Is he still interested in dating me

Is he losing interest in me dating

paul 3 years ago from michigan"an interested man wants to do nice things for the woman who has caught his fancy. i limed with his crew as they were my cousins. he said no, and when i asked if he is talking to other women too, he also denied and said i don’t need to worry because we are good, we are having a great time and that he is being honest. the next morning i asked why he always tried to meet me during weekdays and he said it was just a coincidence cos his weekends would get so busy. so things continue like normal after that but he still does things that are really confusing me. soon after i realise my shyness, my inability to talk to him, to properly answer his questions comes across as me being cold. and he asked me i really cooked the foods and he ate every foods i cooked even some are burnt and some are too salty . i’m no saint though i go on match too but i’m different and it bothers me he uses it that much. plus hes around a lot of girls that seem popular plus he’s a football player. i tried asking him if he wanted to hang out this sumer just as friends but he never got back to me so i feel stupid and shouldn’t of bothered. he even knew where i was, which i thought that was kinda odd. i used to be quiet when drunk, he would try to get me to tell him about myself. many times, men and women play games with one another where one doesn’t want to feel vulnerable, by putting their feelings out there, so both people can end up playing mind games and pretending not to care. we hung out the 3rd time and he seemed different. but it was shocking to see what all he had been doing during that time and i was completely in the dark about it. but when i see him in public he’s all nice and flirty to me. the next morning he begged to meet me and we agreed to brunch on sunday (9 jan). okay first off red flag for him when getting too excited bout your friend and talking bout her all the time.. because i love with another boy more handsome than him,,,me and him always have competition to get the best rank. keep your options open and don’t care too much about what the men do…care about how it makes you feel. i mentioned before, i assumed we were exclusive when we had that talk and worked things out (in late nov 2013). if i see him again, and he asks how i am, should i lie and tell him i’m doing well, or should i tell him the truth and tell him i miss him? so for the last two weeks i have been working on my self. he is nice and friendly and he likes to make this type of jokes to girls. i didn’t feel the way i did with him. lol, he asked to hug me again and i said yes. a month later while we had drank a bit after a romantic dinner he had told me that he is curious about other woman , wants to experience other ppl & misses the chase…i was shocked all the while he was telling me this, he wouldn’t look me in the eye. think about being married to someone like that and what it could do to you. on facebook, if you know where it shows friends box and few people, well he sometimes pops up on random things on my facebook page and it feels like he goes to look at my page but i’m not sure. it’s foolish to assume we’re all the same. never give them what they want, a great relationship is built up on friendship then love, and sex comes much later.! this after he tells me he’s the luckiest man to have a great catch like me. she was at my mother’s for old years service. i asked him after, he called me in his room. there’s evidence that he may be talking to an ex….’ve been in my relationship for 3 years now and he won’t touch me., so i feel like when i’m hanging with my boyfriend and his friends he wants me to disappear or something, i don’t know the right word to use, yea he talks to me but it feels like there’s a barrier, he won’t hold my hand, or act affectionate, and i don’t know how to bring it up with him, how do you explain to a guy that you want to be acknowledged, you want to hold hands in public, u want ur pictures put up on instagram, u want him to give u a bit of attention and actually talk to uu even when we hanging out with others without sounding childish. he took a while to explain how he's different from other guys, how all of his exes are good with him and he left all of them i asked him what is he scared off. guy, never stoped talking to me and now he never “has time”. so i hope to call him but he usually ends up falling asleep before i even have the chance to. he was behaving weird with just me like fighting for silly reason n not speaking for months however with others he was not. he is always attentive in the; beginning provides basic necessities- food, medicine when im sick ask me about ma day, but i feel like when we are together in person he never really listens to what i say or that he is closed off most times. we agreed that we’d tell each other as soon as we slept with anyone else for health reasons. i’m not too sure because he was willing to have a baby with me if i let him, deff not ready now! he finally set up some time for us to talk, but i was frustrated that at this point, he had already given his landlord 30 days notice. he then said, “maybe i am looking for a committed relationship and i just haven’t found the person to have that with yet. that’s a bit confusing…if you’re not happy with his behavior and he doesn’t show interest in changing some things, then 9 months is plenty of time to know whether it’s time to move on. he may think you should seek professional help for it first before you try exploring a relationship with him. but i’m still not sure, i know i’m his type and everything. we’re going out on saturdah and i’m getting to the point now where i’m thinking…what’s the point in even going out if he’s going to be like that with me? perhaps the friendship ran its course for him – but he doesn’t have ill feelings toward you – so he jokes with you sometimes. and he took it and smiled saying thank you, and he walked away smiling, i felt so good after that, i was hoping he’d talk to me the next day, but no…then so on and so, no talking has ever happened between since…. never initiates a conversation and it’s kinda leaving me confused. you have some things to think about…i wish you the best. stick to your own values and don’t let your feelings for him make you so weak that you do whatever he wants. you might need to decide, at least for the interim, what you are going to be to him. of the boys at school started talking to me early this year. his title on the site is “just looking” but his goal is to “fall in love”…. we spend minutes together in that a day and it is because i engage him most of the time. was like hey bobby and he was like hey caroline. i cant figure out #1 if he likes me & #2 y hasnt he asked me out. the daily matches argument/excuse is about as weak as they come. i liked this guy in sixth grade and i still do given im n sevnth but he is givin me mixed signs what to do. i’m just really confused because he did tell me that he was interested in me and i told him also. i do hope to hear back from you about my situation, you seem to have solid and sincere advice. today i don’t wanna meet him and i hardly call. and she said when they asked who he was she said ” b. i would see him night before he left for his underway then when he got back we continued where we left off. guys will say they love you if they feel it, don’t ever think you have to ask him or force him to say it. ( i saw him do it when i looked backed ) sooo, after we pulled off around the front of the apartments he was walking back to his place. does joey answer some people the day of their post and mia has been waiting for weeks! he is legally separated and his ex-wife lives in the bottom floor apartment and he lives on the second floor. then 3 days later i see him at a football game with her. i played stupid and said i had thought that was the plan from the start. there is this guy, we started texting for a while and he was so sweet. tease each other constantly, we can talk for hours without getting bored.! i was head over heels for him but then i found out he was out with another girl one night and had sex. were in the break room upstairs and i was texting, he started laughing and here’s the conversation. i just feel bad for her because i feel free now and i have a feeling she is even more into him then i was. maree – i think from a guy’s point of view it can be, at least in some small part, a commitment issue. but how do i know that when he hasn’t called me or ask how i’m doing? but what if he doesn’t… i cannot go on for years knowing the profile is there. one day he asks me if i want to go to the shops and his eyes go red when i politely say i am going with somebody else. i feel that it is his way of letting me know that he is not doing anything behind my back and is totally honest. met a coupld more times and then slept together, its not something i do easily at alllllllllll, it just felt right at the time. raunchy girls are the type guys like to have sex with and then walk away from. so, after two months and three weekend-long visits/dates, but knowing that he is slow to commit, when is a reasonable time to have “the talk”? there is even a way to solve this problem, please do help out this poor soul. and also he’s seen my past snapchat stories and he usually asks about them but he hasn’t so but yet the other day he started a snap streak with me…. some guys love that feeling and crave it as well as seek it else where time and time again till they are satisfied and no longer crave the first love reaction, an old love does nothing for them unless you both make it exciting again… but this is a hard one, how ? i got up to see him in his bedroom sleeping ( the door always open). 3 years ago i mean i can't walk in peace without being stared at auto correcrt. we’ve been on several dates, had sex several times . he said no but we became friends and then after sometime we were in a relationship. i told him its ok and he can if he likes and he said he pinky promises to. i’ve been called beautiful and pretty and stuff, but i’m just insecure at times. you also should cut down time with him, it will make your time together more meaningful. he told me the thing’s he told my fake profile weren’t true – ‘i was obviously trying to pick her up – would i tell her i am seeing or sleeping with someone? i would rather have someone that challenges me and pushed me to be a better person every day, and i intend to do the same. avoiding her made sense to me because the further away i was from her the more calm i was haha..as he never asks me out again…since the 1st date. when ever i tell him how i feel he says i am nagging. read/listen to ravi zacharias, who specializes in these type of philosophical debates. he knows too because he knows my phone feelings and he prefers it. if you want to know if you are worth it to him, stop sleeping with him or asking him to spend time together. then throughout the night, he’d touch my back when he walked by me, etc. he seems to make an effort not to run away. so i guess he’s basically telling me that he’s not interested anymore.” he goes, “aww 🙂 you like me so much to delete it. because i think he definitely was before but ever since he quit and i’ve only been talking to him on facebook it seems different. doesn’t he realise i am losing trust in him? if we want to be treated well but give someone second, third, and fourth chances, we've already proven that being treated well is less important to us than simply keeping them around. the problem is that he now knows that i like him or atleast he can see that i do because i’ve been pretty obvious around him.. tell him i liked him too even thought i didn't say it when he did? he really seems like he likes me, and he shows all the “signs”, but he has a girlfriend… he touches me a lot, makes physical contact, and even holds eye contact for more than 5 seconds. if you answered yes, you’d honor his wishes to improve his life and give him some space. i’d hope that he’d respond positively and remove it. and then he texted me out of the blue and said he was drinking not too far from where i live and was wondering if we could meet up to which i said no way cause i had plans and he was bummed about my answer. comfort sometimes comes right from the get-go, but it also can come over time. he's definitely positioning you for missionary position, not marriage," says frances. just be sure he understands no romance until you’re more comfortable. i honestly wasn’t talking to them this way to be flirtatious, but it came off that way. don't agree to "hang out," "chill together," or anything less than a full date. it really didn’t come up again for quite a while. i am not sure what he means by ” i care very much about you”. however, if he thinks affection is childish – that’s a big red flag. purposely met up with me at the door so he could open it for me!! he keeps on repeating himself about the not wanting a relationship and im at the point that i dont respond because i get it! jenn – i actually touch on this issue a bit in my article on when a guy disappears after a few dates. – i think it’s likely that he’ll find another excuse, but you can explain to him how to hide his profile: log into match then click profile then settings and then set the profile to hidden. would it be acceptable if he continued to go along to such events and chat and flirt with other girls? he will however be stood up by the imaginary women, then the following day, i will tell him that i am no longer interested in seeing him. don’t have any idea if he likes you or not. he even came inside to meet my parents (he was so nervous) but unfortunately, they went to bed before we got there. 2 years ago from usai can't say "all" men are standard, but i'll say that these are very common themes. it became obvious to others that he was spending a lot of time at my desk and i got wind of some rumors around the office. and ” do i annoy you when i talk to you, you act real stand- offish and uninterested “. do you think he might think i dont like him as much? teases me a lot, does lil pranks on me, and every time we would walk by each other, we smile or laugh for no reason. until the conversation happens, i would say it is fair for a guy to keep his profile up. so i said i cant speak now can he call me later. i was thrilled 🙂 but then, he was charged with another 6 month subscription – despite the fact that he had cancelled. so far there have been duds but i took your advice and if they mention sex right away i walk. i contacted him on th and said that i accepted that we didn’t work out and wished him the best and that i wasn’t mad anymore. he jokes around with me sometimes especially before he goes to bed by calling me a nickname and stuff . but of course, he didn’t seem to mind from the looks of it because he probably just got to know me better. some guys start getting all werid once you tell them u like or ask them do they like you.? too but in all our conversation he talks about his ex too much and that get ? it’s a good thing to care for someone so deeply. it doesn’t seem to follow a natural progression so something may be up. the day we were supposed to exchange gifts he couldn’t be there cause he had the flu but he was so concerned that i want going to get my present that he came in that morning and dropped it off with a 100 degree fever. his facebook page and his relationship status says involved with another girl. he has tried to talk to me through text before that but i avoided him and didn’t show him any feelings. perhaps you both can eat lunch together at school, just the two of you. i was actually kinda surprised cause we did that the 2nd time we met and during the summer, it felt like he wasn’t interested in me cause he didn’t talked to me as much and if he did it was short. they’ve been broken up for six years now and from what i’ve heard…the relationship was doome . at the same time i don’t want to be a mug. he helped with my car, helped paint the shutters of my fathers house, my father is getting old now and it meant so much to me, he even helped with other things around the house, he said he “liked to take care of me. then two days ago i was talking to him and he said he wanted to lay down because he had a bad headache so i said ok i'll talk to you later.' if there is none of that talk, then usually they're not seeing you as that kind of romantic candidate. it sounds like he’s assuming you’d continue to date other people because you spent the money even if you found someone you wanted to date exclusively and that makes no sense to me. i think doing this can be beneficial because a) you might find a great guy who does want to commit or b) he might realize how much it sucks to have the person you’re dating to be open to dating other people. he didn’t respond it turns out he met this other chick which is ok i’m not upset cause all i had was a crush. so by the second night we had realized that both him and myself had a lot in common. i have been played… so why did i get so emotionally attached so quick and why am i letting it bother me so much. i think that's a great idea to ask what he's looking for in a relationship if we're both interested in each other, although at this point my interest level is definitely not the same as it was 2 months ago. think that many guys who use internet dating think of it as a “smorgesbord” and feel that it is their right to taste everything on offer! couple of weeks ago i read d conversations of mine n him it ws lik i had been so rude n mean to him so i feel lik asking sorry for tat bt shld i ask him sorry because i dont txt him n i dont want to disturb him because he asked me not to disturb him but i really want to ask sry and am so confused i dono wat to do plz help me out. he recommended a club where he does gigs to me, to which i asked him to let me know when he is playing but he has not done so as yet. now i know what you’re thinking, and no i am not going to show up and jump out of the bushes. said he doesn’t talk to anyone else on the phone like hd can to me. he said that it was everything about me that turned his heart around and brought out the person he used to be a long time ago, and that he absolutely did not want to lose me. he hasn’t texted me in about 2 days now and i can’t tell if he’s loosing interest or if i’m just paranoid? if their marriage wasn’t good, it’s reasonable that his grieving process may be affected by that. he may surprise her with a small gift that reminded him of her. now in the position where i dont know what to do now??I am so confused and torn and i love every minute i am with him when i actually get time to spend with him, but i think the feeling of all the in between times of seeing him and the what if’s and buts, are starting to over power my feelings and energy to really want to try and make this work. i said ok well i guess i’ll see you when you get back. focus on your own life, your friends, things that make you happy in the mean time. he just had long stop yesterday when i said i had to go, silent for few minutes and held my hand, i really hoped he would say something, but at the end he just kissed me and had sex again. it’s just what always happens to me and i really would appreciate it if you would tell me what my next move should be and how this should turn out/how he feels and what he may be thinking. didn’t kiss him that night but the next day he came around and we went to my room i turned out the lights and just played blindfold in the dark aha it’s our fave game and he pushed me on top of him on my bed and i flipped my hair onto one shoulder and then he kissed me but it wasn’t a peck it was full on tongue in and everything but here’s where i got pissed off and upset and confused. thankfully since i ignored the fb message i mentioned, she has not messaged me any personal messages or made attempts to start conversations per say, her only communication has been two messages with just the links to articles and no nonsense that she usually sends so that was cool and left me not feeling obliged to respond. help 3 years ago i got to know a guy online and he seemed interested. i always feel better after getting something big out in the open with boyfriend. instead, remain friendly and open to everyone, and be available for the man who is really interested in you and lets you know it every time he has a chance. he then posts a heart i my inbox saying he fancies me and i told him the same and weve been on skype during all of this flirting and getting to know each other. re-enable your profile, let him know that you no longer consider your relationship exclusive but you hope to continue to date him, and then start looking for other guys to date. for example, the next time he looks at you, hold your eye contact for a second, and smile. he has stopped by several times regarding work and once just because i needed his help. pulled up the chair in front of the counter and started talking to me. it’s hard to judge why his profile is up otherwise – it might be because he’s still looking to date others or it might just be that he’s forgotten about it.. there’s no difference between how he talks to you vs. those you mention is exactly one guy is doing to me . the fact he telling you “loves you as a sister” is his way of letting you know he does not have romantic interest in you but is sending mixed signals with his hugs and holding your hands. then we flirted again after that and the next day i messaged him (heard nothing) then sent another (heard nothing) what i wanna know is what the hell is his game? i think he might like me, but then i think about how he is a pretty boy, fit, muscular, and hes about two inches shorter than me. he said that’s fine cos him & his friends would go back to the city in any case. i mean, he touches and hugs them casually with no problem, he compliments them a lot, he’s kind and he like all of their pictures on facebook? his facebook not has many activities from other girls, and no add activity from other girl from my country. (i know its hard but hold your chin up and walk away with pride act like the grown up that you are). finally he texted me after i asked him to please just tell me its over and he did clarify at that point. i think he likes me because he comments about my eyes, always gives me direct eye contact, sits near me, makes jokes with me, teases me, and we just feel comfortable with each other. he doesnt talk to anyone else like he does to me, i am sure of that. other times it can be he wants attention from women without having to settle for one. instead of taking the hint she tried to adapt and find a work around, and resorted to asking random questions that she hoped would at the very least arouse my curiosity e. it always starts off about work then rolls into a personal conversation. worse, you may start having power struggles that provoke arguments and resentments. he told me he was the luckiest guy in the world to have a great catch like me’. really like him i just need your help on how to make him like me back. he had a short relationship with another woman durring this time …. upset, he asked me later what was wrong and i told him. he had a couple of messages received – one of which was from my fake profile. i said i had to do some things with my mother lol. choose your boyfriend wisely next time, and learn from past experiences…oh, and don’t harbor any ill feelings toward him at all.. signs you need to watch out: was he into you when you asked him out. guys use women all the time because it’s easier than establishing boundaries, which they often don’t know how to do – or if they even should. the best way to find out if they *are* interested in you is to smile, say hello, and be ready to join them if they suggest doing something together. so that is the bad news - he is not interested in being with you. he will be so confused as to why you aren’t giving him the time of day. had trouble getting her on the phone as thats something shes uncomfortable with and shes unsure about being able to visit cause of money going towards a course. he says hes not dating/sleeping with anyone else but why is he still online? he pointed out to me the other day that he has a hard time showing affection and was asking why i stayed with him. guess i’m concerned because it seems like he logs onto match when we’re both at work. the other day i did have to make a little remark where i said, you know…i know you arent in this for the long hall, (i only said this because when he told me he loved me, he also said…”this doesnt mean i necessarily feel i want to spent the rest of my life with you…wtf? him and i are both on the wim team but we go to different schools that are like 10 miles apart. we have been itimate and he told me he hasn’t been with anyone since he broke off his engagement last summer. he tells me that i’m important to him and he loves never and cares but then turns right back around and will literally tell me “i really just don’t care, just being honest, i mean what am i supposed to do” when i tell him something such as how i’m really not feeling good. he’s probably thinking he has you if he wants you when he returns – maybe for a relationship, maybe just to have sex with. he spend the whole time kissing on my neck and nibbling my ears. (just to be clear, the letter is flattering for him and is like a poem, without being one). my husband is the only person who i've ever been tongue-tied around!, women are getting so daring now a days” or ” you have to see this girl its ridiculous”, also when i talk to him sometimes he doesn’t even look at me, nor respond and im feeling like the distance is growing, he is like in this little world sometimes and i feel left in the cold, we have been together a month and wonder if im over analyzing things,he also recently spoke to one of his friends for (reference sake call his friend “bob”) about a comment i made on one of bobs pics and refered to me as “this girl” not his “girlfriend” or even by name…quote from the convo “this girl said you looked goo in your picture”. although everyone dislikes rejection, most men have learned how to brace themselves for it when it comes to asking a woman for her number or inviting her on a date.. one day he is out sick and so i find the courage to send him a nice text sayin that i have his number from work and i hope he doesn't mind, but if he does 'please let me know'. however, a few months back, we met briefly since he was around the area. i do wish i gave him the 30 days that i’ve read so much about since this happened. is not clear, don’t confuse yourself walk away nursing a broken heart ain’t no joke…. do not let yourself move from being interested to being committed without making sure he's there, too. a commentyou must sign in to commentto comment on this article, you must sign in or sign up and post using a hubpages network account. who’s to say there aren’t other profiles out there that i am not even aware of? he doesn’t kiss me during sex anymore, hardly caressing no passion. question is–why do guys that have their own mental issues put women down? i should have called him on that there but i was so excited that he final said he was dating me. cos he seems to think of me when he’s down & out! it seems that this was the choice he was making prior to you making an issue of it so i really don’t think your actions need much scrutinizing. ‘dated’ a few guys when i decided to try the online forum. that was my last contact with her yesterday and the first time i have straight up ended up blanking her. since i see he’s on, i browse my matches but very rarely wink at anyone and don’t message people back (in all honesty, i kind of got sick of online dating and had just tried it because it seemed novel until that feeling wore off). even those i sent apologizing for something i don’t have fault in. have offered her to check my username/password to see that i do not have a subscription, told her to send me winks/emails to test it, want her to check her email message and see if her status changes, offered to call match to show my log on status, and now seeking advice. now here’s where it gets confusing because i did something that i’m not entirely sure weither its good or bad but we did it and many other things and everytime he kissed me it send shivers up my spine and i felt like i was a giant firework. you are both very young…his romantic feelings for girls in general may take more time to develop. so early this morning before he goes to work i texted him saying that the person i thought that i knew would be an adult n just say if he was not interested n that if i did something that bothered you let me know n that he can’t blame me for wondering because he kinda three me a 180. and that’s most often how the “real” world works: the days of grade school where we are forced to ask someone to “go steady” are behind us. during this whole day, all i get is a “good morning baby” around 7am and then i’ll respond and try to start a conversation, hoping that he’ll text me throughout the day. is showing that he loves you very much and that he wants to be with you so show it back because i am in a very crazy relationship i really love this boy and i dont know if he really loves me he say he does but how do i know if its true…help please ! if you couldn’t be, walking away could very well be the best option. its been 7 months now, and this past sunday we had break on sunday, he asked me how old was too old of a guy for me, he then said one of co-workers said we should go out. now he takes hours to reply one text but when i give him one word replies he still continues the conversation. it was his idea to spend the entire weekend together. some guys recognize what they have is a special thing, and they put a ring on the finger asap. although he is very laid back he is a very senior person.! such a great gift for valentines day 🙁 if he does try to sweet talk me in the future what should i do? we met on a dating site and were surprised to find that even though we live in a small town we had never met. i wrote back that he really hurt my feelings and i didn't need to be treated like that and more or less bye. my boyfriend and i have had our ups and downs but recently i have been the only one that says “i love you” anymore. a man behaves like that, he defin­itely likes you. if he has a good grade, maybe ask for his help on some homework, maybe even working out a time to work together on it. is he just keeping it a secret or is he really not interested?” your mind is so powerful – harness the power to your advantage and channel it by doing other constructive things/thoughts. he really truly think that its going to be okay with me? and this is where it seems to really bother me: we barely spoke to each other. he will take ages to reply to text, drink and start arguments and say nasty things, but apologize about it later and make sure he expresses how sorry he is, his phone will just miraculously be switched off the day he’s supposed to come over, i will analyze whether its something i may have said or done and always have a way of making excuses for him and someone always putting it back on myself thinking there was some way i could have done something different because im confused as to why these things happen because i never get any explanation. i asked him if things were still good because i really wanted things to work out between us. a friend advised me to keep dating other people, but i’ve never really worked that way… but i do feel i need to back off a bit from this man. ive never been in a serious relationship(well its not me who broke up with my ex its them, it hurts though but yeah thats past i moved on)thats why i couldnt understand whats the guy-thing. so my boyfriend who is also the biological father of my 2 year old son was texting a girl i went to school with flirting and telling her he will single i caught him doing this twice and the first time he said he did it because he was jealous that my ex had messaged me . woth all that we still had sex and continued to have sex but it’s like whenever they are going through something and i have sex with him i feel hurt because he starts treating her good. is this guy that i like and i think he is giving me signs that he likes me but it’s kind of confusing to really tell. he had cancelled his membership (and told me he was doing this) about 3 weeks ago.. ( obviously having a good chat with someone eles ) i wont be bitter and say rude things to him. if he still doesn’t make the right decision (taking his profile down), i think you may want to consider putting yours back up as well to see if you can find other people to date. been in a relationship for 6year and he left bout two weeks ago when i text him he want respond on right then . guys like a chase, and he is obviously not chasing you whatsoever. we are planning a tropical vacation in a few months, we’ve taken several weekend trips together, we’ve brought up the subject of moving in together if he doesn’t get sent away, and i’m seriously falling for him. he invited me to hang out with him at the library and we watched some short videos and stuff for like an hour and i was really getting the impression he was into me. How do you tell if he is interested in dating you exclusively? i told him i’m hurt and i need some time and space. you threw yourself into the arms of another man pretty quickly, especially right after your ex tried to fix things with you. a better you will arise in time, if you make better choices day by day, but complacency will destroy you. he would stare at me the entire lunch period & wait for me after school. have to add that he struck me to be honest and good from the very beginning, and he never gave me reason to not trust him. body language cues include: avoiding eye contact, positioning his body away from you, not engaging in the conversation (non-verbal signs of this are him not smiling while talking to you, or not nodding and showing active interest in what you’re saying), maintaining distance from you, looking around the room while talking to you… it’s usually pretty obvious when someone isn’t focused on you. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days. i went to florida for a weekend as a girls only weekend, and also went to a friends evening dinner two weekends ago and that i want to have a social life and am not giving my extra time to my son. yeah after i noticed that all , i did not stop communicating on him and believe that there’s something between us,Til now , ive already been in soo much patience, do i need to move on? 2 years ago from usasometimes you've just got to bite the bullet! if she says she’s not comfortable with that because of her past experience, i’d try to be understanding. when i am near him he never talks to me and looks extremely nervous. where has all the trust gone, now i feel he’s been doing this the entire length of our relationship? the question seemed very obvious cause of his facial expression, his voice and his body language. running so that he is not left alone with me in the kitchen.*more from glamour:photos: stocksykeywords: datingrelationshipsunderstanding menmost popularbeautyulta's biggest sale of the year is happening right nowentertainment33 movies to watch when your brain is completely friedsex-love-life5 pro-woman porn sites your vagina will thank you forhomehere's your exclusive sneak peek at target's spring 2017 home decornews and politics10 percent of female undergrads at university of texas say they were raped, according to new surveyby krystin arneson5 hours agomoviesthe love actually sequel is here to prove love really is all aroundby erin reimel8 hours agonews about inspiring womenhillary clinton has a few thoughts about the failure of the gop's health care billby erin reimel11 hours agonews and politicsgoogle is killing off gchat—but don't freak out just yetby erin reimel12 hours agohealthcolorectal cancers are increasing among millennials—7 symptoms you should knowby korin miller14 hours agohair"geode hair” is the cool new take on rainbow you’re about to see everywhereby beth shapouria day agorelatedsex-love-life5 pro-woman porn sites your vagina will thank you forsex-love-life7 sex positions that involve minimal eye contactsex-love-life10 surprisingly small changes that’ll make sure you never hit a sex slumpfollowusget up-to-the-instant updates and inspiring dispatches.?If you want someone committed to you, this doesn’t sound like the guy. i got home and we said good night but the next day i had noticed that our texting wasn’t as fun like it used to be. there was no texting and barely any talking at work for a month and then he called me up and said he wanted to meet and so we did. in the first few weeks we were together i was worried about how my daughter would react to being around a new guy. read through some blogs on other people’s experiences with gut-wrenching breakups, it may help you feel like you’re not alone and there could be some good advice there. nevertheless, i was shocked and disappointed when he told me one morning that he had been on a date. you were a bit persistent while i guess i didn’t help matters! he’s not contacting you, then check in with him from time to time like you have been, but you may want to be more direct in terms of a possible romantic relationship with him.. if he thinks your an idiot then he doesn’t like you…. his not doing it for attention, because he would message me and not ignore me, so why has he done this ? after that, everything was going great we started to really have interest in one another, we continued texting and communicating with one another a lot more. below, she takes us through a relationship reality check to keep your head clear at every stage of the relationship:on the first date. this guy i really like, he’s in a different class than me so it’s really hard to hang out. you think you do, but i promise you that you will feel very different if you can find a counselor who can help you work on just two things: 1. 3 years ago from usaenjoy the nice attention while the two of you get to know each other. i am really looking to improve my dating skills as i have not dated very much. the only way he’ll start appreciating you is if you stop condoning his behavior and take action. if he really liked you, he wouldn’t ignore you, find reasons to leave early, etc..the girl thinking that guy likes her…but may be his ego comes jus to say that…. 2 weeks later i went clubbing with him, my friend, her bf, and some other mutual friends and this is where things get interesting and where he showed signs of being flirty. so i am on the other end of the line thinking, wtf? (my opinion is, he just doesn’t tease me because every time he does, our friends would tease us. a few may try to slither their way in anyway, enticed by the challenge. he told me he had he had come to terms with how he is feeling about me and told me he loved me on that friday night. women need to know the obvious signals to give a man so he knows they’re interested and can make an approach. it started with us emailing back and forth a few times a day for a couple of weeks, then it progressed to phone calls – some of the calls lasted 4+ hours. but the thing is we never talked about that night at all. if the guy doesn’t like those boundaries, then he doesn’t care about you and you can move on knowing you did right. if he doesn’t, he’s just scared/immature, or he just isn’t interested in that way. (nothing sexual) he always told me “if you had anything to talk about,call me,wether im at work or whatever,i wanna be there for you”! he shows numerous signs of interest but hasn’t asked you out, consider whether he may have a girlfriend (or wife!. i often got hid in his pillow when someone went to his room and talked to him. you been dating exclusively for 3 months or have you not had a talk on being exclusive? here’s a situation: this guy has known this girl for almost a year. this online dating drama made me push him & drove him ‘crazy’. are also times when i ask him something and i feel like i’m getting a cold shoulder. first off want to let you know that reading everything you have to say makes me feel so much better, it’s empowering and brings me back to reality…. went through this with my now ex bf i met in july 2011 from match.. i brought up the subject and he insisted it was nothing that he had an app on his phone and would click on it when bored but that he would remove the app. 3 years ago he sent me a void msg after nine months. the fact that he says i love you then jokingly says you are just a friend really shows how immature he is. how can i make a spark or something to see if id fall for him? at first all he seemed to be interested in is sex, yes sex sex sex, it was driving me crazy. he doesn’t always return text, but he does most of the time. he even told his friends that he had no interest in me. had too many red flags that the relationship was only gonna crash and not be the same again. okay i met a guy a month and half ago. he said he was checking for my profile and was curious. sometimes it hurts because i always think to myself someone will steal him because he is very good looking. about a week ago, i noticed that he had the pof app installed on his phone, and he just got a new phone a few days before that – so i calmly asked him about it. so i began “snooping” and found that even though after 6 months he was still using the dating site that we met on, but he is doing it from his phone so that i can’t check. meanwhile, chat up some other guys, enjoy your life and explore your interests. you should either tell him you’re interested in pursing more with him, and if he can’t, then break contact – for your own emotional health. so its just small things like that that has happened recently, and we haven’t had the chance to talk about ourselves. this worried me a little , because for we seen each other it was a daily keeping in touch. just posted on the internet ur in love with a 19 year old and u just said u didnt want to get caught by the cops….” so i told him i was going to start seeing other people…. nothing was too we did he refused to call me my name because everyone else called me that so he calls me hun pretty girl or girl or babe which he was still doing until this morning. write about why you feel such a desperate need to connect with someone after just one date, and why you continue to try to connect with someone who isn't connecting. i fixed it an i try not to look at him as much but now he doesn’t seem so much into me? i will back off and just move on when i’m told this but then a couple of weeks later i’m being contacted again by the guy. but at the end of the night, my friend told me she told him to ask me out, but i don’t want to rush things and neither does he. just relax, have fun, enjoy your life before all the responsibilities come, and get to know people! told me he wanted to marry me the other day and can you believe it i laughed at that? examples of how (i think) a girl should act are in the movies "the tall guy", and "goodfellas" (yes, really! almost feel as if i am growing walls around my heart so i don’t come out……don’t people build walls to not let anyone in? but now i just hang out like we r friends he has so much prettier friends than me on face book . i was completely honest with him that i had looked him up, and he told me that he ex-wife took his old computer after they split up and that’s the computer he had used to sign up. does he act the same way with other girls / women ? and my rule for kate is “just let me know what you’re thinking”. why don’t you just “joke” back with him and say “so…when are we getting married? before i liked him his freind would stare at me a lot too. your relationship may need some work, like boundaries, counsel, one-on-one communication, etc. talked to this guy almost a year , but until now he doesnt open up something peronal about himself. come to find out that she was actually his online girlfriend. either i meet someone whom i dot feel at ease with but in26 yrs never met someone whom i will like and for a serious relationship. we ended up sleeping together and he spent the night at my place. if he can’t answer where you stand after your first conversation don’t go and demand to know by such-and-such a date. i thought everything was great his parents know all about me i’ve met his friends and some family. me and this boy his name is brandon holmes,we were talking for about 3 or 5 weeks now,then all of a sudden he stopped talking to me and that me upset. even though i told him that was one of the conditions for me if we were going to live together. sometimes you just have to put your heart out there you know? sure, there is a degree of romance in having the guy take down the profile on his own. it took me two weeks to get over the shock and start seeing things clearly. im not sure what site i met him on or if he is even on a dating site now. i just have no idea what to do anymore…he is acting like everything is good other than my crazy moodiness lately (i think some of it has to deal with him and the other is just a mix of things bothering me). i talk to him and he seems annoyed or when he says hi it seems fake or he’s mocking the way i greet people. when a day ago he made a point in asking me how it was going on the site. been talking to this guy for a week,when we met we had a god time & stuff. i’m wondering is he over me or is he playing some kind of game. more thing i forgot to add is he goes to a different school than me but lives near my family members house. he’s spoken a lot about his parents and himself and his friends and his work.’m really confused because he talks with a lot of girls but as soon as he’s sitting next to me he gets uncomfortable…. if you focus your time/energy on why a guy suddenly doesn’t like you, you will sink further. there’s more about me and he knows all of it well most of it. but after then i was the only one initiating contact. i live like 15 min from him, yet he says it like we live in different states. at this time he posted that he was “single” on ok and so did i. mine is pretty similar however, like most others, i really don’t know how to handle it. some guys have been seriously hurt in relationships and it’ll make it tough for them to trust someone else. he deleted alot of stuff including a haircut pic which is like a yearly thing that he posts pics before in the before pic i said don’t you dare on the comment. he answered back telling me that he knew i’d been online too. but he said he’s not interested but i just can’t believe him from thai behaviour. who knows, it may just be the “wake-up call” he needs to jumpstart positive change in his life. You like him but he still isn’t making moves. quite often i find him looking at me and we’ll make eye contact then i always look away. there will come a point that you will need to draw a line and make ultimatums but i’m not convinced one month into the relationship is that time (especially if you think you’ve found a great guy). if you would like a man to keep his hands to himself, then i don’t think it’s asking much. since then i have been the happiest girl on earth and i am so in love i have never been. live in hope that not everyone is the same and that there are genuine men out there. i think that when people forgive things they actually do not appreciate at all and keeping doing such (and also making excuses for the person), they are doing themselves and the other person a disservice. 6 months into the relationship, i told him i needed a break – that seeing him searching for the next best thing (as i saw it) was hurting me. he came round said a bit later it was obvious as soon as he walked through the door that we liked each other. he likes you as a person and wants you to stay in his life as a friend, but doesn’t like-like you. i did not say celebrate what and that is when he said, oh i am sorry, i forgot your birthday. except i’m always the one starting the conversation and asking the questions. i guess the details of everything doesn’t really matter, i don’t trust him to be faithful to me long term, and i don’t trust him to be truthful with me. the verbal commitment has been made though, which is good.. we had a date planned but he called and canceled and that friday he disappeared and i text him sat morning around 10 and asked him where did you go ,, he said the bar and now i’m on my way to houston for my job…. he’s opened up to me about lots of deep emotional things. after like 2 days i had to talk to him and i did work up the courage to do so, i turned around and said, hey. ok not talking then i thought fine by me, so just left it at that, then low and behold out of no where he shares my timeline, direct link to my time line on his page ? he doesnt call her any pet names i can see. make sure what he told you matches up with the background check.: what he said was extremely out of character-throughout our year together he’s very loving & respectful. many times she ‘broke up’ with him via text, and then would come over later that day and have sex with him. anyways he’s been acting really rude and disrespectful for a while now and i always let it pass but i’m getting tired of it, yet i always go back to him. if he doesn’t make time for you, don’t make time for you. however, like every other guy, he didn’t give a damn about me…even if i worked hard to improve both my physical appearance and my personality! and i finally sent him a text asking him is it that he didn’t like me? your intentions are good…but guys too often look at women as objects instead of people. she is kind of the type of person that has the personallity of “look at me, i’m the best, and no one is better than me. and i also don’t have time for games anymore. is when we’re not alone and when he’s with mates he always goes on about the girl he’s messaging like its a disguise covering us up and stuff. the best way to not get into a sexual situation that you're not ready for and keep him on simmer is: do not invite him indoors or go indoors with him on those first three dates. i offered to come his way after my game and let him borrow some money – 80 bucks to be excat – yes, fool move. also when i would try planning to hang out he cant or doesnt seem to try. am however resloved to not message him again till he messages me. but the past couple of time that he has said let’s chill he never texts with a time and i’ll texts him to ask if we r and never texts back.)the italians have an expression - "rob me once - shame on you. if he’s showing signs of interest, but not acting on them, there’s a reason. days,it’s just the customary “hi”or a few awkward glances. after one day when he we had a long chat and he paid special attention to me, he started to become cold again. i got a little nervouse when i saw him last but in a cute way. i told him i hope it worked out and wished him the best of happiness..he seemed to be very attentive to my messages and everythin else but since he found out my age. a fear of commitment, soaked with very, very committed conversation and feelings?, we went camping last week and i noticed he was texting another girl while i was curled up next to him but i didnt say anything, i didnt really see what they were talking about it but it made me kinda concerned. yeah, a deleted profile would be best (or updated text) but at least he has it heading in the right direction. each time we fight i was the person asking for forgiveness n requesting to speak. he didnt say nothing , he was looking down at the ground. i tried to leave but he insisted on trying to make things better & talk. i confronted him about and he said he was deleting it and,and i better start acting right. he replied jokingly asking if i stalk him haha and that he didn’t know why because he turned off his roaming of data to not have a cost explosion. he arranged his weekends with mine since we are both divorced and have children. we just did our first vacation together, and he brought up that how can i not trust him after we just did all that, and we’re so close bla bla bla, we’ve come so far…. tips for women,Flirting tips for shy girls,Flirting tips for teenagers,How do you know if a guy likes you,How to tell if a guy is attracted to you,How to tell if a guy likes you,Signs he does not like you,662 comments… add one., often online dating doesn’t match the real world and i think that in some cases waiting for the commitment/respect to happen naturally is going to be a frustrating experience. i was upset because i didn’t know if that meant that we couldn’t hang out as friends either although since it’s been two months since that conversation, i think he meant that. pretty sure he saw me crying but all he did was play basketball. i confronted him about it, we broke up, and then he came crawling back to me 2 weeks later and deleted his okcupid profile. however, it sounds like you’re going to want to move the relationship to a bit more commitment sooner rather than later., so there’s this guy i really like but i don’t know if he likes me. i saw that his profile was still up, which was a bummer since he said he would take it down and he hadn’t. the only interaction i have had with match is when i open to delete the wink/emails sent to my personal yahoo account. this morning i texted him the usual good morning text, please be safe out there etc. i admitted it to her and felt bad about it but all she could say was if you like him then that’s okay with me. did a very filtered search on the website and discovered a replica account without a public picture. you care for him and while some of his actions declare he feels the same way, other actions make things less clear. have both been under a lot of pressure and stress this past year and i haven’t had the guts to bring it up. i do not want to be drastic or create drama, but clearly he does not want this relationship right now or he would not use me as the thorn in the side when he applies time elsewhere. he told my fake profile in his last email 2 days back that there was no spark between us & that’s why he kept it casual. told me the first day i hadnt talked to him that he forgot his phone at his friends, and id like to believe him but now 2 more days of him not talking to me much i dont know what to think… my friends tell me to give him space so im gonna work on not trying to contact him as much today. 2months later, i feel sorta better then he startd pestering bout us dating again so i agreed then i notice he only wants to visit @ night and he smokes pot . what does this mean is he just shy like everyone says?’d even heard from some people that he apparently liked me for a while but then again that could be a joke. he also told me at night that he’s missing challenge in his life. it’s always a good thing to be honest with the guy and let him know where you stand. life is precious, you wouldn’t know what you are missing out by wasting your time with garbage people like these. i’m an atheist, but if ever there’s someone up there he must be laughing right now! they’ve now been happily married for over 25 yrs and have kids and grandkids. i was thinking of sealing the deal the second time we see each other. and yes, even hang out with him and his friends too…there’s got to be something you can do–super bowl party, whatever. i know a lot about him and he knows a lot about me., my friend, who is a couple years younger than us, admitted to liking him as well on the last night. i am trying my hardest not to bring this up again, but the recent picture really has me thrown for a loop., now he lives a lot closer than he did when i first met him (he’s started going to a college nearby). or only if were in group convos akd he says something funny, or just to be more pissed because i cant take not being liked lol. he was so mad at me and recently too he said i screwed things up by doing checking her profile and stuff. you would think he would have the decency to say why…but he is a guy and they are a different species. he wants to keep talking to other women, which could eventually end your relationship, but in the mean time he wasn’t to continue with you. i have caught him staring at me, praising little things i do to others, he sometimes goes beyond to do little things for me even complimenting me on my looks casually but sometimes he would just ignore me completely. since i feel that really good advice would require me to understand the relationship on some personal level, i can’t tell you exactly how to approach the situation. he got mad and i told him i was not giving up on us just dont wanna break my heart. although, you don’t want him hanging on you, smothering you all the time, always talking to you and petting you while out with friends, etc. if anyone could offer up some dating advice i would really appreciate it. he was with a bad crew, my other cousins, he started drinking and he still does. i’ve never never never dated someone younger… he’s 21 fresh out of college and i’m 24. maybe once you know where he stands, it will make it easier for you to make a decision? he comes to my table gave this older person a slap cheek to cheek hug when he didn’t talk to her at all. he said he wasn’t seeing anyone but me at present, but he wanted that option open. but i think he likes you and your making his day a lot more intresting because he gets to play with you . we have hung out 5 times but is always in a group of friends..so i have my friend ,, i always talk with him and laugh together with him…until all my friend say with us ” one day me can be his girlfriend ” …but i am just laugh i say we are just friend i think impossible. just had to say that you must not understand how hard it is just to move on tot he next guy it may be for you but maybe you just havent found love yet. i should probably mention that i began sleeping with him very early after first meeting each other, but that did not mean i was serious about him or wanted a commitment. problem is from day 1 he made sure i knew he didnt want a relationship online and i was the same and would assure him i wouldnt “fall in love” lol. yeah, i said many times before to everyone, “he’s adorable. in a break a bunch of us play a game and at the end of it he makes everyone shake hands with everyone.” or “oh i see you still work here” and tells people that he misses me, what puzzles me is that he will tell me i had a date this past weekend, like i care we are not even close enough friends to discuss such things. he’d often time blame me for everything that was going wrong. is your friend reese ok with you and him dating at all? we’ve seen each other on a wedding six months ago. we spent our first valentines together and he met my family. since then , i’ve always been the one to text him. we are in touch for a few years now, once in every six months we’d text each other, just check in and ask how life is going. he’s also recently stopped drinking heavily following the tragedy he experienced (whereas i’m still having half a bottle of wine every night). we are very good friends to him, but i love him and i want to tell him but i don’t no how well he will take it and i do not want to jeopardize are friend ship. i never gave the guy a chance to make any changes. that being said, i’d still be cautious – it takes 5 minutes to take your profile down so his excuse doesn’t make a lot of sense to me. if the same annoying messages and behaviour continues i will probably just post this article on my fb wall, cos describes the news perfectly! the next day he started the convo and pretended nothing had happen. i never had the impression that he just wanted sex, since he didn’t exactly initiate it, it just happened while cuddling on the sofa, watching a movie together. then we meet, the problem is he always drunk, he always making dramas about his family, he doin trouble and out of control.- some people at school think that he likes me and sometimes they talk to us as if we were a couple and he doesn’t really deny it ! i wish i could do something as a return for your goodness. by this point he as told me i could keep shampoo at his house and he never commented on if i left something there. after 2 months of us just talking and hanging out he says that he has feelings for me.!Are you new to online dating or looking to improve your success using it?.with our other friends he is always wanting me to rub his back. dont walk by his apartment door anymore i take the back parking lot ally because i dnt want to look like im looking 4 attention or look like a stalker lol. i don’t think she meant any harm toward me, but may’ve been creeped out suddenly, scared, found someone else, lost interest, etc. yesterday he messaged me and said “hi” i said hi how are you ? i told my friends to come to my birthday treat party because they made surprise birthday video for me . the guy's clearly not a good man who you want to know better, so keep it professional at all times or move on! my problem is that i feel insecure , jelous,doubtfull and sad most of the time because i think he does not like me as much as i do. so as our conversation goes i knew he was referring to me the girl he was seeing..Authorjellygator 3 years ago from usawell, at least you know he doesn't have a sense of humor! for me, i may joke around with lots of girls…but at the same time not have a romantic interest. lots of guys don’t like talking on the phone, texting, verbalizing their feelings, setting up dates, etc. try not to force them but at the same time you will want to look for opportunities let him know that you need to know where you stand with him. thank you so much for replying its given me alot to think about but i feel like i need a way to get him to open up and just cam already.” like i wish he would ask me to hang out and ask me to be his gf. he feels like he has a ‘clean slate’ now, and can see that he absolutely wants to be committed to me, he said quote “i’m all in!- he tells me his secrets like he tells me and only me ! he’ll have some special way of talking to her, or extend some special kind of attention to her that he doesn’t generally extend. have tried to check him through various ways and i am afraid that he would say a no to me if i just proposed him. i’m not sure what his deal is, but at least he acknowledged his behavior towards you. and the second guy i was with sexually with, we were together around 3 months before i slept with him. if you know those signals, and have given them, then you can be confident that he isn’t interested. the time august 2014 (now one year of dating), he was spending every night at my house, we practically lived together, even though he still had his own home. is there any way you can speak to a counselor to cope with your grief?), but my question is:  can you help me decode signs a guy doesn’t like me? and never be ashamed to check if that person has lied to you. it is being wise and mature to set clear concise boundaries to value and protect your emotional sexual health.” but i meant it in a friendly way and all of a sudden, i’m just starting to notice him. one thing you shouldn’t do is verbally attack the guy or start throwing out ultimatums. that doesn’t always work because i really liked this guy but he stopped talking to me so i straight out asked him if he didn’t like me and he said no he does…. he’s very attractive, and i know he knows it (he can be so goddamn arrogant and full of himself, but in some weird way, that’s exactly what i like in guys), but this weekend i just couldn’t stand it. he walks with me between classes and we texted almost every night about homework or just to say good night. i guess it comes from my own issue because i can never understand how would someone like me. i pray to stop wantin him cause now he s trying to make me jealous with his old fat friend. i really believe he’s my solemate, we have so much in common. the thing is, boy-girl friendships get more common later on. we messaged intermittently on facebook for a couple months and he started to spend some time with me in between classes. that’s his chance to tell you if he feels the same, if this is just something more casual, if he sees you just as a friend, etc. it can be really helpful to distinguish who you're dealing with as soon as possible before you get the wrong idea. he doesn’t tell me he loves me, he doesn’t say he misses me, i don’t even know if he misses me cos he hardly ever asks me to come around, when i do go to his place tho, he begs me to spend days with him. i said i thought i did find me right and got screwed.. and ignored me for a couple of times when i saw him and he always leaves early and i dont get to talk to him alot. i only see him about once a year (if i’m lucky) and after every time we see each other again we start talking more but then as time goes by we just slow to a stop. to be mean hun but he said e doesnt love you. he shows all of the signs of liking me in person, he treats me differently, he’s protective of me, he always keeps the conversation going, asks me questions, breaks the touch barrier, focuses on me, etc, etc. perhaps write him a letter about how great your relationship is and how you want to maybe explore the romantic side? now he looks at me like he did before but he doesn’t say hi or talk to me at all. we went a few days without talking over the last 2 weeks. i thought he was nice and understanding, but i was completely wrong. but i do remember in the summer we seemed very close.

