sentiments. a few dates later, she pulled me into the apartment and told me she wasn’t letting me leave. she told me that she was dating an older guy. that relationship would vanish if i brought a man 2 yrs older than them home. the only bad thing i can say about it, is that as time goes on, i love this man more and more, and i realize that he will die before me, and i will be absolutely heartbroken. is he ashamed to bring meh home to meet his family? family and friends feel like theyre trying to protect me when giving their discouraging opinion, but in reality it only causes more pain. he had a job where he had to be on call all of the time, i knew that going in because sometimes he would use that excuse to get away and see me. as for my step-father he keeps telling me no, that he will never accept him. we hsve a faithful 4 month old daughter and could not be happier. i am 10 years apart from my gf i'm 27 she's 37 my issue is here children. at first i didn’t have a problem because we loved each other very much bt now when i had 2 find out that he’s 38yrz i became very scared and very disappointed on him. first met my husband while he was volunteering in africa for peace corps. and yet she's got these things she knows and these experiences that i have never known, so she teaches me, if i want that. just sit home w baby, no friend, just my momma my kids and my man! some will lecture me about how its not going to work. never really thought i'd get married, and i've never wanted children of my own, but now i've got a wonderful husband and a fantastic 19 year old stepdaughter. to name a few (just to appease the skeptics): our humor, our beliefs in religion, politics and family, our love for seasons, vacations, books, pancakes (very important to me), success, business and learning. though ever since my boyfriend grew a beard and started coloring it, he looks maybe a few years younger so all i have to do is say that i look way younger than my actual age and people stop being so judgmental. plus, my parents and i have a good relationship built by living my life in accordance with what is expected of me. i don’t think it’s that big of a deal, she’s 20, they do know i got her a good job in wealth management with no experience. only guys I knew were frat boys that got drunk and peed their beds once a week—not man material. it is still early days (around three months), but i can't help but dread telling my parents, even though i know that if things are going as they are, i'll have to tell them sooner rather than later. gave me the opportunity to save myself from a broken heart: i accidentally gave him an expired text+ number but he had given me so much information about himself that anyone could have easily found him through social medias. i've concluded that age is an issue only if you give up and stop trying to be kind to each other and to encompass each other's needs. it's just a part of his life, as it is with many people. however, we've had to overcome other differences in race, culture, class and privilege, mother tongue, past experiences, nationality, politics (i am vastly liberal and he is less so, coming from a very traditional culture, but he's very educated, whip-smart and open to developing his views), as well as all the myriad things that any two individuals have to discuss and address when trying to meld two personalities and two lives. i'm about your age, and i have a lot of respect for you having a son too. he is my destiny, no matter how silly it sounds. we have known each other for 3 years and dated 2 of them (so far). 15 and i'm in love with someone who is 20 is it right. after reconnecting on his terms, we’ve been on vacation, dinners and shared special moments! i always got lots of comments from my family and friends, but i think they now see how happy i am, and no matter what they say they wont change my mind. we have open communication, we talk about any problems rather than getting into arguments. my step-father will not accept the fact that my soon to be fiance is a year older than my step-father. my parents, like yours, stand by my decision and adore the man i am seeing because they respect me, knowing they raised an intelligent young woman. we stayed close though somehow and now, 11 yrs later, we are still close. everything is absolutely perfect, he understands me in a way you never could imagine. i have not know any couple who had the same situation so if anyone out there could give me an insight. i’m 24 i wasn’t initially attracted plus i feel mixed signals, but we laugh alot together. then she grew to old for our agreements and i had never changed. not only did we work together, but he was much older and i really wasn't into older men. afraid to loose my job because although i was the victim he was threating me if i told anyone he is going to go to hr because i kicked him out when he was drunk and he was forced to drive home. so take no notice, people either like it or lump it. love has no boundaries and isn’t determined by how far apart in age we are.

Redditors whose S.O is at least 10 years older or younger than you

of course there are the 21 year old beer gut date raping frat bros but there are also the super creepy mid-life crisis guys who want a hot young thing as an accessory. he also told me today about how he is probably going to die before me and i almost broke down and cried right there. you said this is the best relationship you've been in, but at 22 how many relationships have you actually been in?’ve offered to meet them with her for dinner, suck up any lectures or snappy comments and just be polite and respectful and i’ve given her advice on different ways she could approach telling them but she’s paralyzed with fear of how they’re going to react when they find out. it really means a lot to me that you were able to search you heart and be open to giving me real advice and helping out a younger woman/ older man relationship and not sounding exactly like all of our friends and family, that really meant a lot to me! my parents also knew that we had a lot in common and that i wished to see him again at the right time, i've always told my parents that i knew i was going to end up with someone significantly older than me anyways.’m going to move in with my boyfriend regardless, its all i want, but if anyone has any advice for me on how to deal with the difficult family situation? she got bothered because she thought i had a thing with him. but the only problem is my family nor friend accepts our relationship. my boyfriend and i have an almost 40 year age difference. i’ve been a single mom for a long time. i am 50 and i can be equally attracted to a woman in her 20s or a woman in her 60s. i know he has a daughter and i'm not against that but my family seems to think it's the end of the world, yet im a single mother and so have my sisters. i took the chance knowing that i may get my heart broken but i could not live with the regret of not letting her know how i felt. so dont over think the 3 years go for and i will tell you that you would be really happy. i am wondering if i made a mistake in ending things. it's beautful to have openess and maturity to embrace life in all its mystery . truth is, my boyfriend is the perfect man for me and that is strictly the only reason i date him. i'm really anxious about meeting him; he's grown on me overtime and this thread has let my guard down some…thank you for posting this story! he's my best friend makes me laugh so much were big old kids together and i don't ever see us changing. i’m not leaving him for anything because i honestly believe we were meant for each other and everything that has happened in our lives led us to each other. have been dating a man 26 years older than me and its the best relationship i’ve ever had. i met a guy who is 39 and we clicked instantly. someone 20 years older than you to me would be like dating someone the same age as my mom or dad which i would not want to do. have always believed age is just a number and i have been mature my entire life so being with women who are 10 years plus older than me is just natural for me. he's been here for much longer than i have and speaks the language like a native, but we typically communicate in english which isn't his first or second, but third-language. we've been together for two years now and we love each other a lot, no matter what others think. my problem is that i'm starting to develop feelings for her, and she is for me too. during the the rekindling of our relationship her mother not knowing we were working things out, blurts out how uncomfortable she and "other" family members are when we are together!, i still feel pessimistic towards the relationship and hold her off. i do want a child and my sister reminded me that i shouldn't change what i want and have wanted because my man got himself to think he'd never meet anyone like me. she's just decided that maybe in years to come sheay want things i won't be able to give. despite some of the negativity i have received from acquaintances i have never been in a more healthy, fun loving relationship than i am now. he isnt the type who'd take advantage of me, because i know him very well. hopefully this will bring it home… men and women are different…no matter how much “they” tell you different…the hard drive is clearly not the same… a woman wants love from a man…#1, period. also, i don't know you but if you dated much older men when you were young, it kind of perpetuated this. i would admire him just the same were he 55 or 25. am having a big problem,aged 23 male and gf is 30 my parents don't like it. so she met this guy, got engaged, were together for 5 years. i have not yet mentioned how absolutely gorgeous she is, and her smile just melts my heart. when i turned 18, he asked me for my number & we talked for a few months. a guy who has a big heart and a great sense of humor, and a guy who treats me right and respects me. his age doesn't bother me because i truly feels like i found someone who cares and respect me. guess my plea to you, world, is please talk to me before you decide about me. least favorite question that i get asked is “what do you have in common with someone 20-plus years older/younger than you! no one else has turned me on like he does. we don’t see age as a problem or see it looking at each other.” it just feels so right every time i’m in his arms and he feels the same way about me. i am attracted to only men in their 20s and there is no question age is cause for careful consideration but not concern. my family is too concerned about me ruining my future. i wish society was more understanding especially when it comes to matters of equality, because this certainly is one. he constantly pursued and i eventually saw him for the wonderful young man he is and fell in love..i had been in a relationship with a guy of my age for 7 years before i met my fiance but it never worked out for us. 20yr old woman and the man i seeing is 49yr so its 29 years apart.'m 42 and my lovely gf is 22, she tried to hide me from her friends and family for the first 8 months of our relationship due to her being embarrassed about our age gap. almost every other day i tell him i’m grateful and thankful for having such an amazing man in my life. however, our existence is not threatened anymore (at least not in that way), so those old rules no longer apply. i know that if we’re happy and right for each other, things will fall into place even if we have a rough start (as far as getting our families used to it). your article helped me feel less alone and your right if we are happy together then that’s all that matters and age is just a number. i also know someone my same age whose father was 75 when we graduated college and it created a lot of issues for her and her mom, who was a lot younger. really bothers her to lie to them about where she lives who she’s hanging out with and even that she doesn’t have a boyfriend at all. 45 she is 27 she broke ot off om to old for her, i love her and there is nothing i can do! anyways, every time he would see me he say; hey beautiful how are you today? i have this fear that he would grow old and i may probably still be very young and would wanna do some young stuffs people do and my major concern is the fear of death,i feel he may die early because he smokes a lot,please i need your advice. pray and hope that in the future, it would still be her and me. regardless of his impressive accolades or how much wisdom and he has accrued, you have something he will never ever be able to have again: youth. he had previously been married and divorced and then ended a 7yr relationship before me, both with women close to his age. very mature for my age and he knows what he's doing too, he knows the risks of seeing me etc. i wouldn't want him any other age, way, size, height. just a sharing from me, it’s true people will judge you from your relationship status and i’ve learned how to ignore that. she's really special to me, and i guess, i am as well to her. it's nice to have a website like this to come to for support. everything else is so easy and amazing and i would not give that up for anything or anybody! he is keeping you from his family, there is a reason. guess when you come down to it's what makes you happy . the first two mentioned were true love… great relationships… 1st one went back to her ex, the 2nd died… the 19 year old was a lost soul, the new one is definitely looking for security and a chance to get her life right… i bring all this up because i want you to know i have walked around the block many times, and ask that you have trust in what i say…. the lady who made that negative comment sees only the negative in things. i remember he stared at me a second too long before saying: “well, i’m glad that works” and turning it off… as if he was expecting me to turn around so i would see what kind of car he drove. last partner and i had a 20 year age difference, and are in hiatus at the moment, due to the disparity in ages and the stresses of a long-distance relationship., i find it interesting that your brother's relationship with a woman three years his senior even qualifies to be in the same ballpark as relationships in which women are paired with decades-older men. was alone and i was alone and it was, as saying, that a hug soon was followed by a kiss and a kiss was a step to physical intimacy.'m proud to be engaged to the love of my life who happens to be much older than me. things got ugly after telling my parents about her though, they both told me its a horrible idea that i am with her and that i am sick for wanting a girl who is young enough to be my daughter and i must end it with her, then they started telling me once i meet her dad whom i haven't met yet, he is literally going to kill me. of course, she talks about how sometimes they didn't really have much in common, like reference things you'd never heard of. and their father may not live to see them grow up. i always found that i relate to people older than myself. i was mistreated and violated by my mother’s boyfriends. and then in the two years that followed, i fell in love with him entirely. but when i think of us together it seems so normal, and amazing. in my relationship we're within "the formula" and i don't see any problem. either way, this and the age difference makes me wary. he tells me i keep him young because i am always finding ways to reinvent the relationship. – before you commit checklist relationships don't have to be complicated. a feeling you just want to shout and tell the world you love them. so i haven’t really had much trouble with other people’s judgements because of that. i feel like i should not have to be unhappy to put a smile on everyone elses face. i am in love with a man who is 20 years older than me. time, i understood what my gut feeling detected: he presented himself as a business lawyer who acquired a software company and he seemed quite proud of that. i tried not to see him anymore and married someone 5years older than me . we engage relatively close with our communication and i could not wait to meet him. however, i have heard the general theory that “normal” for a man has a limit of “half plus 7”. am 12 turning 13 and i have a crush on adam levine maroon 5 and i really can't get him of my mind. the fact that theres 300 miles between us isn't all that great either. he has two boys, they are 18 and 17 and i am 20…. there was no violence from her dad but could have been. the hardest part will be telling our families but in time they will understand and see the love we have for one another. anyhow, we started as friends and just talked and talked and he really likes me and i really like him., now that i am approaching age 36, i’m questioning whether i want to have a child (i’ve never known if i want this). am a 17 year old female currently pursuing a man who is 31. if he won't be physical with you it means it doesn't want you to see down there, so he's hiding something. it has been an amazing and indescribable experience so far and reading posts like this re assure me that