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well this girl have a boyfriend so the guy i like seems to give up. it would be the same thing to me if i asked a woman to date me exclusively. but he soon made moves and because i’m naughty and weak willed i suggested we went upstairs and we had sex three times. then one day he’s stressed so i cheered him up but in the middle of our conversation, he suddenly say sorry if he’s distant all the time and he said he’s a bit reserved. if he needs time to deal with his life, then give it to him. i used to hang around the ballpark all the time just because of him. he knows it too, but probably, like most guys, doesn’t have the first clue what to do about it. and my friend smiled at me when he walked through the door knowing yay he’s in my class! know you want him, but aren’t sure how much he wants you. we had talked about it over the phone and via text message and it left me unsettled, but talking to him about it face to face has made a serious impact on how i felt. then i said how about we just put this off till next week but he seemed eager to see me cause he said no let’s meet on saturday. he has paid me compliments about my personality and the type of person i am, offered to o be my audience for a demonstration at work. if he likes me or if i’m thinking too much but he’s really cute and smart any girl would fall for him. sometimes in life things don’t work out, just believe in the fact that sometimes, yes sometimes, these things happen for a reason and that destiny is actually giving you a quick way out of a possible painful situation. men get a ego boost when women like them, when women are not interested they think whats wrong with me ? i try not to pressure him about it and he hasn’t been dishonest with me. we did this a few times and had a great time, great conversation but it was never dinner. both of us even changed our status to “seeing someone. during those 6+ years, i focused on raising my two sons, building my career, healing and finding myself and my own happiness. he even told me the loved how good i am too him as well as comforting me when my grandfather was sick. a week later he texts me, but i was a bit taken aback by it because i thought he had moved on. he said one thing to me that she wouldn't understand him having a girl as close as a friend as me as a friend. it proved to me this is someone i really want to be exclusive with. and i am not going to ask him about what he wants to do. then i offered to shake hands, which we did lol. once you guys meet, you'll have a much better idea. – would you feel comfortable telling him you want to take your profile down and ask him if he would do the same? you’ll get there – but don’t dwell on him. he tells me how lovely a time he had and how he doesnt kno if we will definately be able to meet again due to the situation. he moves on quickly from other girls that he flirts with quickly, but for as long as he’s given me attention he’s moved on from several girls. felt something stranged and its like there’s someone pushes/told me to accept him and either me couldnt understand why. from my snooping, it seems that he’s been talking to another guy that day i wrote that message. it sucked because my friend offered to give me rides to his dorm but now that’s canceled. i told him i was not going to come to his house any hour of the night and if he wanted to see me it would have to be on my time. i texted him yesterday and he said that he “saw” my text but was “super busy and forgot”..” don’t embarrass me” i had a customer and he was charging towards me like a football player. he commented on other girls picks and made to new femal friends. they worked together briefly, but got a chance to know each other during that time.. i would often catch him online in fb and skype and id be online but id wait a min or an hour and not reply to him and he wont reply to me at all. i don’t know y he does this and he’s really confusing me. well since then i called, texted and emailed a total of about 25 times. well if that’s true, you’ve given the impression that you’re not interested in talking with him – even though you “like” him.. but he would make me feel special sometimes but other times makes me feel like a fool because he wont comment at all. he’s more serious and chill and it’s like i’m a total stranger, he never talks to me. we have fun when we’re together but i just don’t know if i should trust him. if you want meaning, consider being a theist via a personal relationship with god. we haven’t had a real conversation, let alone chat, in a long time. – it seems like you feel there are two options: deal with things the way they are or push them forward. i just want to be friends on him (at the moment). did you have a case of bad breath or smelly hair when he came close? i’m sure a better one will some along, you were probably too good for him anyway. we have good conversations , one dinner date, and a few movie nights but i just think he is lonely and wants me to help him grieve and get through this trying time but i’m afraid of my time being vested in a relationship that’s going where! i don’t think i am his first thought st all i am the last. just met someone this past weekend and we “hooked up” for a few days and it was nice…and i find it weird that he still emails me on the site seeing that we have had such a hot weekend… i have stated that i find it weird to communicate since he and i have each others phone number and i also stated that i date one person at a time and that if he chooses to continue looking that is on him…. and if it is another guy thing will he get annoyed and think im too attached to him if i txt him first. i told him how i felt he was hiding me that he wasn’t taking me out to dinner or movies. he works the graveyard shift so it is sometimes hard to see eachother but we usually manage a couple times a week. he always smiles when we talk, and i find myself smiling for no reason while were talking for no reason too. there is nothing wrong with awareness, which is knowledge, and knowledge sometimes hurt and makes you mad, but it’s power, and power is a good thing when used in the right context. i start texting to him,then finally i meet him in my house with some he’s workers, then after that i still continued to communication with hem,but i feel so. point is they’re are really confusing and i don’t know what to think.. he talked to me and we started having a nice long conversation., so i’ve been dating this guy for almost two years now. i dont know what i did, im really confused, any one got some ideas as to why hes ignoring me…. everyone says i should tell him but there’s one more problem. i stopped answering and next time i saw him i asked him if he was still on the site and he answered and said: “yes im still on there and actually last week someone messaged me on there, and i’m pretty sure it was you. perhaps check in with him every now and again to see how he’s doing, maybe even slip in a fun, stress free hangout. i expected to see the original profile from when we first meet but this one was different and his profile picture was a picture of him and his daughter that we took after we moved in and decided to take family portraits to hang around the house. there was this guy that i got acquainted with via my manager. anyway he randomly stopped texting me in the middle of sexting not quite two weeks ago and i have not been able to elicit any response from him since, granted i have not been trying to message him everyday, in fact i haven’t even tried the last four days. i know it’s fair game and it’s just a first date, but i can’t help but think this way. if you and him were together, it wouldn’t be long before you were cutting to get his attention, get him to do/say something you want, stay with you, etc. if he’s introducing this way to some people but that way to other people, i think you have a right to know where you stand. he’s been too busy to delete it and also his friend is using it to find women. i met a guy during my final semester of college and we became really good friends, i gradually started liking him and we became closer and closer. then my best friend broke up with her boyfriend who we were at the cinema with and then out of the blue my crush announced that he liked my friend. he already told you he likes you “just as friends” and he doesn’t text you much, so it sounds like you already know where he stands, but perhaps you don’t accept it yet? i deactivated my pof online dating acount 2 weeks ago as soon as we discussed that we were dating. he invited me to stay at his place and we again had a great time, very easygoing, no tension or uncomfortable feeling at all. just take it as it comes, don’t look to much into these things. he has introduced me to his mom and she has come into the store to eyeball a few times since. no matter how pretty, or funny, or successful, or interesting you are, it will never ultimately fulfill the deep longings of the heart for someone else – even a “soulmate”. as a woman, i know it confuses me because i want a relationship and at the same time, liking this guy is preventing me from wanting to meet anyone else, and i worry that i will get my heart broken. he has not only changed his profile picture, he has added a picture from our trip, a picture that i took of him. sometimes it can seem like you have more questions than answers about the new guy who has stepped into your life. the more he started avoiding or not speaking the more my mind started giving space to him . a couple of times he said he doesn’t feel up to it (he’s going through a tough time)…so i play it cool and say it’s okay but really inside i’m wondering, why can’t he talk on the phone, doesn’t he want to hear my voice, etc etc. just learn from it and know that sex shouldn’t define a relationship, your commitment to each other does. have been dating this guy i met from online for about 3 months now, everything was amazing in the beginning. do you think all men are standar in the way of thinking. went places together and he has came to my apartment to fix stuff for me and do things i wanted done. any ways he comes to see me, tells me he’s been looking for me for a couple of years, every time he comes to my work i’m not there i’m all ways out, well he goes on to say he that he’s been wanting to talk with with me so i gave him my #. and hes always cslling me, we spend every moment together that we can. he left with no explanation but 2 days later he called our office and asked my colleague to connect him with me and asked me about the project which wasn’t really necessary for him to ask me. just your imaginations to which i answered: you made it clear to me once and i have a good memory, sir. its been mostly via text a few phone calls (sexually) and at work we communicate, we have seen each other outside of work a few times, the first couple 3-4 of times no sex, the next couple of times hanging out, then going back t his place always with sex definatly always involved. and i don’t understand these creatures, because even when he ignores me, he’d see me in school and drop everything he’s doing just to say “hi” or wave if we bumped into each other. but when i talk about the two guys i went out with even knowing get there wasn't nothing there he really don't want to hear it. i’ve stopped responding to these emails from the fake profile. the reader above waited six weeks and i think that is very patient. don’t think too much of it, and don’t try to read between the lines or figure out what he “really” meant.’s this guy and he has a girlfriend but they aren’t really a couple because they ignore each other and don’t do or say anything. i assume you’re already being careful how you approach him on this topic, as you don’t want him to feel like he’s being nagged/pushed. he explains it’s some girl he’s friends with.. completely ignores my messages to him and views them tommorow. that’s how nervous interacting with her made me feel..pls what should i do……because he doesnt call me or txt me. he told me he was trying not to get me in trouble. if he has a woman, then by all means let them have space. we’ve been through quite a bit the two of us together, he used to yell at me and shove me but the last year he’s really cleaned up his act. after that night i saw him three months after at the same friends howse, they were both friends. feelings are important and they play their role in relationships, but they aren’t to be your guide always. i don’t know if he has a “relationship” going on with this girl behind your back or not, it may be her just flirting with everyone there, including him.! around the same time he texted & i started sending very cryptic responses. i told him i’m a straight up woman if he wants to explore to just tell me and that i hoped he finds what hes looking for and someone who loved, respected and appreciated him as much as i did, this set him off right away…. like i said, whenever i tried to forget him , he will appear again . i thought of telling him how i felt but then my best friend walked to the car and got in. he always messes around with me and talks to me, i have so much fun when i’m around him and i feel he’s the only one i can trust, and when i’m around him, i feel like life makes sense again. i would try talk to him but i’m afraid he thinks i’m a creep. 6months we decided to meet up again finally and it was just incredible! when i’m leaving he tells me to call him the next day.. and honey i dont want to be the bad person here. but sometimes i feel like he likes me because of his behaviors but sometimes i think that’s just what he does with every girl. and it was good until at the end of the night he rushed in to kiss me and it took me by surprise., i’m talking to my crush on facebook and he sending the one word message. if you can’t get a guy to commit to date you exclusively (and especially if he then lies about it), he may be a giant waste of time. to tell when a guy doesnt like you and do like you.. but i feel like im the only one who misses him. but the thing is, he and i have a class together, and he always ends up talking to me. help me as i really dont want to lose him and want things to be normal and him to understand that it was in the past and even without any commitment when he was in my life i was a 100 % with him. otherwise, he acts as if i’m made of glass and pretends i’m non-existent. do guys always tell you they use to like u afterwards but never told you they liked you the time they did this has happened to me a lot ? i don't know if he really likes me and he's scared. 4 units so busy but he bought it to my attention that he saw me online previous day. – let’s imagine you met my wife and i for dinner. i tried to help but he said that he does not trust and i felt offended and said so you does nt have faith and all i am saying is for nothing and he explained and went. have read that many complaints from match is the status option is flawed and can be triggered from simply receiving and deleting a email from match in your personal account. he’s not as affectionate as i was expecting/hoping him to be..i have made it a point to say goodnight early, but i know for a fact that he is not spending that time with me. was he just playing nice to me or being a jerk? he’s pushing you down to make himself feel like he’s higher up. should i text him or does this mean he is no longer into me? just want to know his true feelings about me is all. “you would look adorable in anything” then he started flirting with me, and asked me do u think friends with benefits ever works? after all that was finished we went and sat outside and watched the sun rise, cuddled in a blanket up next to each other. he told a few of his friends about it, he hasn’t talked to me yet and if i am talking to his friends first he wont join us he goes to another group. seemed we were perfect together with him professing his love and talking of marriage. sorry for the long question i’m just way too confused. if he can’t give you a straight answer, tell him where you’d like the relationship to go and ask him what he thinks of that. first he almost hated me it seemed like and then he seemed like he likes me and wanted to get closer to me and talk to me. some days we text more then others over the christmas break. he told me he’s ready to settle down but just got out of a near eengagement so needs time to process the break up. always starts up conversation with me when we’re together and recently we started texting a lot and he almost always replies even when i texted him at midnight the other night. doing these things may be more difficult than drugs but will produce long lasting results that you can share with other young girls as you get older. may be your guy is feeling the same way deep down, like you are “leaving” him behind and are “moving on” because of being so far away in the future. he has a lot of girl friends, but not in the romantic way, and i’m positive he hasn’t dated anyone before. i told him i wasn’t upset but that it weirded me out and i need a partner i can trust. he said his profile was up but that he hadn’t been checking it and he hadn’t found time to take it down. we dont really text at all but when we’re together were always with our other friends and we can talk about anything he loves to talk to me about farming which he does for a living. it’s like he lost all interest in me right after i fell for him! if no one is interested in you find out why.” i said yes and we scheduled a date, but he had to cancel due to his brother having a heart attack. all rights reserveduse of this site constitutes acceptance of our user agreement (effective 1/2/2014) and privacy policy (effective 1/2/2014). a guy said “i love you too” 3 days ago ignore me (totally no sound no picture) for a few days? in your case, he asked you to be his girlfriend…he needs to cut out the unnecessary continuation of online dating now. we don’t text or hang out anymore and just acknowledge each other at work with some casual conversation. there was more to the text that told me his close friends were there at the pub with him. if he doesn’t, i wouldn’t entertain any more chitchat. take what he says at face value the first time. the clues that he's just ultimately trying to sleep with you are that he will start talking about your body, making comments about how turned on he is, or say, 'wow you look so hot' or 'you have amazing breasts. began to feel awkward as if i were cheap or hard up according to his respondance. practice this in the mirror if necessary so it becomes second nature. she should have put not in with meal, asked a brave friend or why not ask in person i don`t bite & 99. it’s just that the sent messages show when that user has been online). does anyone have any thoughts as to what could’ve happened here? at least he should let me know that he did not like me. am kinda freaked out about the accuracy of it though…. seems really into me, seems genuinely happy to hang out with me and to really want to hang out but we haven’t had the exclusivity talk and i am honestly not going to go down that road and fish for information for another 2-4 weeks. (i won’t get into how i felt about that bc that’s another story) anyway, they exchanged numbers and such and began texting like allllll the time, way more than me and him. i texted and welcomed him back and told him to enjoy.. i know it sounds wrong but yet i don’t care because i had my doubts before and now he has his. that the reason for him not even holding my hand was because he didn’t want me to flip out. he is now back on the dating website daily again. lately i’ve been thinking he only likes me because i am over here and not right in front of him. perhaps it’s a commitment problem, perhaps it’s a fidelity problem or maybe it’s something else…but regardless of what it is, it’s not a foundation you’d want to build a solid relationship on. i definitely can not be physical with him if i know he is talking to other people. i had a mini melt down in my doctors office in the back room. he only wants one thing, and it’s definitely not your heart…. i hope that you pray on this and you will see that if you do it will be answered the way it did to me. but i never made it past 2 months with anyone because each and every time the guy would continue with an active profile i would feel disrespected, lose trust and belief in the guy’s intentions and force a swift ending one way or another. you say to find someone who makes things easy for me — but relationships are not easy, and if they are, they aren’t real. childish attitude and comments towards people that have problems, some serious can cause lasting damage and even harm, so comments like yours are best kept to yourself. once i texted him he was quick with his response and asked me to come over to his suburb. is us women risks a lot of emotions right away when by fact we should be more objective in the first place. i'm feeling insecure lately because he sometimes goes to sunday mass a few times and then disappears again. by this point he as told me i could keep shampoo at his house and he never commented on if i left something there. he seems genuine but he won’t take his profile off & commit. then i saw an fb page where he likes he is dating site for interracial so i frank him if he just playing me stop im not one of those girls if he likes a game. don’t expect it 24/7, a guy has to live and breathe too…but there should be a balance., afterwards during our other meet ups, he'd ask about my past relationships, my family, friends, school and work. some days we text more then others over the christmas break. i sit and stay up all night and cry over him and ask myself is he cheating and lieing. know now what am gonna do, this would be the time for me to do things that ive never done before. say something like “so, when are you going to ask me out? it never occurred to me that i could, that it was an option.. which is solely his decision… however i have the right to vocalize my thoughts which is what i did… i would never tell him to close his account and also to those of you that are upset that you man has his account out there… how do you know unless yours is out there or you are still online? he then when he was at mine told me he wanted to keep me satisfied so i didn’t go elsewhere!. even if after i take mine down, because it is just a profile… and i have decided… (just now) after reading all these comments that unless he cheats and i can prove it (and i will be gone)… nothing else matters…. i told him i didn’t want a relationship because he’s an alcoholic and my father is one, i promised myself to never go with one because they’re abusive. if it was me he would get my size 8 on the way out. i was there when he was dating other girls and he even dated my best friend at the time.’m in highschool and basically i like this guy who’s really sweet and we play the same sports and we have hung out alone once. all that being said, i do have some family issues in my life, i have a brother who has a drug/alcohol problem who is always getting in trouble that i have to look out for, my mother passed away 5 years ago but it still feels like yesterday. so of course i’m asking why is it getto or worse or is it high class and he has not responded back, the only thing he said was for the following weekend. and hes always saying to me we will go on a date confidently. let him go and refocus your life, there’s a lot of work to be done…but enjoy the journey and all its lessons.(i’m not saying this to be cruel) it took him months before he kissed you! so i confront him and then all i get back is a “hm”. day she finally said in the car “does that guy have a crush on your? my mom talk to one of the guys that im friends with an asked if he had any guys to set me up with. also today on one of his friends(girl) snapchat story had something if him and i got really confused even more because he that’s he’s best friends gf. have read that many complaints from match is the status option is flawed and can be triggered from simply receiving and deleting a email from match in your personal account. earlier whenever he came in front of me i turned around and now he does the same thing with me. may or may not be flirting with you more intensely than other girls, you can’t really know that, because you will (obviously) see it more when it’s happening to you. normally, my advice for something like this would be to leave, immediately. along with many of my personal friends have reiterated your story to me through tears and hugs.. :/ you should ask him why he stopped or maybe hes just really busy just give it about a week see if he texts or talks to you. we “were” monogamous for the last 3 months -trying to see if we can work on being in a committed relationship. that weekend we texted each other every day and spoke about every other day, since we both have time consuming jobs. maybe the pictures are from before you were with him. he is sending me all these confusing messages and i am afraid to bring it up again since we already had the talk. he wanted to take it slow get to no each other more, i agreed because i thought it was a good idea to. five months ago he came around to my house while my mum and his mum are downstairs we go to my room to watch a film we normally do this anyway so no biigie. he should come around if he meant what he said. it’s now been almost 30 yrs ago and a mutual friend from school, who i ran into a few weeks ago, told me this guy still asks about me to this day and wants to know “whatever happened to that good-looking girl? period they sayy oooooooo im soooooo shy around girls and bam he talks to his crush all perfectly normal. as i’ve recommended to others, it may be best to talk with him about where he sees things going. im not sure but yeah thats what holding me not to lose communication with him. he said if he did not want to see me or be with he would tell flat out. his status updating from:“interested in meeting women for dates”.. he has a disease) but i rolled along with it. perhaps even touch his arm when he flirts with you, etc. guy sent me a friend request on facebook i accepted. sounds like there’s “something” there if they’re texting a lot…but it may just be texting and nothing more..bt he nt yt approve me also n i do poke him and he do poke me back. maybe , he is use to another way of doing things..i’m separated now an he stays over odd times. he didn’t message me for 3 days and when i asked he jst told me he had been busy with lots of eork. for another, a relationship solely based on texting will almost never work. a guy still date a girl when he doesn’t like her that much anymore? my landlord gave me (not kidding)a two week notice to move out. but that i would let him decide and that it was just one date and that there is no hard feelings. the tide will turn in your own life – and may infect others near you as well. you know how you feel after a date, but, "if you proactively short-circuit a man's ability to chase you by chasing him, then you can't see his level of interest," frances explains. he says i would not spend two hours on the phone talking with you if i did not like you. but he can go hours and hours without texting me back? my biggest worry is my daughter, she is very attached to him and tells him that he is her best friend and she loves him, and he tells her the same. i know he was aware that i disabled my profile because he can check it. this sounds ridiculous but i believe him not doing much with other girls, because he is kinda guy who spend his time in library. after 6 weeks of talking non stop via text, a few phones calls a week, and seeing each other no less than once a week i brought up the “where is this going” talk…. but here’s the struggle, after that, we went to a couple of parties, (we didn’t go together, we just have the same friend group), and that’s when he didn’t showed any interest in me whatsoever.’m not childish by the way, i’m 23 and he’s 26..and i never told him cause he never asked and i never lied either. some guys show more than others…but how in the world did the two of you end up together then? his mom passed when he was a teen so he says he can never “love” someone. i have lost my strength and to hear you speak so gently brought tears to my eyes. i actually would want to see him again but i feel as if my emotionless facade made him think otherwise? its exactly the signals i have been sending both subconsciously and consciously to a girl that i think might be interested in me. it took so many minutes when i received his three texts that read “i don’t know where that is. i confronted him about it and said that it bothers me that you still have your profile up on match. i saw a picture of him kissing a girl , he got his friend to take it off. ms curious – i’m not sure anything is jumping out at me here as requiring a lot of worry. i did let him know that i would have cell coverage in mexico, and if he’d like to say hello he could.! and he responded, “hmm…i don’t know, yeah i would. i knew it was going to be tough but hey, it was only for a few weeks, and we promised each other that everything would be fine, that he would be fine. we dont meet often, we last met about 3 months ago. i'm not seeing signals that he's interested in being exclusive with you. he said he respected that about me, and that he had not seen or been with anyone else in a while. although he disappeared for two months, he's back at church and still showed behaviors like he's interested in me until now. he’s flirty with me but i can’t decide if it’s just his personality or he’s actually interested? lust is a powerful thing, and some men will do just about anything in the sweet spot between "nice to meet you" and "sex. so i called his name and he looked shocked and said “oh it’s you! he probably doesnt even kno that i love him or that i still want a relationship with him cos i try hard to act calm and cool with everything…. idk if he knows, im pretty sure he likes being around me but only as a friend., here’s a quick tip: it’s this situation annoying you? he doesn’t have a problem with it and i obviously don’t either. you can imagine… and it didn’t make it any better that he was a phenomenal kisser. please also know that people through choice, forgiveness, adapting, counseling, understanding, and other methods can turn a “bad” partner selection into a wonderful relationship (it does take both working at it). he felt very betrayed and was thus very angry at me for “leaving” him. feel super uncomfortable and insecure because you’re picking up his nonverbal communication (what he really feels) and it conflicts with what he says. after that i got a crush on a really nice guy (he’s 13 im 12 almost 13) i have a lot of confidence issues social anxiety trust issues and suffer from depression. he messaged me back and told me that i caught him off guard but that it wasnt weird seeing me saying that he missed me and kept me in his thoughts and sometimes wished that we would of worked out. he seems ectremely flattered an he flirts with me from a distance, being all red on his face. i met a man on match about 4 months ago, and things have been wonderful. if you don’t something may not ever get generated between the two of you…or you can just move on. the casual convos, the texting… but he’s a guy. i know he was supposed to come back from his vacation a week ago and he hasn’t texted me. really need a heavy dose of advice 🙁 please let me know if someone can help me preferably a guy with experience with girls and relationships :'( i just feel so heartbroken and i don’t know how to feel about my relationship atm….” or sth like that and see what he says 😉 this is one method i tried on a boy, though i was just joking- he kept asking me who i like (cuz everyone else are doing the same) and i just went like “you! – sorry for the slow response but i would agree with rachel. your heart can heal from this, if in fact you are broken up…or about to be. i’ve held his hand twice and he put his arm around me. i had 2 classes since that day; we both talk normally and he sometimes even teases me about some of the silly things i did or said. thought that would be that but then she replies with a message trying to initiate a conversation, using his work and her analysis of it, and i just didn’t bother responding. last week, before he said he didn’t want this relationship anymore. never meant to like anyone at my workplace as this situation has made things uncomfortable for both of us. 🙁 i hate seeing him now i feel hopeless, can you help me at all? we moved in together after a year of dating and being together every day. i then said: ” i am the other girl” the look on his face was priceless especially when he realised that all of the stuff he had written (and there was pages and pages of very intimate stuff) was all sent to me. heres where i probably messed up: on may 14th i asked him to prom and he said he’d like to take me but his parents said no because of his grades. if you see that he’s active all the time, you could send him an email from your dating account to his and ask him why he’s so active on the site. when a guy really likes you he’ll want to say your name more. same lie as before he didn’t know how to delete. we share the same test in music and if i start humming to a song he will begin singing to it or when he has his headphones plugged in he keeps one earbud in and the other out., the not knowing how to deactivate the account doesn’t fly and i bet if you deactivated it for him he’d get upset (well, from what you describe…that’s just a guess). he know it bothered me the first day he “forgot his phone” so why would he keep doing it unless he was purposefully ignoring me possibly? all the other girls like him because he is hot but i like him for the right reasons. the same is happeningto me again so maybe next time i will try meeting someone who doesn’t have a computer as i am rapidly losing faith in meeting someone who is honest and loyal and can commit to one person.. i get to he’s house and hour later i text him (no reply) i wait another hour and call him again (no reply ) . we’ve had to have our whole ‘thing’ in secret because his sister is my friend and his family is extremely religious. also hang out near him at recess and lunch and we sometimes kick the footy to each other and his shows off my kicking it really high and making its twirl and if im not kicking it and im sitting down he will aim at me and smile and laugh, he is so sweet to me, but he confuses me so much! like one day before his birthday, i texted him to ask about the payment and of course i went a bit of topic and told him that i knew it was his birthday. well i started hanging with them every weekend an he started getting made when i talk bout my ex an always talking smiling making eye contact .” i asked a guy about this and he told me “he obviously wants to spend time with you alone. admit the date was perfect but i had bit of committment issue to because i got hurt in the past and due to this i dumped him on the third date but we quickly patched things up. the following day, i called him telling him i need to talk to him. if you don’t, you won’t be able to help bring his walls down. months after he sent his bff my cousin, to call me. then, we did not know each other i mean introduce ourselves ! i was like yay bcuz i still have a crush on him without telling the truth to him and everyone. said, she has let me know her prior bf cheated on her the whole time they were together. the funny thing about my unwanted admirer is that the next day she sent me two messages just with links to articles, i am pretty certain not to appear ‘guilty’. went through this whole list and the guy that i am talking to does not do any of these signs to show me he is not into me. he also said he likes this one girl and he says ily all the time to her but she doesn’t like him like that and in the past 2 months he has liked 13 girls and dated 2. eventually, i’m going to have to ask him how he feels about me relationship-wise, because i know he does like me. we had the most incredible night (no intimacy) and i felt so so so comfortable. plus it is not fun when someone thinks your a idiot and your not one. 3 years ago from usahave you asked him if he has a girlfriend? he made me hate everything that i owned and i even told lies to my mom in order to cover him up. i sit there waiting for 2 hours and no reply my best friend x just suddenly dissapeared and i am really upset. i’ve never talked to him and i know i’ll never have the courage to do so either (i’ve never done anything like this). i met someone online a year ago and we started dating six months ago.’s this coworker i have never been able to figure out, we exchanged numbers from the first time we met because he offered that i could text him anytime i needed work related help, but he has never texted me on his own. he was so hurt that he is afraid to start a rel. i also have a feeling that he won’t text me tonight. he'll invite you out to a nice second-date dinner, and then invite you back to his place. you two have ongoing sex in any form , have respect for yourself as well as her and anyone else you are whispering to in bed – and either become exclusive if its going well or let her find a man who knows her worth and would like to share life with her. i stupidly rang him and asked if he wanted to be with me. we met on a dating website, and the relationship took off right from the start. he claimed a guy he worked with asked him to check out and see if his wife was messing around. but if i didn’t get answer it didn’t bug me i’d msged him if i thought of something funny or something he’d like. however there are times where i’ll act the same way but i do have a romantic interest, and i may show other signs like hugging them, rubbing their back quick, touching them on arm/side, etc. inside i think it is really sweet and it is a sign that he might like me back. i stopped texting because i didn't have much to say and i really was only texting him to plan a time we could hang out. but i am afraid of getting in a relationship because he is in a love triangle . and i can’t help but notice that he keeps trying to kiss me because he’s always staring at my lips and teasing me about not kissing anyone and has gotten super close to kissing me many times. and we talked again the next day but i had still continued with my decision to let him be the one to pursue me. he might already think of the two of you as exclusive (at which point you’d want to talk about taking any profiles down if you want to be exclusive as well). recently while holding a work related conversation with him he told me he had told my supervisor that i was the best employee he had and learned that if he could have me on all his cases he would but then he ended our conversation abruptly to throw something to the trash and seemed a little nervous. in future relationships, if you can’t talk face to face then use the phone more instead of texting so much. help me, i don’t know if he likes me or if he doesn’t, or if he does but he’s trying to keep a distance because we live together and wouldn’t want drama in the house. he lives about 120 miles away and is busy finishing up his residency. there was more chemistry i could handle at the time. it’s so easy for us, women, to analyse every single detail trying to came out with de perfect reason why the guy went from hot to cold or smth like that! is a lot of risk in coming out and saying “hey i like you”, you don’t have to that. if he pursues a sexual relationship with you again, he may be trying to use you. if you’re two months in and his profile is still up, it’s time to get your profile back up as well. then when we see each other in couple days he hugging and kissing on me.*curveball #1: the guy who texts you nonstop, way too soon. second, the idea that he can’t delete his profile because he only logs on from his phone is silly…it take 30 seconds on a computer to remove it. i could not sleep the whole night , feeling sad n confused what to do .. he said “i am screwed, i don’t know what to do, i think we should stop talking for a while. i was woken up by her phone call 2 am saying she’s coming. then he ignored me, we haven’t talked in forever or hung out. that i’m thinking about it, it’s possible that he may have a sexual hangup or kink that he doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you about yet. can’t really speak to how much hope there is in this situation but maybe instead of walking away, you just open your options as well?"men will start ramping up their displays of courtship for you over the next few dates if they get really excited about you. i messaged him on my friends proflie and he answered very nicely that i was pretty and he was still looking for a relationship. feel like there’s a lot i left out, yet it’s hard typing on my tablet… and trying to sum up feelings and experiences to a stranger. i know he like me a lot, and i am confident enough in my self to realize if he feel the exact same way as i do, we will be together for love always finds a way. it doesn’t sound like he lives in your house, so put your clothes back on and tell him to leave. joyce indicated that the guy seems interested in a relationship, not just neighborly chit chat. we had a great time and went out for a second and third date. ali – doesn’t sound like good news to me unfortunately. perhaps he was joking, but honestly, i wouldn’t say that to a woman i was interested in pursuing…would you? my daughters dad n i have been together for 8 yrs. when we’re together he shows everyone that he cares. don’t let what this guy does or does not feel for you determine what your state of mind will be for the day. i’d be careful: if he’s now dating another girl and things don’t work out with her, he’s likely to try and come back and make you feel like everything was fine and you were overreacting. this might come off as being too ‘charming’ or ‘player-like’, but it’s actually not. since we finished uni, she would occasionally message me once in a while and we would chat on text/whats app or facebook etc and i had no problem with that, but then the messages started getting more frequent and more mundane. 3 years ago haha yeah, i wouldn't call the time we spent together as 'dates' either. i get to know more about him and he seems amazing to the point that i feel overwhelmed. he says he cares for me, likes being with me, and likes the way things are but i don’t think he’s committed to me. he told me that i really hurt him and that it will take some time to repair the hurt. he never talks about any other girls, he talks me about his family but we dont have that kind of relationship that we want to or are even anywhere close to meeting a family member or even one of his friends? it’s possible you’ve given him too much of yourself without drawing some boundaries, and now he’s become complacent. he'll be stepping up his romantic gestures: if you met at a bar on the first date, what i want to see is that he's taking you out to dinner or planning something more extravagant for the second or third date. our conversations our short and brief but other times he will tell me about the things he dreams of and how his day has gone. most people think this is the point of “we don’t love each other anymore”, but it doesn’t have to be. sent the email not as an ultimatum but just as an fyi… and i am sure he will stay on line until he decides what he is looking for and if in fact it is in me.. i made him beg for 3 days he apologize he told me he was drunk, but he had told a friend of mine he got carried away in the moment, we went out to eat and walk around and i brought the subject up and he said he wasn’t going to do it again i was like okay, well last week he changed his relationship status to single, at first i was surprise i thought i had said somenthing wrong maybe, he was like no babe you didnt do anything somenthing happen that’s why i had to change my relationship status then this girl commented on it and was like i totally like this and i got mad i went off on him and told him that if i find out he is cheating on me again i was going to find the btch and fight her lol , i got carried away in the moment i guess. tells me i’m beautiful and when i asked him to be friends, he was really happy but after we hanged out abit he’s been acting really weird. if he means enough to you that you’re wondering about this instead of breaking up with him no questions asked, talk to him., so i’m actually really close with him as a friend, i know a lot about his past and him now, i know who he likes and everything, and he knows almost everything about me execpt that i love him, everyone thinks i fancy him, but i’ve been denying it, because i don’t, i love him. we talked a lot about what we want in life, our values and dreams, and they match almost 100%. it’s probably as obvious as the sun in the sky. we were approved he never moved in because he has his own home. yet he saw me again 2 days later only for sex and he kept whispering i love you after we finished having sex, this time we were with his best friend in the living room. how long does it take him after the first date to follow up? took 6 months to tell me he loved me, but still has his profile up even tho its hidden…and i just grew on him like a comfortable old shoe…lol. is very weird that sometimes i want to set my mind not to talk to him for the rest of the day.” so i admitted what i had done, he got mad that i didn’t trust him, and i got mad that he was still on there. we were casually talking about something and he slipped something about the site and i asked him: “wait, are u still on the site” he answered that yes he’s still on it but it’s “just there”. but it buggs me that he makes comments like; “it feels like im laying with my girlfriend” or “its like we are in a relationship”. i make a point of being around him and talk to him whenever i can and he talks to me as well. i think that’s a great book but it will only help if you take what you learn about each other and apply it. i feel like i’m being used… i thought he really cared about me. and a few times i saw that he had cancelled plans with me, in order to be with her – of course he had lied about why he canceled with me. and lets just say that because i went out for a girls night instead of hangin with him, that he responded to this other woman. told you from the get-go that he didn’t want a long relationship, just a hook-up, but then mixed it in with some savvy talk about “what-if love” that kept you intrigued. he wanted something casual at the moment’ but wasn’t sure if he wanted to see others. the day after i called him to tell him about the question he asked me and he answered but when i introduced myself he couldn’t say even a word anymore. okayy anyways , i want to know whether he likes me or not so here’s some details about his behaviour with/around me . he may come around later on, but for now just take what he said at face value, and don’t make any assumptions. though he already told me he wasn’t interested in dating other people, and we had both disabled our profiles a week or two before. i don’t want to jump to conclusions so i figure he is busy, but its very confusing. then he came pleading and was serious about getting together. anyway he stopped texting me for two weeks but i did’nt care i was in europe having a blast, men were the last thing on my mind. when we were saying goodbye i told him i would miss him and he said i am already missing you’. also, he’s long distance, which will only put strain on a possible relationship. – it sounds to me like you were exclusive at some point (at least in his mind) and then later, without you knowing exactly why, you stopped being exclusive (again, at least in his mind). after that he texted me that he was out of words when he saw me coz he was stunned at my pressence. i made up a fake profile and decided to check to see if he would respond. we’re not in the same class so i don’t hang around him that much. he asked for my number so we could party afterwards and he said he’d call really early in the morning but he didn’t! hes very loving and affectionate which completely goes against the grain of him being emotionally closed off. i’m afraid if i put my profile back up that it will make the situation worse, plus i really don’t want to. perhaps even find guys outside your circle at school, maybe even outside the school completely. i have not confronted my boyfriend about this online dating profile yet. anyway, that same day, he came over to me and sat right next to me while i was training. know this guy and we were very close but he got upset with me over reading some old conversation and even though he never committed ,we really had a strong liking towards each other. once i gave my writing utensil to my teacher instead of my pop quiz paper, and i heard him start to laugh and so did i, but i’m not sure if he was laughing at the same thing. your marriage can work, but you need to ask yourself if you’ve truly dealt with any bitterness and resentment from your previous relationships. we are friends from uni, since uni finished i have only met her once, i have never been attracted to her in anyway but in uni i did occasionally get the sense that she might of been attracted to me. he has a difficult time discussing a lot of emotional things. im not sure if he does mean it or he just making an excuse. he is home most of the time he sleeps, like so he won’t talk to me or do stuff with me or my son.. im done being ignored when im pouring all my careness to him. i couldn’t but told him to drop by the club where i was going with my friends. i did genuinely think he liked me with how interested he was and his body language when speaking to me, i’m not too bad a reading guys but maybe he just wants the flirt and the chase of dating? i love him so much but it seems that he keeps making these promises that mean nothing. if you two truly we meant to be it will happen.’m definitely not defending what he did (i disagree with it and think it was wrong of him to do so) but you did get a much better response than many women: he removed the profile quickly and i think he was a lot more honest than most guys in admitting that creating it made him feel better. once a year i go up there and we see each other. not ask it through time spent together or the hope that he’ll make the right choice or through milestones that make it obvious to you that the two of you are exclusive. he makes eye contact with his other friends but seems to have a hard time looking me in the eye. he talks to me everyday but not that much he says gn and cu and likes my pics but said one day i ll take you a ride with the car., i have been dating this guy for 6 years and we dont talk like a normal couplle should. he was so into me and i was into him, too.! my friends are all telling me i should tell him how i feel, but i'm afraid to do so due to having been burned in the past. – unless he has proven himself time and time again that he is a really good man, worthy of your affections, then you should be ‘aware’ of certain aspects of men’s behaviors., i think we are both in agreement that this behavior was erratic. – so you have a long time boyfriend, you’re not interested in this coworker guy, yet…. so instead of saying hello to her, he will come right up to me and say hi and try to start a conversation with me. just went on a date with a guy that showed 90% of these signs (this was our first date). i dated my best friend’s ex girlfriend many years ago, it worked for a while but there was a couple years of time in between their break up and our first date. my goal from then till now was to make him jealous, make him want to be with me. stop trying to make a man happy by jumping through all these hoops. they think we’re too young to get things… even ourselves. i have only been with two men in my life. we were texting and texting what color was i wearing where he was. she probably stalks your profile, so after reading this, hopefully she’ll stop and won’t ever repeat her behavior in the future. the only thing is i’m afriad were just friends.’m realizing that the bottom line is, i don’t trust him anymore. he did leaned against my shoulder and his arm was against mine the entire showtime. i told him ill give him space but at the same time i wont wait for him. there is a boy in pretty much all of my classes that flirts with me (he constantly grabs my waist) i pretend i don’t like it but i do. he’s let me off the hook for my tardies… i can’t ever make it anywhere on time. he completely avoided eye contact with me and talked to me only if it was necessary. this could remove some of your problems but it would also be nice for those who are still dating online and trying to find someone interested (and obviously you’re not! and then he kept on flirting with me in a physical way , lile holding my hand hugging me tight , he whispered i love in my ear. met this guy online at first he said he want to be serious and he says all the nice things that a girl would like to hear. he met his wife using online dating and has been giving advice and helping people improve their results since 2007. but i hate it that he responded to her like that. told him i was really angry at him and that i was so confused but all he said was why i was angry. take back control and make yourself available to him only when you want to, not when it’s convenient for him. then this past monday he initiated the conversation, he asked “sooo, how old are you [my name]? he had planned romantic trips for the two of us, we were together practically every day, we went on family camping trips, i met his parents several times, he was talking about future stuff with each other. when thy see how they are treating you is wrong, it makes them feel worse. i actually broke up with him then immediately changed me mind. a few years ago we net and basically fell for each other pretty fast n i ended up leaving him because he got into drugs really bad and i was pregnant at the time. i reminded him how his friend spied on me – he now says it wasn’t his friend but he himself. we decided to put the apartment in both of are names. he always said that he wanna minimise talking thru the phone n when i called him i alwys got him talking so i give up.? planning to get married,he is jobless but searching for work,? she contacts and texts him often and so does he. he also doesn’t seem to want to do anything to rekindle it either. anyway he didn’t try anything with me we only kissed and being 16 and 18 i thought he would have but he didn’t because i think maybe he either knew i wasn’t..he tells me about the girl he likes and i have my attitude is pleasant, he trusts me in general but these days he doesnt treat me the way he did. him that you love him too and show that you care about him and maybe he will end up asking you to be his girlfriend. in the article above i recommended that you update your profile to show him you’re still active. i suppose that is were trust comes into place, and mine is a bit shaken. he is introducing me to his dad (who lives out of state but is coming to visit) next week, so thats kind of a big deal but yet he is still doing this…help please! when we first met, he showed me some hints that he was kind of interested in me., you like the guy a lot…nothing wrong with that. since she went back to her baby-daddy we got back together. i’m not sure how you ended up as “best friends” but you are going to drive yourself nuts if you don’t distance yourself from the “friend zone” thing. for when a guy knows that he has you, you’re screwed…i think that can work both ways. you’ve made a commitment to each other, it’s pretty clear to me. doesn’t sound real mature if he’s tempting you knowing that you haven’t kissed anyone before, and that you probably like him still. you should move on and you will find a man who will want to give you all his time, no matter how busy he is…. referring to those posts and his’ texts it seemed like he does like me too. this infuriated me, and to my utter shame i called him out immediately.!First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating. you already approached him and set the record straight, so you covered yourself. dw im in the same situation and its not going to be easy. anyway, i wasn’t worried about the profile as we were only a few weeks into dating so i had just forgotten about it. if he does like you this will make him like you more. and then he saw me and he smiled and said something i didn’t understand ‘coz people were noisy. we have yet to have a real exclusivity talk and have not talked about our dating profiles. notice the good things he does, even in his failures. i feel as if he is constantly poking at me. got a girl to randomly ask me that question on my wall saying she was researching male behaviour etc and i responded with my hints n other guys mostly agreed. in the future, would the man you’re with want u to be talking to a guy you once liked more than a friend and flirt with? is he using me for my time or is he genuine and cares about me and really wants to take this far? i think you’d be better off talking about it now (assuming you can’t stop worrying) than waiting another four months and being miserable with concerns. no more wasted time of your life on that guy…there are plenty of guys that will adore you and treat you like a woman. try tasking to him about how you feel and how its getting annoying and if he doesn’t listen or walks away when you mention the topic just completely stop talking to him. even being on the defensive mode proves it, he is what he is and you clearly have problems yourself to deal with, decide if you do actually want this guy as a friend or not, because thats all its going to be and it will not be anything other than just friends, so stop complaining his not camming you. me, this guy is saying he loves you but he is not showing it. was just wondering if he was bored or annoyed with the birthday text. i dont understand why he suddenly tell me that thing. how would you like it if the roles were reversed with your current bf? i know you care for him and i know that it hurts, i’m just afraid that he’s establishing a pattern where he’s showing that he’s going to continue to hurt you throughout your relationship. first he almost hated me it seemed like and then he seemed like he likes me and wanted to get closer to me and talk to me.. i dont know what to do to make him feel comfortable other than that. and yes i understand he has to make things not look obvious which in the beginning was fine. men are better at shopping for relationships than women are—they will start asking you about what your goals are within the first couple of dates, because they're not interested in dating someone that isn't looking for the same thing. the past few months i started talking to this guy. this is fine i do not mind at all, as i know its a sign of him not being into me, its just the friendly chat i like.’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising. i told him i talked to another man on the phone. and i do like it when our shoulders brush against, or when he pulls me close to him when i'm walking unsteadily on an uneven road. if you’ve been on one or two dates and your guy still has his profile up, you have nothing to worry about. cyndi: i don’t even think doing anything sexual with the guy who cheated on you is a good idea.. couple of days past i got more and more interested in him because when i do dirty jokes he would play around and do dirty jokes as well. he doesn’t like the fact that you seemed a bit embarrassed by his excitement, but he should know that you’re interested anyway so it shouldn’t be a big deal. it can take months or years to get there, but these are signs of incompatibility. he texted back saying that he was sorry but he felt he would embarrass me and that he can’t dance but he said that he didn’t want me to forget him and he would still like to be there to celebrate with me. i mean, if he meets someone else online it’s not as if you’re exclusive any longer. we chatted a bit then next day he sent a text asking what made me text him and asked me if i had a thing for him, which i admitted and then he said he’s always found me attractive and wanted to get close to me etc but hadn’t wanted to do make it awkward because of my work. my friend said it was good that i messaged him and i planted the seed in his head, as in me making the first move to be friends with him and to get him to think about me. the good news is that you do not need him to feel good about you. i mean i still like him but i don't know what people will say. i told him if i ever considered dating another man i would be honest. i must say i was a little drunk and he was probably too, and all of a sudden we were outside, just the two of us, talking while he was taking a smoke. we are both very well established and pleasing to the eye. that was asked to take him to work, he has no other way at this time. i loved him although all this and always faught him but he cancelled me from his life. also if it isnt just a coincidence then how do i walk up to him and talk without being totally awkward in every way possible? in about another month or so, he will know for sure if he will stay here or be sent away, and we have agreed to talk about being officially exclusive at that time.” and of course he’s not going to tell you because he likes you and doesn’t want to lose you. remember, he approaches me when we’re drunk and 2 times in 12 years i’ve ever responded and hugged/kissed him. a couple of weeks went by and he still hadn’t taken it down. but we have talked since, texted each other goofy stuff. and i figured it was okay to feed him (i asked him first) and since he had fed me before from his spoon. make sure you give those signals that girls should give to let the guy know you’re interested, the rest is up to them. like to add he wont stop liking my status’ and its starting to annoy me coz if hes liking them then why isnt he talking to me :@. if he’s stressed and has other things on his mind, i’d maybe try to figure things out more and take my time. there where little things that happened when we first started dating that i didn’t concern myself with too much at the time, but now i felt like i had to get resolution about those things if i was really going to make a big commitment like this with him. we said goodbye, and he said that he was sure that we would meet me again. so at that point after being hurt by the guy that i thought loved me, i told him to go ahead and delete my pics and loose my number while he was at it. i didn’t say it back and he just laughed and said he only likes me and that i just got ‘friend zoned’. few minutes later he came back to sit with me but he said nothing. but sometimes i think that he likes me for what he has been acting ! he make plans with me about future places to go and things to do, but still i need to know a little bit more about where this is going., i started dating a guy i was working with, he was in he’s last stages of he’s ex relationship. he might just be hiding that he’s not ready to commit. and barely said much at all…this past week i got a bad feeling so checked the dating site where we met, and his profile (which wasn’t there a week before) was back up. ive been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months and for the past 7, they’ve been some of the happiest months of my life. i am right, and he just doesn’t feel the same way about me, then what’s the best way for me to get over him?

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he merely said it was there when i needed it.. to be honest his very verry different when chatting with him in video then chatting with him through fb messages. him a sweet note or wait till he’s not on line then ask him on there, if you really can’t face it. he always looks at me and makes eye contact with me. we were seeing each other multiple days a week, but enjoying every bit of it. that was the last communication we had, and i am kind of glad that i didn’t say anything about the badoo profile, but i am now feeling uncertain of what really is going on, and if i should leave it for now or until he comes back in october? then the tuesday after easter he called (until then we had never spoken on the phone, we would only text) to apologise for his silence and that he had a lot of pressure at work and he tends to withdraw when under pressure so i should not think he doesn’t want to talk to me. if he’s serious about you he’ll take it beyond flirting. say he asks you to do something, as hard as it’s going to be to do, tell him you can’t because you already have plans but maybe another time. i don’t see anything wrong with watching movies and eating dinner, but don’t let him think those are dates if you don’t want them to be taken that way. it hurts me that he denies our relationship to people he know but is all about it in private. and today when we were texting i said (in response to something), “i mean i like you enough to know that i don’t wanna see others. probs not lol he finally fessed up that he likes her and me and he stated in his own words that he is not seeing anyone. my profile was still up i did message him while he was online and made a little joke about him being there one day and his response was that when people make the effort they at least deserve a polite ‘no thank you’…but that’s been a month ago. i want him to see my true value and treat me like a queen and a diamond. it was suspicious that night, he almost had them leave early so it would be just us. regardless of the challenges faced, i want someone who brings out the best in me – and he brings out a side of me i haven’t seen in years that i love. also, he seems shy and unsure about himself and his feelings for you. i used to be obvious when i talk to a guy i liked. six weeks ago i met a guy from an online dating site. realistically i believe that whether or not he has paid for a subscription, if he is interested in me – then he shouldn’t be using it! initially, i didn't think he was cute, thought he was a nerd, and wasn't interested in him at all until the end of the night when i found out we actually had some things in common. if he’s truly arrogant and self absorbed, that’s not really someone you want in your life…is it? my suggestion, is that if you’re truly hurting because of depression, then make sure you’re seeking help for it, via counseling, group therapy, improved diet, other life changes, etc. when i quizzed him, he said casual meant no rules & includes going on dates. i have checked simply out of curiosity and really to keep myself from getting to attached at this point. shares so much about himself with meso why is he pushing me away like this. monday i texted him and we texted the whole day. either he’s telling you the truth, or he’s no longer interested in pursuing you. there in my store like it was totally normal for him to be there. he assures me that i am one of the only girls online he has grown to truly care about but he still treats me like the others, he said he doesnt want his real life getting influenced by whats online and i understand that but now whenever i mention him not cam’ing he says “this really bugs you doesnt it? must say, i have a crush on a guy that is popular and as for me im just plain old me. so when i met him on thursday i asked him why he was online if he so wanted to get off. not something you do with someone who’s just an employee, right? he texted me as soon as he got home and i thought things will progress. they don’t talk to other women, never mind flirting with them or acting like they’re in love with them. is this guy i really like, like omg and he is sooo freaky fine man. the infatuation/love/crush will leave but shop fueling it…. want to know if for a guy to like you at all does he have to make an effort to look for you across the room on a night out and flirt? he stares at me without looking away, i only see love, when we’re hanging with others. but i was extremely bothered by it, it didn’t sit well with me at all. to me this makes it feel as if hes expecting us to fail or something. he replies within a min and we text for hours until i get sleepy and tired. he doesn’t talk to me much at all, but when he accidentally bumps me with his backpack he says, “sorry. came across this really cute guy adn thought id send him a message – we instantly hit it off. i wouldn’t recommend entertaining any feelings for this guy – get to know some other guys. on the other-hand, if everything is fine and he’s just been busy you’ve done no harm and might even kick-start things again. the whole night, he was teasing me, touching me, and just flirting a lot. but he keeps saying i’m the perfect woman and that he misses me but he’s too confused and can’t ask me to wait so we broke up a few days ago. then he asked me to ask him if he likes me but i refused because i believed that he doesnt like me and wanted to embarrass me again. my guess is he's treating others with the same courtesy and kindnesses that you are seeing. the thruth is if i don't write i feel like i will explode, so basically i do it more for my own survival. remember “alone” isn’t a bad thing and no one else can make you happy but yourself. he said ‘no’, he said he had posted those pictures to see if i would notice, and because he was curious to know if i had been online lately, which he saw that i hadn’t., he keeps text me every day but a bit more slow response. whenever he calls he says he misses me so much and i feel so irritated. she clearly let me know how much that hurt her. if you want, talk to him about how he feels, and his thoughts on dating so soon after being widowed.. and if he doesn’t then don’t put any effort trying to make him like you. started dating a guy who is in the navy about two months ago and is say we got kind of serious quick. theres this guy i like, lets call him m, he knows i like him my friends sometimes tell him he should ask me out and stuff. please help me, is there anyway that i can get him to talk to me? its high time for me to be an option in my ex’s life , when i know that he wants to be with some other girl and he dosen’t want me in his life. to me, he sounds like a guy who can’t admit when he’s found a good thing and wants to keep his options open…but this sort of thing is only going to make his life (and yours) more difficult. that time, i had moved on & was dating someone else. happens if a guy likes you but he does wants to tell you. he told me that he would like us to be in a relationship, but because we were approaching his busiest time of the year at work, that he would like to wait until things calmed down a bit…he said 2 of his serious relationships ended over it in the past. i got a strange feeling in january 2014 that something was just ‘off’. emma: it sounds like you don’t even remember dating this guy. some of his friends have no idea what is going on and i just need to know what i should do and what i should say and he is sending mixed messages as to whether he likes me or not.)anyway,i said, so i am just going to enjoy this while we’re here. they can be crazy about you and still want to screw the basement chick. expected both our profiles would remain active until we were certain we were right for each other and moved forward in the relationship. he claims a friend must have hacked his account as a joke and that he still wants stuff to work. so now we have been seeing each other for about three months and keep mind that he still had never made us official what ever that is. he is amazing i can’t stop we both can’t fight or ever get tired of eachother it is amazing but, we are breaking the law. perhaps in time things will lighten up between the two of you.. he never replied to my email but he started to talk to me and be around me all the time chatting and making jokes. there was a pause…then he said , can i get your number ?.he stares at me at work, but like in the smoking section when it just 2 of us left and everybody else is leaving he leaves with rest of the group there has to be something that i said or idk what todo at this point, should i just stay away? neighbor has shown interest by talking on the phone, texting and dinner dates. if hes searching for something better which i feel is the case as much as it hurts me im not afraid to be alone. like this guy at school, yet i don’t know him or anything about him other then he’s a raider’s fan, cause of a shirt he wore one day, i’m too shy too confront him and i have anxiety, i’m not sure how to go about initiating a conversation with him, but one day i was at the hospital tim hortons and he was there but i didn’t see him, i felt his presence sounds weird but it’s so true, there’s been allot of times where i’ll like a guy and there’s no interest on his part, but i feel different in this situation, i’ve never felt a guy i like’s energy before, and i’d like some advice, he’s looked at me then noticed me and glanced several times, but i’m not sure how to go about it. if he tries to make eye contact, he's doing it the same way your sister would, so the way to go forward is to remain friendly, but nothing more. i am true to my feelings, after few chats with some guys before him, he was the one i found really comfortable with. later on, the girl noticed he was dating some girl. and if he’s pretending you dated when you didn’t, that’s kind of weird. i don’t know if he ever stares at me but whenever we accidentally look at each other, he would hold the stare–i would always be the one to break away. anyway we quickly become boyfriend/girlfriend, and we have sex (yes i lost my virginity to him). when i gave a bday card to him, he was so happy (i swear) he was so happy and told me “this is the best i’ve got” ! he came back to work the next week and we saw each other at work but he never texted and neither did i.. then he says stuff like it’s dangerous to keep partying with us it makes me think he doesn’t like me, then he never said anything like that and he doesn’t avoid me although he says some stupid things about having sex with some other girls but it just seems he’s doing it on purpose. so i write him a letter explaining why i can't talk when he is not around. is often in the dilemma to how to make a girlfriend. learned my lesson, and the lesson i want to impart here is that you have to pay attention to how the guy interacts with others in general, not just with you. it’s not clear to me what you’re trying to figure out…. he was very attentive towards me & was making plans to go to football games with me. i’ll tell you what i think is wrong based on the comments you made – which were very contradictory and confusing. if something isn’t right, usually relationally/emotionally, then it can hinder his display of affection. convo with me, pretending to be another woman was not flirty, it was more obscenely friendly tbh and he was keen to open a convo, be friendly, (overly maybe) ask for msn or skype…..i met the guy online and we went out movie and dinner once 2 weeks ago. had two classes together and in both classes he used to stare a lot like a lot. ask yourself if you want to be involved with someone who doesn’t give an effort. he texted me latter that night and said he was really sorry and that he wants to make it up to me. it’s one thing to say someone is the only one for you, it’s another thing to actually live that out. both parties must work each day at doing those little things that will bring them together, or else time and complacency will end up driving them apart. but the past couple of time that he has said let’s chill he never texts with a time and i’ll texts him to ask if we r and never texts back. i don’t know if you would necessarily want to “let it go” but at the same time if he’s keeping his options open you might want to do the same (including staying active online).. when a person likes you they will laugh at your jokes no matter what and are more interested in your background / history then others or his. also i call him by his name when we talk on mic or in skype but he always calls me my chat name which is odd because he knows my real name, i find it annoying because it feels like he doesnt see me as a person and i used to correct him but i just dont do it anymore. when it comes to them, i don’t over analyze. i have depression, and i just started taking depression medication. maybe i just answered my own question and it’s just hard to let go of something that seems to great. so what is his deal he will do everything else but intercourse why?.I add him on a new account and he gave me an email address i didnt even kno about. i have been texting him about something or the other, and he replies back but with huge timing gaps and all formal. for starters, theres a guy renting in the same house i am renting so i guess you could say we’re sort of roommates. it could also possibly be that its our last year of school (we just have some exams in a couple of weeks then we’re done) and he doesn’t want a relationship at the moment. i don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for more time together at least. to me your mixed up , one minute you care and have feelings and even joke that you love this guy, but honestly … the fact is you do love this guy” you are acting in a manner to say that you do. and they last 3 times we met we had sex in the car. i met my boyfriend on an online dating website years ago.” but last week i said i wish we could hang out more often and all he said was “me too always fun. he basically said that our time together was fun but it was hard because we worked together. i've pretty much moved on but it's been bugging me. we never stop teasing eachother whenever we are next to eachother ! so there was this boy who i thought loved me but now he wants to be friends telling me what’s wrong being friends or why are you mad or that i will satisfy your needs and wants and i care about you i just don’t love love you anymore and that he was cold and really didn’t care how i felt he’s changed and i don’t like it what should i do? well i found out he is now with a seperated lady he met online. the sunday we started talking, tuesday we decided to meet. it’s interesting because he also had mentioned, after our last meet up, which was this weekend that he wanted to take things slow. said u were on there he replied with yea but he has 2 mutual friends. he always tells me that he loves me deep down but i just don’t know what to do anymore. however whenever we see each other in school, it would be awkward and we would not talk. that changed 6 months ago, when we were at this party. so i guess i made it seem like i wasn’t interested. he’s been there for me more times than i can count. i then decided to bite the bullet and text him today, it wasn’t a bad conversation but hours in between texts and he’s decided to not reply so i think i’m gonna let it go. last year in one of my classes, i only had him for that one class, it really made me happy! a broken heart that doesn’t deal with pain properly by choosing to forgive (and be forgiven) can lead to a bitter, wretched heart. tell him his behavior is inappropriate, and you would appreciate it if he dealt with you in a more mature manner. and he told me that he didn’t know the place. but i just dont know how to really tell if his idea of a relationship is the same as mine or if he just wants to date. he always teases me, does things for me, andmakes sure i'm ok when i'm down. anyway, last week his sister had been awful to me and i was home alone and upset. actually he repeated that a few times randomly and said that he wanted to impress me. i feel really crushed because it seems like it’s reverted back to our casual conversations as friends and he doesnt think the same about me anymore. so yes i feel sad because i am in love with him and dont feel the same back from him even if hedoes tell me that he does. he’s also a part of hisschool’s football team. telling me one moment that he won’t be in a relationship for a long time just wants a hook up then states what happens if we fall in love, and he is living in the moment, then states he already has a major crush on me. he says he’s really busy with work, but i know he doesn’t work past 8 yet i hardly hear from him. his horsing around means he's gently teasing you, he’s showing that he’s willing to breach social boundaries to get to know you more. if he needs that much time between contacts, then you’re not the one. i did ask him two months ago to tell me if he wasn’t interested in me he just had to tell me. we spend a good deal of our free time together, he’s met my friends and family (he has no one here, but his family knows about me), and we have an amazing time whenever we are together. i spent the next three months crying my eyes out. i wonder why dating is so hard for myself but seems so easy for others. i don’t know if he expects me to reach out to him just because he told me about his work pressure, which i can’t do because i need to know that he’s interested in me by making an effort. it was like all he was trying to do was impress his friends with his witty comments. i think you would be putting yourself at a disadvantage, perhaps to be used by him, because people will sometimes take the liberty to use the other person, when that person is displaying too much of a need for their affections, therefore, they will use your neediness against you, to benefit themselves…if you get what i mean? he would usually come to visit his freind and he would touch me a lot by accident. i have also noticed that he will often pass by through my work station about a million times but can’t tell if it’s on purpose or he really needs to get through. my membership came to an end shortly after we started emailing and i chose not to renew – i’m now off of the site, and he knows this. i’ve don’t a ton of research on this and cannot find any explanation of how a dating profile can show recent activity if the user has not been on for supposedly over a year. he then immediately seen other women, then i stopped communicating with him. it seems to me that many people want to be open to long distance relationships but then when they get in one, they decided to keep their options open for something closer. angels be your guide with help from this inspiring and thought-provoking newsletter. but he has something with girl, i always believe it wont more that he was with me. when we were a month into our relationship i told her i was not going to renew my match subscription because i only want her. i told him i appreciate his honesty and that if he still wanted to ‘date’ (not spend nights, yada yada) while we both date others, to keep our connection going, i was ok with that. mean we are just getting to know each other, and it’s still very new, but since i had asked him if he is still on dating sites or talking to other women, i feel like he wasn’t sincere by telling me he wasn’t. now i wanted to give it to him but i keep thinking to myself this would make me look easy . would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you, anyway? then he asked me to hang out several times but i rejected as i could not make it. if you're both looking for the same thing, you've made it through checkpoint number one. on monday he asked if he could see me on tuesday and i told him i wouldn’t mind but i wasn’t getting intimate since i didn’t like the idea of him flirting and dating other women. just ask him if he wants to be with you anymore, tell him the concerns you have that you mentioned here. i meet this guy on a dating site 3 months ago and we do have feelings for each other. the reason i feel insecure is because i asked him out he dint. anyways, we still met up and spoke very very regularly over the next 6 months. and when we walk he touches my hand or gets near me all the time. i told him that it hurt to see him on the site and that i felt that everything was going good and i did not understand why he was on.. does this mean’s he like’s me too /:March 31, 2012, 1:28 pm. as usual, sex and conversation, i never said i like him and neither him. i know its wrong to snoop but i did i went on his cell phone and found that he has an open tagged account. i remember whenever he would see me at his games he would get this irritated scowl on his face like he wanted me to get the hell away & now he is telling all his friends he wants to go out with me! recently i had the guts to ask him on a valentines date. he always finds a reason to be in my department but then there’s times he just ignores me? i recently signed up on another website and have been looking at other prospects because i feel even though i care about him, i don’t want to put all my eggs in one basket if he is unsure of me as well..like ‘thanks for a nice evening’ bla bla bla, at that time, i thought, he was being polite. you had left a comment in another post saying that he expressed surprise when you told him you only date one person at a time, so i think he is coming at the relationship from a different starting point. he even used it last night, and i just dont know what to do about it. but it wasn’t an ordinary kiss it felt full of feelings and love which made me blush even worse (i was lucky the lights were off because i swear i probably look like a tomato) . i really like him but it doesn’t seem as if he is interested at all. he said things to me like “you have a lot of stress in your life, and it’s stressing me out etc. i just wanted to know where i was with him, if we’re a thing or i could still meet other guys. and she said when they asked who he was she said ” b. he did say you owe him dinner for that canceled date. it is me again, about my neighbor losing his wife of 19 years. i seem to always get the ” i don’t want to be in a relationship speech”.! and as soon as they get it, they dump you, thats why its happening to you alot, there is more to a relationship than just sex, so explore that with your new man first. i like i am so confused like i don’t want to like this guy no more but for some reason something keep pullin me back and i don’t know what it is. that being said, i believe a month of spending time together is a good general time frame to expect some concrete definition to your relationship, especially when you’re going out of your way to interact with each other every day. i will give it another go and then again the guy backs off and stops communication once again. they will need someone to light the way in a world that can be so dark. i think about him all the time and the other day when he texted me i swear i smiled as big as possible for the rest of the night and all he said was ‘hi’..I hope this helped you and sorry for any mistakes but my english is not so good :p. i am confused if he misses me why does’nt he find the time to chat with me 1 hr a week at least., i need help on figuring out if a guy is into me or i’m overthinking things (im a girl). don’t know wt to do to make him to have feelings for me…….. his all the way up in canada and im here in vegas. why did he say i love you if i never asked him to or made him feel forced to? i have just return to the dating scene and it has been 10 years reason taking care of parents. he likes you and i’m saying this because of “guy intuition”. i may have had love at first & smiled lots plus me getting really hot for a couple weeks but interested no longer. then an hour later he was on facebook and said the only reason his phone was on was for hockey. but he only texted me once after that but we talked until about 1:00 am. another thing is last night after my bros basketball game i went down on the court to say hi to that guy that liked me because bobby was down there. which privately causes me to panic…but i told him i was open to the idea and to talking about it further. you’ll find out quick whether this guy is genuine or whether he just wants sex, but you won’t be able to move forward unless you decide to get to know him…or just cut him off completely and move on. the biggest "red flag" of all is that other women are calling him regularly. i know you can hide your profile when you have an active subscription because i’ve done it so don’t let him try to convince you he can’t do that either. after a whilw i decide to play the ignore game and i turn my back on him anytime he is facing me. he once asked me out and i screwed it up. about a month or so ago, i kept asking him who he liked because we were just good friends and he told me who he liked. do you think the whole time he was playing me up that he thought all we were was friends that flirt with each other then he ignores me..I got moved to his group in one of my classes with 2 of my friends and he only speaks to them which then again makes me think that he dosent like me. so if he doesn’t take it down within the next week, and i approach him about it again, wouldn’t it come off as pushing? he tells me to look after myself and tries to make the goodbye casual and jokey…. as he insists i decide to go with him and all comes back to me: the joy i see in his eyes, the jockes and smiles that can't stop from either side. then in febuary, i was at home and i needed to use his computer to chek and email. there is no cure but an expensive therapist to sit with you for several sessions for emotional damage – to help re establish your self worth and value that was destroyed by one person who had the audacity to demand no expectations while you jump to his cool as heck laid back beat. every day i come in early enough and live the note on this desk in such a way so thay he will notice it bu to not be obvious to others. i just wish he would tell me if he isn’t interested anymore to save me the stress of not knowing. if he felt love for you, he would remain in contact with you over distance, he would plan things out for future dates, etc. we had our own christmas and when one of his female friends dropped by with gifts randomly. to be honest, i’m not convinced that all the guys doing this even understand why. we have a great time laughing, joking, talking and we both have told each how much fun we are having and how excited we are to see each ofher again. he has lots of female friends and cousins so okay and he was wearing the shirt i bought him in the pic.. my friends usually ask me for advice and yet i can’t seem to think clearly for myself. he knew who he was talking and where i was going and he would not make that mistake with me. 3 years ago hi, there is a guy who works in the same building than i do. we have a lot of common interests and have so much fun together, but have had a couple of awkward conversations about exclusivity and where this may be heading. very attractive i dont know him at all and then added me on fb. he says if you can keep your options open, why can’t i’ and i’ve told him several times i don’t want to keep my options open. to hear your experience went that way kelly…i promise not all guys are bad though! so looks like he pulled one over on me and is still online. he just seems so distant and rude and like he really just doesn’t care at all. he’s been clear about not being tied down, so give him that. i know he likes me cause his actions shows it. friends tell me i should stop with him, and i agree with them. one point,even his brother started teasing us -,- . but anyways im just going to ignore him , and only talk if he says something to me. since then we chat on whatsapp, he tells me about his flings, his girlfriends. speaking, joyce doesn’t feel comfortable with it so it stands to be solid advice to go with your conscience and take a step back just to make sure he’s not in rebound mode. any suggestions would be fine, and i thank you so much for sparing your time to read and/or respond to this. so far everything is positive, but he’s across the country, on a navy base in south carolina. it doesn’t really matter what the reason for it is. and he announces to them that we are moving in together. we kept in contact with each other but now he doesnt reply & blames on work & him moving to fast with life. take interest in other things to keep your mind off of this guy. his pursuit was scary because it was so sudden, i’m still confused and he is still interested. his excuse was he did not have a computer, only his phone to access, and there is no way to deactivate from a mobile device. have offered her to check my username/password to see that i do not have a subscription, told her to send me winks/emails to test it, want her to check her email message and see if her status changes, offered to call match to show my log on status, and now seeking advice.. i told him i want to go and see him and he also said hed like me to come to his place… but that was before we had a great chat…. i dont even know if he likes me or if hes using me for stress relief. again, beware of the booty call if you really want to establish something more with this guy. then he is always checking me out and i talk to him a few times i told him i had a crush on him and i thought he was cute and he smile and i told him i want to get to know him cause i am always hearing about him from other people and i am just getting tired of it and he says i can talk to him but i never talk to him like i try…. i said i just needed some reassurance and he told me to be reassured. he has been a total gentleman and he even went into a “domestic partnership” with me on facebook (haha). he knows how to reach you, and if "work" was really the issue, he'd likely have started texting again when he knew he would be leaving. you’ve decided to get a clearer idea of where your relationship stands, i recommend trying to start conversations as naturally as possible over a 2 to 4 week period. there was this guy… he seemed to like me but work got super crazy and chaotic and so he hasn’t been able to see me in a while. honestly don’t know what to do, does he like me? i tryed talking to him about my feelings once and that i was confused and he said he didn’t have to deal with this, so now i don’t want to ask why he never goes threw with seeing me. he is funny and outgoing and really hot but i don’t know if he likes me. then he said i was very mean and that he did not like me. know other men who do this sort of thing, i am no stalker, just keeping my heart in check here. she has pimples and dresses so ugly she looks poor. i think he also thought the same bcuz he always shows signs like he likes me.! he’s computer illiterate, but i don’t buy that he can’t figure out how to hide or delete. he wants me to go with him on weekends but i haven’t been able to go because of work, so now i wanted to do the holiday weekend with him. 3 weeks after i was trapped awkwardly alone in my brother’s room with him, he just said i know i didn’t call. joey, i tried talking to him but he said i should leave those things for children, but then i told him it wasn’t childish that i just wanted intimacy and affection and he said he was sorry, i just feel like when a guy really loves you certain things should come to him naturally, i feel like i’m forcing stuff, he swears he loves me tho, and anytime i talk about breaking up he begs me to stay, he used to be a lot more distant but when i told him i could be in such a cold relationship he made very obvious changes we use to see like once a week but now we see like four or 3 times a week, i don’t know what to make of him. he had told me earlier that he wanted to get off the dating site. i assume he was home at 1 am bc i was having the worst new years 12 am, then i struggled and finally fell asleep, surprisingly strong too. talk,we chat, he advices me…we kissed several times but we didnt have sex. all that doesn’t work, i’d say at some point you should just say: “so-and-so, i really enjoy spending my time with you but i worry we might be looking at our relationship differently. sounds like he likes you alot but isnt sure if he’s gay? i just also made up my mind not to message him and live my life. i want to pull back from him and stop seeing him, but it’s so hard to do when you like someone. we have been seeing each other, twice a week for 7 weeks now. sooo basically i just said ” i’ll see you again you live right there ” and then said i had to go so i wouldnt be late for my class. now, when i say ignore him, i don’t mean be rude. recently he asked me to marry him and now we are engaged! what was going on was so strong that felt incredibly scarry - i liked him so much and i knew it's showing, but had no idea if he is feeling the same or is just being friendly.?It would be hard i suppose especially if u felt something connection on him but yeah if thats the other way then i will try. now hes away so much but still home reasonable time and its sex every night but we dont go out together anymore… i want to buy a house and he keeps saying i can’t afford it but i kno i can. i need some advice… this guy i really like i’ve known him for three years now n we were kinda seeing each other before but we ended it just cause of some situations anyways we always on n off talked through the years n we both love each other or at least he says he does but my problem is that i’ve grown more attached to him n he tells me he wants to date me but first he wants to get his shit together like get a job n move in with his buddy n that he says he wants to give me 100% not half ass that’s why we’re not dating right now but i feel like it’s just exucess plus i don’t believe he actually loves me so am i right am i just wasting my time or should i hang in there for a few more months n see n if nothing happens then walk away? i said it was up to him (i want him to take it down because he wants to not because i want him to…) i did say that him keeping his profile active made me feel that he wished to keep his options open and that if he wanted me to feel that way then to carry on., what kind of man is 39 and a virgin and meets a beautiful woman such as yourself but doesn’t want to throw you on a bed and ravish you? i told him that i couldn’t continue on with him though if he still wanted to see other women. if by bad luck she walking near you then blank her. i truly liked this guy at work and all of what you mentioned in your post happened to me. he said he dont want to get us introuble but y wont he say he loves me. in fact, she's known for helping women weed out the wrong men right on the first date. i understand his schedule because of his work demands as a nurse, but there’s this feeling inside me that makes me feel a bit sad and worried because it’s been almost a week since he last called me. if he hasn’t married you by now, he feels that you’re not special enough to be taken off the market. he might want to explore things with you romantically, have sex with you, or just get your attention. but he’ll either say he’s tired or i took to long to respond back.. and ignored me for a couple of times when i saw him and he always leaves early and i dont get to talk to him alot. he doesn’t put me down, he’s really a good guy, but i really never know if he flirts with other girls because i never see him interact with other girls because i only see him for certain parts of the day. i texted him asking if he was mad at me for some reason and he told me he was sorry and that work has just been crazy busy. really confused now that whether…he wants to keep me around as he may have other ‘better’ option or really is interested in me. was dating a girl pretty regularly, seems like it was a fwb situation, but they both clearly felt more for each other and wanted more, but couldn’t seem to make the situation work for their lives at that point yet. last week, while just hugging and feeling so happy being there, my heart was racing with emotion that it actually startled. to clarify on the question below , it’s only been a month since we started texting and we haven’t talked face to face in the one month. i don’t think that means that you should have concerns that you’re being cheated on, but i do think you should have concerns around “why does he feel that he still needs to be checking his dating profile? i text yes mom called and i said i was meeting my boyfriend, nothing back he’s shy i text just playing don’t let me scare you, he said i know flirting? we chat/txt evey day without fail, he has been to my house few times now but i’ve never been to his. no reaction from him but when we were talking about the weekend it was clear he had no dates. don’t know what to do at this point – my friends say just lay low, wait it out, don’t contact him anymore and see what happens – my gut is leading me into the mindset that he found someone else while i was away, or just decided he went too fast and is now backing off way too much. he’s a dud and doesn’t have a clue how to work at a relationship. that h honestly doesn’t know if he can give, recieve or feel love again due to the divorce. so i have known this guy for a little over a year now and i really like him and everyone tells me that he likes me too but to be honest i’m not sure that they are right even if i want them to be.] i have a difficult time being around him in the sense that i blush and i do not want everyone to see what's going on with me, with us. now is the time, at 15 years old, to begin doing this habitually. i asked why he was online recently, and he said it had to be a mistake, that he must have accidentally pushed a button on his phone that logged him on without him even realizing it. i guess it could but it might just be a schedule or habit thing (like something he does before bed) so i’d try to not read too much into the timing. a little reminder on what they’ve already found could do some good…and if it doesn’t at least you can be confident that you need to keep looking for the right guy. there’s this guy and i like him a lot but he is dating the most popular girl in school and she’s cute and i don’t know if the girl will get mad at me if i tell him i like him because she has a lot of friends and i don’t want to mess up their relationship. and if the car situation didn’t exist, is it likely you’d find another reason to worry? after 2 weeks, i could hardly notice that his messages sounded just “cold”., i’m very insecure about myself & he’s making that worse. be careful not to place blame on him or act like he’s having issues or it may discourage him. he even stops by to give me a kiss if he doesn’t have a delivery at my job. what does he mean and what should i do too…. he told me he loved me casually in front of my cousin. was so upset that when my friend came up to me and asked if i was okay, i bursted out crying so much say “i can’t do it, it’s just to hard”. he has not taking me out for dinner or not even coffee. but he did cancel on an invitation to join me at my friend’s farewell on sunday. love is not something that you just throw away just letting you know and heres my advice to you i think you should just try to talk it out and work it out and see what goes on from there ! he “committed” to a girl, but kissed you also…and he was drinking so…maybe he can’t be trusted to make proper decisions when he’s under the influence? am thinking of giving him a few weeks and see what happens but at the same time i am concerned as well and confused as to why his profile is still active and he often logs on. maybe you were his first since his divorce, or he’s right and it is going too fast. always on the phone, gets mad if i ask him what he is doing, were he is at, and when he is coming home. he told me he felt something for me and that that night wasnt a hook up, i told him the same. another thing is that at times i see him grinning at me. the start of year 7himhad a crush on my true love and this is my first crush.! he had his cellphone on speaker mode when he reached me and that girl was continuesly talking about some business issues. he says he’ll take me out when he has time, but that seems like never. have to do the only thing u can do really…. if he blows it off, he’s either scared or not interested. – i can’t really speak to what’s going on in his head., so here is my question: met a guy in june, he hung out for a while. and if we’re in a conversation, he just stops texting me for 3 days. he also doesn’t like it when i talk to boys or when any boy touches me ! that party, we’ve been speaking to each other a lot more, almost every day. should’ve just given him his space, but i just couldn’t understand why you wouldn’t give me the courtesy of more of an explanation. 2 years ago from usai imagine some people will be ok with it and some people won't. he contacted me first actually wanting to get to know me! he gave me some kind of trying-to-hide looks while i was among my other girlfriends and i returned back some of his look the way he looked at me without trying to be flirting., he is my classmate, and we talk often, sometimes he is very kind and smiles when i’m around, but he also talks with other girls in the same way. i don’t know if he just wants to be my first or if he likes me? he rememberd my birthday n got me a huge cake which gt me so emotional all so i told hm i didn’t wanna lead him on n i was sorry bt m just so scared of being close to any guy at the moment, he stopped calling n chatting wt me as often as before then .. makes me feel sad i have been nice why he just dont be frank that he isnt interested with me! am really confused about this one boy, he has been with many girls i think but i have only. i asked him on sunday and he said he was in there cleaning up his inbox before deleting.. but i can’t relax with her until i know. as i told you, there's a way to find out for sure. don’t understand if this guy i am interested likes me or not, we used to text and he lives out of town and mind you i work 3 jobs, and don’t have much time, and he would drive in to visit watch a movie then drive me to my night shift job. i can’t say which one it is but i do think if he’s keeping his options open you’ll really want to do the same thing (and not just saying you are to convince him to stop). asked me about it in person i said i was checking his profile. sunday, first i noticed he looked at my direction and when i looked at him, seemed like we looked at each other in the eyes. after we stopped talking that night he hasn’t talked to me since. last week, he was constantly in the same area i was, i was outside bringing carts and stuff in, and he was out stealing my carts.” today, i emailed him and asked him if he is dating people from the site and that we should both take our sites down and focus on each other. i look at love like a fire, it will burn hot and furiously at first, then it burns down to a steady flame, then eventually it will be just a pile of ashes. he pokes me and stuff in a flirty way and calls me his girl. i believed him, and told him not to test me like that again – be honest with me and talk to me about what he wants to know. i really like him but there’s a problem he has a girlfriend of 7 months. this won’t end here either…even if he has a good excuse. asked what happened, i told him, he pulled me in and hugged me, kissed my hand and said he was there for me. he seemed genuinely sorry and said that he owed me a date. lol but anyways i think when we like someone we anaylize their actions 100% more and often times interpert them they way our perception see things which is blinded with the fact that we like them and we want all their actions and words to be directed toward us. ive been talking to this guy who is older than i am for a month and a half that i met online and just last week i told him how i really felt and he told me it was sweet but that im moving to fast, and now he’s been totally distant from me and hasnt texted me or called and ive been upset because i really like the guy, so ive been the one to make an efffort to text him but he has not replied, i dont know what to do bc he doesnt live where i live and before we used to skype and stuff and now he says he busy and he told me if he did find someone he would tell me i dont know what to do? the other night we made plans after to hang after i got out of work. or am i a time filler till he finds something better. he tells me for the first time that he loves me, i say it back to him for the first time as well, because i know it’s true, but i was never going to say it first. i prefer someone who knows how to be more discreet and not provoke men. he once said to me that he loves sex with me but that a relationship shouldn’t be based on sex. a couple of weeks ago a boy just talked to me at facebook. have said to him that if he likes, he can continue dating but he needs to tell me, so that i can do the same. may be hiding something…although it may not be that he’s looking to date other women. now days has passed and he did not message me back as said. she told me all about it and he did admit to it. because afterwards it wont be natural and then the fun is gone. she showed me the profile and it said he was interested in meeting women for dates. gaining my trust, after my past, is not an easy task and he has managed to do it. this lead to text silence for a day then a convo in person and i thought he would end it soon. but then he’d said he be home sunday or monday. is hard for me not to think a lot about where this is going, my past experience was horrible and this person is so amazing. 3 years ago i tried to look up what you asked me to read but it said it's i longer available. personally i think he is a waste of my time. have a flirty personality which is sometimes confusing to others. anyway… what i want to know is… the other night i saw him and realized i had. hence i did not believe him at first and i told my friends about it. does it really mean when someone says you always choose the same type of men. never had boyfriend its looks like i never i keep meeting his type the whole time. now he won’t text and rarely answers his phone. strange thing is, while i deleted my profile from the site on which we’d met, he hadn’t and i assumed he’d just cease using it or hide his profile and not renew his subscription but, turns out he has a match membership discovered by my suspicious sister whose brought it to my attention., kinda hard now cos the minute she scrolls through these comments she will see mine and know its about her. but by the 3-4th text in the conversation, he leaves me on delivered and doesn’t answer until around 7-9pm. california privacy rightsthe material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except with the prior written permission of condé nast. there’s a guy and he started talking to me towards the end of the year., based on his responses to your previous questions, i get the feeling if you were able to prove he was using the services his response is going to be a strong one (and to me it seems like the wrong person is getting angry! he told me had a b’day but could manage to meet me for a bit and a drink at 12pm. or just find out if the slightest chance of him liking me exists? i told him i was getting a bunch of emails and just didn’t feel like dealing with them. he was still wearing a he shirt i bought him.? excuse he has no money and now my problem is a? he uploads pictures of other girls on instagram, has so many other girls calling him and him calling. people in general value that which they have to work for. i let him but i can’t read this guy he seems to like me and i like him but i’m not sure. he never checked to see i made it there or home safely, and hasn’t really been in contact the way he was before i left. isn’t exactly a … (continued – click to keep reading ask a guy: signs he does not like you). few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. allow yourself to get over it, just let the feelings come as they may. i told him that if he had indicated all he wanted to do was date around, i’d never have gone out with him because i was looking for something more serious. he said he lost his friend and that he will always love me. should i be worried or should i just take it easy, breathe, and see how the next 2-4 weeks go? i can do casual but it’s difficult when the person seems the sort that in other circumstances you’d like to have a relationship with. that evening me and my friend were going to move to another location and i texted him to let him know. on friday (13 jan) he tells me that he was going to his mates place for dinner so if i’d like to join. we haven’t gone on a real date yet because he lives in a different country than mine. so i would hope her relationship with him would encourage you to be more aggressive about understanding what he’s doing. but when we are around other people he talks to me and flirts. at first im ok to be his sex buddy, but then i like him more. the next morning we just cuddled and looked into eachothers eyes until my friend woke up and then we couldn’t keep our hands of eachother. but i must say his profiles up still really bother me, especially since we have been intimate. i’ not very popular, i don’t have that many friends, so i intruduced myself and we talked a couple times, and he seemed friendly, but even though i try to meke hom laugh and talk about what he likes, he just seems to enjoy himself more when he’s with other girls, not jus a specific one. also, if you saw a recent picture of him kissing another girl, even on the cheek, it’s a big red flag that he’s not committed to you. tell him if he’s going to continue posting that he is single and updating his site, that you are too and you are also going to start seeing other people. in other words, in many of the cases described in these comments the woman is put in a situation where she needs to force the “let’s be exclusive” conversation. tone thing got me… he does the same thing with other girls u_u :'(. i can’t move on because i know in my heart that what we have is as real as it can get. he sets up dates last minute, he keeps rescheduling, he flakes constantly on you – if any of this sounds familiar, he’s not that into you (as they say). don’t be too quick or demanding in your desire to define your relationship…be willing to give it time and allow it to grow naturally. it didn’t bother me and i told him that. he says he really likes me and is into me and still getting to know me., there’s this guy i am kinda having a slight liking to because of how he treats me. lied when he said he added pictures to his profile just to see if i would notice and to see if i was still online. he has helped me with a lot of things and it doesn’t even matter how old you are, every piece of advice he gives works! perhaps there’s a way to get this same advice through some friends of yours and his so he can do the same thing to you! this gentleman, started texting me stating that he wants a sexual encounter and loves the fact that we are so “like minded”. brought it up and he told me that he thinks there is someone else better out there for his “lifestyle. since he sent me that text, we’ve gotten together a few sporadic weekend nights but each time we’re intimate, he doesn’t want to be touched that much or have sex but he still wants to be intimate with me. sadly…before winter break of 2011, two of my friends told him that they had a friend who liked him, and dude it got him alllll curious and he wouldn’t stop asking who it was! have been flirting with a married man for over 4 years and we finally met. he took me to a beach where we had sex in the water! i think he does because about a month ago he told me that he really does love me but now he doesn’t say it anymore. but the rest of the week at school was awkward. need help i have a guy friend wean we were little we were best friends and know he’s 14 and i’m 13 he does not talk to me not even a hello or eny thing what do i do. he also flirts a lot with me which is how i ended up liking him so much.’m not the best person at giving advice, i barely have any guy friends myself. i also just messaged him and told him i liked him straight out which may not have been the best idea but i did and he never messaged me back. and maybe he thinks things are moving to quick for him… so his backing off a little as not to get hurt again.! i suggest you stop texting him, delete his number, and show him that you’re not someone who can be put on a backburner. months later i realise i have feelings for this guy and i tell him and he tells me he would love to date me too but we live too far and its just not realistic i agree with him as we live across the world from each other and circumstances just wont allow us to meet. then we say each other pretty much 1-3 times a week. to him, how do i know if he was actually serious? so, those things he did made me really confused if he likes me or not ! relationships are unique things and you’ll need to decide when it is best in yours to start demanding more…but at some point he will need to commit or you will need to move on. he hardly texts me we spend four nights a week togethet when he is not out of town working. i love that he plays how passionate he is about it. he seems like a great guy, and the compliments are flowing but something is off. i said that he really should think about changing that if his goal is simply to date around. then there was a point that he said to me that he would never have sex with me because he cares about me to much to ruin what we have. me if he was it would not have taken him that long to kiss you. bec he is always waiting for me and he just reveals things with me. i guess i’m writing because it seems like we have a good connection and that he likes me (he even told me so) but he hasn’t made a move to discuss exclusivity and he doesn’t seem like he’s interested in giving up his profile.. when we are doing video chat i would see him making expressions at me like raising his two eyebrows repeatedly. he didn’t say anything sexual or really bad just wanted to hang out with her like go to lunch but she refused cbecause she was still a friend of mine . make matters worse, i began drinking heavily, which didn’t help things at all. not sure hes happy that i called him on his bs and deleted him from fb for now. which i thought was good because i told him he was still in love with her. you might have to just ask him if he’s ever considered it. it’s really difficult for me to judge his body language., he might call that “hanging out” and “having fun”, which is “fine” if that was someone else’s bachelor party and she was the “stripper”, but if my g/f were in those pictures doing those things while i was dating her, i would probably break up with her. then in april he tells me he spoke to his 19 year old son who was still living at home but looking for his own place, that the game plan was to be out of his house by june 1st, that is when he would be moving in with me, so his son better get active in finding an apartment. and then he asked me to accompany him to his brother’s girlfriend’s b’day. i recently confronted him about a woman on his facebook that was posting pics of him and about how much she loves him. a guy ws back on me for one yr n it ws lik we were frnds n he helped me in lot of situations and then i fell for him n i proposed him n we were in relationships for 3 months everything was good bt sudden off he said he wanted to break up with me n i ws lik no n i begged him to pitch up with me bt he ws lik no i want to get settled in my life n he gave back the things which i gave him and even i gave d things which he gave me n its been 2 yrs i cant move on its lik i want to knw whether he still feel for me or has he moved on …. theres tis guy i met at a pure events party, we clicked and he asked me for my number, i felt nothing then up until he started to make moves on me like hugging me from behind and all that ish, then i started to fall for him, hes one of my best friends friend and they go to the same school. what if he might like me for who i am?. ladies, be smart about this, like a previous poster said, respect yourselves, love yourselves, and have enough confidence to kick his azz to the curb if you have to… one day he will realize what he had and how he messed it up, may not be tomorrow but one day he will! and he went on to say he thinks we may be meant to be together but struggles with being unsure. we definitely argued a bit and i told him to go on a date, if he liked the girl, we were done (obviously). reese- the guy i likes ex and my best friend, does not want to get back together with him at all.. and then when we play around he fight’s me but we are just playing around , when he fight’s me he all trying to hug ma and hold my hand , and also keep’s poking me alot. he would laugh at my jokes even though i know its not even funny. should i have her make a date with him and me show up? he really loves you and agrees you are exclusive, the profile needs to come down. was talking to him for while another guy came talking all of sudden i became invisible . days ago i was having one of those days where i was thinking about it all too much and letting it get to me again. he’s been making most of the effort to talk to me at the games when i’m in a group of friends, even though he hates one of them, and stands closer to me. one more thing, if he was very romantically interested in you, he probably wouldn’t have mentioned the other girls he’s looking at out there (#2 in the article). i don’t have much advice as to why your online dating account got spammed. both accounts are still “active” technically, but there hasn’t been any activity on either. after this one time about a few weeks ago he messages a different girl flirting and lots of kisses and stuff..but between the texts and the online dating profile still being live i am not sure what to do. he said we are not dating but we couldn’t establish any status quo. he never replied to that message but after that day he started to talk to me again. i was about to push him away again, and he bit me and said that's for teasing me! he was looking at me on and off while i was working out but i’m not 100%. i asked him why he didn’t ask me on a date and he said he was shy. met my current boyfriend online a couple months ago, he kept mentioning thing about me being his girlfriend so 2 weeks ago i asked if we were together and he said yes. sometimes the next step can be difficult for the guy because he doesn’t know how to do it, the right time to do it, or if you will reject him. if he starts talking about where he is in life, what his goals are, his future.. but if you had the courage to ask him out and not him them another red flag. do you think that would be the wrong way to go about things? i m not feeling like going to office or work in an environment where he doesn’t exist…i am 100? i just assume that if someone really likes you, then they would delete their online profile right away and they wouldn’t be so afraid of commitment. in fact, act almost like he doesn't exist but remain receptive and friendly when he approaches you. (i dont think so cos we hav met without sex and because we tlk about everything for months now). he does any of these things, he most likely isn’t interested. if it makes you feel any better i kicked him to the side and now im going on a first date tonight and i am scared shitless. i was pretty tired by that stage and said i was going to bed so he said he’d join me. there are 2 known women who had been pestering him about wanting to be his girlfriend and he rejected them both. after spending the last 5 months with him, i’m decided that i made the right choice. he asked if it came down to it would i marry a man that i was best friends with but didn’t sleep with. but then he will always try to pursue other woman. idk if he likes me though he asked me for my number i gave it to him , he txted me that same day and he walks me halfway to my bus , hugs me really hard when we have to go. after time he began to work more, we fought daily and he wouldn’t really want to make time for me, he’d always tell me “you’re not happy unless your spending money! so i went into my whatsapp (that’s how we communicate) and checked when my messages to him were actually read (i normally don’t pay attention to this), and it came out that he seemed to have been online at times when he told me that he didn’t have wifi on his phone. i am sorry i know it is painful to hear . have some respect for yourself and don’t dive into a man’s need for sex unless you can deal with him ditching you after (which is really hard). main goal is to give women a focus on something that they can control and have power over, versus worrying and feeling powerless. i came on to him, a week after kissing his neck and biting his shoulders and we even kissed. many times the fire looks like it’s out, but underneath the ashes it’s still hot and can be reignited by feeding the fire carefully with some small branches and paper to get it going again…then you can add the big pieces of wood. lol but then proceeded to tell me that i “grew on him”.” not true id like to sit in the park just simple things. i now realise that i never actually asked outright for any of them to take down their profile to be with me exclusively. he might be friendly because he's been taught to be polite. he texts back and we do talk about other things than tutorial work, we have some inside jokes and after classes when i wait for my ride to come we have nice light conversations.“he must love me, he looked at me this morning…”. because we live on different hawaiian islands, we didn’t meet in person until about a month after emailing and talking. for the last few months this has been by far the question i’ve received most often from readers. when he is with me he gives me his full attention and is a real gentleman, but he told me he has a lots of friends from his work and he goes to parties and he will not bring me because some of his friends are married and their wives knows his ex-wife and he does not want the word to go to his ex that he is with a girlfriend. for 2 weeks we texted each other all the time and he asked me to go on a second date, so i said yes. i’m happy to say i accomplished all those things and with support from my best friend, decided to start dating again – but i was certainly not looking for a relationship or to get serious. i’m not one to notice a guy flirting with me or even begin to think that he may actually like me, but i was like 99% sure he still had feelings for me. especially since he didn’t even want to buy me the morning after pill and rudely texted ‘go get it yourself’. am his first relationship since a divorce from a 16 year marriage from a woman who had cheated on him. you don’t have to be aggressive when you talk with him about this but i would be direct and ask him straight out where you stand and explain the confusion he’s creating for you. it sounds like it was done on a whim and in the throws of lust – not a good combination if you’re truly seeking intimacy. they may try to justify it, act like it’s your fault, etc. if he wants you back, he’ll make the move. if i try to ride it out, what is a good amount of time to see if he takes it down? allow yourself to come down from this properly, and don’t beat yourself up. men who are highly interested and see you as part of their life for the indefinite future will subconsciously reveal it in their words. thing is that you brought up is that he told me during one of our conversations that he wants to enjoy his single life for a while before we become official because he’s not ready yet, hence he wants to enjoy himself overseas. i feel like sometimes hes glancing at my direction but i can’t tell if he’s staring or just thinking about things to write on his homework. could be because he's shy about crossing a line, could be that he's avoiding a consequence he doesn't want. don’t like the while he’s sober line in there with church. we have taken our relationship to the next level (if you can call it a relationship) intamacy is great. when he does get chance to talk to me he rather sit down at computer and look at graphic then give me time of day its happen for very long time . texted me when he was out with friends, letting me know where he was and that he would call me once he got home etc. we had a conversation the other day where he told me he really respects and likes who i am but i’m not the type he is attracted to normally but him attractive enough. there’s this boy i’ve known since 8th grade and i liked him ever since i saw him. i have already backed right off and only texted him yesterday after not hearing from him since my birthday which was 4 days before. i an extremely shy and an introvert and it's hard for me to make eye contact. a week goes by and it still says active within 24hours. feel like many women want the commitment/respect to happen naturally and i understand that desire. let your love for others trump your pride every time. i asked him if the text was for me & told him to call me. i felt kind of hurt, i mean he’s never ever told me if he would be interested in me, or not. if it does bug you that much just dont talk to me alot then”. he didn’t reply to that one anymore because he obviously had gone offline already. how can a man give me a stupid meaningless ring and tell me he can’t to get married to me etc and then do something wreckless? i kept giving hints that i wanted to pull him away from the crowd, and i finally succeeded., there is this super hot dude i had always been attracted to (still am) and eventually we ended up as best friends. here are eight ways to know if he’s shy or just not interested.

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after we stopped talking that night he hasn’t talked to me since. he really thinks the two of you aren’t “bound”, then i think you should let him know that because of that, you’re going to begin to talk with other men. don’t waste your time on a past you can’t change. don’t work yourself up too much about the whole “destiny” thing. this point i was kind of interested lol, and thought i was reading into it too much. he told you he wanted to marry you, and you didn’t believe it. there are a lot of possibilities as to why he’s acted toward you the way he has. obviously what you describe doesn’t sound good (in the sense that it seems like he’s telling you one thing and then says something online that is different to your “sister”). it has been almost a year and half but i dont feel same anymore. i need a break from online dating so i’ve hidden my profile. i was gutted when i found out because i really thought we were going on to something. he’d ask me random questions that he could have asked anybody else and there were times when i actually dressed up in a dress or something, when he’d talk to me more or seem more interested, but he’d also told me that high school relationships are so ‘stupid’. he manages to have an effect in me that keeps me from saying what i need to for fear that he will become upset. he asks me out every weekend and also at least once during the week. cause its like hes flirting but its all just a lie >. in a situation where you have a talk and you give him an ultimátum, he decides he wants to work things out he doesn’t want to break up, he would just like me to make it interesting again like before? a day or so later i really kind of had a moment where i texted him asking him if things were ok between us because he was being distant. went to a spa, it was beautiful and we ended up staying the night together……. offence ladys but this is not a confetion booth but there are a bunch off old worn out sackmen trying to pose as sad percy girls no one u dont know shood be seeing this kind off deep personal feelings. about 3 weeks ago his brother who unknowst to him has become my little buddy over the 2 plus yrs as well comes in says says i was told to say hello to you make sure i say hello to you. he is a gentleman i admit, like opening of doors, letting me through first and is concerned of whether i've eaten (nahs. i was the first woman he’s introduced to his family, and the first to really have a real relationship with. but after i found out that girl liked someone else so i told him that. ultimately he said he thinks we need a break for a week or two – that things were getting messy & the last thing he wanted is to hurt me. well 4 weeks ago i went to his place and we kinda took things to the next level, no we did not go all the way. i think these are all good things and he did give me a heads up well in advance and still wants to meet. he has met my family and gets along great with them, i have met his mom and some of his friends. he agreed that he did too, and things were good. we can’t meet up often because we don’t have cars, so that plays an even bigger role in me worrying. so i went there to talk it through and he said he needed a week to really think about what he wants. remember that he says he’s 39 and never been in a relationship, which is honestly a bigger deal to me than than being a virgin. when we come out of class he has missed his bus to accompany me while i wait for my bus and he has also considered doing things that i like even though he doesn’t like them or is really bad at it (like dancing). i have been talking to this guy for a month now, im really starting to like him & we talk everyday but i use to make all the effort till i stopped then he did but lately he hasnt been keeping conversations going. every time i make a joke about saving myself for him he replies with “you need to find yourself a real man not one online” i know he knows its a joke but i feel like he makes a conscience effort to remind me we will never work out. i trying calling back but the line was busy so i text him asking: ” umm is it kurt :o ? we have gone on trips, and had wonderful dates, he told me i’m just the girl he’s dating. and then he started putting on his shades lol and as we drove by i threw up the peace sign and he threw it back up at me and laughed and smilled while he did it. if he likes you, he should approach you for a date. if he’ll ever be able to move on he’ll have to deal with it – and that takes time. i was getting player’ vibes from him by this time. 20 minutes later he texted and told me i was far hotter’ in person.. i’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half…. or he’d occasionally buy me things and thought that made him great. at first, i really didn’t feel anything for him but he kept texting me evryday and even sending me pictures of what he is doing and things like that so i negan to like him. i have to add that i am 41 and he is 36, but he said he doesn’t care and neither do i. if you aren't, there's nothing wrong with asking him if he'd like to. could it be because he needs his space with his friends?] i heard that boys find many ways to touch girls they like, is this true? he acts shy when he sees n talks to me. i am one to not talk with other men when i am a few dates into seeing a guy, but we aren’t to that place of discussing taking down profiles yet. plus, he still has feelings for her – sounds like he needs to sort his feelings out first before dating anyone, let alone his ex’s best friend. he has told me he cares to much about me to sleep with me, but that was his intentions from the start. i’d say make a point to sit down with him and ask him where he sees the relationship going. he told me she invited him to spend new years eve with her like 4-5 days ago, so i told him today when the clock strikes midnight give her a kiss. his friends would tell me that he talked about me non stop. and he said he had logged in to show his friends my picture that i was the highlight of the weekend. i know he was clearly a player – is it possible he is a reformed player? if he really wants you, he’ll make time to set something up. december, i found out he was dating some girl he met online. he asked me a month into the relationship to be his girlfirend ive met his family and friends. i was going for the first bump but then he hugged me! at a gym for instance as a site responsible where he has to be professional? after that, i feel like he is really nice n kind and my feelings for him grew bigger and bigger . or how would he like it if the situation was reversed? this whole situation sounds to me like him trying to have his cake and eat it too. if he’s wishy washy he’ll have to eventually move past that – and leave the drugs behind so he can deal with himself properly, and effectively communicate his feelings toward you.. im not proud of myself but again it felt so so right, i had fallen for him through all these months. he showed mixed signs and he never really say he likes me and he’s kind to almost everyone but i call feel that he’s different with me. how he loves what we have but that he doesn’t think he can give me what im looking for at the time. – that’s its okay to continue chatting and even dating online while dating and building a relationship with one of us. last week we were talking on the phone and he told me i need to concentrate all my free time on my son. recently turned 17 and i stayed over my best friends house for the long weekend last week. he said happy birthday to me and also told that he wants to be close with me. it honestly sounds like your time might be better spent looking for someone who would fight to spend time with you as opposed to fighting to spend time with others. point is, it sounds like he cares for you and said that out of fears of abandonment and well you leaving. i have met he’s family and he’s the one actually told me all these things about what he told when she questioned i checked her profile, please help me. hope this helps you out and that my word of advice is not too late! might be something relatively harmless (such as an ego thing and nothing more). i was hurt but more disappointed because he told me that he would never hurt me like my ex s did or any man before him. they get all wound up because some guy totally swept them off their feet.,so theres this guy,we talk to eachother all the tlme.” i said “a little, but he obviously wasn’t the right guy” i said, no i will be staying here. it hurt so badly, and it made me feel extremely dirty and disrespected that he would mess around with me and talk to others the same day. i was able to sleep and i turned to my phone and she posted more. what i don’t understand is i’m way out of his league, and i’m not saying that because i’m delusional/cocky its actually the case; i’ve been told i’m very attractivee i graduated from one of the top universities in london, i work as a consultant, i’m very respectfule, etc. met him on pof in august 2013 and to be honest, i had just started dating again since my divorce 6 1/2 years earlier. go on a few dates with him, maybe to the mall or lunch on weekends. he had problems performing and than he got some pills and once he took the pill two weekends ago it worked. how many times i attempted and did stop the online-dating site but there’s always a way to communicate with him. if you're really bold, you might even ask one of them to join you for lunch or to watch a sporting event at your school. you're the one who is going through it and i completely respect that you're an intelligent person who can figure it out as you go.. he explained to me that he had his internet cut off and will be back on somewhere this week. it would’ve been better if you established the boundaries right from the get-go. and he's the one that asked me to watch it. initially he showed interest but now i’m confused whether he’s ignoring me or not. hours from where i live, so we knew that dating each other wouldn’t be that easy, but we also said to each other that we would make it work. i’m not sure how long you’ve been dating, how old you both are, etc. he text me back and ask could we still be intimate. he behaves as if he love me, then other time he behave as if am just a sister to him…. was tired of pining after j, so i tried hanging out with my one of other guy friend who was really nice and sweet and i used to like him and my dad thought he liked me (needless to say he wasn’t very happy about it. i wish i could be like other people, but for some reason i can't. am not a coworker just a friend of the family. he even offered to show me the “fake” account he was using to help his friend. its hard for me not to mentally start planning my life with the wedding and baby carriage when he’s the one who brings it up from time to time. – i don’t think expecting someone to be honest is being “needy”. on sunday he told me he thought it was harmless to email though he was only seeing me. all of a sudden he stopped messaging me, so i said hey when i saw he was online… but he ignored me, i asked him why he was ignoring me and then he ignored me again. i know that the fact that i am underage is a problem for him. i am an older lady working at a grocery store part time. one relationship which i’m still in but this isn’t about my boyfriend! like we have partners and he tries to talk to me more so we can be partners. i want to believe he doesn't exist and it works for months. at one point he told me that he ended an engagement last year, the girl really hurt him and he now has issues with trust and commitment. he then quite where we were both working to focus on school. were done having kids neither one of us want any more, all of his are out on their own, on they other hand i have a revolving door my kids are grown but they have problems of some sort that brings them back home for a month or 2 some times longer. so if that is so, why is it that he is always asking for a sexual favor etc. failed to mention i’m super shy and awkward when i’m sober. i told him to text me anytime or i will just text next time im back in va. he actually emailed my fake profile on friday & then on sunday. seems he wants me on his terms but doesn’t want anyone else having me. i had a gut feeling he was chatting with her. we continued to date and then on valentine’s day we broke up officially. when we woke up the next day he held hands when me in bed and when he left he took one of my belongings and wore them ?)i would suggest steering clear of any deep personal conversation when you leave unless he brings it up, and if he does, be receptive but cool. yes first time i get an invitation to his place. but then he kinda ignores me in front of our friends when we’re out (not at school though) and online.. the only problem with all of that is the fact that he had/has a girlfriend. does he tell them about “us” and use the word “we” frequently, or does he refer to you by your name or a pronoun? he actually messaged a friend asking if she wanted to chat and that she was the only woman he was talking to. most of the time it’s the latter, not the former. he may be weighing his options, trying to figure out who he’ll ask out.’ve liked this guy for about a year and over the summer we texted a lot, and they weren’t just flimsy conversations. girls have subtle ways of doing this…find out what they are and do them! i know he doesn’t he doesn’t like me because he sometimes takes days to text me back or sometimes doesn’t text me back at all. i write about this guy i work with who is looking deep into my eyes and about how it feels like home and how he wont let me get closer to him and he wont get any closer to me even though he is curious. some people meet and are not always attracted to each other, but they get on like a house on fire …. it’s so frustrating for me that the website charged him (earlier than they should) and after he had cancelled his sub. just keep thinking he doesn’t like me, that he just feels bad for me. to repeat the same thing, just wanted to see if you could help me a little. i’m pretty sure that my wife would be upset if i flirted with other women and told her it didn’t mean anything or that it was an ego thing. the thing is he goes on his match account every day. and this is the first time i have ever seen her on his fb. he recently decided that he wanted to get out of the navy sooner than planned and asked me to move with him to another state. the other night we made plans too hang after i got out of work. but now he’s been becoming really rude and acting as if it really doesn’t matter if i exist at all really. he responded with the patent ‘interested & looking forward to your email’. recently hes been smiling and walking past, but he has some sort of an arrogance in his behaviour, that tends to make me confused as to why he stares and smiles if hes not interested ? but he’s never actually told me that he likes me or he’s attracted or anything. sounds like he likes you on a semi-casual level (more than friends, less than romantic) and he just isn’t willing to commit to anything more. he responded to the girl that he was only into dating one girl at one time. he said he doesnt know that until that co-worker quit and confessed it to him. " if the words "i'm worth more than that" come into your head, keep repeating them - and act accordingly. a month ago, i complained about his dating profile still being active. you might not know him that well but having general conversations sometimes and you sensed he's interested on you for a few months from all the signs he's been showing. want him to treat you like a queen , how will you ask him ,well you cant, a good man will treat you like one , you dont have to ask them. having their support can make it feel like you’re not alone with your feelings. and he can do whatever he wants and still get off with you! if he responds, whatever he tells you, just take it at face value. he refuses to let our relationship status to be known publicly and i’m not allowed to post pics of us together on my facebook and tag him nor make it known that we’re together. i checked the messages tonight and it said he was online now so i messaged him with hi how are you, he didn’t respond. thing happened to me the guy i’m talking to stopped talking to me but he still talks to my friends.. i just thought your one of the “new mode” staffs. – i guess i don’t understand what the difference is between being exclusive and being boyfriend/girlfriend. for example, i posted that i wanna go to a place n later he posted the photos of that place ( he went there) ! he is funny and outgoing and really hot but i don’t know if he likes me. i want to trust him, and i have… but i found out that he still visits his datig profile regularly. and also at that game i was having a one on one convo with one of my friends and he was talking in a group of his friends and my friends. we then started dancing with each other after we danced with other people, and he danced with me completely different from my other friends. all taking all the quizzes and pass proclaming his love and liking me no question then all of a sudden after 5 yrs he said we do not have a future , i could not understand just told him well end it that way you have said enough i was so hurt , that situation i was not prepared pls advise. he asked to meet so i suggested lunch on saturday – since that’s a harmless, friendly thing! be prepared to walk away and be mindful of heeding your closest friends and family’s intuition in future relationships. have a crush on this cool guy who studies with me but the problem is that he’s always alone and never talks to anyone he doesn’t have friends in our college so i added him on facebook and we chatted twice he was nice a bit quiet and mysterious as usual , he said it’s just his nature being not talkative and he doesn’t mind people talking to him he’s not complicated , i also saw some of his pics on facebook with a lot of his friends having so much fun and mostly they are girls so he’s not a loner or anything he just doesn’t have friends in our college and i’m not sure he’s interested in making new ones he rushes out whenever he’s done in order to meet his buds and doesn’t hang much around there , so what should i do? you can send him an email if you want to just clear the air, saying that it’s ok if he doesn’t feel the same, you understand but still would like to talk once in a while as friends. he obviously likes having sex with you, talking with you afterward, etc. also, when i saw him and he was just 2 feet away from me (but he didn’t see me yet coz he was looking in front and i was at his back) i was surprised to see him there. are being “used” this guy is either married or in a relationship already and is looking for fun, he is using you for a bit of fun as that what the guys call , sex chat. i didn’t say anything and i think he thought j didn’t hear and it was fine. and he makes a big scene that i want to hold his hand and stuff when its him. i'm glad you are writing, but do not give these heartfelt letters to a guy who literally runs away from you! and he put as his status on facebook “i wish that i’d be liked for who i am and for one girl to put me before any other boys” so i messaged him saying “hey, i put you before any other boy, and i like you for who you are! anyway, that night it was a away game and my friends & i decided to go with some parents to the game and cheer on the boys since we’re cheerleaders anyway and my one friends boyfriend is on the team so that’s also another reason. i made it clear that i was not looking to settle down, but did want to continue dating him to see where it could lead, but could only do it if neither of us were going to continue to see other people. i finally pushed him and he admitted he and she had a sexual relationship a long time ago and that he had lied but he felt nothing for her then or now. i even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up. does he love me or m i just a re bound that got out of control? the fact that he puts your hair behind your ears is also another good sign too. my situation he is now an ex for a reason.) there’s the type where you both are mutually into each other romantically, 2. i’ve been dating a guy now i met online for almost four months now.. i just wished that he would be prepared because karma will get you. it seemed like every time i turned around he was finding some way to just be around me or make physical contact. it doesn’t matter if there are a hundred other wonderful things, without trust, there is no sustainable foundation. he left he kissed me on my forehead & cheeks before the lips. destroyed our relationship the last few months we were together because both of us were very upset about my moving. he wasn’t making sense, he pulled me but gently and desperately saying, we are not. he wanwants me back and says he does love me and wants no one else but i’m scared hrl do it again he never slept with her or anyone else he was with me 24-7 besides work and he says hel be more affectionate n loving this time cus he knows i care he was just scared i’d leave him again. he still texts me ‘i want to know all’ every day, he is the initiator 90%. or just keep doing what i am doing aka feeling weird about the whole situation? and i don’t feel like i wanna see others either. i wait another 3 hours and i decide to write him and just say “just drop off the money in my mail box or e-transfer it” he was online all day without a response to me. each other and it can be rather painful and difficult. whole post just confused me… especially because i’m having a huge fight with my boyfriend of 4 years… 🙁. we saw each other on the weekends when he would get off work and i would stay with him and a few times here and there he would stay at my house in the middle of the week but i didn’t think it was overdoing it. i don’t really know if he likes me or not… most of the times he seems to be little intimated by me and i don’t understand why, like he’s afraid of me. teases me a lot and say some mean stuffs or say that am a child but i know its just for fun. after a few days, i told him i’d done that and asked if he would. grew insecure we fought because believed he had to be seeking attention/ affection from another woman or women. the last time we saw each other was when he spent the weekend at my house. suggests that if you want to know if someone genuinely likes you, try to make them laugh. let him go he’s showing that he doesn’t care about what you are feeling because if he did he would have talked to you about why you were feeling the way you were feeling he probably just wanted to have some fun. if he didn’t like me wouldn’t me leaving him be perfect for him to leave and never look back? be strong in your decision because in the long run you’ll see that it was worth it. seems so full of himself and has a very high standards when it comes to the girl he wanted to be with. so in my part i gave benefit of doubts if he just using me or playing me. they just appear – sometimes due to chemical imbalances, sometimes they’re legitimate, and sometimes it’s something else. i said well depends on the situation, some people develop emotions and thats not good” he said i just honestly can’t take the time out for a relationship at the moment and i replied “mmm dont know how thats going to work” i think he got a little cut. we ended up cuddling and falling asleep in each others arms and he didn’t once let go of my hand. though i did suggest rain checks from some of his invitations (he couln’t be turned off by these turn downs, could he? let the grieving process do its thing, then let it go and embrace the idea of moving on. he did, when we spoke i said i was upset, i just seen his profile and how it changed and we were literlally with each other hours ago. but it seems that he is not worried about any of that as he would be texting you night and day… so i doubt its because of trust. is an on and off customer as he lives on a res a lot of the time with his grandparents. however near the end i found it was more me then him. sometimes i think he does not like me cos he does nothing to improve our relation. things can improve, sometimes quickly, but you have to have support – especially from both sides of the family as well. they were living together and having sex (mini-marriage), she was supporting him, etc. in the fb messages he only comments 1 to 2 words and very dull ones. think about him so much and he does not know anything. i could tell he is having a good time in my company, but i wad terrified by the thought that he may think he is just being friendly.? can you please respond, its driving me nuts, i have read all your things about if he is into you or not, or am i driving him away i have read all of them and he fits some of the categories and then he does not, most of those questions seem to not fit the sceerio? if i couldn’t get that, i would move on (easy for me to say, i know). he could’ve stopped talking to you because he doesn’t think things are going anywhere (like you aren’t getting his way of saying he likes you). like he ignores me and when i say hi to him when we meet, all he does is stare at me. like this guy and i thought he felt the same way about me, it was great at the start and well really its only just been over a month and already things are drastically stating to change.! i said i really like you and have knocked back dates from others too as i was seeing and sleeping with him, he said, he knocked back dates too! the best, mature way to handle it i think would be talking to him directly, telling him what you’re thinking/feeling, and asking if he feels the same, and that you wouldn’t want to move on without knowing how he really feels. would you want some guy you didn’t like to be texting you endlessly? then almost 3 more years go by and he lost her. i was chatting with a guy online and something similar occurred like your story. for example a girl i work with and absolutely adore definitely believes in the first rule ‘he’s not around you’, because if i didn’t go and talk to her she would take it to heart and read to much into it. so i told him we should try not to bring it up again and that since he’s a mature person i’ll leave it on him. we emailed a few times about which game to go to, she liked a friday game, so we were going with that. bring it to an end after a few minutes or when you think it’s a good time without being rude, and tell him something like “ok! but i want him to just be affectionate and sweet and caring all the time naturally. i didn’t mention anything since i figure he was busy with work and whatnot. he said that he finds me very pretty and hot. so i’ve started to replace ‘babe’ with his name. a few days the teacher made me sit beside his freind. pays for everything and takes care of me when we are near…. we were about to fall asleep, when he said: nothing we do is in vain, i like you and it's up to you what you want to do with that. the keep saying they will hav a good future together and will make them proud if they get married one day. the funniest thing’s that i asked him directly if he was seeing anyone or sleeping with anyone & he denied both. lucky - this is not good: text of the announcement:. the fact that you’re taking the time to answer each person is truly amazing. to me that this guy does not love you im sorry to say , but wants to be your friend… so you have a choice – walk away and dont speak or see him again, or tell him ok, it will just take time for me to see you as a friend because you meant more to me than just a friend, please give me time ok and then walk away …. you should work at finding better men by filtering the ones you meet through a strict “boundary” regimen. i'm trying to say that it can be hard to tell what a guy thinks/yes he is into you or no he is not because we all work differently and so are the guys as well. then about after an hour or longer of texting i said he could still help me. there’s this one guys in the group i was really good friends and we were kind of flirting. ( goes with any gender ) does he like to cuddle with you alot? it’s difficult because i have a daughter from a previous relationship and he wasn’t too sure about that, but was attracted to me. in the browser history i was looking to see if he had been viewing porn websites when i noticed a dating website there. he was quite shy but when other girls started to join our conversation he wouldn’t really talk to them the way he talked to me seeming a little bit disinterested. my heart is broken……i asked him if he read the note and he told me he still had it in his truck. his bff told me and my bff, the love of my life ( he didn’t use those words), planned for us (4 of us) to go to the beach. he checks his emails in front of me and i didn’t think much of it that he still got emails from another dating website and he had said he couldn’t remember the password. i’m still also unsure if i want to be in a serious exclusive relationship with him. always been the kind of popular one in a sense. being he was a close friend i could see his newsfeed . so i took all my personal stuff off his timeline and left the friend stuff. cause unfortunately in my world if you like me, well that makes one of us. never have i come across a guy /girl doing this,,,, i am wondering is it him showing me off to his mates ? he’s told me his biggest fear is missing the boat’ as in not getting married and having kids at a decent age. went to my bffs for dinner and she pointed out roaming charges. i texted him the next day saying ‘what is your schedule like? so he txt me back saying that he’s sorry that i feel that way he just was giving some seperation for us for the better to slow it down. fast forward to age 23; he likes me, i told him i like him too. every night i wait for his friendrequest to be accepted i wait for him to answer back to my messages i sent him but i got nothing…. so when i tried to talk to him about two different guys are wanting to take me out for new years eve, he don't want to hear it and changes the subject. he won’t hold my hand, kiss me, doesn’t get intimate often and it’s more of a wham bam thank you ma’am kind of event when it does happen…we are expecting a child so i guess i should feel the love but i enjoy the touch aspect of a relationship…. guys “love” being in love, and a new love excites them so much that they seek another partner or seek a different sort of love just to get that new love feeling back again. 3 years ago well thanx the first guy use to like me , along with a lot of other boys but im not sure if he still likes me know considering that there are more girls but yeah i mean if i talk to other boys like just asking a question or just like talking he will watch or either but in (first guy) c the second one as often. can fade when compatibility issues start to appear, and no amount of attention will fix an incompatible relationship. it seems he just want me to listen to him and respect him. i have active accounts on the on line sites as well but its been months since ive even thought to look at them. it hadn’t come up again, and i hadn’t thought much about it. 3 years ago okay so my friend put his arm around my shoulder twice but it was 2012 and 2013 i wanted to just punch him cause he stares and it's annoying is know he used to like me but i'm not sure he does nowstory 2 okay so starting of the the middle grade of middle school and the boy i like saw him we stared last time back in 2012 he turned all the way around to look at me and then turned back around and he just stares not sure if he likes me well almost girl in school like him but he just stares help with both thanx. i never got to meet her, but on one visit to her family (which is in my home state) he joined but didn’t stay with her. thats another rule that the guy wants to be in your life. last week i got really upset with him asking him “why do you ignore me? months later, my brother in-law was in a bad accident. maybe he’s feeling like the relationship is at a point where he needs to decide to take it to the next level – or break up. he didn’t answer so i may have sent too more msges then told him to have a goodnight. i did that, but no response…he claims he fell asleep. i asked him if dating or seeing somebody and he replied he is dating here and there and kinda seeing someone but nothing serious. to make a long story short, he and i are perfect together in every way but, there won’t be a fairy tale ending where we live happily ever after, not after tonight. guys who do that for girls almost always end up in the friend zone, and they hate it. i just don’t want to him to like someone more than me. and if he starts acting differently towards you, one way or another, you’ll know.: in part two, i'll share some killer advice for how to keep your wits about you when you're dating a smoking-hot guy that you're really, ridiculously attracted to. also, ladies, exclusivity is a trap for women and a benefit to men. shortly after we started talking more in person, he messaged me on facebook and, from his profile, i suspect he has a girlfriend. can you let me know common ways to tell if a guy isn’t interested? he was talking to a female and some how felt in love with her, but she went back with her baby-daddy. let your smile and your past experiences be the mirror you use to not get hurt again, but also let go of the past forgive but don’t forget. now, he only goes online for a couple of minutes at a time whenever he does log in. he was telling me to watch him in his eyes. but he hardly contacts and i text and call him first almost everyday. he will always be super close to me and randomly grab my hand and look at me and not look away and just stare at me and when i finally stare at him he just tells me i’m pretty or that he loves me. i creeped her (not my finer moment) a little bit and he has know her for a while. later finding out that his father was sitting next to my friend and heard everything that i was saying about his son (and it was all friendly things, nothing mean).'s between the girl and the guy and only they know what's going on inside of their minds and outside or people around who see this..Then again, when i never liked him, i never seen him around. he has said he missed me, but he never asks to hang out i am usually the one to ask and he would say ok, and now its (i am not sure if he is joking around or not but he would be like i’ll see if i can pencil you in, then i say :o and he says you know i am kidding. listen carefully when he talks about the two of you to others. but he’s never told me he likes me or is into me. – how long has it been since he sent you a text? so i never talked to him about the dating site but i found out that he isn’t using the site we met on anymore but that he has set up an account for a totally different site and tried to hide that it’s really him so that no one will know. and one time i was over his house and we were sitting on the steps and his little sister came out and said something cute and we just looked at each other and laughedtogether. we’re not best friends and i’ve only known him since school started (about 4 or 5 months) and i think he might have liked me for a while and i like him too but i’m not sure how to flirt with him if he seems uninterested. i just need to stop this before i end of crying again cause i feel like he likes me but he doesnt know how to tell me and he’s friends i know think i am so freaky hot. it’s march 2015, and he brings up the topic of moving in together. we finally met 2 weeks later and it was a double date, we got alone fine and had our 1st kiss and told me how much he enjoyed himself on his fb status. and im not going to lie i am not ugly… but then he stoped txting me and i txt him asking wen he wanted to meet up and we arranged a time at night, and he suggested we go lay down on the beach, i sent a txt that day to confirm (heard nothing back) then it was begin to reach 6. i kept refreshing the search everyday i don’t know why and then last friday morning i was shocked when i saw that not only had he been online but he had uploaded his picture. curious on a friendship level or acting like a brother? i know, because i have a friend that is on the same dating site and she keeps me updated, unfortunately. i think you should make sure some others in your life are aware of what’s going on…i don’t feel very equipped to help you very well if things are turning abusive. but i thought this was different but, well i met this guy like a few weeks ago. 3 years ago from usagotta hate when things like this happen, but it's pretty common for things to fall apart just when they seem to be heating up! after a few days of chatting, he asked me out for supper, since we felt hungry and was after work. i had a mini melt down in my doctors office in the back room. concentrate on the relationship you’re in now…and if you’re interested in exploring relationships with other guys, then you must break up with your current man. said, i’d be careful to really be sure that he owns that profile. was after that, that he started with this conversation of me spending all my free time with my son. with you, you only, he teases you instead of making a compliment, he seems really troubled whether to touch you or not, he tells you in a straight way to avoid staying too close to him when you are alone, but at the same time he keeps on staring at you and watching every move you make and listening and remembering everything you say, he’s really hard to make you a compliment and never likes any picture of you on facebook? it is summer, and unfortunately, i was too shy to get the boy’s number, but we ate lunch together with a few other guys and we talked a lot. that could ignite a conversation, but don’t hang in there too long talking and talking. we had been together for 4 months at that point so it really hurt. thing about the advice above is that someone women will want to start this process immediately after the first date. don’t attack him about it – show genuine curiosity and i hope he’ll realize that even if he thinks it’s not a big deal that his profile should come down/be hidden. so i haven’t talked to him since a long time. j doesn’t, he got so freaked out when my sister made a small (funny imo. i removed my profile at the end of the first week or so explaining to him that it was my personal preference/instinct and that it placed no pressure or expectation on him. we slept together last month, we got drunk and there was always this tension between us and it sorta just happened and i don’t regret it we agreed that we don’t wanna date but i’ve never actually told him that i like him and that the reason i don’t wanna date him isn’t that but just the fact i don’t know him well enough and i don’t feel secure around him. he asked me to be his girlfriend shortly after we got the apartment. i have tried to keep my “option open” by staying on the site – but it just makes me feel bad…. if he wanted to see you, he would have suggested a time or place, not you. kinda confuses me…but i have created a fake profile on the same site with no picture and said that i don’t have any kids and made myself 2 inches taller and also put that i live in the town i grew up in. thought it was odd he was asking these, but just assumed he was a really nosy co-worker lol.. i have now been officially placed into the bro or brother-zoned. idk its blurred lines for me right now i’m just confused and a little hurt. i then said well, it is partly because of you, i am not interested in talking to anyone else while i am getting to know you. i've been confused a lot lately about the interest level a certain guy has for me. should i just work up the balls and ask him myself like what the hell is going on with us?’s unfair to expect him to make all the first moves, let alone to expect all guys to always make the first move. its been a month since we spoke/saw each other. he already has made a connection with you – as he said he really likes to spend time with you. i think having the talk on this will clear that up and if he still won’t take his profile down, i think that will be the sign that something is really wrong. hmm…i don’t think you should be looking for a way to blame yourself for his actions. is this guy i really really like and we hung out with eachother for the 3rd time. i don’t text i’m he would text me so i’m trying to see if anything i’m doing for him to act out he do this every year and then come back so how do i handle this because i don’t want no man to think it’s okay. its possible he feels bad about that one night stand. we did broke up for 6 months but we was still living together and doing everything that we did when we was in a relationship.), but my question is:  Can you help me decode signs a guy doesn’t like me? – it’s very possible that he would change as we don’t really know what’s causing him hesitation from fully committing to just dating you and hiding his profile. our emails were immediately riveting and he even told me it seemed like we knew each other for ages. and if i just gave this some time, i bet he will start to have feelings for me. moved into a new school before christmas last year because of being bullied and made a new friend called let’s call her x. then he said he had fallen out of love with me , i’m the type of person that holds on to all the stuff said 🙁 i started crying and asked him what hapoened, i found out not to long ago he had started talking to a friend who was interested in him and i had confronted him about that and they ended up not talking anymore so i asked him if there was someone else, they had plans to meet up and hangout and at that moment that was extremely painful but we decided to move on, now i’m lost idk if i’m wasting my time with him anymore i still love him very much but if in continue in this relationship any longer the pain will be worse 🙁 what’s confusing me is after he dropped me off he wanted me to kiss him?! frances can help you slow your roll and make a clear decision with your head despite what the rest of your body is telling you. eventually i talked to other men feeling rejected and he found out & became very emotional. and i asked him if he wanted to come with me he said “no it’s okay. about every day or two i would contact her to confirm the date, but she never responded. he kept bragging about all the people he is talking to because he heard i was on tinder and meetme (i was on it just for fun). but now i feel like i lost my friend because we are not that close anymore and i don’t know what he’s thinking but i love him and he knows but i don’t know how he feels about me. even though i’m smarter and younger than her, people look down on me more than they do this girl. didn’t let the facebook message bother me too much because i noticed that he didn’t respond to any posts on his page, not even to his siblings who wished him a happy birthday etc. he said no but we became friends and then after sometime we were in a relationship. he used to hate her and thought she was a “leech” who wouldn’t leave him alone. ran onto another person i know who is now a friend on and off fb. i don’t usually do this but this site came up n i thought i would see what kind of advice or opinion i get. i feel that he is moving way too fast and doesn’t seem to have mourned or grieved properly. and then he kept on flirting with me in a physical way , lile holding my hand hugging me tight , he whispered i love in my ear. i have told my parents and he has claimed that he’s told his as well. don’t over react but do not ignore the nagging inconsistencies. if you haven’t agreed to be exclusive, i feel this is the point that the relationship would need to reach before you would be in a position of strength to ask that the profile be removed. i want to see him again, but has he lost interest?’t know what to do cos i don’t wanna be too impulsive and end the relationship but all of this just gets to me and i don’t know if am risking my emotions and should have waited a longer while before getting in a relationship. however, we didn’t really start talking till after the semester was over at which he had asked me out three different times. so that’s part of the reason i didn’t go into every possibility – it’s really a moot point anyway. he was in the room quite abit and i think? this relationship is running on his time-table, it seems like you’ll show up when he decides he wants to see you.! now since 4 days ago he stopped texting me / calling me / wanting to go on dates and keep going. everything about this situation tells me it’s just not a good idea to date him. day 3 he texts me and apologizes for his coldness and tells me that i don’t deserve that. i have read what you have written on this subject and i know you said that men are slower to remove their profiles than woman – so my question is how long is reasonable to wait for him to do this before you say something or begin to feel offended by it? so i have ben interested in this guy on and off for the last year. and he will keep coming back and telling me to do these things.! no real man would treat a lady like he has and is. problem is that i went out with this guy when i was younger (6 years ago) and now we are chatting and flirting again, he approached me by asking me about a cutesy nickname he had for me when we dated the first time and spoke about different things we had done together (days out etc. if there is less time spent together then it would be safe to say that he ditched the relationship.? she dis appointed him but i sometime feels that girl has a part of ? too has become distant, critical of a lot of my traits and things i do or say. we live together and we dont talk all that much. i’m sorry, but it does sound like it’s time to move on. he did not introduce me as the “girlfriend,” but simply by name. the day after we had a business meeting in which he and i attended and others as well. the other hand, "men who are interested in dating in a serious way will start talking about serious things., with that said, let me give you a word of warning: be very careful how this moves forward (if it does).’s funny – guys will act 100 different ways around the girl they like… they’ll even completely ignore her! yeah, i showed him a picture of this guy and claimed as a joke that he was my future husband, and j (the guy. he knows that i will soon live where he lives because that is my future plan (even before i met him) – which is four months from now. am a guy who stumbled upon this page out of curiosity and ladies i have too say this site is 300% accurate about what i do when im not into a girl. i said if he felt awkward then just tell me. so does it mean he is not interested enough or else he would have find ways to make a move on me? someone who is being friendly may help with things here and there, and may invite you to join his friends, but he won’t do all these things. well he blew up and i blew him off for three days till he finally manipulated me back into seeing him through constant texting. thereve been a number of incidents where i’ve misbehaved. “he’s not around you”: i was super into a girl i worked with, downright crazy about her…and i steered clear of her like she had a contagious disease. am struck by how similar my experience is to so many others. he say’s ok, but another few weeks go by and nothing.! so do you think he likes me or we are just bestfriends ? do i kick him to the curb, move on, be patient with him, see where things go, etc. brad, do you think what we have now can get more serious – become exclusive and enter into a relationship? i know its him because of the wording he used and the things he is looking for. i say, observe what he does not what he says and make your choices, ladies. was pretty angry at my outburst……that friday i wrote him, apologizing for acting instantly rather than sitting with my feelings and just blowing up on him. to turn things around he tells me he likes me very much and misses me when he’s gone. you’re not sure how to approach it, i’d basically let him know what you told me: you feel bad for snooping but you were suspicious and now you’re very hurt by what you found. "you want to ask men qualifying questions about how compatible you are. is he trying to keep me on the back burner in case they don’t work out again.. at the parties everyone was dating except me and this other guys. set up some boundaries to lessen (not eliminate) the likelihood of this happening to me again.(gy the way i want him to stop talking about his dick it is annoying).. then still until now continuing communication but we dont have any commitment. if he is honest and admits to having a commitment issue, could you give him more time? just as some people have trouble committing, others are far too quick to try to do so. well one thing led to another and not only was i stupid enough to fall for his praise i met up with him a week later after hrs of texting. he said that he wasn’t happy anymore, and that he didn’t want to be tied down. you haven’t trusted him for a little while now, he doesn’t pay attention to you, doesn’t consider your feelings in regards to affection and acknowledgement, you’re not married to him, and there’s no kids involved. met a guy on a dating website about 3 weeks ago, and ever since then (tons of long emails back and forth), we’ve been really attached. so my question is should i be concern about his profile is still up and he’s still checking it, since i never mention or ask him to take it down. he knew i had a crush on him and eventually became irritated that i was showing up to his games all the time. but if he feels the strong feelings for me like he says why wouldn’t he share them with me? it was a good meet up because i took my friends and we all went out to the beach and had a really good time. sometime’s he look’s at me at class and hallways.?Any suggestions on how to deal with this now am i just wasting my time and just move on? (better yet, have some good eats and drinks on hand, too. anyway their dating now and now he doesn’t talk to me so he’s done it again. i tell him he ismy only partner and i wanted him. anyone, any advice would be really helpful, i just wanna know how to make him see me in a different way. i started liking him and, he shows pretty much all of the signs and i was pretty much 100% positive that he was into me(was being the main point here). he will see me the next time i am at work. he would talk to me then it was christmas break and we did not see each other when i got back he started to ignore me i will see him stare at me then whin i look at him he looks away like nothing happened when i talk to him he will answer then look away and whiny say any thing else. he also said he wants to see where things go between us.” i really thought maybe he liked me, but then my sister pointed out that that’s how he acts all the time.. also does he confess alot to you ( meaning his past/ story etc ) that means that he really likes you and that he trusts you with all his secrets and stuff… now if his avoidable with those questions it could also mean his insecure bout it and that he likes you alot so he doesnt want you to distant away due to his troubling or disturbing past. there’s this guy i’ve known since i was a little kid, but we never really spoke to each other.” we also did the “in a relationship” status on facebook. we had finally worked out a date but seeing that i had came from work, i was extremely tired and i think it just made me seem uninterested the whole time. oh, another thing, don’t let your feelings push you around…which is easier said than done. was always so carefree and fun and now i feel bogged down, surly, vindictive, jealous of his relationships with others. i think that might be a next step: to let him know that you’re very unhappy that he keeps his profile up. i ask his friends whether he likes me or not, they said just think that they didn't know anything, why did they said like that and just say no if he didn't like me? our relationship went from being amazing to almost always being irritated with each other. – i think it would be a good time to mention being official again. lately, he and i have been staying up late texting and that has been really awesome cuz he’s really funny and sweet, and i know he loves me as a person but not in a romantic way. i think you should let him know that in the next few months you need the relationship to change: either he needs to fully commit or the two of you need to go your separate ways. still he kept his profile up as “single” so i did too..what am i going to be with you, sleep with you, & be wondering whats going on; on the side with the dating site…. fyi sniping out greetings when someone passes you by does not make you two friends and it doesn’t mean you’re a good person. if you don’t get a response to that you’ll definitely know something is wrong. leaving the club, my friend said i looked cold and he offered his jacket right away. i sent one text on that first day, and one on the second day, and decided that was it. about 2-3 months later, her told me that he liked me (this was prior to meeting) and i sort of felt the same way for him. tell him you’re there for him to listen, etc. men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”. why did he feel the need to tell me it was down? i keep creating these scenarios in my head and i know i shouldn’t. here’s the story we went out for a bit and he dumped me because someone told him 2, he was upset for a bit and i told him to move on. his normal response when i ask for a kiss or a hug is that he’s been “lovey dovey” with other girls before and it’s never ended well so he’s not going to be that way with me. i went back old years night to spend it alone at his house and he was in a good mood ready to head out to lime. i’ve been seeing this guy who i knew in high school we hit it off good and later i heard from a few of his friends that he had always kind of liked me but at that time i was with one of his friends. wrong at all with caring for someone, seeing them in a special light. i hangout with his family and we always do things together and then there will be times when he doesn’t answer calls or will just be distant. then i begun to talk to him again {facebook}, it seems that he doesn t like but he doesnt ignore me, so yesterday i approached him to say hi, while going to school, because he was in the same way, he was serious, at first he did like he doesn t see me but then he answered me and we walked together for a while, there was an akward silence so i said we are going to arrive early uh? but he always begs for me to take him back. during this time, i’d been chatting up the bartender when he leaned across the bar, grabbed my hands, and told me that he wanted to have sex with me. i want to take it the relationship slow too but i also don’t want to be seeing a guy that is looking for the bigger better deal. when we are around each other we hold hands and act like we are together. if i want to check on someone i just use a friend’s profile to see when they were last online. he is still getting messages from other women on there and i told him that she accidentally hit it (i didn’t even act mad) and he turned it around like it was me and said i was probably snooping (this time i really wasn’t! when you’re ready, you can start seeing him again if that’s what you want.. i was starting to go crazy ,so i left because i have been needing to get me some summer clothes for the next day anyway . i met this guy on facebook and we were talking for about a month and then we started texting and we have been texting every day for 6 months. recently he’s been talking to me a little bit over snapchat, and he poked me on facebook too randomly. to determine whether he’s in it for you or for your physical attributes, give some thought to how much preparation he puts into your dates.. he does say things like “i love my wife but” which might mean there was problem in the marriage but i don’t know how to pry into their relationship. i can’t be sure, but if he gets jealous when other guys talk or touch you, that could be a definite sign.. my gosh i cant tell you how attractive he looks… and thats why im afraid id lose him just like that. has been over 4 years since i’ve had a crush on someone and having this teenage feeling is weird it sometimes makes me act clumsy around the guy i’m crushing on now. it’s early may, and we’re spending mothers day with his parents. he was dating and sleeping w/ tons of women – that doesn’t really concern me too much, as i can’t say i wasn’t doing a little of the same, and we had not declared exclusivity at that point. the next day he txt me and says his girlfriends back. when i put my head down the desk he try’s many way’s to wake me up. he may have the hots for you, he may not., boy#1 actually said he has a girlfriend a month ago when we were getting into a conversation. make sure you abide by it if there is one. and maybe he's just shy or not interested enough as i think? he texted me later that night and said he was really sorry and that he wants to make it up to me. but, last weekend over in the same friends house she told me that his profile is still there. was/am in the same situ, whatever happened in your situation? i really enjoy my time with you and we do have a physical and emotional connection. has his ego been hurt that i was online when he had removed the earlier account? how he hates the fact he makes me feel the way i do with all this. at the moment when i introduced him to the girl i didn’t like him that much until i noticed that he’s not a bad person in a relationship he would continue to tell me everything until his new girlfriend got mad and thought that we were doing something…., you’ll probably want to check out my previous advice on this topic. have the same interests , the same way of thinking , the same personalities and even the same hobbies and skills ! follow other things that will be inspiring and help you grow as a person. no wonder so many lose faith in the online dating venue. my friend thinks he likes me and i do too. he has asked me on two separate occasions if i had any plans this coming weekend. i don't know if he really wants to be with me or not. we made some mistakes by not talking earlier, but i did not want to use that as a reason for exercizing caution when i knew i would not go forward. should i just go, move on and leave him in this apartment to take care of alone? he always finds an excuse to touch my hands, even now. actually i have some of my toiletries in his bathroom and he’s fine with that. when a friend told me that this guy does like me, i gave little hints, being extra sweet to him (baked him a cake for his birthday, to which he responded nonchalantly). don’t count on the guy to have them–you set the rule on that one. at lunch, he sits one table away from me and my friends and he just never looks at me anymore. we have been doing great untill all of a sudden he withdrew himself emotionally and physically out of the blue.. we have been good friends for about 5 years now and we hang out with all the same people. he stares at me a lot but looks away quickly sometimes with smile and the other times with angry looks? is, he’s been more stand-offish lately and i’m afraid i blew it, but maybe i’m just being paranoid.’re the one who is making things difficult because 1) you don’t know what the f you want and 2) you’re a liar and a manipulator. i said okay and waited a few days, and wished him a good day via text one morning. the busyness of life will always find ways to fill up your schedule. he even had me add a tracking device on my phone so i can see exactly where he is at all times. was so angry that we didn’t talk for 3 day’s and then he said he wasn’t going to date anyone but i could and we’ll play this by ear . 2 weeks before move in, i just couldn’t shake a funky feeling i had about the whole thing. he didn’t answer so i may have sent too more msges then told him to have a goodnight. my sister had something with a guy who i like but now he's coming for me. slept together after about 5 dates and it just felt right but neither of us mentioned about being exclusive, i think we both took it we were only seeing and sleeping with each other, at this point he was still active on site but my time on there was becoming less. 20 this guy is 4/1 years younger then me he name kyle but ge ia dating anirher girl i likw but we use to flirt with each other but idk he likes me. my friends r like saying he’s retarded sometimes and mostly is, i have to admit he can be very stupid sometimes, but i’ve seen passed that in him, which makes me love him.. when i think back i am surprised to find that each and every time it was i who decided when he should have an opinion about me, i decided when he should take down his profile and actually i decided everything about timing etc based on my instinct and my feelings. he cooked, we chatted and there was some make out. in other words, it's his most honest moment, and the time for you to ask questions and take the answers at face value without any interpretation of your own. if he likes you then you will both get board and find new people within two years and if he doesn’t like you then oh well on to the next one. guys are just passive, so it’s hard to know if there’s any issue here. am not brad (obviously) but if you read my post, which is right before yours, you can see i was almost in the same situation. i’m an old married lady now, but when i was dating i just took the guy’s behavior at face value. 3 months in is when i saw he was still logging in……it upset me…. i also loved how he would look into my eyes and talk to me with his eyes. guys can be like that, so be prepared on setting boundaries in terms of his pursuing you…if he does. so as we were texting back and forth, and i was telling him how bad he hurt me etc, he still wanted to know if it was ok to come over and help me at my apartment like we had planned. but sometimes i feel like he is just not paying attention at all,sometimes he wont really talk to me. is telling you the truth…he lied for sex and since you aren’t putting out now, he’s not working on you anymore. but at school hes the one who approaches me and gets super touchy with me. questions to you are these, one thing that sort of bothers me is that we are exclusive, however he only hid his profile.. which has been cancelled but not hear anything about a visit. in the cases where his profile is still up, i would expect that another month after bringing up your concerns is all it should take for him to decide (and it really should be much faster than this). friends mean very little and quite a few people will edit their profiles to make themselves look better. he showed obvious signs of interest so why isn’t he following up on the date or texting me? infact he didnt know who it was as it was my first time to text him out of the blue. that being said, are there any creative ways where you could spend more time together even though you don’t have cars? he has talked to me online alot but when we are face to face he won’t say a word. so based on my observation i am assuming that he was checking his profile for a minute or two then logged out. am i afraid that it'll all be on brother-hood level ? and then it starts all over again where he ignores me. things were great until we had sex and it changed everything deep within me and i acted distant, but would come back after a short while for sex only. sunday he texted for a bit then nothing i said goodnight like normal but hockey was on and i always get ignored when hockey. so as that sixth week approaches, i think it would be best if you let him know that you’re bothered by his profile still being up and see how he responds. tell him you are not accustomed to dating a person who puts so much space between contacts. then he replied ‘thanks for my message and no problem being friends at the moment, as many things happened at the sametime (he is divorcing now), then all in sudden, his messages come more often again…and he keeps sending me everyday, morning, daytime and good nite(with my name). he can get you a hotel room and take you on a road trip but logging into a website and removing his profile is beyond his time and resources? ok he says, let’s talk about it, then we get interrupted by one of the kids and never come back to the topic. girl who he thinks is a genius but is not one. he wasn’t interested in you for the right reasons honey. every other week we’ll argue he will force me to leave the apartment then try to get me to come back in a couple days. he told me how his ex finace was not supportive of him.