our age gap can be acceptable in public, with family and friends., once again, very happy for you (as well as for my several friends who do have 10+ year age diff successful relationships). am in a so call relationship right now with a 42 year old man and i am 24 it has been very interesting. we think of each other every day and send each other little messages throughout the day. i have always been attracted to older men, and it has never had to do with money. now, i must mention that his son played in those games as well (he was 12 years old at the time). in my heart of hearts i honestly believe age doesn't matter after a girls old enough to know her mind. it turns out, after i asked for id (yes, seriously) we shared a wonderful evening that was far more intimate (emotionally) than sexual. it never got serious with any of them, but they all treated me very well. not to gain approval or permission but just to share experience. there are, without a doubt, extreme differences between he and i, and finding time to get together is often difficult. even though she can’t offer me any real reason i shouldn’t be with glenn, i know she is only trying to secure the future she thinks i deserve. would my dad give me his blessing to marry my boyfriend should he ever ask? by knowing someone whom my boyfriend treasures is not happy about the relationship between he and his girlfriend (me) really hurt me, but i really have to believe in him and myself – and hope his daughter some day would not be judgmental (to me, she is now judging me and him just based on my age) just because we have 20 years old apart each other. he’s actually just absolutely perfect and i’m the luckiest and happiest. as i am writing this, i still feel like being with him is mistake just because of his age… but i like him too much. i was a pleasure for to meet them but they were quite withdrawn. then there is the fact she was too scared to even tell her parents how old i was and lied by telling them i was 24. we have had our ups and downs and have actually decided to take a break for a little while because i am having issues with his past and with my insecurities and jealousy, which he has trouble dealing with. my wife is 24 yrs younger than me and i have a son her age and a daughter 2 yrs younger than my wife. it just makes me feel better to read so many stories of people in love with people of significant age differences. guys, i really love this post i met a guy 4yrs ago on internet first time we met i was deep inlove he was hurt before n could not offer me the love i needed back from him. lastly, i would guess that a relationship with a large age gap has a higher risk of being manipulative or controlling (especially if, for example, the younger person is dependent on the older one for housing or stability). his charm made me fell for him and i use to wonder why he had to be this old. the last couple of years i have been extremely sick and he has stod by my side through it all. believe you when you say that you are mature for your age. though, the thought of him left by his family at some point in a long term care facility alone is heartbreaking to me.. evil ex-wives can and will make your life a living hell. we kept in contact almost daily with e-mail and sometimes phone calls. :) he looks at me with adoration and compassion and i melt every time. i feel like i should talk to my colleague about it but i would be really quite upset if she asked us to stop talking to each other. love with an open heart and allow love to come into your life. it sounds creazy for many people, but we really have a lot of common, especially in terms of academic interests, nationality and language. he was the one who brought it up and he thinks it's a problem, and wants to go to therapy for it. i met him a few years ago racing cars, and it was just last year that we became friends. he tells me he loves me countless times a day. i have posted this we have had a heart to heart and going to his parents house for my birthday/christmas day, our flights and rental are paid for, so after i spoke to him on how i felt he called his parents and brother and said if they wanted him they were getting me too, and they agreed and so have all his brothers, everyone has changed their plans and we are all going to my boyfriends parents house in oklahoma for the holidays! i just have to say that reading this helped me a lot. but since i'm a 49 about to turn 50 girl, i am very sad that so many men can't appreciate what women their age have to offer & don't even look at us any more. i don’t have daddy issues, i wasn’t violated as a child, i didn’t come from a broken home, and i am not a gold digger. i am however enjoying each encounter, each time we meet to go out, each time we dance together (we belong to the same dance club)… funny thing is that no one of our mutual friends know about it…. about a year after we first met, we finally started dating; first we had to break through both the age barrier and inter-office romance stigma. i was the girl with the crush on harrison ford while my friends all went crazy over whoever was in the latest teeny-boppers mag (at the time, most likely joey lawrence). though i started ivf process at 53, he didn't show up for the appointment. being with a man who can talk about how he felt in a given situation and what he did to turn it around is not only impressive but consoling and helpful, even if my situation is not entirely the same. i happened to find this today… i am not sure if you could read this comment now (as this article is dated january 2014…) i’ve been dating 20 years older than i am right now – i am 41 and he is 61. i take alot of time up with them treat them as they were my own. i cannot waite to become his wife and spend the rest of our life's together ! just so everyone knows, i have a father and i am not looking for a father figure ;). he makes me smile, laugh and we have fun together, but sometimes i go off on a tantrum when the age difference comes to my mind. were together so much that we have decided that i move in with her 3 years ago. saying about how crazy i am but i remember what went on and i was laying on the sofa we where drinking and then he touched me i told him to stop. i figure from the beginning few relationships are permanent, but if i ended up with a woman i never wanted to be without her with me, then the age would not matter. he finally left a miserable marriage soon after that (they had both been unhappy for years apparently). my parents have threatened to kick me out and essentially disown me, if i keep seeing my boyfriend. at first everything was exciting and fun he would show me off to the world, call me as the day goes by every minute from work. as long as you two are happy thats whats important! im not afraid to love her and already expressed my feelings. to break it to you but you are the reason your life sucks so much. i'm 57 but look 43, my boyfriend is 52 and he wants children, he's never had any. we take things in stride, we have both decided that we love each other too much to let petty attitudes about the age thing come between us, it is what it is. i also romanticize the 80s and 90s, and since he grew up in the 80s and 90s we have a lot in common." this is also why the age gap didn't particularly alarm me.!I was looking for responses that were more up to date, can’t believe i found some! i clearly understand that she wants children and marriage and she has told me i am perfect for her, and i feel she is perfect for me. i am just glad i have some really awesome friends who i can trust and talk to who accept him and us for who we are and can see how much we love each-other.’m glad i’m not the only one who’s been going through this kind of life experience! notice how when i look at him i cannot help but smile. i wish all of you strength and wisdom as you go on in your lives with these men. partner is 39 i'm 21 at the start the age did bother me but 8 months in i'm the happiest iv ever been, we're in a long distance relationship sometimes it's hard but we both say the time we do get to spend together means so much more. bring a little smile to make her stronger to move on. allot of people have put me down due to it as well as putting my boyfriend down due to the age in their words are not the "norm". that confidence leads to a lot of wonderful moments both in bed and out. he doesn't act creepy though, but he's consistently dated younger (because the new people he meets are younger and pursues him), and some definitely his age, but with no connection.