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before he came to the christmas party i askef him if i could call him my bf yet but he ignoref it. could also have erectile dysfunction, fear of scaring her away with his poor technique, or even be asexual and trying to clumsily cover for any of the above. i didn’t ask him if he was going to delete his, i assumed that of course he would. gave him my time to talk, with all hope and my heart. could it be that he really doesn’t like me? we kiss, we hold hands (all this in my own home) never really had a chance to go out and do stuff during the day due to how busy i am and he is etc. part of me thinks it just his response to getting caught but i’m really in no place to judge him. when i text him, he always replies right away and we text until i get tired. then he said to me that he wanted to try to get back with his ex wife. i thought that he liked me, but now i’m not so sure. i have no shame in making sure after i had been lied to once to check again to be sure. he had me as his secret santa and he went so it off his way to make sure he got me something good that he asked my brother for advice and he’s not even really depends with my brother anyway.. the second time he said he did it because he was testing me to see if i would leave him. pray – ask god to free your heart (this could be a form of idolatry and covetousness).’s a situation i’d appreciate your perspective:Have been doing the match thing for a few months. on, my now boyfriend and i started dating and it was casual dating for both of us. he playing with my feelings or why did he do so? ive taken family vacations with him and his father so im thinking things are just fine. the assumption that guys see things just as women do is risky business…especially if you are rapidly ending relationships based on that assumption. that text he sent to me by mistake screams that messing up with me bothers him. he flew in from a work trip to talk- i tried to break up with him several times but he insisted he did not mean what he said & that he realized he would never want that-is he telling the truth? if he’s hesitating because he’s concerned about commitment, this approach could scare him off. we lived together over a year later and then he one day just moved out. how can i tell him this without him using the “dont talk to me then” reply. looking through his emails may be crossing the line, because you should trust him, but you obviously don’t. i seems he is stressed with his job and taking it out on me. know he wants to talk to me too because i left chat because id wait for him and it was getting too much for me to do that and i told him that the only reason i went was to talk to him he said i was the only reason he went there too and he hasnt even been back since even though ive popped in a few times.. well after another hour he finally text me saying he was cow chasing and be be here in a min . but i don’t know why he isn’t pursuing this. commit yourself to these things in healthy balance, and understand that in life lows will come so that we can greater appreciate the highs. after i finished my writing i didn't get much relief as i thought, but instead i became myself extremly shy twords him. i like him a lot and he treats me better than my last exboyfriend. he asked if we could pick up where we left off…. ever since then i can’t think about anything else and i still feel sick to the very core, i just want to know why he would do this! out of the blue, i got a curiosity about the profile situation. you had the conversation about killing both profiles there is no excuse to open the emails or winks even now that you know the tidbit about the cookie auto log in i just told you about. i will tell you that he does the same with his job though. but he had his head down and i kind of took a deep breath and tried again lol. if after a week his is still up, you could try dropping hints: maybe mention that you took your profile down or talk about how you enjoy spending time with him.’s hard to say without knowing more about how you reacted to him, but i’m assuming that he may’ve been turned off by your explosion to him joking around. he said the past few days had driven him crazy & we should cool it. tell him you’re not interested in a relationship with him. i let it slide since it hadn’t been in use since 8 jan which was before we had met. when he finished his cigarette, he suddenly started kissing me. next morning he tried to cancel and i wouldn’t allow it. then on a start of a new project he decides to cooperate with our manager and be one of the investors. sometimes when we went out with our mutual friends, he would ignore me completely. but we never talked to each other while we were in school, we used to travel by the same school bus but never even said a hi. just random hello how are u every couple of days etc. and before he used to have a massive ego, until he discovered that he wasn’t the only top student in the class, since i started kicking his butt into the ground, and now his ego is really deflated. doesn’t mean give up, it means try to find out. our relationship is great but i cant help but feel like he still misses his ex. i have dated my share of immature guys and he sound like one in my book. put my name in his contacts as “babe* he kept on saying ilove you, but then he said i think of you as a sister! i asked about it and to his credit -it is an old flame and he hasn’t been on the site since april. eric, please help mee /: ok , i really like this one guy iwanna know if he likes me though , i think he flurt;s with me . we have been friends for 5-6 months except for the two week break and he message me. i am very confused because he would tell me that he loved me, and he was acting normal until thursday. after reading many of these stories i have somewhat of an undertstanding that this is not uncommon. if he’s nervous, he’ll avoid repeatedly until he’s 100,000,000% sure you won’t reject him. princess: from what you said, it kind of sounds like the guy panicked and didn’t even want to talk about being more than friends. the way that i got distance myself was the fact that he obtained a job elsewhere and i can truly now say that i am actually happy it happened that way..and during all this, we are both still active on the dating sites…. he just wanted to bed you i am sorry to say and is just giving you the brush off because your not putting out. needless to say, he has trust & commitment issues and i am understanding and patient…. another problem is that a few times he had informed me that he is confused and do not know what he wants in life or keeps on changing his problem which makes me feel so confused and disappointed. but he hangs around my bestfriend more than he hang around me and now my bestfriend is starting not to care about me anymore. a man that has been coming in to where i work for almost a year.. then he said to me its only a page im so paranoid he loves me and will never let me go. it’s the first time i’ve met someone like him. i i mean gee, is it really necessary to say that after you just told me you loved me? we proceed to see each other two more times, before i went on vacation for 5 days to cancun (alone). he did go on the otherside of his window and peeked through at us . but he’s still so kind to me to help me in my time of need. don’t know why but i think there is a chance he might like me…. he asked me everything and i did tell him but he, doesnt tell me more about himself. he says that they only last for a short amount of time, and if he really wanted a girl, he’d get one so i really do try and convince myself that he’s just a friend. so, if this is the case, why would his profile still be up? the fact that someone doesn’t effusively crawl up your ass mean absolutely nothing other than that single fact. fact,he started texting quite a bit and stuff and even walked me home from camp. we haven’t talked about exclusivity yet, because i think that it’s too early to talk about it and that i might be putting pressure on him, but i don’t want any games or be fooled. on sunday, he told me about a dream he had. he’s kinda shy but i wouldn’t say too shy. 2 years ago from usamaria, i can see that you are having a lot of difficulty understanding when someone is not interested! 3 years ago why did he gives me smile, but never approach me? i guess my question is did i do the right thing? when i attemt too talk about “us” he changes the subject. some things i have said makes him uncomfortable and he won’t know how to respond back. i also thought it was kind of weird but i felt that if he was okay with me seeing where he was and i had nothing to hide then there shouldn’t be a problem. never had a chance to meet him in person since he always busy at work he cant leave but he did tell me that he wants to set up a date to meet me. i would talk to him: let him know you want to be exclusive and see what he says. what he did is not right and you did not deserve to be hurt like that. me, if a month goes by after you’ve expressed your concerns and he is still refusing to remove his profile then setting ultimatums seems more reasonable. 3 months ago from usawhile i wouldn't suggest throwing yourself at him in a way that would humiliate you if he doesn't reciprocate your interest, this is the kind of situation where you might gently inquire if he'd be interested in going on a date sometime. so just wait, and maybe he’ll come back in your life. can someone, please explain to me what is going on because i see it as one thing and one thing only, i am being deceived in a very cruel way as he is clearly preoccupied with pursuing other women on dating sites.! and i’d just kindly smile back… and he did this 5 times before he finally got tired i think. he flirts with me and shows off a lot even his friends say his showing off at me 🙂 but i find out he apparently like this girl, lets call her k and they have a class and she always sits on the table in front of him and flicks her hair :/. so i fill my time with friends and stay busy with my own life. we haven’t gone on a real date yet because he lives in a different country than mine. im gettin fed up but then i see hes texting and flirting! which btw still says “singe” and “actively seeking a relationship”. one month down the line he stopped refferring to out future, except he will only speak to me current situation and only refers me as gf. boys are like that, they don’t want to admit their true feeling. thing is in the begining he was referring to our future hopefully it would lead toi marriage and refferred me as his wife, love etc. are just guesses but the fact that he took it down in the first place is the most interesting part to me. figure with all the things he has done it sounds like he is interested in me. i was on my way home when he texted & told me where he was late on friday. it may mean he has a lot of pride and he’s not used to showing affection… so he trivializes it. would very much like to broach such a topic but i'm somewhat a pretty shy person, so i do not know how to start it. there’s lots of possibilities, therefore its’ hard to put myself in his shoes. there’s this guy that i really like ,, he stares at me all the time across the classroom , we have another class together and i sit behind him , and he turns and talks to me and stares at me. i guess you could mention to him that your friend told you that she saw his account was still up and you could let him know that you’d feel much better if he hid it. so his just checking to see if you still love him by wanting you to kiss him, id say for get him and move on, he wants something more and is after something more than what he has with you, he wants to play the field so to speak! we are foolong around everynight and he brings me to climax everyway but when i ask him to have intercourse he makes lame excuses and tells me im ruining everything. he never mentions hanging out or meeting up and it scares me. since then, i’m lucky if he texts me twice a week. i always have to start conversations with him online, and he takes forever replying back and keep the conversation going but if i need something he makes time for me. she thinks maybe he needs some time to sink in what she said. after 2 months he asked me to be his girlfriend – actually an old college friend of his we met on the street asked if i was his gf and then a few mins later i told him that i did not want to continue to see him unofficially so he asked me to be his girlfriend and said he’d tried to ask many times but was too shy. he sent me a message saying all was good but it meant so much i did so. the sad story goes, he ended up actually cheating on me a few days before i moved for me to have this fact discovered months later, some of the reasons including that he had serious abandonment issues and has severe fears of being alone. i’ve had girls commit to a date, then suddenly fade off not long after…not sure exactly why but probably for some of the same reasons a guy would do the same thing. so i decided to withdraw, but was trying to remain friendly (we work together). i messaged him to clear a confusion from his friend told me, he did not reply and ended our friendship online. if he wants to be respectful and not sleep around over there, then perhaps he shouldn’t be telling you about all the hot girls that are giving him whiplash and making him think about living there permanently. i dont want to end things and want to settle things down but really dont know what to do as he does not want to talk to me at all. he made the decision not to make it official – so there’s nothing you can do with that.. its his very down to earth friendly attitude… we have only been talking for weeks and it felt like we have known each other for years. we like to do a lot of the same things, have the same smart a** sense of humor, both enjoy mind games (of the fun sort), have a very acttive sex life, laugh a lot, ecr ect…. occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. okay, here’s the issue: when i met 2 of his friends they both said oh so you’re **, your name has come up in conversation, he talks about you no worries it a good thing… and another one said “he reminds me of myself, just give him some time”… he flirts with me and when i ask him about another girl, he quickly says they are friends, he knows her bf, been friends for a while, etc. if he shrugs it off constantly then he may’ve changed his mind. he even bought me food and canceled his christmas eve plans and brought the lime to me, at his house. by the this point he had not flat out told me we were dating each other. he’ll buckle when you don’t give into sex and treat him like the husband he’s not. when i didn’t hear from this guy till friday afternoon, i was in no mood to wait and was not happy and you can understand why since i had spent all my patience with my ex. a lot of people wouldn’t want to know when their connection with life or with others is going to end. i really don’t know where i stand for the moment, and i can’t move on (i’m such a girl. i really dont understand whats going on in his head. he brought up my fake profile but i told him i did ‘t want to talk a put it cos i am still hurting. have seen needy women demand and get lots of time from a men yet still complain, but that is not the case here. he’s like the best that’s happened to me in a long, long time…. he told me that he tell his mother, friends, children about me and tell they tell him the same that i have been saying all along . don’t know what to do about this because it just mess with my mind not my emotions. i just feel real comfortable with them and have good energy, but i wouldn’t consider it flirting. and he doesn't show up to lunch or group chats. anyways, he will text me but not initiate an actual phone conversation.’ve probably confused the hell out of him, and he doesn’t know if you like him as a man or as a friend, or if you’re joking with him, or what!” he took my hand, placed it on his chest which was beating as fast as mine and said with a smile “it’s what happens when you’re falling in love” a few days later, he updated his headline on pof to “undecided” —- i dont even know what that means.’s a guy that i like, he told me he liked me, and we hung out and flirted and had tons of fun! i got another funny feeling one day, agian while waiting for his text. i don’t know whether i should wait for him or not, but i reall love him, i can’t seem to forget him. they may get carried away and act like you're the be-all and end-all, only to lose interest or show their true colors as soon as you sleep together. should i take him on a date to a baseball game? it’s not that he’s shy or nervous around you, so i think we can eliminate that. after two weeks of this hide and seek game he looks very frustrated and i start to soften. there’s this guy that i’ve known for almost the whole of my life but we were just like aquaintences and didn’t really talk much. should i even bother asking if he is still up for the ski trip?. so i have been dating this guy b for three months. i say yes of course and we’ve been extremely happy ever since.. winking emojis and cupid struck heart emojis… goodmornings to each other ever day. like you say in a lot of your article, girls try and over-analyze little details to try and convince themselves that there’s still hope that the guy likes you, but i’m trying so hard not to do that. if they want sex, the first week or days you know there only after one thing! like this guy, and he acts like he likes me back.*it's good if a guy isn't afraid to get in touch, but if he launches into constant contact before you've even been on a date, it's a bad sign. please keep in mind that i am in a unhappy relationship, and he loves to go on those pof sites. only problem is that i now trust no-one and everyone i meet on the net is suspect, although now i keep my profile up (even though i do not use it) so at least they know i my profile is still active. the problem is he never did the thing i expected from him then we have fights and he promises to never make that mistake. would you be amazed by the love i have for my wife? this is the first time i have ever been exposed to what a long distance relationship could be like." it sounds like he's only showing a little bit of interest. he would call me at various times around the clock just to let me know where he was. this means no going against his grain or his rules. confronted him about it after i had time to let it chill.. and when he needs someone to cry on the shoulder too. if you’ve had enough, maybe talk openly and honestly with him, telling him how you feel, and that you’d rather have a straight answer of if he likes you or not so that you can move on. she said all the right things and we spoke of only being interested in each other. few days later i log back onto the online chat room we met on seven moneths ago, i made a new profile and he was online…………. i would really like him to come to the realization that he needs to delete it himself! i do need to sit down with him face to face and ask him but i just never seem to have the confidence to do so as i worry i am being too demanding. obviously he’s not ok with the mini-marriage – he’s getting bored and the easiest thing to do when you’re not married but bored of your g/f is to ditch and jump onto the next interesting ride. does he like me or is he simply not interested? that was the first time of ever met him and from the start we hit it off.. i mean, what in the world am i to say to that? if you do go out, and you both get hot and heavy…where’s the line?! then idk, along the way i was still so ever shy to talk to him, then on valentines day, my friend gave me a silly idea to give him something , this cupcake, and i decided to do it, cuz i kinda did wanted to give the guy i like something for v-day. does it seem like he could be telling the truth? but it frustrates me because i want to see him more. if he’s never going to commit, wouldn’t you rather know now as opposed to 6 months from now? first off, he has significant commitment and some emotional issues. what do you he text me from a different number saying “hello beautiful” so i said hey i’m in europe. you’ve ruled out another woman and you’re certain he’s available, you can encourage him to invite you on a date.'s also possible that he thought you were too lukewarm toward him, but i see more of the first possibility. basically there’s a boy that i have known for years and we have always been close like best friends close maybe for like 6 years now and o have always had a crush on him.. what kind of guy dates a girl and then makes a play for her sister? he obviously does in love with his ex because he said he was about to visit her in her hometown but unfortunately they broke up before that happen. the day after he sent me another message online and told me to meet and i approved slightly his request. when i go to him to ask him to go to the shops he is cold and says no hiding behind his computer. the next morning he ignored what i said and said “goodmorning”. the ppl in the first group i hang out with in class and normally at lunch and after school(not really popular), the ppl in the second group i hang out with them rarely at school and sometimes after school(popular). he told me that ‘m on standby, which by his definition means “you just have to wait”. so, i asked “why do you have the profile up when you know it bothers me this way? your mind, body, and soul will benefit, then you can focus more on your other relationships after. i’d love to hear how things turned out if you stop back! a guy is never too busy to make time for a girl. if they’re about sexual issues, finances, or if one of you feels frequently criticized, your relationship may be headed for its natural end..just seems he is on an off with txt messages. i was not meaning to fall in love, but i am also very attracted to him. and i think what you’re saying is that what really bothers you is that as soon as you’re done spending time together he’s on the site, right? now he lives like 2 hours away from me and one day he randomly messaged me on facebook saying that he misses the people he left behind he didn’t say me directly and then he told me that he is moving back towards were i live and he said he wanted to meet up again. i really want to get to know him but for some reason whenever i’m around him i can’t! he even made plans with his bff which is fine i can stay busy without him and he hasn’t seen alex in a while. i always add friend request but they never talk to me. your brain “remembers” 100% of what you see and hear, and it changes you ultimately – that’s what the neurosurgeons say at least. 3 years ago i met a guy a few months ago who i instantly connected with. he totally denied that he was on the site and could not see how the picture got on it. obviously the profile is not “just there” and obviously its not there for his friend’s use because he is putting up pics of himself and updating his own info.) this guy doesn’t like you at all – he only liked his idea of you…the “perfect” girl with no problems and you shattered that for him. he’s likely to ask for your number soon, but you can look for other signs, such as gently touching your elbow or back to steer you as you’re walking or standing a bit closer than other people do. i caught him staring at me while i was sorting out my weights until i looked up and we both smiled at eachother quite cheesily. if she’s your best friend, she may not like that…that’s a love triangle that may not work out well. he left town and i had plans of moving into my own apt. on that same note, if you talk to him and he always finds a way to stop talking to you, or always lets the conversation fizzle out and die, then it’s very likely a sign he doesn’t like you in a romantic sense. now i look at his snap chat best friends and it’s #1, his girl bestfriend, and #2 is a girl he had a thing with before me ): i check to see who’s he’s following he followed 4 girls on instagram ): and in his snapchat story he looked happier then ever, this is killing me, the pain is just terrible. so i met a guy on tinder and i am aware of the skepticism of using an app that has a rep for hook ups. example when i was checking out at the register, he was the one bagging, i mistyped my pin for my card. so we’ve been texting each other about every day for at least 2 1/2 hours a day for the past month or so. cause he tried to talk to me and apparently was looking for me a lot the other day. the 3rd day i decided that the only interesting man that walked in the door was one in that group. this way, if he is not actually interested, you have other options. like you’re very busy and you don’t have the time and energy to devote to a man.’s this guy that i used to work with and he would come up and talk to me quite a bit. have been with the guy past 2 years as friend i never think to foll for him or to have anything than normal with him recently i start to look him differently and when i told him how i feel about it he told me that he don’t want to discus anything about it,, and we shall continue the way were, nothing more., so you are the one who is avoiding/ignoring him, treat him like crap as you put it, saying he is a waste of your time, etc. he also said that he never wanted to not continue our relationship. there’s the possibility of a move for him in the future after his military career ends, and he has asked me to go with him if that possibility becomes a reality – i accepted. i have cried a lot … and i always wanted him to come back to me but i have realised its all about priorities and i am not at all his priority. i told my friend and she told him, only beacuse she is his bestfriend(but at the time i didn’t know) and so he told her that i seem cool and he wants to get to know me more. if you want any chance of him coming back, you will destroy that chance by not giving him any psychological room to breathe. it’ll keep you from being hurt more than you should be, and it’ll help you find a guy that really, truly desires you. we are at the point when we say i love you every day and we are often talking about marriage.” and when we were a stone throw away he texted me “i didn’t come with you coz i’m kinda shy around your friends. this guy now was the one who started showing up everywhere i went. anyway i just found it very odd and abrupt especially since he was the one to initiate the conversation almost two weeks ago by saying he missed me. i decided that we needed to chill on the sex. i hope he comes around to appreciate what he has instead of worrying about what he might be missing out on! a man doen’t have feelings for me anymore, will he loose his time arguing with me at 5am in the morning after a night out with his friends about my mistakes (that he think i did) in our past relationship? i hope you'll let us know where you two are at a month from now! – i need to wrap this up, it’s way longer than i meant for it to be! obviously, i don’t want to get hurt and he is quite the charmer, but i don’t know if he’s really sticking with his plan to change or if he just returned to his old ways…. after that night, work was really busy for him and he wasn’t texting me at all. and said we will have plenty of time to celebrate. if you think of yourself with someone who said “i really like you in that way” and then you said “sorry i don’t feel the same” but you think they’re funny/smart/nice otherwise in general, you’d just take a short break, let the awkwardness blow over, and then (try to) continue the friendship right? i shows love and cares for me but he’s still with contact with he’s ex. he did text and called me but never mentioned my birthday. if you think this is annoying i definitely understand but i would still encourage tact when you try to resolve this issue. he saying because she is trying walkout of the relationship and its hard for her so he needs to help her out. but since then he has been completely quiet and it’s a week now. lately, he doesn’t call for like 3 days in a row,doesn’t initiate chats even when i know he’s online, i ignored him for 2 days n he suddenly startd calling n acting good but the moment i startd chatting with him as usual he’s gone back to his no calls and no chats. when we first started to talk we told each other that we liked each other. he always come and say hi whenever he meets me ." closing the gap between point a and b can be a goal some men pursue with the same vigor as roger federer practicing for, playing in, and attempting to win wimbledon, for example. i have also made myself avaible for this same night. when i offered 2 dates to hang out he said he was busy (which he was). gatherings out of state, day outtings with his kids, hanging with his other friend couples (he has always introduced me as his girl), spending long weekends together…. i just got a text and then when i replies a few hours later he never replied. i’m so confused, but over thisyear our conversations and time spent together hs allowed my heart to grow. this is someone who pursued me and even told me that they loved me. he once told me he got really hurt in his past relationship but honestly i’m not that kind of girl. how long has this been going on between the two of you? told you he liked you and you said you might like him? also said she wasn’t one for dating sites ( no sense) and if a guy was to try and talk to her she would say she was dating someone. then he said he was kidding, and that he wanted to see my reaction. i am just going to start dating other people and not even worry about it. i talk to him he looks every where but at me . he responded with a ‘if you won’t want to see me anymore it’s fine…’ and i replied with a ‘trust me, i would have let you know that i didn’t want to see you anymore, i just don’t want to make any promises i can’t keep’. i’ll replay some of the ugly stuff i learned about him like a broken record in my head and it gets me all tied up in knots again. about 6 months later he started missing me on the cheek or forehead before he left. last time we saw each other he was acting super weird., i will be leaving my work place soon and i just don't know how to handle the farewell. if the prelude to most of your encounters is “hey, wanna hang out tonight after work? i left out that we would see eachother every night until he left for his underway. am so confused…i felt the connection…how can he now say there’s no spark. one way will be beneficial for you as a person, the other won’t be. i’ve already tried so hard with him and then he tells me me loves his ex. much better to assume that you’re hot and the guy wants you than to play “emotional detective”, obsessing over subtle, often meaningless “clues”. the ones that love you the most and are closest to you should have your best intentions at heart. but my daughter has this thing where she loves to look at his pictures and since his phone is touch screen and she is only 3 she sometimes hits other buttons, well about a week ago she opened his browser and ended up on the exact dating site i am talking about. if the time comes that you're both available and interested, asking him what he's looking for in a relationship would be a good start, and after a couple months, it wouldn't be a bad idea to casually ask if he thinks you have the traits he wanted. have a great assortment of xbox 360 games and invite him over for a little friendly competition. so we ended up seeing each other and fulfilling each others needs. i only get to see him on weekends so i try to plan ahead to make sure everything goes well and i get to see him that weekend. i would take what he says at face value and just wait for him to contact you and move things along. just check in with him from time to time, remind him of your interest to go on a date, etc. he could be gay, seeing as how he’s perfectly fine with you meeting his family but may never want sex with you. but if he says he just wants a platonic friendship, you should believe him.. after fighting about it for weeks he’s now saying he’s going to delete it but when where together to do it… because as soon as i saw he had his, damn right i put mine back up and he said i did it out of “revenge” …. it to him but if he seems grossed out tell him u r gonna back off. however, all this time has gone by and he hasn’t approached you for a date yet? he is gone the third day only, and when he arrived there he texted me that getting a wifi hotspot is problematic, but that he would figure it out. all the love he showed me the first year i thought he was the one. we went to few walks at the park and all these are my invitations. he got the note and came running into the store yelling my name. it is hard for me to see him everyday cause of my busy schedule and i always work on weekends.. let him hang loose and make it seem like you trusr him ( ofcourse dont let him on a loose too much… that will give him an idea that he can do whatever he wants and that it will be easier for him to break up with you ). a lot of guys (this one included), the clarity at which a woman is able to say something exists isn’t clear to us at all (and i speak as a married man who has conversations like this from time to time with an exasperated wife who just doesn’t understand why i don’t get the obvious). but i am afraid that she will come back into his life and snatch him away. one of the problems is that my family hates him but i always supported him and promised to make everything right.) there’s the attention-whore type where you just want the other gender’s attention but aren’t interested, and then 3. next day i go to his desk and ask him about a health problem he was talking about lately.’s a guy at my school which i’m really interested in. i reflect on it for days and realise i was too cold for too long while hi did make an effort to get close to me again. this is probably not the answer you’d want to hear. so i’m left in limbo not knowing what to do here. his last message though was that he was going to message me the next day. and how miserable he was after the breakup and how he became a drinker afterwards. i’ve met his parents and extended family and he has met my parents. but theres this guy @ work & he so handsome and cute and beautyfull manners everything is so special in him. should no let go of the voices in my head or just cut ties? 3 years ago from usahate to say it, but it sounds like he's just being friendly. he hides his friends list on facebook and has changed his relationship status from “single” to hidden since he asked me to be his gf. 🙂 but yeah its not too late to do it right next time. focus on other things, other activities, and other possible guys. i tell my friends about these dreams but i act like its gross. may be the guy is lonely and is having a hard time with being alone, or may be their marriage wasn’t all that great before she died. i said i had made an account and saw him on there. i did not put on the calendar because than would go on for every year and i did not want that to show up since my ex can see my work calendar. i never said she should avoid him, but instead be “friendly neighbors”. but if he's looking for a wife, he'll be looking for more than just a naked body and can make it through two or three dates without taking off your clothes. to know a guy for a while first, i mean really get to know them! hopefully she has learned a lesson on what not to do when you like a guy!. i would really appreciate your help or anyone’s for that matter because i am so confused. your situation is a little different because it sounds as if he didn’t have a dating profile when you started dating but now he has one (? i totally didn’t/and still don’t understand why he did this: he’s one of those guys that every girl has a crush on, and he knows it.. that makes me think that he may have never asked me out if i hadnt… i feel jelous because i think he likes my friend, he talks abot her like if he knows her very well and comparing that to me it seems he knows me very little. i started to get frustrated because this dragged on for months and i couldn't tell where his mind was at. since then we hardly get to talk i have sent him a lot of e-mails and messages and he said his working really hard to finish his contract job so he can fly and come to meet me. since then, i couldn’t stop thinking about him and all these ‘what if’s’ came up in my head. we got together for two weeks or so and he told me he was really into me and he went home with me a few times but he said he didn’t want to have sex. perhaps he loves the sex, the companionship, the attention, but doesn’t feel love for you as a person. you resorted to asking your pets for guidance when you're not sure about him? but i’m afraid to ask him out becaus e i know he has lots of friends that are girls and i don’t want to lose him altogether. these actions tel me that he likes me and is trying to have a serious relationship with me. does he still like me or is he over me? i know our relationship is just beginning, ,,,, but there is that but oh i almost forgot next month we both go back to work full time and he stated that there won’t be time for us maybe a weekend but no week days, this was mention about a week ago. got a mutual match on tinder from a guy i’d met briefly in real life. you’re having sex with him though, which complicates things because, as you said, you already feel like you’re only “good enough” for sex, which probably means you’re starting to feel used.’m a woman and i have the same problem as you. though now, mostly i do it to see if he’s on. is fabulous to have a weeded out process available in this day but the downside is evident. do not trust online dating anymore too many bad experiences and too many shady characters. if you could fill me in on that i would love some in site. around 5:30 pm i said to him i have to let him know how it bothered me that he just left me hanging all evening without even a word. do have a confusing situation that maybe someone could share some insight on, however… why would a guy (whom i’ve had a crush on for some time) be sweet as could be to me one day, and treat me as less than a friend the next?! snatched my phone out of my hand said he would ” f me up” if i went on a date with another man even though we’re broken up! then after 2-3 months we started to talk again had some video chats…. or maybe he’s doing this to get my fake profile girl. according to what you said, it seems like everything was great until after the “physical” stuff (i assume sex)..he lost his wife of nineteen years only three months ago. expected to hear from him more, but i heard less from him. i really like him but it doesn’t seem as if he is interested at all. approach it from the stance that you want to understand where he’s coming from (but also that you think you should be taking the profiles down). in his mind, he probably wasn't thinking that he was "dating you" and he certainly wouldn't have seen you as his girlfriend. after many hardships in life i dint take much interest in being close to somebody. explain how much you enjoyed spending time with her but given how infrequently you are seeing each other and given the fact that she’s still looking online, you feel like you should keep your options open. he left for a vacation two weeks ago and he had texted me few hours before he had left for his vacation (that was his last text). i just think i could get hurt if i asked him where things are going more so than if i just moved on, perhaps if i contacted him less he might get the message…. i still think that’s a fine thing to do but more recently i’ve found myself encouraging women to be a bit more pro-active or aggressive (whereas changing your photo is rather passive-aggressive). also, you might want to ask him why he wants to keep his profile up if you are using words like that. we had plans for friday but he said the weekend was best spent with friends. when our schools competed against eachother on may 4th, we hung out together the whole time. school ends at 3pm then practice is from 4-6 and he doesn’t get home until around 7. he promised that was not his intention and again said he would take his profile down, but needed help because he couldn’t figure it out. it seems that the walks home, the causal conversations, etc. a married man let me tell you even after years and years with a woman i love, i still rarely know what’s going on in her head. a lot of men are damaged and just don’t know how to love or be loved. he did say last week, he wants to see me more but never texts me. when i met him he told me i he only wanted casual dating. is not too much to ask that a man put other girls aside for the moment but sometimes it’s important that you explicitly ask it! unfortunately it seems that at this point you should have a conversation with him about this and where he sees things going…i’d hate to think that he’d be using you for a place to live (and hopefully that’s not it). if you really want to screw someone, which i’m assuming is the ultimate motive here since none of you are going to rush into a sexless relationship based on mutual respect and grokking (as it were), and you really feel like you could give it a shot then have the decency not to play some stupid game. i guess my thought is that some more time together could help convince you both that it’s a good match (or not) and then all the wondering wouldn’t be required. now whether you really talk with other guys is up to you…but honestly, i think it wouldn’t be a bad idea to actually do so. but he always seems to be too busy to see me in person. i also had a gut feeling as it had happened to me previously. if he is cold and doesn’t give any firm details then leave it at that and don’t talk to him anymore. like you told him how you felt, things started to move forward but he didn’t want to be “tied down” with a new relationship while overseas. afterwards i haven’t seemed him a couple weeks bc i was busy. i am going to do what i want because he is surely doing what he wants.(although i think he didn’t treat her as well as he should’ve) anyway, flash forward six years and i still hear stories about how she changed him for the better. he is cute, nice, funny and has eyes that are to die for! we did say hi and talked a little bit, but i honestly hoped for a little bit more… now we are 6 months further, and this weekend we went on a group weekend with 15 friends, including me and him. but we had become awesome friends and i found it hard to not talk to him everyday and he didnt seem to mind as he would always reply. you can really make an impression on a guy if you not only listen attentively, but give thoughtful advice based on what they told you..if you need to lie, perhaps its time to keave. i told him since he wanted to keep things casual i didn’t know what to do.. he then asked if i was going to his house and i said yes . everything i’m hearing is that if you open the email (even to just delete it), match will now show you as active. we were out with his family and friends yesterday and i just happened to catch a text message on his phone that said “what are you doing babe” to the very same girl. believe me when i say this is totally out of character for me. find out how i failed at first but then had great success with online dating – download my free 100+ page online dating guide ebook today! one minute you say you care for me, next you are telling me i might meet someone else and fall in love with? he said that when he’s feeling down he can’t go to the doctors, as it will go on his medical records that he is depressed, which will affect the court case currently happening with his daughter. if he doesn’t, then he doesn’t respect you. we did end up meeting and hung out the entire day together! he’s an adult and for whatever reason, this is the choice he’s making right now. no shame in protecting your biggest investment: your self esteem and right to know who you are in bed with…. not all guys are the same…and it can be confusing. the after that, like 3 moths after, somebody told him that i liked him. time we had met before this we had talked for quite a while and he always seemed kid of flirty but never ever tried anything on which i quite liked like he respected me? i would also like to include in here that she has sent him text messages from her phone, and is talking about setting up a date with him.? if this is the case, then ill do the same thing hes doing to me. he even said never look a gift horse in the mouth’ and i asked who is the gift horse, you or me? there’s this guy i like but i’m not sure if he likes me too…. would be claim that he loves me more than anything and has waited so long for me yet blame me for wearing himself out when it is clearly not due to time spent with me? just be you and you’ll attract the right guy soon enough. i do feel we have chemistry and a lot in common but it’s hard to know what he thinks of me. i have skipped the past 2 days of school, if i have to see him with someone else, it will kill me. even declared our relationship officially n he used to send me very cute msgs but after sometime he stopped replying and when i asked the reason he told me that when he doesn’t reply it does not means than he dont loves me……. know it won’t be easy but if he refuses to commit himself to you i recommend keeping your options open. thats what im doing with the guy i love, we used to kiss and hold hands all the time, always flirtflirting and teasing each other.’m not sure i follow cathy – did you meet him a long time ago on a dating site but now he’s forgotten? i’m confused and i don’t want to like him is he’s not gonna like me back. it turns out that laughter does more than improve health, though: it may be an important indication of interest. he came on top me kissing my neck, dry humping me and i stopped him. he wasn’t very cuddly or touchy feely with me and as a woman that made me feel abit pissed off…i didn’t say anything to him as i put it down to us both probably having a hangover. and no a guy views dating so differently to us that it can only be expected that removing his profile is repeatedly a delayed occurrence. we met in a group setting with a bunch of other people about 2 months ago. he told me more then once he likes me a lot and he doesn’t know what to do because h e wants to be together but his moving. please don’t set me up, if you’re not going to come, just say so and don’t have me waiting. life is serious now and i need him in or out, but giving a guy an ultimatum like that only pushes them away. feel like we could be soul mates and i think he realizes that too. women would benefit from learning the signals they can give a man so he knows you are receptive to him moving in for the approach. maybe it offended him but that was a some time ago… now he’s super confusing when it comes to me. he had left it logged in and i noticed from the history he had checked some of the women out but he didn’t have a premium account.’s really upset me to be honest and i know it doesn’t seem like a big deal but us girls are so observant and it would be nice to be spoken to the way he has in the past…ive done nothing to merit him being like that and he doesn’t even send me any flirty texts anymore or make me feel wanted. it’s clear he’s online but not yet dating anyone. we both want to get married, so this site and our culture is the norm for that.. even had the nerve to post his sick and in the hospital. the ending says it all - laughter is incredibly important. in the morning things were as usual great – he asked for my advice about some property & financial matters & we talked about everything under the sun. feel doubtfull because he did say he does not like her but when she is arround he gives her full attention, not only that he also looks happyier. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. i said i love him and i really do, but god knows i did all i could and beyond for us to work out, for him to simply stop talking to me. we slept together on our third date and we watched a tone of of movies. on june 15th i asked him how he felt about us and he said “i’m not sure really cause it feels like your really far away”. so we continued chatting everyday, he would text to say good morning etc although sometimes he would take long to respond to my messages but i understand he had work. he opens up his life to you for a while, now he’s aloof? he was always putting his hands around my waiste and kissing me whenever we were in a room together. is the biggest sign of whether or not a guy is into you. maybe he’s that guy, but maybe he’s not.! i ment this guy and he made sweet comments that i was pretty and stuff and he started getting closer and closer to me day by day. he was bored, and it made him feel good about himself. what he is doing recently is similar to stonewalling, sometimes putting down my values… quite passive-aggressive. he didn’t get mad at me all, even for snooping. beware that exploring the romantic side could possibly destroy your friendship, temporarily or permanently, if it doesn’t work out. just decide now, and keep those boundaries in place no matter how enticing – because you don’t want to send wrong messages to him. took a pic and asked him if i could post it before he left the 2nd time he said yes. have fun and don’t get too stressed out over what he calls you. continued seeing each other and finally i just told him that i had made it clear in my profile that i was seeking a long term relationship and that he had indicated that in his profile as well. recently he’s been “busy” & doesn’t return my texts, or calls. he shows sign that he is interested in a relationship because he has told his children and a few friends about us, but i feel like giving up on the us until he grieves properly. i know you make a case for not doing this in your comment but i worry that there is some risk in expecting a man to recognize:The moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally). to know if sexyhotforyou has something alluring to say in an email to you that might up the ante of the lady you supposedly are crazy about?. i do admire his effort when he uses his data and and have a little conversation with me. sounds like you have amazing qualities – but life is about change and adjustment also. too often, if we start thinking about someone, the relationship grows in our mind without ever growing in theirs. he was really mad but after a week he was fine with both his friend and me. he’s never given me a reason to not trust him, when we aren’t physically together he calls and tells me where he’s going and what he’s doing, we talk and text daily, and he’s told me that i make him happy. but then i told i liked him and then i told him about a personal secret with depression thing and he’s like i don’t want to date you because of that reason and like okay that’s stupid… he didn’t talk to me for about 4 days then i said we are friends nothing more right? when i touch his hand he is wet and ice cold and i am frozen only functioning in survival mode.. i don’t hang out with this one group normally but i went off grounds with them once and i was invited to 2 parties and most of them were guys. he doesn’t make the move or he just disappears? recently i went to suport him at one of his matches, he acted really excited to see me and i sat next to him while he waited for his turn. is more in the realm of relationship problem advice, but i figure it’s worth mentioning here. till that time though we had exchanged numbers but he had not texted me. he could’ve at least told me upfront instead of brushing me off and beating around the bush. but when we have fights its again me who fix it up. best thing you can do to tell if a guy likes you is pay close attention to how he interacts with others in general. hopefully, your church is offering advice on you know “waiting for the right one”. the fact that he’s religious, treats you terribly, and that you’re keeping this from his sister all weighs on your conscious, in my opinion. the only interaction i have had with match is when i open to delete the wink/emails sent to my personal yahoo account. friends all think he seems to really like me… i hope s too. he said that he doesn’t use it and doesn’t care about it and was planning on taking it down. every hot woman will virtually seem like a genius to most men…. while this was happening i was still instant messaging him. maybe next time you’ll think before you break up with somebody willy nilly again. is now going away on his own for the next week or so but when he is back i shall ask to see him. he used to compliment me a lot saying how hot sexy beautiful ect. this year we dont talk but sometimes i look over at the lunch table he sits at and he is staring. “if then it dosn’t work out boys – by all means go back online, chat and date all the people in the world that you desire! we both said that we had a great time after it was over. just send him a gentle reminder from time to time…or when you see him next say something to him. find a man that deserves you, this one does not you are worth more than that, please do not txt him, even if he txts you, because he may think he still has a chance of bedding you if you txt him. also he checked me out because he said “damn that ass” when he was standing behind me, but in a playful manner. then he left and i thought it was over but he came back. i recently started seeing this guy and we met through an online site a long time ago but we just started talking through facebook. isn’t so much of a story-scenario-question, but considering the guy i do like a lot does and doesn’t do a mixture of all the things you listed, what does that mean? i asked him over to my place the next week for dinner and we had more of the same. or "he'll say, 'why don't i cook dinner for us at my place? – he probably doesn’t have a romantic interest, just a friendly one. he however did not, at first it did not really bother me. whether his behavior was “just” ego-stroking or serious looking doesn’t matter–i found it repulsive and a waste of a mature person’s time. however, if you go another month without any change, i think you might want to keep your options a bit more open as well (and be sure to let her know this in a gentle way as she’s going to be sensitive to feeling like she’s being lied to). this might provide him time to come around while at the same time giving yourself a chance to find someone who’s looking for the same thing you’re looking for. as i am not sure, i tell myself that if i go hiding for a while he may miss me. by the this point he had not flat out told me we were dating each other. we are back together and he’s changed and gotten clean. so i send a text telling him if he ever decide that i’m a decent enough woman to consider being a girlfriend of he’s and we can communicate, get along with each other and have fun , plus share our finances together he could give me a call. we were at a party a few weeks ago and he offered to take me home instead of getting a ride with my friends and when i got to my house he whispered i love you. i’m in 9th grade at an all girls school and there’s this guy i met at one of the football games who goes to an all guys school. he was sent to them as a mutual match and it showed that he was online that day within one hour after he had with me in bed the night prior. other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners. i find this truth out many many months after dating when she kept walking up into his house and always there when i came over. but he clearly sees the things he’s asking me now is pissing me off. you want to read more, check out frances' book, dating, mating, and manhandling. then he asked me to get into a r/s with him again but he did not confess to me, he just asked me and said he is really serious this time and it was different from the last. i expressed the same feelings and we planned to move in together two weeks from now. its long distance so we met for the first 2 weeks after talking and the date went perfectly, she even bought me dinner! but if there’s an ultimatum, i think it’s only fair that he know about it! he told me that he really likes me and loves me around but doenst want a relationship. i also said that i wanted to be there for him and support him, and that what he gets from me is honesty and loyalty, but that i require the same. i did some really stupid and embarrassing things, in the first few times we met. during that weekend we spent a lot of time walking around in the town where he lives, we had lunch and dinner in one of his favorite restaurants, and generally had a great time. he hasn’t been in a relationship for a while and the girl he was with was for 3 years and she cheated on him and had gotten pregnant. we’ve decided to move in together next year because i had to stay for professional reason. he lied when he told me he hadn’t been with anyone else in a while, which turned out to be about 7 days… and he told his fwb girl that he hadn’t been with me in a really long time – which actually was like 3 days. basically i met this guy on a marriage website and we got to know each other of the basic stuff. however, when we commit to getting into a relationship we should be willing to give some things up. back in work he greets me and acts extra polite and nice around me. thins he still likes me, but i realised (at this argument) that he thinks i did a lot of things wrong. he’ll always just seem to end up in the same parts of the room as you. my other friends said that we would make a cute couple and that he so liked me back. i come home smiling and continuously remember hes looks and smiling, its getting way too much :/. he kept his profile online and then during a period where he was busy he removed the profile. when he does come back from his weekends it’s like i can’t wait to see him, he seems happy to see me to. the things that is killing me he will say nice words to me and make me feel happy, ask me if i am ready to be his lady! here we are, i have doubts and feel uneasy about the whole thing.. so there’s this guy that i’ve been friends with for about a year and i really like him. lied to me when he told me he had not said ‘i love you’ to anyone since his ex-wife. there are things he does that makes me think he has feelings for me but that could be because he cares about me. be careful, unless you don’t mind the “fwb” tag..Keep in mind it wasnt more than extremely friendly and jokey………. if he didn’t like you on some level, he wouldn’t keep spending time with you. i think it is…however if he’s flirting with multiple girls within the same room, it could be a turn off to a woman. so i took a week to decide if this was someone i really wanted to be in a relationship with because we both have kids, and i wanted to make sure that if i commited i am doing so with the intent that i will stick around for awhile knowing we will start to integrate with the children.! i just found out today he has another profile on pof i want to date other men but now i feel stuck…. i may be friendly and sweet, and i appreciate the brotherly love they give me and the fact that they trust me enough to share their relationship woes, but when they sometimes get my heart while acting as if they do like me as a little something more, flirting a little, and then put me back to that “sister/friend-zone” again, it does hurt. i did my usual hey there sexy, he said lol…i asked him how his work thing was going, no response. and when we were leaving his apartment, he saw this creepy guy check me out and he said “why don’t you go out with him? he just looked at me probably feeling sorry for me. except the fact that my bf wanted to date me and see me, but still thought there was someone else out there “better” for him, so he kept the site up. but for some reason – i am resistive to be ‘all in’. i write a note about how i meet him an what was going on in my mind sice then. tell her that his your man but at the same time dont make it sound too jealousy. he did and had no problem giving me his number! i’m probably right or something and i sound very stupid, but i thought i’d might as well ask. i’ve “friendly flirted” (#3) before and other women thought it was the mutual type (#1), but it wasn’t. i don’t wanna pressure him, as i want him to make the choice on his own, but it’s still so annoying that he lied, twice actually. he turned around and i was like i kinda wanted to give you something, i was acting all shy and i looked down…lol and he’s like oh yeah? he has never even been married & is a few years you. when i am in the same room with him i always catch him staring at me. lol i don't think he was to comfortable watching it with me because he couldn't watch it and had to turn it down. even after all this thinking and reading: i still don’t understand entirely. are million of things he does but i’m just confused because sometimes he does thinks that make me think that he just doesn’t like me ! he is also really shy so i’m not sure if thats a contributing factor aswell. he’s so great and funny and the best of all single ! boyfirend and i have been going out for 2 weeks now and he always use to follow me, but now he doesn’t, does this mean he doesn’t like me anymore or he just doesn’t think he has to be around me for 24/7. thank you for taking the time to write such a detailed description of interest when it comes to the opposite sex. he has told me that he likes me, then that he doesn’t know how he feels, then that he wants to be with me but it isn’t the right time, then that he doesn’t want what i want and i am so confused! met an amazing guy about 2 months ago and we decided to only see each other. – i think you should tell him if he wants to continue dating you, he needs to show a little more interest.? these guys see how innocent you seem to be, and they don’t want to spoil that. one day he sais something to me and so i am able to talk to him again. told a guy i liked him and he said that he doesn’t feel the same way. i don’t know what to do, he says he likes me, but he’s not putting effort in it. only thing i can assume is that at that age a year later can make a difference in a girls attractiveness. yes, it's nice that he doesn't answer, but but he's not exactly telling them to back off, either, since they're still calling. 3 years after we met, i find out we’re 3rd cousins. he always will have one job and continue to look for a bigger and better job even if he has no intention of leaving the one that he has. if he really cares about you, being open and honest like this shouldn’t bother him.

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also he is on holiday right now but we had a brief chat a couple of days ago and he seemed aloof, still polite but not as interested, if that makes sense? with a few men but didn’t have the desire to take it further than friendly chat……. just don’t do so in a confrontational way: just let him know you care about him and you need to know where the two of you stand. he never texts me, i’m the one to text him first all the time. actions speak louder than words, and you’ll have no way of knowing what went on behind closed doors during his stay there. i catch him staring at me sometimes or trying to steal glances at me and we always do this eye contact thing when we look at each other at the same time, but it’s purely accidental. i asked him is he trying to pimp me cause i’m not a whore he says no. i relaxed and began to enjoy the journey, tentatively falling a little by little for him. met this guy at work an we’ve been chattin for over 2 yrs now and started seein each other on an off when possible. then i started talking to him and he kind of started to flirt and eventually i fell for him but due to some reasons we stopped talking for a few months. he’s always saying how different i am and how he wants to be with me but i can’t help but feel like he’s not really into me…any suggestions? for only meeting twice at that point, he was disclosing some pretty private things about himself which i thought was kind of weird (i. the monday after a long beautiful weekend, bam, he is online. i always felt like he’s afraid of something when it comes to me but maybe he just doesn’t like me…? i don’t like to come across as the vulnerable one & dating commitment phobes in the past has made me tougher so i don’t want to bring up a conversation of where are things going or mention his profile still being up. i was wondering if it will be okay to leave him my business card on his windshield and checking in with him about his plans for super bowl since he has asked me what my plans were for mlk was the last time we saw each other. always staring at me and i even heard from my friend he was talking about me and i ask his friend was he talking about me in a bad way and his is like no in a good way. the “let’s be exclusive” conversation hasn’t happened, i would recommend you start to slowly but intentionally determine if he feels your relationship is headed in that direction. i would not do that if i would not be interested and everyday and no guy would speak to a guy if for five sec if he is not interested. marriages go through things like this, and when you’re married one day, you’ll need to be with a partner that doesn’t use excuses as a reason not to work at the relationship. i go hiding myself and even avoid any kind of group gatherings where there is a slight possibility that he ca show up. i can totally understand having caution after being cheated on, but at the same time you don’t want to wait months and months only to find out this might not go anywhere.. no more cute stickers to send each other like we use too. i told him i’d rather talk for 10 min than text for hours. he had to travel for the work the next day so i texted him to see if he had a good trip over. the scale is from 1 to 10, where 10 is the best and 1 is the worst. he hooked me in and now i don’t know what to do …. Here are eight ways to know if he’s shy or just not interested. he starts conversations in person when we are together, shares personal details but he disappears sometimes and then shows up again when i think i’m bugging him and start keeping my distance. like one time we were talking about something serious, and we were both trying so hard not to smile for some reason. in this early stage of the “relationship”, if a guy doesn’t like your attitude or you don’t like his attitude it’s because right now it wouldn’t work!. he talks to you about being interested in other girls comfortably. ever think about that, or did you put him in your shoes as to what you think he should do (instead of you putting yourself in his shoes as you should)? maybe dig deeper and find out what this guy really made of…how loyal is he to commitments? last night i didn’t hear from him at all.. but for a couple days now since he’s been overseas, the only conversations he’s had with me consists of him telling me how pretty the girls are, how he wants to stay in that country because of the girls, etc. first we started talking then we started dating a few weeks after. i also like stories of epic challenges that were overcome through much adversity (ernest shackleton’s voyage to the antarctic, joseph and his 11 brothers in the book of genesis, for example). so, i sent on last message saying that i love him but i will not denigrate myself to beg for his attention and that to not further annoy him i will not be talking to him unless he message me or if he needs my help. guy wasmy neighbor two years ago and he says we dated then although i don’t remember it happening and he said we broke up because it was too awkward because we were friends then he moved to another state and we can only text how would i ask if he still likes me and if he wants to start a long distance relationship? together, figure out what on earth it is you want from him. a year or two ago he was going on about how these girls at his school had told him they liked him and he wasn’t interested in dating or anything. he gave me a key to his place also and told me to stop by whenever. i was very pretty that night, but at one point i had that thing happen in back of my through making it hard at one point for my words to come out. am surprised to hear so many experiences similar to mine. i do think that’s enough time for him to know where he stands. at first he was distant and did not talk much. heres my question/problem:I’m 17 and met this guy jeremiah at church. we only talk and hang out a bit but he always keeps wanting to play basketball with his friends so i always have to sit and watch him play allll~ lunch! i got really sad about he still having it up and went into my zone for the rest of the night. it does make it harder him living in london and myself in suffolk as we don’t have what i would call a normal dating relationship which does make it harder. when searching for profiles, my profile said i had been active within 5 days. he had got a break of 1 month from it n he said that he would call me but he didn’t. his reaction shocked me: he reacted like an wild animal cougth in a cage - he coul barely hold himself from jumping, his arm became suddenly extremely itchy and he was scratching it seriously while answering to me that i only being nice because i want something from him. if you’ve read a lot of my advice you’ll know that i do see dating one person at a time as problematic. does he really think that i will be happy to settle for being his ‘she’ll do in the meantime’ girl?. he even sent me heart stickers… and confessed that he got really close to me for some reason. he found out where i lived & started driving by my house, especially at night.! and that’s not the end of it, my friends have been telling me that he’s talked about me with his friends in class sometimes last year after that. i am only asking – in these early stages – for respect enough to put all the other girls aside for a moment… is that really too much to ask? we make a lot of eye contact and for a long time too. which is my second question: why on earth is he talking to her but not me? i have a question, i have been dating a guy that i was introduced to by my sister. we end up say harsh things to each other and him telling me to get a life! listen i’m in highschool and i have 6th perio with this girl named sarah. then i suddenly noticed his friend was watching next to him. let me start off by saying we are co-workers although we do not work together on any projects. don't worry, need help, there are plenty of opportunities waiting to happen in your life. she asked who i liked and in return she told me who she liked. now days passed im the one doing the effort on chatting him first and commenting first. but he rarely texts, communication between most times is just monosyllabic and 2 mins calls. don’t waste any more time thinking of this guy. but almost everyday even after having long email and text convo’s at work, my whole evening was more text convo’s on everything and anything, him opening up and being gaurded at the same time. sometimes it feels like he’s attentive to everyone but me. if he looks at me when i have a chat with a colleague, i loose my train of thoughts. i did blow his phone up at first i wouldnt txt him unless he texted me i started to give a little more and txt him and ask how his day was. any man who truly cares for his woman would respect her wishes to remain chaste until further notice or marriage. it may be hard to talk with them about it, but it might be one of the big steps to making a better you. are going along great, he talks about the future alot, i mean making plans and things like that but he still calls me his “friend”. if he’s not getting guidance/therapy for that, it may just fester and bleed into another relationship he gets into. when a man is smitten by his lady, he’ll dress nicer, plan to do things he thinks she’ll enjoy, and will generally expect to pay for the date even if it means walking in the park because he’s too broke to afford dinner out. and when we saw each other i asked him to come with me(while i’m with my friends), he didn’t come he just smiled and said “no, it’s okay”.’m in a tricky situation with this guy…so i met this guy on tinder…we spoke for nearly 6-7 weeks before we actually finally met…we went on a few dates and everything was going great he would always call me gorgeous and beautiful and call me babe on messages etc…anyway this weekend was the weekend and on sunday everything seemed abit odd. not quite sure, or just putting it aside for the next one. i feel as if he just no longer loves me, or cares about me, and that is killing me. i mean he is getting to know me and letting me get to know him.”, and he said maybe if i get to know her better. he tried kissing me countless times subtly but i never gave him the chance. or it could be he has feelings for you and doesn’t want to talk to you because it would be too awkward for him. do text and talk on the phone quite often but i had came to realise that its already been 3 months and his profile is still active and he goes on it quite often. if you’re not quite that courageous, you can mentioning a future event you’d like to go to, then add, “but i’m not dating anyone and i’d hate to go alone. because i don’t really get with many people i am attached but he never felt anything to begin with…. he claimed he called shotgun but when we closed the doors he moved to sit next to me., i’m in a similar situation to most on here. when we are around each other we hold hands and act like we are together. one thing bothers me though, his profile in the dating site is still active – though he told me before that he rarely checks or chat with women in it. was sexually attracted to you but decided not to be a home wrecker. i texted him that i missed him, i havent mentioned anything to him about deleting his profile, i told him i deleted mine and he said he cant delete his from his phone. she later said she would do the same and we took off the auto-renewal but we both never bothered to hide our profiles. he stopped texting for 3 days and then he texted back saying how sorry he was and he wanted to take me out. i would usually wait for him to text me first. little did i know that her brother was there to until i went over on friday and saw him. then he tells me since he had been in relationships up until now, he’s just not ready for a full on relationship’ and that he likes checking when he’s bored. but we always met like once every 2 weeks, sex and conversation. i understood maybe just not texting as much, but it’s gotten to the point to where he never texts me at school at all. we met on a dating site and i knew when we started dating his profile was hidden ( i wanted to show my friends who he was but couldnt find it! calling me bella telling me how gorgeous i am …you get the idea. i write hin saying it would have been nice hearing from you especailly after today tbh. i was shocked when i saw him in the video. if you don’t want to continue talking and growing closer to him without knowing when the dates will start, then by all means just tell him. he said she was just a fan but nothing more so i let it go for a bit.” i felt so weird i thought maybe one of his friends was texting me instead of him to make fun of me. i guess that’s because the semester started 3 weeks ago. maybe choose to volunteer at a few local shelters, libraries, churches, etc. the guy and the girl who likes him -(not the one he is currently dating)- have never been on a date, speak mostly via text she initiates, and he has never asked her out, although they made tentative plans to that never solidified… (writing this out is actually bringing clarity to the situation…) but, what are your thoughts: is that new relationship serious? he came to help one night and we were intimate. easier access to women and men verses the old fashioned way of courting and meeting.’m pretty sure he saw me cry but he didn’t do anything but play basketball. now we talk everyday, know everythjng about each other and are comfortable with saying anything. he was like im sorry, i should of told u that i changed it as he was getting lots of messages and girls asking him out, so he decided to change it! i bring it up, he says ok let’s talk about, and bam. like he talks to this other girl more now and today he even hugged her twice…[he never did that to me! this happened several times and he even came to where i work and kissed me again. i’m just really confused if he doesn’t want to talk then he just doesn’t have to. dating is really the only way to get to know someone. he talks marriage, knows my ring size, and talks about our future and potential children., there’s this really close guy friend that i’ve known for several years now and i felt that my feelings for him change and so recently i confessed and he told me he would like to think about it and that he was definitely interested in me. he claims its tiredness from job now lately an”unspoken” health issue ( i know it). him how you feel, what you want with him, and leave it there. i work so we are together when i get home in the afternoons. lol but we still would talk and text all the time. cause i really like him and knowing that he still doesn’t know me in reality should i reveal myself out of the blue or wait for him to ask me to introduce myself? idk what’s going on right now or he’s been waiting for me to text first or something. since we see each other daily (he gets mad if we don’t) i just don’t know how to deal with this anymore and its taking its toll on me. he says he loves me, yet aout three weeks ago i asked him where he thought our relationship was headed. i m imagaging being with him all d time, but not to have sex with him, theres more in him than just sex. i am protecting myself from a man who had to answer an email to some woman on a dating site to be respectful. i’ve been to a work picnic once but haven’t met his friends . not sure if he will set up a date for meet up . i don’t wanna push but i really like this guy, sometimes i wonder if he is talking to somebody else…. he even made plans with his bff which is fine i can stay busy without him and he hasn’t seen alex in a while. – i think it would be a mistake to pursue this guy after he has already told you that he doesn’t like you romantically. just broke up with someone very dear to me and the reason i did it was because things were not the same anymore he became very abusive with his comments. hold to some basic rules and you’ll benefit from it.. and then back to the sex thing he thinks he was going to get some from me but i told him not till “the break is over and the sites are deleted” (this is all texting btw) and he goes “you’re demanding stuff because you said were not going to have sex till i delete match”…ummm duh… i said yes and i have a good point to, that don’t you think? he came all the way here (drove 40 minutes in practically a blizzard), and his birthday was three days ago so i made him a cute blanket., a guy might talk about how another girl is hot randomly, and sometimes that can be innocent. he said i wasnt giving us a vhance beacuse i wanted to know that if in three to six months if i asked him to be my bf wpuld. plenty of guys will lie and lie and lie when caught. ive been with my boyfriend 3 months, we spend every weekend togther and plan to do things. i tryed talking to him about my feelings once and that i was confused and he said he didn’t have to deal with this, so now i don’t want to ask why he never goes threw with seeing me. he’s probably just shy and doesn’t want to ruin your friendship, if you really like him try telling him again in person as just say you don’t want to ruin the friendship but i have feelings for you and if he says he does too then there you go but if he doesn’t then just say that’s fine lets just keep being friends. if there is a hug involved, see what happens if you hug for just a little bit longer. all he has to do is ask a couple questions a bam he gets the digits or i kept thinking to myself he’s your neighboor this is a bad idea your already socially challenged what if you screw up ur hang out and cant hide cause he’s ur neighboor. i get that idea and if he were actively looking to meet new people i could even agree…but if he’s only logging in to respond to new emails why not remove the profile so all those women don’t have to “work hard” in the first place? long story short, he came and picked me up from the club i was at and he knew i was upset with him. or did he say it out of fear and confusion over our long distance relationship to come? we met up had a couple of drinks, he kissed me. again he pushed it back on me and i had had enough. actually everytime we’re drunk he never wants me to go home. i was very worried because i knew that as an army soldier, deployment is always imminent. you want a guy so damned bad then try treating people with respect instead of pretending that you’re somehow bound into this convoluted bullshit. it feels so much like a relationship and that he is warminig to the idea, but we havent discussed it cos we cant due to his parents and their plans for him..( most times he don’t treat her good because of how she is) . i asked if we were exclusive and he said yes. i don’t want to jump to conclusions so i figure he is busy, but its very confusing. i added however, i know he wouldn’t take advantage of my kindness, and that i want him to feel hugged and to stay safe and alert out there. he’s protective over me as much as he is, his own sister and mother. he has ample opportunity to talk to you and never acts on it, that’s a sign he’s not interested. but when we talk, from his body language i feel sometimes like he is sort off attracted to me. if that is the case, how long to you tolerate such lack of respect for you, for the investment you are making of your heart and your life? it was a mutual teasing fiasco, but the problem is, he didn’t talk about other girls with me, yet sometimes i just felt like ‘one of the guys’ in the group so there were days when he would just talk to me very casually. there was this time when we were coincidentally in the same place. went to a movie few days ago, and i had fed him popcorns which he ate. if/when you do see him again, be cordial, be loving, be honest. since that boy teased me and he doesn’t let me go anywhere (at the school) without taking him with me ! frances is one of my favorite relationship experts, and she happens to focus on these particular struggles in her books and one-on-one coaching. when a woman is telling me about a dating issue and throwing in tons and tons and tons of little details, it’s because she wants to talk herself into something by beefing up a bunch of “empty evidence”.. can’t believe i am writing this but guess everyone needs advice from time to time. so i think she has gotten the hint and now hopefully her response is not the usual resentment that some girls seem to resort too. he asked me to come to his area next time and i just nodded. he does refer to me as his sister -thrice, but he calls me by my chinese name which i hated (past tense as he makes it sounds beautiful, lol), often. it’ll stay in there until you deal with it, and many will tell you how many years/decades they spent bitter over a broken heart when they could’ve released themselves via forgiveness. for example, at the end of a nice evening together (especially if the two of you are commenting on how much you enjoy spending time together) you could bring up your concerns on not knowing where you stand in the relationship. i am not sure if he really likes me , he hasn’t said anything and i have never been invited by him to hang out during breaks or afterwork. sometimes i see him online and he woundn’t even message me. i know he checked his email and eventually he did look at the profile, but he did not take the bait and respond back. he desperately wanted her back too…he even proposed on a whim but she had already moved on with another guy. after the month of him being gone, he got a hotel room and i stayed with him for a few days, hanging out non stop except when i have to go to work. the timing of stopping texts when he was on a trip speaks volumes, especially since you initiated your last set of text exchanges, and he proclaims that he's shy (he would understand you not wanting to come off too strong. i had touched on a similar topic last year in my post my boyfriend has kept his online dating profile active. he even tease me in the elevator saying to the other person standing in there how i almost ran him over this one time. i began dating, i realized what fun i was having with it, even if a date wasn’t great, i just loved getting out there and meeting new people and discovering things about myself and relationships that i hadn’t before..lastly he said that the feelings that i have for him is lust……. do some reviews on which are the best ones, you may have more success. any way the past couple of weeks we were talking to eachothermin school and i sit right beside the bin and he keeps coming over and pretending he needs to sharpen his pencil so he could talk to me but i didn’t know if he liked me. notice shes still going on this same dating website we met on ( i had taken mine off since we met) but this worries me so much that i asked if she still went onto the site and she said she did. am pretty sure he has guessed i have a little crush on him. even after three discussions and several screenshots as well as telling him how to delete his account and how to bury his cookie email tracks, he still could not resist. the weekend after he asked me to go to the cinema with him and his friend who is going out with my friend so you could see it as a doubl date but it wasn’t really. i am still not sure how to handle the situation. dezi – i would say giving it a bit more time wouldn’t hurt (only because it would be nice for him to bring the idea up). why are you flirting with a co-worker or colleague on company time? we broke up because we both said something bad to each other so it was mutual. i just don’t want to allow myself to grow feelings for someone that is not interested in me……. he barely talks to girls and mostly sticks around with his guy friends and plays bball. we used to text each other from morning to night every single day! i was the only girl he ever loved and he broke up because he wasn’t sure about living me passionately anymore. why is he window-shopping for other women when he says he wants to marry me? the apt did not follow through because of financial reasons. i am a very private person and cannot believe i liked someone so young. then my silly friend asked him would he ever go out with me! if i could, i would love some advice on all this because i’m basically stuck between a rock and a hard place..i need to know this because i dont want him to think i freak him out or something. very heartbroken over his actions but confused by them as well. i would just be concerned that this type of game could continue for years. 3 years ago from usait sounds to me like he may have been in another relationship that was not doing well. i was able to sleep and i turned to my phone and she posted more. telling me to do things that are completely outside my department. he wouldn’t seat at my table at lunch time but his friend did…. he also sent me message saying that he likes my hair because it’s pretty ! he told me even if i don;t take the classes i can sit in and watch or be there to pick him up and have lucy ready or so for my son. i have been this girl, so i do know that the waiting is painful. if he was into you, he would definitely jump at the chance of doing anything with you." you would benefit a lot from learning how to take care of yourself first, and not trying to help others when you haven't been able to heal your own hurts. if you ask him about the photos, he may go off on you for snooping and be so upset that he won’t want to explain the content of the pics to you. be careful if you do, though, and make sure that his relationship goals are the same as yours - especially before you start acting committed (when he's not as committed as you are. he may just respect your friendship and likes teasing you as a friend. now the only reason i knew to look and see if he was on there was this gut feeling that i got. i just turned fourteen and this is what all the adults have been telling me. anyhow she clearly knew about me, and was very threatened by me. shellbell – i’m emailing you a response on this (sorry for the delay if you wander back! and about the other things he does, what is up with his behavior? he’s told me he likes me, and i have told him the same. it seems like you have some hatred towards this other girl who didn’t do anything to you from what it sounds like. and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months tomorrow we have 5 kids toget ther 3 are his and 2 are mine he works and i take care of them my 2 go to there dads every other week but his 3 live with us. on sunday (and i knew he was going to do this) he cancelled saying he had to go to meet his folks for lunch he didn’t even reschedule. he said that he is very much excited in seeing and dating me, and already planned on where we would go. he probably knows what he wants, but he doesn’t want to commit to one person yet, or he’s just afraid about making the wrong decision. sort of left the ball in his court after dinner at my place. as it turns out, he was talking with other women – don’t know if he slept with any of them, but he was definitely out on the hunt. i cant help myself by not looking at him, i always take a glance or 2. monday he’s not sent one flirty message, called me babe, called me beautiful said i’m gorgeous like he normally does…all he’s done is call me ‘em’ which is fair enough but normally he would be like ‘night babe etc etc…’ we’ve not really spoke a lot either to be fair and he’s not very talkative with me. if they’re into her, it’s not a matter of how they’re acting. and the entire time, right at the moment when i thought it would get awkward/silent, he started telling a new story. sometimes we may even talk about other girls to try and draw attention away from our feelings for you. then necxt evening, when we arer leaving, we hav an odd goodbye, but then i guess we always do. ive been talking to this guy for 3 months now, we have had sex 3 times, he is a security guard at my job, he initiated contact looking me up on facebook, after we had sex he became distant always making me contact him first, i got tired of that game and started ignoring him, he knows where i live and drives by constantly and at work always drives by me when he’s driving the security truck around, he seems upset and angry with me for not talking to him anymore and is even initiating contact and trying to get with my friends to get my attention, total hot and cold here and i’m confused, he’s shy and quiet, and totally makes eye contact and follows my every movement when he sees me but ignores me now when i’ve texted him a couple times, the time we have talked i’ve grown to like him, help please. so i know this is wrong but i decided to make a fake profile using my sister’s photos since she lives in another country. i don’t know what to do, i really like him and don’t know how to become close with him. what if the guy seems really comfortable with all the other girls around him? he asked me to cancel the recurring payments in paypal, which i did for him (english is his second language and he’s not terribly computer savvy). we tlk veryyyyyyyyyy veryyyyyyy often and i guess i havent mentioned being official in maybe 7 months :s maybe i should again? i slightly said some of my concerns today (coming off as joking) and he lied and said he hasn’t been online since the time of our date to take his profile down. i met a guy at the gym he’s an instructor there. he also said that he would fetch me in the airport. dave – you might try sending her here to see that others have dealt with the problem. he telling me he loves me he has a plan for us and believe him and he wants to be his rock. although he is certainly sending some signs that he's interested, he *is* a 47 year old guy, so he probably has ample experience asking a woman on a date or letting her know that he'd like to know her better. i do think the exclusive conversation could be very tough before you meet, but if you find you keep worrying about it and you think you’re at a place where he’d be open to it, i’d bring that conversation up. his sister told me that he talks about me non stop and keeps asking her when i’m sleeping over again. :/ i mean i can take it after all, and i can finally move on, but he hasn’t! i’m not going to act any different, im just gonna stay the way i am and see what happens. situation is a little bit different, so i don’t know if it fits this category…i’ve been doing the online thing for just about 3 months now, and have met some nice and not so nice men. asked if i was okay, you need help, i said nope, i’m fine. the worst part is that he is doing this while i am sitting in the same room, but hides what site he is on! initially struggled with online dating but over time became quite successful using it. i’m really freaked out about commitment – i love this guy and have a relationship with him like no other, he accepts everything about me, he adores me, is kind, gentle and makes it his daily goal to do things that make me happy. always ignoring me nealy to point of nearly knocking me with as so much as sorry . said ok, that i would hang in there, but i asked him to please be straight up with me the second he doesn’t feel like this will go anywhere and he promised he would. i have thought about who i am asking and all the guys in my school are either taken or something i really do not want to be around. i sometimes wonder if he’s maybe too shy to talk to me? he’s in egypt and i’m in dubai for the holidays but still. did you tell or ask him when he wants to make up for that date? whenever he said he would call or text, he did, and in situations when he was held up, he would always let me know. is it something i’d want to make as a general statement for men (or women) in general? i won’t ever do that again but someone please tell me what you think? i’ve posted under the name “jj” also, but now i just put my name. i hate when it gets awkward, but that’s the risk you take with coworker relationships. he got mad and i told him i was not giving up on us just dont wanna break my heart. it makes me seem like i need his pity for not liking me back. guy friend known 2 years, he’s married, i’m separated,i live where he drives to work, he has always wanted to trade drugs wife not knowing, met today i said beard looks good twice, thanks i left he text me min said was that you behind when i turned around? we both voluntarily took our profiles off about a month in, but we never really had the exclusive conversation. 3 years ago from usaif you know someone who has a great, longtime relationship, pay attention to how they interact with their partner. i’ve been dating this guy for 5 months now, we spend every weekend together., as i’m getting this question more and more often, i’m hoping the details i’ve included here can help you reach the point where he realizes there is no reason for him to keep his profile active any longer. we sheared a kiss at the end of the night. it won’t be easy, but it will yield peaceable fruit in due time. hearted…i know you have all these hormones”feelings” so it’s hard sometimes–try fun, dates…. when he came back i showed it him and he made sure i tagged it. should i even bother asking if he is still up for the ski trip?, 9 months is plenty of time to have direct communication with him about how you feel. i talked to him about it that night, asked him if he wanted to date other people, etc… all the questions other women on here have said. he likes cars like me very much and i think that he is interested. he then came to an ugly sweater party with me in december as well as two other parties where he even came and met my family. i told him(by text) where exactly where i was. this article has been very helpful but i want something a little bit more specific. he used to take care of me and cater to me. just so you know we have met, and will be meeting again we get on great. we played around in the snow like little kids, cuddled, watched a movie at the theater, and got shakes. it sounds like you're dealing with young men who aren't sure how to show interest yet. he even had the brashness to say in his email to this imaginary girl (who was me): ” i am also very honest with my partners, nothing can be built on lies….. he would rather end our skype call just to answer the other friend who skype call him. you’ve been talking with him online or on the phone i suppose, since you’ve never met him.’s tricky to suggest an amount of time set in stone for when you should expect things to move forward as every relationship is different. on last friday he said in case i was out late to let him know. your life doesn’t depend on whether this guy likes you back or not. he also said that i should focus on my future in heaven first then my future as a career woman before handling this fire that i know will surely burn me …and he also said that the earlier i realize that he love god first before anything the best for me and also i should focus on my life and build it first and he also said we have a long time to talk about things like this…. is it because of the age thing or is he waiting till i leave work which i will be doing over the next month or so or is he just being friendly. he was right where i was with my opinion, so again – a match. we still text once a week and i usually text first or he does if i don’t.. he shows signs such as staring smiling making me laugh very usual but doesn’t admit that he likes me. we all know that what a man does speaks louder than what he will ever say. this guy, like there usually is, and we met at ice skating a few weeks ago. at one point, i couldn’t take it anymore and i told him and he texted, “oh” and im like “i;m sorry” and he’s likes ” for what? how ever painful it may be for you id cut all contact and try to move on , hoping that you will find some one who does deserve you as he clearly does not. he wanted to take things slowly and was not ready to commit to a relationship though he liked me a lot and did not want to stop what we have. neither of us had an official discussion about bf/gf labels yet, but i wasn’t in a hurry for all that stuff, as everything truly felt great and was going so well. so this was just the tactic he needed to reel me in hook line and sinker! during these two weeks he told me he missed me, he loved me, and he wanted me intimately again. guys and their texting habits can be tricky, and you can’t use that to assess his level of interest. have been talking to this guy for about 5 months no dating, we hang out like 2-3 week and go on dates. he said i am not his gf and he has many friends that r girls that he talks to. said he is only seeing me and i shouldn’t worry…but…should i? he seemed pretty happy when i asked and over all he’s an extremely honest guy and doesn’t seem like the type to say yes to a date if he didn’t want to. i’ve planned to take her to do painting of an ocean area with an artist and then a picnic. really hard to tell if he even wants to be my friend because when we talk, he can’t really understand me that well (because he’s from a different country so he can’t speak english very well) it’s so hard to communicate and he doesn’t so me much signs that he’s interested in me. i doubt asking him about being friends would scare him off but at the same time you wouldn’t want to repeatedly make him uncomfortable about where you stand so i’d recommend just accepting things as-is for now. tell you , im not that picky but in online dating i honestly choose only profile that has included a photo(profile photo i mean) but its so unusual to me because i did accept his request eventhough he dont have a photo .. and when i leave he’d be like bye may!. i dont text him but im worried that all intressed in me is gone eventhough we both have the same ideas. it was fun and we kissed again & he walked me home. this last weekend he finally got the courage to inform his mother that he had proposed (6 months ago! just because he doesn’t feel comfortable with affection doesn’t mean he should ignore making adjustments. but to me it sounds like this guy has a girlfriend that’s why he doesn’t want to meet up, that’s why he’s always “busy. whether he’s just checking until it expires or he renewed after he showed me the cancellation it still means he clearly isn’t that into me. he is just starting out his career while i have been working on mine for a while now and a bit more settled. i said, “dare i ask if we can see other people? he takes out so much time from his busy schedule to skype with me, which he initiates a lot, and he drove to see me and paid and was a huge gentleman.. i sent him a message via the work messanger saying only that he is so wrong about me. the next morning i found out that he actually had a girlfriend, and that she broke up with him because his friends had texted him about him kissing me. that can be very intimidating for many people (not exclusive to women either). he acts very much like a boyfriend but wait a minute he refuses to acknowledge the gf/ bf thing. a woman who doesn’t need to blab on and on and can sit quietly and listen without feeling the need to comment on everything will make an impact. i understand not wanting to fight and dropping it but his excuse for being on the site was pretty weak…. lol i’ve tried looking up new restaursnts, walks to the park i just don’t know what direction to go towards, what does it mean when a guy asks you to make it interstitial again? so when i get home we talk he really didn’t want to engage in a long conversation, so i text him something i really wanted him to know cause i felt he wasn’t really responding to me. if this happens as soon as you exchange numbers on a dating app, before you've even had a single date, then you'll know he's just buttering you up for sex. don’t assume he’s not interested based on something like him not texting you back immediately. i could honestly envision us together for a long long time, and it just came as a blow. i just don’t know how to deal with the pain. to determine if his interest level is waning, take a look at your disagreements. i need to know if he likes me or not. i told him the guy asked for a rain check. i’m having doubts if he’s still interested but i view his page anonymously and he hasn’t been active for 2 weeks and also removed his pictures. sometimes i feel that maybe we rushed into things a little too quick…. you can be sitting here in your pastel dress with your orange-red lipstick feeling a little bit confused and hurt, wasting all these time when you could cuddle your cat or talk to your dad. i am moving away for four years to somewhere that is an hour and ahalf flight from him. there are some great guys using dating services but sometimes it takes having a good deal of patience to find them. was on an off a few times didn’t comment on all this stuff i posted stopped reading m private messages. so someone else will get to reap the benefits of my work 🙁. then look away, then make eye contact again and smile…give him those puppy-dog eyes. i am however guilty of trying to decode mens actions and what a text message means. she also posted a pick of him kissing her cheek. he was typing away the invoice on his computer i asked him what he was up to? the material on this site may not be reproduced, distributed, transmitted, cached or otherwise used, except as expressly permitted in writing by a new mode, inc. after that i felt like maybe he didn’t really like me that much and after the whole easter thing it became awkward, and i also felt like maybe i pursued him too much by sending him that very first text to say hi and also asking him to go with me to the event. i met my boyfriend (i think) on plenty of fish in july and we’ve been hanging out, having fun since. but he said he wouldn't be able to talk to me anymore. the risk of being lied to is higher online because it is a catalogue of sorts. you can be direct and say, “would you like to go on a date sometime? even after multiple texts too no response which totally made me think non stop about him coz i haven’t been ignored by anyone to such extent. but then i get this doubt like im just self centered and he dosent actually like me. i am not sure what to do or if he he interested. and that he stays online because he is afraid of closing all doors and just be with me, the first woman. we see each other once a week since we live an hour away from each other.’s this guy i’m totally into, met him 2 or 3 years ago where i used to work. at the time i didn’t really think about it then all of a sudden i had this massive crush on him. why are you allowing him to do nothing but babysit he and his kids? i would probably feel the same way if i liked a girl that was a big flirt.. and i know it’s hard but if he was interested in you he would’ve done something ‘cuz you did the first move. he grew to become disrespectful, i noticed i developed great relationships with his family and we would actually foe more things spending time together than me and him or he has with my family. he’s said it takes him longer to commit to someone. the past year im tired of his lack of help financial and otherwise in the house. shed some light on thisand please tell me what i should do. he came in back of me one day and says he wanted me to view him as older and i was the only reason he continued to work there. just want to take the time to say thank you very much for your insight and guidance. is it really something special or i’m just reading too much over the signs? the day after next i texted him and asked how he was doing, he answered ok. second, you could just come out and tell him how you feel. i also took more time to look at his profile than i originally did the last time, and i noticed that at some point he uploaded a recent picture that he actually just posted to facebook back in april. met this guy online and we exchanged numbers and texted each other 2x a week for a month. i told him compassion is what stays in a relationship and passion comes and goes but it is like he is in denial or something. he said it will make us stronger and that he misses me and loves me and it killed him to see me get pulled into it. i did something wrong but after all i did say the truth. i did bring up exclusivity but he said isn’t it too early? i am so happy but in the same time i am aware he will back off at some point. was it a way of saying he doesn’t want a relationship? would say things like “you don’t want to work it out” etc……he told me we were just on a “break” not broken up that he wanted to prove to me breaks could work…. always ended up with him calling me babe, and other cute names. i was very upset & contacted him – he came over & not only calmed me down but sorted things out for me. its eating me slowly because im now crushing over him badly and he doesnt know it but im afraid if i confess i might end our friendship. he stared at every girl that walked by, never looked me in the eyes, flirted with the waitress he knew, and stood me up before we met. always start out but he usually replies but some times he doesn’t which worries me and i really don’t want to be that annoying little freshman that has a crush on him. or move on and find someone else that takes your interest. to hear but this is how it should go if you expect to be trusted. – was he the one who sent the text or did he receive that text? he hasn’t asked to meet since i just nodded at his suggestion. he asked me to be patient with him and i have. literlally with in mins of saying good nite to me he was online, he disappeared for a few min and then came back up and now his profile was saying he was looking for a relationship, so it went from nothing serious to looking for! and it was 5 am and we were both tired from the night out. if there is eye contact, maybe make it a bit more intense, see what the response is, if any. his name is chris and we have been dating for 4 days. christmas party, my ex boyfriend follows me in my space talking with friends, i caught him across the room walking along with me, i went to the dessert table to cut the pies, he was behind me at the food line at the same time. he called me one night to apologize for it and tell me that he couldn’t do a relationship and if he kept hanging out with me, he would want one. i love him but he wont commit, using this family thing as an excuse i guess, but then he still is online tlking to random women whilst keeping me in and out of his life? but also texts me and tells me how much he misses me and how much he dreams about me, blah, blah, blah. before all this i knew we have a whole lot in common and there was a lot of chemistry and sexual tension plus i really like him. when i know he goes to club with friends (girls and guys) rather than spending time at church on sunday, i get that bad view about him. i would be embarrassed to see him next time, supposing he has a girlfriend now. he was serious when he said “oh it’s you! he says nothing has changed, still feels the same even though we are not spending time on home. if someone actually likes you, he will keep in contact as opposed to playing b/s games like this. it may feel satisfying and reassuring in some ways, but unsettling in other ways. day durning break he asked “do you have a boyfriend? 3 years ago sure bec the truth is that he does not :). but he wont even tell me he loves me anymore or barely texts me. then we actually start messaging back and forth a lot. and i’m ok, then im like so it’s cool between us.?Also since posting this, we’ve had more discussions, all of which have been helpful. he promised again he would delete it as soon as he can get back on and he promised i would never have to go through something like that again.. but now i have feelings for him and after all the eye contact we make in classes he’s always there when i turn around! so this guy talked to me a bunch, and we always kind of went back and forth on texting first, and once even stayed up till 2 in the morning just chatting. good news is, you can move on and find other guys that are more interested. told him i understood as he is just newly ‘out there’. we had a mild argument about what was going on, and what it came down to was i told him don’t take me for a fool, and don’t take me for granted. we used to text all day long and then at night he would call me and talk until i got too tired to stay awake. each time you do it, there is a low risk, but eventually it will become clear, if he doesn’t reciprocate those things, then you will have been able to tell whether he is interested without having to be overt and risk humiliation. i am in my late 40s and was seeing and sleeping with a man in his late 50s who i learned was very active on the dating site we met on. gay and i have a guy friend and he doesnt know im gay. i’m really interested and he’s just my type. two days ago, someone brought his pof account to my attention, knowing that we were “together”, so i got online and checked it out..he said no, just that he is struggling at the moment. i asked him about going to the movie again and never heard anything back. i don’t know if he texts other girls that way. that’s besides the point really but it’s still true..i have a best friend in each group and some of the groups 2-3. nothing was too we did he refused to call me my name because everyone else called me that so he calls me hun pretty girl or girl or babe which he was still doing until this morning. opened a convo, i spoke to him like i normally do and we got on so well but he did notttttt kno it was me! over the course of the next month we continued seeing each other and had several attempts at “the talk”. i always freeze up and am either awkward or weird. so i'm thinking he may think i wouldn't be interested in him. but he said we were going to hang out all day but now we cant. you’re in charge, and there’s always a next guy! he’s obviously just not comfortable with the idea of a relationship with you, and you shouldn’t try to change his mind. just want to interject that these are not cast iron rules and will depend on the context of the situation.,please help me decode how this guy feels about me. well this guy makes excuses to talk to me all the time and if i don’t reply he will say something random like falalalalal. i can’t tell if he’s got something else going on emotionally or if these are signs that he really isn’t interested in me anymore. he underlines that he is not much of a sharing type and feels comfortable with me etc. maybe he does and is afraid of sayin anything or taking things to the next level. he will make time to help me with whatever i need. funny to mention but i was actually in a similar situation recently. i was chatting/emailing a guy for about a month, we met and seemed to get along really well. i also asked him to come to dinner with two different sets of friend and a new years drink with just us when he got back and he said he could do that. bassically i explain what i feel when i freeze around him and what goes on in my mind then. that’s how things went for my wife and i when we met online. you’re letting him see you when he wants and call all the shots in the relationship. he tells me things that no one knows, not even his best friends. we met later that evening and had a good conversation where i told him to ask the next time.. especially after seeing #2 on the article… i guess i just didnt want to believe it because he didnt go as far as saying he wanted to date them. and ihave a class with him and he sit’s right behind me , and he bother’s me alot he only does this to me not no other gurl." he's attracted to you, certainly, but his interest level is low. then even though my fake profile kept telling him i wasn’t interested he kept asking telling me i (real me) was ok with this since he’d been ‘honest’ with me. and i didn’t text him anymore, he either it has been 21 days and haven’t seen him even. have a question, i know the texting is weird u said. however, before the date, we had flirted over text quite a bit (which i’m also horrible at, but i tried my best) and i really did want to spend more time with him. when i saw him last night i casually (on the outside) mentioned when deleting my profile that i’d seen he was still going online. i’m not the type who quickly falls in love but its been 5 months since we became friends and i’m so in love with him. getting to know each other, it's important to give as much as you get without overdoing it if you want to keep his interest going. is there a chance he’s just too busy and preoccupied? i tried showing that i like him by doing subtle little things like giving him a b day gift, helping him out with work when he’s busy. it got a little more heated as he would touch my bum squeeze it and all of that and all of that . before this she had a habit of imitating certain things about me, e., it is possible that he just likes getting emails to stroke his ego and isn’t looking for a relationship. yes, he might be shy, but he may not be as interested as you think for another reason. one thing i noticed, is that you said you don’t trust he’ll be honest with you while he’s sober…how often do you see him under the influence? when he gets drunk he eases up a little bit and tends to be closer to me. like this guy, and we are really close family friends, but he is a couple years older than me. every stage, laughter reader's digest has been claiming "laughter is the best medicine" since before most of us could read, a claim that has been bolstered by various studies over recent decades. so i made up another profile to see if he would chat and low and behold, he started chatting and added me as his favourite! you should work on letting this go and allow him to get over his shame. i’ve been dating this guy for about a month now and i really, really like him. when i try to talk about things, he apologizes for not giving me the attention that i need and says he’s just super stressed out about life and work. i have only been dating him 3 weeks, but i don’t want to be with a guy who just wants to string me along so i will wait maximum 6 weeks for him to mention something. maybe he’s freaked out that they’ll make fun of him or something. i did remember two days ago , but i forgot today. i really want to find out if he likes me or not. if a woman had emailed me after i met my wife, i probably would have looked at the profile even though i knew i’d met “the one”…i think sometimes it’s more about wanting to know who was interested in you as opposed to pursuing them. joey i know u prolly tired of hearing from me by now, but i jst saw a picture of my bf and a girl, in diff postures, she was sitting on his laps in one, she was standin with her leg on him in another and him holding her bum, he was holdin her in another, i think he’s cheating on me, what do i do? 2 years ago hi jellygator, thank you for your great article - it made me want to know your oppinion on my situation. have been seeing someone for around 5 months, we got on really well in the beginning for about 3 months and lately we have just been arguing so much just over silly things, he feels like i get on his case too much and that i keep putting the relationship down, i don’t mean to but where this is my first real relationship its all new to me and unfortunately im the type of person who needs constant reassurance over things like what we had, but he does this thing where he goes from being very into making this work to changing his mind and i think anybody would understand that its quite frustrating, a few weeks back he randomly just stopped replying to my texts which was quite different, we’ve been through this sort of situation before but he’s never ignored me for days, its been really off for about 10 days now and this time it just feels real, he told me the other day that we are good around each other but we cant be together and told me he still likes me but he got really annoyed the other day when i started speaking to my old friend which is his cousin because he feels like she let me down as a friend, why would he still get frustrated over me being treated like rubbish if he didn’t care, he still talks to me like he dislikes me, why is this ? i mean i really liked this individual, and the way he just stopped messaging me is very confusing and a little disconcerting. or just keep doing what i am doing aka feeling weird about the whole situation?. his comments would consists of ( cute huh ) ( i appreciate my friendship with you ) ( when i joke to him about me sleeping in his bed and that im a heavy sleeper *which is obvious im flirting with him* he would suprise me and comment back like ( i will bite your ear and wake you up ) he would send me emoticons like the winking one.! now i’m really starting to panic – so without hesitation and with some authority, i look him straight in the eyes and tell him in front of everyone – ‘that is not a for sure thing yet, as we still have not talked about the details’. one day, the two of us were walking in town, it was a sunny day, and it was one of the first times i actually was alone with him, and with that i mean, alone and sober ;). are some very interesting posts here and you give great advise.. ask your friends to keep an eye on him just in case he does look at you. find it very difficult to give advice on this topic because there are often so many things going on that i can’t really predict. he has work to do on his house and a daughter he cares for half the time and he works. the next day he was going to come to my baseball game. he met someone he thought would provide a lot of what he's looking for - and he didn't owe you an explanation because you weren't yet dating. he has continually helped me out, he surprises me with gifts along the way. off, let me say that this guy’s “reason” for keeping his profile online makes absolutely no sense to me. he immediately guessed my name – so guess at this point he’s only seeing me. it looks like he talks to me more than any other girls in the room and always tries to get out of class the same time i do so we can both talk to each other casually after class. might not be helpful but at the end of the day you can only control your choice..he wasn’t being extra sweet to me in his texts…one night from my hidden account i looked on match and noticed he had his profile up, he even uploaded a picture i took of him. he said yes an this one guy quickly said how bout me. instead i think if there is no mention from him after 6 week i would find it easier to just ignore him & move on to dating over guys. you already know, many persons are looking around for this info, you could help them greatly. if he acts like a jerk, then don’t hang out with him or answer his calls for a few days. that we started to lock our eyes to gather and i would look away blushing. i’d say that long of “exclusive” dating should be long enough for someone to know if they’re ready for that step. you listen real well, they feel comfortable with you and talking with you openly, etc. i feel as though you don’t care about the way i feel and that makes me wonder….. he doesn’t talk about feelings, doesn’t say “i love you,” or says he’s “not sure what he feels” (a. they are strong one day and seemingly gone the next. this morning i decided to reciprocate the photo txt, and i sent him one (nothing i would be ashamed of though if someone else saw), and i sent a message along with it that said good morning 😉 it’s been a good 20 minutes since i’ve sent it, and in another 15 i know he’ll be at work and therefore wont text me. we met online mid june and became sexua lly active early august. so i’ve been dating my current boyfriend now for 8 months.) this is a red flag for him, maybe because he’s had past experience with dating women like that, or it just seems to him that you’re not relationship worthy if you’re suffering with clinical depression. i say give this guy a chance if he wants the chance to make you happy, and if he doesn’t care to take that chance, move on., so there is this guy that was in the same class with me last year. don’t worry about turning guys away, they’ll respect it if that’s the truth. not sure on how many seconds it was but it was for some time. the guy i was almost in love with played with my feelings. he had to leave to go back to his dads (my friends parents are divorced) and as soon as he left my friend told me that she knew what had happened because she hadn’t seen either of us that happy in ages. later i sent him an infographic picture and he asked me if i knew a good doctor for hair loss problem and talked to me about his problem and i listened to him and i gave him some advice but he stopped texting after 45 minutes of texting without saying goodbye or thank you. may not like the answer you get, but i think being 100% clear on what you’re hoping for in the relationship (especially since you’ve dated for 5 weeks) will be better than trying to be sneaky. also, speaking as someone who doesn’t like talking on the phone all that much, i think avoiding phone calls in itself probably isn’t a red flag if he actively communicates with you in other ways. we both have admitted to eachother that we want to cuddle with eachother, but him being the one with the more reliable bank funds, doesn’t try to visit. i let him pursue me and after two and a half months of being with and seeing eachother every single day and night we decided to be together in a relationship. i’m just hoping if he knew he could talk to you when he’s tempted to do something silly like this, then maybe he wouldn’t need to go through with it. 3 years ago from usai can't tell you why, eliza, but i can tell you that at least you are finding out the truth about him now. if he does have trust issues he would be worried where you are and what you are doing and who you are with ? i get into something with someone i don’t like having my time wasted as i am pretty busy as is. and he said, i want to try, but only if you want too. he can’t be that busy at work i don’t think. didn’t realize it, but i ended up leading girls on and they took it to mean i was into them and started crushing back on me. i tend to panic when he does talk because of work and he might not be sure if i am interested. i tried to turn my heart off like you did and it didn’t work either. either way, you may want to think about what type of guy you are with, what his intentions are/were, and if you should move forward with him. but i finally asked him and the rest, as they say, is history. he told me he would try to meet me somewhere if he could get some stuff done for work and some family things, he told me to txt him in an hour or so and see where he was at with being finished. after 2 months he started logging off on me because i don’t want to send him a private picture then after a month he said forget about the picture he is just testing me to see if i am a decent woman. i know this really sounds stupid but can’t help myself from resisting him. nothing to do with me losing interest or whatever she thought was going on, i was just busy doing jobs that couldn’t be left. its a similar situation to the above scenarios – he really has his act together and has made it very clear that he is sure that he wants me in his life (so he doesn’t say anything like “i’m not sure” or “i can’t commit”).. but i do know the fact that my brother who iam ashamed off. to play devils advocate: let’s imagine he totally forgot about this profile. the girl i liked would say hi to me, then look away before i could make eye contact. personally, i'd be looking for a new job or figuring out how to make sure he cannot abuse his position. he is looking for some good time , he tried but you refused so now he has no intrest . focus on helping others, contributing in places that need your time/skills. i’m so confused on whether he is interested or not. i am not one to constantly text, usually when i send a text message i leave it up to them to respond. if that’s how you want to go about it that’s your choice, but don’t assume everyone grieves the same way or has to take many years to get over the loss of their significant other. work on being someone that can love to the fullest, forgive, nurture, encourage, teach…. while he’s not being asked to marry or make babies, he is being asked to stop looking to date other women. and now he knows i am jewish and that carries some weight for him. he had me on top him with our clothes on, pulling my ass onto his d*c*, i was moaning and he stopped after 1 minute and i continued. it may be that he’s being honest and he’s only seeing you but the whole “actions speak louder than words” thing isn’t doing him any favors and were i in a situation like yours i would want to let him know that. ( or at least that was the plan) so after my friend left her brother and myself in the room alone with the lights off we just started talking. another thing his birthday is coming up and i planned a party for him as well as bought concert tickets for the following month. i think we have to see it with our own eyes or at least know it to take conclusions of the actions because it's hard to tell by writing about it. i told my friends who i liked years ago and they told him so i don’t know what to do. as my italian friend says, be friends first, and if they are roses, they will bloom! he said ok he’ll come now, he has to go home first and have a bath. he tells me that he just didn’t feel like saying it. he said that he finds me very pretty and hot.

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you decided to meet and on your first date things go great. any insecurities i had were short lived – he has proved to me through his actions that i can trust him. however there is one problem: his dating profile is still active. just a few months back, we have gotten closer and texted quite frequently and then suddenly he tild me he likes me. women fall prey to that too – it’s not gender specific. but he did ask for what would make me uncomfortable such as stuff he shouldnt do such as sleeping around, etc… do you think that changes anything? sounds like you’ve had some success already with setting boundaries with guys.? and do u think he is using me for sex ? and then he said “i’m not sure i see it going anywhere. to cut the story short,during this pass few weeks he started acting weird to me,he teased me nonstop (he plays my hair,he laughs at everything i say,when we are in a group he always walk behind me,he always find a way to talk to me through one my co worker who is also my seatmate whenever he got a chance,he started to act as a gentleman which ive never noticed before) but if theres just the two of us he act as if he didnt notice me,he always smile whenever i look at him,some of our co workers noticed this too but whenever they say something about it he just act as if he doesnt hear anything. i didn’t want to but she managed to convince me, they wanna hang out. i went out with a bunch of people at work not too long ago–and had three guys fighting to buy drinks for me, despite how there were a dozen women half my age (i’m 50! when i finally did he was in the parking lot getting someting out of his car and i was outside too with someone about to get a ride to work. my ex keeps on talking about he having relationship with other girl and i know that very well that he is not interested in me or not into me. i bet many of these guys are just looking for a sexual hook-up, hence why they use the phrase “we can’t corrupt you…”. if so, then forgiveness hasn’t taken place for him, so the hurt from the past is in his present. he told me he made a point to swipe left on me on tinder. i never ask him why when i see him i just carry on as if it doesn’t bother. so far it’s been about 3 days and its driving me insane that i haven’t heard from him. you probably creeped him out, but he seems to care about you genuinely. yeah there is predudice but that is besides the point. so a few nights ago he txts me at 1 in the morning saying u still up babe kinda want to talk to you and i said k call me and he said nothing so i called him and no answer so i said well when you ready to talk let me know. cos he did mentioned that he wanted a little sister as he's the only child. so i took a break from dating again, but i have this male friend who from the first time he talked to me, i knew he just wanted sex. would say let him know how he’s made you feel and then keep your options open to date other guys because at this point it seems like he’s proven that you can’t believe what he says. i don’t want to bring it up with him again for a third time. when i'm near him i'm nervous and my heart rate is extremely high. recently at the a away game that we had to cheer at, i noticed him glancing over a few times but i’m not relying on glances to indicate anything. oh, and he officially asked me to be his girlfriend in february. i’m not saying this is what is happening but i would argue he seems to deserve a little more benefit of the doubt than some of the other guys discussed here. he even told me that he’ll fetch me at the airport. i asked him is that all he wants from me he says no. if you’re nervous, you might be looking all over the place. if he sent it that would be more concerning to me. i told him i really really liked him and he said” i like you too you’re tons of fun to be around. nowadays, i’m unsure about saying anything in case it bothers him. he knows that i will soon be going to live where he lives soon because that is my plan (even before i met him) – which is four months from now. he looks away like “i’m too good for you” then keeps looking back to see if im looking at him…. however, now that he’s made the commitment i think it makes the next steps easier. i honestly think that since this damage has happened to you, i don’t know how your confidence is but you should take this time to work on yourself and find out or do the things that makes you happy. lately i am getting tired of him because he act like doesn’t like me. he apologized and said that he did panic and freak out because he is afraid to ‘settle down’. i have thought that he'd probably see if i was available if he did break up with his gf, just because there was an interest there, even though it was short lived. he feels like you’re embarrassed by his feelings for you. i called him 3 times when i was off work and then it started going straight to voicemail… not sure if he turned the phone off or what…. i thought maybe he didn’t know i liked him so i’ve been trying to talk to him more and clue him in(basically everything short of saying i like him). i told him i wasn’t the kind of person looking for a casual relationship and he confirmed he was also looking for a long-term relationship. i was on a mission to get married and find the guy who felt the same way. i just knew about his existence and he had his own fair share of relationships but recently we just suddenly started talking alot because of this common topic and gradually it went from just texting to walking home together (we live near each other) just for casual conversations. the world doesn’t stop spinning on its axis because you don’t get what you want, cupcake. there was one night about 3 weeks ago now where i did flip out on him (somewhat) about not responding to my texts at all (heard nothing from him, two different days. hurts to know that he just left even though we said our goodbyes. he also mentioned yesterday that who knows,, maybe i meet someone on the corner and i will fall completely in love with this person and call him up and end it all with him, or maybe that can happen to him too. then he told me that he wasn’t home that he was in niagara falls. is i calmly broke things off because i told him he’s not very affectionate….?Recently, i started dating a man i began to realise i really really liked. i didn't see him again until a month later at my friend's house and he was paying a little bit more attention to me than the other girls that were there, and there was some tension between us.’m confused because things haven’t changed since we met.. but since i was soo confused and needed some answers or motivation i searched online and found your blog tips! you can continue to hang out with him but start looking to date other guys as well? i would’ve never seen it coming, it was totally out of the blue and i kissed him back. i was surprised because usually when he hangs with them, he comes home like 6 am. i have made the same mistake and very much regret what i said. so anyway, i message him and he message me back. he always justified his side by naming things that were expected like taking to and from work/ other places when needed. 3 years ago do you think that he is into me? you should be ashamed of yourself for even daring to type that. if he avoids, he’s either not interested or he’s nervous. other week i went out to a bar that i’ve been to before with my husband. good looks come and go, but a person’s character runs deeper. there’s enough dating advice / flirting tips stuff out there that beats those points into the ground, so i’m not going to spend time talking about body language.. but it could also mean that the guy is just being nice and doesnt want to be a jerk for rejecting you ( which is also very jerky to accept your proposal and not like you ) and the worst kind is yes. in the meantime brad he treats me very well and has introduced me to his parents and all his friends.. he told his fwb girl ‘love you’ in a text, and that was a little over a month after we first met. – honestly it’s hard to judge your situation because some guys just have trouble committing. if he didn’t call he wasn’t interested, if he was standoffish, he wasn’t interested and i would just move to the next guy. today evrything is gone from his news feed but i stuuf i shared with him is on his timeline. i checked, and he’s been online in the past 4 hours. he asked me if he could hug me, i said yes, he did. second, i believe the following guidelines can help when having your conversations:Be honest. there are many people that will give you the time of day you deserve! oh and even better…i found him stalking her on facebook almost daily very recently. i take martial arts classes with my son and for the past two weekends i have not gone because i hurt my back and am not feeling good enough to return to the classes. he is always away from gals however for few days close to me. it ended up us arranging doing something together and so we exchanged numbers. days after our first meeting, he said he had missed me then. we both loved each other a lot and i still do. i asked him why and he was hesitate to give me answer n then said “oh because it is a letter “! does he just want you to be a convenient booty-call? and he replied with a nice good morning text as usual, apologizing for not texting yesterday but he didn’t go to the wifi place but went to the base and finished settling in and going to bed early. have read on the internet that if a guy talk to you about girls easily he doesn’t like you, but he also protects me. you may have period of anxiety or uncertainty about each other. i wrote him an invitation in the form of a card and put loads of details on it, making it sound funny, thinking it will make him lough and relax. in fact, when he found out my age tears actually welled up in his eyes. and…make sure you hold yourself to that same standard…hope this helps bella. he graduated last year and just started working with one of his older friends in his learning business. with what you said here, it does seem like he was feeling this way because of being confused and upset about your moving away so far away (not sure why you’re moving [school? low and behold, he had been online sometime in the last week, and had added new pictures. i’ve been dating this guy i met on pof for 3mts now. he said he wasn’t doing any of that on purpose and i was wrong to think he was intentionally doing those. then he came to our company for some construction changes as he is a building designer and while i was talking to my manager he reached us and stand totally in front me and directly toward me and stared at me while talking to our manager. in school, everyone looks at me as the very cute and super friendly sigh. usually i don’t have a problem with knowing if a guy is attracted to me.] so like, i talk to him almost everyday now… but the thing is…. today morning his picture is public again and he’s been online every hour 🙁 i have deactivated my account since i don’t want to bother with it. he has mic’d with me so i know hes a guy lol but i cant help but feel like the other girls who also havent seen him. arent dating so i cant dump him and i find it hard to dump him as a friend, we never talk about anything sexual and if it is its literally just a little flirting like me saying im gonna marry him as a joke. i took mine down right away and i just figured he always had his up. i started moving closer to him and i didn’t even realize it until he slid his hand under mine and started rubbing my fingers in a cute/flirty way which made me blush! anyway he would text on and off, he would stop texting for 3 days and then lo and behold there he was saying “hey how are you beautiful” …. if you guys are planning vacations and are seeing each other soo frequently, he should have more respect for you and not have any active accounts.. but when i reply he reply back but it would take a min. we talk about everything and anything and are completely comfortable with each other. i think it would be better to try to stay away from him at this point…he’s lied enough that it will be hard to tell if or when he starts telling the truth! in general, he was never pushy or anything, but the opposite, and i got the impression of him as being a nice and honest guy. maybe wait a week or so and see if the profile comes down on its own. what are the signs that you’re not in the friend-zone? obviously likes you and wants you to tell him when you’re available for that date he needs to make up to you. we see each other on the same train to uni or in the train station and at the start he used to look at me and instead of sitting facing me he would change seats so he would have his back on me, then turn around every few mins and check to see if im looking at his direction. i didn’t really know him, but he was once at the same party like a half year ago. the girl basically told him she wanted to date him, but only if he stopped seeing the other girl. he wanted to meet me on sunday evening but i couldn’t and then i was shocked to see that he had repeatedly logged into his account. i'm 19 while he's 25, and yet i feel a strong sense of sexual tension whenever we're around each other, especially alone. some men are more sensitive to sex in relationships than others. in fact, you were both using each other for sex, and it doesn’t always end well. when someone stops laughing at your corny jokes or social faux pas, it's a strong clue that they're turning their attention elsewhere for entertainment. does it mean that he’s not that into me anymore, or he’s really busy? i’d suggest you suggest to him that you meet out his way – if he responds positively and wants to meet, things are probably fine. he shouldn’t be in a committed relationship with one girl then flirting like he does with you and your friend anyway. expect men to want to be with me–and by damn, they do. i think he knows too, since my friend deiceded to hint obvisously about it, and i think he told my friend too, cause whenever she sees me now she starts smiling for no reason. it’s extremely unlikely that the best case scenario would happen. a year later later, in my junior year, i had a guy friend who was also friends with this same guy tell me that one day i was walking by them hanging out during lunch and this guy suddenly flipped out and told him i was “hot” and that he would love to go out with me but was too shy to come right out and ask. this man stated he has more female friends then guy friends many of which are extremely attractive. i would just sit and wait and give him time to work things out… thats all you can do for now. he told me that he thinks she likes him and that she knows he is dating me and that this is why he didn’t want a relationship.. i dont understand at all, sometimes he’s just like the signs you wrote about and sometimes it’s the complete contrary. what does this mean/ why is he distant when he was the one who got into contact with me? thoughts are that yes a girl makes this decision more quickly – instinctively not wishing to harm the budding relationship. he’s invited me to the movies and to the the gym with him and has taken time out of his day to introduce me to things he likes that i have never heard of. so things were going good the first month or so. usually have good response with the men i’m attracted to and they get the hint and make the first move. the reason he hid you is probably because he didnt want people to see him talking to another guy on cam. never heard back so i waited it out for a day and a half n got antsey to know so i texted him asking how his day was and he said ok and i asked him what the 1 in the morning txt was all about n no response. you other questions on if his story is true or if he was using you for sex…i really have no idea. invite him to lunch or something where you can talk about your class then get to know each other more., he is still active on the sight and logs in.’m curious though, maree: when you forced a “swift ending one way or another” with these guys (prior to the last) did you ever first force the “let’s be exclusive” talk or did you just end things? i also see him updating facebook statuses saying he is not looking for love and always calling girls bitches. he shares things with me he doesn’t share with anyone else, and vice versa. and this was the first time in my life that i had actually dated a variety of men at the same time. i need to know if the person who made me find problems with my relationship was for the best. girl interested says see you later but no reply from me! if you’re in class or in the same place just act happy don’t look at him.. then i also lend our car with him but he just ddnt clean and lots of trash before he left back in us.’v egot the same problem on ly mine is a little different. i had the same thing happen to me with a girl i liked that worked at the gym i go to also. it doesn’t matter how wonderful that person is or how great the connection is, many people will at some point have romantic feelings for someone else – but they can be dealt with. has to fit into your boundary–you are the young girl. the thing is when i met him he always flirt with me i didn’t pay attention to him because i just saw him as a player. dont show that he loves me but he tells me that he love me. women make themselves crazy playing “emotional detective” and reading into a bunch of signs that mean *nothing*. am a woman in my early 50’s and i have been dating my boyfriend who is a year older than me for about 8 months. do like that you’re reading the 5 love languages together. it’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case. he text me about half an hour later, it was flirty but his texts were every few hours. that’s probably part of why i was so shocked he kissed me, i’ve always found him attractive, but i simply never acted on it because i thought i could never get someone as goodlooking as him to like me. do you think he will change, or should i just move on and find someone else? he loves to touch you, even if it’s not a prelude to sex. my friend keeps saying she’s sorry she did that but he might still like me. if there is something going on like trouble at work, he goes out of his way to call me for hours, and likes to share his stuff as well. i mean he might have curiosity about experiencing others and whatnot (by the way, are you his “first love”? you should end the friendship if he likes someone else he has no right to force you to be his friend you do have a right to reject his friendship. had told me he would be here on the 19 and he didn’t want to communicate on facebook. i cant share my secret crush with anyone because im afraid they wont wanna be my friend anymore. should i even be worried that he didn’t reply or maybe he read but forgot to reply? will those thoughts pop into your head if you and him were a couple? when she let’s me know, i can normally respond in a way that makes her happier! i also was supposed to have a date tonight but the guy asked if i would take a rain check. i’ve started at this new gym and i have the biggest crush on this personal trainer (not much older than me). i know you may not want to for fear of what the answer will be but in the long run it’s better to know sooner rather than later in my mind.’m so grateful to have come across your article here and am impressed by the fact that you’ve continued to respond to commenters for over 4 years now, wow! never apologize for checking up on a person who has lied to you and promises to do better. all he talked about was spending the weekend together and how he couldn’t wait to hold me and have been close to him. we met on play station home of all places through his daughter. he’s a really nice guy and tries to write to me everyday of the week. retain some reality, because being online is so surreal and the rules of engagement so different to real life that some surely find it unbalancing. its called self control or let her go find someone who will value himself and her enough to not open those tempting emails and winks. we’ve talked a few times – he’s really cute. i agree men need women to tell them how and what they feel since men aren’t mind readers but then, neither are women. i made sure to take it home with me next time. he said that i have trust issues and that he is not doing anything or talking to anyone else. it's not about anti-feminism and saying that women can't make the first move; it's about letting him express his true intentions. i dont really know much about him just his major and how old he is…. if you can share your body through sexual contact (which is clearly intimate contact), then you should be comfortable enough to have the talk about expectations. then he said, “what would have said if i really meant it? he hasn’t ever dated anyone else and is a virgin. am in a very unorthodox relationship at a distance of which i am told that he is staying up wearing himself out just to spend time with me. again, i calmly asked him about this, and he seemed genuinely confused. across the country, today is the first day i haven’t heard from him at all, even though i’ve made several attempts. before i told him i love(d) him ( i also told him i didn’t want a relationship because he drinks too much and my father drinks and he’s abusive), he told me he loves a teacher ;/. i guess the question i’m trying to ask is does he really love me like he says he does and was he actually scared like he says he was or is he playing me? at this point in time it is not wise to promise exclusivity to any man without a proposal. hanging out with other guys and see what he does . i have some serious trust issues from being cheated on in past relationships, but i’m trying not to let that cloud my judgement. he may just feel very comfortable with you…which is a good thing. know this has become a long message, but i really hope you find the time to reply. do with online dating site, so…what had this punk done? yeah, it would be nice if when he got the “hi” email if he would have said to himself, “oh, that reminds me, i should hide my profile! i texted him and asked if he wanted to be a part of my quinceanera. all you need to know is he needs to get out–now. so, while perhaps this seems immature, i got gussied up big time and decided to go out that night, knowing we were supposed to go out together later on. i don’t get why he texts me those things saying what he says and then not give me the time of day. he said that he hadn’t been on that one in months and didn’t even remember the login – even though it said he had been online literally right before i called him. when a guy is interested in a girl, there’s always a slight difference in the way he interacts with her. i dont know what to believe because does anyone on here knows what kind of soccer pratice ends at 12:00pm cuz if yall do pleaz let me know. we had an amazing connection and he made me his girlfriend about the second time we hung out. we have gone slow learning about each other not rushing things. we text all of that evening and then the conversation just stopped. the next day after, i didn’t hear from him by text or by phone. :/ he has never approached me and stands as far as possible whenever he can, but still continues to watch me. we had plans for him to teach me how to ski cause of course in all of my years i haven’t been skiing. sounds like he likes you more than the rest of the world 🙂. but he did say he’s trying to move on. she says he’s on it regularly and this evening while he’s texting me on the phone, she calls and says, “he’s online at match right now”. and i’ve been in a relationship before — the guy was not very good to me, to say the least — so much for not being corrupted by one. he went and had sex with some other woman, and you let him back in your bed? he said he could ask me the same thing and that i had blown up his phone all day until it died. i understand we never comitted ourselves to each other, sohe has every rigt to. i am aware that there is a 30 minutes lag off in okc, like you will still appear online even though you already logged out. he needs to win you over and feel like you’re extremely valuable and need to be taken off the market. typically its the guy who does the approach, or else they simply won’t get any women, but they fear the approach with great horror often times. you have a lot going on there, and you've been pretty vague about it. then he asked me if we had ever met before my answer was no. told me he isnt keen on that idea but at the saem time how he doesnt want to make them unhappy. he flirts with me less than he flirts with others, but he does more genuinely sweet things to me than others. xp (i’ll feel awful for thinking it if he doesn’t.’ i had so many answers to that question like if he liked me as much as he said would he still be looking at other girls, or how do i know he’s not talking to others?, if he’s going to say things like “you are not bound to him”, that makes me a bit nervous for you. well yesterday was last time i saw him, because i had to go for a year, and he will have to move out from my country soon. talks to me very nicely and flirts with with sometimes(actually praises me very much… sometimes even for no reason) i have fallen for this guy and i feel helpless please help me……. he told me if i wasnt married he d go out with me for sure and im not d only one who wanna be with him. believe me when i tell you i spend most of my time with my child, specially on weekdays. and how much can i really mean to him and can he really love me if he keeps doing what he knows hurts me so much. the thing is that when i asked him if he liked me back he said no.! it’s as if he’s calling me ‘em’ for a reason and its standing out more because when we speak it’s like he’s making a concious effort to replace ‘babe’ with ‘em’ all the time. is reaching out to him twice over text enough and just let everything fall as it should or should i make an extra effort to work something out? idk if they have something going on or what, it just bugs me so bad. guys i dont know how to put this whole situation into words but here i go, basically i met a guy online in a chat room and we hit it off, he was one of the first people i had spoken to in the room, i only spoke to him when i was in the room but we spoke everyday. i said no incase it was a troll and after i said no he ignored me for a day. we had the craziest connection so many things in common. then there was an event over easter and i asked him if he wanted to come ( i had no one to go with but also thought i would enjoy his company) but he said he wouldn’t make it. if he’s just looking for his ego stroking, he shouldn’t need it right now should he?. anyways it really irritates me going to his fb pictures and seein all the girls hugging him and stuff. you’ve known each other a long time, and he hasn’t made a real move to get you to be his yet…. he knows too because he knows my phone feelings and he prefers it. many times, a crush is the result of seeing things in someone that you lack in yourself but really want to have. i told him no way cause i have a life to which he said how about saturday day time?.but im starting to feel a bit strained because i just dont know where this is all going. he tells me that he’s free every evening except on a certain day. i m very hurt… i know he dosent want to be with me , he wants to give those things to the other girl. so i texted him again asking him just for an explanation, he’s the first person i’ve dated since my divorce and i felt devastated and very hurt. you the best in inspirational articles, life stories, quotes and more. after work he did call me and told me that they are being deployed to turkey for about 50-90 days. i am happily married today after working up that same courage. i never understood why she would agree to a date, then cut off all communication, but it is what it is.. i feels like he just playing my emotions tho we have a picture together on his facebook but i dont know his passwords. he asked me if he should take his profile down? may (2014) he got an out of the blue text from his ex (fwb girl), saying he should come to a party she is having in june. he was again ignoring me and he was very sad, was dressed messy and didn’t really was there, in the meeting i mean. we had kept in touch and when my divorice happened he was very supportive and even bought me a vacation to spend time with him…. looking at meholds eye contactstarts and keeps conversations goingsits with me 80% of evening than with his own team at the works xmas dotells everyone about my exciting side business even those i don't knowgives me a lift hometalks about his divorce and tells me he's single and when last relationship wasi say i'd like to be in a relationship but its hard giving up being single he agreed then said but its nice to be with someone and i agreeddoesn't pick up phone in car when a woman is persistently calling him non stop one after other in front of mesays yes to me for coffee and again when i mention if he still fancies itmakes reference to my colour of clothes and nails and knee boots like 'we're matching' or compliments meothers catch him looking at me when i'm busy and apparently each time he walks through the door he looks straight over at my desk and looks around. give him the opportunity to show you how he feels with no assistance or pushing or convincing. you want to feel like you’re the only one he’s interested in. i told her i recently gotten an email and deleted it but i have not been on in a long time. i asked why and he said he wasn’t really feeling the site etc. more like he is saying to you, the feelings he has for you is lust and he just wants sex. there’s a lot of reasons why he may not have responded to you by now…i’m not going to speculate. we slept with each other again, and we also hit it off in that department too 😉 so everything was really awesome and i just thought “i hope it’s not too good to be true! things were going great and he asked me to meet him on thursday. so me and this guy have been talking for about 6 months we went from hanging out every weekend to hanging out every 3 weeks now. he finally asked me to drinks after a few months but it was very casual. i always have these wierd dreams about him kissing me or something.’d suggest talking with him and encouraging him to let you know when he’s feeling down or tempted to create a profile…but you need to be open and understanding if he’s going to be that honest with you (so no attacking if he admits he’s feeling that way). so my gf asks me about it and asked if he invited me up to his house because her and her boyfriend are going up there and i told her no he never asked me. however, if you notice that he not only talks about other girls, but talks about liking a girl on more than just a physical level, or wanting to date her, then that’s a very clear sign he’s not interested in you. for the advice, but i just found out that he still “loves” his ex! i in your situation, i would make it clear to whomever i was dating that absolute commitment was of the utmost importance to me. i was confused because i thought he was somewhat interested in me too when we went clubbing. also, relationships tend to last longer when youre not in school. after a couple of weeks i told him that i had deactivated my profile and he told me that he had cancelled his subscription. make sure to put up strict boundaries though until you get the commitment you’re looking for from him. he’s saying that since the people who are contacting him put in the effort to contact him, he should respond to them. i thought it was affectionate and nice, but i meant it in a platonic way. even when i know he’s not busy, he still takes at least an hour to respond. have to admit, it’s been a bit tumultuous for me emotionally sometimes., he’s flirty, but he’s putting a lot of time into phone conversations, texts, etc. i had never been with someone who put me down like he did, or that made me feel insecure. i’m sure this will make him angry but it will be pretty hard for him to deny (and i get the feeling that you’re going to have to accept him getting angry if you want to pursue solving this problem, regardless of how you approach it). just try to relax and remember that you will grow into yourself one day but if you label yourself then you will grow into your labels. however, i know has has a dating profile because a few weeks after we started dating my friend who uses the site told me she saw a profile for him. if the two of you have worked out some understanding on a difference between exclusive and girlfriend/boyfriend, isn’t he still headed towards breaking that agreement? oh yeah and he always says hi to me first whenever imwith a person he knows. looking forward to your reply, cos i know the good and helpful advice you give! he’s mentioned having a vested interest in me, has talked about future (unplanned) visits, we text daily and talk almost every night.” but i wouldn’t fault him much for looking at the fake profile. if you ask him to "hang out sometime" you'll continue to get confusing signals! the last one saying, kim i'm sorry will you please call me when you wake up. he said he loved me for the first time and i said it back. forgive me for being confused here but it sounds like the one who is playing anyone is you playing him.’s been texting me and i’ve been texting him. they grinded with him whereas me and him slow danced. i lost my virginity to him, and he lost his to me. long distance relationships are pretty difficult to maintain for a multitude of reasons, one of the most difficult ones being that well you just can’t be near each other as much as you’d like. instead he tries to ask me things how to impress a girl.’d like to make a short reply on this; i usually don’t do this but it’s cold her and i’m bored. i hope we can talk tonight but im so confused about where i stand and don’t know what to say to him. maria orantes 2 years ago from miami floridasince, every person acts different around a women . with back to her while waiting to collect order stands looking every where else a common problem while her friends working in restaurant they try to look at your phone-but i have nothing to hide. i txtd him the next afternoon when he said he was done work, and asked him if he could meet me somewhere because i needed to talk to him, i was having a bad day (it actually wasn’t about him, rather than my pseudo grandfather had fallen ill, and i just needed a shoulder to cry on). is he still have a xrush or me or not? all these rude comments and when i get excited over something he kinda is just like “oh that’s good” no enthusiasm. don’t try to squeeze a guy into your busy schedule – that’s not right. i do like seeing him, just like he does (he said so), and i look forward to our every meet ups. he even introduced me as his fiancee once, and all his friends know about me. i asked and some say he does not know how to approach me and would be shy. he says he is, yet i’m not so sure at this point. if you withhold sex and your man doesn’t like it and leaves you, he never loved you. well the next day he didnt talk too me at all he didnt even say happy anniversary he said happy anniversary 2 days later. guess what – if you did then you are not ready to be honest with her or yourself. when i say congrats to him for something n he replied that congrats is the gift for him ! 3 years ago from usait's ok to show you are interested. plays with other girls, dotes on them, chats but he isn’t like that with me, half the time i feel like i’m disturbing, or i’m only good enough for sex, and it hurts terribly, i’m just lonely. if he plays the game where he doesn’t want you to know he likes you, so he gives you some sort of mixed answer, i’d say move on and try to leave him in the past (as someone you’d think of pursuing as more than a friend/relationship-wise) – because if a guy can’t see you as so special that he can’t tell you how he feels even when given the opportunity (ie. after he left i went onto a dating site where i found a man.” it’s a clear signal that you’re convenient when he has no other plans. he is super attentive when we are together, has introduced me to all of his friends who have warmly accepted me into their circle as one of their own. there was one guy who i corresponded with back-and-forth for about a month before he went out on a first date. i just asked if i had anything to be worried about and he said no. again 🙂 just clarifying that the part i wrote about him telling his buddy he ‘sort of has a girlfriend’ and that ‘he is trying to behave’, was over a year ago – that conversation did not happen 4 months ago, i got my dates wrong…too much confusion, right! he went out and had a smoke and dealt with their objections once. if you mattered to him, he would’ve introduced you to his dad by now, he’d listen to you, and wouldn’t refer to you as “this girl”. the period of the last 5 or 6 months things have gotten heated. if that’s happening then you should be worried, but if you’re comfortable within yourself and not getting lost in him, then you’re fine. we met later that day and he told me his friend had informed him earlier in the week that i’d been on it a bit and he was shocked and angry and that’s why he used this other profile. he has had it rough…a lot of ups and downs with his ex who has refused to let him see his babygirl. it’s easier to run than deal with yourself – not to mention someone else. he works three jobs and has three kids so his time is limited. we want to run away but don’t know how like without getting caught by the cops i’m so screwed i need help! texts are shady – you can’t get to know someone through texts very well. is this boy in my school that i just can’t get off my mind i think about him when i go to sleep sometimes he’s in my dreams its driving me crazy but the problem is he flirts with me a lot but he also flirts with other girls and i get jealous i don’t know what to do i know i like him but does he like me? we see each other about once a week due to work and we both have kids, he has his when mine is gone to his dads. additionally, phone calls will be better than text messages so that you don’t get mixed up on who’s speaking with you. don’t try to force these important conversations even though every bone in your body may want you to talk to him about it as soon as possible. have dis guy who he said he loves me and wants to be with me…at first i insisted and told him am not into that but he continue pressing me that he really loves me and wants to be with me so i agreed to be with him that was on campus…meanwhile we were doing it secretly since we didnt want our mates to kw about it…. tell him you’d rather stay friendly neighbors for now. on and on… but at the end of the day, if there’s one thing i’ve learned as a dating coach it’s to give people what they want and then slip in what they actually need. i had a dinner date that evening & due to some sudden dramas it didn’t go ahead – i came home & realised i couldn’t find my mobile. i also feel really guilty for the snooping online i can’t believe i have resorted to this i’m ashamed 🙁. in my heart i feel that when a person man/woman is in a serious relationship on line dating sites should be out. we began to text again more but i keep sensing that he’s not into me and that maybe he doesn’t want to tell me yet because he doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. any decent person should know that relationships like these need to be very private until ready to disclose to everyone else. let’s go through the checklist of ten ways to tell a guy is not into you:1. he told me he would always be there for me but i believe that was just a line… please someone confirm what i already know…. i am such a great catch then why lose me? he introduced me to some guy as his girlfriend but tells everyone else i am his friend. a few days after i posted, he and i went to lunch and had a serious talk about it. feelings will come and go for others, which is normal but especially if you don’t guard your heart properly. but i like him alot so just waiting to see if he’ll make contact. is there a chance that he has a gf and that’s why he hasn’t approached me yet, but just likes to look at me, or is he playing hard to get ? another thing would be to tell me it really is not right to ask this guy i like because i haven’t really talked to him at all and i don’t know him right? but sat evening when i text him to see if he was feeling better he was really rude, actually mean in his text. recently developed a huge crush on this guy (after not liking anyone for about a year) and he’s really flirty with everyone (except me it seems . so i checked online later monday and low and behold he created a new profile recently online and he was on that day..i can feel it like yesterday when he saw me during lunch, he went the other way with his friends and walked away. will try to keep this to the point and as brief as possible which may prove to be difficult since i’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. it’s kinda disrespectful and i wanna step back but i still keep on falling for him. he told me how his ex finace was not supportive of him. they also indicated that to open an email or wink from the service from the associated account would show them as online. the sad part about it was that we are both married which carried more guilt which was one of the reasons for me not wanting to have him around anymore. sure what he’s problem is… we’ve been very flirtatious, i believe we both developped serious crushes on each other, but then i found out that he has a gf. and now he seems to be punishing me for my withdrawal…? this girl is married and he said it’s nothing like that. we use to talk before but we ended up stopping and i had another relationship but as soon as that one ended, a month later he starts talking to me again and everything’s fine. i generally do believe he does like me but he is just either not wanting to be hurt again so taking these easy or he is seeing other women. but i mean yeah i messed up but it wasn’t that bad."you may be tempted to reach out when don't hear from him, but "what you have to do is sit on your hands and not text, and see how long it takes him to follow up," frances insists.“he must be interested, he offered to let me stand under his umbrella when it was raining outside…”. he is not even a year older than me just 10 months please please help me. at least some of the guys will admit they’re keeping their profile online updated or keeping their options open. in year 9 now which is 14 15 16 is ages and his mum and my mum have always been really good friends so we’d always go to visit them and they’d visit us all the time. i was so shocked because i’d expected her to feel betrayed and stuff but she didn’t. we became best friends and did a talent show together. jane – unfortunately, i’m not sure there’s much help to give here. after they pass me he looks back at me and smiles. please tell me whats he thinking or what to do. he’s about to be a father too, and that probably weights heavily on him also. he might be shy and doesn’t want to admit his feelings for you. he may be addicted to the physical aspect of your relationship, and afraid of not having a girl around to give him company rather than actually loving you. other than that, just move forward and don’t hang your head! i wouldn’t put a lot of stock into flirting and what it all means though. well after we had sex and all he is still interested cause we went out again and i told him i had my period and he didn’t care. – i’m guessing here but if i were going to tell a woman i was dating that i had taken down my profile, it would normally be because i would be hinting to her that i want to date each other exclusively. not in that place to talk about exclusivity but one thing that i find bothersome for me is when i see he is online immediately after i’ve left his place or he’s left mine. i did apologize and he said he isn’t mad. six months later and we now live together, he was new to the city i live in and hes been having trouble finding a job. could you tell me where you see our relationship going? missing a date or two is one thing, but if this is a regular occurrence then it becomes telling. sometimes it’s hard to navigate a situation when you’re so invested and involved, and feel like you’re running out of options. only that, but the sexsearch profile showed that he had been active on it in the last 5 days. he did already the first night though, i let him. in her case, it is very reasonable for her to expect her guy to offer some clarity on where he sees their relationship going., i met a guy on match we were emailing back and forth for a week and then we exchanged numbers. the emails he wrote to her were very flattering and he said beautiful things to her just like he did when he first met me and how he wanted to meet her and possiibly have a relationship with her. my supervisor happens to be his friend and i have heard from my supervisor that this guy will often compliment me about my work often. told me he liked me a few times but i brushed them off as joke.) he stops in the store even if he is not buying anything to say hi when he is in town even if it is just hi and bye or he spends time.. i was expecting him to tease me coz he usually does. he treats me with kindness and respect and i to him . recently, we met up for the first time and we hit it off pretty well. does he seem like he wants something more with me? over the past few weeks we’ve been out a couple of times which has been nothing short of fantastic! then i saw just two months ago he was texting w/ his buddies about have spring time itch again. i told him if he’s not that into me, then he’s more than welcome to leave. friends say that because i am 6 years younger than him, he probably thinks it’s cute that i have a crush on him. a couple of weeks ago, i think it sank in with me how fast we were moving and i asked him for some time for me to think. as long as you remain lady-like, there is nothing wrong with going on dates with multiple men. he has held my hands, rubbed my cheek, has called me beautiful etc. there’s a lot of possibilities and without knowing more it’s hard to tell." go on dates with a variety of people to learn about the difference between compatibility, passion, and friendliness! we met at work a few years ago where he ironically dated and met his ex to . being crazy about her may not be enough if you have to check your match winks and mails. the thing is after this time he asked if he could check his facebook on my computer i sed ok go ahead and right infront of me he was messaging a girl that lives in our town she’s real pretty and he was messaging her with lots of kisses and just generally flirting with her i shook it off cause u guess i didn’t want to think about it. it wrong that i still want him in my life? then i was ok how about tomorrow and he said okay. i basically told him that i am interested and that i thought there was something there. moving on, the next time i saw him, he was always joking around with the things i said, and i could feel that he was looking at me more than usual. how long would it take for him to really consider what the girl (who likes him) told him? i’m in high school and i like this guy but i don’t know if he likes me back. stop being a child, grow up and get over the fact that he isn’t into you! when people ask him does he like me he says something like hell no or she ugly as f**k. he is really handsome and he tried to initiate contact with me whole night, talking with me, teasing me around and we ended up kissing on the dance floor. when they told me i was heartbroken & igot on with my life. i want him to realize he would lose me and i want him to start thinking i do not want someone else to have her. went to my bffs for dinner and she pointed out roaming charges. does he see you as two individuals connected by the word “and” or as a single unit described as “we? what do i do, i just want him to still care about me… ):November 3, 2014, 3:13 pm. he wants to cast as much bait as possible and see who bites. it i looked to see if his profile was still active and it said ‘online today’. i know he got my messages yesterday i messaged him on facebook and it tells you exactly when he read it which was this morning around 8.. he will only think of me as a bro… talk to me when he is bored. he wont even say goodbye when he logs out or wont even say he will be back. i was really interested in the movie so i told her that i’d be in her room after it had finished..so along along he was active and looking for talking to, meeting up with other woman. the period of a few months whenever we was alone in each others houses it would be the same kissing and tongues. i really want to ask him whats up with his gf and him… [they both go to different college/ i have never met the girl] i mean like… are they still going out? they like having women contacting them…even if they are rejecting all of them as it makes them feel desirable. i still believe what i wrote there, i’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not. i know it sounds petty but he is being petty by saying stuff like that to you and even being on those sites.. i dunno… i really really wish i can do what your suggesting me cara p. and learn to trust your gut instinct…mine told me for months what he’s truly like, and i’m all the better for it. perhaps he’ll develop more interest over time and start talking with you more, but until then do your own thing..he asked me out once with his friends but i wasnt able to go, and then he did again but he let it go, so we havent gone out together. i just had a question, just some advice to do the right thing, i live in vegas and i work at a station casino, there this security guard i been eyeing for the past few months, i told myself not to tell him that i liked him but on the other hand i thought take a risk and see what happens, its been a long time since i found a guy that i actually like. let’s talk about this more later…thanks for your help! when he says he’ll take it down when the time is “right”…well, if you’re dating someone and you keep telling her you’re not going to date anyone else then the right time is now! he came back all defensive asking me why i would say such a thing and of course he is. i know i m not supposed to want him but im only 27 and we stopped foolin around me and my hubby, no sex no fun no love im tired of this work work work all d time, wheere there i see this guy who breaks my heart. he offered to help me out with additional handy man stuff for free. you know he’s straight, what are you hoping for? you'll discover very quickly if he'll move on to easier conquests or if his interest will kick up a notch.. he stayed here for 20days but i ddnt sleep with him in hotel which is i think its not necessary for first time meeting. but keeps asking if i was still going out tonight. when i kook at him when he chats with someone, his speech slows down and he can't finish his sentance.. and if he dares to call me in skype like he used to id hang up and make up a lie like he always do when i try to talk to him… sometimes fight fire with fire is tough but you must learn to do it… sooner or later one will crack.'s the problem: frances' first-date trick works perfectly, but most of us don't truly listen to the answer we get. when he tried to confirm, i told him i hade forgotten we had a date and promised lunch to a friend. (although when he told everyone in this one class about her asking him out, when i walked away from the group cause icouldnt hear anything, he called me back and was like “wait i have to tell you something. i know we could never be together since we are in different states, he’s different than me and he’s not even my type at all. the fact that you had to fight about it for weeks is a really bad sign too.! we have hardly spoken since the nasty stuff and now he is being friendly enough i guess he has to , i don't know what to do, i don't want an atmosphere yet i don't want to be a doormat and let him think he can speak to me and treat me badly if he wants to i haven't forgotten what he did and said. at one point he expressed interest in a physical relationship, but the girl turned him down saying she’s not into things that does not involve emotion. i know that’s easier said than done but if you do end up dating him again just be very cautious…sounds to me like he would have cheated on you if he would have had the chance. jessica – i think it would probably be best to ask him what he’s looking for in a relationship since that conversation hasn’t come up. i had spoken to him several months before we met. he seems like he is into me and then backs off and then always finds a reason to text me, but just doesnt give my any kind of signal to whether he likes me enough or not? hello this is the internet i bet u the people who are reading this is probably tracking u now to make sure your not hurt and that hes not a sex offender or something. can i do to get out of this rut, go back to my former self? i am in the same boat and i wil be having a discussion with my so called guy about this asap. was taking off guard, i wasn’t sure how to respond because he didn’t actually say “will you go out with me. i was living in the belief that he had deleted his site and i didn’t even doubt him about it for a second, sine he had promised me he would. he was yelling at me about things i did wrong in our relationship. i called match to make sure i did not falsely accuse him of being online if he was not. if someone is in a relationship, a third party telling them that they are interested in them won’t help much. initially he asked me out first few times and then ive been doing it since. if he asks you out, it will be a sign that his interest is developing. i was shocked and sad about it, of course, especially since we just had spent a great weekend together but only met twice so far. he didn’t say marriage, but his intentions are long term with me and he is excited to see a long term future together. we known each other for two years and we have texted each other frequently. i’ve read some of your articles on how to tell if he’s not interested versus interested and i have a situation that may encompass both but i can’t tell. i recently found that he had set up a profile on plenty of fish. i probably shouldn’t have asked if he still liked me, but ii did and his response was “as a friend”. so do you guys think he might like me or is he just being friendly? – he likes your body, the sex, and some of the attention you give him. met a guy few months ago, i really really like him cant control the way i feel around him, hes got a different type but we’ve got pretty close recently and i got mixed emotions and feelings, he thought i liked him before but i lied and said only as a friend, im scared if i would tell him the truth we might not be tight no more and he may see me as a lair and the funny think i found out he liked a girl and have been trying to hook them up just to prove to everyone that i dont fancy him, which would make me look like an idiot, what do to do ? you wrote about 2 different men, both in the present tense. up to him and say “i’m really looking forward to that ski trip so is everything ready to go” in a positive and cheery voice. then i said don’t worry i think it will fade away. i really don't want to be pushy and want him to lead but he also seems shy and like he's trying when he stops me for conversations when were alone. ask him specific questions, how he’s doing with such and such (sports, projects, classes, etc), if he wants to eat lunch together, go shopping, bowling, etc.’s been about 9 months that i keep seeing a guy from my uni everywhere, he stares at me everytime he sees me and looks away when i look back. he gets exited when she is comming, and they stick together when i get drunk and smak my head and bleed. problem is the whole 2 yrs we been talking, weve only met up twice and its more of a friendly casual thing. back in work i soon notice he isn't flirting anymore.’m not sure what happened in your past – but is it all in the past? my problem is when i date i can only focus on 1 guy and 1 guy only. in order to do that, she devised a way to tell whether a guy wants the same things as you, which should be the foundation of any long-term relationship (we discussed it here on smitten a few years ago). i mean i wouldn’t want to be chasing someone either who constantly made excuses to see me but they were legitimate, i would tell him sometimes how swamped i would be at my internship or how tired i would be after work after picking up extra hours. and he said that we are always together and i am always there, so he just started loving me i guess.. (falling in love for the first time with some one) is so special and excites both partners you know the feeling ? i know when i was that age group many 15 y/o dawky girls ended up becoming very attractive a few years later, and vice versa some of the most beautiful girls i remember when i was 15 had lost it within a few years later. but he’s open to me talking to him about it when i feel the need to. he acts totally differently around every other girl but me, he treats them normally but when it comes to me he has trouble speaking, he gets all nervous and stiff. i know that i am stubborn but never taught that he was going to leave me for a teen girl. after the first date their was no question weather or not if i wanted to see him again, hope to be his gf and etc. i see him at work every day and he always stares at me and has good body language signs but he doesn’t text me or call me and the only times we hang out are at work events. he responded saying 100% and that he wouldnt lead me on. interested man wants to do nice things for the woman who has caught his fancy.” then after winter break, omg my heart was freaking racing! and he also knew that i liked him but i would tell people i didn’t because i didn’t want him to think i still liked him for that long. i’m caught in some limbo where i think of him all day, and i can’t help myself, i want to initiate contact with him. every time i would be like ooh how is your relationship and he would be like ooh it’s okay. i asked if he was up for it a week ago and i don’t want to nag. wow, you’re so amazing to him that he’s delaying asking you out and thereby taking the chance of you being picked up by someone else? now is see everything clearly and you are night i was nothing but the girl on the side to him. 3 years ago from usahe may be attracted to you, but it's too early to tell if he is interested. that said, it’s honestly hard for me to guess as each situation can vary so much!, i know he’s a very flirty guy in general—or, at least, he was. valentine’s day we argued, even on my birthday he didn’t make me feel special. i texted him and said that i think if he wants to take this relationship seriously as he says (kids, marriage, moving in together, etc) then it’s probably a good idea to delete the profiles.! week four, another i love you, and a few more fun filled evenings. that evening i asked said to him i know things are moving faster but are you liking where things ar eheaded. as i usually contact him 1st but he responds like right away, like he is sitting on his phone almost. by the time we got to our 6th d i had a feeling something was wrong. he stuck his tongue in my mouth after i teased him and we kissed for 6 seconds before i pushed him away, his finger was sliding over my private area in front. tell him how you feel, things will get better, guys sometimes just need to be told what they are doing cause they don’t realize it! it may get you headed in the right direction and eventually develop into something more…or it could be fruitless. we talked and texted for about 2 more weeks before we saw each other again. if you already feel like this after one kiss and some time together, imagine what would happen if you were both sleeping together, then he went into “aloof” mode like you described earlier…not talking to you, doing his own thing, etc. he will be turning 30 soon and i am 6 years younger. about 2 weeks after we met, i cancelled my match account, and closed out my pof profile. who are interested in getting married will definitely talk about getting married. i haven’t heard from him in a week now. cute hes funny but just does not have eye contact hes looked at me and smiled at me. this year, he hugged me on his couch while his sister (i. i honestly think he’s strayed a lot because he doesn’t feel like he will lose you. really like this one guy in my class and my friends try to get me to talk to him, but every time i try to talk to him i get all nervous. i guess both our crushes are confusing huh 🙂 still, you should talk to him xxx. doesn’t sound like a great catch to me to be honest and i imagine there’s more going on than he wants you to know. things started when i was celebrating my 21st birthday, he asked me to be his wife and since my parents doesn’t approved our engagement; he suggested that he shld pregnant me and with that nobody will stop our married. – it sounds like the confusing areas in your relationship might go beyond just the dating profile. if he’s not going to commit, this is a risk for you and i’d see talking to other men as a valid approach since you can’t know what he’s going to do down the line. – it sounds to me like she’s keeping her options open and i’d recommend you do the same. i try to look at my dating experiences as lessons but i seem to be attracting these men who are hot and cold with me. 3 years ago i haven't because i feel like that can only imply interest, and i want to keep him as a friend if he's not interested in me. like your article he was unsure about me and has his own issues to work on. the last day i tried to talk to him, but he said he had something to do, and i was like next time? doesn’t sound like he has those kinds of feelings though, judging by your description of him. his response actually makes me wonder if he even realizes that he could hide his profile. he might be playing the field, trying to see where the deep connection will develop for him. then thanks to an art activity we both were partners at ! one time i was in shopping with my mother, and he was the bagger, he came behind me and put his hands on my shoulder, then walked away, i brushed it off as him just trying to get by. he turns 40this week and im a few years older. almost everyone who has success with online dating will have some time where they have a subscription but aren’t using it…assuming they meet someone. hes called me hun on fb a couple times for all to see but none on hers. maybe you should join all those dating sites just to piss him off! i want to give him the benefit of the doubt but the miles between us and the unknown are really bring out the jealousness in me and i don’t like it. guy started texting me two years ago and it wasn’t intense until probably begining of 2014 til recently. and i've also heard from others that he is obviously so into without i told a single word about him as they've noticed from his looks and behavior. i still had my profile up and so did he. months later from this event and he still only replies to her (occasionally me on like christmas or something) . curious of anyone’s thoughts on this…been going out with a guy i met online.