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i graduated from college and am now working full time, but i still live at home with my family to continue saving money. i'll come out with an md and a phd; most guys i've dated have been intimidated by just my ambition to achieve these credentials. you so much for this post — it speaks to my heart. i saw him with his son and although i very much consider him attractive now, it just wasn’t in my realm of comprehension at that time. i am also military and he is willing to move wherever i go. i feel complete when i’m with him and when we’re out on dates, our different skin tone and his grey hair make us put our chins up even higher. there are many people in similar ages get often fight, divorce and unhappy with their own differences and problems which is beyond the age number -money, belief, religion, relatives, infidelity, etc.. and sometimes is hard maybe cause are age but idk then again it can be other things. he encourages me to finish my masters degree and travels with me all over the world. my boyfriend had no idea this was happening as he was mingling with his old friends, i handled it very well, explained what he thought made no difference to how we felt about each other, and in the end, i’m happy! contacted manifest spell [email protected] because i was so heartbroken and don’t know what to do with myself but after few years of contacting dr. i figure date the woman who makes your toes wiggle and sort out the issues as you go . i don't believe in karma, but if i did, her bus would be stopping at your house. i am sorry for those that have not worked out, but that can happen in any relationship, regardless of orientation or age. not all of them mind you, but there was definitely an appeal. but i told him clearly, i would love also for him to know my point of view of life and everything you're capable of also. they gave me the ultimaitum of choosing between them or my boyfriend. in short, its not as if i sought after an older man, just turned out he had so many qualities i admired. i hate to cut them out my life, but i dislike the negative energy. likewise i’ve heard the “daddy issues” (never had those, love and respect my father in a totally healthy relationship) and had random passers-by make comments. we do have oddities that we don’t see eye to eye on, but we certainly don’t have any issues holding a conversation, debate or wrestling match. i have to remind myself at times that i was at my other halves place in life when i was their age and cut them a little slack. i gave up those post-divorce years of scientific-cautiously-built-castles around my heart. emotionally we are well connected and similar in many way, but the age difference is playing a part in my mind that because of our level of experiences differ that it would simply fail? my boyfriend, or partner, (whatever title you like) has made some big relationship mistakes because he didn’t take care of the ones he was with and wasn’t really “present” enough to realize that the person he was with was not the right person. it was a rough first 2 years, me being only 24 at the time.'m 14 (female) dating a 19 (male) and we are both very happy. i'm so happy with where i'm at now and i've learned to be a bit more accepting and opened minded with people in different situations. i'm law abiding but i don't care for arbitrary social norms, that's for sure. when we are apart, especially long distance, it does feel like half of me is missing. i do not offer any response, however we both are together because we love each other and could not bear to think of life without coming home and to one another. i am starting to feel something for him just a little, but my heart sometimes is telling me no and not to think those things. we really clicked, and she worked right by my office, so i saw her the days i was in the office, and we dated a lot. i worried, but rather, i have been able to build strong bond and incredibly chemistry between us. they met him on thanksgiving and said he was entirely too old for me and that i was being selfish because i wouldnt break up with him even tho my family did not approve. i know it sounds like a huge mess but i could definitely use some good honest advice on the matter. he's always meeting up with friends to go out for drinks, or even after dinner, going for drinks at nice places.'m in love with my man his 52 and and i'm 24 i just sometimes feel like i'm innoying him but i just always wanna be around him. will you feel ashamed that you let them make your decisions for you and did not stand by what you wanted? only to look down at her hands and she had an "x" on them(we met a club, she was from out of town). im also dating an older guy – good luck with what makes you happy and i hope you stay happy. i feel really uncomfortable but my 16 yr old gal friend who's my best friend tells me go for it. or should i say screw it and go for it, and try to convince her mother? i also read many news almost everyday who got killed who died by bad happenings in different ages. but the only thing that matters to me is that i'm scare that if he will leave me earlier…. my parents and a lot of my friends have been very supportive (especially the female ones), but a few friends have upset me a lot with their comments. to me, it even sounded like she was rejecting myself and wanted my boyfriend run away from me. he would from time to time advance forward and i would move backward, making sure he wouldn’t corner me against a wall and yet…. i am a hopeless romantic, i have never lied or cheated in past relationships, and i am gentleman to the core.. i dropped my bag, he picked me up, i wrapped myself around him. however, my girlfriend is 23, so we are way below “normal” and society looks at us condescendingly., i would never consider a relationship with a much younger woman, again, as i don't feel i could get past the mothering default behaviour that was undermining the relationship from my end. :) i might be 22 but i have the mind and maturity of a 30 year old. i feel like i sacrificed everything for my vows & him nothing. thank god another normal couple-;) i hate that everyone around us complains to my bf about our age difference i am 41 and he is almost 22. than she gets on with they guy i was seeing and told him off. he always tells me not to fall too hard too fast. i will have to go against my whole family to be with her. am 24 and my fella is 35 known him 8 yrs through work been going out 3., i know young women like to think they are so mature, but they don't seem to have much common sense or life experience. so i started inviting a coworker over witch was a guy, but i didn't like him in that way just needed a friend because i don't have many in the town i'm currently in. from my experience mums are extremely protective, and being an only child, she wants to make sure everything goes right (in her eyes). but like i said, just be mindful, take things slowly, and if you later find that things aren't going to work out, then at least you'll know and won't be left wondering what might have been?’m very happy you shared this story and i hope you and your boyfriend have many wonderful years together! the age difference started to be noticeable by the end of our relationship, when she started to act not her age but much older. but don't keep it a secret for too long from your mum or dad, it will hurt them most. love her so much and also is it true that in future we will not have babies please tell me very honestly. i don't want to date a guy who just goes for young women & can't appreciate a mature blossom! i am 34 dating a guy 59, not officially told my parents yet who i think the world of, mum is about 3 years older than dad, (71/68) feels weird to think if i stay with my guy i could never have what they have, but, i am happy living my life my way and i am really happy you are too, just to say i 150% agree with you, “if it’s a strong relationship devoid of abuse and full of love that is all that should matter. i'm very happy with him and i hardly even notice the age difference anymore. women talk about the reality of dating older men with money. we have been together for 6 months now and i am definitely in love. *sense of relief* i'm currently having a long distance relationship with a guy who is 11 years older than me. please don’t assume that because i am dating an older man i am shallow and immoral. 