5 Signs He's Not That Into You

is this guy i really like at my school, but i’m not sure if he likes me. if you want to be a slave then let things be, but you have posted a comment about it , so your far from happy at being a slave to this so called man who thinks his god” (show the guy) the door…. now i guess i know when we looked at each other i was looking because i thought he was hot and he liked me and he was just looking cause he thinks i’m a creep for looking at him? ren – at this point i’d suggest giving him a bit more time. i’m trying to cut out all hope of us actually working out and for some reason, for the first time, i can’t seem to do that. the subject is in your email subject line and says: so and so sent you an email. he would text me from work and late at night. i said ok well i guess i’ll see you when you get back. obviously, you're both interested enough to spend a great deal of time together, but something has you hesitating, too. finding out the basement roommate and he actually did have an intimate relationship after swearing up and down since july that he never touched her was the final straw of many in the red flags and numerous chances to be honest..we hiked in a falls he has his shoes and im just wearing fitflops which i felt belittle tho im not asking for a shoes coz i dont take advantage. he says he doesn’t want to rush things and does not just want to date anyone, he is dating to find someone to marry and wants to be sure. i was talking to my friend and i was telling her, “yeah, t (1st initial of his name) is adorable” and cheering him on after he got off the field. friends offer well-intended advice, but it conflicts with what other friends tell you. met him through an online dating site six months ago. i told him i thought he had feelings for me that's why i did all this before but then him standing me up that day, i realized he didn't. i’m nervous that if i were to message him from that fake account he would indeed respond. i struggled with myself whether to bring it up or not about what i had found out, but then i decided to confront him. also i’ve caught him looking at me from afar in the store, then i look at him and he just keeps staring. 3 years ago i know this about something different but i hate it when boys stare i know its natural. because i am confused as to why he approached me how he did if all he wanted was a friendship, why bring up happy past memories of when we were together, for no reason? he says he is so busy but then he has time for his friends. he then says, oh, i thought it was because of me. he was still wearing a he shirt i bought him. i cant ask him to meet me either im too afraid if it will get worst , maybe i should wait a bit but if he still wont then might be the time to decide whats right. so once the messages from her became more frequent i thought the best way would be to just snub her politely, by not responding to her hello’s in a way that would lead to a conversation etc. i want to believe that he likes me but i don’t want to get my hopes up. he always tells me that he has a great time with me and i’m his favorite person, but that he never dated much when he was younger and thinks he owes it to himself to date around now. he has another girl now and he messaged me twice to get back with him and i said no. do i tell him or what untill they brake up? but i knew i had to be supportive and not dwell on my fears, so i did the best i could to cheer him up and not burden him with my worries. i really like this man and started to care about him he's such a caring lovely man and well known at work for being so nice. he was so obsessed with me than i ve started to say things in order to straighten my self esteem. if he does like me, what could’ve changed in such a short time? he also acts a bit shy around me, never on others. this man was so charming with his affections but once we did “the deed” classic player move he stopped talking, not all together but not the marathon sessions we had before. he doesn’t ignore them but i’m still the one doing the work. i want to trust him, but my heart doesn’t understand why we’re not together if he “loves” me? we were suppose to hang out again but he didn’t wake up in time bc he was out late partying he stood me up a couple times always hanging out with his best friend who was a girl. i only work 5-6 hour days, and then i was back to staying at my place but we were still constantly seeing each other. guy i like told my friends he liked me and might ask me out, but when im sitting with him alone or with another girl he talks to her and ignores me and he always is talking to my best friend and his best friend asked me if we were going out and i said no and im just soooo confused! jackie – as with the other situations, i can’t say exactly why he would keep his profile up. i have a date today & i did mention to him on friday night that i had a date then. of the last couple of weeks ive had this nagging suspicious feeling and i couldn’t put my finger on it. i want to know is if he is interested in me. you want to see if he likes you enough to court. hopefully it may help others if they have come across this. Learn these indicators of interest so you can focus on the man who wants you and keep him interested now and later. it took me another two weeks to write an email to him in which i only asked him the favor to believe me it was the worst idea of my life. he was in the next day i was at work. so it concerns me when i found out that his profile is still up and he goes online like pretty much everyday. we still caught up on sunday evening and it was lovely. but he suddenly stopped flirting and started being totally indifferent like i wasn’t there at all. comment, “i wish my brain would just stop” reminds me of advice my dad gave me when i was growing up: often the best way to get over someone is to find a new someone. he fell in love with a girl but she had to move back to new york, a different country. but it as obvious little bro knew he was supposed to wait. i tried to explain to him i want you to see where i’m coming from, that i was so shocked and hurt that he did that…. we dated for two months before we became intimate and i just assumed that we were exclusive. am a teenager and i really really like this guy and i cant tell my friends that i like him because of what happened to me b4.’ve had several readers write me after they argued with the man they were dating to ask if i thought they had made the right choice. he still makes updates to his site and says he is single and “looking for long term and short term dating. we can’t tell if you like or hate us either. stares at me,always says sexual things to me,always seems to be following me,always getting in to my convos, but,he talks about girs infront of me all the time. we flirt alot and stuff but he wont show me his face, i know its odd how i can fall for a guy ive never seen besides in one picture but i have i dont go for looks i go for personality and he has one of the best out there. his behavior is rather cruel and he is not into you. hours he spent with me the 3rd time during my 15 hour shift, he made his bro and cuz wait for him outside. have had a 5-6 really great dates, chemistry off the charts, met his daughter, spent a weekend with him. like one day, when i came back to that site i talked to another guy and he told me try to download the whats app messenger so it would be easier for us to talk but i never expect that i could find him(the first guy i used to talk to) in that messenger. additionally, maybe he is interested but you realize that there is someone else that is better for you. honor your vows until the end – whether it’s death or divorce. since then, he seems to put more efforts into our dates, but we don’t see each other as often as before. he continued to message me over the last few weeks, but then last week, he mysteriously stopped and never responded to the last message i sent. before he came to the christmas party i askef him if i could call him my bf yet but he ignoref it. i just ended the cycle and stoppeed communication with him. i have not found on search any of the following ways of a boys not interested ii she works in a fast food restaurant . weve been having confusion regarding what will happen in the future with respect to our relationship. when we were a month into our relationship i told her i was not going to renew my match subscription because i only want her. it’s not that he doesn’t care at all…but perhaps his friends teasing you bothers him too and he wants to keep them away so as not to upset you, but he may still have positive feelings for you, since he acknowledges you at school and what not. that we are at different places in regards to what we want at the moment, although we do want the same thing in the end, a loving, solid relationship. that said, she is regularly active on match and i’m a bit concerned putting myself out there with her she may not be ready more given the whole cheating matter she had to deal with. heard from him twice while away – one sentence texts, with no greeting or emoticon – i answered and then he never responded – both times were like this. but after three years of giving my heart to him i feel that i deserve more than that, i feel that he is being disrespectful and dishonest if he is spending all this time with me and saying he loves me, we are even doing 5 love languages together to help our relationship. he talks to me about everything and everyone, but he protects me, but he says he protects all of him friends. i check his page (because it’s viewable to the public) and he’s made several modifications today. yes he has seen me out walking my dog and i would speak to him and his wife before her death. he had come out of a long-term relationship so the guy could not handle emotional commitments. for the advice it was the kick in the pants i need to tell him how i felt and that i need time to myself and maybe i’d come back and be his friend later in a couple months or so.. i think it’s all because of the recent stuff with my brother…. that’s really depressing…all my hopes have been officially crushed…. surely… surely it means he is ‘not really that into me’ etc. in your case it sounds like he’s keeping it online (for whatever reason) but he’s also lying to you about it. and how on earth do you even start that kind of convo without sending guy running for the hills? however there are more things apparently he’s saying that i didn’t tell him “i love him” during sex which was odd to me because i have in the past, i even brought him breakfast the last time i saw him…. he’s really handsome, sweet, adorable, charming along with a pleasant to die for personality.' if he starts talking about sex and what he likes sexually before you sleep together, that's a clear indicator he's qualifying you for sex. days have passed and he goes out of his way to avoid me. oh by the way, don’t overextend yourself for a guy when he blabs to you about his life and problems…be empathetic, give advice…but don’t be there for their every tear. but it was apparent that he was really hung up on her. he just got out of a marriage filled with anger. one was “hey what do you know about north korea” to which i responded “not much” pretty certain she was hoping/expecting a “why” in my responde, also started inviting me to random facebook events, randomly liking pics i uploaded on fb months before at 3am, randomly messaging me telling she told a photographer friend she met on facebook to add me because i might be able to help him, even thou i have no clue about photography, but i do a lot of photoshop stuff etc. he works shift work so some times its more than others. (if he drops hints that he feels unappreciated, be ready to step up your game and start showing him why you're a keeper. im sad/pissed and i dont even have the right to be. am i supposed to still put him under the category of “he does not like me”? am 33 he is 47 and we only work there half the week plus i am leaving in the summer. i know i need to drop him like a hot potato,, but help. however by mistake i called him another name and i told him the truth since in his picture he looked alike another guy whom i got to know. like a boy and we have became very close friends recently again because we kinda just stopped talking to each other last time and now we became friends again but last time before we stopped talking he got a girlfriend and i think that’s what caused our friendship to slip! friday i told him lets hang out just me & him, he wanted to bring his friend i told him no . i told him am busy & he sent me a text that was obviously for someone else. has been happening in the days we have worked together. yet my gut says there is something not right about his profile being up still. just finished it on the assumption that he had had plenty long enough to decide if he liked me a little bit or not. in this case, the guy is a site responsible at a gym, it's a working place though and he needs to think of the gym's reputation and that doesn't mean that he isn't interested from all the clear signs he's been giving but haven't made a move on me so far. is it possible that may be the reason he doesn’t initiate conversation is because he is afraid he might be bothering you or possibly just doesn’t want to be rejected? there’s an old saying “as a man thinks, so he is. then an hour later he was on facebook and said the only reason his phone was on was for hockey. and ever since then things have been weird i would text him and he wouldn’t reply till like time later. anyway, he tells me that he doesn’t have the desire to talk to or see anyone else. ) does he do that to you when your friend is around or is he distant with you when she is around? anyway i got back we kept texting and he started his sex talk again and saying i should come over. what if this other guy he sees has a car and they meet up regularly? i enjoy completely what we have but i’m not sure about where this is going or how he really feels about me. and when he says he does he never goes threw with the plans. also, he is seeking a long term relationship and he loves love as i do (from what he’s told me).. that right there sounds like he is thinking about her more then you. have a problem…i love my boyfriend and we kissed after months and i loved it, but i don’t think that he liked it at all…now he blocked me and i don’t now why i can’t ask him because he doesn’t answer me and yes i tried calling him,but he doesn’t pick up the phone…what must i do i really like him,but i don’t now what is going on…can someone please help me i really need…help! they will qualify you right away because they don't want to waste their time.. i also haven’t heard from him all day yesterday, but i didn’t think anything of it until i found out about the badoo thing. however, he’s about to be the father of your child, so raising the child with both of you working together, preferably as a married couple, would be whats best for the child. i have never seen a guy so keen to listen to me in my life. you for the great advice, including those found in the comments. if he does like you and want to try again he’ll most likely text you. i, the obsessor that i am when i genuinely have feelings for someone, made a fake profile and emailed him “hi!. he would always be the first one to call me in fb or do a video chat in skype, we got very comfortable with each other as we would sent funny pics to each other or pics of places we go to.! actually, i like a guy from last two years, we meet every sunday in the church,he talks with me he spends time with me sometimes, he always asks me about my studies, about my daily works and other activities, the first time when i felt that i love him was when we spend few minutes on talking on some topic,he always asks helps me in every thing, when ever i have any problem i take suggestions from him,when ever i look at him i see a strange light in his eyes and he directly looks into my eyes , i really love him a lot, he is handsome, goodlooking, simple,and a very loving person i have ever seen in my life, so please help.-i was holding something heavy once and asked him to help me so he put his hands on my hands ! boyfriend(now ex-boyfriend) broke up with me this past thursday, after being together for 9 months. u see i seem to really like him… n he seems to care for me i don’t cut every time. if he reciprocates each time, take it a step up each time with little things. soon after he tells me his parents want him to start thinking about seeing a family friend’s daughter from the same background as them., if there is "confusion" between you and you're messaging him about it, when the two of you are not even dating, he might have gotten the impression that dating you would bring problems into his life. i wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). was wondering about the state 1 attraction part of the post. the chemistry was so intense that i could not have a clear read of what wad going on. it takes is one act of unprotected or oral sex and a habitual liar with high risk behavior to expose you to a lifetime of emotional and physical problems. few days after that, he started calling me and texted me and we met few times. here are eight ways to know if he’s shy or just not interested. all my friends always think i’m not a girl, because i typically don’t like guys at all because i don’t like high school relationships, but for the first time, i seem to be stumped. the break up he was really messed up with what he said because one girl tryed to claim him as his gf when i really was his gf after agrueing i found out he didnt love her and wherent together and me and him broke up after argueing. he wants to talk about “us” tomorrow, but i don’t trust that he will be completely honest while he’s sober. obsessing about this… you are guaranteed to drive him away and drive yourself crazy in the process. he got angry and said he wasn’t doing anything like that and he would take it off when he thought the time was right. it’s been said “what goes on overseas stays overseas” just like the popular vegas phrase. would like to know if this man really likes me, we met from a dating site last sept2014, i am from phils and he is from us then we met last april2015. he will start texting you five times a day; he will try to completely occupy and dominate your time very quickly," says frances. today i jokingly, asked him if he was a bad tipper and he said he had other classes he was teaching. you don’t like your current relationship because you are attention-starved, so you cheated on your man with this new guy who gives you that to see if it would perhaps turn a flame into a giant fire of love, but it didn’t. he said no he didn’t just have sex but made love to me. for me it was special and he even said he wants to keep seeing me. i’m now in the middle of 10th grade and i’m still head over heels for him. can’t you appreciate a man for who he is? just like your article says, he would put me down, make me feel like shit about where i am in life, and then he would do nice things that would make me forget about our roller coaster. let him burn a bit, and hopefully he’ll realise 🙂. when we went to the actual monument, j and i hung out the entire time, laughing and talking. ways to know if he’s just shy or just not interested. it was a long relationship between them and broke up when they were about to get married. all this bull about the guy being scared of commitment and just being a guy is bull crap. spent most of the night talking to be honest with you., you can’t see guys “on and off” and expect them to respect you long term. all day sunday he seemed okay he was still calling me babe and said he had a great night etc. 2 weeks ago i found out that he cheated on me.… i guess the question we all want to know is: what is in a man’s head that makes him think / or not even think at all i guess from your comments? if he likes you, he may be waiting for the right moment to ask you out. was really keen to see a pic of me so i showed him a few not too close up, he kept asking for closer pics…………. you just never know but i have given up on online dating. if the two of you can’t enjoy each other without alcohol involved, that’s a red flag. he’s a great guy, doesn’t have much friends but come on… i’m not sure if i’m being too stubborn. please i’m a grown women i shouldn’t have to be some mind reader. if he seems aloof or uninterested in following through with his agreement – you may want to move on. and then i try my best to explain that caring about signs is total bs. i’ve talked to a lot of women where this type of situation can drag on for months only to see the man start dating another woman. i’ll respond to the items i disagree with in the article:1. i try to treat him kind of like crap so that he doesn’t notice that i like him. he may have a busy schedule, personal problems, or he’s losing interest (if he had that). if i try to make him like me, how should i do it? when asked by you) – then he isn’t worth it. met a guy online we hit it off really great. that being said, you can still try different things to make things “more interesting”, such as some of the things you mentioned. we talk on the phone most nights since we are busy and live about 45 minutes away from each other. he said he is not a selfish ass that wants me to spend all my free time with him and not spend time with my child. but this on an off customer spends time with me. he told me a lot about his personal life, like how his mom wants him to stop smoking but she knows how difficult it is because she had a really tough time quitting herself, how his ex broke up with him because she thought he was too immature (although i don’t really know if talking about your ex is that much of a good sign), and he asked a lot of questions too. if not, he might just be pursuing you for the nookie. girl doesnt even message him as much as i do and doesnt visit him. he has no idea that i know about this site. if you want to take a stand and draw the line at 6 weeks, i’m okay with that. everyone is saying that he likes you back then he probably does, especially if when you talk to him it seems like he does. here i am right in the middle of the groups and i don’t know what to do. he is not going to fall in love with you. i confronted him and wanted to know what his problem was and he finally told me that he that was having second thoughts and said that he could see us together for a while but not forever and said that i needed someone better than him and kept distanced. i’m dating this guy who claims to love me. all my friends i know think he is really wierd or something. the site was deleted and i never heard anything else about it. when we first started to talk we told each other that we liked each other. the girl asked him if the new girl was his girlfriend he said no, but they were dating. parents act appalled at the idea of dating this young, i hinted by saying that if i liked a guy i wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship by dating and my mom scoffed and said “no, your parents wouldn’t allow you to. if you’d like, we can try to work something out? i tell him a couple of things i need money for right now and he doesn’t respond, and i never asked him for anything. situation is very similar to what had been described in a few of the comments earlier. and then i saw that he actually had been online in the last 3 or so days. i asked him if there is something bothering him and he said no. i have a casual chat with a girl who worked with him for seven years and i find that he actually never had a relationship. you’ll have to make some changes in your routines as well. if he is honest and likes you and wants to have a relationship, great. life is so hard when it comes to this because hd is the only guy i truly like but hes dating the most cutes stylish and popularest girl so i guess i should give up and backk off there relationship. you never know, you may find someone else who is ready to give you his love now. if you both have verbally agreed not to date, then you’ve hedged yourselves in. a week later we got our first date, he asked me. have met an army man on an online dating site about 6 weeks ago, and we pretty much hit it off right from the beginning. it may be that he’s still doing it with someone else–maybe even the same woman he cheated on you with! he changed the city to the town he used to live in, shrunk his height by 2 inches, and hasn’t put up a picture."so, i was thinking today about how cool it is when we hang out, and how much i'd hate for it to change, but that got me wondering if this relationship is a friendship or something more. a few times we did end up doing something and then the next time he would totally ignore my text when i would confirm plans. should i ignore him totally or make him like me? as it turns out, he continued to see his fwb through mid december, sometimes he was ‘with’ both of us on the same day! it’s like in my head i know i’m ok and that it’s his loss, but in my heart i keep feeling like i there’s something wrong with me, mayb i wasn’t pretty enough, or fun enough or interesting or i loved too much. he’s told me things he normally doesn’t tell others, i’ve seen him get emotionally and he’s held me while i’ve sobbed over a crisis. i have just read this and omg your so called friend is an idiot but listen if he knows you like him and still doesnt make a move talk to him… tell him your feelings and if it doesnt work u know u tried and to be honest he is an idiot for not talking to u. there are times when we could hangout mor, but he doesn’t want to like i do. we had plans for him to teach me how to ski cause of course in all of my years i haven’t been skiing. guess is that he got panicked by the incredibly fast time in which you told him you loved him, a month and a half is pretty quick by anyone’s standards. however, you may want to keep some distance in order to protect your heart from going into emotional distress. we still kept in touch, he hung out a few times but nothing physical.…i thought he likes me as he gave mixed signals but one day he said that i am a friend and added that he has a girlfriend…. have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. help i dont know how i will cope with him around. are you ok with easier opportunities via online dating while shagging her? i was so embarrassed i didnt know what to do then everyone started pressuring me to go to him and talk to him but i couldn’t because i would be so embarrassed in front of him! i am going through something similar and i really hope that you may be able to give me some words of wisdom, advice, anything! am kinda having a liking for this guy because of how he treats me. ok she tries to get me interested for an unknow time but won`t change mind. we had a good time and plenty of time to talk.. honestly, this is the first time i had a crush and they did not like me back. in my mind the matter is so simply about respect and i find it difficult to understand how to tolerate the ‘continues to actively online date’ thing…. he’s the father of two boys, divorced and a truck driver/reserve police officer. i did not ask him about that, i can take it that he is not serious. thus, on occasion i sense her guard is up a bit. his ignoring your messages to arrange another date, then asks you whats wrong, then his messing with you just playing games,. a few weeks ago we got back together or at least started seeing each other again and were saying the l word and he said that he didn’t want to sleep with anyone else, so we were monogamous. and even if you do some sort of role play or something different in the relationship, you can not keep up the interesting new love for very long …he will always want more until he has had enough of the first love feeling and settle. he’s tried to get you into a relationship but you have rejected that because you’re being safe. i fell for a guy at 17 and he became my first boyfriend. it was halfway through that weekend that i noticed something different about him. getting to the point i broke up with him and he said quit getting jelous, im fed up with it. so i’m a freshman and i met this junior, bobby, in student council this year. he already knew that i liked him because of my friends. everyone was trying to set us up but we weren’t interested at all. you may want to involve them to some degree and show support around him, not make him feel like getting out is the answer. then last week he said it again, he probably will have to quit talking to me again because he is wanting to get back with his ex. he is really nice but he is confusing me and i just want to know what is happening. why would a man want to keep me as his friend after he knows he’s messed up? we only talk a bit but he seems interested and told me to take me for a ride one day. from then on, nothing from him at all and it’s been three weeks now. so i went in two different dates, one in thursday the another one in friday. that you only had a couple of dates with each other, if you can even call them dates - since they weren't exactly planned for the two of you to spend time together to get to know each other better.. this guy just wants money and sex and your being easy, thats why he comes back because you give him what he wants, its clear he does not want a relationship with you as he would be calling and texting you, instead your doing all the running (so to speak) so its one sided. he didn’t text me as much anymore and so i did my bit and text him first and ask him out and he said yes. he’ll only do to you what he’s doing to that other girl. the heart is a great thing, it can survive tremendous heartbreak. you’ll have to go through with dates to get answers…but don’t be afraid to walk away either. i just ask him a question and he gets all mad at meand go off the deep end. i foolishly messaged him on tinder and he said ‘maybe in a few weeks’. this then changed and he started sitting opposite to me at the far end though, and just stare and look away. on the other hand i don’t want to continue to put a lot of time and effort into this relationship if she’s looking for something else as i don’t want to be the fallback guy either…. sometimes if we don’t make eye contact or an effort to talk to you it’s because we’re afraid that a. he logs of or threaten to log of on me somtimes. i am really confused cos y’day he was online 3 times i haven’t even gone into my account.’ve been dating my boyfriend for 6 months but he continues to be active on dating sites. finally bothered me so much that his profile was still active that i asked him about it. his sister is mine and my older sister’s best friend, she and her family invited us to go to mount rushmore with them, and we did. 2 hrs after, bff told me, he’s home and he knocked out in the bathroom (sleeping). but i haven’t heard from him and it’s so confusing. towards the beginning, we decided to go withthe flow and see where this relationship would go. so when i was making breakfast he came into the kitchen and brushed up against me in a playful way and kept doing it. but that next time never came, suddenly today he never tried saying anything and he’s been sort of avoiding me. there are times though when he is in total “work mode” then he treats me like everyone else.?Now it’s been 4 months and i wanted to see if he’s being true to his promises and i decided to check. but the catch is that he looked my way the same amount, most of the time we would look into each others eyes and then quickly look away. he said he was moving and wanted me to help him look for a place and eventually he found somewhere really nice. i explained this to one guy friend, and he said that it’s just how it is… “you’re one of the nicest girls; we can’t corrupt you with a relationship” — i don’t mean to be less than humble, it’s exactly what he said. don’t know all the details to your relationship or how things were before you moved. am not sure how to handle this since he claims he loves me madly and has waited for me so long yet the actions are clearly otherwise. week two came and i found that while i was waiting for him to respond to a text i sent (45mins) he was on the dating website from his phone.?It saddens me to read all these stories becuase i am on the same exact boat as most of you. i cut on purpose to see whether he cares he really does. accidentally discovered that my bf had recently logged into his online dating profile. he said he’d text me a couple of weeks ago and never did..) commit some good quotes to memory so you have something to come back to when the depression comes swooping in. we havent spoken properly about this as this was late last night and when i rang i woke him. earl – did she seem to appreciate it the first time? i just feel like i’m outside the loop withh him, and we’ve been together for 9months. touch him on the arm as he walks by and when he looks at you say “have a nice day” with a genuine smile.…what sighns you have written here are true… i am going through this in my life now. then today i searched again and it said active in 3 days. i really like this gy so i want to give him a chance to delete the profile of his own accord. there were quite a few other things we talked about, but that was truly a big one for me.. he flirts with you… but he flirts with everyone else, too. it won’t last forever, but make sure you’re not feeding the fire either. he said that if he needed to get a hold of me he knew how. weird because after he ask for my number he didnt text me anything, he also says that he didnt want to add me in facebook because he is not that type of guy,he just wait for other people to add him. but he told our mutual friend sometime before the party that he knows he’s a flirt and he feels really awful about hurting people, and that he’s trying to change. he ask me if i wanted to meet again i said yes. i did lash out at him for not talking to me. my bff and the love of my life said she’s (me) spending the night. are you ok that you may hurt both of you because opportunities come easier and in catalogue style online? a guy: what does it mean to poke someone on facebook? i dont wanna come off as mean or pushy,because he told me “how you treat and talk to me,is how imma do you”. guess i’ll be renewing my membership in the site where i’d met him since i did talk to a couple decent men there despite having had little in common with them but, who knows, maybe i’ll get lucky. we text when we aren’t hanging out or he calls on lunch, and he is always talking about our future with my daughter. still, these are areas you will need him to define. like you, i’ve talked to this guy about our respective issues/problems and that is how we became friends. and it's weird because i'm going to keep seeing him in groups and i can't shake off the feeling that something else might happen. he invited me over once to chill at his and it was really good, no sex, until i drunk told him that i made out with his best friends a few months ago during our ‘relationship’.) because if there could be like this tiny little bit of hope that he might be into me, i don’t want to miss my shot. this is the richard rules of not interested in you. by the way, you owe me dinner from when we had to cancel”..he is such a great guy who i think is worth it. on monday he was supposed to call me but he went to the gym late which he normally does and said he would let me know if he wasn’t too tired for a call. question: do the same mechanics apply vice versa (woman continues to browse the onlinedating site)? he’s all over the shop & i can’t handle this roller coaster. and i know he wasn't seeing anyone before we went clubbing. he says he cares but why wont he tell me he loves me. any guy that generally likes you will put the time and effort into getting to know you and such. however, he's not acting so interested that you have no doubts. i still wish him all the happiness in the world., there is this guy i like in school and i have no idea if he likes me back. when i asked him he said he only text me. he did once mention about a date he went on and how he would go on it again because there was no spark. with that being said you deserve someone that treats you with respect. the only problem is that i can’t stop thinking about him! it’s been a wonderful week and i decide to see if he’s up to anything else and low and behold i find him a jdate, jwed, passion, hotmatch, and zoosk. but when we have fights its again me who fix it up. people who enjoy your company will laugh at things that weren't that funny, while people who don't care for you will remain stoic even if your pals are gut-busting on the floor.” i then printed this section out and asked him again if he was cheating on the internet and he looked me straight in the eyes and said: “definitely not”. it all depends on how people choose to live out their lives, but it’s never an easy journey even if you find “the one”. he hugged me like nothing happened and say happy new years woo hoo. it's not right to generalize men i mean just because he didn't use one of the particular sings being mentioned.) it sounds like he has sense to go out with other people, because you are a total nut case. a healthy normal relationship should consists of time together and time apart. every time he used to be subtle, nice, gentle, helpful for all of my batch mates which made me fall in love with him. met this guy shortly after almost gettn married and still living @ my ex’s apartment; i liked him and he sorta startd asking for my number and wanting to be close i opened up n told him i needed a litl more time cos i wasn’t ready to be close @ dt time . after a while i replied & said that my friend had told me she’s seeing him.” he say’s no but when he say’s it, he doesn’t give me any eye contact. have an idea, how about not trying to read signs and just ask us if we are into you or if we would consider dating you. what you want to see after the first date is if he really likes you too. he mentioned twice that nobody comes to his apartment but me. or maybe he was just never really interested in me? we’ve even been to a festival and just went away for the weekend together. unfortunately we both work that day so we decided we’d go on another night. but at the same time it feels like he’s listening to my conversations or keeps me in his view, or talks to me randomly . said, “oh i meant what are you doing on the computer right now? that’s all i said and let the chips fall.. and we got way distants to the point that even i could care less what he will message me cause i know its just going to be more and more bullshit. 2 months ago consider the following statement:a key element of attractiveness for me in a partner is whether she has the character and strength to finish the relationship if necessary. did you ever put your place in his shoes, and imagine how utterly deranged or self-loathing you seem to him to be texting him when he’s made it clear he thinks you’re someone he can use? if you’re just not comfortable with that, it sounds to me like you could bring this up again. i start cryin randomly when i think of him or see fb posts when he’s hanging out with a girl. don’t let feelings be your guide – commit with your actions/words, the feelings may follow later. up until meeting up, we messaged once a week, usually i messaged but he also did if i didn’t. he’s a couple years older than me but i still want to try and get with him. us on facebookfollow us on twitterfollow us on pinterestfollow us on instagramget the newsletteryour daily dose of the latest in fashion, beauty, and entertainment--delivered straight to your inboxsign upprivacy policysubscription servicescontact glamourreprints/permissionsnewsletter signupsite maprssadvertise with usmastheadukgreecefrancehungarygermanypolandspainsweden russianetherlandsmexico and latin americasouth africacondé nast storecareersglamour media kitvisit other condé nast sites©2017 condé nast. he went bananas and said he was crazy about me. he smiled at me like 2 times and i always use to say hi to him like for a week in a half and i started to see he wasn’t saying hi to me first at all so i stop saying hi to him i mean he say hi to me if i say hi to him. asked a guy a bout this and he said “can’t you see that he likes you? about 2 week ago, he got a job and he stop contacting me. erica – i’m honestly not sure how you could get him off the sites barring getting more aggressive with him about it. well, the fudging-of-facts bit carries on throughout a relationship, sometimes keeping us committed to the wrong guy for months (or years). only when he drinks he approaches me, he always flirts and the next day it’s like a different person. i waited and waited for him to like me back but he never did. i have never done online dating myself but because of my boyfriends profile i now log in under a fake profile every day to check his activity. guy and i met in party, we had sex but from the beginning he said he’s not looking for gf, he’s an expat, intern in my country. you’ll probably never trust him out with others again. if you were fine being his sex buddy at first, and i hate to say it this way, then you set yourself up for being used by him. so i call him tonight and he’s talking to me but i can hear his phone keep vibrating as he’s talking. you are bound to be feeling hurt right now and so upset, he wanted you to kiss him because he still loves you and is mixed up” some guys dont like the thought of getting to settled and would like to know if there is something better out there for them, he basically wants his cake and eat it at the same time, if he gos off he wants to know he can come back and that you will have him back! i was walking on the catwalk when i saw him. 3 years ago from usawell, he sounds like he's interested in getting to know you, but i would say he hasn't had much change to get interested in you yet.. he even confess to me one time that he had a co-worker that is a guy and had a crushed on him. and my friend kept saying some embarrassing stuff about me while we were talking. more weeks passed by, (i don’t see him that often), and it felt like he was really opening up to me.. i was on my way back to hes house ,when i get a text saying whatever . i would like to know if there is a little chance of knowing that he likes me or he liked me !' so we both drank out the cup at the same time (there were 2 straws and that cup was small ). every girl has this with some guy, usually around your age. mean realy not meaning to be a hack or anything. gave it all away for free, so now he doesn’t value you. that afternoon i asked if we could talk over message again and he said he took it too far and we could be friends again. ( truck driving) i tell him what i’m going through, he gives me dierections to get my way back to terminal and i drop truck off. i get that i hurt him, and we obviously had some sort of miscommunication about what i ment by needing some time to think. start small and work your way up if you’re truly afraid you’ll come on too strong. i try to express how that makes me feel but it just pisses him off and he tells me he’s tired and wants to get some rest. however, sometimes he would just “k” me and ignore me when i did nothing wrong. his only real response to all of this is that he is a different person now than he was then.. its possible he might be shy thats why you got the first pitch. made a point to let me know that there was no way anyone could decide in two or three dates that the person they’re interested in was a bust – so, it certainly looks like he has done just that. so my first question is: why was he showing all the signs of liking me, saying he doesn’t, and whilst have a gf? i’m not sure how young this guy is, but it sounds to me like he was offended at your response to his immaturity. so a guy who i didn’t really know too well approached me one day and started talking to me and whenever he sees me after school he continues to do so. then instead of apologizing he yelled at me for knowing. , so my aparment neighboor as i walked by his doorstep opened his door and said ” what was ur name again ” ( i previosly introduced myself to him before when he approched me ) i told him my name and then he asked me where was i going, i said school. so yes, i agree with point 10, if he ignores you for months, then suddenly acts all friendly, ask why..he started posting stuff and i fell in love with him. when we talk he is sweet, looks at me and appears to be listening and all of his texts have kisses, but i don’t know if they mean anything. i know it’s annoying but he’s being open about it and i don’t feel like anything you describe is “shady” (yet)..the “needle in the haystack” ohh that makes me so mad. all the time i thought he had forgiven me because he had moved on and found another job in his profession immefiately and said forget those people he was about to leave them anyway. i checked her social media sites and when she got to know it she had questioned him about it. he may be busy with bills and his kid, but that doesn’t stop a man from communicating with someone he really cares about. it is concerning that he would trying to chat with other women where you met though. so i told him what was up, i snapped, & he hasn’t talked to me since. past 3 days have been really wierd, we were suposed to go see a movie together after i was off work and i hadnt heard from him since noon, had texted him quite a few times with no response. i should have called him on that there but i was so excited that he final said he was dating me. however, if we use your examples of the real world versus online dating (and really a case that you appear to make that they should operate more similarly): if it were the real world instead of online dating wouldn’t you have been more firm that he shouldn’t be talking to another woman/making himself available to other women? the separation may be a good thing if he doesn’t have those feelings for you…it’ll help you to move on. he did many kind and loving things…though he no longer does them. i asked him if we are exclusive and he said yes. i ended communication with all other guys, hid my profile and gave this guy my full attention because that’s the kind of woman i am. if he wants you bad enough, he’ll make a move. went on a few ‘one date wonders’…lol…he reached out to me…. we talked for hours and both expressed how comfortable we felt talking to each other about any topic that you can think of. and then he was like ” theres always tomorrow” , i was kind of hessitant and thinking what to say. there is this guy, we started texting for a while and he was so sweet. met this guy in one of my classes and we ended up being in the same group for an assignment. as i i have said a couple times here, the only certain way to know is to ask him on a date! i was getting off from work and he called me to ask if i was hungry. but he hasnt been texting me first in a while and i always have to text him first. i just figured if he wanted to go on a date he’d be more enthusiastic about it. give the most common signs, but i go on to say that playing the detective role is a losing game…. i am not that bad and maybe i was too nice to any one , that makes unfair to me. he started talking to me but i’m afraid he thinks of me as a friend. he thinks his feelings have changed and gone to another girl, but i still feel he likes me. we did have the talk of being bf/gf and being exclusive. i just immensely like him, and i haven’t felt this way about anyone. i told him at the end, “i’ll get home and delete my profile :p” he goes, “so will i ren :)” so that night when he got home, we texted for about an hour and he told me what a great time he had and that he can’t wait til i’m in the same college as him so we can always be together. he wanted to meet my girls while we were having after work drinks but i told him it’s not a good idea since it’s our girly ritual & we don’t get guys in there. he is a nice guy and he is friend with most of people i know . sex is the most intimate act you can have with another person, so it’s not a mystery why people end up having feelings afterward. had not been on my profile since nov when we had the talk, and neither had he, but we didn’t discuss hiding or removing our profiles. 3 years ago sorry but what does it mean when a boy calls you hot people say its your look and some say your body. then this past month the texting died down a lot. he did not look away, did not smile and same with me, and when i looked away and looked back at him, he already looked down. soon he notices and looks very intrigued, becoming a mosquito around me trying to see my eyes. he came back to me and said he was sorry and i hit him multiple times with my heels..another girl posts pictures of my boyfriend or uses his pictures like her profile pictureon social medias when i ask him he says she only wants to cause peoples attention. he held out his hand for me to link with his and then he squeezed my hand which i wasn't expecting, so i squeezed it back and we kept squeezing it back and forth and smiling while i was leaning on him. but he is always around, always texting and we even met each othwr kids in a really casual way. he’ll have to schedule that date – you could gently prompt him. he tried to calm me down by sending me pick up lines and telling me to reply him but i did not.. i wondered that he probably broke many hearts and he doesnt know it. i read articles that say if he’s not wanting to be around you then he’s just not that into you, and don’t freak him out by getting too serious too soon, don’t start planning your wedding after date one, etc. 3 years ago from usawell, one thing i wrote above is "interested people act interested. i know at one point after we first met, he told me he wasn’t just sleeping around with anyone and everyone. he told me lie on top of him, i did. many men are seeking wives, not playmates and they’re up front about it because they sincerely don’t want to waste time with women who aren’t interested in long term commitments. that being: he says “me too” and dumps the girl to be with you. also that he got to go and wished me a great day and that we would talk soon.’s this guy i met almost one year ago… we met through our friends that we share. we’ve been having challenges in our marriage, talked about them openly, and contemplated splitting up. well, he apparently took me requesting time to think as pretty much a break up. he thinks she’s better match and he doesn’t know if i’m the love of his life. joey, i ended things with him, don’t think he’s the right guy for me. husband just told me the other day he hasn’t been happy for months he misses his daughter and he wants to go he says our past is holding us back from progress which is true but when he announced he was ready to leave it broke me up really bad i have not thought of our past since he said that to me i didn’t know that i was tearing him apart with my accusations and actions, well not enough for him to leave me because i should have been the one to leave and now we are lying in bed together as i type this but i just don’t feel like we gonna be good because he pretended to be happy i didn’t know he was feeling like this i mean i’m confused should i just let this go im33 and he will be 28 soon what to do. we met on a chat room site back in june. he told me that he was terrified of a relationship and that there was stuff i didn’t know, etc. i can’t continue talking to a man who flirts with me but doesn’t want to be with me.’t kill me, but i’m not even 100% sure that i really like him (i’ve never really liked a guy before ;yes, i’m weird and guys don’t even usually see me as a female because i game/swear/have a huge appetite/am a messy person) but i think about him all the time and it’s so lame to admite, but i feel butterflies in my tummy whenever i see him. my girlfriends tell me i am intimidating to look at because i am pretty. there was an event and he thought of me he said. since then my news feeds have shown a couple of cryptic posts from her, but can’t say if she’s cursing me cos even before she was the type to regularly be posting cryptic attention seeking posts etc .’ve been talking with a man i met on a dating site for a couple of months now. so i warm up twords him inside me and so i decide to give it another go. isn’t evil, and if it works out for you then great, but even the free love crowd tacks on so much overcomplicated crap to justify the getting someone else to get them off…. consider some other guys, focus on other things you enjoy about life, and don’t spend any time dwelling on this guy anymore. i told him he gave me reasons to think he was talking to some other girl he was like ima go bye i was like fine bye he said i dont beg so its up too you i was like neither do i, then he tryed to talk too me after he said bye i blew him off . we didn’t see each other after that, i texted him a few times but i felt like i was doing all the effort. then he usually eats dinner, takes a shower, and then it’s around 9pm. that’s why he said he felt like he was in a marriage. again, not with any type of ultimatum, but i’d let her know that you’d be interested in concentrating on dating each other exclusively. norman li and his associates discovered that a shared sense of humor is a powerful indicator of interest both at the beginning stages of a relationship and in established ones, too. i replied next morning and told him i had other plans since i thought we were on a break. give him time to sift through his feelings and see if he is still on the same page. i have no idea if he’s into me, and i’m scared to ask him because last year my good friend asked him out and he said they were just friends. he has respected those wishes and keeps me at arms length. all, who doesn't have "sense of humor" on their mental list of desirable traits they want in a partner? i was just confused because he would provide no problem, would act like he loved me but it was conditional to how well we were doing. that i did want to kiss him but it caught me off guard. then with that in your heart set out, but don’t get desperate because being desperate make us always loose sight of our morals and values. if being online and chatting to other girls was face to face lets say and you met a man in this way. none of this one foot in the bed and the other on the floor while exploring options. he laughs with his friends and he would be like red and about to die from laughter and as soon as i walk by he immediately looks at me with a straight face as if he was never laughing. i don't know what he wants, he sends me mixed signals, he's always laughing when were together, he does things for me, he even helps me when i need extra money. but i was quite mean to him in a joking way. we talked for like an hr and by the end of it i felt that i knew everything about him and that he knew everything about me. everything is great so far, we go out for dinner, watched movies, sometimes just stay in his apartment and ordered pizza and cuddle on the couch and watched a movie. i was able to get a hold of his phone last week and saw that he had the dating site application on it.!Anyway, for you, there are a couple ways to take things from here. he wanted to see me and stated that the only reason he was coming to the reunion was because of me. he likes you, or else why would he be nervous? each time i saw/found out my guy went online after going out with me for a while i felt sick, duped, confused about where i stand, no longer confident about how he felt about me or what i thought the relationship was, suddently totally insecure and worst of all foolish…. after about 6 weeks he freaked out and said he wanted to feel more “single” and that he wasn’t sure we were right for each other. i have also noticed that on his computer he is getting on another site and looking at personals, mostly from other states. i can see why some people might not like their friends reporting on this sort of thing regularly…but if you’re close, she would probably appreciate it. x was really nice about it and even helped me arrange to go to the cinema and my crush (she is going to come to back me up).) you may still get dumped in the friend-zone, but it might give him a chance to see a new side of you that wakes him up. perhaps a taste of his own medicine will wake him up to what he’s doing…but honestly that’s not the point or the goal. i think part of it is that he is comfortable and taking things for granted to a point. not by his charm or anything, but by the effort he puts into being with me and everything. and you keep giving him the cold shoulder because you’re afraid he doesn’t like you? you've paid attention that he is different with you and simply not paying attention to other girls? as far as the deployed thing, he is getting deployed in a few months, and this is something i knew about not long after we met. i got a promotion at work and now i have more time to focus on a relationship. i hope my post helps you out at least somewhat. if a person truly cares for someone they wouldn’t be doing what he is doing to you. the first year of loving him, i told him i liked him at least 3 different times. after almost 4 months, i was really falling for him, and had stopped dating other guys after month 3. and to make that room, your best bet is to have a full and fulfilling life that keeps you occupied and engaged in the meantime. perhaps start with chatting online, then move to a quick discussion. he came over and we watched a movie … we had sex. he’s going to visit some relatives, so i told him i could go with him there he said i wouldn’t like it. that’s why i was also out of words coz he was really silent while we looked at each other. we dated for a year and then we moved in together. he told my fake profile to understand that he’s looking for a ‘soulmate’ – really? then things started to get awkward cause his friends would see me and make teasing remarks. when i first started reading your article i relate because i have two classes with this really cute guy like and we have a 60 day snap streak on snapchat and i wanted to ask him to sadie’s because it’s also in two weeks and i know him at least a little but you seen a stranger to him so i wouldn’t risk it if you don’t know who he actually is first started reading your article i relate because i have two classes with this really cute guy like and we have a 60 day snap streak on snapchat and i wanted to ask him to sadie’s because it’s also in two weeks and i know him at least a little but you seen a stranger to him so i wouldn’t risk it if you don’t know who he actually is in personality. when i got back on facebook he was like are you still mad and he told my cousin he still loved me and everything we got back together. i just think i shouldnt talk to him again because i feel like he’s leading me on when he’s singl then ditching me when he’s in a relationship. think only you can be the judge of whether or not he is a waste of your time. come up with a few questions related to those things that you can ask him…or even better, ask for his help on something that he’s good at. i’m a department head but obviously we’re not on the same level., so me and this guy talk to each other like everyday except for sometimes when it kinda feels awkward for no reason and i don’t talk to him cause i feel awkward too. family and friends liked my pics of the bro and little sis and some friends/relatives, but no one like the pics we posted together that he is here in town with me. he says he likes me but doesnt want a relationship because it brings alot of drama but he always mentions how theres noone else like me in his life. i was told once, when a dude knows he’s got you, you are screwed cause he will not invest then. you both have a profile on match and have been intimate on more than one occasion, one or both of you should step up to the plate and discuss the options. we’ve been talkin on facebook for a couple of weeks flirting, hes been saying im pretty etc. im guessing he’s in his late 20’s or maybe he’s 30 he has a mature but young look i cant tell. boat here…been dating my guy for 11 months now – we are both 42…. later on she started saying where in a relationship with him and he whent along with it knowing he doesnt love her or care about her. is the thing… when we met online, he stated that he wanted long term, his “last best friend “, or something along those lines. post actually doesn’t clearly reflect things i have done in my interactions with women – but i’m not the average guy. it wss so confusing to me that i decided to do something about it. whenever i said something on my fb wall, he did something related with that . – i do like your friends advice to continue dating others. however i told him i am relationship girl & not at ease with this casual arrangement. would i know that a guy is not interested in talking with me? all relationships require adjustment and compromise, and it starts via communication..i guess he doesnt like me, but he keeps confusing me! i just blank out and try not to stare at him cause i’m worried to come off as weird. he comes over and sits next to me and all 3 of us started talking. when we first started talking he was in another city visiting his daughter, so we never went on a date. – this doesn’t sound like a healthy relationship to me. a man leaves his online dating profile active, what does it mean? i’m not sure what to think or do or if he will ask me to forgive him. yet after telling me he loved me, i guess i just figured we were forming a more serious relationship. he may not be ready to be in a romantic relationship with you though. he wrote back right away saying he understands and he will explain when he gets home (his cell phone was at work so he only cold connect to wifi”) i say ok. he said i wasnt giving us a vhance beacuse i wanted to know that if in three to six months if i asked him to be my bf wpuld. i did confront him to discuss it but now i realise i did so – not to understand him – but only with a view to declaring that he had failed, that i don’t ‘share’ and therefore we couldn’t continue in this state. 🙂 i have a crush with a guy who is a year and a half younger than me, we are in high school, im 16 a he is 14, well i stared to talk to him in facebook, at first he looked interested, then i continue saying hi at school, but after that he begun to flirt with another girl {comments in his profile} and he did not care about talking to me. in a relationship, you have to have time for each other, and if you don’t, you need to make time by pushing other things out of the way. he reached out to you when it was not doing well, and he returned to it for whatever reason - probably "trying to make things work. if there are no disagreements and you’ve started going in different directions, it’s also a signal of possible incompatibility, though there may be other causes that can be fixed if you pay attention and reconnect. he still talks about things you’ll do together someday, but he’s less available than he used to be. he keeps saying he just gotten out of a relationship & do is not ready. weeks pass and its just been small glances at each other here and there. just wanted some suggestions from you about moving on or should i still date him as it really bothers me and also when he tells me that he doesn’t know what he really wants.“i don’t know if the girl will get mad at me if i tell him i like him”. am just so scarred to bring my feelings or the site thing up……. i’ve asked point blank does he want to be together and he says yes. we talked to eachother last year but we had a falling out. if he doesn’t, then you know he’s not serious.

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i didn’t evern take him seriously on the date (even though i thought he was hot), i was joking too much to get rid of him but he seemed to like me alot and wanted to see me more. i’m not sure what to do, he has never left me and the one time i left for a week he stayed and waited for me to come home so we could fix things but he really just seems to hate to touch me and i’m not sure why…maybe i’m not appealing? he always says things like your perfect and between us it always will be. i even left my phone alone for a few days to see if he still wants to talk if i’m not the one starting the conversation. it's a guy you met or that you're meeting him at his working place? so he asked my number and we texted a lot, he’s was always texting me first and i actually found him annoying. and when we layed down on my bed i noticed that he’d if his arm under and around my waist and then he pulled me closer. – if i understand correctly, you’re saying that if he doesn’t decide to take his profile down in 6 weeks then you’ll not talk with him about it and just end things? i am a very picky person but when he was over and when we went out he did exactly what i or any girl would want a guy to do. hubpages and hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including amazon, google, and others. if you can’t do it any longer, than have the guts to be honest with him and walk away. sure that he i s not engaged n is still alone…. so what if as an experiment you tried communicating with a few more guys at the same time."on the second and third dates, what i like to have my clients do is really pay attention to how consistent he is. don’t let every feeling be your guide…just be a friendly coworker, and if that is too difficult to handle emotionally then have him get a ride to work with someone else so your heart can move on. if it was important to her that you let her know the first time, i’d think you would tell her again. it’s a good idea to let him know that the active profile is the source of much of this feeling (leaving this out could leave many of us guys, who can be dense when it comes to relationships, confused or surprised). respond, its really driving me nuts, what kind of signals is he giving me? right now i’m blocking his texts… so that i wouldn’t need to communicate or hear whatever he has to tell me……. know he's attracted to me but insecurities are standing in the way.’m concerned telling her this may rattle her a bit givien her prior experience and scare her off. i ask him to ask his parents if it’s okay for me to come over but he doesn’t ask until the last minute. about three months into dating, i knew i was starting to fall in love with him and i was bothered that his profile was still active, he would be on at least every other day. we should all hold out for someone that acts like they love us, shouldn't we? i don’t wanna have another man in my life apart from him so please help me am desperate i don’t know what can i do. i would always talk to guys on the phone in front him just for the satisfaction of seeing him angry. i responded with: i don’t accept friend request from people i have never met, i looked at the link she sent of the guys work and really from the pics i saw felt indifferent to it but told her his work looked nice to be polite, i mentioned i don’t know much about photography but, being the polite guy that i am, i told her to tell him he could message me if he had questions and if i could help i would try. i’d hope that if there was real chemistry, things could work out (cars or not).’re so young, now is a great time to challenge yourself to work through this..i tried to turn off my affections but my heart would not listen. it was around 11;30pm when i spoke with him last, and during our conversation he asked where did i go and i said my son had taking me out to celebrate., if my wife told me that she put an online dating profile up because she was a pisces…that wouldn’t fly with me! i really don’t know what is going on in his head. so he can see if he knows someone…and then what? he started doing some work for me and was getting paid. after quite a bit of texting we couldn’t meet up. i told him it was iffy and i had hidden my profile because i’m not sure about it all together. is not a river in egypt and you can do a non member search to check if he or she has lied to you before. do think that approaching this with caution is a good idea…you don’t want to come off as if you’re obsessing. we just met not to long ago and he’s the type who can be funny and out going but when we hang around the house, he’s mainly into his homework and most of the time silent. started talking to a girl for around 2 weeks, we met on a dating website and have been talking daily. my thoughts are what if he's married or in a relationship or just wants sex; all to which adds to my insecurity. the third group i don’t really like (not popular). also, you should be aware if there is a company policy for coworkers who date. later when i talked to him he said he didn’t feel good so i left it alone. so we met and he told me he was glad i had pushed him out. new girl doesn't work out for him, he'll likely come sniffing around again to see if you're still available, but i'm glad you've moved on. they don’t know what to do and i feel that sometimes they don’t understand what their words or action could mean to someone. but one time he sat by me while i was drawing in my notebook and we were laughing and he even drew something in my notebook. he’s probably feeling sorry for you for being an immature neurotic who doesn’t know what she wants.“he must think i’m cute, he hugged me first before hugging the rest of the girls in the room. thank you for being polite to her, that’s a great type of character to have, but you’re also letting the situation continue.. ~sigh~ i wish you all the luck on your relationship cara p 🙁 ty. you could continue to date him if you want, but if he says that he loves you but refuses to take down his profile even when he knows it bothers you…well, i find that very concerning. (we are not colleagues :) ) so, after eating, we went for a walk by a nearby beach, chatted all the way and found that we had so many things in common! he’s removed his dating profiles, although i don’t like that i had to get very demanding about that. all goes well through the first three dates, he's courting you and making plans, following up, asking questions about you, and says he wants the same things in life as you, then it's time to move on to the next phase of dating.) – i’m glad my thoughts were helpful but at the same time i don’t want to come off as if i was saying you were “wrong” in your approach.. but when my bff when to him and questioned whether he liked me or no n he said no. yesterday morning i checked again and it said ‘online now’ to say i felt sick was an understatement but i didn’t want to go wading in and accuse him when i didn’t know the story. so i tell the guy i like him i said: this might be a bit shocking to hear but i like you… something like that. it was a lot of fun and we had so much chemistry. so i texted him jokingly that then whatsapp must be messing with me, because it says he was last online last night around 9pm. during the date, he continued to say the same things that he’s been saying to me and he couldn’t keep his hands off me. i just find it hard to like him so much and for him to not trust me enough to cam (he has seen me on cam many times). in , while they were waitng and he said he would be back but i had to close up. remember, you’re the one who decided to attend school full time, so that’s on you. boot camp, part one: how to tell if a guy is really serious or just wrapped up in the chaseby marissa goldjuly 1, 2015 8:00 amit's not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's seriously into you and one who's wrapped up in the moment. researched softmore high school age, so assume you was 15-16 at that time, how old was he? he also pointed out one time that he thinks my friend m likes me. i don’t know how to handel it, he’s a dear friend so i guess i’m afraid that if he doesn’t feel like i do it will hurt our friend ship .’s times when he doesn’t seem interested, but as soon as i’m not giving him attention, he seems interested again.) there’s the friendly flirting where you’re just joking around more like friends but aren’t interested in each other romantically. he didn’t respond to the message and unadded me on all social media. if you keep ending up with the wrong guy, give this method a try. the tone of his voice isn’t the way it used to be. can you imagine him flirting with your friend if you and him were together? i have known my best friend for over a year now hes liked me an expressed it but stupid as i am i thought it wouldn’t work as he lives 3 hours away i had a problem a few months back n spoke to him about it tbh he took it to the next level of caring about me now he’s protective anyways he has a gf but he’s not happy with her i told him i liked him but it was a shock to him as he was with someone at the time my mates say he likes me but i think he dlesent he has family problems an when we planned to meet up he cancelled as his parentd eeded him there he hasent told me he hates me he just cant decide how he feels unless he sees me he wants to see if we get along like we do ober internet and bbm he calls me beautiful whistles at my pictures but lately he’s not been answering his phones or text whats going on please help i need to know if i should stay or leave btw hes not that spoken meanin like he bottles all his feelings up and doesent say anything for example when canceling on me he didn’t tell me he was upset cause he really wanted to see me instead he told my male friend another thing im concerned about hes cjanged a lot cause when i used to date my ex he hardly reacted to it now if i have other male friends who flirt with me he gets all hyper about ig an frustrated its like he doesn’t want me to talk to them he even asked me who that lad wad the one who spoke to him for me please help me :'(. talked to him bout stopping that but he doesn’t listen and once he tried smoking it when i came visiting. we talk and see each other for about 2 months and then he finally asks me out. but he was all cool about it and laughed it out. i told him its and he can if he likes and he said he pinky promises to. i told him i was hesitant to live together as that felt very committed and serious, and i didn’t actually know for sure what his intentions were with me. i think something that women should do (i recommend this to guys as well), is to make sure that you socialize enough to not anticipate more out of a relationship than is really there. if you’re going to explore that with another person, you will end up having to go out on a limb to some degree. saw each other again, two weeks afterwards, i went to visit him this time. if you feel like he’s using his good looks and charm to have his way with women (sex, attention, etc. begin to open up more about how you feel but with no expectations or demands (at least not in the beginning). i checked to see where he was at on the date of that party, and he was with me the whole time – so he didn’t go. a couple months ago i started to have a “gut” feeling that he was doing things that he didn’t want me to know about. i try to go on a time periods of avoiding him by ignoring him so that i can get him off my mind and so that he doesn’t get a clue that i like him, but somehow he always comes back with either a comments like “are you ok? i cry everynight just to hear his voice say “hi” to me. there are times when he smiles when i catch him staring or does some sort of silly face. he had also initiate most of the text message conversations. – i would generally expect that a man telling a woman that he would like to date her exclusively would be received positively.'ve seen a lot of women who feel hesitant about what i call "multi-dating" as if there's something sleazy about it, but it's what our mothers and grandmothers once recommended when they said "play the field before you settle down.. idk if it’s because he wants me close to him or if he just wants his back rubbed. there are many online esp on social sites, that look for girls to get there rocks off, if they start sex chatting dump them! we would have picnics every other week and watch our favorite show. i am not sure what kind of relationship he wants here. he seems ok in talking with me because he really does respond in every conversation we had , well that conversation mostly about me lol. that i will want to continue in the same way knowing he is looking/browsing for someone else? bowling, church events, school events, picnics with the family, shopping for a gift for your mom’s birthday…stuff like that.. i heard everything and i was shocked that he hid me for no reason. now he looks at me like he did before but he doesn’t say hi or talk to me at all. there were a lot of other things said, and over the course of numerous conversations. there was a lot of flirting going on between us and it continued on for almost two days. we started off as being friends with each other and now started dating but he never mentioned about being exclusively but when i check the dating site each day he seems to be on it very often as i am very confused as to why when he informed me that he is my boyfriend and still looking for someone else. i’m not sure if this means he has feelings for me because he’s paid attention to me longer, but i’m not sure. this could have something to do with it too) but to tell you the truth, i think he cares a lot more about being with you than experiencing others. i also told him that we agreed to be exclusive and that having an active profile tells other women that he is still single and it is disrespectful and unacceptable to me. it’s a red flag for you, then you should listen to your conscience, especially this early in. after that he texted me immediately “i was out of words because i was stunned to see you there. i think you should say something like “why haven’t you been talking to me as much this past week? i used to glance his way almost every 20 seconds but i caught myself and decided i would try to fix it cause i think he would think i was creepy. but at last weeks game when him and his friends were sitting in a straight line in the bleachers with them leaning back on each other or something his foot was right next to my hand and he kept tapping or playfully pushing it so i did it back. non the less i started to warm up to the idea. he’d got a new job, moved to this new place where he didn’t know anyone, and we were madly in love. i dont know…is that something that can even work? now i’m full of questions and he’s quiet.. and says he isnt ignoring me but simply cant look at the screen for too long…. the goal is to find a guy who will both say and show that he cares for you. brad, i really enjoyed the post and seems that many of us experience the same issue. i even told him i had to get his confirmation because i have trust issues with previous guys cheating on me. again he didn’t pay for me he has never paid for me and i don’t run up big bills max but he won’t. ive been very patient about the situation because hes so good to me and my daughter he cooks for us every single day, and hes told me that he saw me as wife material and introduced me to a lot of ppl in his family.) in our party who would have loved to have the attention. he hardly log in to chat with me and when he does it is just for a short time and he gets angry when i ask questions. i looked at him again … i think he was looking at me too. this year i’m a sophomore and everytime i walk pass we. he said he was serious an i told him i like him back but did not want a r/s. don’t think it changes anything – try not to overanalyze the things he says. when he hugs me he says i wish i could hold u forever and when we arnt together he says he wishes we r. in the beginning we talked about being interested in each other, yet if someone comes along whomakes us happier then we would understand as lon as we were honest with each other. have been on 5 dates with a guy who i met online, i really like him & feel like we have a good connection, but he has not yet mentioned exclusivity & deleting our profiles. the next morning i said it was just a dare trust me i didn’t want to say it but i had to. we always look at eachother and smile in the gym, he started initiating short conversation before i left the gym. i am crazy about this guy and want to continue dating him but maybe he has lost interest? but revenge wasn’t sweet as he then sent me an email about his lack of self confidence and his poor self image and how it gave him such an ego boost as his mother never loved him blah, blah, blah, blah. since my sophmore year my friend and i would talk all the time. does he still like me or is he over me? if i had met him at the pub, i would have met his friends & seen his place. but he didn’t pay for my lunch just gave me the change for his coffee. it’s also better to find out, even if it’s not the answer you want, than to wonder for the rest of your life. you may want to consider showing him you mean business by moving out. me personally it sounds like he is afraid of you leaving. i was upset since according to dating norm he should have paid. wonder what he’ll think when he sees his fiance’s new profile there. that might seem like semantics but i can see where a guy is coming from if he felt like it was commitment. the after that i just felt like smiling lol, cuz i was like yay i did it :)! 3 years ago from usaif a guy isn't interested, he's probably not saying much to his friends about you, which is why they wouldn't know. my heart keeps on telling me he is worth the chase. does he show you he loves you by his actions? i was quick to let you know how much i loved my wife but every time i told you this i also punched her in the face. believe me, girls, when you know that guy likes you it’s probably because he does! he did not have any sent messages in his sent out box.. i put his hand on my chest and said ‘omg! they like to look and the crave for attention from the opposite sex. this after he had spent friday with me & had told me he never shares his bed with anyone. i asked him playfully several times if he’d take the profile off he never gave answers. raise your hand if you ever fudged the facts in your mind because you really wanted to see things through rose-colored glasses with a promising guy [raises hand! fact, i used to have a habit of calling girls pet names like sweetheart, “hun,” and stuff like that. if he doesn’t seem interested or even respond back, then let it go. i finally decided it was time to start seeing him when we can in january. guys have to learn to take more initiative if they want a woman. i dont have much comunication with my hubby but hey i never cheated on him ever. 3: the long term relationshipafter weeks or months of dating, it might seem natural when these things fade. so i poked him and im like hey,can i ask you something. that day i wanted to know if he cares or not so i cut in front of him n he goot really sad.’s attracted to you in some way, that’s why he approached you. 2- he was basically saying, going spend your free time with your child and not me. he also swears sometimes and he tell me i don’t appreciate the time he is giving me. along really well communicate during the week and he comes over even when he is exhausted just to see me wants to meet kids and his kids we have had 6 dates and wants to go out from the beginning not to b too serious go slow and asked me two weeks ago to settle down didn’t really answer him but told him i like him. sounds more like he wants you to take the reigns and spice things up while he measures up your efforts with other women available to him. but messaged that he couldnt do to low on gas and no money – he had his wallet stolen., so i’m in love with a guy, hence why i’m here. we actually had a very serious conversation about the future last weekend, and ours seems bright. honestly, leaving him may be the best thing that you can do for him. so, you can simply give it some more time and see how he responds over the coming weeks/months. i found out he didn’t like me, my friends still see us flirting each other and talking like we did before i even know about his feelings. by the time he sees you, you feel like you've already been dating for three weeks. he also moved his hand from my waist to my butt lol but he didn't really do anything after that. he’s military, so his schedule is pretty screwy, but since my work schedule is easily manipulated, he proposed that i get it to match it as closely to his as possible so we have the same days off. my advice would be just to stop showing him you like him, stop looking at him and see if he starts talking to you. you may want to cancel the party and go to the concert with someone else though. should i tell one of them that i like him or something? bottom line i’m more social than he is and because he is not a talker it’s hard to tell what is going on. i asked my friends boyfriends/husbands (some of whom met my friends online and some who are or have dated online in the past) they all confirmed clearly that if the guy dosn’t remove his profile voluntarily following the moment when it is obvious you are both moving towards proper committment (and not even ‘by the time’ you have committed to exclusivity verbally) then it is clear he is not entirely certain about you or he is not entirely ready to committ to a relationship. guess he does likes me then, but has some serious problem with me. he might feel like he’s on the spot to do something now that you told him how you feel towards him. but if you are, frances' tips are based on years of research and one-on-one counseling, and she really knows what she's talking about. i’d noticed him eyeballing me before, so i wasn’t totally surprised. in the future, just relax and be calm even if someone is trying to make fun of you. after this i told him i really didn’t want to fight and could we still remain friends, possibly me being a girlfriend if he cared. i kinda don’t want him to see other guys in between the next time we meet up again. he then kissed my hand which gave me butterflies because he’s not like other boys. after that i did what any respectable women would do and i deactivated by online profile. then i picked a diffrent partner that was another guy and he totally got butthurt at the fact that i left him. we act like a couple when we are in public and he loves pda. 3 years ago ok so there's this guy that i am 98% positive that is interested in me, he's tried to make conversation a couple of times but my shyness keeps me from going part hi. – you’ll need to provide some more details on your interactions with him.. i don’t get his signs as they’re weird. a work around and hey presto no messages for 3 weeks now. frances is here to help us see things as they really are instead of how we want to see them. you’ve spent a good amount of energy and time longing for this guy, and he’s clearly not on the same page. be honest (not trying to be rude) you’re in the creepy love phase. not out of rudeness but frustration that someone can miss such obvious stop annoying me signals! the point of the article isn’t a guidebook on becoming a better “emotional detective” to figure out if a guy likes her or not – that’s the sort of thing that drives women (and sometimes men) crazy. i’m assuming it’s been decided that you would date each other exclusively if he’s saying that he loves you., i find really annoying is when he informs me that he is not cheating on me but why is he still on the dating site. what else can anyone call your behavior when you tell him you don’t like him–when you do (liar), and push him away–when you don’t want him gone (manipulator). i wish the best for you in your future relationships…. he went a few times and i hung with hm for a bit, but that was it. but with a ‘girl’s reputation’ of saying, ‘i can’t, i’m busy’ can mean, ‘i don’t want to see you anymore’ is linked together, it can get confusing and i think it happened with this guy. we had our own christmas and when one of his female friends dropped by with gifts randomly. if he continues to look, push your hair back over your ear and kind of tilt your bare neck toward him, all while making eye contact and smiling. sum of these are true about me and my crush#sad. last weekend we were supposed to go out but i got tied up and i told him and he was pretty bummed. the time rolls around and he said he is waiting on his sister.!” he acts like he 100% doesn’t care about me and that he is completely fine. just met several months ago in the office and he is actually not appealing to me. we broke up for about a month having a huge fight because he was fed up with my lack of trust. and usually i am always the one to start a convo through text. he sits by me everyday usually and we talk and laugh and i even asked him for advice on this guy that liked me but i didn’t like him. or, she would talk to me while looking down or off to the side, even after approaching me first. so i msged him and said hey id like to talk with you when you get back. i wanted his time, if we weren’t watching movies or just being in the house we did nothing to really build outside of that.” really, i haven’t talked to him much but still i said small things to him before and he had english/history with me last year so he kind of knows me/my personality a bit. find out a few thing he’s interested in, or involved in. i think this guy seems like he likes you, but he’s clearly sending out some mixed signals. i failed to mention, during the making out, i told him he’s so perfect, i kissed his heart. but he still checks it daily so im kinda confused. an in november i asked him too meet my family. he has an ex gf who he stayed with for 4 years but it was over a few years ago. and i handed him the cupcake, i was like happy valentines day and smiled. is now day 3 i havent heard from him at all today. he is flirtatious toward me and has never mentioned a girlfriend. you can sort of imagine that i was very positively surprised by his willingness to open up to me, especially when he’s one of these guys who can get any girl he wants. there are going to be ups and down, good and bad – you just have to be willing to put forth the work. when i was around him he was nice and super goofy… alot weirder than normal for him… and would laugh at my corniest jokes. she will probably tell her friends, and her friends may even harass or bully you for it. i’ve asked him to hangout with3 times me to which he agreed but he never showed up and he is always giving excuses. everything was goin good untill the 3td day,he started talking about sex! basically he’s really attractive and sexy, he knows it as well. from a girl’s perspective, i can tell he likes you as well. still kinda like him but the other half me like him as friend as well as he dose. he is in the army and when we first met he only had a couple days before he went to do a month worth of training. they are not looking out for you if they still are checking out the menu while proclaiming they are crazy about you. can someone reply and tell me what i should do cause i do not want to lose him. he said that i was making a big deal out of nothing. well i talked to him once after and after that when i texted him 2 times he never replied? he throws all the signs that he likes me one day (messing with me, trying to make me laugh, offer me support, convince me to join him on a trip), and the next day he could display signs otherwise… (ignoring, not wanting me around, hugging everyone in our group of friends as we say goodbye while avoiding me, messing with me in a more mean/rude tone). the hardest part is that i don’t know what he thinks of me and i’m too afraid to ask because rejection sucks! he may not be interested anymore, or he may just need a jumpstart to get comfortable with being with you. sounds like he does like you but is afraid to say it or act on it. i finally told him he need to set up a specific date with me where we could go out and talk about this stuff together and privately.” just so i could see when he’s online (not to get a response. know saying thank you to you and to all “a new mode” staffs isnt enough but im still glad you give time to this thing and wasting your time just to help me understand this. he doesnt call her any pet names i can see. if you and a guy have fun, well, enjoy the hanging out and have fun - but go on dates and hang out with other guys as well. i was doing a little flirting back, when out of the blue he said, “i could go along with this, but you’re married, and i respect your husband. move on and consider it a lesson learned – set those boundaries asap and you’ll filter all the wrong guys out of your life. i’ve told him recently that i don’t feel that way about him and idk if he believes me or not.. it doesn’t take a brick falling on your head for you to see he’s not interested. he said how bout me to date im a nice guy, the other night he hugged an kissed me an danced with me an we cuddled all night. am however resloved to not message him again till he messages me. thing, his dad took us and our sisters out to get ice cream and he and i were bored so we went to the car to talk. to me like he still wants to sow his wild oats by commenting on all the hot girls there. no one wants to feel like they are being bullied into a relationship. when people are given ultimatums like that, it really can wreck havoc on relationships (and people in this situation get fearful, hurt, highly insecure, etc. inject some positive energy into the relationship, and encourage him constantly. he works shift work so some times its more than others. he knows of my past so am i just being perinoid he dont like me or do i need to relax cause he does like me. focus on your own happiness and enjoyment of your life. he got back at the end of july and we met up, and he seemed really shy it was kinda cute. relationships require actual work, which he doesn’t seem interested in. he held my handhe put his arms round me and we had a lovely time once more. she’s super nice, but sometimes my boyfreind would come into my class 6th period and talk to her and just not talk to me. there’s a better man out there for you, you’ll find him and he’ll treat you like a special woman.’m in high school and i like this guy that is two grades above me. so i always break up with my boyfriend because he’s not good enough for me. but everywhere i go its constant but i just hate it and its annoying i mean strangers boys and family friends say im beautiful and gorgeous also stay pretty i mean i can't go anywhere in peace with out being followed but i met a new boy he was sweet and he was my uncle( by marriage) nephew he was year older and they live so far away and they barley came i wish i could just see them again. we go on a group date where all goes fine. to be honest the site was for marriage purpose, i have been in there for some time and gave up hope. he loose his time arguing with me at 5am in the middle of the street if he didn’t stil have feelings for me? we took an-hour class together and i didn’t feel anything for him till he started coming to our company for the first time and as a result he talked to me about that day and how i saw that class and actually he gave me a great deal of look which i didn’t take seriously because i didn’t know him very well. is it possible his just those type of guy that is very friendly and that he may be leading me on but he has no clue at all. he initiated conversation, it was really flirty and we both were laughing, he kept asking me questions about my job, training, family etc. ideas on how i can get her to talk to me? the past few weeks he’s began to tease me… a lot. i was between his legs, he kissed my forehead unexpectedly and we slept away. he seems to be just perfect, everything i was ever looking for. a daily measure of god's word and guidance straight to your inbox. this one’s sweet thoughtful kind person has completely turn their back on me. i could go on and on but the point is, i’m completely stuck and don’t know what to do. the move was okay but i soon realised that i missed my old job, friends, and the sense distaordom. i saw him first so i was just looking at him as we walk closer to each other. which is true but everyone says he protects me like no other. the 2nd day away, he sent me a pic of himself in a towel. he texts me the other day and says he it on pof just out of pure boredom and then tells me he misses me and wishes he could see me. doesnt understand that i have tried to avoid him but i always find myself coming back, hes not a bf but i do care about him and want to be in his life and want him in mine. this guy is telling you he doesnt fancy you but values your friendship he is being honest. i have no idea how he’ll respond and whether he wants to keep seeing other people, as he had stated his doubts about our relationship before when we broke up. he said i’ll be right behind you i will stop and just pick me up something to eat . i think in many of the cases listed here, if the woman waited for the guy to make a commitment…well, it might never happen! but one day i almost bump into him on a corridor and i know is not by chance as he is the master of avoidance when he wants to.. i met this guy online and at first he was very sweet to me. then he invited me to go home with him and i rejected that mainly because i just couldn’t and well it didn’t seem just right. told you he liked you, but you don’t believe it. i found out then that we had even more things in common, which was actually scary because everything i liked he seemed to like to, we both had similar life experiences, and we spent the majority of the night talking to each other easily and joking around and being geeks. btw, he told me today that he would need my parents’ consent and then we both just changed the subject. have been dating this guy i met on okcupid for a few months now.. cuz that might be the last time id be able to talk to him. so a little while ago he would like flirt with me and make me laugh and everything, but now its changed and i don’t really talk to him anymore. i don’t mean to sound old fashioned, but it works if you’re really trying to figure out his feelings as you move forward in the relationship with him. because i feel like one minute he likes me and the next it seems like he doesn’t want to see me. but now that that has started up, he’s been even more distant. i love him to death but he doesn’t understand how much his words hurt sometimes. we had a very strong connection and he were very comfortable around each other. i read through some of the posts and started posting things to people from a guy’s perspective. i dunno, but when i was in a relationship, i would turn to my girlfriend for support when i was stressed about something. i did not believe him and he asked me for the answer for the next two days. he was close friends with my ex (who later became my x husband) . did not respond to the last message about me not wanting to make promises that i can’t keep, but i know for a fact he opened it (it was done through snapchat… don’t judge). would you be at ease knowing that if you are looking online you cannot give the relationship a chance? at the party , he sat right in front of me with the help of friends cos they changed seats when he came ! i started by telling him i wasn’t ready to move in together and needed more time. on the flip side, have you given him any hints/signs that you’re interested? nothing wrong with improving your health, but do it for you because you want to. he said but ima go now i was like awwh okay bye i love you he didnt reply too it.: “yeah, you were texting on your phone and i said “knock knock” and you let me in, we talked and had a good time…then you kissed me, i said “i loved you, and loved working with you, your a hard worker” and then you responded with “i think the samething. i was heart broken when i saw it, and i text him right away confronting him about it…. i then handed him the piece of paper and headed for the door. for each time i couldn’t make it due to work, getting ill (i had let him know the day before the date that i wouldn’t make it), and seeing family as it was over the holidays and i very seldom get to see my relatives. other guys better than him that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated don’t cry for him because he will feel like he got his way. u have to make the first move dont be scared. the thing that’s getting to me is that he now finds it awkward to be around me. he went to a dinner party with me and stayed over my place and left early sunday to work. but he texts her back in a matter of seconds..i am the first serious relationship my boyfriend has been in since that breakup. still sees her i know and but still he comes back to me. while it does look like he may be being a bit dishonest with you, there is a chance that he may, for some reason, think you’re not interested in a serious relationship. there was time he poked and gave me a big smile, but could not say much until i asked him. on his birthday, many friends made a surprise party n i was there ! so for the first time, i decided to do some checking, and did a search on his profile username. then a day later i saw him driving around, i called him not to initially bring anything up, but when he didn’t answer we got into it and he said that he does want stuff to work but i can’t be so paranoid. because surely if he was into me he wouldn’t even think about pursuing other options….. once he even told me on atext that he had a crush on me but then told my friend he’s just kidding.’ve had quiet boyfriends, but quiet boyfriends talk to the woman in their life. i’ve met his friends and he’s met my friends and some of my family. when i was stepping out for a smoke he told me ‘if things gets serious, i’d like you to quit’ & i told him i’d do it for him. it didn’t bother me and i told him that.! like i was about to explode with happiness cause i didn’t think he was into me. my bff ask him and his friend to take me out for my birthday. when it comes to relationships you can see i have i clue what i'm doing. now he's always flirty and has suggested sexual things but i just blow them off with a joke. that for the first time since his divorce, he is ready for a full on commitment, and that it just took him a really long time to get there. thanks for your help, sorry this was longer than anticipated! he’s not into you and he’s using you for the nookie and having a domestic servant until he finds someone better. i am not sure if i can handle knowing that he is with me and others. it’ll make you come off as confident and in control. i tried to give it back last week and he told me to keep it. the girl has reached out from time to time to say, they guy has reached out maybe once or twice. we didn’t talk in 5 months and met again at a funeral, he looked shocked to see me he hugged me but would stick around me and stayed cleared like i was intimidating to him. he did & told me his dad’s very ill – he seemed so upset. he told me he’s not into the casual thing with other girls, i know he’s active on his dating profile. in many of the other cases, the guys don’t clearly commit or label the relationship. see how he is with you in conversation wise and maybe things will go well after that if he isn’t a jerk. so i can see how the boys would struggle to manage that and think that continuing conversations online harmless… it is an enormous confidence booster, flattering to receive attention and the thrill of first dates really good fun. and just to make it clear, my sister isn’t creating suspicion with me, i’d noticed how all along, he’d be texting me and suddenly stop with no goodnight, see ya, nothing, just stopped in mid conversation.” so obviously, i creeped today and you can see (even if you’re not a member with a profile) if a username of a profile exists. for the last two weeks he has called almost every night a nod we talk for 2-3 hours. not for me but for dinner at the taco stand next door with his 2 little brothers.’m gonna see how it goes over the next month, if he’s still going on then he doesn’t care about my feelings and i’d prefer to be someone’s one and only, not their until something better comes along! if you lost the love of your life, having another relationship after a few months wouldn’t feel right. i’ve been having doubts about where we stand with each other since we haven’t spent time together on home so to speak. would keep talking to him b/c his relationship aint worth it if they keep ignoring eachother you know a relationship is for two and not for one like im saying he just not with her but with you ,, he’s probably interested in you and wants to talk to you more. you can read a book together but if he turns around and starts putting a profile online, what good has it done? and he uses getting back with his ex wife to see what i will say about it. i know he’s someone i’m ready to commit to, to explore a relationship with. he then texted me and said he too tired was but i saw he was on his match account. so once i stopped initiating the texts he never texted me. i replied no worries, but that i trust that he wouldn’t play games with me because that would be unnecessary. my ‘dating’ experience had been extremely limited, despite being married and divorced twice. this goes on for a while, blurring our speaches as before. things were tough at first but then they seemed to be getting better. sunday he texted for a bit then nothing i said goodnight like normal but hockey was on and i always get ignored when hockey. it wasn’t just becuase of him but out of 8 guys i met everyone lied aobut martial status & job among having 10 year old pictures up. after not talking for 4- 5 days i sent him a text and the following day he sent a song and the conversation was very abrupt and strange . the problem is he never did the thing i expected from him then we have fights and he promises to never make that mistake. erm it was a few days ago, we spoke to today in person when i went training. is my situation; i knew this guy from the age of 15. he has written a free online dating guide to help others find success with online dating. he is a very shy guy and is very genuine his not a player of any sort. and for the past 4-5 fridays we see each other at football games and we hang out a bit. we had the exclusive talk, and we both agreed to not see anyone else – but we aren’t exactly “official” yet because of the uncertainty of his job (he’s at risk of being sent overseas for a minimum of 2 years). we vacated and came back to the house i started sendin him some flirts but he told me to stop my nonsense for he is not interested…and he also said he is a religious man and he loves god more than anything else and he also said the more i know the better for me…. it’s time to move forward or leave it alone. though your pain is intense, look around at a world that is full of people in more dire situations: the infant children left on the street with no food and no family, victims of rape/incest, orphaned children with nobody to come visit them, etc. i then said i'm tired if going out with a bunch if different guys, he said you only went out with two, and how are you going to find mr right if you don't keep dating. i was able to see his messages and as of today it shows that he had logged in and there were messages from women in which he had responded to just a couple of hours earlier before i came home. he responded a few days later and just said he didn’t want to end things but just needed to relax a little bit. love at it’s highest level is willing to sacrifice life for life, with no strings attached. said he was hurt that he’d hurt me and that he never had any intention of actually meeting anyone. i wrote him a note just letting him know i cared and that i would like to meet up with him for lunch. one in a million, and if he doesn’t want to meet back up with you, his loss. i don’t want to be walked over, and i don’t want to turn into one of those girls who checks up on him…. my crush worked with me and we would flirt and get along too well\. makes me wonder how he picked you up in the first place. it seemed as if we were back to where we were 🙂 but something got me curious and so i went on the same website that we met on thre years ago and there he is on line that day. then i messaged him and never got a reply… a week later after i stopped giving him attention he messages me and is even keener, and then is like can i kiss you wen we meet, and then asked to meet up in the next week, he then procceds to ask me if i thought he was hot (he would go to the gym alott and send me progress shots) i mean i found him attractive. since we come from different countries, i thought that it’s not a good thing to have relationship with him. i met him online, soon after romeo proclaimed adoration and love for me he “deactivated” his account as he said he is % sure i was the one his been looking for. if you can figure out how to log in, update with new pics and stuff, you can figure out how to do other stuff. but when he texts he is all formal and i sometime feel that he is trying to either keep a distance or make it clear that he isn’t interested but it’s confusing at the same time as he replies to texts un-related to the work. he said his data on his phone wouldn’t work (i think he meant he didn’t want to risk paying for the roaming), but he would text me whenever he would get a chance. we laughed so much, i couldn’t even remember when a guy made me laugh like that! did he really mean what he said about experiencing other ppl? and just nice, soon it rained and we walked slowly under (because i wanted to lol hehe). don't waste your time with some guy who is not interested. please help also im 14 and he is 15 we are in the same year. went to high school together and we also attend the same church and have the same beliefs. something isn’t wrong with you – this guy wanted to use you and act out of line. good luck with everything and hope everything turns out for the better no matter which route you take. wait until they break up, and try to get close to him. is it because he might have problems at home or somewhere else?. but at the same time i cant understand the need to have a conversation with guys on a dating site? but we were always close like we would tell each other every abd just be completely honest with each other. whenever he calls he says he misses me so much and i feel so irritated. i can be rather forthright in these matters – the usual sympton of having been hurt terribly in the past and made a fool of etc. or maybe keep it casual…just ask him what he’s up to on the weekend and if he wants to go to a nice dinner with you, or something where you can dress up real nice (e. he said that his ex did not want his daughter at my house anymore and that was that. in fact, he does the flirting in front of everyone as well. if he doesn’t want to go to work in his relationship with you, or gives a poor effort and complains, that should send you a message loud and clear. and next time if you’re both in the same places at once, make sure you’re alone. hes winked at me too but the thing is there is this girl that is ugly and gets between us . we were meant to get married next month and now it’s been pushed back to easter. we hit it off and are still seeing each other. and recently i realised that i actually like him, and he is friends with some friends of mine. is he just playing me to hurt me to get back for kissing his best friend? maybe he’s still in the closet and trying to stay there, which means distancing himself from you. i dont know, but the last time i tried to have an indepth discussion about something with him he said i was “pushing” him and we broke up for 2 weeks. 3 years ago we somehow haven't been able to see each other this past week my work schedule changed due to some out of office business related matters. so this is different because he doesn’t make moves, even though we’ve been in pretty good predicaments to make something happen…. when he hugs me he says i wish i could hold u forever and when we arnt together he says he wishes we r. he knew we were in the same place, he asked me where i was and i told him he said “i’ll go there. he found me in the end of july, i was doing some work over there. and i am clueless, i would like to believe he has a feeling to me but he never introduced me with his friend, never go out together, although he’s ok i post things in his fb wall and give “like” to his sister photos. think it’s best to just have fun and not think about how much he likes you too much. i agreed with him because this concerned me too but in a way i thought we were past that because of the months of talking and texting. we’ve dated, broke up (after like 3 days because he wouldn’t do long distance), and we’ve still managed to be ‘friends’ all this time. since you’re in his group, ease your way into his conversation by laughing a bit at something amusing or saying a small comment about w/e. he said it all has actually caused him to love me even more and strengthen his commitment to me, which he acknowledges might sound strange, but that is the affect it had for him. he didn’t like it at all and only thought of me. and if he doesn’t like me, why keep the conversation for years? after that we never said another word about it and have been hanging out like nothing happened. the fact that he changed his profile means that he still uses the site. he is a very busy with work and school so we hardly had time to see each other often. i also asked him to come to dinner with two different sets of friend and a new years drink with just us when he got back and he said he could do that. he has his faults too but right now i just want to know how i can be happy. there is no shame in publicly searching as a guest when he has or she has already lied or had been interested in emails and winks from people on there once exclusive. the time i met him he was getting past a 7 yr relationship. he suprised me first thing in the morning with an execpected visit, we went to a braves game that we had scheduled a week before and then he invited me to spend the night at his place. the end, i chose to believe him, forgive him, and continue our relationship. but ive never had my first kiss and he’s super duper touchy with me. this past time i saw him was for a three day period time and the whole time he flirted with me. she is now mad at me because she thinks i want to date other people and i am just like the other guys that hurt her. met a guy that’s 39 yearsold on a dating site a couple of months ago. he also said he might eventually want to but as of right now he isn’t sure he would want to. its like he likes me but is trying to forget me but the problem is i cant move on because i like him so much. and he knows i get annoyed by that, i guess in a good way! i thought he’s busy since he just started working., but now i’m rather convinced he has a crush on one of his guy friends. i asked if there was anything missing from our relationship as that would be the only reason why i would go on a site. he’d just not reply/continue the conversation and i just really hate it when people ignore me. he said the only reason he was on it was to try to figure out why they took out of his account. we were going to hang out all day but he told me yesterday that it’s his friend’s birthday on saturday, i mean how do u forget that? but don’t let his imperfections distort the best of you.. i ask for a proper goodbye and he hugs me and hesitates to kiss me……. we held hands and cuddled for a while until he suddenly kissed me. i dont know if hes going out with her but once he told me he doesnt like her and she just an old friend of his. show a slightly different side of you other than the typical “school clothing” you wear.. the other employees to my dismay seemed to know he liked me as they would give me messages and i would just smile. wanted to write you before i did anything to freak him out the way females usually do. a group of native american guys came in who were lo ud and obnoxious and would come in every day and make a dent in the quiet. well anyways he was so thankful and said he would love to see me later and his sister wanted to do somethig. recently, another woman is doing the same thing on his facebook and it makes me wonder if he’s doing the same thing to me yet again. find this hard but i don’t know if i need a break from me or everyone else who near him. are you ok with having sexual relations with one another while your profiles are active? he feels turned off by it somehow, probably because he feels torn. a week later he came round my house watched another film same thing kissing my neck but this time he moved his body and his face so he was moving closer to my lips i guess he wanted to kiss me. and his eyes light up whenever we talk and he never breaks the eye contact between me and him during a conversation ! that moment i realised i really do have feelings for this guy. he talk to his friends all the time more then withme. they’re both in the same college so and both haven’t returned to the site since that day. so here i am, posting a comment, hoping you could give me your opinion and advice on what i'm gonna ask. also he got annoyed when i was talking to his friend earlier. clearly he’s not that into me, but why the manipulation. if not, it’s not your fault he responded this way to you, so don’t blame yourself. week, he asked me to let him know when would be a good day for our raincheck on that dinner, so i texted him and told him my days off, but he completely ignored me, i waited 4-5 days, then sent him a facebook message, and he ignored that. you have to realize that depression will come and go in your life – it can be healthy and useful as long as its not for extended periods of time, because it can make you physically ill.) he calls me babe and he arranges to meet (general, not specific) but i saw him when i went out with friends and he was quiet the next day (texting. i learned relationship are hard all kinds of situation out there are crazy to many rules. he then said that he was going out at that time. please help, i don’t know what to make of all this. what he is doing is abusive and if he is doing this now without even had met, he will be worse in person. he always says things like your perfect and between us it always will be. i’m not sure, it could’ve also been that he lost interest because i’m really shy and i find it hard to hold up a conversation when i am shy. he smiles a lot when i start conversation with him, but he didn't make the conversation long? if you want to know for sure, ask if he'd be interested in going on a date! "he will start creating a romantic fantasy via text that will allow you to feel like you're more romantically connected than he's earned by actually taking you out on dates. neither of us currently are looking to settle down by any means. some will respond well, some may act aloof because they don’t know what to do, or what your intentions are. i reckon this is the key to why some relationships work, some don't, and people exploit people. he didn’t text me anymore, i always had to start a conversation, so i asked him; what do we have together? when he wad trying to talk to me i was lost for words and the othe way around. a few years ago we were at a party and apparently when someone told him that i was interested he got straight in the car to come see me, he is a really lovely guy and not an arrogant horrible boy at all really lovely. i need to know wether to let this go & believe or know that it is bull. like,he would say things like ‘when we get to that point,can we………’. there’s this guy at my work who i began working with closely in a case together.? anyway, sounds like he’s using you if that’s the only time he shows affection is in the bedroom. he then ignored me and only talked to the girl on the other side of him, but he kept taking pictures of me. if he talks to you about other girls, or a relationship with a girl, casually and comfortably, that’s a likely sign he’s not into you (in a romantic sense, at least). perhaps it’s also because they don’t look at you in a very sexual way, that they consider you like a sister and not a romantic partner. he’s not affectionate as in, he calls me by name, hardly suggests an outing or plans our visits doesn’t say i love u or i miss u, hardly uses any endearment on me, am i missing something? he even has this special tone of voice for me that i love. he loves to spend time with me all the time and his cousin who is his friend is also my bff. days pass and he comes to our office 2 or 3 times a month but i don’t see him. online dating was an avenue i hadn’t tried and i was curious!, but he may be trying to play the same game you are, you know the game, it’s called “i’m crazy about you but i don’t want you to know unless i am 100% sure you are just as crazy about me as i am about you, and even then i probably still won’t want you to notice me checking you out. so i go missing from group outings, lunches, teas, chats etc. he said that might get her upset and leads to divorce and he is not financially ready for it. eric, i hope you have time for this, you are a guy so you need to help me. tell me, am i just being used until something better comes along? i want to be with you if you want a relationship with me, i don’t want to be with you if you’re only deleting it to have sex with me and he goes “of course not” and i said the whole match thing adds a lot of confusion to me. he said he had in the past gone from one serious relationship to another and wants to see what dating around is like. it puts you out there he’ll know exactly how you feel. guy that i work with had a crush on me for a few months and i had a crush on him too i just didn’t know he was into me like that. so please give me some advice in what you might think he wants. finally asked him and he didn’t say yes and he didn’t say no he just said he wasn’t looking to be in a relationship. that i want to have a social life and go out with my friends and i should be a full time mother and not a part time mother. your guy friends are saying, “yes, it’s obvious he likes you,” then you clearly need to take their word for it. get rid asap, your worth more and are better than he is, ,you will find some one soon who does deserve you ! 3 years ago this is a quick roundup of goings on between me and an older man at work. it could be that the navy is causing him alot of problems and thats why he wants to leave, his not happy for some reason? i was kind of shocked and happy at the same time. he is staying and he is now going to be my boss! we been back together for 3 months now and things still the same. he would have to practice more restraint with that if he dated you, and who knows how successful that would be. luckily i was in the same form as hi’m i started to look at him and tried grabbing his attention to me but that didn’t work so in year 8 now i went to my cousins house and i met his neighbour and i got his phone number of her and she gave it to me but now he says to give him sweets so i do but then today he said that why did i get his number and that i am a big liar because i used to say that i will bring him sweets but not everyday so today he said that he doesn’t like me but i truely still know that he does because he still looks at me. and one more thing: don’t mess around with another woman’s husband, which is what he is until the divorce is final. i am up front with what i want and i even have accepted the new moto no sex before commitment. i feel like i’m just being paraniod a lot but at the same time i feel like the only time he wants to see me is when he’s alone. he opened an email and my friends said he was online within 24 hours. lots of dates, exchange of christmas gifts, meeting family and a lot of his friends. nov to jan, we went on a date once every 3 weeks, always having the time of our lives.. he has gone from asking me to move in to changing his mind.”(his tone was really different) and after that sentence there was a really awkward silence. that he would go to the place we had dinner at on monday since it was ‘so so good’. his grades were really dropping and he was faced with the fact that he could fail if he doesn’t bring his grades up soon. so i asked him if he was saying all these because1- he cares about me and my child? i felt if he was into me then he would without asking him to. i think you getting your profile down and then asking him where he sees things going is the best thing to do. the responsible party is the man or woman who has to open those emails to stroke their ego or satisfy what they think is a harmless curiosity. i gave myself to him at the age of 22, it was on 25th dec 2014 when i last my virginity to this guy, my aim was to have a baby with him but god didn’t allowed it but to my suprised the guy is not like the one i need before; he hardly call, it has been four months now without hearing his voice n don’t even wanna call him cuz i am heart broken. if not, those things will follow you into any relationship and will rear its ugly head eventually – destroying you and others in the process. i really need help to konw if he likes me or not. while i agreed to casual & laid back – and only cos he said he’s just come out of a relationship & doesn’t want something full on (and i have too but i am ready) i did not saying anything about the seeing other ppl business. could use some advice when it comes to dating guys. he sometimes glances over at me at lunch time for about 3 seconds and then i catch him staring at me and a few seconds later he turns his head the other way and starts talking to his friends. you have already acknowledged that something is “wrong” anyway – which was the first big step, so now it may be time for the next step. before i proceed let me give you a bit of a background i had broken up with my ex 2 days before xmas since he had been mia for 2 months which drove me insane. it has been another 2 weeks after that conversation and his profile is still active. but anyway… don’t text or call him, make him put in the effort, if he does he really wants to get to know you he will put the effort in; if he doesn’t however you are likely being used as an online ego boost. would then suggest that if things are still going well between the two of you in a few weeks that you let him know that you would like to be girlfriend/boyfriend and see what his response is. i’m not staff though – i’m just a random guy that had a terrible crush on a girl at work that somehow led me to this article lol..i thought this would be it be cause i always felt there was an attraction there . bella – well if he’s responding more, then that’s a good sign i think. frankly, don’t care for it for a multitude of reasons but it has been a good vehicle in which i have met some terrific people. if we are “exclusive” (without titles that express commitment), than why the need to continue prospecting? i told him again that it makes me feel as though i can’t trust him if his profile is still visible because that means he is still single. but if i didn’t get answer it didn’t bug me i’d msged him if i thought of something funny or something he’d like.

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i see him in person and he treats me great and like everything is completely wonderful. he’ll call her to hear her voice because text messaging doesn’t let him feel like he’s really connecting. guy told me he liked me the other day and j told him that i may like him too! then it goes to no texting at all, we still are civil to one another at work, to him eventally texting me about something, tv shows movies, songs or just any kind of convo just to see if i will respond. i mean i just met the guy, who am i to say that he cant. if she’s interested but just nervous, it could be the same for a guy too. doesnt seem like he is committing to the relationship or caring about my feeling the past few days. i feel like he is doing me a favour by spending time with me. similar story met a guy online 2 months ago we meet once a week on the. we talked a bit we’ve both had recent tragedies and it seems he has a lot going on too but suggested maybe our daughter’s could hang out. he said he wanted to meet but he was working late. the rest is not a priority…and this guy used you because you gave him everything without putting up boundaries that would make him want to take you off the market. well he kept telling me i need to start going out and meet a nice guy. 3 years ago and he says gn before he cuts off. if you’re having sex with him on these weekly, every 3-week hangouts, he may just be using you. is a guy i like i’m about 4 years older than him and we’ve worked together for a few yars but i’ve always felt he was too young but he’s of age now and i’m really crushing on him, he’s a more reserved person but these past few months he’s really opened up but not to me, i’m really shy but i will talk to someone who talks to me and i do try to start conversations but he doesn’t seem to want to talk to me, he will talk up a storm around these older women when i’m around and i’m never included he never says more to me than hello and see ya later or general work related questions. if he’s not into you, he won’t be “around. i love this guy but i don’t like the way he is treating me. then, he has been trying to sleep with my with no strings attached and even today he told me he misses me and wants me, but still sees people that he met on the site, but i am the only one he really likes… sure…. if that doesn’t explain enough, i texted him once and he didn’t respond. he kissed me and looked at me for a second and said, “hell no! had not been looking at emails that came from his dating site, let along responding to them. then we say each other pretty much 1-3 times a week.’m still very interested to hear your thoughts and advice. now, all of a sudden, he has backed off a little and says he has a lot on his mind. this guy who actually admitted to me that he have been sending off clues that he actually likes me . then suddenly over winter break, they gave him my number and he texted me asking who was i, and with friendly texts and smiley faces. they'll say, 'i really want to have a great relationship. scared if he gets a job and his ex needs him he might dump ? most guys, unfortunately, are there to find sex, and if lucky a lifelong partner. he may have secretly been hoping for a commitment from you after having this conversation and when that didn’t happen he’s now not sure the relationship is going where he had hoped it would. i dont know what to do because it just went from being really close and talking all the time and flirting to hardly any interaction what so ever and i dont know whether i should contact him first or what all i want to do is talk to him and see if hes out at the weekend but im just worried hes rejecting me! things are well, but i’m still struggling with it all. although there were times i felt overwhelmed by things moving so quickly i went with it because he made me feel so special and i thought he was so special. i assumed he got cold feet and freaked out about the ‘exclusivity’ talk we had. not a chance because i have a business relationship with him as well and he has to run into me in the neighborhood. – sure, he definitely has feelings towards you, in my opinion. you tried to fix it by telling him how you feel about him and you have left the ball in his court. just be you, and work on some things to make a better you. you are 12 or 13 that’s is the most awkward point in life. sometimes i see him staring at me but once i see him i look away… i really like him but i don’t know if he likes me still! dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? and one day he huged me we almost kissed,, as soon as i got on the bus he txt me saying that i should of kissed him , he calls me boo , bae , babe , when we are not in a relationship… he asked me bae send me a sexy picture please i told him no i aint like that txt some other girl that does that stuff he said no that hes good that he was testing me and thats good im not like that because he doesnt want a girl like that sending dirty pics , please helppppp meee please ,, does this mean he likes me 🙁., let’s give this a shot, there’s this guy, and i am in love with him, and i know a lot of girls my age say that and in a month they’re over the guy, but i’ve liked him for so long that i just can’t stand this anymore. he’s white and im black,im 18 and he’s 23! we currently have no classes together this semester and it would be very unlikely for me to bump into him as the school is quite large. know it is difficult to address this issue but i do worry that if you don’t, in the long run your daughter could be hurt more, not less. then today he calls me like nothing’s wrong and when he could tell i was uneasy talking to him he made a big fuss and said ‘well i can tell you’re in a bad mood so bye. first he calls me bitch all the time and only calls me to have sex and then leaves, but then at other times we secretly see each other at a party and actually hang out. here’s the deal: 4 years is plenty of time for both of you to know if you want to marry each other. this has been going on for three years and he’s always had these short term girlfriends that he meets at his gym or the club. he told me that he thinks she likes him and that she knows he is dating me and that this is why he didn’t want a relationship. if he doesn’t message you in a few days, send a nice hey or what up, then see if he responds if not i would suggest moving on. he said that he had taken his match account down, and i believed him. and no i never asked him to say i love you, he knows i don’t believe in it at this age either, yet he said it just out of the blues. i got my revenge though and set him up by using a friend’s profile to catch a great big rat (and even though it was me he was writing to he still lied and lied and lied) and i caught him out big time. first time we met was about a month ago, our mutual friend was the one who introduced us. i had told him that i wouldn’t mind seeing him again but january was a really packed month for me, even worst than december had been (the month when we were trying to work out a day). also, when ever i'm at his job i notice his coworkers watching me or i'll see them slyly try to point him in my direction. whenever i ask him whether he likes me not he keeps on saying no n he acts likes he really likes me and then one day we had a fight about this i started cutting in front of him and he seemed to be very worried he keeps on asking my best friend about me but he told my bestie that he doesn’t like me but act like he does…. he'll take you out to concerts, he'll take you out to restaurants, he won't be pressuring you for sex, he'll keep trying to get to know you. really like him and i know hhe really likes me but my friends say play-hard-to-get. don’t come off needy, just be honest about some of the positive feelings and experiences you’ve had with him thus far. he texted me later that night, he asked if i was still alive. i brought up the online thing & he said he was emailing 2 girls – ‘nothing interesting’. he says he loves me and wants to be with me still, but he changed. he is affectionate and kind, all the traits i was looking for. i then asked if he was still on the dating site and he said yes. in the beginning of the year we would still be talking all the time but once he turned 18 he completely changed with me, he stopped talking to and acknowledging me. do yourself a favor hazel – and own where you are at. on the way back, his bff asked me if to drop me home or if i’m staying over by my bff’s house. she is also very funny and i know she likes him. however, i do worry that the next time he tries dating someone else he might find himself interested in her and then you’ll find yourself alone. he wouldn’t make out with me that night – he said ‘i don’t want your friends to think i only come over for one thing’. let’s just say that hypothetically speaking another attractive women sent him a message to his profile. you didn’t do anything wrong, it’s his isues he needs to work out. to me that this guy is being honest with you, he is a true gent. i’ve met his family and friends, he takes me out everywhere and even wants to book time off with me. most of the time, i just simply brush them off and ignore them, but all of a sudden, he just became… cold. he said that he wants to continue dating me and that he wants to work on things. i apologised for my amnesia and told him i’d be hanging out with a friend at a pub after work and if he dropped by i could get him a drink to make up. he's showing a lot of the signs guys use when they're interested, but like i said i've been burnt before and besides that the sexual tension is really picking up..well he glances at me and i look down because i’m afraid that he might scowl at me but i try my best to run because my body language gave it all away and i saw him today and he walked the other way far from usual. last summer i gave him my phone number so he could send me a picture. i took my profile down and never asked him if he did or not. during the process i did get the little ‘addiction’ niggle. i felt so bad, i said i was sorry but now he doesn’t seem like he likes me or has time to text me. we are so happy together but its always very hot or very cold. the fact that he won’t allow you to post pictures of the two of you together but then has photos with his “online girlfriend” is particularly troubling. when i textd him my bbm pin and he never textd back or even invited me on bbm it hurt me real bad. the hole time i was talking to the guy that liked me bobby was making faces behind him cause he knew about it and i was like shut up bobby playfully and he laughed. have the same story as above, i started dating this guy a month ago. i recently met a man i like very much – we met for drinks/appetizers, had a great time, lots of laughter and connection, nice goodnight kiss as well. you brad we had a talk and it turns out he doesnt go on it and didn’t realise he had left it, he didnt think it was an issue. i would be as kind as possible if you decide to have this talk with her: you’re not trying to punish/reprimand her, just letting her know where you stand.. i guess cos he doesnt want to be too attached? so i had nothing to lose and asked him if he liked me & he said yes i like you. at first he was pretty aggressive and i told him i wanted to take things slow. (this is because my 20 yr old is here still and this way we can have alone time. he then came to an ugly sweater party with me in december as well as two other parties where he even came and met my family. but, that doesn’t mean you can’t flirt some…remember, you are the one who sets the rules on what a guy can and cannot do with/to you. naturally, he’s been furious with me during these times, but he’s also forgiven me and told me that that’s a separate problem we have to work on. i cooked something at the party but i cooked really bad. i don’t know if he’s been online or not but should i be worried? then, one day, out of the blue i decided to see if he was still using the dating site and he was online and chatting with girls. women that are physically attractive, a great listener, a great personality, intelligent, funny, successful, financially stable, morally upright, clean mouth, nurturing, can laugh at themselves without looking immature, are the kind of women that men would desperately want to marry (or run away from because they feel unworthy). on the other hand, i feel like i’m getting mixed signals re. he was always texting me, calling me beautiful and said that i would give him butterflies whenever i would talk to him. we had a look and he has changed his profile to looking for women for friends. he also said that i should know that if he had a chance to get online, he would have texted me as he always does. how do i let what would normally be a wonderful relationship (if it were not for his dating profile) progress, or how do i let it go? he was done kissing me it lasted like half hour he asked if he could check his facebook i sed ok and he was messaging the same girl flirting and everything. that aside we normally go out at least once a month or every other month. he wanted to take it slow get to no each other more, i agreed because i thought it was a good idea to. and also tell him – every body is responsible for there own actions in life , and not to hold you to blame for his fu”k ups! up for ourfree newsletterand get a free chapterof our book,"he's notthat complicated". i really like this guy and he’s in my homeroom and a lot of my classes at school. i kept blaming myself thinking i did something wrong but turns out he was talking to the other girl. they don’t get angry when i talk to them. i had asked him about this issue a few times and each time he just informs me that he is not cheating on me or dating anyone else. to me, it sounds like another guy who isn’t necessarily cheating but is struggling to commit.. became your boyfriend because he is only interested in getting close to your friend. however, about a month ago, something about him changed ever so slightly. sometimes, if i wanna talk to him on the phone, i have to ask him. i don’t know of anybody who would let someone follow their every move, so it must be heading towards something serious… what do you think? either way, it’ll give you good practice talking with guys you like and are nervous around, instead of practicing letting fear be a giant obstacle. telling a man no sex until committment may make them move on pretty quickly if they don’t value you. i tried to tell him but whenever i openned my mouth crap just came out and it didn’t even make sence. off work and saw him walking down the street once. the conversations changed and he would tell me he liked me a lot, we’d kiss and flirt, but he didn’t want to make it official yet, especially because he’ll be going overseas for a month in december. feel your confusion, and i’m going to follow the same advice i gave you if i still have these feelings for him probably in a month or so. i think the relationship took its course but i still miss his company and wonder if we were too caught up in work and missed our chance. i thought wow he really is an honest guy, what a catch! he may like you, he may love you, he may be into you but…. i found he was still on there, not just on there, but online now and he had added a new picture with a shirt that i got for him for christmas. are there guys that such a statement is true for? anyways we kissed and cuddled till 2am and it was so romantic and sweet the i put my head on his chest and we then made out. and we were just texting but then he called me and we talked for almost 4 hours on the phone. his laugh, smile, eyes and humor everything about him makes me blush. when we are in chat session he is always being nice even we exchanging presents. or he’ll be like ooh she always gets mad for everything and she wants to be with me 24/7 and he’s like come on i need my space but i told him that’s your girlfriend your supposed to spend time with her and he said no so i changed the subject i have asked him if he dad had any feelings for me and one time he said he liked me in a way but the last time i asked him he said not yet. i know this because my guy friend danilo was talking to me and he said that he was talking to roberto and danlo asked him if he’d ever go out with me and roberto said “i don’t think she likes me though” so what do i do? and not long after that i felt that he changed. then for the next two weeks we texted each other almost everyday and flirted. i once again bring it up because i’m hurt and he proceeds to say he honestly thought it was nothing and had deleted the app and proceeded to even cancel his subscription in front of me. we also slept with each other…yes i know it probably wasn’t smart to have sex on the first date, but after talking to each other that much, i think we both just went with the flow. i mean, when is the point where he would take his profile down? he suggested calling round and i figured i felt safe with him and he suggested we might talk about some political topic (we have common interests and values). men usually keep a tight hold on how interested in they become until they have seen what a girl looks like and whether they "click. also, you could enlist some help, maybe his family, best friends, professional counselors, etc.' first-date trick (known as her "heartache prevention question") is simply to ask him, point blank, if he believes in x (x being your ultimate dream and goal, be it monogamy, marriage, having a family, or running away to join the circus). everytime i say something he get all mad like i did something wrong. time alone with your thoughts, to reflect…you know, like quiet time. then i can still look online and see that he is on those sites almost everyday. i wish you the best of luck – whether he changes his mind or not! i will add that he texted me at the end of our first date to say he had a great time and proceeded to text me everyday after that. she also posted a pick of him kissing her cheek. i would always check for messages, or leave ones, but got short responses. the 2nd time i had a little too many and it got a little too late and we ended up going back to his place and well you can guess what happened. he’s really nice out of school but in school i’m not that popular so he doesn’t talk to me as much and when i say to him let’s hang out or do something he doesn’t want anyone to know. asked him where he was but we couldn’t seem to find each other. i’ve been trough a couple of these maddening situation and somehow i got to this conclusion! we went on a road trip together, he paid for everything, went to the beach got a really nice room.” he told me i was being needy but that he wanted to continue seeing me, but not be exclusive. in fact, he will only be friendly to you when you're not trying to be closer to him because he doesn't want you or anyone chasing him, but he doesn't want to hurt you, either, so he isn't saying this. but literally as soon as he gets a text, he tells me to hold on so he can go text her back. 3 weeks of talking he came to visit me for the weekend, and there was no nervous or uncomfortable feeling between us, just really had an amazing time. i am not asking for a commitment or exclusivity but when he knows how much it’s hurting me why is he not turning it off? the last conversation we had he got mad because i said i had giving half of my life to helping him and being there for him and he still dare say i wasn’t committed enough to help him succeed. flirt with him, and when you do, touch him on the arm, chest, or back. he asked me to be patient with him and i have.’ve checked and he’s not been online since i mentioned it so hopefully it’s made him think. except that he also works in a gym and used to study culinary. month 4, i told him i was really enjoying getting to know him, and that my feelings for him were growing in a way i had not expected, and realized that i had reached a point where i would like to include him more into my life and allow him to meet my children (they are teenagers now). so i msged him and said hey id like to talk with you when you get back. i just recently noticed his phone is always on silent and he became friends with an ex girlfriend on fb., my boifriend and i have been going out for a year now, the first time i saw him was at a friends howse. but my friend asked me if i was still going out yet that night, more then once. said, if you’ve only been dating for 4 or 5 weeks, i think i’d recommend you just be patient for a while longer. so i know he is not in it for the sex. there’s so much i want to say, but i want to keep this simple…you need to figure out how to move in a positive direction or else this will destroy you. why do you do that, when you know he’s not into you? a guy checking his dating profile isn’t always a sign that he’s unhappy and based on your agreement i guess it’s fine for him to do so. be with him so it is a matter of timing when it happens, just there are times when i have doubts and i don’t think he gets it because men don’t think as women do. 3 years ago from usain my opinion, it means you should lose his number! then a few days later he once again “ignored” a text. it’s not always the case, but you need to be somewhat objective about this guy and listen to your family’s opinions, especially if there’s more than one person in your family that dislikes him. to get to the point here just like many of these other stories i felt something was off with him, i wasn’t getting the morning texts anymore. and the other day i think one of his friends took his phone because he started the conversation differently and then later it seemed like it was him but he ended it about 10 minutes in. not every woman needs these tips, and not every woman is looking for a lasting, long-term relationship. i try and not let these things effect me but of course they do from time to time, my friends are always telling me i need someone who is going to be there for me…a superman…and yes this guy has understood things, told me i could talk to him, however recently their was another family episode and my guy wanted “a break” ok. he joined two years after i did and we started out with casual conversation and then i noticed that he made it a point to stop by my desk every day to chat about nothing in particular. i m not his girlie he could like other pics but i wonder why he keeps waiting for me. then he told me that he wasn’t home that he was in niagara falls. but then he’d said he be home sunday or monday. we are 4 months into the relationship and he still says he’s scared of commitment.. so i have been dating this guy b for three months. he was staring on n on in the workplace(after d training period), speaking loud to othersseekibg attention of mine which all made me go more crazy…. i have checked a few times by searching users on pof and each time i see his profile it says he has been on that day. we held hands on the way to his house and made out…. we hung out a few days later went to his place and watched movies, and made out. he may just like talking/joking with you because he’s comfortable with you. then the week starts again and he starts doing the same stuff again. you did the right thing and you honestly deserve better someone who will treat you with respect with words and actions. i always initiated it but he always kept the conversation going. to recognize whether he is interested in youupdated on june 17, 2016. e shows me other girls on his phone in scantily outfits and ask questions like ” why would anyone dress like this? have always been marture for my age, and he’s not, and it’s really annoying. so does he love me or is he just saying that 4 letter word to me just to say it. it sounds like after having sex on the 3rd date that you tried to establish some boundaries, but he didn’t like it. first, the idea that you calling his phone or texting him would drain his phone battery is a lie, although i imagine he’s going to use that event if pressed on why he’s not talking to you. he also said he has friends he talks to but no one that he is seeing or dating. need help i’m 14 and i’m in love with a 19 year old. he would take a little longer to text back, would tell me he will text me later then not until the next day, yet before he would state that and text me throughout the day several times a day for hrs. brother got a call from his cousin who can’t stand stand me. he and i both feel that we’ve known each others for years. you’re not in a committed relationship with him, what did he do wrong? what would be your advise for me going forward if he tries to make eye contact? you enjoy each others’ company, enjoy the same things and over the next month or so you start to date more seriously. we saw each other at least once on the weekend and would text, email, im and phone throughout the week. i’m headed to a wedding across country and he’s not happy with the fact that i have a date. in the end, i took the plunge, i somehow told him i liked him and told me that he was just friendly and he meant nothing at all. both of us are married and i have a child and he doesn’t. if a woman continued intereacting with men she was meeting online, the man she’d been planning a future with wouldn’t dismiss it as innocent. there was this time that we ran into each other i saw him first (so i was looking at him while he’s coming towards me) and when he sees me he smiled and said something i didn’t really understand but i smiled back. i think that no matter where things actually stand, if you start to worry/stress about things, he’s going to pick up on that and it won’t make things any better. as a matter of fact, making an issue of things at this point could create a problem when no problem previously existed. after i posted my previous concerns, my man and i went out to dinner and after that i asked him how he feel about us being exclusive and he hugged me and was silent for a minute then he said yes. is this guy i have known since my childhood, he start dating me when i was 18yrs and he have never asked anything apart from kisses. at school the next day he didn’t say anything to me so i just let it go. week three we went out and he said the big “l” word to me. i rarely see him because he lives a few hours away (we met through a mutual friend at a party).” doesn’t have to be confrontational, just you getting clarification on where he’s at. he asked for my msn and said he is getting on with me shockingly well………. he got her number, they had a charming conversation, she texts him and…. maybe–just maybe–he’s tired of your manic mood swings. you so much for explaining, and yeah you’re right he mentioned before when we first talked he was in love with his ex and they just broke up a year before we started talking so maybe he’s still not ready . when we saw eachother in school this year we had almost every class together. it’s the fact that one way or another, they always just seem to be acting that way around her. help 3 years ago i have been a year alone and cannot find a decent man after my break up. if so pluck up the courage and ask him out……… this guy likes you alot and your backing off for some reason……. i was upset that he waited a month to tell me what was on his mind. last week we went out for meal, he came back to mine, we slept together again, he went home that nite, he txt me as usual to say he got home, we said it was a lovely nite and then good nite to one another. he tells me he really likes me and loves hanging out with me. i don’t want to tell him i know about the profile because even if he appologises and deletes it. i have two classes with this one guy and i think he is really cute. later in the week he asks if i had any cancellations and i told him i hadn’t. are you saying that whenever he approached you, you would turn your back on him? every time i would tell him how he made me feel with a comment that was funny to him, he would call me dramatic. but he still seems very interested when we see each other. if he doesn’t have an interest in talking to you, it’s pretty much a given that he’s not interested. [i mean, it doesn’t hurt to look around my surroundings more right? i’m sick of this cycle whenever i show interest in a guy he backs away. he actually held the elevator doors for me and i did not realized that it was him until i got closer. if i trust her the way i should then i need not to worry. i told him i have never asked a person to meet my family before and i don’t want to pressure him. why would he love another girl and be sticking to me and kissing me up, even kissing my forehead before we sleep. i know i should not act angry or over-reacting, but can't help it. he got a little mad when i mentioned about him just wanting one thing. think, just maybe, he ignores you because he doesn’t want anyone to know he likes you. they can really be interested attracted and maybe likes the girl but don't have the guts to make the move or he just wants to get to know her better first for any other reason. my confusion is that he’s never dated so i don’t know if he’s just not sure how to ask me out or if he’s even interested in me or if he’s worried about ruining a friendship. i can recommend is that you ask him directly, you won’t know otherwise and do this by yourself… worse comes to worst there’ll be some awkwardness. he’s very academically focused and because i notice he’s working and trying to concentrate i don’t try to push for conversation. he kept me in the loop of events for the following days until he finally left for turkey, and we spoke before he actually got on the plane. now i fell in love with him and i asked him if he likes me and he says he always had but it wouldn’t work now because of the girl. we were out for 10+ hours and he was telling me he hasn’t been out in a while or on a real date in almost 5 years. we became friends very quickly, and he soon started walking with me in between classes., i thought i was the only one in this situation. it’s almost like the allure that a casino has…you might win big but something make you want to stick around and try a little longer. or he could tell me that he isn’t ready for a serious relationship. forward to today……the last month and a half, we have been spending a lot more time together…. in looking back, he never specifically agreed to be exclusive – i made that assumption that since we talked about it, and then continued to see each other, then that was the agreement. i’m not sure what’s going on in your life, but work on improving your mental/physical health first – live outwardly and don’t focus inwardly so much (easier said than done). who knows what all the issues are, but i don’t think past relationships with women have been as big of factor as he believes. this is where i see a lot of girls get confused., forgot to mention, i go over to his place a lot and everytime i leave, he begs me to stay and says he hates that i have to leave. this is where strict boundaries can help identify if he cherishes you as a person, or just a hangout buddy that has some physical benefits. i never tried to figure out what his behavior “meant” cause at the end of the day i didn’t care that much. i want him back as i do still love him and cant just cut my feelings off from him, what would you advise me to do ? i was going up the escalator to the 2nd floor with my friends because they were wanting to order some smoothies, i look down at the cafeteria, we were sitting and eating lunch at the school and i see him staring at me as i leave the area. i get that you can view profiles for free… but my thing is that if a person is into you seeing you more than once a week – nine times out of ten you have nothing to worry about… dating more than one person is not something most guys are good at and let’s face it… it is too damn expensive. through our the next year we see each other 3 more times dispute being in other states….’m not sure why he asked you that…he could easily keep it all to himself..and i am so proud with him because he hardwork to pay his school,,, slowly but surely i feel he likes me because when i hangout with my friend i always beside him,,,but now he has a girlfriend,,i am so confuse with my self sometimes i feel jealous sometimes not,,,and since he has girlfriend he never beside me again…. however, recently i tried to start a convo with him and replied me and we talked as though nothing ha happened. a little later on in the week we started watching another film this time he wrapped his arm under and around my waist and held my hand and my neck was exposed and i felt him gently kiss it it felt really good so i just let him do his thing same thing for the next month or two. was even stranger than the question, but again passed it off as a friendly co-worker. few days ago she offerered to help her friend with her match profile. have been seeing a man i met online for almost a year now. so me n my man have been together for 5 yrs. when your ready and after you have dealt with the pain of rejection, and you are ready to be friends with this guy you will know when the time comes. is guy who talks to me on social networking site everyday. we always have good conversation, and he would hug me for almost one hour after sex. we talk during the process of fixing issues and the conversation sometimes turns flirtatious. then we did not speak for 8 weeks, i sent him a fb post wishing him a happy easter then got a reply 3 days later so i messaged him just being friendly asking how he was, he message back surprisingly and then i asked about the gym and yeah would say things like awww so proud of you babe. guy from my last school texted me on facebook about a year after i had left that school. him all along, he wasn’t following me or looking for me across the room or anything that i was doing for him but was still nice. he began texting numerous other women, and even had a one night stand with a younger woman while he was out of town. 2-3 weeks ago, i began crushing on o because of the moments we have had lately. i wish i would know whats goin trough his mind, today he told me he loves me cause i help him alotttt in work. i want to know if he feels the way i do, like if he is starting to love me… and if that’s the reason he is trying keep a little bit of more distance from me. there are scores of women who are going through the same thing too, your’e not alone…and neither is he. the next day i asked him was anything wrong he said yeah he just can’t forget about what happened between us that caused him to leave his job. a completely unrelated note i’ll be travelling europe for awhile starting next month and if you need a good looking guy to treat you with respect from the states, you let me know! now he said he misses her because she has the same hobbies and she’s perfect outdoor sports woman like him (but i’m not so good at them). met a guy online from okc in january 2014, i was evicted 6 weeks afterwards for violating my lease after letting family members stay with me. i have been dating this guy for 3 years now and he has helped me through everything. sounds like you developed a deep connection with him already, which is why you might be a little tense about him chatting up his ex, and other girls he knows. he was suddenly not wanting me to meet his friends.. he didnt say stuff like eww this gay guy liked me. i am not checking up on him anymore cos that upsets me. that's something that happens with most of the choices we make. but other times he would just stop buy and lean on my counter for 15 to 20 minutes. he said he was trying to hide his but couldnt do it on his phone but when he gets a laptop he will do it, i said ill hide mine too. we don’t want to judge others, but without knowing any details you’re left with your own assumptions – such as the obvious – why is he trying to go on dates only 3 months after his wife of 19 years has passed? the only time he tells me he loves me is when i say it first. finally i asked him if he has talked to anyone on the site, and that’s when he got really angry that i don’t trust him. i agree that the sooner someone knows who they're dealing with, the better they can handle things. i’ve seen this with some regularity talking to people over the years and while i can’t say for certain, that might be what’s going on here. i told him i have never asked a person to meet my family before and i don’t want to pressure him. we became best friends but i still secretly liked him. also, her and i were no longer living in the state. he may have a romantic interest that has captured his attention – who knows. he would greet me though when meeting me on the corridors. same thing happened with a friend of mine & her husband. so he finally did late december 2014 and we went out quite a few times. it’s unlikely any good will come of it, and it will very likely cause tension or trouble. page has helped me loose my mind am always thinking the worst about my man…anyway we are not all saints lol buh ey say wen a woman loves she loves for real. but he’s still not showing it & i’m getting really tired and don’t text him anymore till he text me first. have been dating a guy for 5 weeks, been out 12 times w/a couple of overnights. idk why but i kind of got jealous of her! he left me all alone for the night, and went off talking with his friends, etc. just dont talk to him until you’re both mature, and if you still like him, and he likes you, then go for it.. i mean i would really love to talk to him after class all the time but if it doesnt look casual, im kind of afraid you know? i keep telling him that when a man loves a woman he make time for her no matter how busy he is. actually, he kind of chased me online for a week before i gave in and talked to him.? anyway we end the goodbye on some jokes and pull funny faces at each other as i drive off. he might be nervous around you when it’s just the two of you. like this guy and he is very nice to me so i guess he does like me and im not in his category so i feel bad for other people who r not loved also i think we all should give people time to meet them because if we see him or her and we like that person right away their going to think we are desperate thirsty ass people we all have enough time to get to know people all my frineds have a boyfriend or girriend and i was alone but u need to have time to actually know the person. i’m not sure if he likes me or just as a ‘friend’. he was moving the relatiosnhip way to fast wanting to move in etc. i asked him on fb to tell me his hopes and dreams. it’s difficult for a man to see that when you’re giving him all of yourself without a true commitment. he cuddled me beautifully the entire night – it was sweet. he not only read the email but he also viewed my profile. the guy i like (or used to like, still on the fence about it), is my best friend's boyfriend's friend.’ve stopped the drinking bit, tried to clean up my act but i think there’s been too much water under the bridge. his not texting back has gotten so bad that i can literally count the amount of texts he’s sent me today on 1 hand. and sorry you left a bit confused i forgot to mention about his ex. and all i know is that she broke up with him and he was devastated after the break up. when his parents and the other girls were looking around, he and i were completely alone and we found each other staring into each other’s eyes. i deleted mine because i was sick of the in box messages and found someone (him) that i really liked. he even told me the loved how good i am too him as well as comforting me when my grandfather was sick. i am not asking the guy to committ to me and plan weddings and babies. this guy is somewhat wishy-washy, and there are an ocean of possibilities as to what’s going on in his heart and life.? and on top of it we aren’t officially dating or anything and he even asked if we were dating and i put i guess and he put you guess and then i put yeah so that really confused me.. i’ve told him i love him, he has told me he loves me . a text with a friend he hadn’t spoken to in a while, the buddy asked him if he had a girlfriend, and he responded ‘sort of., it may feel like it would be a good thing to get that off your chest to him. in the begining i didnt have a problem with him still being active on the site cus it was early days, i was still on there too. you don’t need to tell him all the feelings you have for him. i immediately drove over to his house, and asked him (not in an angry or confrontational way) if we wanted to date other people. in the meantime, do the same thing with a few other boys. so he started focusing more in school and has refrained from texting me as much. you owe it to yourself–and your daughter–to dump the cheater. my friend asked if i check to see if he had gotten on his profile, so i did, and that sunday night he had been on. after all, if you’re going to be in a lasting relationship with him, you and him will have to hash these things out, communicate, be honest, etc. they’re a great indication of initial interest, but be prepared to dig deeper. when i met him he told me i he only wanted casual dating. he said his intentions were not to hurt me because he really likes me and likes being with me. i feel like i’m just there and he is still looking for something better and it makes me feel bad. responded with “his personality, the fact that he liked me for me and not my looks. after that, i calmed down and tried to talk to him but he ignored me for 3 months even when i apologised.’s funny, a guy in my class used to ignore me, but now listens avidly to every word that i say. put my name in his contacts as “babe* he kept on saying ilove you, but then he said i think of you as a sister! after i tell him how i feel, everything is always awkward the next day..- he also told me very honestly about his past relationships n confessed many things! i do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy:My issue comes with him still having his profile up, and with my curiosity getting the best of me, i check almost everyday just to see when he last logged on – seems to be every few days or so. and he always fetches me and sents me home on our "hang out days". i mean i could be over thinking about it but something doesn’t seem right and i don’t want to wast my time for nothing. just want to know what this guy(i used to talk to) really mean about what he told me. agree with the advice here – especially the timing – and acknowledge that girls tend to overeact in these matters of the heart so maybe we could all do with a bit of advice to slow down a bit. is he trying to drive me crazy this person is a ex friend he told me he did not want anything to do with me when i felt things were moving too quick. as you approach being exclusive, obviously it would be a problem but since you say that’s not where you’re at, i’d leave it be. if you're just looking for sex, then carry on, but if not, how can you tell if a guy is really right for the long-term? the way he looks right into my eyes and holds a gaze makes my heart go crazy., he kept getting real close, i was bagging and he was so close that my hand almost touched his lower back, i had to pull the bag holder closer to me, so i wouldn’t accidentally touch him. 1: attractionprolonged eye contact, frequent smiles, and joking are all signs of attraction, but some people have personalities that include these traits instinctively. been reading all the posts on ‘how to tell if a guy likes you’ especially the ones that include ‘through texting’ since we don’t meet up much and been texting everyday. i messaged a guy on a dating site and we texted for weeks before finally meeting up.. its my first time having a crush on someone and honestly it hurts more than it makes me happy. anyways, he says he misses me too when we don’t talk, and we also live far apart so i don’t even know why i care this much, but i do. i approached him and told him i did not mean to make him feel bad or reject him but i was shy and i did not want us to get in trouble with the manager. there’s no way to get to know each other now, but just enjoy the awkwardness of each other’s presence. keeps saying to me i wont do anything to her and i just dont know anymore everyday i feel like i’m not the person he truely loves like i’m always in the way. he texted me later & said the following: are you ok? come on girls why can`t you tell if a boy`s interested? my story is the exception, but sometimes they do an about-face. he even told me that the first time he saw me he knew he’d marry me one day. so, i was not that distinct among those people but he found me n came to me and thank me . he’d be looking for reasons to talk to you, hang around you longer, etc. he then asked me what am i doing after school. there’s no doubt in my mind she is someone i want to date, be part of my life and take it from there and see where im this goes from there. he calls me every good name in the book, such as “baby”, “my girl”, and the works. would he need space unless the issue is with you? sometimes friends and family can give you great advice on whether your requests are valid. that was fine, i did keep a check to see if hed come on and there was nothing for a few days and now its started again, hes been on and off for the last few days now. that said, given how you two talk i would expect it to be down very soon (within the next week). how many girls he’d been with sexually and not: not many, and if he was dating anyone else: no, and if he was what i like to call a serial dater, dating many at once. he may say, “we should hang out sometime,” without a definite plan. he is shy, but he talks with cute girls and doesn’t talk to me, he sometime looks at me and walks slow when i’m walking behind him…. well i told him that i liked him i gave him my number and so he gave me his, that we started chatting for a week or 2 it started out talking about one another he told me i was beautiful and he wanted to take me on a actual date, but he always said “just in the matter of when” so i gave it time and the next thing i know the text messages get less and less and its less conversation like hey or how are you just little stuff like that than he tells me i am not looking for a relationship i been single for 2 years its my choice so i just told him i wasn’t looking but just wanted a chance, i am i gonna get that atleast and he says ya just the matter of when. he stayed in a hotel and we hung out everyday. he remains curious and i increasingly uncertain of where i stand. we laugh a lot when we're together, and have a lot in common. he goes online every day brad yesterday he was online in the morning and in the evening. it doesn’t have to mean hop onto the next person though. you’re hoping for the version where he’s into you, but might be a little tentative about asking you out. if you want, tell him you don’t want the romance, but you don’t mind coming over to talk and drink coffee…or something like that. he greeted me differently and with smiles and i smiled at him in return. dayan: it sounds like you’re in that time when some guys ditch their friends that are girls because it’s not “cool” to hang around them now.) and he didn’t say hello to me that night when both sets of friends were there but he checked on me a few times during the night and asked me how i was etc. somewhere in the middle of kissing he said he liked me and i was caught off guard and didn't know what to say so i played it off. he pushed in his door and held my face to kiss me. would you be hurt if she did this to you and slyly hooked up with another guy? and then i see him online in skype and in fb for hours. i was thrilled to have found something special and i cancelled all of my future dates as soon as i got home from my date with my (someday-to-be) wife. sounds like he likes female attention, and if he’s not affectionate in public, you should tell him that being somewhat affectionate when out together would be very reassuring. i tried to work up the courage, but i only talked to him a few times. i try to kind of ask, but he always makes me feel so stupid for asking, as i should (and think) i trust him. you need to keep a handle on your feelings – they can cause you to have affections for someone that wouldn’t be a good companion. we both work for the same company, but at different places. he’s not a perfect man, even if god hand selected him for you. i may be wrong but eh this is what i believe is going on based on what you wrote on here . the ultimatum should be something like: “lets get engaged and married within 6 months or breakup”…unless you’re fine living together and never getting married. i talk to him about his change in texting and he just says he wants to focus more on school. this doesn't mean they want to be your boyfriend, though! i mean he did fly out there to go see you after all; you can’t just not take that into account, you know? he was very interested in asking me about my life, my opinions, my family, my experiences and he genuinely seemed to care and to want to listen. i applaud you for trying to draw the line, that’s usually what the guy should do, but this is 21st century western society. i told him to come to my house so we can hang out and he said no i cant im getting my hair cut. was this time when he knew that i was in a certain place and he texted me that he just arrived there. his parents are apparently reaaaaaaaally keen on this idea and so are hers. he he recently told me that he almost fell in love with me but he held back because he didn’t want to disturb me. man who doesn’t want to be with me is a moron..he would pop up everywhere i was at work and seem to flirt with me. guess i’m wondering if he’s interested or not. he said he is so excited to date and see me, and already planned where our date would be. the problem was i spent a lot of time going and talking to her when i should have been working, but some days i was busy and had to work so couldn’t talk to her or ‘be around’ her..) begin to find a way to refocus your mind on other things in your life. i tell him i am very busy through the week and can manage saturday.” the guy i like likes her and she likes him i think. then he started gving me mixed messages he would always tease me for liking our mutal friends who were guys, which i would deny and he even joked about holding my hand . i am not understanding what is that he wants and what am i to him. he is talking to a ton of girls that he isn’t even interested in. you lie to this man and push him away, and then you have the audacity to claim you don’t know what he wants?. and its hard for me to come out because my family and i are religous. i’m friends on facebook with him and sent a message but he never wrote back . if he can’t bring himself to take his profile down no matter how much you talk about it, i think you need to consider keeping your options open as well. later that night i noticed he had taken his profile off and i was very happy. and then in class about a month later my bff for life told me some news that i didnt want to hear. i realize every situation i’ve read is similar but i also know the answers will differ i appreciate any insight you can offer. i find it difficult – impossible – to continue with someone who isn’t sure about me. you can’t bring yourself to be more aggressive about the situation in person, one thing you could try is to also create a profile on the site (if he’s using a free one). i reacted instantly – saying the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results (i was talking of myself) and of course a few other choice words……. haven’t rescheduled, but he keeps bringing up, saying “just let me know when you want that rain check! he may find reason to place himself where he is likely to run into you, such as taking the long route from the soda machine to his workstation if it means passing by your desk. after 3 weeks or so, he backed off completely and shut down. i don’t write the others off by no means but just usually really like just 1. could this be why he doesnt talk to ms face to face because i am intimidating? he likes all my pics on facebook but we dont talk., and yes, i am angry, justifiably, moving preparations are expensive and time consuming. was he just playing around to see “if” he could get me?:( some times we make eye contact for about 10 seconds but then he looks away. if you really hit it off, i’d hope the car situation wouldn’t prevent a relationship from forming. and now he’s making me feel like that again. i’m not sure to do about the boy i like. i wrote him and said he wasnt even worth it and blocked him’. i didn’t respond – later he texts me ‘i’ll come over’…and then again ‘i’ll come over’.. i’ll summarize the positive and negative of what i found:He had not been texting or emailing other women since over a year ago (at least from what i could tell). i’m a cheerleader and i have a major crush on this football player. have weird minds they can go from licking one minuite to not wanting to spend time with you the best thing to do is just to keep trying and maybe ask him whats going on ask him if he is seeing other girls because once you’ve done that even if he says he doesnt have feelings for you you will still feel better because you know whats going on and you won’t be confused anymore. i decided the other day to go on and delete my profile since we’ve declared each other ‘mine’. used to like me but he lost feelings for me but he still single. but now, i think he does not like me anyomore bcuz we seldom talk. this happened to me when i was in school and did the same thing as you are thinking of doing. and i totally noticed he wanted to come to me, but then stepped back because there i sat with my mom and of course only older adults were at my table. it ok for a guy to be interested in more than one girl?” or some,thing like hat and eventually they were like “well if i asked you next year would u go with me” but i don’t know if they were being serious or not so i just sent back “probably. is showing that he loves you because he has lots of trust in you if he actually tells you things that no one else knows about you.. also in all that time he didnt make eye contact, he was looking at the floor all the time, and he is not shy.’m sorry to say this but you’ve probably been friend-zoned, he’s treating you like one of the guys.” i’m very confused, i tried rescheduling and he ignores, but he is the one that brings it up. if you do it without anger, i can’t see how he would object (although i think your anger was appropriate before). i also feel really stupid for ignoring the advice of defining our relationship before he left or at least trying to make it official… what should i do? told me what she would say about not wanting him around me but he would still come. when it hit the three year mark of dating i told my now husband that if we weren’t moving forward i would have to make alternate plans. if we are “monogamous” should we even have these sites up? you do not know after a month of seeing someone if you would like to eliminate the rest to give her a fair shake, recognize that there is something that is not resonating for you and the best course of action is to be direct and tell her. i want to be with someone who is at least sure enough to put all the other girls in the world aside for a moment and give the relationship the attention and respect it deserves – for however long ‘it’ lasts – for whatever ‘it’ is. the reason i reacted that way was because i went on the discovery on instagram and saw a girls photo pop up. i believed him and since we had such a great and easygoing time with each other, i just went with the flow. you realize that 1) it’s a public forum more or less, and you might have embarrassed him; or 2) that things don’t always come across the way you intend in print the way they would if you were talking, face to face? this lead to text silence for a day then a convo in person and i thought he would end it soon. however when i text him my schedule a day ago and suggested a day he still hasn’t gotten back to me. i don’t know if i’m exaggerating but i still feel something different. wait it out, dont text, if you feel the need to text, quickly do something to keep your mind of texting, as you could spoil the relationship if you get cross or angry and say it in a text message, so dont text what ever you do. i even watched 3d porn with him because i thought he was full of crap and that it didn't exist. i seriously don’t know what to do… i need u r help.. so i didnt give a sex even he likes that makes him frustrated because he thinks he spend money going here then i ddnt give any.’s amazing how many men think a particular woman is worth having when the woman herself thinks she’s worth having. a guy will make the time for a girl he’s interested in. however, the more we hung out i got to know him and i started to like him for more than just sex. just tell him that you enjoy spending time together and miss your friendship. i asked him about a 2 months in if he felt that we were spending too much time together to get we’re we were at and he said that he had thought about that to and didn’t know if it was good or bad the amount of time we were seeing each other but he thought we weren’t so things went on as normal. there is this guy that got back in contact with me out of the blue, after a couple of years. after the first week he was asking me to be his girl. so i like this guy very much, we have one class together and he flirts with me a lot. he was in love with another girl, he called her ‘the one’ in 2011, last i asked him about her (jan 22), he said she was perfect. on one hand i am his emotional outlet person but he won’t commit. while we were saying goodbye he asked me out and i agreed. but the stalking aspect and fact that he still goes on about you 30 years later makes me feel that his life screwed up and he sees you as the one that could of been. get into the habit of establishing some boundaries in your relationships to prevent from being used. i ordered a drink but couldn't finish it so he said he would, so i handed him my drink but he just pointed at the drink as in saying 'drink it with me. i was sooo happy that he asked me to hang out when i left that i couldnt believe i didnt just say yes. but he’s afraid that he might have problems with the law lol …. he's going to hopefully be texting you, emailing you, and trying to lock you down for another date. it’s ok i understand it took some courage to ask a girl out. he also pointed out one time that he thinks my friend m likes me. even have a laugh , something fun honesltly, he even sent me some photos on what he’s doing. i am a little upset so a few days i set up a fake profile with photos of another friend he has never met and messaged him.. we’ve been pretty good friends and everyone is saying that he likes me. so i have been interested in this guy on and off for the last year. how am i supposed to trust him when he makes empty promises? you should flirt with him back to let him know that you’re interested in you.? i felt suspicious but right away he said he wanted to do friday or sunday. so, again, not defending him but i prefer his response over a lot of other responses i’ve seen. a few days afterwards i got a text telling me that he got crazy news and that he couldn’t tell me now but would call me after work.!2 days ago i checked to see if he had taken his pof profile down (along with another one i had found several months ago – sexsearch dating site). monday he contacts me and asks to lock in a time and date. it’ll be difficult at first, but it may produce some positive results down the road – and may elevate your mood as well, and it costs nothing financially. there was time when he completely ignored me and my existence.. after a number of weeks i find him around me a lot trying to get my attention and i am doing a great job at not noticing him unless he was talking to me directly. she no longer used the other roommate entrance and decided it was a ok to walk in and chat with him even when i was there all the while shooting me filthy die woman looks. they don’t always tell you what’s true and what’s good. when i look at him its like im looking at the mirror .” ( he’s talking about my profile) so that bothers me since we haven’t had the talk yet. he’s playing games and you are looking for something that is not there…go on with your life and put all of this energy into someone else. he told me he would remove his profile and that he was so sorry he upset me. i asked him why he ignore me for so long and he said because i was mean to him. thought he was not interested in me, as he didnt ask me out again, then i texted him to say, if we couldnt be more than fds, im ok to be friends. god bless you shy – merry christmas and happy new year to you as well 🙂. she is one of the best looking girls in my class. i still think its about respect… and not so much about committment. sure how i stumble across this site but one of my favorite quotes goes ‘never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option. as he brought me home hand in hand, my palm began to sweat and he noticed…and im not the sweating type. so he knows i like him but still he talks to me. met this guy on a dating app, i hadn’t really liked him at first but decided to go on a date with him just to see if we would hit it off and we did, after three dates i had sex with him, and we continued that over a period of to weeks, i then asked him were we stood over the phone, he said he didn’t like labels or did not make commitments easily, i felt like he was feeding me lines and wanted to end it immediately so i told him to make up his mind and call me when he does, he called later and told me he wanted to date me, fast forward a month now , we have been dating,he has introduced me to his stepmother (who he doesnt like) but i havent seen his father (who he has a close relationship with),on the other hand he has met everyone im close to,he is busy at work and i am in school we text a lot and he calls occasionally,he was living at home when i met him and his stepmother basically told him we couldnt have sex under their roof fast forward again i just helped him to move into a new apartment.” but i’m really not sure if he likes me. i just have a feeling that he still loves me. relationship hit bumps with the greatest guy…how do i recover? he had to walk in front of me to get into the game. does anyone have a clue of what he is doing? so you & some of you friends may get the hump but it won`t change my decision & very rarely regret not being interested now of in the future. one of my friends told me that he’s just backing off alittle bit, my other friend told me that he needs time to get use to his job, so i should just ignore the situation and wait until he contact me later. we had the same vibe going for a while, after several months i asked if she wanted to go to a local minor league baseball game with me (i had extra tickets), she was excited and interested, said yes. have to say eric, i really wish you would just go ahead and write a book! he goes out of his way to text me just to say hi, good morning, or see how my day is going. im just stupid still continue talking to him eventhough he seems like he doesnt trust me. jokingly responded “stop stealing my carts” he laughed and said “i just wanna help you”. i had doubts checked his phone and saw that he had raw sex with a women who has a boyfriend., anytime we’ve sat down to talk about these things it always end up as a shouting match.. but you need to confirm if he has feelings for her too. from the beginning i began to notice that he would do random things like try to ask me about my personal life but would act shy by not making eye contact while engaging in conversation with me. there is a compelling reason he is here which he explained to me., and the fact that guys view and treat me as the (and i quote from one guy friend) “cute, innocent, sweet little sister who has to be protected”…. he came to a house party of mine a few months later and was nice to all my friends, said i looked pretty (confusing to me) and then a few months after that at the end of a work function he gave me a long hug as i was leaving (which left me even more confused). but, he makes sure he tells me he does not want to be in a relationship. before i know it we stare into eachother's eyes from across the room and seems like we can't get enough. i don’t know that whether he is interested in me or not. so we kinda clicked really well and probably due to that, we could understand each other's feelings.