17 years or 25 years older is not the problem… you are 24 years old and have learned an incredible amount in that time… i am 43 years older and have continued learning at the same rate as the first 24 years… i have learned so much in that extra 43 years, and am trying to give you my wisdom earned by my experiences… one of the reasons younger women like old guys! i'm sorry you had a bad marriage, but luckily you are out of it! doesn't it bother you if you tell him your opinion about something, let's say a situation. the time you have and make the best of it. i got a boyfriend who is 28 year older than me. maybe you need someone a little older, maybe you need someone a little younger, maybe your soul mate out there is a different race than you, maybe they are the same gender.. words like blood pressure, cholesterol, and prostate start to take on a new meaning. it has been the best two years of my life. but i have never in my life been so loved or so happy. but the bigger issue is, it's just so hard to date someone over 21 when you're not. but i love him more than anything and i know we can get through anything. she is inspiring and such a good influence to me. separating paths that night, i asked him if he was wearing “bleu de chanel” because he smelled divinely good. we met a couple years ago, hung out, started seeing each other. we like the same music , land the age difference has never been an issue for us we have known each other for about 12 years have been married for 2. i make the first "move" (usually text) which i don't mind, i just wish he'd call/text me first once in a while.'m 14 and we promised that we wouldn't get physical until i was 18. but when he looked into my eyes after we held eachother for several hours and said to me that he was afraid he'd never see me again, part of me felt the same fear. i thought that her mother felt the same way until recently, my gf and i had a falling out, we took a break for a month so we each could sort some of our personal things out (nothing to do with the age gap). love him more than anything i just need to know that our age is ok at some point. i was thinking about him after that, as in many times. it's just hard dealing with a foreigner teenager because of mood swings that sometimes i just want to pack my things and go home to philippines. you are an amazing woman, really inspiring, positive, and good. to be open and honest about all of the obstacles you may face can only make you and your relationship stronger. everytime i tell him something he dont understand he will always said too much adult stuff. by that opportunity, i will introduce him to my parents and take him to church. was searching the web for andwers because im going through the same thing im 20 my fiancé is 34 i been with her sense i was 19 and we got engaged within 7 months of our relationship and on top of that i been through he'll and back over her and i question myself alot and im very awear that she has had her life already and she also has 3 her oldest daughter is 4 years younger then me which isn't a problem at all but reading what u just wrote made me feel alot better about my relationship all tho mine maybe alittle more difficult because she lives wit someone and she's been hurt so much that she doesn't notice how lucky she is at the moment i needed to hear something positive about a relationship like mine and in due time i hope things get better.…you were in a ten year relationship that began when you were 11 years old? he's always bothered by his physical appearance, white hair, that i might look for younger good looking men. the alarm system of his car went on while his right hand was already inside his pocket. now my daughter is 38 and she has a 15 yr and 12 yr old daughters. i didn't plan to get involved with someone so much older than me and now i can't imagine my life without him. but recently when i was dating, i met a girl that i fell head over heels for. that makes me a little sad, but it isn't worth losing him over. so is he and seeing his happiness and his interest and contentedness in being with me is fuel for me to be courageous enough to live my life now. am in a very simpler relationship my girlfriend is 6 years older than me and we live in different country's. — we liked each other and made each other feel good.! lastly, we have not actually had sex yet, he is so respectful and loves me for who i am, not what i have! whole life i have felt alone because i was more mature than people my age and i live in a very remote part of the world so i have always dreamed of the wider world ..etc ( which are the most important aspects in any romance by the way. my new partner has no children and is in the military, so distance will also eventually be an issue. while i was working on her parents house she would text that i left a tool out or something after i left work. one girl lived with her older sister, and after i stayed over a couple times, we were in the middle of screwing vigorously, and carol had sock on her mouth, but apparently she was still too loud, and the door swung open and her sister walked in and said, “for god’s sake, three nights in a row, you f__k all night, i can’t sleep and i’m not just tired the next day, i’m horny all day too! one moment he would be all into flirting with me and making plans to go out the next he didn't see interested at all it kinda hurt but i went with the flow because if it was ment to be it was ment to be. am dating a man, i just found out is 17 years older than i am (i'm 25) but i really like him and i think i will keep seeing him and figure things out along the way. at first it was kinda awkward for both of us because he has twin boys who are 2 years younger than me. it is funny to me how others can be so bothered by someone else’s happiness. people give us weird looks every once in awhile when we talk about each other when we are not together but as soon as they see us together it all makes sense. i want to live life to the full and make the most of the years i have got left in my life whereas my partner seems to fritter her life away not wanting to socialise, watching tv and generally leading the life of a hermit and not being physically close to me (sex stopped about 3yrs ago). this line right here: "i was the girl with the crush on harrison ford while my friends all went crazy over whoever was in the latest teeny-boppers mag". boyfriend is 16 years older than me and he has had 2 marriages that didn’t work out. wen he asked me out he told me he had been divorced for 11yrs nd wants to settle down now. he wants me to be his wife someday and i am truly nervous.'m a 32 year old male and i've just recently met someone thirteen years younger than me. i have always been a family person and i know my parents are only trying to protect me; however, they could not be more wrong about this. another thing is hes really insecure and jealous, our relationship has been emotionally abusive because he cant even see why i love him so much, i try hard to reassure that hes the only man i want and love. he's a smart man, he steer's clear of it knowing that his daughter is smart enough to make her own decisions regarding her heart and knows that if she is happy then there is nothing wrong..he wants me to celebrate christmas with his family tomorrow and his children (19 and 20! i am 25 and my boyfriend of a year and a half is 48. that's nice to here, i just hope that my friend feels the same about me. i miss him a lot, but we skype every single day and he is still there for me. boyfriend and i are 22 years apart and i love him. i'm very curious about what the in-person chemistry/connection will be like. been together for 5 years and engaged for over a year now. i feel like i am more happier dating someone older than me then aroungd the same age as me. but, we'll cross that bridge when we come to it. {a humorous look at marriage}20 things you should know about dating older men. funny thing is my sons, who are under 30, get super pissed