Texting and Relationships: Are You Keeping Him Interested or

he gets really defensive when i try and ask what happened between them. but online he’s only messaged me once, and he’s always commenting on this one girl’s statuses, and liking her pictures and she does the same to him. you’re dating, or “seeing,” a guy and it’s been going on for several months, the common warning sign that he’s not really invested is if he doesn’t share his true feelings with you. he said he hates the fact i always have to leave and wishes i could stay at his place all the time. in fact, he has since told me that he is actually glad i went through his phone and handled it the way i did with him (holding him accountable to it, ready to dump his butt, but didn’t attack him like the tasmanian devil). i noticed a change and thought it was sincere but when time went on i was more passive and he was more aggressive, disrespectful, and unsure. i personally dated a guy for 2 and a half years only for him and i to discover i am moving to an entirely different state 650 miles away (am a college student currently living with my parents and felt it was best for my future to go with them for those reasons and more). i know it doesn’t feel “good” to feel them, but keep this short phrase close to your heart: “this too shall pass”. feel that way and that i’m not inadequate but i just can’t help the way i feel. and as i touched on earlier, i do think it’s reasonable to demand respect from these guys.] wells, before i get into any details… i wanted to know if guys [you boys] talk to girls your not interested in. how should i talk to him and get him to talk to me? may be time to talk to each other about what each of you would like to see happen with your friendship. she eventually moved on to other gyms in the area and haven’t seen her since. seemed like the right one but then he stop replying to my emails. the second time we met, we had decided to meet up half ways in a poor little town (we didn’t expect for it to be the way it was) and we had spent the whole day together and did little cute fun things, we pretty much tried to make the best of it and enjoy each others company! stop fooling one another with the notion that we should not have expectations. you resort to asking your pets for guidance, learn these signals that will clue you in about his real interest level. his response was “that the site is for friends, just like facebook” i said him he has got to be kidding because it is a dating site not a friend site and what would he do when girls want to meet him? logic aside, i would ask any reader who has this issue the same thing i asked the woman who contacted me: are the two of you exclusive and have you both made it clear that you are only interested in dating each other?***ladies please,i know this is very hard to understand and comprehend and digest, but plain and simple if you have been in a relationship with a guy and it has been over 2 months or so and he has told you that you are exclusive and that he does not want to be with anyone else, yet he still keeps his profile up even after you have confronted him… plain and simple, the guy is not that into you! it might sink deeper with him, but as long as you said you were sorry, and it was authentic, i don’t think there’s much else for you to do. this required him to travel like 3 hours to visit me where i was at that time…. 2: getting to know each othersome men are interested in scoring with you, but nothing more. very sad to see all the comments on here about the hardships that everyone is experiencing..so why does he waits for me and why does he speaks to me before he goes out?. a bro who will just joke around with him but never sent out caring messages. he had asked me to meet his mom a few months ago, but we had to cancel and it has yet to happen. he has said in the past that he wants a girlfriend but it wasnt directed to me. so much for your feedback 🙂 ~ i just wanted someone else’s opinion. and next time, when he asks you or tell you that he’ll come to you.” if he doesn’t jump on the opportunity, either he’s not ready to date you or he doesn’t want to, because if he’s interested, he’ll already be sensitive to your every nuance, and this one won’t be lost on him. i think i like him but he also does this to other girls (more to me) the thing that is confusing me is i don’t know if he likes me or that’s just his natural behaviour please help. if a man was into you, he wouldn’t dare ever to tell you, “you’re on standby”. i just started working full time and could not show enough income on paper to get another apartment that fast. problem is i don’t know i he like me for sure. because he can repeat ove rand over that he likes you words wont mean nothing its by actions. pm and i got a txt saying sorry quit my job in the morning really stressed out and messed up cant make it…sorry. quizprivacy policyterms of useftc disclosure statementsites we lovecontact usask a guy (dating tips / relationship advice for women): frequently asked questions., but if he wants to keep you he needs to get it together and learn to compromise…or risk losing you. i creeped her (not my finer moment) a little bit and he has know her for a while. he treated me to a nice dinner and everytime he texts saying he’s sorry he didn’t text me earlier but he was just busy…. he goes to this site and changes his status without thinking about his profile text and logs out. do something cute, if he is attentive then he likes you, if he thinks your a idiot then move on… simple! want to know about signs… so i give them signs. he was staring at me as i went to leave and we both kind of walked towards each other, we just had a friendly conversation with a little bit of teasing. then two days later, she completely cut off all communication with me. did you somehow fall into bad lighting when he saw you across the hallway? then if it doesn’t, you could tell him a friend told you that she saw him actively online and you could ask why his profile is still active.. and he told me not to be offended if he doesn’t message me on fb again because he said he is going through some things and is focused on bills and his kid? i thought that was strange because he had told people he had zero interest in me a year before. this guy was texting me many times throughout the day complementing me constantly and maybe feel very special. back from lunch in the office one day i noticed him avoiding my eyes when passing by, which lef to me avoiding his eyes when he was lookig. i was his first, he’s also 2 years younger than me, i’m 18. we really do like each other and he is so amazing. we actually met up about a month ago and got along great and have a lot of fun together. if it’s only been a day or so, give it another day or two, then follow up and see if he’s ok. then he gets an email from an interested woman and he says, “oh wow, i need to update my profile”. not that you can’t find success, but often this approach mentally “locks” us into continuing to pursue a relationship even when it isn’t that great (and there are lots of other reasons to date multiple people in my mind, but i’ll not go over all that again here). would meet me at school to talk and seem to be coming up with reasons to hang out together. did you act the way you think you should have? probably he’s got a lot on his mind or he’s scared or he thinks he just not that into you or actually he isn’t! the online dating profile is tellng me that he is still keeping his options open just incase. you will prolong the process, and hurt yourself more, if you dwell on it.! as a man could you tell me if a man can go from friendship to serious relationship? quite honestly i was not initially attracted to him but as i got to know him, he became very attractive. i asked if he was up for it a week ago and i don’t want to nag.. we are both full time parents and work full time.. she says shes only open to a convo but nothing more than that. when he quickly left to go play basketball with his friends, i felt like he really does hate me..I responded like that bec my friends have been telling me how he is attached to someone to some extent and sending off signs . i think it’s more likely he still wants attention or that he’s lying (unfortunately). the girl said she is going to just back off and is even thinking about defriending him on facebook, because she really likes this guy and has put it all out there that she wants to date him… would love to hear your thoughts on this situation. everything was awesome until we were messaging each other one night, when i told him i liked him. i deleted my profile ages ago, but this afternoon i had a look and he is still using it. the next day, on his birthday i had to see him to do the payments and i was expecting him to literally hide from me. we’ve had this dang conversation at least 4 or more times! xd when i walked into class he had his head down lol. its that simple…women are always just misreading what doesnt need to be over analyzed. our first date was at a party i went and he met me there. so it’s been three weeks now since we agreed to be exclusive but he still have his profile up and checking it. for the past 2, months we continued to text just as much, we talked on the phone a lot less due to our now conflicting schedules, and we saw each other once every 2 weeks give or take a few days. i noticed that he was not his normal self around me. i even do some of those things on a date/ in a relationship, but it doesn’t mean that i’m not interested. then about two months after, i went on the site with my friends user info and searched for him. "if his intentions are sexual, the nature of the conversations will be sexual," says frances. me and this guy liked each other forever until i moved then it got fuzzy and then i wasn’t allowed to date and now i am so we start texting him and we were just having the time of our life getting to know each other again i was so happy but my friend gets a hold of my phone and asked him if he still he still had feelings for me and he text back no not really and so u know i was crushed and i told him i did not ask that and he said it was okay and we don’t text as much any more he doesn’t talk to me the same as before and then months after i saw him at an important event and i saw and acted like i didn’t but then he came nd sat next to me and my family we joked little and then he left and i didn’t speak to him the rest of the night but we kept running into each other but any ways i think he doesn’t like me as much as we liked each other before what should i do. as i discussed above, i would recommend against being aggressive or angry.. he will start to miss our chatting video days or our days when we would share pictures of our visits to places. things had been going wonderfully, we spent a lot of time together, almost every other day, and texting/phone conversations every day. he said it was okay but if i wanted to then he would love for me to. i do like him but i do believe he’s much older than me im 21. the intimacy turned out to be great, especially to him, we had an altercation and stop talking for about two weeks. then i decided to give him a chance because he told me how much he liked me then i realized that i fell in love with his personality.! this happened to me after being in an exclusive relationship for 14 months.. i hang out with groups 2 sometimes and they don’t like the ppl in group 1, but they like me. i didn’t realize that by cancelling an account it just meant that your subscription wouldn’t renew, not that your profile wasn’t still active. i’m confused whether he likes me ornot because he is quite a flirty guy,help. if he gets defensive, angry, changes subject, trivializes it, etc. once that talk is done, i think it’s much easier to get a real feel for how much respect (or lack thereof) a man is showing. now i had a crush on a guy and turmed out to be exactly like me. i checked, and again i was right on the money (i should have read this blog before so i did not do what i did again) i called him out, this time he flat out lied and got verbally abusive. i’ve developed some very strong feelings for him and i feel that i am making the right move in continuing to see him. that or i would just cut him off… the guy i used to see from okc has a new gf supposedly but he is still on there. when you bring up the fact that his profile is up, do you tell him that it bothers you? you are old and wise enough to read the tos and have basic respect. he wants to spend all of his free time with me and i feel that due to the fact that hes new to the city that’s mainly because he doesn’t know a lot of ppl. i was so surprised to hear that because i gave him just a bday card ,nothing else big n special! he didn’t call for new years either, we’re now in different places.’m totally crazy (i think i’m in love…) with my best friend’s twin brother. today comes by and not one text from him all day. his job is stressful right now, but in my mind, if you like someone a minute or two to send a quick hello is not a big deal. and i don’t care how innocent it might be, it still hurts. and when he says he does he never goes threw with the plans. i understand his availability issues because of his work as a nurse, but i’m feeling this sadness and doubt inside me because it has already been almost a week since he last sent me a message. we were very intense the first month seeing each other all the time and every weekend. eventually he moved to another state and i got a divorice . he always joke around so i always take his words as merely joke – so how do i know if he was joking or was being serious? it was one of the best kisses i’ve ever had. we started texting each other a lot but it was always fun and clean. as he was there for some days, he did the following just to me and not to my other girl colleagues as they themselves told me he is so indifferent to them: 1- he came toward me straight and stand by my side and his body completely toward me looking and smiling at me a great deal in front of every one. it’s a good thing because you’re keeping all the wrong guys from hurting you. b 3 years ago i met a guy at work 4 years ago we became quite close after a year now he is leaving he has turned really nasty towards me, acuses me of a lot of untruths. also notice he gets offended if i don’t let him help me with things. it seems like he likes you to a point, but it’s rather unclear if it’s romantic feelings since he retreated…it’s possible that he’s just scared, or just not interested in that way. 3 years ago from usapeeps, it means he hasn't gotten to know you very well!.and has said he doesn't want to keep in touch but acts jealous if he sees me talking to other co workers.! he then texted me & lashed out saying he had had a bad day & that he felt he was being ‘witch-hunted’ & that he had spent money contacting my ‘friend’ & felt he’d been sucked in. he wanted to find out whether i was taken or single by asking me if i was heading off on a holiday with my family when i told i had a vacation. don’t know what he feels–and it really isn’t your concern, as a married woman. so now he’s always on a xbox game forezamotorsport, we’ve played.” and he didn’t even reply after half an hour, when normally it takes him 10 minutes max to reply so i sent “okay, ignore me then”. i asked him and he said that he still was interested in me, yet i just wasn’t sensing that from his side of the conversation. dont talk about his feelings to me or what he is thinking. normally he never smile and wave to me when i wave and say hi to him. he even said he really liked our time and that he cant believe how much he is into me. think that he was mildly interested in you, but not hot, hot, hot for you. true, we did not discuss what sleeping together meant, but i did not think it was necessary to have the same conversation i might have had with a 30-year-old.. i have’nt received a text or message from him in 2 days, it honestly is driving me insane, because i usually am scared of commitment but this is different i want to date this guy he’s basically everything i could ever hope for charming, funny, independent, has a job, very stable mind, close to my age as well just a bit older then i am. most of the stuff i read has said move on but if he comes back with me when we don’t have sex, it doesn’t seem like a booty call. he loves baseball, and me taking him out is different right? but the thing is, is that even though we get a long great, always laugh, him helping me when i need help and being there when i need someone i matter what., that explains why i never lacked for a date when i was single! because i feel like one minute he likes me and the next it seems like he doesn’t want to see me. i felt sick and angry but said nothing… i calmed down and spoke to a friend next day and she was like, u need to say something. i’m assuming you have a good handle on what balance looks like, but it doesn’t hurt to look at your desires and get a sense if they are off base at all (such as coming here). if you’re “his” and he’s “yours”, then you should be treated with more affection, honor, and love. and i hope it goes without saying that when you enter a relationship where you both are only interested in each other, at that point the multiple dating would stop! have absolutely no clue what to do and i hope you can help me.. after the conversation he took me out of the pillow and talked to me like nothing happened. try to pick what feels like the best opportunity to talk about it, not the first opportunity. either way, if he’s interested he’ll be in contact with you. just officially started dating my boyfriend a month ago, but we were like getting to know each other going out having fun for 2 months..s: we were really close friends about talking about suff and we stills but it’s just awkward now and he doesn’t like it when i ignore him or avoid eye contact. he talked to me about the person on the phone and said that she talks too much! injoinbreakupsdivorcecompatibilityastrologypersonality typedatingattracting a matecrushesonline datingdate ideasfriendshipgender and sexualitylovephysical intimacyrelationship advicerelationship problemscheatingabusefightingrelationshipsmarriagelong distance relationshipssingle lifesocial skills & etiquetteconnect with us. she is now mad at me because she thinks i want to date other people and i am just like the other guys that hurt her. he’s interested to a degree, but you’re probably not the only one he’s interested in. i mean he seems like a decent guy and all but i guess i’m just worried. was noticing a few things even when i’d be around his neck of the woods and invite him to join me and my friends he wouldn’t. told me problems and obstacles and financial and legal stuff. but the thing about him is that it was freshman year in high school and he came to my table in english class and he started talking to us then i was the only one that talked to him the most and honestly i started to develop feelings for him. saw each other every weekend and we would stay the night at each others house…i trusted this guy, he made me feel loved by his actions. if he would notice me looking at him he would have a difficult time keeping his legs still. i made sure to take it home with me next time. imagine being at a party with him as your bf, and he was still flirting with all the girls! it’s weird to me because we don’t talk and he just gives me these blank stares like he’s trying to figure me out. they told me that he sounded quite serious but wasnt sure an told me to ask him. the next day, he disappeared and went totally dark on me. i confronted him about it and told him how much it confused me and hurt me, since i thought we were still good, and that he wanted things to work out. so, i decided to man or woman up and message him on facebook, i said “hey t. find someone who makes things easy for you, not hard and stressful. i had been on a few dates from the site, and was just about to lose interest completely when i met him. things were going extremely well and i have never been happier. i don’t know if i should give him more time or move on to find someone who is more committed to me. time i finally felt angry that he couldn’t say to me ‘i am not sure about us’ – respect! the next mornign he had to go to the hospital so i asked if he wanted me to come by. there really needs to be more boundaries regarding dating or else marriage can lose its value. i suppose if she’s just dating you casually, it may be less stressful to think that you might be cheating on her. he used to look at me in the hallway and once he even smiled at me but not anymore. and he said not that i made it seem like he was a monster. at the end of the day, i think everyone needs to make decisions that they feel are best for their own situation. we worked things out and he promised me he would delete it asap. so i ask him what else does he want, he says pu__y and money! leading up to me leaving he has expressed that he’s had dreams of me cheating while i’m away etc. maybe propose he do something instead of just playing games. i kinda already mentioned about this… i dont know how to play it. he got upset and as usual he ignore all my messages. so it’s been a week now and we talk on facebook everyday and he tells me everything and so do i. but this "brotherly love" also confuses me as he seems to stop talking / "don't know what to reply" as he says, when i refer him as my brother. had a huge crush on a guy when i was a sophomore in high school who showed no interest in me whatsoever. the week he came over same thing his arm under and around my waist but he started playing with my hair. he told me he was going away for 2 days for work (this is true), so i took that as a hint not to text because he was busy. have this really big thing for this cute guy but i’m not so shore that he likes me in that way… halp me? know it sounds cliche but i generally love him even though i’m young it’s kept me up crying some nights there’s more parts to the story aswell but this is aleady long enough i guess ? we used to call each other but now as he is in navy, he is not allowed to take phones n not even allowed to log in to net. mind you this was all quick the process of whatever happened. hes called me hun on fb a couple times for all to see but none on hers. can say that when we were on campus he forced me to love him but now i dont know what he is thinking about now……. i have met his family, he has met mine and i have come to love his 2 children ages 6 & 9. the day that my friend hinted around that i liked him, he was in my next period class and was all extra happy to see me. you may want to give it some time, but since you’re not married you don’t owe it to him.’ve found out that we have heaps in common such as music, sport and subjects and other little things. the first time i asked he claimed to answer an email without logging in to a woman who asked him a business related question. and you’re right, maybe there was something that turned him off.. but now that i think of it there is this nice guy, he is a little bit of a stretch to ask because we are just friends but not as like close friends so.. we have never met each other out of the net. guess i’m asking, does he like me or should i give up? between monday and thursday i noticed he was logging in. – if the two of you are using words like “love” and “monogamous”, i think it was totally acceptable for you to bring the topic up. ok, i know my rambling but my question is how do i let him know that i'm interested if i'm too nervous to talk? today i don’t wanna meet him and i hardly call. we have been calling/texting each other about everyday since we met online. that the so called friend that i trusted fully was now dating my crush. i couldn’t, i feel nervous around you when i’m sober. all the flirting continued till sunday night when my bestie put a romantic comedy on in the loungeroom and then said that she was goin to bed. told me multiple times he cares and loves me just hes being childish then i heard his family saying he wants to bring his gf to his house but his family dont want her in the house.. its kinda hard because the situation is long distance relationship. occasionally joke on how we get emails in our personal email accounts saying people are still trying to contact us and we should probably take them down because we feel bad that people are trying to contact us especially when you open an email in your personal account because it shows that you have read the email to the sender even if you haven’t logged on. i believe my boyfriend of 3 years doesn’t love me no more. he had not dated anyone else, and i believe him. avery 2 years ago from hamilton, alabamayou are very welcome, jellygator. maybe, if it’s anything like my situation, and you guys talk about “issues” and fixing them, he could be going through something where his mind isn’t on having a girlfriend/relationship, but he can’t help his attraction for you and it comes through in the conversations with you. i confronted him with it, he did not just blow me off…. i like to stay chill, but it’s hard when the person i deeply like and have put a lot of time into isn’t willing to sacrifice his current dating life while i am. i know i sound like im sticking up for him but he is honestly a great guy and i dont know how seriously i should take the no camming thing, i might just not reply to a message he sends on my skype for a few days and then tell him i cant deal with it if he doesnt cam but i also dont wanna be that girl that is forcing him into a corner to get what she wants. his last email he said he was thankful to me for giving him the kick & the confidence to get back out there. we met up for lunch or dinner sometimes and he had a lot going good for him too. he apologized crying, drunk, i told him apologize when you’re sober. don’t think i’ll ever hear back from him. saw texts between him and his hockey buddies about how he wants to f*% everybody and how we was getting that ‘spring time itch’ really bad. a month is enough time to decide if you want to pursue a relationship further. my best friend didn’t notice anything going on and i felt really bad because after all i’m her best friend and thats her brother. and if you don’t see that tending to happen with this guy, it’s a sign he does not like you. well…i don’t think it’s a *good* thing that he’s still logging in. so i assumed he wasn’t interested, so i started backing off, and as soon as i did, he was like “what’s wrong? 2 years ago great hub but i'm still a little confused. if he’s as great as you make him sound, he probably has other girls in his life that think the same way about him as you do, or perhaps he’s just busy and maybe forgot. i wanted to say hi, but once again i was hessitant. after 6 months of dating, he still introduces me as a friend to people he knows when we go out. everyone and a while i would get on his phone or computer and check. are just my personal thoughts and something i can greatly relate with you on. after everything this guy has done for me…i just don’t get it…commitment issues? its been like 2months together and he is really great guy if i have to be honest and i do have my moments too in annoying him too.. he’d like randomly blurt out that he can match me of what im wearing that day the next day and stuff. those made me think that he is interested in me. asked about this to another guy and he said that “can’t you see? was feeling unsure (trust issues from being cheated on 2 out of 3 boyfriends) and so i created a “fake” profile (something i am not very proud of). however near the end i found it was more me then him. we work together and he is super hot, he’s very friendly with me and others. and i saw of his emails and messages he flirting also other girls in chat which hurts me and he said thats only for friends and he chose me! before he met me up he did mention about moving to another state where his family is. exactly the same thing happened to me with them – and at the time i tried contacting them, but i was ignored. if you feel horrible as you’re doing it, then just stop. 5 days later – screen shots proved he had just been online and active.. he would only say that if i chat with him. so this is kinda driving me insane, and i can’t take it anymore. but the other day i posted in is inbox a lms (like my status) and since then hes been really weird and egnoring me slightly and not making conversation, its like as if ive just told him i like him. if not, at least you know you’re not wasting your time and energy that you could be spending on someone who will reciprocate your feelings. if he does he will come running after you later. he starting to show signs that he is interested in me and i am meeting his friends already and its been 2 weeks of dating. they think it is a best way not to hurt girls and not having girls treating them as liars. like i said i really, really like him, so i’m thinking of asking my best friend to ask him if he likes me. after a relationship shouldn’t he spend time with himself instead of taking girls for a ride? have been dating a wonderful woman for over 3 months that i met on match. but i was embarressed cause i thought he knew so i was awkward. that’s like saying, “the 0 i spent on my subscription is more important than what i have with you”. then he will always know that i found out and, the guilt he may feel could jeopardise our relationship. i’ve known him since high school and we ran into each other and clicked. our anniversary was the after i was really sad i went to visit my cousin 4 hrs away from where i live. i never saw another email, there were no text from random girls, or phone calls that seemed weird. then we didnt see each other for a week and now hes distant, we still tease each other and flirt but its not as heavy as before. curiousity always killed the cat and i checked to see if he was still active a couple weeks ago and he was. early on in the relationship he was stalking his ex and his ex-crush on fb. once the “exclusivity” talk came up (from my end): i asked if he was still on that dating site, because i took my profile down about two weeks after we met. 2- he respected my ideas, listened to my view points about different things; he memorized them and once repeated what i have told before to our business partners. i’ve lived in a military town my whole life, and i avoided dating military men for that entire reason. notion that men are afraid to commit while women are not isn’t true. he has plans for me in the futer which i dont know if its real or not. at least you know where you stand with him – he likes you but doesn’t want anything permanent yet. practically all of these things u daid were opposite, so does that means he likes me?”, he says he was already feeling that way for me, but this whole incident deepened it for him. like get a lime soda, or hey brit u going to bible talk. his first week there rumors were already started about us. that being said, almost 100% of the time when i talk to women in this situation they want to follow the advice your friend is giving you: lay low, wait it out. my sister looked on her computer from he account as she is on there, too. have given my heart to him but it seems he doesnt care about me at all…. he claims his feelings for them might’ve changed but honestly they are girls that either liked him in the past or he thinks likes him.. at first he asked for my skype and said he wants to hear my voice cause he thinks i have a cute accent. until now, nothing about him has bothered me at all, and i would hate for this to ruin what could be a great thing. i have been just chatting to a guy on facebook over the past two weeks just general chat about things we have in common, he doesnt say much and never talks about himself at all. i just want to share another way of looking at it…so maybe you need to change but maybe not..but the lat time in the course of french kiss he asked me to have sex but i denied…because i have not have sex before…. give him the cold shoulder the next time he tries it–he will never stop if you keep letting him treat you like a toy. friends tell me i’m supposed to teach him by being patient and by telling him what i want. but every time i came home and saw him he was friendly, once offering to give me one of his expensive bracelets. i really miss him and i love him, but he hasn’t even text me since this. if he says yes, try to get some information out of him as to what’s going on in his life., why not hide your profiles so other people won’t contact either of you? i was so heart broken bc he led me on to vanish later. but what if he is the one initiating that stuff and making comments about moving in, getting married, and having a family eventually. i dont see him all that often and when i do we don’t always talk but when we do talk it seems like he likes me. you both are young, and he probably has no idea how to deal with this yet. what we do have is the fact that he wants to set up a date. after about 5 months of this, he finally asked me to dinner at his place and it was really nice. it’s a sacrifice i’m willing to make for him – something i never would have done for anyone else. put women down because they are insecure about who they are as a person, therefore they cannot love a woman they way they should.'s not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's seriously into you and one who's wrapped up in the moment. i do feel that there are spiritual influences that try to get us to be with a person that would best fit us, but if you miss out on that person another one can come along, because all in all people get to choose despite external influences. i met this guy we were really good friends then the next year we met a girl he told me he likes her and i should set them up i’m like ok sure…. our interaction wasn’t much, but i bumped into him a few times over the last few months. as maree touched on earlier, these guys wouldn’t try to continue to pick up other women and real life and shouldn’t do so online either. i gave him about a one-minute explanation over the phone, broke it off, and have not looked back. if you could get back to me that would be great! i can’t remember what my crush well the love of my life did to me, but at 18, he probably cursed me or something and i left him behind for 7-8 months. we spend less and less time with each other now. his last message was that he was going to send me a message the next day…but he didn’t. he might be real nervous about meeting you and “messing things up”. don’t understand why people assume everyone’s the same when it comes to grieving. i’m trying to commit this to memory for my own sake. we both want a faithful and loyal partner, and since his last girlfriend cheated on him constantly while he was deployed to iraq (3 times), he said he really doesn’t have time for games. so we ended up planning a date, he was so sweet but then he asked “can you tuck me in? the next day he says he went online and couldn’t find me. it has been almost a year and half but i dont feel same anymore. i could see that most of the time he would try to set up a date with her first, and then me when she couldn’t. after sticking around for a while i feel hurt and try to get over the whole thing, thinking he just doesn't find me attractive anymore. you can be a supermodel, but if you act needy or are always available to a guy no matter how badly he treats you, he’ll continue treating you badly and won’t start appreciating you despite the fact that you’re way out of his league. at this point, assuming you’re right, i’m not sure what other options you have. ideas on how i can get her to talk to me?, just challenge yourself to go beyond those walls and you never know, you may find someone who’s been looking for a nice girl like yourself! when i started crying saying that i couldn’t beleive what he was saying, he just said “i can’t argue anymore” and drove off very quickly with a lot of tires noise.. and in the end broke up with her because he really wanted the friend of my friend… he got closer to her through my friend. where he stands may not be where you hope, but he should still know where that is! i tell him goodnight but he doesn’t even respond as i’m talking to him on the phone. it makes me mad a little but it like hurts more. he also told her that he likes me and he thinks that i’m “really pretty” sometimes my friends get him from playing basketball and make him hug me, he has no problem with it and he hugs me for a long time. i’m always the one that has to say “i love you” first. he seemed to show a lot of remorse, and made the comment that ‘he was a dirt bag’. looks aren’t everything, if they were, he would still be with “the sexiest woman he has been with”, or perhaps his relationship with you was mainly physical and it never evolved beyond that? an in november i asked him too meet my family. when we first met he was so into me calling me all day and making his way to see me whenever he had free time. friend of mine said that he is a pisces and thats just the way they are. like this guy and basically i told him and he said he likes me as a friend……now he keeps acting weird with me and he keeps on hinting about the me liking him thing. i had a gut feeling i should’ve told my best friend he was going to lose his g/f of 3 years if he didn’t marry her, but i didn’t say anything thinking it wasn’t my business. just don’t understand my ex boyfriend said that i was the sexiest woman he has been with and i am i’ve seen his ex’s and i am. i hear what you say about men and the way they are wired and agree wholeheartedly. and hopes you will be there waiting for him if it all gos wrong. why did i meet the perfect man if it is solely to see him ignore me? when it’s just us two it’s awkard, when i’m with his friends it’s awkard but not as awkard but when i’m with my friends it’s not awkard for me because i’m comfortable and i’m not as nervous. he says wow u look jus like my friend, are you her! so, if that’s true then keep the “bad” stuff out as much as possible…focus on loving others and not as much on how they feel toward you.’ve been casually dating a guy for a few months. my interest grew when i saw him a week after that, and this time the group setting was smaller and more intimate because it was only me, him, my friend, her sister, and her boyfriend. we talk about everything and anything and are completely comfortable with each other. i wish i could just come out and say it but as i said before i’m a chicken when it comes to admitting my feelings. met my boyfreind on the site in april 2012, we spoke over txt for like 3 weeks and met up. he also tells me that he hasn’t told any women that he loved them since his ex wife – and they have been divorced 11+ years at this point. kingsley 5 years ago from croatia, europea lot of thought provoking information here. i’m like 5’9, “thick” not obese or super fat just a lil chubby, trust me lol. if he continuously finds an excuse not to meet again, i’d be more concerned. he comes around looking for my eyes - i do not loom away but keep talking with the colleagues i was having a meeting with. he never makes time for me, claiming he’s busy but he will go out with his friends. anyone else had this, i mean i am pretty much in touch with men and there behavior but this has got me stumped. would it really make you feel better if he waited until the next morning? dating bloghis dating profile is still active – is he interested or not? find encouragement through books, poems, music, friendship, family, forgiveness, god, prayer, and giving to others. it's really important if you like your suitor to thank him for the date while you're on the date—'oh my god, i had so much fun with you, this was such a treat. as weird as it may seem, but before he wouldn’t go on his fb and now he’s beginning to go on in constantly, i think it’s maybe to communicate with other girls? being exclusive means resisting temptation and focusing on the lady you are bedding and claim to be crazy about. the girl found out, because the new girl he is dating posted pics of them together on facebook, however, the pics he posted do not mention the new girl he is dating or that they were together those days. even if a woman had been cheated on, the message would still be “i’d like to commit to dating you”. another night he ended up saying this sentence: there is no game for us! he knew i could see what he was doing i was really confused. two days later he is helping to move me out and is acting like he is 100% happy and that he is already talking to other people and already had a girl he wants to date who is prettier, with a better body. in some cases, this could cause what he saw as a healthy, budding relationship to end abruptly. about a month into dating, i knew i really liked him and wanted to see where it was going to go. now, to clear this, martial arts is something that i do with my son and his father. i also have a hard time with showing emotion at times and during our date, i wasn’t really 100% there with how tired i was. and when we(me and my friends) were slightly far already, he texted me “i didn’t come coz i’m kinda shy towards your friends. i am 26 and even though i’ve got a good amount of experience in relationships, i feel i don’t always understand men. i wouldn’t invest too much energy and thought into him yet and talk to other guys too since he didn’t make you his girlfriend yet. asked if i ever had one, i said yes, he then proceeded with what did you like about him? i’m most of the time thinking about him, i’m really unable to control my feelings. i still haven’t come across a problem like mine. otherwise, just sit back and wait for the guys to reel you in. (mind you we were both a little depressed at this time which was another reaason for commin together) the last day when he takes me to the air port he kisses me ! made a check-list for one guy and he scored 2:– he is friendly in general. if he hadn’t had treated me like s*** for the past few months, the charming side of his personality would’ve won me over…as he’s trying to do now in order for me to share my notes, but since i know full well his true personality i. i told her i recently gotten an email and deleted it but i have not been on in a long time. he didn’t replyme for two days then he ssuddenly pops up and says sorry i took so long to reply. turn he said “m sorry i m already committed” i didn’t know what to respond at that moment as the proposal happened in text(coz when i see him my mind goes blank n scared to speak to him directly)…he now moved to different process/program within same company after this incident. when we are together his behavior to me in without fault and amazingly caring.” and i’m like for probably making you feel akward” and he’s like ” it’s cool.” he said he doesn’t like being told what to do. he sometimes send short messages that he is thinking of me day and night and i am always in his heart. he said he was extremely hurt as well and he still cares for me a lot, but wants to take it slow. welcome ashely, a wise girl told me that too when i was where you were. let me be honest here, i’ve never noticed him until recently when we were on this college trip for school. sounds like he’s being more comfortable and committed with you, especially knowing he has already planned your next date. i should mention, i told him trust is earned and he never gave me a reason to trust him. he evenetually wanted to come visit me within a couple of weeks of chatting. he merely said it was there when i needed it. some day after he text a greeting message to me and i answered the same way. it does sound like both of these young men thought you were attractive. i realize she’s already reached that point where it would be devastating for her to lose him but allowing it to continue only to have things end over this a few years from now isn’t going to improve things for her. has been a year, and he isn't trying to be with you. i think there might be a third option which would be to do a little of both. but i didnt say hay back to him at one point during the day( by accident) ever since then hes avoided me. not in the sense that he’s mean, he just never says or does anything nice. this doesn’t make leaving his profile up is right…but it could mean that he is committed to you even though he is taking an action that suggests otherwise (so don’t lose all hope! i have a 9 years old son, so when my son is not with me i say it is ok for him to spend the night. but i think he has a little feeling to me. i met a guy on plenty of fish in june. i think he knows i like him and i feel the the women i work with know as well and they talk to him like crazy when i’m around. i got his skype and we messaged each other alot, thing is i know hes had little friend ships with other girls before me online as he was in the room 3 months longer then me. i like a guy, and i think he likes me back, meaning he makes eye contact a lot, and who i see/ run into frequently. it take me a full year to excepted his requested cuz i love the guy so much n i don’t what anything to separate us n also the problem of been virgin i have fear in me, my worries was how painful it will be, hw will he see me after showing my nakedness to him and so many other..guy have a different religion too…now the girl is not talking to the guy for about 4 years. i feel in love with him almost that first time i picked him up for work. [not as much as #1 lol] the thing is, he always use to say stuff to grab my attention.. why is he talking to me when he has a gf? i will step it up and let him know i am definitely interested. i checked online today and it said that he was online today. he has lots of female friends and cousins so okay and he was wearing the shirt i bought him in the pic. (he hasn’t dated her since we started talking) he says that he wants nothing to do with her because she broke his heart and i believe that is true. all that wasted time waiting for him to make the right choice only to have him start dating someone else. assume he won’t want a relationship when he comes back either, and if he does it’ll be a pleasant surprise., as with other situations discussed here, i think it’s totally reasonable to expect real commitment at a certain point and it sounds like you’ve reached that based on what you describe. he said he did love me and that we could work it out.^ he sat behind me in class,but i was way too shy to ever talk to him. i told him he shouldn’t be taking his frustrations out on me & that he can date my ‘friend’. he’s probably lonely and would like female interaction, but he should seek out healthy male friendship for now. what you may want to do is approach him, and ask for his help with something – maybe something he’s good at or really interested in. wud like to add we are both the same age and same religion but from differentt cultures origionally (they are similar). those of you that ask why about how i found his profile, my friend created a blank account to check her dishonest husband a few years ago, and i logged on (with her permission)…my profile has been down for a long time. if he says he doesn’t like you then move on. he says he wants to continue a relationship with me, but i am thinking what relationship am i in here? it was identical to the match account he had (still has actually, but there’s been no activity for months). abruptly changed his mind because he suddenly “didn’t feel it” with me, i had a sneaking suspicion something. at worst, you'll figure out that he's simply not interested after all. this has been going on for a couple of months in hope that he would start a conversation first, but it hasn’t happened yet. he began texting every morning with “morning beautiful” & every night ” night sweetheart”. we ve had sex 2 times but recently he has been so distant. he said he feels we moved very fast and felt a little overwhelmed.’s either a total people person who gets nervous around you (good sign) or he’s a naturally shy person putting on a people-person act but feels safe enough to drop the facade around you (also a good sign).’ve been dating the same guy for 4 months and today i asked him where i stand and he is not answering me back is he hiding something from me. don’t need to be vulgar about it and you don’t need to go harassing random people like some drunken fraternal dipshit, though that is the path some girls seem to choose, but people in this society need to start recognizing the difference between acknowledging their sexual wants and letting them consume your entire life. maybe other women really have messed up that aspect of our relationship before i got a chance to show him i’m different? you might want to let him know that you’re interested but aren’t going to wait around…or you can just demonstrate that by moving on in silence. he said he broke up with her for me like that would make me feel any better. his brother that he was drunk talking o me and din’t realize how deep he got . b 2 years ago hi, wrote to you 5 weeks ago about a guy i had got on well with and worked with for years that had turned nasty when he said he was leaving. but i really want him to love on me more or help me with thing when i ask i do everything he askes me to do and he dose nothing i ask but the mane thing is when we get ready to have sex he wants me to just please him like he dont kiss me or anything to get me ready he just wants me to suck him off wich i dont mind but i just wish he would like kiss me and rub on me first but its like there is no real passion for me what should bi do? i think for now, you might want to hide your profile in the off chance that he’s keeping his profile up because he still sees yours is up. i told him he should have asked me to not disturb him, but then he says that it’s not a problem because he replies between the breaks. he does not have a place for us to go, he comes to my house. then he’ll later mention ho he misses me of how we needto hsngout more. i met this guy on fb and we got alone real good, he was eager to meet me and told me and others that he liked me. but now…i don’t know what to do…plz help? do wonder, how would he react if you had an active dating profile online? i was scared and i was sad for being the one to cause him such a reaction. he had deactivated ,blocked me and deleted his old account so that it had looked to me he was offline yet had reopened a new one! my first instinct is that he likes you, but because you second guessed him 5 times, he may’ve felt awkward because his approach wasn’t well received at first take (or 2nd). he will also tease me here and there usually when i’m alone and not around my other co-worker friends and call me on the phone for some absurd reason. if you are always tired after school/work, then you need to focus more on your sleep, nutrition, exercise, etc., let’s just say for example he was doing it because he was bored, but had no other intentions… well even that is dangerous because i personally know so many couples who have broken up over facebook accounts, comments, pics etc… it always just starts so innocently, a person looks cute, they say hello and that could lead to a full blown relationship/affair/fling. he may have a lot going on, but that’s his issue. he told me “let’s go inside and delete it right now, together” we tried but the site was having an error. i told him i like the idea of living together, but seriously needed to talk about things before it could actually happen. just be yourself, and focus on caring about him, yet give him his space if that’s what he needs. i can take you out for dinner some other time, since you were busy this weekend anyways. anyway he’s told me he needs time to himself. is it too late to salvage anything…or was there anything to salvage? he probably feels running away will make things “happier” for him, but that’s not usually the case.’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have lived together and have gone through so many stages together, we’ve been through the good and the bad but always there to help eachother and most importantly being there for eachother when we need eachother the most, two nights ago we had a talk, he’s been so distant and i told him we needed to talk, he couldn’t even look me in the eye and he said he felt like we are a married couple, that he needed a break and time to work on himself and be selfish? lol he didnt believe me at first but after a really long chat… he confessed to me. i went to a party recently with that mutual friend, and the guy was there. tell him you don’t want to pursue a relationship or he’ll get confused, especially since he’s already told you and his family that he wants you in his life and you’ve joined him for dinner and movies already. he gave me compliment that it’s delicious and helped me washing dishes after the party. i really do appreciate the advice but it’s not going to work out. if anyone reads this then can you please reply to me? he said it was just harmless fun, but i feel he can have fun without touching another girl. you don't want to fill in the blanks and start connecting the dots yourself and driving the momentum of the courtship forward. which like i said leads me to make excuses for him and valid reasons he could have for his actions or just feeling like its me even thought it really isnt! he got my number and texted me nonstop for a week and called me twice. i know it hurts right now but i suspect it will be for the best in the long run and i’m glad it didn’t go on any longer than it did if he’s (finally) being honest with how he feels. it’s not like you requested him to do something outrageous that would hurt him, you, or someone else. i was kind of shocked – as i was never part of this ‘game plan’ discussion, in fact he had not discussed anything further with me about living together! he may come around after you move out, but it would probably be just for sex. i don’t want to really start liking him if he doesn’t like me back. although he has shown love the first years but never talks his feelings. we left the room to get water, i told him we should hang out sometime, he agreed and asked when i was free, i told him when and we tentatively decided on a weekend.” he talks alot to this other girl in my class that has blond hair and blue eyes. please don’t waste you time and move on to someone who care enough to shower you with attention! either he’ll snap out of it, or you’ll realize despite being friends with him for a long time…he might not be the kind of friend you want if he’s willing to ditch you. i can wait and see but how about i wait until he feels sure enough of his feelings and is not the same as me, is just frustrating sometimes. some one try and shine some light on this for me , and has it ever happened to any one else ? – that he could go back online without telling me – this feels like he is going behind my back in some way – though the forum is public so of course i then think the act of going back online means he is making a massive statement that he is no longer interested instead of having the respect and courage to say so to my face… if you know what i mean. however, when you realized that your family didn’t like him, that’s usually a red flag.! yes he needs to appreciate what he’s got instead of fretting about what he’s missing out on. y don’t he understand my feelings n make me think abt him…………. my point is that situations like this can really pluck away at people’s heart strings and that very well could be the case with your guy (being afraid of you ultimately leaving). think it’s me who should be angry at him (he’s been hitting on me and hiding that he has a gf), but i was trying to be understanding and mature. guess my queston is why does it seem like we are playing house with no real commitment? just wants to keep you close enough for a booty call, when he wants it. there was all these messages from the dating website that we meet on. this point i don’t want to even mention to him that i’m aware he’s quite active, especially on match which my sister says allows for various forms of communication with people unlike the site i’d met him on, where his original profile remains active. is this texting thing a problem or is it just another guy thing? i don’g want to pushtowards anything, because i feel as thoughhe will if he wants to…but am i wasting my heart on someone whois using me as plan b or using me as a passing fancy? once he wants to commit, you’re willing to commit as well. i once mentioned i had a pet bird and then a week later she messaged me telling me she had bought a bird, she also seems to like going on holiday to places that i have previously visited etc. i know he’s been feeling unwell & low lately and my sister doesn’t help the cause. i posted an after gym picture on my online dating account and so far this week my account has gotten spammed. i took some time to reflect and by the end of the week i realized how much i missed him. he used to text me whenever he could but now it seems like i have to be the one to text him and he hasn’t made plans to see me again. we slept together on our third date and we watched a tone of of movies. the right man will come along in time, but until then enjoy your single life! well it was only 10 dayss then(now it’s 3mo) after his wife’s death, that he showed interest in a relationship. a fee weeks ago he asked me for a picture of my boobs and i told him no and he apologized immediately and said he was sorry he asked and was also happy i didnt do something that i will regret. i so like him that i cannot help but hope he realises what he’s letting go of. he stays up to work yet i get the blamed his for losing sleep etc. don’t start making a demands on the 30th day just because i suggest a month as a good measurement. he’s so nice and funny and just amazing, but i don’t know if he likes me back..Its so confusing with this one guy though cause he does some stuff(like hes with me almost all the time, stands suuper close to me, makes a lot of eye contact, jokes around with me) but then bam! i love him a lot but i’m bit confused on he’s actions. we've all been there, and it's funny how you can make someone who's completely wrong for you seem so right in your mind because every cell in your body wants to be on him., why won’t you tell me what’s wrong sweetie? i had a little crush just because i thought he was cute, but i didn’t try to pursue it further. and don’t get me started on those girls who gave a vibe of liking him but never actually said so (maybe it’s my paranoia but really the way those girls looked at him was wayyyy over the line). i knew the fact that he’s no longer interested or has no interest since the beginning. many guys will take whatever they can get from a girl and drag their feet. have for the most part what i tell my friends an “effortless relationship”. he tells me “that girl was cute” or “i hope a cute girl comes in today”(at work). there is a guy who flirted with me but at same time told my friend that i am mean n when i confronted him he said ha didn’t meant it. he told his cousin he thought i was fine and he think he have a chance with me but he doesn’t know how to approach me wtf. but if i don’t tell him what i do or who am with he gets mad. met this guy online and immediately we hit it off. and i just love the way he looks at me. i know it must hurt to see him give more attention to someone else (especially your friend) after giving you a lot of attention, and the feelings must run deep since this crush has been going on for several years now. i wouldn’t want to be with someone who treated me the way he’s treated you and because of that, i do think you should start looking to date someone else. him making time and definite plans with for you is a bigger indicator of his feelings for you.! how can he tell me he likes me then tell me he is still in love with his ex. for some reason i'm afraid to let guys see me looking at them. sum it all up: i would expect that within the first month of actively dating each other that you should have an idea of where you stand and i would expect his profile to be down. he stopped kissing my neck abruptly even though his father was home like 35 minutes before. i also think if she didn’t respond the way i wanted i might put my profile back up. we were just staring at each other while he was smiling so i smiled too. he was like ‘you’re prettier than i imagined’ and i was all shy because i had not expected to be this drawn to him. now 5 weeks later i will be meeting his kids and going to a family gathering soon but he is still online. and when i hugged him he seamed suprised, but still huggrd back. i tried to start a conversation but he said sorry but i’m going out soon. the last thing this 18 year old wants is serious relationship–that’s why i suggest dates with friends. even when i tried to give it back to him he insisted i keep it on to warm up. joey, i’m very confused at the moment and this drives me nuts. he, not me, started talking of baby names with me. he wouldn’t hurt you like that if genuinely liked you. because if something is holding you back then you need to sort what that is thats holding you back. or make any communication at all because i never text him but he never texts me. he be on facebook all day long on his phone talking to people. on a work noght out he buys me a drink and latter i do the same. he is around i feel like he is keeping me company but when he isn’t i feel like i want him.. men rarely think of hanging out as a date, so i learned to pay close attention to these words, both using and hearing them. i undertood eventualy that my invitation came across as being a joke, somehow like i was trying to make fun of him. what if a guy is normally really outgoing, but with you he isn’t as outgoing and more shy? he had said he will never do anything like that to her and he said that because he said i don’t want to just tell her off cuz it will hurt her feelings. yeah, and i forgot to metion that sometimes when i don’t talk to him i notice him glancing at me a couple times seeing if i’m gonna talk to him, which makes me wanna laugh. he displayed his love by being with me through the game, giving me things. i don’t know if you have, but make sure you don’t ever begin a physical relationship with someone like this – they can and will break your heart and leave you in shambles. anxiety is caused by a conflict between what a person says, and what they really feel, and we pick up that conflict by the nonverbal clues, and our anxiety results. but again, maybe i misunderstand what exclusive means in this case. now i know for sure that the person i love so much really doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings. that’s probably the best case scenario among a multitude of scenarios. you can learn more about his personal experience using online dating and running this website here. i guess my question is, if it’s almost been a year and his feelings haven’t changed since we first started seeing each other and he’s still going on dating websites, should i even try to thinkta he would someday want a relationship? since our relationship has been a bit all over the place for these months, should i have even brought up the topic?, if you let your account expire and can prove that to her, that means you can’t read or reply to any communication so there’s really no risk of your profile being there. the thing is, his ex gf is not even single and she’s been in a committed relationship for a few years too now. i once heard a comedian say, the reason people marry another is because subconsciouly they think ” she/he is the best i can do for where i am in my life or for my leage” when i heard it, it was a funny but it definitely has some truth to it. a matehow to pick a boyfriend who won’t cheatby thehands2. we walk around in a group, we always seem to walk beside each other. then a week went by and things change he won’t ask me to come over, he will go a day or so without texting and when i ask he just tells me he needs some space. maybe this is why he hasn’t opened up more to you – he’s reserved like he said and he’ll need time together to grow more attached.

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