when others assume they are my bf lol! being such a gentleman, he payed for my starbucks, and payed for the cheesefries we shared at a small restaurant. i am 26 and he is 43- 17 years difference, but yet i couldn’t be happier! i am a 22 year old girl & just met a 19 year old boy. i also liked men in positions of authority… teachers and sports coaches (if they were in their 20s or 30s)…. when i first met my guy, he thought i was at least 18, but i was actually 16 at the time.. while he keeps telling you “age is just a number” you start to think that may just be something older men made up so they could date younger and hotter women. i would love to hear from people in a similar age bracket… 35 – 54. what i asked myself was, if i were to have a child with my guy and if something were to happen to him, would i be able to care for the child on my own or would i be willing to raise a child on my own? when he found out my age, he apologized and walked away very fast.” … it turns out, i was 34, and she was 17 years old! it does not matter one single bit what others think, you are blessed and do not let any negativity mar or diminish your blessing, perhaps it is a test, which you can over come, focus on the love focus on the blessing all will be great ……. i wonder if, as a 36 year old man he'd consider being with a 50 year old woman thereby having the same age spread as in your own relationship? i couldn’t help but take this mean stranger’s words to heart and wonder if i was an embarrassment to my family. he dumped me for a trip named chelsea higgens but its for the best they are happy and the same age. and i guess that’s the bottom line isn’t it. but there are many reasons why i have to keep it to myself… at least for now. take a calm pause every now and then and correct the word choice you choose for that certain person in front of you. we were going on a group date first because i don't want to go with him alone and suddenly discovered that he has a 16 year old daughter but he is unmarried. we gravitated to seats right next to each other, and talked for a bit then decided to go walk around to find some place to eat. my surprise, in one step, he came close to me. i do think that when it comes down to having kids, getting old together, things change. i’m struggling with this decision and it will break my heart either way. i am 50, so my lowest age “normal” girlfriend would be (50/2 + 7 = 25 + 7) is 32. and then we went on for 9 long years after that together. would’nt feel the need to chat about that 8 months in if we were the same age. the part about how your boyfriend brings up that he will most likely die before you is sad but something you have to come to terms with being in an unconventional relationship, as we both are. i admire couples whe can navigate these relatonships and make them work. then one day out of nowhere my baby's dad desided to come out of nowhere to see his son witch was in arizona visiting relatives of mine and stupid me i let him stay because he had nowhere to go. she is just 2 years junior to me and i treat her like a sis. i dont know if i should give in or let go just to persue my dreams. i mean, haters gonna hate, who cares don’t matter and who matters don’t care. my colleague is fine with us spending time together but i feel that i'm betraying her trust, even though i'm not doing anything wrong, etc. we all have made mistakes, we all have hit some bumps in the road but just try not to make the same mistakes over and over again and move on. sometimes i have no idea what she is talking about. sometimes the older we get our world narrows and sometimes like your mothers friend were taking 5 mile hikes back to back. so when i spoke to a couple of my friends about him, i was told that i need counseling and that i do have “daddy issues”. but my husband & i are like friends that happen to be parents that live in the same house but no real relationship for many years. i have never looked my age and even right now people think i am 38 to 45. when the time came for her to return to the states she could not find a single friend or acquaintance to assist her with temporary arrangements until she settled back in here. bestfrann is 19 n i stay with her sometimes to see him we are very respectful. in the middle of the movie i was so surprised he was actually making a move on me he started rubbing my thigh and holding my hand no words can describe the feeling that i've felt (it brings tears to my eyes now) i had so many butterflies after we went to fridays had an awesome dinner but then he goes to telling. this week he told me our past 5 yrs were a waste of time and we've been together too long.

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i purchased a home at 18, and guys i was meeting in my early twenties still lived at home, and mainly because they wanted to continue partying and playing video games. from now on i will not care what anyone thinks of us i just hope that my family and friends will wish us nothing but the best and happiness. he's lifted me up in ways that none of my exes can ever match. her father and i get on so well we have only talked on the phone once but we hit it off immediately. i don't know what to do, i tried keeping a guard up bc of the age gap but he's treated me like no one ever has. time will tell if we get married, but i'm excited to see what the future holds.) my friends have been frustratingly supportive of my potential pursuit of someone 15 years older than me (i'm 23, he's 37) – i'm the only one who doesn't envision anything coming out of this, primarily because of the age difference! this guy came over a twice and the second time i almost got raped by him., it is sad that the two important loves of your life can’t get along, i wish mine could.” but i still smelled his neck anyway… without knowledge of it, this perfum was going to haunt me. so my tip with the distance thing is don't worry. he is really cool and he has the qualities that i like in a man except being too serious. we are cyber schooled and only see each other at field trips and email each other. he was quite open to me but stated clearly he no longer wants a relationship. but he respects me and treats me well, better than my previous 2 byfriends who were 4 and 5 yrs older than me. at first i was sad because he was 20 years my senior… and he was really bummed that i was that much younger than him, and i will admit that it was very strange feeling and both of us knew it was not right. i want to tell him how happy i am and that i am doing this, but i’m also afraid of hurting my dad, and him disowning me. how to get over a break up + love your ex enough to leave them alone. a simple stroll in the park with him and my daughter is enough to make my day very special. anyways, someone i work with asked to see a picture of my fiancé tonight and then proceeded to laugh and tell me he looks like he could be my dad- right in my face! when i first met him i knew he was way older than i was and knew he had children from his previous marriage.'s so true i'm dating my chap long he was 16 and i was 32 when we first met and started dating i'm now 38 and his now 21 and we now live together. we worry about our families mine in particular i was wondering of there were any suggestions on how to break it to them we been friends for almost 3yrs now and we baarely made it official i love him and i know he does too but how do we tell our families? can i do my children are not talking to me. i said i was dating her, but i thought she was just using me for sex – and after that, they all loved me, told my friend she was a bitch and they all hated her, and claimed ‘dibs’ on me when she was done ‘using’ me! if you can make this work, i wish you the best and i hope the best for all involved. we have been seeing each other for a long time. i went againt all odds by dating this man: i’m dating out of my race, he’s more than twice my age, has two kids going throught a divorce; but he is such a sweetheart! it makes me sad thinking about it, but like i said, if we’re meant for each other, it’ll be worth all of the bumps in the road. there are many young people who died or dying in their early ages, or older people who live longer than expected. daughter is married with a guy who is 20years senior to her. my dad told me to end my relationship and that it was ‘sick’ and ‘disgusting’ and that he is ‘devastated’ but since we haven’t spoken about it, he also hasn’t met my boyfriend or seen how happy we are together as he threatened to hit my boyfriend if he ever met him. my mum said once i am throwing my life away, but i silenced her pretty quick when i pointed out i was going to uni, and was just as enthusiastic about my career choice as i had every been, and was achieving good results (she doesn’t know but my boyfriend often helps edit and proof read my essays – i wonder what she would say about that! are still holding out he still wants to get married but im afraid he will go to jail. i'm feeling like our relationship is more of a private, intimate one, and i want to be able to go out with him, and be part of his public life. i cannot let go of her anymore, cos she has captured my heart. i want us to be able to make that decision on our own when the time is right. i thought he was a tourist, a lost tourist as i encountered many that day. they always ask for me and want to show me what they made me in school. we have been dating for almost a year now, my parents are totally against it, and only a few of my friends are supportive and comfortable with it. 10/7/13, if you haven't told her by now how you feel, and you are still interested in this woman, you should let her know how you feel and let her decide whether she wants to spend the best years of her life with you. me know what you guys think but i know i love this guy and i want a future with him :). i am now dating a young man who will be twenty one in july. latest posts rachelrachel is 26 years old living in southern virginia.. the gestalt of being the younger trophy-girlfriend starts to wear off–especially when you realize you can be a trophy to a much younger and hotter man. sometimes i get anxious or depressed thinking about not having my best friend, but when i read threads like these, it helps me. there are so many potential and certain future challenges to consider, that i wonder if i should let him go. things you can do instead of complaining, obsessing, or feeling sorry for yourself. things were great for 9 months, when her mom told my girl that she wanted to ‘double-date’ that weekend. you say it doesn't matter now but it will in a few years.'ve been with my wife for 10 years and married since 2010. most of which are women, but i know there are feelings unsupported by a few. are any of these thing different than with a younger man? went through a phase when i was 20/21 where i casually dated older men (32, 38, and 41). i occasionally go out to watch the football with her dad, so he doesn't mind the age gap and my side of the family also don't care about the age gap. but they are just gorgeous together, and the girl's energy and outlook compliment my older friend's to a tee. my preference isn't a big secret and most people joke with me about it (even my parents). my profile was in depth, and contained the total absolute truth about myself and my past.. some times i feel why is he with me when he can find him self a women that he can have a full conversation with and not just having a "banta" but deeply i am into him … can't see my self without him i guess. in this case, i already know that we are worlds apart in terms of maturity, interests, etc. we got along quite well, and funnily enough, he ended up acting like a much younger man when the relationship ended. is that reasonable to wait that long for someone you are really connected with? i love her very much, we went through hell to be together. he's attracted to me too, but i'm not sure if this is right. me and my boyfriend is also 27 years age difference, i am 23 and he’s 51. i dont know what life has for me in the future, i just want to love the one im with and take it slow to see where it goes. at the beginning we just enjoyed being with each other without it being too serious (because of the age issue), but as time went on, we couldn’t keep apart and are now looking at moving in together. im 31 and he is 24 his parents also has a problem with the age gap but its not there life to live! i know from experience, i wouldn't change who i'm with or where i'm at for anything!. you can ask him about any issue you are dealing with, and chances are, he will have had experience with it and can give sound advice. the situation has reached the point where we will probably have to separate, i still love her but i am so bored and un-stimulated in my relationship that i feel i will lose my zest for life if i stay with her. i'm so happy and excited, he told me he was scared because once they meet me it will change how they see him and it will also get back to his soon to be ex wife and children and that's what he fears but he also says maybe one day they will come around, or maybe not but he is willing to take that chance! i don't want them to think badly of him or get a bad impression because he is such a sweet heart and complete gentleman.'ve never had an issue before, most ladies were usually 5 or so years younger than me. be honest age dosent come into it but i do lean towards the more energetic muscular type of male and my current fella is making me happy so why change it? i first started dating younger men my parents were not happy about it and put it down to a phase!^^^ same here i'm 18 and my girlfriend is 23 i was 17 when we got together . if you have an age limit, whatever works for you. it has only been a short 6 months but iv been feeling insecure about this relationship since the beginning. whoever goes to heaven first, i and my husband will bless each other’s happiness with no offense towards remain one’s future with someone or things. only now have i come to tell them i hear and respect their opinion, but am going to be with who makes me happy. so i asked, not forcing, if my boyfriend willing to change his religion into christian and he said yes. i not only have the love of my life right beside me, but we are both coming into the next chapter of our relationsh! not only his age, but they picture him as being the stereotypical older man who is using a girl for sex. it was just an opportunity that i didn't think would yield any thing more, but we just click now. four years is no big deal when you're older, but an 18-year-old dating a 14-year-old is just not a good idea--for lots of reasons. anyway, we are now back together, things have never been better, we love each other more than words can describe. way we feel about each other is just an amazing feeling. are by no means your typical couple in the south, and most people think i'm with him for money, (he's not rich! a lot of emotion and feeling we have for each together . soul mate was brought to me by the universe and he is 39 now i am 25. set him up with some thugs that eventually stole his life savings and murdered him. my bf of 6 months has made me realize and value life in so many different ways. i’m very happy and love my man too much, but don’t wanna regret “wasting” my whole 20’s, and not getting to live life. she is so funny, down to earth, so clean minded and moral i was amazed. 23 years old my boyfriend is 17 in feb 5 2016 his gonna 18 years old its bad me being with him in some point i love him alot i have 2 kids and im divorce and he got a babyboy but im scared tp get in troble with the law cause his younger. we have such a cultural background difference and age gap and religion but every time we talk we compliment each other. will tell my family this coming week when they visit, and i’m scared. applied for a job on a farm, and my boss and i liked each other right away, though we knew it was risky. he's from a religious family; his dad is/was a pastor. not illegal when you're 16 if you live in north america. i also hear alot, "that's like a 25 year old dating a new born! i told her i understood because i was seeing a guy and he had to leave to go back after 6 months. i'm a student in college and he's a doctor and a surgeon. but in the end you want to marry for love and nothing else. because, you know, my mom looks about 20 years younger than her actual age. now after almost losing the love of my life i'm not so sure anymore. it was the most beautiful sunrise i have ever seen. okay i'm the same age and in love with a 31 year old.. i am thinking of what i should tell her when we meet, and hope a preplanned response might be the best thing to prepare for our first meet. i'm turning 25/filipina this year and my english bf will be 57 this march. hear about the older man/younger woman relationship quite often. i really thought when she knew my age it would be a turn off, but she cotnacted me since then and the relationship has so far blossomed. are the benefits to dating someone who’s more settled into their life? so when he would get a call during the middle of the night, i didn't know for sure if it really was an emergency or another woman. so, the age difference may cause us to break up with my life choice pending. 14 years, and i have to pinch myself every morning, to be sure i'm not dreaming. partner and i are 40 years difference in age and we get along great, we fell in love and love conquers all. if im happy, that's what should matter to her but hey in the meantime, i really wanna see how things go for us. that is so important to me and i know my mum and dad would love her if they still here. there are so many challenges in even the most seemingly perfect relationship, so who gives a rip about age. there i was looking at this site because the love of my life is 29 years older than i am. i am tempted to just go with it and see where it leads, but how many would i hurt by doing that. that would not have been a deal breaker if he had only shown me some attention, there are ways but he chose to make me suffer to. he reply with all his charisma: “i always start with friendship. yet, i also met some mature cool people, who realized true life, soul, love. looking back i wish i had just been with the man i loved, but i wanted children and a ‘normal’ relationship.’m 25, my fiance is 47, going on 5 years now, and have a 3 year old together. am 26 years old and i had romantic relations with a man, who was 62. if you fill this in, you will be marked as a spammer.'ve been with the man i love who is 17 years older than me for 35 years. if you'd have asked me 6 weeks ago i would have said age matters not. dint mean to put you on the spot, but your post and examples made me super curious! i mean i'm still pushing forward in life, by all means i wont stop due to some hurdles i'm much stronger than that. best of luck dear, please be safe and think about the decisions you are making.'m a 51 year old gay man who is leaving a four-year relationship with a wonderful 28 year old man. the thing that complicated this also was the fact that my child's father still lived in my apartment but it was a bad relationship long done we where just stuck with each other for a little while." (my own internalized acceptance of cerain social stigmas i guess and the fear of what others might think/say. he agreed and loved how i explain everything to him, rather than create a meaningless emotional over-drive of an argument(like most other women/men do). if he is still alive when my parents die it might be ok, because i would have someone (him). might also find that developing additional friendships with women closer to your own age might lessen your attraction to your 14-year-old acquaintance. ,im 20 year old girl (mature for my age) and my best guy friend for the past 9 years and i have gotten closer than usual ,in face we are sort of spending too much time together and that friend idea we both had is sort of going away, i mean we still feel that we are the same people looking out for the other and being funny and sarcastic and playing, but at time we get very close, but it work cause we can clearly say that we make each other happy. a woman who can "hold her own" with grace and style is the epitome of sexiness.’m 27 and my partner is 54 i really enjoyed reading your article it’s so nice to see that i’m not the only one out there that has similar thoughts on dating older men. in order to post comments, please make sure javascript and cookies are enabled, and reload the page. he got alzheimer's while we were in school and past away a year later. but as time went on, i learned to love and appreciate him so much, he is the nicest, most patient man i've ever met, and good looking too! we have been together for a few weeks now and we really enjoy each others company. when he asks (and i know he will because he has said he will ask if it all goes well when i move in) i'm going to say yes. he has three sons from a previus marriage whom he adores and he would like more. he left his wife of 20 years and kids to be with me. unlike you i do not really have support from most of my family. i have to say too that the break-up when i left was completely drama free… we were disappointed, of course, but it wasn't dramatic or heart-breaking, it was just the right choice for us. i’m sure you and your boyfriend had to overcome a lot of obstacles, not just from society, but because you guys are from completely different generations and are at different points in your life. have told her that i think it is unwise to keep seeing each other now as i am in love with her as she is with me but i see no long term future for us. right now we have that but who knows what a move would bring? sex is bad because im very sexual and he cums fast all the time and he dont pleasure me. maybe i will regret this decision one day, but if so i need to figure that out for myself and not from my family. other people don't get to make your life decisions for you. personally, i just think you ought to be in college if you're not already and dating an up and coming guy who is hot and on his way to becoming something. when we are together it is like there is a rope pulling us together and when we are apart he gets confused again i am really not sure of what to do next as i love him very much and do not want to push him away for good! over time i forgave the man who try to do this to me because that's what god would want me to do plus he did stop. i love every moment i spend with him and i know its cliche to say. met him last year in september and never thought it would turn into something romantic. she is ok with that and she tells me that she loves me. i grew up similar to you, no real abnormal family issues, we were close knit, and i had just gotten out of a relationship with someone my age before meeting him. there are 2 years and 7 months between us is that wrong ? he has asked me to move in with him and i will do after i've finished college in the summer this year. things that happen when you (finally) get your own apartment. i was 17 and flying by myself, i met a man at an airport who was 37. i ended up moving in with him and telling my family and friends that i made my decision and don’t care what they have to say.! first of all, i’m glad you and your boyfriend are in a seemingly happy and healthy relationship (also, side compliment – you look like a healthy lindsay lohan). our relationship is so open and honest, full of compassion and thoughtfulness that i am confident that i have made the right choice in pursuing it. it seems that i attract all these older men i mean 35+ and i feel like i'm missing out on someone my own age. but i didn’t know how he felt about it and i didn’t want to make it weird so i kept my feelings to myself. and when my husband and his daughter are together, it seems like i don't exist. and it is working to the point that she says it will be so difficult to keep her hands off me.. when you realize that you’re ten years older than his daughter, ummm yeahhhhhh….. however when i'm with him and when we talk and relate i feel none of my 51 years nor do i feel him as a 20 year old.'m a 21 year old femme & have been dating a 16-years-older butch for more than a year. i felt vulnerable so i told him that trust is something earned if he wanted me to believe him. right now we are planning to get married by august.[…] true story: i’m dating a (significantly) older man – yes … – miss. at that moment i thought: “this man is going to speak with you, careful.

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